Gawani Izi
Nkhani ya ukwati umenewu imadalira chigamulo cha zomwe zidadza patsogolo pake. Ngati chikondi chapakati pawo Sichinapyole malire amene Mulungu adawakhazikitsa, kapena kuwachita tchimo, ndiye pali chiyembekezo chakuti ukwati umene umabwera chifukwa cha chikondi chimenechi udzakhala wokhazikika, chifukwa zinadza chifukwa chakuti aliyense wa iwo anafuna kukwatira mnzake.
Ngati mwamuna amva kukopeka ndi mkazi amene nkololedwa kwa iye kumukwatira, ndi mosemphanitsa, palibe yankho ku vuto koma ukwati. Mneneri (mtendere ndi madalitso a Allah zikhale pa iye) adatero: "Sitikuganiza kuti pali china chabwino kwa omwe amakondana kuposa ukwati." (Adanenedwa ndi Ibn Maajah, 1847; wolembedwa kuti saheeh ndi al-Busayri ndi Shaykh al-Albaaniy mu al-Silsilah al-Swahiyhah, 624)
Al-Sindi anatero, monga momwe zalembedwera mu Haamish Sunan Ibn Maajah:
Mawu akuti “Sitikuganiza kuti pali china chabwino kwa amene amakondana kuposa ukwati” angatanthauze anthu awiri kapena oposa awiri.. Izi zikutanthauza kuti ngati pali chikondi pakati pa anthu awiri, chikondicho sichingaonjezeke kapena kupangidwa kukhala nthawi yaitali ndi chirichonse monga ukwati. Ngati pali ukwati komanso chikondi chimenecho, chikondi chimenecho chidzakula ndikukula kwambiri tsiku lililonse.”
Koma ngati ukwatiwo ubwera chifukwa cha ubale wachikondi wosaloleka, monga akakumana ndi kukhala paokha ndi kupsopsonana, ndi zochita zina za haraam, ndiye sichidzakhala chokhazikika, chifukwa chakuti iwo adachita zinthu zosemphana ndi sharee’ah ndi chifukwa adamanga miyoyo yawo pa zinthu zomwe zidzawachepetsere madalitso ndi chithandizo chochokera kwa Allah., pakuti uchimo ndi chinthu chachikulu chochepetsera madalitso, ngakhale anthu ena amaganiza, chifukwa cha manong'onong'o a satana, kuti kugwa mchikondi ndi kuchita ntchito za haraam kumapangitsa banja kukhala lolimba.
Komanso, maubwenzi osalolekawa amene amachitika asanakwatirane adzakhala chifukwa chopangitsa aliyense kukayikira mnzake. Mwamuna angaganize kuti mkazi wake angakhalenso ndi unansi wotero ndi munthu wina, ndipo ngakhale akuganiza kuti sizingatheke, akakhalabe ndi nkhawa poona kuti mkazi wake anamulakwira. Ndipo maganizo omwewo angabwerenso kwa mkazi, ndipo adzaganiza kuti mwamuna wake akhoza kukhala pachibwenzi ndi mkazi wina, ndipo ngakhale akuganiza kuti sizingatheke, akakhalabe ndi nkhawa poona kuti mwamuna wake anamulakwira.
Choncho wokondedwa aliyense adzakhala mu chikaiko ndi kukaikira, zomwe zingawononge ubale wawo posachedwa.
Mwamuna angadzudzule mkazi wake chifukwa chovomereza kukhala naye pachibwenzi asanalowe m’banja, zomwe zingakhale zokhumudwitsa kwa iye, ndipo izi zidzasokoneza ubale wawo.
Chifukwa chake timaganiza kuti ngati ukwati wazikidwa pa unansi wosaloleka m’banja, chidzakhala chosakhazikika ndipo sichidzapambana.
Pankhani ya maukwati okonzedwa kumene banja limasankha bwenzi, onse si abwino ndipo si onse oipa. Ngati banja lipanga chisankho chabwino ndipo mkaziyo ndi wachipembedzo komanso wokongola, ndipo mwamuna amamukonda ndipo akufuna kumukwatira, pamenepo pali chiyembekezo chakuti ukwati wawo udzakhala wokhazikika ndi wachipambano. Choncho Mneneri (mtendere ndi madalitso a Allah zikhale pa iye) analimbikitsa amene akufuna kukwatira kuti ayang'ane mkaziyo. Adachokera kwa al-Mugheerah ibn Shu’bah kuti adafunsira mkazi, ndi Mneneri (mtendere ndi madalitso a Allah zikhale pa iye) adatero, “Pita ukayang’ane iye, chifukwa izi zitha kuyambitsa chikondi pakati panu." (Adanenedwa ndi al-Tirmidhiy, 1087; wolembedwa kuti Hasan ndi al-Nasaa'i, 3235)
Koma ngati banja lipanga chisankho choipa, kapena amasankha bwino koma mwamunayo sakugwirizana nazo, ndiye kuti ukwati uwu uyenera kuti wagwera kulephera ndi kusakhazikika, chifukwa ukwati wozikidwa pa kusoŵa chidwi kaŵirikaŵiri sumakhala wokhazikika.
Ndipo Allah Ngodziwa kwambiri.
Gwero: Chisilamu Q&A
Subhan Allah, ndi mutu waukulu komanso wodziwa zambiri watumizidwa. Izi zidzathandiza ku lingaliro la abale ndi alongo athu achikhulupiriro pankhani ya ukwati.
mashallah woona kwambiri lekin ek baat ye b hai k ye zaroori nhi k agr koi shadi sirf makolo ki marzi se hui hai aur larrki larrkay ne ek dusray ko nhi dekha aur ek dusray ko nhi janaty aur uun ki marzi shamil nhi hai toh wo nakaam ho Jaay balkay aisi shadian b kamyaab ho sakti hain balkay hain aur parents ki arrange hui shaadian ziada kamyaab hain.
ndikugwirizana nawe . Pali kuthekera kulikonse kwa maukwati kukhala opambana. Haan jab ek doosre ko humanenge to behtar hoga yehi kaha gaya hai. Zimadaliranso chikhalidwe cha munthuyo . koi gusse waale hote hain to koi silence koi egoistc to koi simple. agar negative ek nature ke do loog miljaayen to shayad ubale kabhi bwino nahi hogi.KOMA pamapeto pake zonse zimatengera rehmat ya Allah subhanavataala.
Funso lomwe ndimafuna ndikufunse pa nkhani ya chikondi cha ukwati ndikuti ukwati usanachitike mwachiwonekere pali ubale wamtundu wina pakati pawo 2 anthu komabe mumaloledwa kupsopsonana bola zisafike chinthu china, kupsopsonana kumawoneka ngati kuchita tchimo izi sizikudziwika pamwambapa??
Yankho lanu lingakhale loyamikiridwa kwambiri
Ndipo Mulungu atichotsere kumoto. Amene
Kwathu Haram kupsopsona mkazi motere. Asanayambe m’banja pasakhale ubale wamtundu uliwonse pakati pa awiriwo. Chikondi ndi chinachake mu mtima (zomwe zili zololedwa), koma ngakhale kukhudza chikhatho cha mkazi wosakhala pachibale ndikoletsedwa kusiya kumpsompsona.
M'bale Asif tikukulangizani kuti muphunzire zoyambira zamalamulo achisilamu okhudzana ndi Ubale ndi Amuna Osiyana Ogonana kunja kwa Ukwati mu Chisilamu..
inde ndikuvomerezana nawe .
@pure matrimony Asalam Alaikum ndimafuna ndifunse..kodi timaloledwa kulankhula ndi amuna omwe makolo athu akuganiza za ukwati wathu?bcoz if we dun evn knw abt the person..chirengedwe chake..kakhalire etc..tingasankhe bwanji kumukwatira kapena ayi?zomwe ndimafunsa abt ndi b4 engagement or else how to know ngati munthuyo ndi woyenera kwa ife?plz yankhani posachedwa
Assalamu Alaikum wr wb
mlongoyo angam’dziŵe m’baleyo ngakhale tisanapangane chibwenzi …ali ndi Walii yemwe alipo insha Allah ..ndipo ali ndi ufulu womukana ngati akuona kuti zikugwirizana..
Moni
S.a abale anga okondedwa
Ndikufuna kunena kuti chikhalidwe chomwe ndikuchokera ndi chosiyana kwambiri ndi momwe ambiri akuchitira ndemanga pano. Ndimakhala m'dziko lomwe lili pakati pa Ulaya. Koma ndi Muslim Alhamdulilah. Ndinkafuna kunena kuti ndili pachibwenzi ndi mtsikana yemwe ndimamukonda kuyambira chaka chimodzi. Mu miyambo ya dziko limene tikukhala ndi zachilendo kupsopsonana. ive adamupsopsonanso ndipo ndikuvomereza. Zitha kukhala haram ndipo sindikukana kuti ngakhale mumapsompsona munthu amene mumamukonda,wina mukukonzekera kumanga ndikukhala naye moyo anywayz, ndimafuna kungonena kuti tisayese kutsindika kupsopsona ngati haram yayikulu, M'malo mwake , yesani kuyang'ana kwambiri nkhani zina zofunika zomwe m'malingaliro mwanga ndizoyenera kukambirana. Dziko silinapatulidwe kukhalamo 2 ziwalo monga mmodzi wa amuna ndi mmodzi wa akazi. Ndikufuna kuwona kulankhulana kwamawu pakati pa anyamata ndi atsikana kukhala abwino. Kupatukana kotheratu kumabweretsa zotsatira zoyipa komanso zochititsa manyazi za anyamata ku Saudi Arabia. zomwe ndakhala ndikuzimva posachedwapa kuchokera kwa anzanga kumeneko. SINDIkunena kuti ndipite kukampsompsona kapena kugwira pamanja mtsikana monga ndachitira. Ayi ndi Haram ndipo sindikudziwa za izi.. Ndikungonena kuti kusadziwa kapena kukhala mlendo ndi nkhani yofunika ngati imeneyi kungabweretse zotsatira zina zosasangalatsa..
Koma ALLAH akudziwa chilichonse.
Mtendere ukhale pa inu
okondedwa Admin
..Ngati tsopano pakhala pali tchimo lotere pakati pa awiriwo asanakwatirane ndiye njira yotulukira … ndipo ndingathe nikah zotheka popanda makolo kuvomereza kapena popanda kuwadziwitsa. okondedwa admin ponyaniko kuwalako munthu angapitenso ku nikah..
HI m'bale/mlongo
i cant comment abt wat u have asked .KOMA ma principals anga amati kwatira amene umamukonda. Ngati mungayese ndikuwapangitsa kuti agwirizane ndi ukwati wanu koma osawapweteka . Izi ndi zomwe ndinganene.ngati mukumva zoyipa am sry.
MAANSHA ALLAH mutu wake wosangalatsa kwambiri komanso wofunikira kuzindikirika kwa munthu aliyense!
ngati wina apanga ubale ndi wokondedwa wake ndipo tsopano amadzimvera chisoni ndipo akufuna kukwatira tsopano. angapange bwanji ubale wamantha molingana ndi quran&sunnah & pezani chikhululukiro?
funso lina-
pambuyo pa chiyanjano chakuthupi ngati sakwatirana &amakwatira wina, ndi kulondola uku?
funso lomaliza-
pambuyo pa ubale pakati pawo ngati wina wapereka &kukwatiwa ndi wina ndipo wina akufuna kukwatira .panthawiyi nkuti ndani amene wachititsa izi mwa quran&sunnah?kodi ndi bwino kukwatira wina?
Mutha kuwona ulalo uwu kuti mudziwe za Yankho lanu!
http://www.questionsonislam.com/index.php?s=show_qna&id=125
Koma kulapa ndikoyenera! musatenge izi (Ubale wakuthupi musanalowe m'banja) monga Kuwala kapena chinthu chovomerezeka mu Chisilamu! Zili choncho “Chizindikiro Chachikulu” ndipo m’Chilamulo cha Chisilamu Chilango ndi 100 Masheya kwa mwamuna aliyense ndi Mkazi ngati onse anachita mofunitsitsa! Koma pali zinthu zambiri pankhaniyi, kotero werengani Nkhaniyo ndikupeza kuti muli ndi Chisankho chanu!
ndi ulemu
Wokondedwa Admin,
Chonde siyani yankho ku mafunso a asee.
pls perekani yankho la funso la asee
@ADMIN: munanena ZOTI:
Ngati banja lipanga chisankho chabwino ndipo mkaziyo ndi wachipembedzo komanso wokongola, ndipo mwamuna amamukonda ndipo akufuna kumukwatira, ndiye pali chiyembekezo chakuti ukwati wawo udzakhala wokhazikika ndi wopambana.nChifuniro cha Mkazi chili kuti? Ngati ali wopembedza ndipo sakonda munthu amene makolo ake akufuna kumukwatira monga mu Qur'an Yatchulidwa mu Nisa.(4:19) ndi …Ndi Haramu Kulowa m'malo mwa akazi Mosafuna kwawo…. Inenso tsopano kuti izo sizinaululidwe mu Nkhani Yomweyi koma izi zitha kugwiritsidwa ntchito pankhaniyi. ndili bwino? Ndipo mukudziwanso kuti ku Pak ndi India Social system ndi yosauka kwambiri komanso mutu wa Banja, Amayi/abambo agogo etc. Kukwatirana motsatira maganizo awo. samafunsa mkazi i,e Virgin girl and only think that Adzakhala osangalala pamene timaganiza bwino kuposa iye. koma nthawizina izi zimamupweteka chifukwa Kuzindikira Kwake sikufanana ndi iwo! Tikamagwiritsa ntchito liwu lakuti MAKOLO/WOLENDERA tiyenera Kutanthauzira liwu ili kaye!nanga Makolo aja chisanadze Chisilamu Omwe adakwirira ana awo aakazi??? Kodi Mtsikana Wamasiye Angatani Ngati amalume ake anamukakamiza kukwatiwa ndi mwamuna Wake (Amalume) kusankha kwake ndi Motsutsa CHIFUNIRO chake.
mikhalidwe muzochitika zilizonse sizifanana. NDIKUFUNA KUNENA IZI:
Choyamba ganizirani za Nkhani ya M'banja, ndipo Ngati Mkazi ali wopembedza ndi Wokhwima kuposa
CHIFUNIRO CHA MKAZI NDI CHOFUNIKA KWAMBIRI Kuposa Makolo chifukwa Ndi Ufulu Wake Makolo Akakhala Osowa Pazachikhalidwe/Zachikhalidwe ndikuiwala ntchito ndi Maudindo awo omwe Allah Madenas Allah Adanena mu Qur'an kuti Akazi ndi odetsedwa kwa amuna., Ndipo Amuna oyeretsedwa kwa akazi ndi Amuna oyera, ndi Amuna oyera, Ndipo amuna Odziyeretsa ndi Akazi odziyeretsa…(24:26)
chifukwa chiyani Allah sananene kuti Makolo a Mkazi kapena Makolo a Munthu etc… Ndi Nkhani yokonda ndi kusakonda! Masiku ano Makolo ena anachitanso chimodzimodzi ndi Buried Girl Alive. Pali milandu yambiri ndipo nthawi iliyonse malingaliro kapena Zotsatira ndizosiyana. Kwa Ukwati Wovomerezeka, mwamuna ndi mkazi onse Ayenera Kuvomerezana ndipo wowayang'anira azigwirizana ndi chikhalidwecho!
NDIPO ALLAH AMADZIWA ZABWINO!!!!!
@ADMIN:
ndikufuna ndikufunseni Funso Ngati ndinu WOPHUNZIRA WA CHISIlamu zimenezo
” Ngati pali mtsikana wachipembedzo, anakulira m’banja lachipembedzo, pamene iye anakhala wa 22 banja lake linasamuka pafupi ndi abale awo, Iwo (abale ake) Ndi Asilamu Okha Osati Asilamu, ndipo Mwadzidzidzi Atate wake anamwalira ndipo iye anakhala Mwana wamasiye.
Iye anapeza Munthu (Cosine wake) ndipo iyenso ali wachipembedzo monga iye aliri ndipo iye akufuna kuti amukwatire iye, Koma mutu wa Banja Lawo Agogo Amayi akufuna kukwatiwa ndi cosine wina, sanamupeze wachipembedzo komanso wofanana naye. Anakana zimenezo koma Banja lawo litadziwa kuti amakonda cosine ena omwe Agogo ake amakangana nawo ndipo Amalume Ake Anamuneneza Zokhudza Iye ndi Munthu Amene Amamukonda Kuti Ali ndi Ubale. (Wachiwerewere) ndikuwaneneza kuti anthu a m'banja lake komanso kuposa kumukakamiza ndipo adachita chibwenzi ndi munthu ameneyo kuti onse amafuna motsutsana ndi chifuniro chake.”
Tsopano CHISIlamu chili kuti??? Malo Ake Ndi Chiyani?? Malo a Guardian ali kuti? uli kuti Ufulu Wake? Nanga ZOTI MALAMULO aja kuchokera kwa Amalume Ake? Angatani M'bale Wake(25chaka chimodzi) akhoza kuchita monga iwo akuimbidwa mlandu ndi kuchita manyazi ngati Iye anena chirichonse? Alibe Ubale Wopanda Makhalidwe KONSE ndipo ONSE NDI ACHIPEMBEDZO KWAMBIRI…. Muti chiyani pa Nkhaniyi?
GANIZANI NDI KUFALIKITSA Zotsatira zake momwe mungathere Chifukwa kulibe Khothi Lamilandu Lachisilamu ku Pak kapena India ndi zina.. ndiponso Sanganene chilichonse monga Akutsutsidwa!
kuyembekezera yankho lanu!
Zikomo
Zoona
Monga bambo, kukhala wodziwa zambiri komanso wodziwa zambiri kuposa mwana, ndikupangira chisankho chademokalase. Kuti mwina iye kusankha ndi inu kuvomereza, kapena mupanga zisankho zabwino zisanu ndikumulola kuti asankhe / kusankha kuchokera pagulu. Kodi izi zikusemphana ndi chiphunzitso cha Sunnah??
Ndinamvera AlBedawi, Katswiri. Adanena akadzabwera msilamu wabwino ndikufunsa ana anu aakazi,iye kukhala wokondweretsa mu Islam ndi Uri mtsikana wamng'ono ali chete (opanda zotsutsa) kwa iye, ndiye mkwatibwi. Komabe banja lonse silingamukonde. Bambo wopeza amatsutsa. Kodi mayi wachibadwa angamupatse madzi kapena?. Funsani marham wina- mwachitsanzo, m'bale wosaphunzira kukhala Mahram?
Salam sister/Amayi mu Islam, Ine sindine Scholar koma ndingakuuzeni kuti Mwana wamasiye kapena Namwali AFUNSIWE Ngati Akana kuposa Palibe amene angamupatse mu Ukwati ngakhale Mbale wake ndi zina zotero.. Ndipo Ngati mkazi ndi Mwamuna Agwirizana kuposa atatu Palibe Cholakwika mu Ukwati! Ndidzakuuzani, Mutha kuziwona Hadith izi,
1. Adafotokoza AbuHurayrah: “Mneneri (mtendere_ukhale_pa iye) adatero: Mtsikana wamasiye afunsidwe za iye yekha; ngati sanena chilichonse chosonyeza chilolezo chake, koma ngati akana, Ulamuliro wa mlonda sungagwiritsidwe ntchito motsutsana ndi chifuniro chake. (Kumasulira kwa Sunan Abu Dawud, Ukwati (Kitab Al-Nikah), Buku 11, Nambala 2088)”
2. “Adafotokoza Abdullah Ibn Omar: “Mneneri (mtendere_ukhale_pa iye) adatero: Funsani akazi za (chikondi cha) ana awo aakazi. (Kumasulira kwa Sunan Abu Dawud, Ukwati (Kitab Al-Nikah), Buku 11, Nambala 2090)”
Ndiponso kuchokera mu Qur'an kuti Allah akunena
“E inu amene mwakhulupirira!! Inu mwaletsedwa kutenga cholowa cha akazi popanda kufuna kwawo. Ndipo musawachitire nkhanza, kuti mutenge gawo lachiwongo [ndalama zoperekedwa ndi mwamuna kwa mkazi za mgwirizano waukwati] mudawapatsa, Kupatula pamene adachita chiwerewere choonekera; M’malo mwake, khalani nawo limodzi Pamapazi a ubwino ndi chilungamo. Ngati muwatengera kuipidwa nawo, Mwina mungada chinthu, Ndipo Mulungu abweretsa ndi M’menemo zabwino zambiri. (4:19)”
mwanjira iliyonse mkazi sangakakamizidwe kulowa muukwati ndipo sangatengedwe ngati Chuma chogawanitsa Banja motsutsana ndi chifuniro chake.!
Ndipo Mulungu Ngodziwa Kwambiri
Moni
ndikufuna kufunsa za vuto,realy ndinakwatiwa ndi msuweni wanga popanga ukwati.koma inali nikah osati rukhsati.rukhsati anaganiziridwa kuti patatha nthawi ndithu. ukwati uwu.nditazindikira izi ndinayamba hav cntct with him.but then once ho ananditengera penapake ndikupanga ubale wamphamvu,sindinakonde ndipo ndinachita mantha kwambiri.ndinafuna kuwadziwitsa mayi anga za nkhaniyi koma anayamba kundipangitsa mantha kwambiri ponena kuti ngati uwuza thupi lililonse ndikusudzula.ndinali wamng'ono ndipo ndimaopa kuthetsa banja. ndi zotsatira zake.anagwiritsa ntchito mantha angawa pakufuna kwake ndikundikakamiza kukhalanso paubwenzi wotere 2,3 nthawi.koma patapita nthawi mavuto ena am'banja adakula ndipo adandipatsa chisudzulo pamaso pa rukhsati.pano pomwe makolo anga akufuna kuti ndikwatiwe ndi munthu wina ndipo sakuziwa zonse zomwe ndidalemba pano.nde ndikumva kusokonezeka tsopano. Ndinalibe mpumulo pambuyo pa zonsezo koma nditachita umra chaka chatha ALLAH adandipatsa mtendere ndi bata.Tsopano ndili wokonzeka kukwatiwa koma ndasokonezedwa ndi chinthu ichi kuti ndimuuze mwamuna wanga zonsezi kapena ayi?chonde ndithandizeni pankhaniyi,kuyembekezera yankho lanu
ALLAH akudalitseni tonse……….
Salam Sister!
Ndinawerenga izi ndinasokonezeka kwambiri ndipo zinandivutitsa maganizo kuti anthu angachite bwanji zinthu zoterezi! Koma kwa Inu ndikunena kuti Mulungu Ngokhululuka kwabasi, Ngwachisoni. Nditha kukuwuzani za Vuto lanu koma choyamba ndikufuna Ndigwirizane ndi Kufunsa kwa katswiri pa izi, Inshallah ndikuuzani posachedwa, Koma ndikufuna kunena kuti MUSAULE KANTHU KWA MWAMUNA WAKO pankhaniyi chifukwa ndi chinthu b/w Inu ndi Allah ndipo Allah akukhululukireni ndipo kuonjezera apo ndimufunsa katswili.! Munachita Umra MashAllah, Chonde Ndipempherereni Ndili Pamavuto Ozama Pankhani Ya Ukwati. ndipo dikirani yankho langa mu tsiku limodzi kapena awiri.
ndimafuno abwino onse!
M'bale wanu mu Islam Kashif Ahmad
Ili ndiye vuto lalikulu ku India/pakistani societies ndikuganiza…ngakhale kukhala pachibwenzi kwa nthawi yaitali kungakhale kovuta kwambiri kwa okwatirana kuti aletse. Ndikulangiza kuti nikkah ndi ruksati zichitike @ nthawi yomweyo kupewa izi.
M'mikhalidwe yanu (komanso kutengera ubale wanu ndi amayi anu) Ndikukhulupirira kuti ndi bwino kuwafotokozera mayi ako zomwe zinachitika. Adzakwiyira iwe, koma sadzafuna kanthu koipitsitsa. N’zachionekere kuti mwamuna wanu wakale analakwa kwambiri m’njira imene anakukakamizani ndi kugwiritsira ntchito chiwopsezo cha chisudzulo monga njira yakuchititsirani mantha.. Allah amulanga kapena kumukhululukira momwe wafunira, ngati alapa. Njira yabwino yowonera izi ndikuganiza kuti mukuchita bwino pamapeto pake–ngati akanatha kunyenga ndi kupanga mantha mu mtima mwanu mwamsanga nthawi yomweyo mu ubale wanu, kenako ganizirani zinthu zoipa zonse zimene akanachita pambuyo pake. Zingakhale zovuta, koma yesani kuwona izi ngati chinthu chabwino.
Auzeni amayi anu, popeza adzakulangizani zoyenera kuchita. Kutengera yemwe adzakhale wotsatira wanu, ndi momwe amawadziwira bwino banja lawo, adzaona ngati kuli koyenera kumuuza IYE (banja lake siliyenera kudziwa). Koma, mutsimikizireni kuti mukufuna mwamuna wachisilamu, osati mnyamata wina wosilira. Ndiye kutengera ubale wanu ndi iye musanayambe/mutatha ukwati, ndi momwe mungaweruze bwino khalidwe lake, mungaone ngati kudzakhala koyenera kumuuza. Zimene mudachita sizidali zolakwika pamaso pa Mulungu (nikkah idachitidwa kale) Koma mmene mwamuna wako adadzikakamiza kwa iwe sikunali kolondola, ndi zimenezonso ndi chiwopsezo cha chisudzulo. Chilichonse chomwe mungasankhe, nenani bismillah, choncho chiongoko cha Mulungu chikhale nanu.
Ndinene kuti ine monga MKAZI ndinakwatiwa ndi mwamuna wabwino wachisilamu motsutsana ndi zofuna za amayi anga. Koma Mulungu watisonyezabe kuti Ngwachifundo, wachifundo ndi wokhululuka ndipo watidalitsa ndi banja labwino kwambiri, chikondi chomwe chimakhala champhamvu tsiku lililonse lomwe limadutsa. Ana awiri okongola omwe ndimawafunira ndikanakhala mayi wabwino kwambiri ndikuwawonetsa njira yowona. Ndizovuta kuti makolo athu abwererenso koma si nthawi zonse monga momwe amadziwira zomwe zili zoyenera kwa ife ndipo ziyenera kutilola kuti tikule., koma munthu ayenera kudziwa kuti ukwati si masewera osati kanthu kwa masiku/zaka zochepa ndi kudzipereka timapanga kwa munthu wina kwa moyo wathu wonse.. Koma tikapunthwa ndi chikondi chathu chenicheni tisalole kuti achoke, chifukwa tidzakhala okwiya nthawi zonse chifukwa sitinakhazikike pamtima!
Inde Mlongo mu Chisilamu Anatero Bwino!
chachikulu ngati! – zikomo .
Assalamualaikum,Wokondedwa m'bale/mlongo,
Ndiyenera kupanga chisankho chokhudza ukwati wanga wachikondi,timakonda aliyense ,ndipo ndinauza banja langanso,koma vuto m’banja lake,makolo ake sakufuna kumukwatira mtsikana yemwe amamukonda.akufuna kumukwatila mtsikana yemwe amamufuna..zimenezi ali ndi njira ziwiri choyamba chimodzi ndi banja 2 ndi ine..ndipo sindikufuna loose. nayenso kuti aswe banja lake kwa iye??
zomwe zidzachitike mtsogolo…koma timakonda kwambiri…
Ndinapindula kwambiri ndi izo. Zikomo.
Zambirizi ndi zamtengo wapatali. Ndingapeze kuti zambiri?
Asalam Walikum All 🙂
Funso langa ndiloti ngati atachita tchimolo ngati onsewo alapadi,apempha chikhululuko kwa Allah mowona mtima ndipo akufuna ubale wa halaal tsopano mwachitsanzo Nikaah zikuloledwa kwa iwo kukwatira. Komanso zikatero ukwatiwo udalitsidwa ndi Wamphamvuyonse? Ngati wina wa inu angapeze lingaliro la schloarly ndikakamizika.
Jazakallah khairun.
qustion z ths td ngati mumakonda munthu wokonda zachipembedzo komanso ngati onse awiri amakondana mwakachetechete ndipo sapanga ubale wa haram ndipo ngati akufuna kusangalalira wina ndi mnzake molingana ndi chisilamu koma membala wachimuna makolo sagwirizana pankhaniyi thn wt shd mwamuna membala kuchita
salam nonse
nditawerenga nkhaniyi ndili ndi mantha mu malingaliro
Ndine wokwatiwa (just nikhah)ruksti adzakhala b pambuyo 1 kapena zaka ziwiri.kutanthauza kuti pali nthawi mu ruksti yanga…
koma tonse tili ndi zogonana.monga momwe mwamuna wanga adandiuza kuti ndizololedwa kuchita izi chifukwa tili ku nikah..
Tonse timakondana wina ndi mzake.ndipo palibe vuto pakuzindikira kwathu lomwe lingadzetse vuto lalikulu ngati kusudzulana ALHAMDULILLAH.…
ndimadziwa zambiri za izi
plx ndithandizeni, kodi izi ndi zololedwa kwa ife before ruksti..chifukwa mamuna wanga akabweranso kuchokera kudziko lina n adzafuna zomwezo kwa ine
ntchito zanga ndi zotani ndi izi…..ndimuletse…?
chifukwa azichimwene anga anandiuza mu chisilamu simuloledwa kumuletsa mwamuna wako amene akufuna chikhumbo chilichonse kwa iwe.ndipo sungathe kufuna chilichonse kwa iye.ndipo ndimachita mwaulemu ndikuchita zonse yhis monga ndimamukonda mwamuna wanga..koma nthawi zina ndimamukonda. ndimaona kuti mwamuna wanga salemekeza maganizo amene sanalankhulepo…NDI CHIFUKWA CHA IZI…?
NDIMADIKIZEKA KWAMBIRI pls nditsogolereni chochita…makamaka za ubale wathu wakuthupi…
atha kufuna chilichonse chomwe angafune koma osaloledwa kulankhula naye? ndiwedi opusa chonchi? ndipo akazi achisilamu amadziona ngati ofanana…nthabwala bwanji….ndipo chonde phunzirani kulemba, kugwiritsa ntchito kwanu chilankhulo cha Chingerezi ndikoyipa
funsani makolo anu kuti achite ruskhsati mwamsanga, osadikira. mwaukadaulo, ndizololedwa popeza nikkah yanu yachitika kale. komabe, ngati simumasuka muyese kumudziwitsa modekha…ngati muchita mopupuluma, zingamukankhire kutali ndi inu. njira imodzi mungapewere izi ndi kuyesa kukhala wali kapena munthu wina mu chipinda ndi inu nthawi zonse muli pamodzi. mwina mungauze munthu kuti mumakhulupirira banja lanu kuti nthawi zina simumasuka ndipo pemphani wina kuti akutsatireni. (mlongo wamkulu, azakhali, ndi zina.). ngakhale ndi halaal, ndizovuta kutengera zomwe mukufuna. komabe, ngati mumamasuka naye, kuposa momwe muyenera kuchita rukhsati nthawi yomweyo.
hmm..zikutanthauza kuti si uchimo chifukwa tili mu nikah…?ndi?
koma zikhala bwanji ngati munthu wina yemwe ali ndi chikhalidwe chofananacho asudzulana pamaso pa ruksti ,ndiye kuti ubalewo udzatengedwa ngati tchimo?
Ndikoyenera kuti ndikwaniritse zofuna zake zonse pamaso pa ruksti…?
Salam nonse
Ndimakonda wina ndi iye 2 amandikonda, timadziwana wina ndi mzake kale moyo ndi chiyambi, tinagwirizana kuyambira komaliza 2 zaka…bt we hv tinapsopsonana ndithu (PALIBE OPANDA IZO)
timakondana vrymu ndi kufuna 2 kukwatira…kodi tingasangalale pambuyo pa ukwati?
Ndipo zimene tingachite kwa Taubah?
plz yankho…jazakAllah
Moni, Zikomo chifukwa cha zambiri zothandiza…
Ndikufuna kuthandizidwa ndi ubale wanga. Ndinakwatira mwamuna wanga kudzera muukwati wokonzekera ndipo sindinali wokondwa poyamba. Koma kenako ndinavomera. Izi zinali ndisanamuwone m'moyo wamba. Ndine mtsikana wachipembedzo. Posachedwapa ndinayamba kuvala hijab kuchokera kwa ine ndekha. Sindinagwirepo munthu wina kapena kuyang'ana zolinga zoipa.
Mwamuna wanga ndi wabwino, Koma ndimaona kuti amandinamiza kwambiri, nthawi zina amakhala wokhumudwa ndipo amakuwa, koma ndikumva chifukwa amagwira ntchito molimbika komanso usiku. Poyamba anandiuza kuti sankasuta, kumwa kapena chilichonse. Koma tsopano ndidapeza kuti amasuta ndipo adati adasiya ngati 3 nthawi zina koma ndimamununkhirabe.
Akuti palibe cholakwika chilichonse koma anzanga ena anandiuza kuti amamwa komanso kusuta zinthu zina monga chamba. Ndili ndi a 3 mwana wazaka zakubadwa naye.
Ndimakayikira tsiku lililonse. Kodi nditani? Ndikufuna kuti izi zigwire ntchito kwa mwana wanga.
Chonde thandizani
Zikomo
Ndipatseni kaye kaye. m’banja lolinganizidwa ngati mkazi ali “achipembedzo ndi okongola” idzagwira ntchito? momwe munthu amawonekera sizikukhudzana ndi kaya kapena ayi. Kodi zikutanthauza kuti mwamuna ayenera kukhala wokongola? Chisilamu nthawi zonse chimayang'ana kukongola kwa akazi ndipo sichimatchulapo momwe mwamuna amawonekera. Azimayi a m’chipembedzochi ndi openga ngati mungaganize ngakhale mphindi imodzi kuti akazi amawaona ngati ofanana. Amayi amatengeka maganizo poganiza kuti ali ndi ufulu womwewo. Mdani wa Mulungu zimatengera 2 akazi alingane ndi mboni imodzi yachimuna. Kufanana kuli kuti pamenepo? Amuna sakhulupirira akazi mokwanira kuti awalole kupanga chisankho chalamulo. Amuna amayembekezera kuti akazi azikhala kunyumba, kulera ana ochuluka momwe angathere, kuphika, woyera, akhale akapolo awo, osawalola kutuluka mnyumbamo popanda chilolezo, aziphimba kuti amuna ena asawayang'ane chifukwa amuna sangadalirike kuyang'ana mkazi popanda kudzutsidwa, komabe amadzudzula akazi ngati agwiriridwa ngakhale atavala mwaulemu. Ndikhoza kupitirizabe mpaka kalekale za kusalingana m’gulu lachipembedzo limene mukulitcha kuti ndi chipembedzo. Mkazi aliyense amene ali m'Chisilamu amaponderezedwa ndi kusokonezeka maganizo. Sindingathe kudikira kuti ndiwone mayankho ochokera kwa anthu akundiuza kuti ndikupita ku gehena chifukwa ndimalankhula zoona. Akazi dzukani…mukuleredwa kukhala akapolo a anthu amantha awa mu chipembedzo chanu chomwe chimatchedwa kuti mneneri wawo wonyenga anali wogona ana..
Ndingatsutsane ndi mfundo zanu koma mwachiwonekere ndinu otayika.
Ndikumverani chisoni. Mulungu akutsogolereni kunjira yolondola 🙂
ngati nikah wachita koma palibe rukhsti , ndipo husbnad ali kunja , (pa nthawi ya rishta , anyamata okha banja akuumirira ndikah) paja samalankhulana tsiku ndi tsiku kudzera pa phone , ngati chisudzulo kapena khula chichitika pazifukwa zina ndipo banja la atsikana limapanga rishta ina ndiye panthawi ya nikah zomwe ziyenera kulembedwa pa nikah nama , ameneyo ndi namwali wa mkwatibwi ? kapena kusudzulidwa ? plz ayi
Assalamu Alaikum sister
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