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Munyori: Zohra Sarwari
SubhanAllaah iyi musoro chete inogona kunge iri mavhoriyamu emabhuku. Zviuru zvemapeji zvinogona kuzadzwa pamusoro pemusoro wenyaya uyu chete nekuti ndiko kudzika kwakaita nyaya yacho. Zvisinei, nhasi ndichanyora nezvayo chete 2 zvezvinonyanyozivikanwa zvekurambana zviripo inshAllaah.
1. Zvisungo Zvemari Zvisina Kuzadzikiswa. Chimwe chezvikonzero zvikuru zvinoita kuti vanhu vakawanda varambane ndechokuti murume kazhinji haakwanisi kuchengeta mhuri yake nemari. Vakadzi vazhinji havadi kushanda. Vanoda kugara pamba, kurera vana vavo uye kutarisira musha. Murume anoda kumuroora anoti zvakanaka, asi kana vangoroorana, haaiti mari yakakwana yokutarisira zvinodiwa pamusha. Madzimai mazhinji anonzwa kunge anyengerwa izvo zvinoita kuti vazorwa izvo zvinozoita kuti varambane.
Tingakunda sei dambudziko iri tigonyatsoziva wauri kuchata naye? Mukoma anofanira kutanga ataura chokwadi nezvemari yake kuhanzvadzi yaari kukumbira kuroora. Anofanira kumuzivisa kuti pamwe vanenge vachigara nemhuri yake nekuda kwekusaita mari yakawanda, kana kuti vachararama nezvaanogona. Anofanira kuva akatendeseka kubva pakutanga.
Anofanira kunzwisisa kuti sei ari kumuroora. Ndezve deen yake, mari, anotaridzika, kana chinzvimbo? Kana achinge asimbisa kuti sei ari kumuroora, zvino anofanira kugara naye pasi votaura nezveramangwana ravo inshAllaah. Anofanira kuzvizivisa kana achida zvakawanda kubva kwaari, kuitira kuti ave kushanda pahurongwa hwekuiwana inshAllaah. Pakupedzisira, anofanira kuziva kuti Rizq yedu yatinopiwa naAllah Subhana wa Ta'ala, saka anofanira kuita du'aa yakawanda uye azive kuti murume wake haazowana dhenari rinopfuura kana rakaderera pane izvo Allah akaraira kwaari.. Kana akagutsikana nechinhu chipi nechipi chaanouya nacho kumba uye akachipa zvakanakisisa, Alhamdullilah. Kana asingagutsikane anofanira kunge ari kushandira kumubatsira kusimudzira hunyanzvi kuti awane mari yakawanda inshaAllaah.
2. Kuva neZvakanyanya Kutarisira zvakakwirira. Chikonzero chechipiri chinoita kuti vanhu vakawanda varambane ndechokuti vanenge vaine tarisiro huru kune mumwe nomumwe. Iyi imhosva yevaviri vacho pachavo. Semuyenzaniso, murume uyu anoti ane MBS Degree uye achangotambira $50,000 gore uye anozochengeta uye obhadhara imba mumakore mashoma. Anoenderera mberi nehope dzake kwaari. Anobva afara zvikuru, uye anotarisira zvese izvi. Vakaroorana vanoroorana uye haakwanisi kuwana basa, vanofanira kugara nevabereki vake. Vane chikwereti. Pakupedzisira, Alhamdullilah anowana basa, asi anobhadharwa chete $35,000, uye haasi kufara nazvo. Anotarisira $50,000. Mari iyi inokwana kuti varoje imba nekubhadhara zvikwereti zvavo. Vangachengetera imba sei? Anobva asvotwa, uye anorwa naye uye achimupopotera. Anosvotwa, uye anomuudza kuti ari kuita nepaanogona napo, uye anobuda kuenda kumba kwevabereki vake ... drama rinoenderera mberi.
Tingakunda sei dambudziko iri? Zvakare kupfurikidza nokutendeseka kune mumwe nomumwe uye hama inotsanangura zvinhu zvakafanana nezvazvinoita kuhanzvadzi, uye kuti inshAllaah nerubatsiro rwaAllah Subhana wa Ta’ala vachaita zviri nani. Vachararama zvinoenderana nezvavanokwanisa uye nekushandisa zvakanyanya zuva rega rega inshaAllaah.
Hanzvadzi inozofanira kufunga kuti kana ichida Allah Subhana wa Ta’ala neMuporofita (rugare ngaruve pamusoro pake) kupfuura zvimwe zvose, uye kana akaita du'aa yeistikhara uye ndiye mukomana wake, ipapo achava nemoyo murefu sezvavanopinda nemiedzo yeupenyu pamwe chete. Kuti achave nemoyo murefu uye kuita kuti zuva rega rega rikoshese kune izvo zvinonyanya kukosha, maringe netarisiro dzako dzakakwirira dzezvaanogona kukupa.
Panewo muenzaniso wehama iri pano. Ndinorangarira kuti ndakasangana nehanzvadzi, uyo mashAllaah aive akanaka, slim, aiva nedhigirii, uye vanonyatsoziva Qur-aan neDeen. She had a lot going for her via in her deen and dunya mashAllaah. Zvisinei, akanga asiri iye shasha yekubika, uye kwete kuchena pakucheneswa kwake. Iye (mukoma waizomuroora) ainyatsoziva pasuru yaaitora achibva aitora. Zvisinei, mushure mokunge amuwana, aitarisira kuti aizobika zvokudya zvake zvose zvakanaka uye kuti imba igare yakachena. Mind you vaive vasina mwana uye imba yaive diki 2 imba yekurara.
Aifunga kuti kwakachena, asi haana kuda kuona guruva pairi zuva nezuva. Zvese zvaifanira kunge zviri munzvimbo chaidzo, etc. Aichema zvekuti, nguva dzose achizvibvunza, ‘ko handingambofadze murume wangu?'. Aipopota hake, wozotaura zvakaipa nezvekumurera kwemhuri yake, etc. Chaaida chete kuita kuti arambe achifara. Saka aizoedza zvakanyanya. Ndichinzwa nyaya yake ndakafunga zvangu, Ndine chokwadi chekuti ane zvakawanda zvinokanganisa uye kwete zvakanakisisa mune zvose pachake, saka sei achida kuti ave seizvi.
Aya haasi maitiro akakodzera kune chero munhu. Zvinoreva izvi kwamuri mese kuita shuwa kuti wauchazoroora kana kuroorwa arikuziva inshAllaah pamusoro pezvamunogona nekutadza.. Unofanira kukurukura izvi pachine nguva, saka kana mamiriro acho amuka hausi mukushamisika. Ndinorangarira pandakaroorwa, Ndakadaro ndichiudza murume wangu kuti ndaisava shasha yekubika, uye hunyanzvi hwangu hwaive kudzidza uye kuve neruzivo. Alhamdullilah zvave zvakadaro 18 makore, uye ndave mubiki arinani mashAllaah, asi achiri kubika zviri nani kundidarika, uye Alhamdullilah haana kumbonyunyuta nezvekubika kwangu.
Hama dzinofanirwa kuita moyo murefu uye kuziva kuti mukadzi akakwana anongowanikwa muJannah inshAllaah. Vanofanira kurangarira hadith iyi, Muporofita wedu Muhammad (Rugare ngaruve kwaari) akadaro:
“Mutendi haafaniri kuvenga mukadzi anotenda (i.e. mukadzi wake): kana asingade chimwe chehunhu hwake, achafadzwa nomumwe.”[Muslim #1469]
Zvehanzvadzi, unofanira kuva akatendeseka zvikuru uye chokwadi pamusoro pezvaunogona uye utera, kuitira kuti asashamisika. Ita kuti azive kuti unoda kudzidza kudya kwake kwaanofarira inshAllaah, uye uchaita nepaunogona napo navo. Unofanirawo kumuudza kuti akuitire mwoyo murefu, uye kuti inshAllaah nekufamba kwenguva unenge wava mubiki mukuru.
Mukupedzisa, icho munhu mumwe nomumwe anofanira kurangarira chikonzero nei ari kutoroora. Tinochata kuti tirege kutadza. Tinochata kuti tiwane wekufambidzana naye kuti tive naye inshAllaah munyika ino nemangwana. Tinoroorana kuti titaure nomumwe munhu nguva dzose uye tinova nenguva dzinofadza naye. Tinoroorana kuti tiite vana, uye muvasimudzire mukururama kuti vatinyengeterere mushure mekunge taenda. Tinoroorana nokuda kwezvikonzero zvikuru zvakawanda, asi kupfuura chero chinhu chatinoroora nekuti chinozadzisa hafu yedeen yedu. Tinofanira kurangarira izvi nguva dzose, uye pachinzvimbo chekuti titsvage kurambana kana miedzo nematambudziko zvatiwira, tinofanira kufunga kuti tingaita sei kuti muchato uyu ushande Insh'Allah.
Pure Matrimony
…apo kudzidzira kunokwana
Kuti udzidze zvakawanda nezve Sista Zohra Sarwari, enda hako: http://zohrasarwari.com
MA SHA ALLAH chinyorwa ichi chakakwana . (Y)
Alhamdulillah icho chaive chinyorwa chakanakisa. Ndaifunga kuti zvaizova nezvechimwe chinhu chakasiyana zvachose kuvhura maziso.
Zvikonzero zvekurambana zvakawanda. Izvo zvakasiyana zvachose muzvisikwa. Zvinoreva chimiro chedambudziko chakanangana nehunhu hwemunhu. Zvinhu zvinhu zvakasiyana,Chinhu chinonyanya kupinza chekurambana mumamiriro ezvinhu epanguva ino ndechekushushikana asi iyo yekupedzisira idiki zvakanyanya kunyanya kana iri yeMuslim Ummah.; Al-hamdi-llilah! Ndakaona mienzaniso yakawanda. Vakaroorana ndivo varombo vevarombo asi vanofara zvikuru pane mamwe matunhu ehupenyu hwavo hwewanano.
Isu, maMuslim epasirese anofanirwa kuzivisa iwo madiki mazinga ekurambana. Dai Allah vatitungamirire! Dai Allah vadzivirira Ummah uye PBUH Muporofita
Ndinobvumirana newe.
Ini pachangu ndinofunga zvikonzero zviviri zvepamusoro zvekurambana ndeye decit, nhema dzenguva dzose kubva kune mumwe kana vose vari vaviri.
Uye kusaremekedza.
Ndingadai ndichiri muwanano dai taingova nenyaya dzakanyorwa pamusoro munyaya yacho. Ini handisi dunya orintated uye zvinondinetsa kana nepadiki pose. Asi ndakarambwa nekuti murume wangu ainyengera, uye kusaremekedza.
Kwaziwai Alaekum ummah, pls ndinamatirewo nekuti marriage yangu as at pick of Divorce now, handidi kuti izvi zviitike Insha Allah
Chinyorwa chakanaka. Zvisinei, chimwe chezvikonzero chikuru chandinopupurira iko zvino kubiridzira kwemurume madzimai nekuda kwevakadzi kusashandisa nguva yakakwana kune varume vavo nemhuri..
Zvisinei nekuti vakadzi vanopedza nguva yakakwana pavarume vavo, hapana chikonzero chekubiridzira. Mafungiro emhando iyi anotowedzera nyaya, sezvo zvichitoita kuti ive mhosva yemukadzi (sezvimwe zvose).
Ini ndakarambana… Asi nokuti murume wangu akanga asiri munhu ane hunhu. He was callin not a genuine person uye asiri munhu wandaigona kupedza hupenyu hwangu hwose. Hasha dzake dzaive dzakaita kunge dzepfungwa uye aive nechisimba pamwe nekusavimbika.
Ndingadai ndaita zvese zvandaigona kuti muchato uyu ushande had the fundamentals kuti muchato ushande uripo.
Pane nyaya dzinogona kugadziriswa, zvisinei kune dzimwe nyaya dzisingagadzirike nekuti munhu anematambudziko haana kana moyo wake kuti atochinja nekuti hapana chaanoziva..
I had to force myself to apply for khula in the end because I know had I stuck by him, Ndaizopedzisira ndave muupenyu hwenhamo.
Akanga asiri murume akanaka uye zvechokwadi angadai akaita baba vakaipa. Akanga atoratidza kuva mwanakomana akaipa sezvo akanga asingaremekedzi vabereki vake. Munhu asingaremekedzi vabereki haangamboremekedzi mumwe munhu.
Ndaimuda chose asi rudo rwake rwaisava rwechokwadi.
Zvairwadza kufamba asi vanoti ‘dzimwe nguva Allah haachinje mamiriro edu ezvinhu nekuti anoda kuti tichinje mwoyo yedu’.
Ini ndaida kugovera izvi nekuti kunyangwe ndichiziva kuti muchato unofanirwa kuve chimwe chinhu chekubatirira uye kuita zvirinani munguva dzekutambudzika, pane mamiriro ezvinhu apo zviri nani kufamba kubva.. Wanano ndeye mufaro wechokwadi uye hupenyu hwechokwadi. Ini kana vasipo munhu wacho hapana tariro..
Pamusoro pezvose izvi murume wangu naamai vake avo vaigara vachikanganisa pfungwa dzake, vakaita zvemashiripiti izvo zvakaratidza zvakare kuti havasi vanhu vane moyo yakanaka.
Ndine rombo rakanaka kuti ndakawana hunhu hwavo hwechokwadi nekukurumidza kwete gare gare.
Nyangwe waive muchato wakaita mwedzi miviri chete, zvakanga zvichiri kureva zvakawanda kwandiri..
Zvakaoma hazvo kufamba, Ndagutsikana kuti yaive sarudzo yakanaka. Ndakagutsikana Ely nekuti ndakaita zvisingaverengeki istikhara uye ndakakumbira Allah kuti anditungamirire.
Dai Allah vatitungamirire tose kuti tiite zvakatinakira. Ameen.
Alhamdulillah zano rakanaka…
Pls pray for me ..I'm married for six months now but it well fall into divorce ..Handidi kuti zviitike inshaallah ya rabh.. Zvakaoma kubata kure kumhuri yangu kuti undipe zano negwara. Ndinoda kuchengetedza hukama hwedu.