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Is love before marriage better? ¿Ter 'me'ä mäs hingi mpa̲ti ja ar Islam?, 'nar 'me̲hñä ya hne wa 'nar 'me̲hñä arreglado?
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Praise be to Allaah.
Tema nuna ar 'me̲hñä bi jagu̲ju̲ ya nge dige nä'ä Ba ehe 'be̲tho nu'ä.. Nu'bu̲ ar hne ja yoho ya xeni hingi transgrede ya 'mui ntsoni ya Allah wa ya bí 'yo̲t'e cometer pecado, 'Me̲fa 'bu̲i ar esperanza ne ar 'me̲hñä resulta nuna hne da mäs hingi mpa̲ti., ngetho surgió komongu ar nt'uni hecho kadu 'na nu'u̲ nda nthätu̲wi ko ma'na..
Nu'bu̲ 'nar 'ño̲ho̲ tsa̲ cierta atracción nu'bu 'nar 'be̲hñä jar nä'ä bí ar permisible nthätu̲wi., ñhöñhö, Otho ar respuesta ar hñäki menu 'me̲hñä. Ar bädi (ne ar 'mui xi hño ne ya bendiciones Allah 'bu̲hu̲ ko nä'ä.) mä: "Hingi creemos ke xi otho mäs xi hño pa ga̲tho nu yá nä'ä bí aman da 'me̲hñä". (Narrado ya Ibn Maajah, 1847; clasificado komongu auténtico al — Busayri ne ir nge ar Sheij al — Albani jar al — Silsilah jar ar — Sahihah., 624)
Al — Sindi bí mä, Honja ar señaló jar Haamish Sunan Ibn Máyah:
Jar hmä "Hingi creemos ke xi otho mäs xi hño pa mi ar aman da 'me̲hñä" pe entender ar komongu 'nar referencia ma dos wa da nä'ä dos.. Nä'ä 'me̲hna ir bo̲ni ar da nu'bu mahyoni hne ja yoho ya jä'i., da hne hingi to da hñuts'i wa 'yo̲t'e durar mäs pa ya 'naxtu̲i komongu ar 'me̲hñä.. Nu'bu̲ ja 'me̲hñä nja'bu̲ komongu Nunu̲ ra hne, Nuni ra möte aumentará ne da fortalecerá kadu̲ 'nar pa".
Pe nu'bu̲ Nunu̲ 'me̲hñä ar produce komongu ar nt'uni 'nar nthe amorosa ilícita, ngu nu'bu̲ bí 'bu̲i ne gi solos ga̲tho ne ar besan, ne ma 'ra ya acciones prohibidas, Gem'bu̲ ni 'nar pa da hingi mpa̲ti, ngetho cometieron acciones nä'ä da kontra ar a ne ngetho xi construido yá vidas dige ya da tendrán ár ntsoni ar reducir ya bendiciones ne ar apoyo Allah., Getho ar pecado ge 'nar factor mahyoni jar reducción ya bendiciones, anke ra ya jä'i piensen, Nu'bya ya susurros Shaitán, ne da enamorar ne da obras prohibidas xí ne 'me̲hñä da mäs xí nze̲di.
'Nehe, Gi pe̲ts'i ilícitas mi pe̲ts'i lugar 'be̲tho 'me̲hñä da 'nar causa pa gi da Kadu ar 'mui dude ar ar ma.. Ar ndo̲ pensará ke ár 'be̲hñä posiblemente pets'i 'nar nthe similar ko ma ya jä'i., ne 'nehe nu'bu̲ gí beni ke ar tx'u̲tho probable, Tobe da 'raki ra mfembi hecho ke ár 'be̲hñä bí 'yo̲t'e algo mal ko nä'ä.. Ne ya xkagentho to xi ocurrir bí ma ár 'be̲hñä 'nehe., ne nä'ä pensará ke ár ndo̲ ndi ga pe̲ts'i 'nar aventura ko ma 'be̲hñä., ne 'nehe nu'bu̲ nä'ä gí beni ke ar tx'u̲tho probable, Tobe da mbeni ya hecho ne ár ndo̲ bí 'yo̲t'e algo mal ko nä'ä..
Nja'bu da kadu 'ñehe ma 'ño'be vivirá 'nar dätä duda ne sospecha, da arruinará ár nthe nde wa xuditho.
Ar ndo̲ tsa̲ da condenar ár 'be̲hñä ya porke bí aceptado ga 'nar nthe ko nä'ä 'be̲tho ar 'me̲hñä., nä'ä da molesto pa Nunu̲, ne 'me̲hna da ke ár nthe ar deteriore.
Ir pensamos da nu'bu̲ 'nar 'me̲hñä ar basa ja 'nar nthe prematrimonial ilícita., Mäs nä'ä probable ge da da inestable ne hingi pets'i ar éxito.
Ir nge ya matrimonios arreglados mi meni gi jwahni ja ar 'ñehe ma 'ño'be, Hingi nga̲tho ya hoga ne hingi nga̲tho malos. Nu'bu̲ ya mengu xí hño 'nar nt'ets'i ne ár 'be̲hñä ar religiosa ne hermosa, ne da ar ndo̲ ho ne ne nthätu̲wi, 'Me̲fa 'bu̲i jar esperanza ne ár 'me̲hñä da hingi mpa̲ti ne ya exitoso.. Ar 'bu̲'bu̲ ár bädi (ne ar 'mui xi hño ne ya bendiciones Allah 'bu̲hu̲ ko nä'ä.) instó nä'ä ne nthätu̲wi ma handi ar 'be̲hñä. Narró al — Mughirah ibn Shu 'nar bah nä'ä bí propuso 'me̲hñä 'nar 'be̲hñä., ne ár bädi (ne ar 'mui xi hño ne ya bendiciones Allah 'bu̲hu̲ ko nä'ä.) mä, "Ba handi y dá handi, getho xähmä mäs da nä'ä hmä hne entre nu'u̲hu̲". (Narrado ya at — Tirmidhi, 1087; clasificado komongu xa hño an — Nasá 'nar i, 3235)
Pe nu'bu̲ ya mengu tsi 'nar nts'oki nja ntsoni, wa o̲t'e 'nar nt'ets'i xi hño pe ar ndo̲ hingi 'bu̲i ir nge nä'ä, Gem'bu̲ nuna ar 'me̲hñä probablemente xi condenado ar fracaso ne ar inestabilidad., Ngetho 'me̲hñä ar basa jar nzäm'bu̲ xi 'befi nu'bu̲ da nthe̲hu̲ 'ra Hingar hingi mpa̲ti.
Ne Allah mfädi hño.
Fuente: Islam Q&'Nar
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i agree,my situation is this ive been married 2,i now met a beautiful,religous women an we so inlove i approachd da parents but the sed no cos i was married 2,they want 2 arrange a marriage 4 her,so wot i can say is some of our umah use the deen onli wen it suites them
seems like whoever replied to this is a very male oriented person. Islam gives women equal rights. It not always about women being beautiful and a man not liking the woman chosen for him. It can equally be the other way round.
Also another problem massively faced these days, two people like each other and want to get married right away, the families however have a lot of socio cultural demands which either leads to delaying a marriage or refusing to the proposal altogether. In many cases that i have seen, those in love dont stop and hence it leads to gunah. Their justification to it is that they wanted the right away and adopted it, their parents didnt. Its sad how there are these worldly requirements that leads to such serarios when the answer is simple and just needs cooperation from parents. I wonder if its right for either of the two in love to marry someone else chosen by their family whom they dont love. Loving someone else and being a spouse to someone else is again extremely wrong. May Allah guide us the right path and help us in such hardships!
Jazakallah
i agree with you, also Allah tells us that we have to obey our parents, but we shouldnt when they tell us something that ccontradicts with islam, for xample what if someone loves someone, and theyre both good muslims, and then the guys parents say oh no you cant marry her because shes not the same culture, there are no races in islam, Allah and the prophet told us that in an authentic hadith that no race is greater or bettter than another, and in the Quran “And we have made you into different tribes so that you may know one another” If marriage was based on culture why didn’t the prophet sallalahu alaihi wa salam ever say in a hadith “you should marry from your own race because it will be easier on you”, it just makes me so upset and tired to hear this kind of stuff that culture is a barrier for marriage, i never thought it would even be a prerequisite, culture is nothing its your language where you were born what kind of food you eat and thats it, some muslims these days just block out deen when it comes to marraige and look at culture
@sana: i like your comment and the question posed by you…. well i will not go too deep in details but in short the solution is we need to educate ourself about what our deen (Islam) Hmä: Which is what Allah SWT commands us and what Prophet Muhammad PBUH has guided us….
If we follow it then there would not be such issues…. but the matter fact is that we dont have time for learning our Deen….
May Allah SWT guide us all to the righteous path….
@sana
I will answer about the last part, where u were wondering, If two people who were in love with each other, should marry some one else ( presumably of their parents choice ), Pozo, I will answer you through Qur’an
Chap 2 Vrs 235 – ”
And there is no sin on you if you make a hint of betrothal or conceal it in yourself, Allah knows that you will remember them ”
Notice the part where Allah says, Allah knows that you will remember them ”
To put it simply, I think, its clear that if you love some1, you propose to them and you should try and marry them, by this verse.
Aoa.
@ Salman Ibn Ahmed
I just wanted to say that the ayah from the Quran that you have quoted here does not apply to this situation. If you read the whole ayah and the ayah before it too, you will know that this ayah refers specifically to the women who are in the period of iddat ie mourning after their husband has passed away. It is instruction for a man who sees this woman, or hears about her and would like to propose to her.
and Allah knows best.