T'uni 'me̲hna
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Ar nt'a̲: Nu'bya di 29, ne xi 'ma̲i pa ndi bädi nthätu̲wi Nxoge xingu pa hinda ningún éxito. Di perdiendo jar esperanza ne 'nehe di pe̲ts'i to ar casar ga ko 'nar 'ño̲ho̲ hingi musulmán, pe pädi da 'me̲hna ge 'nar desastre pa ma nthe Alá..
Respuesta: Nt'uti dí meyahu̲ ar guía ar Amado Allah pa honi ya nt'ot'e mäs fuertes ne hño da 'mui., Mente bí deposita ar confianza Allah.
Sayyiduna Umar (Allah ntsuni complacido ko nä'ä) mä, “O̲de ar Mensajero Allah (Allah bí bendiga & uni ar 'mui xi hño) gi mö, "Nu'bu̲ confiaste jar Allah Komo ar da confiar nä'ä, Nu'ä proveería pa nu'i komongu Provee pa ya ts'ints'u̲. Salen ko thuhú xuditho 'bu̲ ya xudi, ne regresar lleno 'bu̲ nxui.” [Tirmidhi] Ya eruditos señalan ke ya ts'ints'u̲ hingi ar limitan ma ga japi ár confianza Allah: salen xuditho, ne ya nt'ot'e pa da tsoni ár objetivo.
'Me̲hñä: Nt'ot'e comunales
Ja ya hnini, 'bu̲i ya jä'i 'bui matrimonios, Gi pädi ja ya posibles cónyuges adecuados, ne da togo'ä da gi honi nu'bu̲ 'na ne nthätu̲wi. Nu'bu̲ hingi funciona a través de ya meni, Japi thoka 'bu̲ ya xita ne ya txu jar hnini (Komo ya mpädi 'na’ mengu, líderes comunitarios, imanes mezquitas, 'befi matrimoniales, etc.)
Ga OT'UJE ar Oración 'medi da (Salat al — Haja): Gi wudu ne ga OT'UJE 2 rakats 'mefa xta ya ne nuya gi o̲t'e 'nar súplica sincera, da cónyuge 'nar adecuado.
Estad seguros ar da Allah contestará vuestras duas, ya ar mäs xi hño ja ya maneras:
“Gi mö (ja ya nthu̲t'i, O Muhammad): Togo'ä provee pa nu'i ndezu̲ ñu̲ni ne ar ximha̲i, wa togo'ä ndö jar oído ne jar thandi; ne nä'ä saca ya vivos de entre ya animä ne saca ya animä de entre ya vivos; ne togo'ä dirige jar nsa̲di? Dirán: Alá. 'Me̲fa xi'i: ¿Hingi cumplirás gem'bu̲ ko ir pets'i da? (ma mengu) ?” [Corán, 10.31]
Allah ga gi mbeni:
“Ne jár ñu̲ni 'bu̲i ir providencia ne nä'ä bí ga promete.;
Ne ar 'ño̲ho̲ ya cielos ne ar ximha̲i, ar majwäni, 'nehe ngu (ge makwäni) da hables.” [51.22-23]
Nja'bu da te̲ni tomando ar mäs xi hño ja ya nt'ot'e, ko Nxoge confianza Allah ne certeza ke nu'bu̲ gi nä'ä nä'ä gi xi pedido, Nu'ä makwäni gi t'uni ga̲tho nä'ä ar mäs xi hño pa nu'i., nuna ar nzaki ne jar ar Nu'bu̲ Xtí.
Allah ga hmä:
“Ar zunthu gi promete ar indigencia ne gi ordena lascivia. Pero Allah ga promete ya ar Pungagi bi Sí xkagentho ko generosidad. Allah nä'ä tso̲ni ga̲tho, Omnisciente.” [Corán, 2.268]
Y:
“Ne ya creyentes, 'ñoho ne ya 'behñä, Gi 'bu̲hu̲ protegiendo ja ya mpädi 'ra ya ma'ra; ordenan nä'ä na za ne prohíben nä'ä incorrecto, ne ar ndui adoración ne pagan ya hyoya debidos, ne obedecen jar Allah ne ár mensajero. Dige nuya, Allah da mets'i ntheku̲te nu'u̲. Nä'ä! Allah ar Poderoso, Sabio.
Allah promete ya creyentes, 'ñoho ne ya 'behñä, Jardines debajo de ya ne nuya fluyen ya däthe, ja permanecerán – viviendas bendecidas jardines ar Edén. Y – mar dätä (na ya'bu̲)! – nthä ya Allah. Ese ge ár 'rähä supremo.” [Corán, 9.71]
Ne pädi paciente. El Amado de Allah (Allah bí bendiga & uni ar 'mui xi hño) ga recordó nä'ä:
“'Ñotho ar cansancio, Enfermedad, dificultad, 'ñu̲, ar ngi wa ar dumu̲i afligen ja 'nar musulmán, 'nehe ma 'nar espina bí pintando, 'ñotho da Allah borre yá errores a través de Nunu̲.” [Grabado ya Bujari ne Muslim, ar Abu Sa 'nar id ne Abu Hurayra (Allah ntsuni complacido ko nu'u)]
Ne Honto Allah xta éxito.
Contestado nge ar Sheij Muhammad ibn Adam jar ar — Kawthari ar Nthuts'i fiqh Hanafi.
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—————-Chicas———
———–ya komongu ya mänsanä——
——-ja ya zaa…. Ya mpädi mäs xi—–
—–Gi 'bu̲hu̲ jar xeni mäs xi ngu ar zaa.—–
—Ya bätsi hingi ne zo̲ni—
… –pa ya hoga getho nu'u̲–
-r Ntsu ar caer ne ar lastimar.-
-Jar lugar ar, ar da duts'i ya jo'xi podridas-
ndezu̲ ar ha̲i nu'u hingi ngut'ä Haxu̲jwä,
Pero hei. Nja'bu da ya jo'xi ar mañä mbeni
algo mal ko nu'u nu'bu̲ ja
-gu̲ki makwäni ya increíbles. Simplemente–
—pe̲ts'i da esperar nä'ä ar bätsitho adecuado
—- Handi, nä'ä ar-
———– nä'ä suficientemente himbí Ntsu Komo pa—–
—————ndi ga̲tho———
—————ar 'ñu——
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————–ya ar zaa —-
Ote xki beni ..
ga paciencia ..
Allah xi ko nu'i….
Xi di jamädi …Nä'ä bí realmente xi consolador. ….Dar 'nehe 'nar Honto muslimah ar 26 ya je̲ya, divorsed ne honi 'ñehe ma 'ño'be adecuada. Hingi pude tingigi mbo ninguno asta nu'bya ndezu̲ 3 ya je̲ya. Inshallah.. Ngut'ä ga hoki ….
Hogem'bu̲ gar mengu?
Ote xki beni, definitivamente Allah pe̲ts'i 'nar plan pa nu'i.
Da Allah alivie ir hñäki ne ma̲xu̲'i tini ar mäs xi hño 'ñowi tsa̲ nä'ä 'nar 'ñowi pa nu'i jar nuna nzaki ar más ehe'bu̲..
Xi di jamädi
Nthe̲ nuna poema altamente ofensivo. Di pädi ar xingu ya jujwe̲ nzokwä piadosas ne da casaron ar bätsitho ar 18-25 ne hingi gi 'bu̲hu̲ ar PODRIDOS. Ne ga increíbles maridos xi nsu piadosos. Nuga̲ xkagentho Dar 'na ya nju afortunadas.
Mäs ya 'nandi nä'ä hingi, Ar nju yá idä ar xki quisquilloso ne exigente wa pone ar Nt'uti ne 'be̲fi 'be̲tho completar japi ár deen. Nja'bu da hingi hagas acusaciones ne declaraciones ne poemas ne mi casan ts'u̲nt'u̲ ya jo'xi podridas.. Inactual fact they get picked first and the ones left are rotten.
@Maysoon! And you have just showed your arrogance by saying that the ones who are left are the rotten ones infact and calling your self “lucky” as if all other who are not married are unlucky people and needs pity?. Your commentvis full of arrogance! SubhanAllah! Either you are so full of yourself or extremely immature!. Allah has different plans for everyone, some get married early and some get married and some don’t! Its All from Allah’s decree and will and in the end Marriage is not some Life Achievement award, what people like your mindsets makes it, as if its the only purpose in LiFe! Which is not True!.
I, too, am a single Muslimah, age 25. I’ve never had a boyfriend and I feel lonely all the time. Ne'i gu̲ts'i 'nar mengu, pe supongo da aún mi Hingar ma t'olo ora. Xa di tu ma mu̲i ne ya Honto ne, pa da honesto, Hindar exactamente ar muslimah xí religioso. Hingi uso jar hijab ne hingi rezo ngut'ä tso̲kwa menudo ngu debería. Pe ndehmä ge jange da Allah hingi xi cumplido ma hne.. Xi ga̲tho ja yá 'ye̲. Xa mpädi ar mpa̲ti ma formas, ne di to̲'mi 'bu̲i unido ko ar 'ño̲ho̲ adecuado.
Xi di jamädi.
thogi hño xkagentho fase ne realmente ga sentí xi hño 'mefa xta lei 'me̲hna ne respuesta mencionada ma 'met'o mi.
Leí demasiadas gi nthädi académicas ne ya xkagentho xka una y otra xähmä. – uni ar mfats'i jar hnini. Kadu 'nandi nä'ä bí pido tsihi nä'ä di presente tsihi, Recibo ar respuesta nä'ä Dar xki bätsitho pa ár ntsoni 'me̲hñä. Xta querido ga casar ya 2 Pa 3 ya je̲ya ne ni di ayuda. Xta probado sitios matrimoniales – 6 nu'u̲ pa da precisos – ne acaban ar da heridos. Hindi tsa̲ ga creer ar lío ja 'bu̲i ya musulmanes jar nuna t'olo ora.. Cuanto mäs k'axt'i, cuanto mäs di casar di ne mäs publico gi publicaciones ne hingi recibo ayuda. Hindi di pödi majöni ar nä'ä debo gi 'yo̲t'e.
Da Allah ma̲xu̲'i jwädä….. Ameen Sum Ameen
Gi nt'eme ma jwädä pa nä'ä da ne da pa tingigi mbo gi pe hingi pasará wa. Mbi creas, nä'ä makwäni da. Da Allah 'yot'e xähmä ge'e ne arregle ir nt'ot'e, Amin.
Faisal, ¿Tengu ya je̲ya gí 'ñehe idä n Tange ir 'rini étnico??
Assalamualikum wrb ga̲tho ma ida̲ ne ya nju.
Dar 'nar nxutsi 'nar musulmana 24 Ya je̲ya, ne acabo ar wadi ma nsadi. Asta da estuve estudiando ni 'nar pa xta pensado 'me̲hñä ne ga̲tho. Pe ma tada nzäm'bu̲ bi 'mu̲i preocupados.. 'Me̲fa mbi wadi ya nsadi…Empecé preocupar ga 'nehe. Ngu Tengu ya pa llevará tingigi mbo jar socio adecuado, etc.. Pos hä 'nar pa conseguí 'nar propsal.. ga̲tho — Ñenängo 'bu̲i xi hño, pe ar ngäts'i ar reuslt Istikhara ma negativo. 'Me̲hna di 'yo̲t'e doler xingu…ne sentí kasu̲ komongu hingi hubiera esperanza nu'bya. Nu'bu̲ mi xki mpe̲fi ko ar estudio nu'u̲ pa dedicar 'naxtu̲i ar pa da profundizar ma conocimientos islámicos.. Pero después ja da di lastimaron.. ma mu̲i encuentra ntsa̲ya̲ ja ar rememrence Allah. Kadu̲ 'nar pa oraba da Alá. ko 'nar mu̲i sincero, ya 'nandi mi lágrimas, ya 'nandi sonreía. Ne nixi siquiera 2 bí thogi ya zänä recibí ma propuesta. Ne Inshallah ar casará ngut'ä! Realmente creía jar Allah, ne realmente he ga̲tho ma confianza jar Allah. Ma sensación mar ngu…whaterevr sucede…Nu'bu̲ Allah 'bu̲i ko ngeki, tsa̲ ga enfrentar nä'ä ga̲tho. Ne gi hyandi nu'bya.. Allah 'yo̲de ma oraciones ne ga bendijo ko 'nar cónyuge xi na nza̲tho. Nja'bu da nga̲tho nä'ä tsa̲ gi ñö ra ga japi ár confianza Allah…bí 'ya̲ni ar mfats'i jar Allah…ne nä'ä gi nuhmä ge nu'i xkagentho Inshallah.
Walaikum komongu salaam wrb
Mash ALLAH <3 Di alegró xingu 'mu̲ise̲ da encontraste 'nar cónyuge xi hño. Di to̲'mi gi pe̲ts'i 'nar nzaki xi Nar dätä hño ya delante …. ameen sum ameen… tsa̲ gi mbeni ga ja ir oraciones..
SUBHANAALLAH….. Oré a Allah 6 ya je̲ya ja ma nzaki pa to da ho xingu…….pe ar ngäts'i …. hingi je̲ya'bya hechos 'na pa ma'na…. Ho̲ntho ar depresión ar 2 meses ne recibes 'nar respuesta ALLAH….. SUBHANAALLAH…. pe gi mbeni gi 'bu̲i xingu da oran pe hingi respnse ya je̲ya….. ya hingi ya iguales pa nga̲tho……..
Te̲ni orando.. insyaAllah Allah ga concederá ar ar njohya. Pe xähmä hingi nu'bya.. pe 'nar pa…Pädi Temu̲ bi doloroso ga pädi Temu̲ ir ne do ya jä'i hingi gi 'bu̲hu̲ hechos 'na pa ma'na, ho̲ntho mi ponen ir confianza jar Alá. Hä, ir 'bede mahä'mu̲ ar Nt'uti ko 'na ma mpädi mäs xi amigas. Ho 'na ne bí 'yo̲t'e istikharah. 'me̲fa t'uni 'nar respuesta Allah ke ar jä'i hingi ar adecuada pa nä'ä.. pe gi mbeni da Allah ga ama. ma mpädi pe̲ts'i nu'bya xí felizmente nthäti ko to da xingu dá ama. Alhamdulillah.. Di to̲'mi da encuentres tsihi ngut'ä.. insyaAllah.. Amin
ya xka desperdiciado 7 na nza̲tho ar je̲ya juventud, nju, da Allah ma̲xu̲'i, nja'bu̲ ts'o ne gi ma ma casar masha Allah
ne ir tada merecen da azotados, for they didnt even try to tell you and try to get you married when u turned 17.
Oh wow! Lashing someones parents?. Is this some new Rule or very much liked act of Islam?
Assalaam Alaikum
Whatever Happen happens for a reason just put your trust in Allah only we dont know what is best for us but He knows everything has its own time He knows what is suitable time for us but the main thing is that not losing hope from Allah at any cost Inshaa Allah Allah reward us for patience
Di 33 and still not married, but i never lose hope in Allah
don’t despair too much about your age and still unable to find a spouse
Allah is the best Planner
He knows when is the best time, just put trust in Him
maybe you are destined to get a spouse in the hereafter, only Allah knows
being unmarried does not mean that you can’t be a good muslimah
after Allah marriage is only means, not the end
our ends as muslims is to attain Allah’s pleasure
focus on that, there are so many wonderful tracks towards it
may Allah bless us all
Salaam all, please dont despair, esp. the sisters i know how u all feel. we are 3 Ya nju, all a year apart, single parent mum (brought us up alone from toddlers as dad left) she did a fab job! love her too bits.
my sisters and i, did it all the proper way, we studied hard, stayed modest, avoided pre-marital relationships and friendships with boys, learnt abt islam, wore hijab/prayed, got very good professional jobs, own cars, nice holidays, strong sisterhood relationship, no debt….but no marriage.
ppl thot my mum shud be grateful for anyone to take on her daughters, Nu'bu̲ mi 20 ya je̲ya pe̲ts'i, ya nthäti, varios ya bätsi, divorciado, ar 'nar back — home’ buscadores ar pasaportes rojos, etc., hingi importaban, pe ma nänä mä da ma t'ixu hingi ya moneda cambio nixi ge 'nar carga. Pero aún mi nja'bu̲ ma nänä (ne estábamos 'naxtu̲i deprimidos) Yogo'ä hingi zo̲ni te ar propuestas…Ho̲ntho inmigrantes ilegales, etc., nu'bu̲ ma ku dätä jar Nunu̲ t'olo ora envejeció, 29 acordó 'nar 'me̲hñä ko 'nar bätsi 'back — home'’ ya ke mi esperado tanto ya pa, wat'i, bí beni jar Nunu̲ komongu ár baga efectivo., Dá ridiculizó jar privado, ar burló ma nänä ja ma 'ra ne 'nehe nu'bu̲ ar bí 'ya̲di da hablara ko ma murubi dige ar asesoramiento prematrimonial.…. insultó pobre imán! nja'bu da ma ku bí mat'i ja ar walima 'nar su̲mänä b4. 'me̲fa, ma nänä ar molestó xingu, ne deprimido, ma jujwe̲ dätä bí da̲gi jar ar desesperación…Pero Alhamdullilah mbo 'nar je̲ya ma ku me̲ti ja 28 ar casó, ne Nugu̲ga̲ jar 29 ar casó 6 ya zänä 'me̲fa Nunu̲. ne ambos nu'bya dí pe̲ts'u̲hu̲ ar le̲le̲! ma nju ar dätä ar nu'bya 32 ne xi conocido ja 'nar jwädä encantador ke ar 're̲t'a ma ku̲t'a ya je̲ya bätsitho da Nunu̲, xí na nza̲tho idä revertido ne InshaAllah esperamos ke ya funcionen. Xa xi presentado jar nga̲tho ya meni, ne xí na nza̲tho. ma jujwe̲ zu'we ne Nugu̲ga̲ conocimos ja ma ndo̲ a través de sitios matrimoniales musulmanes, zi xingu ya pa (ya je̲ya)! pe ni esp xí supuesta hnini haría otho ya Nugu̲je, nja'bu da nä'ä hicimos nugu̲ju̲ xkagentho.. conocimos da xingu ya jä'i extrañas 'bu̲ 'be̲tho ga pädi HMUNTS'UJE da nthäti 'me̲fa.….ne nu'bu̲ sucedió, sucedió ngutha, ya da Allah bí 'yo̲t'e hei.. (Hä, istikhara ge 'nar oración xi mahyoni, Gi 'yo̲t'e nga̲tho ya pa!) ár jwädä conoció ma ku 31 ar je̲ya bí a través de 'nar casamentero xi hño ar tsa̲. InshaAllah hingi pierdes ar esperanza, do dua, pe nä'ä da real, ppl hingi nzäm'bu̲ ba da xekwi ir goxthi…ya 'nandi mahyoni da zu̲nt'i ya suyos. Tobe dí pe̲ts'i mpädi 28-38 ne ya solteros, pe rezo pa allah swt mi 'bui ya 'nar cónyuge. mi primo se casó 1ª vez en 41 ne tuvo 'nar le̲le̲ 'nar je̲ya 'me̲fa! pe 'yo̲t'e. mantén ar esperanza. nt'eme Allah ne sabr queridos ya ida̲ ne ya nju. Ma 'nar Salamaa
p.s ár 'nar requisito’ ar Nthuts'i disminuirá, Allah ga pädi hño, HMUNTS'UJE maridos incl. Tsa̲ ida̲ ja ar ley ya súper trabajadores, hingi educados jar dätä nguu ya nsa̲di, ar 'ño̲ho̲ decentes, pls hingi buscan bros da ho̲ntho o̲t'e 'be̲fi profesionales, ar Nt'uti uni, mengu hingi divorciados, etc., 'nehe hä ár Nt'uti mäs religiosa da nu'u̲, dar tsa̲ gi ma̲xkigi ga uti mi ne nu'u̲ gi enseñarán ya nä'ä hingi pädi. Pungagi bi nde ar 'bede masiva. Ho̲ntho mi ne nda uni mi ga̲tho esperanza!
Jazakhallahukhair pa xi maki 'bede…seguro ne bí xta esperanza ma 'na!
'Nar 'bede ngut'ä hermosa. Allah pe̲ts'i 'na'ño ya nt'ot'e da Nugu̲je. Confía jar Allah Ten paciencia.
Ir 'bede mahä'mu̲ di tranquiliza ma'bu̲ ar nä'ä hingi tsa̲ mi. Xi di jamädi. Di 28 ne ar acercando 29 ngut'ä. Alhamdulillah di johya ma Nt'uti ne carrera xi hño ar tsa̲ asta nu'bya, ga̲tho jamädi Allah, T'uni nt'ot'e 'ña'ño ja ya estudiar xingu. Desgraciadamente, Di xi mentido 2 ar 'ño̲ho̲ nthäti. Ar ndu̲i hingi di afectó tanto komongu ar mfe̲tsi tsiga̲. 23 jar Nunu̲ t'olo ora ne sentí ke Tobe mar bätsitho. 'Nehe, mi ngut'ä metido ja ma estudio maestría, nja'bu da rápidamente xta nangi ne ga concentré ja ya nsadi.. Ar mfe̲tsi bí mäs ar hñei ngetho hingi tsa̲ ga creer da ntsuni sucediendo ar nuevo ngetho nuna japi dá na cuidadoso ya da xta tenido ar mfeni nä'ä di mintieron nu'bu̲.. I didn’t date as I was trying to avoid haram relationship but got to know each other via email and texting. As soon as I finished study, I’ve met his mother and he met my family, things looked so well, until my mother found out that he’s married. I have no idea what to feel having this the second time that I thought it might be that this is what’s planned for me and I’m ready to be a second wife especially that first wife agreed. Plus I’m a very independent woman with stable career. But things didn’t turn out good as my family rejected him and the wife. The wife got angry with my family and things turned out bad.
It’s been 3 years of me praying and praying and crying asking for Allah’s help in whatever He decides for me. But alhamdulillah along these 3 years I’ve achieved so many things that I’ve always wanted to achieve. I am very happily spending part time for a charity cause that I know I’d be too busy to do if I’m married. Alhamdulillah the organisation has achieved a lot. But of course it hurts to think that I still can’t find a spouse. I’m happy during most days but only Allah knows my tears in each of my prayer. I’ve given all my reliance to Him alone and tried to be a better muslimah each day and not to hold grudge. Some people here said they waited for months, I waited 3 years and still counting. And only Allah knows how I’m putting my trust for His help.
Sorry for the long post.
Salaam to all brothers and sisters. Alhamdulilah…as i wrote before…i am so thankfull Allah for blessing me with a wonderfull spouse. I will pray for all my muslim brothers and sisters for this great blessing. Inshallah, you all wil find your pious spouses…just have patience and trust in Allah…and u will experince it yourself. I know it is hard sometimes..because some brothers and sisters are praying for years…but still Allah looks at the heart…and if ur heart is pure, and u put ur trust upon Allah..then Allah will hear ur prayers Inshallah. Allah is the greatest and there is nothing Allah cant do…so have patience..Allah will open ways for u. 'Bu̲ ár 'mui to da nga̲tho nä'ä dar tsa̲ da informar alguien.,.. jar hnini.. mosqs.. etc., 'me̲fa he̲gi resto jar Alá..
Olvidé mencionar 1 xka…Gi pe̲ts'i da orar hyaxtho.. 'me̲fa kadu̲ 'nar namaaz. Da bí ma Allah 'nar cónyuge piadoso. Ne ya bes, nu'bu̲ gí ho sombody, hingi bí reces da Alá. desear da Allah pa uni gi cierta ya jä'i. Pe xkagentho da bí ma Allah da ma̲x'i ko 'nar cónyuge., ma nä'ä Allah bí 'yo̲t'e pa nu'i, ne da bí ma Allah ke ga bendiga ko 'nar xí na nza̲tho cónyuge piadoso. Gi pe̲ts'i da bí ma Allah ndezu̲ ts'o̲e ir mu̲i, Gi sentir ar komongu Allah gi xki escuchando ne Allah ga bendecirá ko nä'ä di 'bui. Inshallah gi nuhmä ge. Ne 'bu̲i 'nar hogu̲ma̲ waeefah.. nä'ä hice…ne realmente ayudó:
'mefa xta Ishah namaaz, orar 500 ya 'nandi Ya Aleemo Ya lateefo (Ntxago.. nä'ä 'me̲hna contará komongu 1)..ne nu'bu̲ ne 'mefa xta nuna ar recitación wazeefa 3 ya 'nandi 'na durood ('nehe to da hingi maa). Gi hyoki 'me̲hna 'mefa xta Isha namaaz…ne da 'ño nä'ä nzäm'bu̲…Inshallah ga̲tho nu'u̲hu̲ verán poder nuna.
Walaikum komongu Salaam WRB
Di divorciado, Dí 'ñehe 'nar bätsi ne xta 'ma̲i mí honi 'nar parodia ndezu̲ nu'bu̲. 7 ya je̲ya, Pero wothout resultados. otho ar esperanza nza̲bi ar soledad. 'bu̲ nxui di morir ar soledad, Traté yá mu̲i di, orar Allah, Pero perdiendo ar esperanza 'nehe nu'bya hindi pädi Temu̲ gi pa tingigi mbo 'nar cónyuge.
AssalaamuAlaikum .
Pungagi bi nde distrub wa .
pe ¿ar tsa̲ ga pädi Temu̲ ar ximha̲i gar mengu? …
Querida ya nju, da Allah ma̲xa'i ko ar ndo̲ mäs xí na nza̲tho nuna ar nzaki ne ar Nu'bu̲ Xtí inshallah. Nu'bu̲ comienzas perder jar esperanza ne comienzas 'ya̲nu̲gi gi hogem'bu̲ 'bu̲i Allah, recuerde ke ar xa̲mbate nzäm'bu̲ xi callado Nxoge 'nar ntsa̲ <3 Ma to ne oraciones gi 'bu̲hu̲ ko nu'i, querida nju. <3 <3
Salam, Di topé ko nuna ar página xudi 'me̲fa ga 'nar hogu̲ma̲ mi zoni. Xta conocido tsihi n xi empezado da ñä ar 'me̲hñä mbi zo̲ho̲, ya parecen da gng ar njut'i abajo. Am 'nehe 30 gng jar 31. Di desesperado nu'bu̲ da t'ot'e di. Ya 'nandi ar mäs hei perder ar esperanza, pe nä'ä ar peligroso. Queridos ma sistas, pumbu̲ni nä'ä difíciles da tsa da parecer ya, nzäm'bu̲ mahyoni tsibi ngäts'i nä'ä ar túnel. Allah gi 'yo̲ts'e, nzäm'bu̲ ne nu'bu̲ gi hu'bu̲ nä'ä ne continúes ayudando bí ma mengu. Nuestras oraciones ar tingigi mbo jar cónyuge adecuado xi da respondidas nu'bya wa mäs xti nde.. Nä'ä impto ar seguir biv wa tingigi mbo ja. Ja ar meanym, Gi hoki. Ma ya do nsa̲di ar hñuni da nzäm'bu̲ Ndí ne nga, Unir gi ja ya círculos ar Corán da meya abt ir pets'i da komongu 'be̲hñä ne nänä. Gi hyoki 'naxtu̲i, n he will be there bfr u knw it إن شاء الله .
Salaam sis. try to inform ur relatives or someone ur close with that ur looking for a partner to marry…use ur social network. (also in community, mosqs, or elders, meni, etcs.) Then also continue to pray to Allah…and Allah will make a way out for u. If ur try this, Allah will help u and lead u towards ur destined partner. Inshallah 🙂
Remember when ur alone…Allah is alwayz with u..so dont feel sad and depressed..put ur trust in Allah and leave everything to Allah 😉
And wipe ur tears and remember to keep smiling..im sure u have a beautiful smile 🙂
Don’t despair…. Keep looking, keep praying. I found my soulmate at age 36. Y 3 years on I still thank Allah everyday for giving me such a wonderful husband. It was worth the wait.
My question has to do with praying to allah for a need. I know it is called satatul hajah. How many times does a person have to pray it and when should it be prayed. Is it right to pray it at the times when duaas are most likely to be answered
Praise be to Allaah.
It is prescribed for the Muslim to worship Allaah in the ways that He has prescribed in His Book, and in the ways that have been proven from the Prophet (ne ar 'mui xi hño ne ya bendiciones Allah 'bu̲hu̲ ko nä'ä.). The principle concerning matters of worship is tawqeef [Ar mä,, following what is in the Qur’aan and saheeh Sunnah; with no room for individual opinion]. And we cannot say that any act of worship is prescribed unless there is saheeh evidence.
The so-called Salaat al-Haajah was narrated in da’eef (weak) or munkar (denounced) ahaadeeth – as far as we know – which cannot be used as proof and which are not fit to base acts of worship on.
Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah, 8/162
The hadeeth narrated concerning Salaat al-Haajah says:
“From ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Abi Awfa al-Aslami, who said: El Mensajero de Allah (ne ar 'mui xi hño ne ya bendiciones Allah 'bu̲hu̲ ko nä'ä.) came out to us and said: ‘Whoever has need of something from Allaah or any one of His creation, let him do wudoo’ and pray two rak’ahs, then let him say, “There is no god but Allaah, the Forbearing, the Most Generous. Glory be to Allaah, Lord of the mighty Throne. Praise be to Allaah the Lord of the Worlds. O Allah, Gi pido ir ntheku̲te ne Pungagi bi ne gi pido ga̲tho ya 'bede te ne ar ntsuni ja ya nts'oku̲te.. Gi pido ke hingi pengi ningún pecado hinda gi puni nä'ä, wa 'na angustia hinda dá aliviar, o 'na 'medi da ne gi agrade satisfacer hinda satisfacer dá 'bu̲ ngeki". Entonces ne bí pida bí Allah ho nuna ar ximha̲i wa ar Más ehe'bu̲ da desee., getho ar da zu̲di".
(Narrado ya Ibn Maajah, Iqaamat al — Salaah wa 'nar l — Sunnah, 1374)
Al — Tirmdihi bí mä: nuna gehna 'nar ghareeb [be'ñi] hadiz, ne ir nge ár isnaad bí xifi: Faa 'nar id ibn 'nar Abd al — Rahmaan ar débil jar hadiz.
Al — Albaani bí mä: mäs xi hño ar xta 'nar íf jiddan (Di débil). Al — Haakim bí mä: mawdoo 'nar (Fabricado) ya hadices ma narrados ar Abu Awfa.
Mishkaat al — Masaabeeh, Vol. 1, p. 417
The author of al-Sunan wa’l-Mubtada’aat said, after mentioning what al-Tirmidhi said concerning Faa’id ibn ‘Abd al-Rahmaan: Ahmad said he is matrook (left, Ar mä,, his hadeeth is not to be accepted), and Ibn al-‘Arabi described him as da’eef (weak).
And he said: You know what is said concerning this hadeeth. It is better and more perfect and safer for you to make du’aa’ to Allaah in the depths of the night and between the adhaan and iqaamah and at the end of every prayer before the tasleem; and on Fridays, for then there are times when du’aa’ is answered; and when breaking one’s fast. For your Lord says (interpretation of the meanings):
‘Invoke Me [Ar mä,. believe in My Oneness (Islamic Monotheism) and ask Me for anything] I will respond to your (invocation)'[Fussilat 40:60]
‘And when My slaves ask you (O Muhammad) concerniente da Ngekagi, Gem'bu̲ (answer them), I am indeed near (to them by My Knowledge). I respond to the invocations of the supplicant when he calls on Me (without any mediator or intercessor)'[al-Baqarah 2:186]
‘And (all) the Most Beautiful Names belong to Allaah, so call on Him by them’[al-A’raaf 7:180].” al-Sunan wa’l-Mubtada’aat by al-Shuqayri, p. 124
Islam Q&'Nar
Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid
i’m lil upset tht still i haven’t found my expected person to get , i’m really determinded to marry a good person… plz everyone pray for me as ALLAH swt helps me find a good girl as my wife as well as my best friend….
Um…i just want to remind you that Allah knows best, y pe yokwi gi 'naxtu̲i pa nu'i, pe hingi ar za̲ nu'bya ne da za̲ mäs ya'bu̲.. Leí ma 'ra ya pa 'nar hermosa 'bede nä'ä mi contaré nu'bya, pa chear you up: 2 ya mendigos bí zo̲ni ja 'nar ngú ne pidieron comida. ma 'na bí t'uni 'nar barra xí 'nar thuhme ne dí enviaron na ya'bu̲.. ma'na bí kep jár goxthi Nxoge xingu ya pa, ¿nja'bu da comenzó 'ya̲nu̲gi ar 'nar te ga thogi ke hingi di den algo 'nehe?, Mente ma idä reeiveba 'naxtu̲i?’ Ar sentía tu ma mu̲i, pe hingi ndi pädi da mbo jar ngú bí mi horneando 'nar 'nar thuhme xki horneado..
Nja'bu da ya nú, Nja'bu da ya nú, don’t give up faith, on the contrary, know that patience and faith will bring you the best of gifts 🙂 Now smile, please, and don’t feel sad or dissapoited. May Alles bless you and your family.
Salams
Hang in there I know how u all feel I’m 21 wanted to get married for a few years now Alhumdulilah my parents have accepted im ready I’m struggling as girls tend to want to get married when they are older and as soon as they see my age presume in too young when mentally in much older :L
this ummah needs a major cleanup. jeya.
too much scum.
especially the generation whose parents served the white man, i.e colonial imperialists. meaning, “our parents generation”
also, coconut chocolate muslims, who seek izzah from kuffaar, by speaking what pleases the kuffaar.
worshippers of the whitehouse (the saudis), who are helping kuffaar wage war on muslims and people like them elsewhere.
in Quran Allaah swt said, which means, if you “ally” yourself with kuffaar, Di conviertes jar 'na dige'u̲.
Hä, ga̲tho ya modos, nga̲tho ar escoria eventualmente ar extinguirá, ne mahdi xí cerca de insha Allah, Nu'bu̲ ar escoria ar xi ma, Ar emirato ar islámico bí asegurará ar ne ni 'na jar nju quede soltera jar Allah
pumbu̲ni nä'ä hagas , wa misas musulmanas, pumbu̲ni nä'ä pienses, ar escoria xí ummah Hingar apta pa dirigir ar ummah.
Di realmente conmovido nu'bu̲ da zeti 'be̲fi gud up
Ma idä., Ho̲ntho tsi latas ko calma ko ir Nuga̲ n orar, av experimenté nuna xka ja ma nzaki n Allah ga compensó ko 'na jar nä'ä enseñé, ar 'ño̲ho̲ ar enviado ya Allah, Ho̲nse̲ di to̲'mi da Allah ga̲tho jar ntsuni xi hño
Hingi ge'ä mahyoni. Ya tada pe̲ts'i pets'i da da xahni, pe ar pa 'nar 'be̲hñä nthätu̲wi nu'bu̲ ar mfädi pa Nunu̲. Gi hyandi ne gi lei 'ra ya hadices dige ar tema.
oops. Confiaba abdillah
Abdillah, realmente 'bu̲i algo mal ko ir mentalidad. Adam, Comparto ir 'ñu̲ – xkagentho ar pa Ngekagi – Gogeku̲gi 24 Xtí ar zänä ne xi tenido xkagentho ar mfeni. Japi ma Deen – http://www.halfourdeen.com nja komongu ya ma'ra sitios matrimoniales musulmanes – Hindi funcionan – jeya. Xta utilizado Nunu̲ sitio web ne 5 ma 'ra ne Tobe hingi pe̲ts'i yá ma ni.
faisal di nuwa pa nu'i insha Allah, Hogem'bu̲ gar mengu?
Mimi – Di 'bu̲i di Inglaterra. Hogem'bu̲ gar mengu?
Idä Mohammad – Honja 'na ja ya 6 sitios da xta utilizado – Hindi funciona. Ya 'be̲hñä Honto ne bojä – Ge'ä ga̲tho.
Gogeku̲gi 21 ya je̲ya jar usa. Di honi di casar, pe xí xki hñei tingigi mbo tsihi. Ga̲tho gi 'bu̲hu̲ pa ndi bädi tingigi mbo tsihi hño pa da hingi hagan 'nar seguimiento 'mefa xta pe̲hni 'nai..
ar na estresante ya 'nandi. Pero inshaAllah ga̲tho caerá da su lugar. T'ot'e paciencia, nja'bu ngu oración.
Di 23 years old and went through a bad break up…..I had signed my marriage license to a second cousin from back home……thought he was the one and all he wanted was the citizenship……He left me because I didn’t have the financial means to bring him even though we discussed things before we signed the marriage license and I was supposed to go to the Arab country he works in……My father wants me to marry someone from back home and I just can’t do the long distance relationship again and I don’t trust any guy from over there because I think they all want my citizenship…….I wanna meet a guy from here just so I don’t have to deal with the thought of him just wanting to use me and because I can’t deal with the distance……
I’m very open minded and don’t care where the guy is from I just care about his deen and kholoq and I don’t care about the money because money comes and goes…….the problem is my father won’t even consider if the guy is not from the same country which makes me very upset……make duaa for me please
Asalaam Alaykum. please, make Dua and move very close to Al-Sunnah sisters and read the books of Al-Sunnah Schoolars to help you strengthing your faith. Gem'bu̲, about your parents, try and talk to them in gentle manner. Let them understand why Islam permit inter tribal marriage. Show to them proves from the Quran and Sunnah. please, be patient in all your approach, though not easy but try. May ALLAAH make your affairs easy. Amin. Asalaam Alaykum.
.I am as well a single Muslim of 29 ya je̲ya, divorced and searching for suitable partner. Couldn’t find any so far since 10 ya je̲ya. Inshallah ..I will soon ….
May alaah help all the muslims who want to get married and give them rightous spouses just keep making duas alaah surely hears and will defenately answer your call.
May ALLAAH make our affairs easy and forgive all the Muslims. Aameen. We Muslims should go back to the foundation of the DEEN. The salafs used to help themselves in all aspects of the DEEN. For instance, Abu Bakr married Aisha to Prophet MUHAMMAD [VIÓ]. The prophet marries her daughter to Alli and so on. Today, we no longer help ourselves in getting married. Even some of our parents dont help matters. They believe woman cannot combined education with marriage, Some dont want their daughters to marry another man from another tribes, Some dont believe in polygamy marriage and so on. Why? Because they lack the foundation of the DEEN and the understanding of the DEEN. Islam gives solutions to all human problems. I advised those who are concerned to make Dua to ALLAAH, be sincere in there Worship and make their affairs none to the trustworthy imaams in there community. And ALLAAH knows best.
I came across this page when I was “pure matrimonies” fb page and its pretty disappointing to see how many ppl are looking to get married, but this has become so hard these days.
Gogeku̲gi 27 yrs old, divorciado, and have been trying to meet someone for the past 10 yrs. Its hard and yes its harder to see other ppl around u who are married or have gotten to it easily. A lot of times ppl look down upon divorced grls especially if there from South east asian background. And nowadays, I feel like a person is not looked at for there character, personality, or heart, its more like so whats ur social status? marital status? how rich u r? and etc… Islam simplifies things unfortunately its us muslims from this day and age that have complicated things.
Theres days I feel hopeless, and I dont like wen ppl ask me wen I will get married cuz honestly sumtimes I feel like its becme impossible especially knowing that Im divorced and come from a middle class family :-/
So yes, here I am in the same boat as many of u and still waiting and wandering who Allah has for me. I do have faith but theres times wen I wish I was never nikaahed before so I wudnt have to be looked down upon, and maybe someone wud actually marry a grl who was “single.”
May Allah make things easy for all of us and grant our wishes Ameen.
Querida ya nju,
I feel compelled to reply to your post, as if you feel that way with you being a divorcee aged 27, well, I am also a divorcee of south east asian origin,
Gogeku̲gi 34 and additionally, have a 6 year old child, basically I am a single mother.
Nja'bu da, I hope by telling you this, you don’t feel so bad about yourself,
If you look at it that way, then your position is better off than me.
I admit there are times when I feel saddened and kinda doubtful about my future of having a husband again, a complete family again..
I feel lonely whether when I am by myself or even when my daughter is with me. When I bring my daughter to playground or malls where there are other parents and their children, I feel like I am the ‘odd one out’. Other moms with their kids, AND with their husbands too. Me? Pozo, anywhere I go it’s just me and my daughter.. Honestly, seeing the women in tow with their children And husband, made me feel weird about myself.
Maybe Slightly depressed too.haha
Nja'bu da, overall, nju, don’t feel too bad.. there are sisters out there who are in ‘worse situation’ than you.. like myself for example. 🙂
P/s: I’m in pretty cheerful mood, so excuse my ‘smiley’ at the end of my long narration.. 🙂
Salam, im diep in sorrow, im second time divorce have 3 Ya bätsi, can you give me a dua to find a good spouse,
Very sad to read this messages.. I know it’s very hard. I have met like 3 brothers, but it didn’t work out. And yes, I see people too around me getting married and pregnant and there you have me.. Still single.. I have hope and trust in Allah, but at times I find it very hard too. I pray that Allah grants everyone who wants to marry so badly, to grant them a husband/wife they want and ofcourse someone who is pious. Tsa̲ gi mbeni, nothing is impossible for Allah.
mansha allah may allah grant us best wishes i.a
I too am in exact same situation. And I completely know how this person is feeling. I pray Allah makes it easy for us all who are finding it soo difficult in seeking marriage. But keep faith for Allah rewards those who bear with patience. You duas will be answered soon In Shaa Allah
I too is in this same position, when ever i thought i finally meet the one whom i will be destine to be with, in the end i feel disappointment because it didnt work out. i’ve been in two relationships both relationships didnt end well because it just didnt work out. even though the two relationships lasted about 3 years each.
i’am so tired of being alone, iam so tired of looking for her(my better half) the one whom i will spend my life with. Theres this emptiness I feel the hole in my heart. i asked Allah swt in my prayers pls let me finally be with the one whom iam going to be with the rest of my life with, but everytime i come out empty.
Sometimes i console my self iam destine to be alone, is this what Allah has written for me.
Hä, loneliness brings about the feeling of some sort of emptiness like a hole in our heart..
And prolonged loneliness makes us try to console ourselves by telling ourselves, probably we are not meant to be with anyone in this lifetime..
Because keeping hope and waiting needs strength.. Strength to bear patience. And patience is endurance to bear pain..
Im also want to find a husband to marry. Im 27yrs old now and still not married and its worried me. My family and friends all coconuts thats why i cant trust them to seek husband for me. Im from south east too. Im not working rightnow and dont have any money. I stay at home rightnow because i was ex aseer.. My mother dont like me at home. I want to find job but all job not sharia compliance. I really want a husband that have right aqeeda and same manhaj with me. Im not good at english but inshaAllah i can understand well.