Gawani Izi
Zolemba Zina
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Kukwatiwa
Kukana kwa makolo kusankha wokwatirana naye mwana wamkulu ndilo vuto lalikulu kwa mabanja ongopeka a ‘Ali ndi Khan..
Mai. 'Ali akufuna kuti mwana wake wamkazi akwatiwe ndi dokotala wa chikhalidwe chawo. Bambo. ‘Ali akuganiza kuti munthu amene mwana wake amamukonda si wabwino kwa iye. Mwana wawo wamkazi Amina amatsutsa:
“Iye ndi Msilamu wabwino, ndipo amasamala za ine. Chifukwa chakuti iye si dokotala sizikutanthauza kuti sangachirikize ukwati wathu”.
Mai. Khan akuganiza kuti mtsikana amene mwana wake akufuna kukwatiwa ndi wosakwanira kwa iye. Mwana wake Tariq akutero:
“Amayi ndimakukondani, ndipo ndimayamikira malingaliro anu. Ndikuzindikira kuti Mariam si wa chikhalidwe chathu koma ndi Msilamu wabwino, Ndimamusamalira, Ndikufuna kumukwatira ndipo ndikufuna madalitso ako".
Kukangana pamalingaliro osiyanasiyana okhudzana ndi omwe ana athu ayenera kukwatira zimakhudza ubale wabwino wabanja, zomwe nthawi zambiri zimabweretsa maukwati amtsogolo ndikuyamba movutikira.
Mtumiki mtendere ukhale pa iye, zinatikumbutsa kuti anthu amakwatira pazifukwa zinayi—kukongola, chuma, udindo ndi umulungu. Makhalidwe a umulungu kapena chikhulupiriro cholimba amaonedwa kukhala zifukwa zabwino kwambiri zokwatira. Komabe, ngakhale munthu amene mukufuna kukwatiwa ndi Msilamu wabwino nthawi zina makolo anu amaona kuti sakuyenererani kapena sangadutse zomwe amakonda kapena chikhalidwe chawo komanso zomwe amayembekeza za yemwe muyenera kukwatira..
Choncho, muyenera kuchita chiyani makolo anu akapanda kuvomereza munthu amene mukufuna kumukwatira ngakhale kuti ndi Msilamu wabwino.?
- N’zoona kuti mukhoza kukangana ndi makolo anu n’kusokoneza ubwenzi wanu ndi iwo.
- Mutha kuzindikira kuti mukufuna kukwatirana ndi munthu amene mwamusankha kaya akonda kapena ayi.
Njira zonsezi zimakhala ndi zotsatira zovuta. Ukwati ndi wovuta kwambiri pamene makolo anu akukuthandizani. Anthu okwatirana amafunikira chichirikizo cha achibale awo ndi mabwenzi. Kuyambitsa ukwati popanda kuthandizidwa ndi makolo kungayambitse kupsinjika maganizo muubwenzi watsopanowo.
Mukhoza kuimba mlandu mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu chifukwa cha mkangano umene ulipo pakati pa inu ndi makolo anu. Mosapeweka, umalekanitsa banja panthaŵi imene ongokwatirana kumenewo amafunikira chichirikizo chokulirapo. Komabe, muyenera kuchita chiyani pamene mumasamaladi munthu amene mukufuna kumanga naye banja, ndipo mukufuna kusunga chisangalalo cha makolo anu?
Taonani zotsatirazi:
- Yesetsani kufewetsa mitima ya makolo anu mwa kusonyeza kuleza mtima, kukoma mtima ndi kuwolowa manja kwa iwo. Uzani munthu amene amamulemekeza kuti alankhule naye kuti ayese kuwanyengerera kuti aganizire za munthu amene mwasankha kuti mukwatirane naye. Onani ngati bwenzi lapabanja limenelo kapena imam angalimbikitse makolo anu kuona mmene mumakonderana, ndikufuna kukhazikitsa banja lomangidwa pa chikhulupiriro cholimba ndi kuzindikira kwa Mulungu.
- Khalani ndi nthawi yokulitsa ubale wanu ndi Allah ndi Mtumiki Muhammad, mtendere ukhale pa iye. Mdziweni Allah, ndi zomwe akufuna kwa inu. Khalani ndi nthawi mu pemphero lochokera pansi pa mtima ndi kulambira.
Mapemphero a Tahajjud ndi Fajr ndi ena mwa nthawi yabwino kwambiri yopempha chiongoko kwa Allah. Mudziwe Allah pomudziwa ake 99 mayina. Khalani ndi nthawi mukuganizira zisonyezo Zake m’chilengedwe. Tengani nthawi yowerenga, kuwerenga ndi kusinkhasinkha mawu amene adatisiyira m’Qur’an.
- Dziwani moyo wa banja la Mneneri, mtendere ukhale pa iye, monga chitsanzo chabwino kwambiri cha moyo wabanja. Gwirani ntchito kuti mugwiritse ntchito machitidwe ndi machitidwe a Mneneri m'banja lanu ngakhale musanakumane ndi mnzanu wamtsogolo. Yesetsani kutsatira chitsanzo chake kwa makolo anu, abale ako ndi abale ako. Makhalidwe abwino a Mneneri, kuleza mtima, chisamaliro ndi chisamaliro cha banja lake ndi zitsanzo zimene tonse tiyenera kuyesetsa kutsanzira.
- Kuphatikiza pa kukulitsa ubale wanu ndi Allah khalani ndi nthawi yokonza ubale wanu ndi makolo anu. Muzicheza ndi makolo anu. Muziwayendera pafupipafupi. Idyani nawo chakudya nthawi zambiri. Chitani nawo nawo zochitika za mzikiti komanso zamagulu pafupipafupi. Lowani nawo zochitika zapadera ndi ntchito zawo.
Sonyezani kuti mumawadera nkhawa. Kambiranani nawo za mtundu wa munthu amene mungafune kukwatirana naye, makhalidwe omwe mungafune kuti mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu wamtsogolo akhale nawo kuti chisankho chanu chisakhale chodabwitsa, ndipo amaona kuti mwawatenga nawo mbali pogawana nawo maganizo anu.
Kulankhulana, chikondi ndi ulemu pakati pa makolo ndi achinyamata ndi chinsinsi cha ubale wabwino. Pempherani kwa Allah kuti akutsogolereni kwa munthu amene angakukondeni inu ndi makolo anu. Pempherani kuti makolo anu adziwe ndi kukonda munthu amene Allah wakusankhirani inu.
- Tumikirani dera lanu pamene mukuyembekezera kuti Allah akutumizireni munthu amene wakusankhirani. Pali zambiri zofunika kuziganizira m'madera athu. Lowani nawo bungwe lomwe limayang'anira umphawi, kusowa pokhala, Njala zovuta zachilengedwe, chitukuko cha achinyamata, kapena kutentha kwa dziko.
Sikuti Allah wayika chidaliro pa aliyense wa ife monga adindo kapena Khalifa, Kukhalabe wokangalika pamene mukugwira ntchito yabwino kukupatsani nthawi yoti muganizire zomwe mwasankha. Allah ali ndi chikonzero pa inu.
- Kumbukirani kuti cholinga chanu chachikulu chikhale kukwaniritsa zomwe Allah akufuna kwa inu.
- Khalani oleza mtima. Pirirani ndipo pemphani Allah Wamphamvuzonse kuti akuthandizeni kuzindikira munthu amene ali woyeneradi kwa inu, amene akuopa Mulungu, ndipo amakukondani inu ndi makolo anu. Pemphani Allah kuti adalitse makolo anu kuti avomereze ndi kukonda mwamuna kapena mkazi amene watumiza kwa inu osati kuika zopinga m’banja lanu..
Mulungu asangalale nawo
Gwero : muslimmarriages.wordpress.com: ‘Pamene Makolo Savomereza.’
Dr. Aneesah Nadir ndi PhD level social worker komanso CEO wa Dr. Aneesah Nadir & Associates.Amapereka maphunziro a ukwati ndi mapologalamu okonzekera ukwati kwa anthu osakwatira ndi okwatirana ku United States.Iye Asanayambe Pulogalamu ya Nikah © Maphunziro a Ukwati ndi Kukonzekera ndizofunikira kwa Asilamu omwe akufuna kukwatira lero kapena mtsogolomu.Dziwani zambiri za Dr.. Mapulogalamu ndi ntchito za Aneesah pa www.DrAneesah.com.Dr. Nadir ndi Purezidenti wa Islamic Social Services Association-USA ndipo amayang'anira ISSA's Sakinah Healthy marriage Initiative ndikugwirizanitsa MANA's Healthy Marriage Initiative.
mashallah ..njira yabwino kwambiri yolumikizira makolo…makolo r after all makolo .ngati titawasonyeza chikondi ndi ulemu ndikuwatsimikizira amavomereza ndithu.
Zolimbikitsa kwambiri komanso zomwe ndimayenera kuwerenga, Ndikukumana ndi nthawi yovuta kwambiri pakadali pano ndipo ndikudziwa kuti ndiyenera kuyika chikhulupiriro changa chonse mwa Allah chifukwa ndi yekhayo amene amadziwa zomwe zili zabwino kwa ine.. Ndikhulupilira inshallah makolo anga abwera ndipeza madalitso awo. Kwa alongo nonse Kumeneko Ngati nanunso mukukumana ndi zovuta ndikhulupilira zonse zikuyenda kwa inu nonse. Pitirizani kupemphera ndikuchita dua momwe mungathere, padzakhala kuwala kumapeto kwa tunnel ndikungokhulupirira kuti ndipeza kuwala kwanga posachedwa.
ine ku. sister 🙁
Ndikukhulupirira kuti mwapeza kuwala kwanu in sha Allah. 🙂
njira yabwino kwambiri kutsimikizira makolo. koma ndili ndi funso. molingana ndi chisilamu mnyamata ndi mtsikana saloledwa kuyang'anizana ndi maso (chonde ndikonzeni ngati ndalakwitsa) osati cholinga cha ukwati. m’nkhani ili pamwambayi ali ndi chibwenzi asanalowe m’banja? sitiloledwa kuchita chibwenzi tisanalowe m’banja. kotero zingakhale zabwino kwa inu ngati mungandichotsere zosokoneza zanga. Zikomo.
Assalamu Alaikum,
Mukunena zowona. Kukhala ndi chibwenzi kunja kwa ukwati ndi Haraam mu Chisilamu. Ndikuganiza kuti m'nkhani yomwe ili pamwambayi m'bale ndi mlongo adadziwana kudzera mwa bwenzi kapena china chake. Njira zonse zibwenzi, kucheza, kukhala pachibwenzi etc ndi amuna kapena akazi osiyana kunja kwa Islam sikuloledwa.
Koma inde, mutu waukulu apa ndi chinachake chimene tingatsatire. Allah Ngodziwa kwambiri.
Allah ationgole tonse. Amene.
Adavomera palibe chabwino Msilamu mnyamata/msungwana amalimbikitsa kuvulaza makolo ndi kutsutsana nawo.Ngati mukhulupilira mwa Allah ndi tsogolo palibe amene ayenera kuvulaza makolo chifukwa cha ukwati pamapeto pake mukwatiwa ndi munthu amene Allah wafuna.Koma popeza chikhulupiriro chimene Allah zofuna zidzachitika palibe.. kumabweretsa zotsatira za kukhumudwitsa makolo. Ukwati popanda chilolezo Walii ndi wopanda pake ndipo mkwiyo wa Allah swt uli pa maukwati otere .
Mulungu Ngodziwa bwino
Barak Allahu Feek. Nkhani yabwino kwambiri, masha’ Mulungu. Mozama, lili ndi njira yabwino yothetsera vutoli. Allah swt akulipireni pa izi. Ndiyenera kugawana mwachangu!
Mash Allah, Allah anali atangondionetsa zomwe ndiyenera kuchita ndi malangizo amphamvuwa. JazakaAllah khyraan..
Ndikugwirizana ndi nkhani yanu. Ndakhala ndikukumana ndi izi ndi mwana wanga wamkazi yemwe adayambitsa ubwenzi / ubale ndi mwamuna popanda ine kudziwa kenako akuti akufuna kumukwatira. Amacheza ndikulumikizana komwe sikuloledwa mu Chisilamu. Ndinakana koma amakwatirabe. Tsopano ndataya chimodzi mwa zinthu zamtengo wapatali kwambiri pamoyo wanga, mwana wanga wamkazi. Komabe, Ndikudziwa kuti ndikulondola. Ndilibe ulemu kwa mwamuna yemwe adakwatiwa naye. Msilamu wabwino sakadachita zomwe adachita!
Zoona kumlingo wina, koma amalume anga okondedwa, M'malo mwake mungamupatse mwana wanu wamkazi Zina? Ili ndi funso lofunika kwambiri lomwe kholo lililonse liyenera kufunsa asanafunse ngakhale ana awo pankhani yolowa m'banja. Tikukhala mu ULTRA hyper sexized civilization DZIKO LONSE mpaka pomwe ngakhale kusala kudya sikungathe kuyimitsa.. Mwina mungafune kuti mwana wanu akwatiwe ndi munthu wina, koma zoona zake n’zakuti iwo anachita zomwe zili zotsatira malamulo a Allah, mwinanso zabwino kuposa akadapanda kukwatiwa.. Sindikudziwa kuti nkhaniyo ndi chiyani tsopano koma ndikupemphera kuti mwapeza mtendere pakati pa inu ndi iwo kudzera mu chifundo cha Allah komanso kuti makolo padziko lonse lapansi amvetsetse kuti zikafika pa nkhani zapamtima osasokoneza ngati munthu yemwe mwana wanu akufuna. kukwatira amapemphera, amachita zoyambira zachisilamu, ndipo si wachigololo kapena wogwiritsa nkhanza chilichonse chifukwa anali Omar RA amene ananena kuti kusamukwatira mwanayo kumasiya machimo ONSE kutsatira pa kholo limene ine ndiri. 1000% Ndithu, palibe amene akufuna Tsiku lachimaliziro. Tiyeni tonse tipindule ndi zabwino kuchokera mu izi ndi chirichonse chimene chiri cholakwika, nonse inu, wowerenga, Ndipo Mulungu andikhululukire chifukwa chakunena zimenezo.
Nkhani ya dziko langwiro. Moyo weniweni, makolo amene amakana ukwati chifukwa cha mikhalidwe imeneyi ndi mtundu wa makolo amene ali opondereza. Iwo ndi mutu wa nkhumba ndikukhulupirira kuti popeza wamkulu kuposa mwanayo, nthawi zonse amakhala olondola pachilichonse ndipo palibe njira yoti mwana wawo angawaphunzitse chilichonse ndipo sangavutike kumvetsera zomwe mwanayo akunena.. Zomwe akunena zimapita, ndipo palibe kukhutiritsa mwanjira ina mosasamala kanthu za kuchuluka kwa momwe mwanayo angayesere.
Nkhani yochokera pa ine! Pomaliza makolo adzapambana nthawi zonse! Zilibe kanthu kuti wokwatirana naye ali wabwino bwanji ife monga Asilamu sitisamala zachipembedzo! Zili ngati nyumba yayikulu bwanji, momwe galimoto ilili yabwino komanso momwe U amapezera komanso momwe makolo angasonyezere kwa ena ammudzi!
Komanso kukhala Msilamu sikokwanira masiku ano…
Assalamo alaikum , MashaAllah , Ndikukhala nkhani imeneyi pompano, anamuuza m’bale amene akufuna kundikwatira ( makolo ake) anamuuza iye , kuti sindine wochokera kudziko lomwelo , tilibe chikhalidwe chofanana , palibe m'banja mwawo amene amakwatira kapena kukwatiwa kuchokera kudziko lina , ndipo pambuyo pake anandiuza kuti ndidikire , kuti atsimikizire ndikumvetsetsa kuti akufuna kundikwatira. Ndikupanga Dua zambiri zaukwati uwu . Ya Allah.
Wokondedwa mlongo,
Ndikukhulupirira kuti zonse zidakuyenderani bwino…xx
Asalamu alaikum zomwezi zikuchitikanso 2 ine,mchimwene yemwe akufuna kundikwatira kholo lake adamuuza kuti asakwatire aliyense wakudera langa kuti ndi agogo ake omwe adanena b4 adamwalira.,makolo ake nawonso atayima pamenepo,adandiuza kuti awatsimikizira ndikumvetsetsa koma sakumvera mawu ake. Ndikupanga dua zambiri zaukwati uwu.…ya Allah.
Slam. Ndikukumana ndi zomwezi makolo anga sakuvomera za mnyamata yemwe ndikufuna kukwatira chifukwa si wamtundu wathu.. Ndi abwenzi apabanja abwino kwambiri ndipo bambo anga ndi abambo ake ndi mabwenzi apamtima kwambiri. Makolo anga amandipatsa chilichonse kuyambira ndili wamng'ono sanandikanizepo ayi. Koma tsopano chifukwa cha anthu sakuvomereza. Palibe cholakwika chilichonse ndi mnyamata ndi banja lake popeza ali okhazikika pachipembedzo chawo ndipo ndi achisilamu. Ndasokonezeka ndipo sindikudziwa choti ndichite.
Allah akudalitseni tonse
Ndili mumkhalidwe womwewo
Ndikudutsa muzochitika zomwezo, makolo ake sanagwirizane nazo bcz siine wochokera kudziko limodzi ndi hiz indian komanso im pakistani. Anatsimikizira ma patent ake nthawi zambiri koma sanakonzekere kuvomereza. Ngakhale amayi anga akundithandiza . Koma mayi anga akudikira kuti makolo ake avomereze. Ndikupemphera kwambiri ndikupanga dua paukwati uwu. Chonde ndikumbukireni m’mapemphero anu.
Ndili m'mavuto omwewo, makolo samamvera imam, amamvetsera zomwe zimatchedwa Ufulu
Malangizo a Bulshit
Ndikudziwa amuna omwe akhala akudikirira ndikuwonetsa sabr 38 zaka. Panopa sakufuna kukwatiwa komanso kukhala osungulumwa chifukwa makolo awo sanawathandize ndipo ankangowagwiritsa ntchito makamaka ndalama zawo.. Nthawi zina muyenera kusonyeza sabr mukupitiriza kumenyana, isanachedwe.
Lemekezani makolo inu koma sizikutanthauza kuti muyenera kumvera ndi kumvera.
Asalam alaykoum all,
Nkhani yolembedwa mokoma mtima yokhala ndi malangizo omveka. Zikomo. Ndine mayi wosakwatiwa yemwe adapulumuka pachibwenzi chankhanza, Hamdillah Allah Kareem. Nanenso ndili mchikondi ndipo ndikwatiwa posachedwa ngati Allah afuna, Inshallah Kheyr. Ndikufuna kunena za ufulu wa mwana/makolo mu Chisilamu. Ndaphunzitsidwa kuti mneneri wathu wachifundo ndi wachifundo nthawi ina ananenapo motsatira mfundo yakuti ngati anthu awiri akondana ndiye kuti ndi bwino kuwathandiza ndiyeno kuwalekanitsa chifukwa izi zingayambitse mavuto aakulu.. Sindikunena kuti makolo alibe ufulu, Ndikunena kuti asagwiritse ntchito ufulu umenewo, mphamvu imene ali nayo. Amati mwamuna akhoza kukhala ndi ufulu pa mkazi wake..mwachitsanzo; akhoza kuchita izi ndi izi (mphamvu, etc sankhani zomwe mwasankha) koma Msilamu WABWINO sangafune. Momwemonso ndingamvetsetse kwa makolo. Ndine mayi, Nditha kukhala ndi mphamvu/ufulu kunena kuti inde kapena ayi kwa mwana wanga, koma ndachita bwino ndithu? Mwina sindingamukonde, Nditha kukhala ndi malingaliro ambiri kapena zifukwa zokanira ukwati koma ndamvetsetsa mbali zonse ndisanapange chisankho? Ndipo ndinayesera kumvetsetsa zifukwa za mwana wanga? Ndikufuna kukambirana ndikuthandizira kuwongolera, osati kukakamiza ndi kulamula. Tsogolo lake, maganizo ake ndi zina zotero ziyenera kuganiziridwanso, kulemekezedwa ngakhale. Mulungu adalitse ine kuti ndimvetse bwino zifukwa za mwana wanga ndikukhala wowongolera osati wokakamiza ndikumukankhira mwana wanga kutali ndi ine…zomwe ndizovuta mokwanira monga ziliri kwa ife tonse mu nthawi zino. Ngati banja silikuyenda bwino, Ndikufunabe kuti mwana wanga atonthozedwe mokwanira podziwa kuti banja lake lilipo kuti limugwire akagwa. Chisilamu kwa ine chili chokhuza kuleza mtima ndi kumvetsetsana ndi chiyembekezo chotibweretsa pafupi wina ndi mzake, kuti tichite zabwino kwa ife tokha komanso kwa wina ndi mnzake komanso makamaka kwa Allan swt. Ndizowopsa kwa ife makolo, ndikudziwa, koma ndizowopsanso kwa ana athu. Pomaliza pake, sitikufuna kutaya wina ndi mzake ndipo sitikufuna kupanga Haram. Ndikukhulupirira kuti zolinga zathu zambiri ndi zabwino. Koma ndikulakalaka akadaulo ena kunjako akadakumbutsa makolo za izi. Timakambirana zomwe zimapanga mwana wabwino, mwana wabwino, mwamuna wabwino ndi mkazi wabwino, koma sindikumva zambiri zokhuza kukhala kholo labwino komanso osagwiritsa ntchito molakwika ufulu/mphamvu zathu. Zikomo pomvera, Ndikuyembekeza kumva maganizo anu. Mtendere ndi chikondi kwa onse. Wasalam alaykum abale anga
Wokongola sister! Zowonadi izi ndi zoona. Ndizokhudza kulinganiza pakati pa yemwe ali wolondola ndi CHONCHO cholondola – zimene makolo ambiri amaiwala – makamaka pankhani ya ukwati. Ichi ndichifukwa chake timatha ndi ziwopsezo zosudzulana komanso mabanja osweka. Makolo angakakamize ana awo kukwatiwa, koma sangathe kuwasunga m’banja. Ndizochepa pa zoyipa ziwiri kuti musalole kuti zifike poyambira.
Walaikum Assalam Warahmatullah.
Nthawi zambiri sindimapereka ndemanga kapena kuyankha zolemba….konse! Koma sindinathe kudziletsa nthawi ino. Ndinkakonda kwambiri malingaliro anu ndi malingaliro anu pamutuwu ndipo ndikuvomereza kwathunthu komanso ndi mtima wonse. Ndikuona ngati iyi ndi nkhani yomwe ambiri aife tikukumana nayo ndipo inshaAllah Allah atithandize ndikuyankha ma duas athu onse 🙂
Pali akatswiri ambiri kapena aphunzitsi a Chisilamu amene achita ‘zokamba’ pa mutu womwewu, ngati Mufti Menk 😀 ndipo makanema akupezeka pa youtube etc. Koma mwatsoka, Sindikuganiza kuti zikufika kwa makolo athu / otisunga, amene ayenera kumvetsetsa mfundo zawo
M nawonso mu d mkhalidwe womwewo…sindikudziwa kuti ndiwawuze bwanji izi..makolo anga amaganiza kuti mu chisilamu ana aakazi amangokwatiwa ndi chisankho cha makolo n tilibe ufulu kukwatiwa mwa kufuna kwathu kapena zomwe timakonda.…Ndimakonda mwamuna n akufuna kundikwatira ndiye makolo ake adafunsa bambo anga koma sali okonzeka kuvomera chifukwa akufuna kuti andikwatire mwakufuna kwawo.…Ndikukhumba ngati aliyense wa scolar angapereke mawu omwewo a mufti menk okhudza maukwati okakamizidwa mu malayalam kuti amvetse…Koma ambiri Anzeru amalankhula kwa ana aakazi koma osati kwa makolo..
Zolembedwa mokongola. Ndikanakonda makolo ambiri amaganiza momwe mukuchitira.
Salaam,
ndi 18 zaka zakubadwa. Ndimapemphera salah yanga nthawi zonse. Ndili ndi malingaliro atatu ochokera kubanja. Ndinakana mmodzi wa iwo chifukwa samaphunzira, ndi wochokera kubanja labwino komanso amawonetsa chidwi kwa ine koma kwa ine, maphunziro ndi ofunika kwambiri. Wachiwiri ndi loya, iye ali 7 zaka wamkulu kuposa ine koma ine ndikukhulupirira kuti zaka zilibe kanthu mu ubale mukamamvetsetsa bwino, amandikonda ndipo akuchokera kubanja labwino, iye ndi wokhwima, munthu woona mtima ndi woona mtima. Ndikufunadi kuti akhale mnzanga wamtsogolo koma bambo anga savomereza chifukwa cha zovuta zina. Wachitatu wachita IT ndipo amagwira ntchito ku Saudia, banja lake ndi losamala pang'ono kuposa lathu. Bambo anga samavomerezanso lachitatu. Ndikufuna kukwatiwa ndi wachiwiri, palibe aliyense m'banjamo amene amandichirikiza kuti nditsimikizire bambo anga. Zakhala kale 1 chaka tsopano ku lingaliro lake. Palibe amene amayembekezera kwa nthawi yaitali yankho. Ma ppl ambiri akubanja langa ankakonda maukwati koma panthawi yanga palibe amene amandichirikiza basi coz the ego prob even tho the ppl who did love marriages have made that in the same family from the 2nd proposal came.. Bambo anga alibe vuto ndi mnyamata ameneyo. Ndiwatsimikizire bwanji bambo anga? Chonde, ndipatseni malangizo. Ndikufuna upangiri wabwino pakadali pano.
Tikukulangizani kuti mufunse Imam wakudera lanu kuti alankhule ndi abambo anu ndikumulangiza moona mtima jzk ndipo Allah SWT akufewetseni zinthu ameen
Zikomo chifukwa cha malangizo anu okoma mtima. Koma mwatsoka, wawo si Imamu wotere amene ndingakambirane naye za nkhaniyi. Komabe mumandipangira chiyani, ndani ali bwino kwa ine 2nd kapena 3rd? Ndili mu chisokonezo chachikulu. Sindikufuna kulapa pambuyo pake kotero ndikufuna kupanga chisankho chanzeru.
kwa ine 2nd imodzi ikumveka bwino
Salaam abale ndi alongo,
Sindinalembepo pamabwalo awa kapena kufunsa upangiri uliwonse koma ndikufunika thandizo.
Ndine tsopano 25 zaka ndipo wakhala pachibwenzi ndi mnyamata kwa 7 zaka (ndikudziwa kuti izi ndizoletsedwa mu chisilamu ndikufuna kuziyika bwino). Tsoka ilo iye sali woyimba yemweyo ngati ine. Bambo anga analankhula nane za ukwati masabata angapo apitawo ndipo analankhulanso usiku watha. Alongo anga apongozi anga akhala akundifunsa rishta wanga mwana wawo ndipo sanasiye kuyambira pamenepo. Ndikudziwa kuti adzakhala rishta wabwino chifukwa ndidzakhala m'banja komanso ndi mlongo wanga koma mtima wanga uli ndi mnyamata uyu.. Iye ndi wolimbikira ntchito ndipo iye mwini amafuna kukonza zinthu ndi kukwatira chifukwa amanong’oneza bondo kwambiri kuti anachita tchimo. Adauza makolo ake ndipo alibe vuto lililonse. Vuto lalikulu ndi bambo anga. Wandiuza kuti ngakhale abale anga azindisamalira ndipo ndingasangalale kuti sakufuna kuti ndikwatire kumeneko chifukwa izi zidzamuchititsa manyazi ndipo sadzatha kuyang'ana anthu m'maso momwe alili. otsika kuposa ife. Makolo anga ndimawakonda kwambiri adandichitira chilichonse ndipo zimandivuta kuwawona akupwetekedwa mtima bt i cant get this boy out of my head. Ine ndi iye jave tinaganiza zotenga molbhi saab kuti atichitire isthikhara. Ngati zikuwoneka zabwino, pitilizani kuyesa (ngakhale zimandipha kuona makolo anga amakumana nthawi zonse ndikanena za kukwatiwa popanda kutaya) Ngati sichoncho ndiye zisiyeni pamenepo ndipo ndidzakwatira kulikonse anganene.
Sorty its a long story bt i had to tell. Kodi ndi njira yoyenera yomwe timachitira kapena ndiyenera kuchita china chake. Chonde thandizani.
Jizakillah
Walaikum assalam sister,
Choyambirira, Ubale uwu kwa 7 zaka ndi zoletsedwa m'Chisilamu choncho muyenera kusiya kulankhulana kulikonse chifukwa cha Allah insha'Allah.. Chilichonse chomwe mungafune kukambirana mutha kukambirana kudzera mwa wali/mahram insha'Allah.
Momwe Hadith imapita, Ngati malingaliro a munthu wolungama afika kwa inu, ndiye ngati Atate wako sunnah yake yokhayo kuti ayivomereze. Zikhale zochokera kwa mlamu wa mlongo wako kapena mchimwene wako amene umamudziwa 7 zaka. Muyenera kukhala pansi ndi abambo anu ndi kukambirana kuti ndani mwa awiriwa ali olungama mu chikhalidwe. M’Chisilamu mulibe kakhalidwe ka anthu ndipo palibe amene ali wapamwamba kuposa wina aliyense kupatula pa chipembedzo. Chifukwa chake Chonde lingalirani kuti deen ndiye woyamba komanso wabwino.
Ponena za Istikhara, simungapemphe wina kuti akuchitireni Istikhara, Muyenera kuchita Istikhara nokha ngati mukuchita zanu 5 kupemphera tsiku ndi tsiku ndikupewa kuchita machimo. Sankhani pakati pa ziwirizi ndikuchita Istikhara insha’Allah. Kuti mudziwe zambiri pa Istikhara chonde pitani nkhaniyi https://www.muslimmarriageguide.com/istikhara-the-virtue-of-involving-allah-in-your-life/.
Allah ationgole tonse ndi kutikhululukira zolakwa zathu, Amene
Zikomo chifukwa cha yankho lanu Umm Khan ndikuyamikira kwambiri kuyankha.
Ndipo posiya uthenga womaliza bambo anga adandiuza kale ngakhale mnyamatayo atakhala mwamuna wabwino ndipo azindisangalatsa koma sadzavomerabe chifukwa cha mtundu wake.. Iye wati ngakhale mnyamatayo ali wosauka kwambiri ndipo ali wamtundu wofanana ndi ine bambo anga amuthandize kukhala komwe akufuna.. Umu ndi momwe abambo anga amakhudzidwira ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu.
Mnyamata yemwe ndimamudziwa kwa nthawi yayitali ali ndi chidziwitso chochuluka cha chisilamu. Ngakhale samapemphera kasanu koma akuyamba kupemphera momwe angathere pano ndi ine.
I knw mwanena kuti isthikhara kuyenera kuchitidwa ndi munthu yekhayo koma ndadziwa anthu ambiri omwe adapempha molbhi saab ku mosk kuti achite ndipo adakwatirana chifukwa cha kuyankha..
(Ndi pamene amafunsa makolo onse dzina la mtsikana ndi mnyamata).
Bambo anga si munthu amene mungamulimbikitse. Iye ali wokhazikika m'njira zake ndipo amasamala kwambiri zomwe anthu anganene.
Ndakhala pakati pa thanthwe ndi malo olimba.
Malangizo enanso
Komanso chifukwa chachikulu chomwe timafunira kukwatira ndichoti takhala simmed kale allah atikhululukire ameen
Ndikanena mlongo kuti pempha chikhululuko kwa Allah pa chilichonse chomwe chachitika kale kenako ndikupemphera moona mtima kwa Allah kuti athandizidwe pankhaniyi.. Za istikhara – imam wanu SANGAKUchitire istikhara pokhapokha ngati ali wali wanu kapena Mahram. Tsoka ilo, istikhara ndi machitidwe omwe anthu ambiri samawamvetsetsa. Koma bambo ako, pitilizani kupanga dua ndikufunsa wina wabanja lomwe amamulemekeza kuti alankhule naye. Uwu ndi moyo WANU ndipo mudzakhalamo ndipo ayenera kukhala wofunitsitsa kukumverani ndi malingaliro omasuka. Abambo anu ayenera kumvetsetsa kuti caste ndi haram – Mulungu samakuweruzani ndi fuko lanu, mtundu, mtundu, kapena maonekedwe, koma pa zochita zako ndi Imaan yako ndi khalidwe lako. Ngati bambo wanu akuopadi Allah, adzasiya maganizo otere. Allah SWT akufewetseni inu Ameen.
Wokondedwa mlongo,
Ndikudutsanso chimodzimodzi mwatsoka. Bambo anga amasamala kwambiri za zomwe anthu amaganiza… chifukwa cha ichi ndikuwopa ngakhale kuulula kwa iye kuti ndimakonda munthu, munthu wabwino komanso wondilemekeza. Ndamudziwa pafupifupi 6 zaka ndipo tonse tapempha chikhululuko kwa Allah pa zolakwa zathu zonse. Timangofuna kupanga kuti zikhale halal. Makolo ake ndi okonzeka kundilandiranso. Ndinawauza amayi anga koma akuwopa kuti bambo anga atani akadziwa. Amasamala kwambiri za dunya iyi ndipo samanyalanyaza malingaliro anga. Akhoza kupangitsa moyo wanga kukhala gehena ndipo ndimachita mantha kumuuza. Subhanallah, dziko lino ladzatani, kumene ana ayenera kubisa malingaliro awo chifukwa choopa makolo awo! Allah akufewetseni mlongo, mudzakhala m’mapemphero anga..
Monga kholo ana sayenera kukhala ndi zibwenzi zovutitsa poyamba ndiyeno amazilungamitsa ponena. Tikufuna kupanga Haramu kukhala ukwati wa halal. Mwana wabwino wa Chisilamu ayenera kulapa ndikupempha Allah kuti atumize mwamuna kapena mkazi wabwino kwambiri kuti akwatire. Ndipo pirirani. Chilichonse chomwe muli nacho pa chibwenzi/chibwenzi chomwe muli nacho pachibwenzi cha haraam chimadza ndi inu nokha. Zokhumba zanu ndi machimo anu. Choncho ana okhawo amene amachita zimenezi ayenera kuthetsa maubwenzi awo ngati makolo savomereza. Chisudzulo ndichokwera kwambiri ndipo chifukwa chake ndikuti maubwenzi anu amayambira munjira ya haraam.ndichifukwa chake mabanja anu amathanso kusudzulana.. Ndikudziwa ngati munthu alapa Allah amukhululukire. Koma kuchimwa podziwa kuti n’kulakwa komanso kusangalala pa nthawiyo sikutanthauza kuti mukuchita bwino . Nthawi zambiri zimanenedwa kuti tikufuna kukwatirana kuti tipange halal tsopano. Yang'anani nthawi zomwe mukukumana nazo zaka zambiri ndiye zindikirani kuti ndi haraam ndiyeno mukufuna kuzipanga kukhala halal. Kunena zoona ana masiku ano .ndinganene chiyani ngati kholo.sindikumvera chisoni. Ngati mumakonda wina pangani kukhala halal pakanthawi kochepa ndikusunga halal mukamacheza ndi zina. Ndiye mwina simungakhale ndi zopinga zambiri. Chikondi si mawu omwe achinyamata amakhala nawo. Chikondi chimatanthauza nsembe. Kodi mkazi kapena mwamuna wanu bwenzi kapena bwenzi angakondebe inu mutakhala wakhungu kapena wolumala pambuyo pa ngozi ya galimoto. Ine kubetcherana ayi
Moni, zomwe mwanena ndi zolondola pang'ono. Makolo alibe mphamvu zogwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zawo molakwika pa ana awo. Ndithu, sizili Haramu kukhala m’chikondi ndi munthu bola ngati sikutsatiridwa munjira ya Haramu. Ngakhale zili choncho, masauzande aife tili m'menemo amatembenukira kwa Allah ndikupempha kulapa. Koma makolo onse amatha kutitonza ndi momwe timakhalira kumoto wa gehena chifukwa cha zochita zathu ndi zina., kukhala ngati sanachitepo tchimo lol. Machimo amapezeka chifukwa ndife anthu ndipo ndife otetezeka ku zolakwa. Osachepera ngati mwana wanu akuwonetsa ulemu kuti apange chinachake cha haramu kukhala halal, ndiye m’malo momufooketsa ndi kumuuza maganizo anu pa iye, zindikirani kuti amavutika kuganizira za ukwati ndi kudzipereka. m'mabanja ambiri, Ana amangocheza kwa zaka zambiri osafuna kudzipereka m'njira yovomerezeka! makolo ayenera kuwerengera madalitso awo. makolo alibe ufulu woletsa mwana wawo yemwe angakhale wokwatirana naye ngati ali wamphamvu mu chipembedzo chake ndi taqwa ndi khalidwe lake.. makolo ambiri amangotsutsa chifukwa cha kudzikonda kwawo, kutchuka pakati pa anthu ndi zinthu zina zosafunika zomwe zilibe malo mu Chisilamu.
m'banja langa ndawonapo maukwati angapo opambana omwe anabadwa chifukwa cha chikondi pachiyambi, akhala zaka zambiri ndi ana ndi chiyani..(osanena kuti ndi njira yoyenera kuchita) pakutha kwa tsiku zimabwera ku chikhalidwe cha munthu, osati kuti ndi banja lokonzekera kapena lachikondi. ndipo chonde, mawu anu onena za momwe chibwenzi/msungwana sangakondebe wina ngati atakumana ndi ngozi! zimenezo n’zoona ngakhale pamene mtsikana ali wakhungu. kapena mdima kwenikweni, kapena wolumala, koma akufuna kukwatira koma anthu samuvomera chifukwa cha maonekedwe ake akunja. ndiwo mawu okondera.
moni anthu ndakumana ndi vuto lalikulu pano chonde musandiweruze mutamva izi, ndinachoka kunyumba chaka chatha chifukwa ndinagwa mchikondi ndi wachibale wanga yemwe amakhala ku Pakistan ndipo ine ndimachokera ku England tonse ndife asilamu ndinawauza abale anga kuti andisiye chifukwa ndimakumana nawo.. ndili ku Pakistan makolo anga ankadziwa komwe ndikupita ndipo anabwera ku Pakistan kudzacheza ndi mnyamatayo ndipo atatero iye anandiimba mlandu zonse ponena kuti ndinamukakamiza ndipo anati ndidzipha ngati sandikonda iye anaimba mlandu zonse pa ine. ine ndipo amandinamizira kuti alibe chochita ndi ine ndipo ndimayenera kubwerera ku uk ndi makolo anga tsopano ndabwerera an smy makolo andilanda phone ya passport ndipo zonse ndikumva ngati ndili kundende koma a tsopano ndikulankhula ndi mnzanga pa facebook yemwe ndinakumana naye ndili ku Pakistan ndipo adandifunsira ndipo ndikuwona ngati ndiye wolondola ndipo sindikudziwa kuti ndiwawuze bwanji abambo anga chifukwa sakuyenera kudalira. pa ine ndipo ndasokonezeka malangizo aliwonse chonde
Assalam o alaikum.
Ndimachokera ku Maldives, ndipo ndikufuna kukwatiwa ndi mnyamata wa kalasi 10. Tonse timakondana. Tinadziwa zimenezi kudzera mwa anzathu. Poyamba tinkaphunzira m’kalasi imodzi, amayi anga ndi okoma mtima komanso ochezeka naye amd banja lake, koma nditamuuza kuti ndimamukonda ndimafuna kumusangalatsa. Anasinthiratu. Amafuna kuti ndikhale dokotala koma nthawi zonse ndinkafuna kukhala namwino. Mbiri ndi chuma ndi zofunika kwambiri kwa banja langa. Tsoka ilo, mnyamatayo sanaphunzire bwino ndipo sakugwira ntchito yabwino m'mabanja anga. Iye ndi Msilamu wabwino,olimbikira kwambiri Amuna Ofatsa. Ndikukhulupirira kuti adzandisamalira ndipo adzachita zonse monga mwamuna. Komanso makolo anga samaganiza kuti sindinakonzekere ukwati. Cox ndi 19. Koma mtsikana akhoza kukwatiwa pamene ali 18. Ndikuganiza kuti ndakonzeka kukwatiwa.. Chonde ndithandizeni pa izi.
Mlongo tikukulimbikitsani kuti mulankhule ndi imam wakudera lanu ndikumupempha kuti akuthandizeni – atha kukhala ngati mkhalapakati pakati panu ndi kukuthandizani kuti mumvetsetse
Assalamualaikum ndi 32 chaka chogwira ntchito pansi pa boma la boma. Makolo anga adayika mbiri yanga patsamba laukwati ndipo mtima wabwino unandikhudza ndi chidwi chake pa ine. Takambirana nkhani yonse yokhudzana ndi mtunda ndi ntchito ndipo tonse tinakhutitsidwa. Koma makolo anga makamaka mayi anga akungokana ponena kuti salola kutalikirana. Onse aFus ndi a mayiko oyandikana nawo koma chowonadi ndichakuti palibe njira yachindunji pakati pa dziko lathu. Koma ife (ine ndi iye) ndikufuna kukwatira. Aprents ake akungodikira kuti zokambirana ziyambike.
Chonde ndipempherereni kuti Tonse tikhale ogwirizana.