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We often hear of problems that occur between women and their mothers in-law. There are many factors that contribute to the bitter relationship that some women have with their mothers in-law; some of which, are:
Lack of respect: Respect for others is a fine quality to possess; it is never that it is practiced between people except that love and harmony will engulf them. Islaam has commanded the young to show respect towards their elders, and thus, respecting one’s mother in-law is a must. This is due to the fact that not only is she an elder, but also because she was the reason for the daughter in-law’s husband being present in this world, as it was her who delivered him.
Mwanasikana mukarahwa anofanira kuziva kuti anozopedzisira ava amai, uye kana zviri zvemwanakomana, Ipapo achazoroora, Uye iye achava mai-awangavharira kuremekedzwa kubva kumuroora wake. 'AMR IBN Shuaay yakarondedzera pachiremera chababa vake kuti mutumwa waAllah (rugare ngaruve pamusoro pake) akadaro, “Haazi mumwe wedu asingadi tsitsi kuna (edu) vadiki, Uye haabvumire rukudzo nekuda kwevakuru vedu.”
Kuratidza kuvengana: Kune imwe mhando yemwanasikana-mukwasha anobata naamai vake mukwasha, kubva pazuva rekutanga, sekunge iye ari muvengi wake akaipisisa. Izvi zvinogona kukonzerwa nenzira isiriyo umo mwanasikana wenyama akaunzwa, kana kune yambiro dzinodzokororwa kuti mai vake, Sosaiti uye vezvenhau vakamupa maererano naamai vake venguva yemberi vasati varoora.
Zvichibva pane izvi, Mukadzi wacho aizoedza zvese kuita kuti murume wake ivadze amai vake nehama nehama nehanzvadzi; anogona kutodza zviitiko zvisina kumbobvira zvaitika, kana kuwedzera kuwedzeredza mune izvo zvakaita; Anogona kazhinji kupomera amai vake nevanun'una vake kusvikira vabudirira kumumanikidza kuti asiyane imba yaamai vake ogara naye, ndega.
Hupenyu hwakadaro iine muchetura, uye iyo ine matambudziko mazhinji. Haarithah ibn wahb yakataurwa: "Ndanzwa mutumwa waAllaah achiti, "Handisi kukuzivisa iwe nezve vasungwa vegehena? Ivo vese vanoita zvechisimba, Asingaremekedzi uye anodada.”
Iye murume anodzoka achibva kubasa kuti awone mukadzi wake akaipa achichema, Saka anomubvunza chikonzero nei, Asi iye anongoenderera achichema, kuitira kuti achazowana zvakanakisa. Iye murume anoomerera pakuziva nei, Saka mukadzi anozoti mhinduro, mukusaremekedza toni, "Ndirangave ini kana amai vako mumba muno!” Iye murume anoda kuziva kuti dambudziko nderei, "Chii chaitika?” anobvunza, Asi anotanga kuchema zvakare; Iye murume anobvunza zvakare, "Ndokumbirawo munditsanangure kwandiri zvakaitika." Pakupedzisira, Mukadzi anoti, "Amai vako vakandishora, ipapo hanzvadzi dzako dzakaungana dzakandikomba, dzakandituka. Nekuda kwemurume ari kuitwa nhapwa kumukadzi wake, akatsamwa, uye pasina kana kunetsa kuziva kana chirevo chemukadzi wake chiri chokwadi, anoenda mudutu remhepo, uye kupopota kuna mai uye hanzvadzi dzake; anokanganwa chinzvimbo chaamai vake, and that Allaah parallels respect of her to Islaamic monotheism when He says (zvinorevei), “And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [apo] with you, say not to them [so much as]: ‘uff‘ [i.e., an expression of disapproval or irritation] and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word. And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, ‘My Lord! Have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small.'”
Mutumwa weAllah (rugare ngaruve pamusoro pake) akadaro, “The pleasure of Allaah is in pleasing one’s parents, and His wrath is in displeasing them.”
Severing ties: Some daughters in-law sever ties with their mothers in-law and never visit, or even have anything to do with them. Vanasikana vakadaro vanoparadza hukama hwavo nevana vavo mumitemo. Amai vemukana munhu, saka aida kuti mwanasikana wake-musana aimubata saamai; haadi kupiwa kupihwa mbichana inotonhora.
Mune zvimwe zviitiko zvisinei, Mwanasikana-mukwati haana zvakaipa, Asi angave asingazivi mamwe emamwe maEtiquet maitiro ekuita naamai vake mukwasha. Mwanasikana mukwasha anonyora zvisungo naamai vake mumutemo anoita kuti murume wake asiyane naamai vake uye akabatanidzwa naye; saizvozvo, Mukadzi akadaro anova chikonzero chekushamwaridzana kwake kuna amai vake.
Abu Hurairah (dai Allah vafadzwa naye) akataura kuti mutumwa weAllaah (rugare ngaruve pamusoro pake) akadaro,”Allaah akagadzira zvese (Yake) Zvisikwa, uye paakapedza basa rekusikwa kwake, Ar-rahm (i.e., tii nekinfolk) akadaro: `(OAllah)! Panzvimbo ino ndinotsvaga iwe utiziro newe kubva kusungwa kwangu kuri kutemwa.’ Allaah akapindura: `Iwe ungadai uchigutsikana here kuti ini ndinobata nemutsa avo vanokubata nemutsa, uye sever inosunga nevaya vanocherekedza mauto ako?’ Zvakati: Ini ndakaguta.’ Saka Allaah akadaro, `Ipapo ndezvako.’ Uku ndiko kutizivisa kuti Allaah akapa also ahwanda.: iro raiyevera kwaari uye rakapihwa; uye munhu anokurudzirwa naAllaah haazombosiyiwa.”4
Abu Hurayrah (Dai Allah achifara naye) akataura kuti Muporofita (rugare ngaruve pamusoro pake) akadaro, “Ngaanyadziswe! Ngaanyadziswe! Ngaanyadziswe! – Anotambura, imwe kana ese ari maviri, svika neyekare nguva mukati mehupenyu hwake, Asi iye haapinde Paradhiso (Nekuita ngirove kwavari).”
vanokurudzirwa kufuratira zvikanganiso zvomudzimai wavo pakuratidza mutsa iwoyo norudo, Izvo zvinokonzeresa hukama hwakaipa hunogona kunge uri pachikamu chamai-vatezvara, zvakaita se: Kuve nehasha nemuroora wemubatanidzwa: Vamwe Vanaamai vanamai vane hutsinye kuvanasikana vavo mumitemo, Uye kukurudzira vanakomana vavo kuti vatore vakadzi vavo zvakaipa. Abu Hurayrah akataura, "Ndonzwa Abu Al-Qasim (i.e., Muporofita) iti: “Iye anondirwadza ndiye ega ane moyo unonyimwa ngoni.”
Kuve jeloisu mumwanasikana mukwasha: Nei Vamwe Vanaamai vakaraira vanakomana vavo vachiri kuzvidza varoora vavo? Psychiatrists vanoti izvi zvinobva kune godo. Zviri muropa kuti vakadzi vave negodo, Asi zvakawedzerwa kune ino ndotaura kuti amai ava vanonzwa kuti mwanasikana uyu akagovana mwanakomana wake naye uye akabvisa kubva mukutonga kwake; naizvozvo, Makwikwi anomuka. Izvi zvinonyanya kuitika kana iye chete muridzi uye mutsigiri ndiye mwanakomana uyu, Nekuti basa rake raigona kunge riri raBaba mukutarisira zvinhu zveimba uye kuve mutiridzi amai vake, Saka amai vaizonzwa kuti apererwa nemwanakomana akakosha kumwanasikana wake.
Vamwe vanaamai vanova negodo vachiona vanakomana vavo vachifara uye vachinakidzwa nehupenyu nemadzimai avo; Kana mwanasikana wake aifanira kunyunyuta kwaari nezve chero dambudziko ringaitika nemwanakomana, aisazombomutsigira; asi, aigara nemwanakomana wake, Kunyangwe kana ari iye ari kukanganisa; uyezve, Aizonyadzisa mukadzi wake.
Dzimwe nguva, Mukadzi anogona kunge ari kuita zvese zvaanogona kuitira kuti afadze amai vemukana; anogona kutaura naye nemutsa, Mupe zvipo, uye mubate neruremekedzo, asi, Amai vemukana vaizogara vachiramba vachigadzira matambudziko, Sezvaanonzwa kuti angarasikirwa nemwanakomana wake.
Mune ino kesi imwe hanzvadzi yakarairwa kuti ive nemoyo murefu uye kubvunza Allah (ane mbiri, waMasimbaose) Kuderedza mamiriro ake. Anofanira kuve akachenjera uye aiponda uye kana zvichibvira vabvunza murume wake asina kuita zvakaipa mumoyo make kuna amai vake.
Source: Saleeha Bhamjee, http://idealmuslimah.com/family/in-laws/128-bad-relationship-with-the-mothers-in-law-
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Assalamu al aikom wa rahmatulah wa Barakatu,
Zvakadiniko kana vamwene vari iye anovhara zvisungo nemuroora?
Wow, Ndakaverenga izvi uye ndinotenda Allah wangu kuti andimbondikomborera naamai nevanin'ina nemutemo, Kunyangwe ndisina kusangana nevanun'una vangu vese mumirairo (hama dzemurume wangu’ vakadzi) Ndinotaura kune hanzvadzi yemurume wangu uye imwe hanzvadzi yemutemo (whom he lives with alone with his brother) on a regular basis and not only do I look at them as my own older sisters that I never had, but my very close friends as well, what I may not be able to speak to my husband about, I speak to them and ask them for advice on how to handle things with my husband because of course they know him much better and much longer than I. My mother in law is MashAllah also, from my current few but memorable encounters, a very kind lady and I thank my Allah for sending me not only a wonderful husband but also a wonderful family to go along with him. Reading this article just makes me realize all the more that even if at times I know in the future we may not always agree but as long as I keep my respect for them, Vachagara vachiita zvakanaka kwandiri sezvavari ikozvino 🙂
yakanaka
Inshallah one dau myinin emutemo anondida X X Dats zvese zvandinoda kubva kuLmly Cuz Mhezi,. DAT zuva mukushivirira munamato inshallah x
Ndatenda nekuda kwekunzwisisa kwechinyorwa chinodiwa chakawanda. Ndinoonga mazwi ako ehungwaru, zvisinei, Ini ndinoshamisika kuti nei kutarisisa kuri pamwanasikana mumirairo kuti uve nehukama hwakanaka nevana veamai vemurume, uye kwete zvinopesana? Ini ndinofunga basa rakawanda rinofanira kuitwa kuti ave nechokwadi chekuti hukama hwakanaka pakati pevarume nemitemo yavo. Kunyanya kusimbiswa kwakanyanya kuiswa kune vakadzi kuti vatumire kuroora, uye ini ndichitenda kuti izvo zvakakosha, Ini ndaizotenda kuverenga / kunzwa zvimwe kubva kuIslam zvinyorwa zvekuti varume vangave sei varume vari nani.
Ndatenda zvekare.
Ini ndinobvumirana newe coz yemhuri yemukadzi yemurume anofambidzana zvakanyanya
Amai vangu vari mumutemo havafambi naamai vangu, saka haandidi nekuda kweizvozvo. Im uye munhu mukuru uye ini ndichine ndinofanira kubvunza amai vangu mumutemo kana ndichigona kuenda kune dzimwe nzvimbo, Ini handisati ndambonzwa nezve zvinhu zvakadaro..makaroora mumuitiro mazhinji, dzimwe nguva ndinonzwa sekunge murume wangu ari shamwari yangu yakanaka. Chero nguva yandinoda kuita chimwe chinhu kana kuenda kumwe kunhu, anoti ndinofanira kubvunza amai vake uye ndizvo zvaanokumbira. Allah anoziva ndiani achange asisipo kubva pasi rino kutanga, asi kana shes aenda kumberi, Tichabvunza ndiani achabvunza?, Haafunge nezvazvo uye kuti achasiya nyika ino nevana vake vachange vari vega, asi iye akabatikana kwazvo nenyika ino uye haafunge nezveAkira……
Ko kana vamwene-mukarahwa vakaputsa imba yako?
Wow! Chinyorwa ichi chakasarudzika uye cheshuwa. Ruremekedzo nerudo runofanira kupihwa kubva kumativi ese maviri kuti uvake hukama uye bato rega rega rinofanira kunzwisisa kusarudzika kwehukama hwega hwega hukama. Isu tinodyara izvo zvatinowana uye zvatinoita zvichazotikonzera zvakananga kana zvisina kunangana. Rugare, Rudo uye ruremekedzo uye runonyanya kukosha maonero asiri ekusarura anodiwa kune ese hukama saka nei uyu achifanira kunge ari akasiyana.
ndinobvumirana newe…
Bismillah .lhamdulillah …..Mashaa Allah Chinyorwa chakanaka kwazvo uye yakanaka kwazvo kuedza…….ndinovimba kuti ……..Saka yekutanga nechinhu chepamberi chichifanira kuwona kuti mumwe munhu ari muMuslim Alhamdulillah anofanirwa kuita pajannah nomwe nomwe …Allah Subhana haazoti kubva US anondiudza wat mumwe munhu mumwe munhu uye akazvibata newe muDunya??? …Aihwa …Yechipiri Allah Subhana ndiyo yakanakisa mubairo kupa isu tinongo tarisa pane mubairo uyo Allah Subhana ane Chipikirwa Chekuita Kwemabasa edu akanaka…..Jannah …n iyi honye isingamone , izere nemiedzo , Izvo hazvigone b rizere rinofadza nyika isina kuchema …..iye ega Jannah iyo isingaperi …n chetatu isu tinokusha tarisiro chero chinhu kubva kune chero munhu …..May Allah Subhana Anotiramba Tichengete At Eright n Akarurama Nzira .ameen
Kana amai vangu vachipindirana mutept uye zvinhu zvese zvandinoita hazvikoshese neye.IF i dont her her his his his his his his his his his not not not not asi iye anogara achitaura nemwanakomana wake,ndizvo zvakanaka? Ini ndiri belive ari kurapa kunge wekunze.
zvakafanana zvakafanana zviri kuitika kwandiri n am anonzi akaipa mukomana
its not nguva dzose abt mwanasikana anokanganisa kuve akaipa amai vacho vanopa vanhu
ndinobvumirana….:) zvese zviri zviviri zvinofanirwa b co-operative …Baliqis i knw vakadzi vakadaro kuti r kuita izvi asi iwe uchingo tarisa n edza 2 Kupedzisa 4rm ur side..may allah kukuropafadza iwe…:)
Ini ndinobva munyika yeEurope. Ndakaona uye ndakava muslim nesarudzo yangu. Ini ndakasiya nyika yangu uye mhuri yangu kutevera murume wangu kure neni kubva kwandinotanga ini pakutanga. Kubva panguva yekutanga ndakasangana nemhuri yangu itsva mumutemo, vakandibata zvakaipa. Dai ndakanganisa nekuda kwemisiyano yedu mutsika uye ini ndaive mudiki kwazvo, Asi ini ndakanga ndisingambozvikuri. Kuziva kwangu kwechiIslam hakuna kunaka sezvakaita avo asi ini ndakazviita zvese zvangu, kuverenga kwangu. They discriminated me because i dint know as much as them. They still do even now after almost 11 years of me stay here. Even when i prayed, my mother in law would pas by me and tell me that my prayers were in vain because ALLAH wouldn’t accept them. I fasted, she will tell me the same, that it was useless that i was fasting because it would never be accepted.
My parents in law are religious. They pray 5 nguva pazuva, nekukurumidza, go to Haj etc.
When i was pregnant with my second child, me and my husband were in financial difficulty, i reached my mother in law, for an advice and mostly just a good word that it will be OK because i have no family or relatives of my own here. She told me to pray that my child will die and hope that such thing happens. Akandiudzawo zvekuita kuti ndibvise pachangu.
Achiri muMuslim akanaka, Nekuti nguva dzese dzaanondiudza kuti handisi amai vakanaka kana muslim akanaka, Ini ndinogara ndichirangarira zano rake kuuraya mwanakomana wangu uye zvese zvaakandiitira kwandiri?
Ini ndakatsamwa pamakore ese aya ekushushikana, uye ndinonamata kuna Allah kuti andibatsire kukunda kutsamwa kwangu asi kana achinge ataura zvinhu zvakadaro kwandiri, Ndinodzingwa zvakare.
Ndoita sei?
Vangataura sei saizvozvo? Minyengetero yako yese uye inokurumidza ichagamuchirwa kana iwe wakaverenga Kalima, tenda mazviri 1 Allah uye Muporofita Wake. Wakatendeuka chaipo? Ipapo ichave yakagamuchirwa mumaonero angu. Ivo havafanirwe kutaura saizvozvo kune ur mwana :/. Pamwe ivo vanokura newe seyakafanana nechinyorwa chakareva kana dont like u cos u yaive isiri-muMuslim b4. Asi hapana chekusafarira mune izvo.
Namata kuna Allah kwavari uyezve kutsvaga kuregererwa kana iwe waita chero chinhu chisina kunaka b4 kushandurwa uye inshallah allah achakuteerera iwe:) Mubvunze kuti ubatsirwe incase inonyanya kukanganwira zvakanyanya uye ane tsitsi. Ndichakunamatirawo iwe nedzimwe hanzvadzi dzese……
Chimwezve chinhu, wakachinja here mushure memuchato?
Mwoyo wayo uchiputsa kuverenga yako post, Sevashandure vechiMuslim vashandure ini ndinonzwisisa kuti zvinofanirwa sei kubatwa zvakashata nevamwe maMuslim vanonzwa zvakakwirira kwauri. Asi chinhu chikuru ndechekuti iwe paunodzidza iyo Quran uye Hadith iwe uchaona kuti ivo vakanganisa uye vari kukoka kutsamwa kwaAllah nezviito zvavo. Allah ndiye kutarisisa kwedu uye kunomufadza kunofanirwa kunge kuri zvese zvaune hanya nazvo. Kunyangwe amai vako mukarahwa zvave zvichireva uye zvisina kunaka kwauri, kuve wehurumende naye usachinjana kumutuka naye, kunyemwerera uye ufare kwazvo nguva uye zvichamuita kuti kushamisika kuti nei usinga zvione kuti unyengeri hwake. Asi vazhinji vevose vanonamatira rugare, luv uye ngoni pakati pako nemurume wako nekuti ndizvo zvichaitirwa imba yako. Dai Allah achirerutsa mutoro wedu .
Inofanira kunge iri makore akaoma kwazvo iwe wanga wanga wanga uchipfuura..Ndinzwire tsitsi iwe..
Ini ndinofunga unofanirwa kushanyira mhuri yako muEurope uye edza kugadzirisa hukama hwako pakati pako uye yako isiri yemhuri mhuri. Vachiri mhuri yako kunyangwe vasiri Muslim. Gara uchiyeuka zvinotaurwa nhume yaAllah (rugare ngaruve pamusoro pake) akadaro, "Kufadza kwaAllah kuri kufadza vabereki vako, uye kutsamwa kwake kuri kuvapa. " Edza kufadza vabereki vako pachako usati wafadza imwe (Vabereki vako - mumutemo) nekuti ndidzo chikonzero nei iwe uripo.
Zvakadiniko kana amai vacho vari kusika misress kurwinha B / W U ur wart normart n rong n vanofara kana ur humhutsi iwe. chii chare musikana akadaro
Izvi zvakanyatsojeka uye zvakajeka kunyorwa nemurume asina zano rekuti hupenyu hwehupenyu saamai kana deugthers inlaw. Pane nyaya dziri muchinyorwa chino icho chiri chirevo chisina kunaka chezvinoitika chaizvo.
ndinobvumirana, uko nei paine kutarisisa kwakanyanya pane hukama hwaamai vaya nemurume wake? Zvakadiniko nezvehukama hwemurume nemanyowa ake? Inotsvaga iyo tsika yakatora precendent pamusoro pechitendero.
Iwe wakanyora chokwadi chakawanda nlead hadith asi ini handifarire chinyorwa ichi.alhamdulah,Ndine hukama hwakanaka hwehukama neyangu mil.i kumuda zvakanyanya,anondikurira n iye ari hare.Ndinovenga vanhu venyaya iyi. kukonzera kukuvadza kune yedu yehupenyu hwemhuri.wat zano raunogona kupa izvo??Zvese zvatingaite zvakanaka uye kutsvaga mafashama anobatsira.as anofanirwa kukudziridza maitiro asina kujairika.Uye kuraira kune vaviri mil uye Dil vaifanirwa kupihwa nenzira inonaka.
Hanzvadzi yavanongotaura chete kuti vandoratidza
Ngoni Ruoko? Bcos yayo hapana amai mukati
Mitemo ichaverenga chinyorwa ichi. Asi ini
bvumirana newe kuti zvese zvinofanirwa
vanzwisisane. Uye kwete chete
majaya anofanira kuremekedza vakuru asi zvese zviri zviviri zvinoremekedzana.
im mumamiriro ezvinhu akafanana apo amai vangu vane godo uye vanofunga kuti ndiri kutora mwanakomana wake kubva kwaari, Baba vangu mumutemo vakasara 20 makore apfuura uye iv akaroora 6 makore. akandiudza munguva dzakawanda izvo im kutora mwanakomana wake kuti ndinayo 2 vana uye vanogara mukamuri rakamanikana nekuti murume wangu haadi kusiya amai vake kuti ndasvika pakunzwisisa kuti baba vake havana kutenderedza uye kuti ayananisi vake veOny. (ake akawana vakoma nevechidiki) iv akati kwaari kana zvasvika pane imwe nguva yatinofanira kufambisa kunze kwekufara kutora yako mai vako pane bhodhi, Asi anoita kunge anofunga kuti im the yakaipa. Izvo zvese zvinodzikira pakupera kwezuva kusvika kune izvo zvavanoitirwa semwanasikana mumitemo, Amai vangu mumutemo Mveri vakanga vaine amai mumutemo aive aine amai vekutanga mumutemo uyo aive nehutsinye kwaari, Haana kumboda kuda amai mumutemo kuti vanzwisise zvazvinonzwira tsitsi kuda mwanasikana mumutemo. zvisinei kuti isu tisinei sei naamai vedu mumitemo vanogara vachiremera kuti waizobata sei amai vako uye kuva neruremekedzo kwavari.
Hanzvadzi yavanongotaura chete kuti iratidze tsitsi kurudyi? Mabcos ayo hapana amai mumitemo vachaverenga chinyorwa ichi. Asi ini ndinobvumirana newe kuti vese vanofanira kunzwisisana. Uye kwete magaroru maviri anofanirwa kuremekedza vakuru asi vese vanoremekedzana. 🙂
yakabikwa,masha allah chaizvo chinyorwa chinonyatsotenda iyi……..Dai Allah rumbidzai kumamwe mwanasikana ese mumutemo….Amennnnnnnnn
Assalamu Alaikum
Ndine dambudziko naamai vangu muLaw.igara ruremekedzo rwake uye gara ndichibata saamai vangu.…Ini ndinoshanda kubva mangwanani kusvika manheru…iye nvr anotendera kuti ndirambe ndakanyarara nguva yekuita kuti ndirambe ndichiita mhuri yangu.…havafarire kuti chero munhu anondishanyira kubva kumhuri yangu…Murume wangu anoti amai vangu nababa vanofanira kumubata Royyly NVR kupokana naye.
vari kundipa pfungwa dzeTorchr uye panyama zvakare nezuro husiku tichishanda mumba. asi ini ndinoponesa nguva dzese.
Asi ikozvino ini handidi bcz vanogara vachituka vabereki vangu…plz ndiudze chii chandinofanira kuita mumamiriro aya.allah hafiz
ndinoda peji ino, zvinoita kuti ndifunge kuti im kwete chete neyakaoma nyaya, AllMdulila ndakakomborerwa nemurume anoshamisa anoziva nzira yekuchengeta mwero pakati paamai vake nemukadzi, Yeh isu tine matambudziko ese manje uye ipapo asi mhuri yei haina, Kana ikanga isiri yemurume wangu ini handifunge kuti ndaizogona kunge ndakakwanisa kurarama. kuna Amai vese mumitemo nemwanasikana mumitemo ndapota ndiremekedze mumwe nemumwe, Kana iwe ukapa imwe nguva kuti unzwisise yega iwe uchave nehukama hwakanaka hwausina kumbobvira hwambofunga nezve. tsungirirai nemumwe, zvinotora nguva. Inshallah Allah achakupa iwe zviri zviviri sabar yaunoda.
Zano iri rakanaka chaizvo.. Asi chete kune avo vane matambudziko uye zvakadaro panguva imwe chete kune vanofara nemitemo yavo uye chishuwo chekuvandudza hukama hwavo.. My husband and in laws treat me alot better than my own parents do Alhamdulillah.. and i hope and pray it stays like that.. Although unlike every other daughter in law on this page I have only had 3 months with my mother in law and I realised I am blessed because my father in law and my husbands grandma love me to bits =) my husbands cousins however have tried to ruin my relationships by making faulse accusations on me and meddling in my family business when its got nothing to do with them.. i discussed the matter with my husband and he advised me to ignore them as it is them committing the sin of trying to ruin my family.. uye zvakadaro kana ndichinge ndaudza vamwe vanamai vangu vanoramba zvakadaro nekuti anozviziva kuti ndevamwari wake ari pane zvakaipa asi pakupedzisira kana vachipedza nzira yavari, ndiani amai vangu vachamira nemutemo? Ini kana babamunini vake? Asi kunyangwe ndakava nechokwadi nezve anster kumubvunzo uyu wandinoziva murume wangu, Baba vari mumutemo uye vasikana vambuya vari kusuwa parutivi rwangu.. 🙂
Assalamalaikum….Kune akawanda maCheedza..in sm the dil ndiyo dambudziko uye mune sm mil idambudziko asi ini ndinowana mazwi ichokwadi : “Murume wechigadziko” yemukadzi anochema uye anomuitira zvakanakira murume wake naamai vake vaanogona kufungidzira kuti hanzvadzi dzake…anopomera uye anoratidza kuvengana kune hanzvadzi yake nguva dzose anofarira 'kugaridzira' kwake 'kufadza mazuva okunetseka nemufaro zvekuti aifara kuhama dzake pamberi pewanano….Ndinovimba hama yangu inomuka uye ichipwanya cheni iyi yeruvengo…(Murombo Wangu Akaremekedza Hama)…….sm nguva zano reSHD zvakare rinopihwa kune varume sevanoshandira samanisane asi vanogara vachitonga nemaziso akanaka….Asi vanyori vanofunga kuti izvi hazvisi kukanganisa kwake…Kuve nemukadzi munyatsomuita kuti ave muranda uye hapana chakaipa nazvo…La Haula Wala Quaa Illa Billah
Zvakafanana naAmai mumitemo vakazvimisa pachavo neanenge 9 kupererwa ne 10 michato. Izvo zvakanyatsoipa uye ini ndinoita dua kuti shanduko idzi kana vanhu vanochinja ipapo mindsets yekufunga. Hatifanirwe kurwadzisa mumwe kana mumwe munhu. Yayo kazhinji kuratidzwa kwevanhu vanokuvadza vane moyo kana kutambudzwa kwavanorwadzisa zvinotevera. Astaghfullah. Dai allah swt isa kugutsikana mumoyo yavo
Asalam,
Zvinoshamisa kuuya nechinyorwa ichi ikozvino sezvo ini ndirikuenda nedambudziko muhupenyu hwangu rakakonzerwa nehukama hwakaoma neunyanzvi hwangu. Ini ndinonzwisisa kuti mwanasikana pamitemo anogona kukonzera dambudziko nekuwana pamusoro pevarume vavo uye nekuedza kuzviponesa ivo pachavo ivo vachiri kusakanganwa kuti murume wavo mwanakomana kutanga.
Ndakaroora ndichiri kuzviudza kuti ndinofanira kuyeuka kuti futi. Asi ini ndoziva kuti wangu mumutemo wangu ari kuwedzera kukwikwidza uye ini ndiri zera remwanasikana wake ari kuedza kukwikwidza neni mune imwe neimwe chinhu uye zvino zvava kukanganisa. Zvino zvandiri kuedza kufuratira zvese izvo kuedza kwaakava nehasha nekundirwisa nekutuka uye kundituka uye mhuri yangu nyore kana pasina munhu ari pedyo. Izvi zvakandibata chaizvo uye zvino ari kukanganisa hukama hwangu nezvese mumitemo uye nemurume wangu. Ini ndakatya pachangu sezvazviri ikozvino tine mwana. Ini ndinokumbira Allah rubatsiro uye ikozvino ndatanga amai vamoni renhau kwandinonyora kushungurudzwa kwandinonzwa mazuva ese kubva kwaari. Izvo zvinobatsira.Nondibatsira kuti nditsamwe kutsamwa kwangu uye kwete kuzvibvisa pamurume wangu murombo. Ndamuudzawo nezvemamiriro ezvinhu asi pane lil murombo aigona kuita. Saka ini ndinotendeukira kuna Allah uye ndikamubvunza kuti andibatsire mune izvi mamiriro.
Kumunyori / yakachena matrimony,
Pane mhinduro yedambudziko iri! Uye ndiwo murume anofanira kudzidza kuchengetedza hukama pakati paamai vake nemukadzi mune yakanaka uye yakagadzikana fomu. Chinhu chakanakisa kuita ndechekuti murume ataure naamai vake kubva pakutanga uye kumuudza kuti anomuremekedza sei, Uye edza kujekesa chero kunyepedzera kwaanogona kunge aine mune ramangwana, asi taura chokwadi chekuti iye ndiamai vake nemwanasikana wake vachaita mukadzi wake! zvekuti anoda uye anoremekedza vese sezvavanofanirwa kudiwa uye vanoremekedzwa nekuti ivo vanhu vaviri vakasiyana vachitora nzvimbo mbiri dzakasiyana-siyana dzakasiyana-siyana muhupenyu hwake.
Iye murume anofanira kuteerera amai vake, Uye mwanasikana mukwasha anofanira kuteerera murume wake chete kana izvo zvarairwa hazvikuvadze mwanasikana mukwasha. Chete kana iri tsika, Uye mukadzi anofanira kuremekedza mai vake mumutemo, asi vanofanirawo kubvunzwa kuti vave nechokwadi chekuti iye nemhuri yake vanoremekedzwa uye vakabatwa zvakanaka kunge munhu wenyama.
Mwari(swt) zvakajeka zvinoritsanangura muQuran:
“Haiwa imi vanotenda! Teerera Allah uye Teerera Mutumwa (Muhammad, Mwari ngavamuropafadze uye vamupe rugare), uye izvo zvako (akataura mubairo mukuru kune munhu anopfeka ehraam kubva kuBait al-Makdis asati aenda kuKaaba kunotora paradhiso yake.) Ndivanaani vane chiremera. (Uye) Kana iwe ukasiyana mune chero chinhu pakati penyu, zvinoreva kuna Allah uye Mutumwa wake (Mwari vamuropafadze uye kumupa rugare), Kana iwe uchitenda muna Allah uye muzuva rekupedzisira. Izvo zviri nani uye zvakanyatsokodzera kutsunga kwekupedzisira.” (4:14)
“(58) Uye isu takaraira pane mumwe murume kuti ave akanaka uye aine huya kuvabereki vake; asi kana vakaedza kukuita kuti ubatane neni (Mukunamata) chero chinhu (Semunhu mumwe) zvausina ruzivo, wobva wateerera. Kwandiri kudzoka kwako uye ini ndichakuudza zvawanga uchiita. ” (29:58)
-Saka kutambudza mukadzi wake / mwanasikana wake mumutemo / kana chero munhu munhu asina kubvumidzwa muIslam, Naizvozvo kana murume akaramba achikuvadza mukadzi wake nekuti amai vake vari kumuudza, Ipapo kungave kuri kushamwaridzana nevamwe naAllah(swt) Kwete kutevera allah(swt), AstagHfirulat.
Kumukadzi, Anofanira kunzwisisa kuti murume wake ane zvimwe zvinhu zvekuita pane kugara pamba uye kugadzirisa nharo. Anofanira kunzwisisa kuti amai vake vemutemo havazombofa vakakwanisa kumubata zvakanaka seizvo arikubata amai vake mumutemo, nekuti amai vake mumutemo vakwegura uye vane hutano hwehutano / hwepfungwa kuti vatarisire. Saka sekuda isu tinotarisira vana kana vadiki, Tinofanirawo kutarisira vakuru vedu sezvinoti muQuran vanhu vakuru vanova vasina simba sevana. Mwanasikana mumutemo anofanira kunge aine moyo murefu wekutanga kuti atange. The husband must also talk to his wife to explain his mothers situation. If he says it in a loving way, she will work harder to get more and more of his love. The husband must also understand that the way he treats his wife’s family members is how his wife should treat his mother/family. If he doesn’t like that type of treatment then he should start being nice to his wife’s family members.
Nemwoyo wose,
Sociologist 8)
Asalamualaikum,
Hi am Faranaz and i will get marid soon In Shaa Allah in December.
And i want to know one thing, i really want to choose my kitchen items and some thing for my room and i told my fiance.My Mum in law passed away 2 years ago and i do not know her.
Iye zvino sisi vangu mumutemo vanoda kusarudza chinhu chandinoda uye ini handidi kuti izvozvo. uye nekushungurudza senge ropa rangu rakadonha pasi uye ini ndanga ndichirwara uye ndichiri pamushonga. Mukuda chaizvo kurarama murudo uye hukama hwerunyararo asi ini ndoda kusarudza zvangu chinhu. Pese pandakaudza fiance yangu ndinoda chimwe chinhu (izvo zvinoitika zvisingawanzo) Ivo vanozoedza kumunyengetedza kuti izvi hazvina kunaka kana ruvara haruyi.
Kuti atsaure fiancee yangu inondida chaizvo zvakanyanya uye anoedza kutsungirira nesu uye ndiye asina kana kumashure nguva dzese.
Ini ndoda kuve mukadzi akanaka uye hanzvadzi yakanaka mumutemo.
Ndapota ndibatsireiwo.
Kuda Hafiz
Kwaziwai,
Zvino tht izvi zvakaunzwa ini ndoda kuziva izvo zvinogona kuitwa nezve munhu anotsamwisa, godo, anocherekedza Amai mumutemo, ndiani angandimisa n ari kugara achindidzora abt ini 7 makore zvino. Zvese zvandaigona kuita kugara kunze kwenzira yake. Ini ndinonzwa yake yekutaura inondibata nguva dzese , shes munhu anogara achida kuti anyatsoona chero munhu waanowana nekuudza vanhu tht hapana munhu anopa shit abt yake. Iyi imhosva yangu yeTT haina kuzombondida pakutanga , n zvishoma nezvishoma n zvishoma nezvishoma kwete nhengo imwe chete mune yangu varume Vangu mhuri hurukuro neni nekuda kweichi chifananidzo chinoparadza tsika yake? Ini ndambomira kutaura kwaari uye ndinogara muChikamu changu Cuz ndakamboedza zvese zvandakamboita mumakore apfuura asi iye akanyatsonaka ne wat ndinoita, Nei ndichibuda nemwanakomana wake, Nei Tichifara, makadhi mangani egrocery atinounza. Iye akafunga ppl akatenderedza tht isu tiri kuve nehupenyu hwakanaka paanenge achitenderera, iwe unogona kunzwisisa tht haisi iyo nyaya. Ini handingamire iye zvino…Tine hurombo kuti ndiratidze..i handizive maitiro ekugadzirisa izvi. Parizvino ini ndiri mupfungwa n pfungwa dzinovhiringidza..Ndave ne 3 Makore Ekuzvarwa Mwana.