Ubudlelwane bezesondo ekuKhanyeni kweSilamsi

ISilamsi sisifundisa zonke izinto kwaye izise yonke imfundiso elungileyo eluntwini malunga nokuphila kwabo, unqulo, ephila kwaye esifa, kuba yinkolo ka-Allh (SWT), Makazukiswe kwaye aphakanyiswe.

Ubudlelwane bokwabelana ngesondo buphakathi kwemiba ebalulekileyo yobomi eyathi iSilamsi yayiza kuyicacisa kwaye imisele ukuziphatha okufanelekileyo kunye nemithetho eyiphakamisayo ukusuka kwinqanaba lokuzonwabisa nje kwesilwanyana kunye nomnqweno womzimba..

UbuSilamsi budibanisa nenjongo elungileyo, izibongozo (adhkaar) kunye nokuziphatha okufanelekileyo okuwuphakamisela kwinqanaba lonqulo amaSilamsi aya kuvuzwa ngalo. ISunnah yoMprofeti (uxolo neentsikelelo zika-Allh zibe phezu kwakhe) icacisa oku. U-Imam Ibn al-Qayyim (wanga uAllâh Angamenzela inceba) utsho kwincwadi yakhe ethi Zaad al-Ma’aad:

“Ngokuphathelele iintlobano zesini, uMprofeti (uxolo neentsikelelo zika-Allh zibe phezu kwakhe) uze nesona sikhokelo sigqibeleleyo, apho impilo inokugcinwa khona baze abantu bafumane uyolo nolonwabo, kwaye inokuzalisekisa injongo eyayidalelwe yona, kuba isondo senziwe ngeenjongo ezintathu ezisisiseko:

Ukulondolozwa nokusasazwa koluntu, bade bafikelele kwinani lemiphefumlo kuAllh (SWT) ummiselo kufuneka udalwe kulo mhlaba.

Ukugxothwa kwamanzi (amadlozi) enokubangela ingozi emzimbeni ukuba igcinwe.

Ukwanelisa iminqweno yenyama kunye nokonwabela ulonwabo lomzimba. Le kuphela kwento eya kubakho eParadesi, ngokuba akuyi kubakho nzala khona, kwaye akukho kugcinwa kufuna ukukhululwa ngokukhutshwa kwe-ejaculation.

Oogqirha abagqwesileyo bacebisa ukuba isini yenye yeendlela zokugcina impilo entle.”
(I-al-Tibb al-Nabawi, p. 249)

Kwaye yena (wanga uAllâh Angamenzela inceba) watsho:

Phakathi kweenzuzo zayo kukuba inceda ukuthoba ukujonga, kuzisa ukuzeyisa, Ivumela umntu ukuba azikhwebule kwizinto ze-haraam, kwaye ufezekisa zonke ezi zinto kumfazi naye. Izisa ingenelo emntwini ngokubhekisele kweli hlabathi kunye noBomi basemva koKuphila, kwaye kuluncedo nakumfazi. Kungoko uMprofeti (uxolo neentsikelelo zika-Allh zibe phezu kwakhe) wayedla ngokuba neentlobano zesini rhoqo nabafazi bakhe, watsho, “Ehlabathini lakho, Abafazi neoli yobulawu benziwe bathandwa kum.” (Ibaliswa ngu-Ahmad, 3/128; al-Nasaa'i, 7/61; ibekwe njengeSaheeh ngu-al-Haakim)

Kwaye uMprofeti (uxolo neentsikelelo zika-Allh zibe phezu kwakhe) watsho: “Owu madoda, nabani na phakathi kwenu onako ukuyifikelela, makatshate, kuba kumnceda athobe amehlo akhe kwaye akhusele ubunyulu bakhe. Kwaye nabani na ongenakuyenza loo nto, makazile ukutya, ngokuba iya kuba likhusi kuye.” (Ibaliswa nguAl-Bukhaariy, 9/92; UmSilamsi, 1400) (I-al-Tibb al-Nabawi, 251)

Phakathi kwemiba ebalulekileyo ekufuneka ithathelwe ingqalelo xa kusenziwa ubudlelwane obusondeleyo:

Ukuba nenjongo enyanisekileyo yokwenza le nto kuphela ngenxa ka-Allah (SWT). Umntu kufuneka azimisele ukwenza oku ukuze azikhusele yena nomfazi wakhe ekwenzeni izinto zeHaram, ukwandisa amanani amaMuslim ummah ukuze kunyuswe iwonga lawo, ngokuba kukho isidima nekratshi elikhulu. Kufuneka kwaziwe ukuba umntu uya kuvuzwa ngesi senzo, nokuba ufumene uyolo lwangoko kunye nolonwabo kuyo. Kwanikelwa ingxelo evela ku-Abu Dharr ukuba uMthunywa ka-Allah (uxolo neentsikelelo zika-Allh zibe phezu kwakhe) watsho: “Ngokulalana kukabani kuni kukho umvuzo.” (intsingiselo, xa ithe yalala nomfazi wayo) Bathe, “Owu uMthunywa ka-Allh, xa nabani na kuthi esenza umnqweno wakhe, woba nomvuzo na ngaloo nto?” Yena (uxolo neentsikelelo zika-Allh zibe phezu kwakhe) watsho: “Ngaba awuyiboni loo nto ukuba ebengayenza ngendlela ye-haraam, wayeza kohlwaywa ngaloo nto? Ngoko ukuba uyenza ngendlela ye-halaal, uya kuvuzwa.” (Kubaliswa nguMuslim, 720)

Le yinceba enkulu ka-Allh (SWT) ukuya kulo Ummah; makabongwe uAllh (SWT) Owasenzayo phakathi kwabo.

Iintlobano zesini zifanele zandulelwe ngamazwi obubele, ukudlala nokuncamisa. UMprofeti (uxolo neentsikelelo zika-Allh zibe phezu kwakhe) wayedla ngokudlala nabafazi bakhe aze abaphuze.

Xa indoda ithe yalala nomfazi wayo, kufuneka athi: “Bismillaah, UAllahumma Jannibnaa al-shaytaan wa jannib al-shaytaan maa razqtanaa (Egameni lika-Allah, Owu Allah Sigcine kude noShayt'an kwaye umgcine uShayt'an ekude noko Usinika kona (abantwana bethu)).” UMthunywa ka-Allah (uxolo neentsikelelo zika-Allh zibe phezu kwakhe) watsho: “Ukuba uAllh Umisele ukuba babe nomntwana, uShayt'an soze amenze bubi.” (Ibaliswa nguAl-Bukhaariy, 9/187)

Kuvumelekile ukuba indoda ilale nomfazi wayo kwilungu lobufazi bakhe nangayiphi na indlela ethanda ngayo, ukusuka ngasemva okanye ngaphambili, kwimeko yokuba ikwilungu lobufazi bakhe, indawo leyo azalelwa kuyo umntwana. uThixo (SWT) utsho (ukutolikwa kwentsingiselo): “Abafazi benu bayalinywa kuni, ngoko yiya kwintsimi yakho (Yabelanani ngesondo nabafazi benu nangayiphi na indlela ukuba nje kukwilungu lobufazi hayi kwimpundu), uzakwenza nini okanye njani.” [al-Baqarah 2:223]. UJaabir ibn 'Abd-Allaah (wanga uAllâh angakholiswa nguye) watsho: AmaYuda ayedla ngokuthi ukuba indoda iye yalala nomfazi wayo ngasemva kwilungu lobufazi bakhe, umntwana ebemane ekrwaqula. Emva koko le aayah yatyhilwa: “Abafazi benu bayalinywa kuni, ngoko yiya kwintsimi yakho (Yabelanani ngesondo nabafazi benu nangayiphi na indlela ukuba nje kukwilungu lobufazi hayi kwimpundu), uzakwenza nini okanye njani.” [al-Baqarah 2:223] UMthunywa ka-Allah (uxolo neentsikelelo zika-Allh zibe phezu kwakhe) watsho: “Ukusuka ngaphambili okanye ngasemva, okoko ikwilungu lobufazi.” (Ibaliswa nguAl-Bukhaariy, 8/154; UmSilamsi, 4/156)

Akuvumelekanga ukuba indoda phantsi kwayo nayiphi na imeko ibe neentlobano zesini nomfazi wayo kwipaseji yakhe engasemva. uThixo (SWT) utsho (ukutolikwa kwentsingiselo): “Abafazi benu bayalinywa kuni, ngoko yiya kwintsimi yakho (Yabelanani ngesondo nabafazi benu nangayiphi na indlela ukuba nje kukwilungu lobufazi hayi kwimpundu), uzakwenza nini okanye njani.” [al-Baqarah 2:223]. Kuyaziwa ukuba indawo yokulima lilungu lobufazi, indawo leyo umntu athembela kuyo umntwana. UMprofeti (uxolo neentsikelelo zika-Allh zibe phezu kwakhe) watsho: “Uqalekisiwe owaba neentlobano zesini nabafazi kwimihlaba yabo engasemva.” (Ibaliswa nguIbn ‘Udayy, 1/211; ibekwe njenge-saheeh ngu-al-Albaaniy kwi-Adaab al-Zafaaf, p. 105). Oku kungenxa yokuba [Ukwabelana ngesondo ezimpundu] iya ngokuchasene nefitra [utyekelo lwendalo lomntu] kwaye sisenzo esivukelayo kwabo banesimo sobuntu esiphilileyo; kukwabangela ukuba ibhinqa liphoswe lulonwabo; kwaye indawo engasemva yindawo yokungcola kunye nokungcola - kwaye kukho ezinye izizathu eziqinisekisa ukuba esi senzo si haraam..

Ukuba indoda ithe yalala nomfazi wayo kwaye ifuna ukubuyela kuye okwesibini, kufuneka enze ududo', ngokuba uMprofeti (uxolo neentsikelelo zika-Allh zibe phezu kwakhe) watsho: “Ukuba ubani kuni uthe walala nomfazi wakhe, ufuna ukuyiphinda loo nto, myeke enze udoo’ phakathi kwezi zimbini (izenzo), kuba inika amandla okwesibini.” (Kubaliswa nguMuslim, 1/171). Le yimustahabb (kucetyiswa), hayi isinyanzelo (isinyanzelo); ukuba uyakwazi ukwenza i-ghusl phakathi kwezi zenzo zimbini, oku kungcono, ngenxa yeHadeeth ka-Abu Raafi’ owathi uMprofeti (uxolo neentsikelelo zika-Allh zibe phezu kwakhe) Wajikeleza abafazi bakhe ngenye imini waza wenza i-ghusl endlwini yalo kunye nakulo mzi. Yena (Abu Raafi') watsho: “Ndathi kuye, Owu uMthunywa ka-Allh, kutheni ungenzi ghusl enye?” Uthe, “Oku kucocekile kwaye kungcono kwaye kucoceke.” (Ibaliswa ngu-Abu Dawood kunye no-al-Nasaa'i, 1/79)

Omnye okanye omabini kumaqabane kufuneka enze i-ghusl kwezi meko zilandelayo:

Xa i “amalungu amabini alukileyo” dibana, ngokuba uMprofeti (uxolo neentsikelelo zika-Allh zibe phezu kwakhe) watsho: “Xa inxalenye eyolukileyo idibana nenxalenye eyalukileyo (ngokutsho kwenye ingxelo: xa ilungu lolwaluko lichukumisa ilungu lolwaluko), i-ghusl iba sisinyanzelo (isinyanzelo).” (Ibaliswa nguAhmad kunye namaSilamsi, hayi. 526). Le ghusl inyanzelekile ukuba ukukhutshwa kwe-jaculation kwenzeka okanye akunjalo. Ukubamba amalungu owalukileyo kuthetha ukuba incam yelungu lobudoda ingena kwilungu lobufazi.; akuthethi ukubamba nje.

Ukukhutshwa kwamadlozi, nokuba akachukumisi amalungu elwaluko omabini, ngokuba uMprofeti (uxolo neentsikelelo zika-Allh zibe phezu kwakhe) watsho, “Amanzi ngawamanzi [o.k., amanzi e-ghusl ayimfuneko xa i “amanzi” idlozi liyakhutshwa].” (Kubaliswa nguMuslim, hayi. 1/269)

UAl-Baghawi uthe eSharh al-Sunnah (2/9): “Ghusl for janaabah [ukungcola okulandela ukungcola ngokwesondo] yi waajib kuyo nayiphi na imeko: xa incam yelungu lobudoda ingena kwilungu lobufazi, okanye xa amanzi athontsizayo ekhutshwa yindoda okanye ngumfazi.” Ngolwazi oluthe vetshe kwiinkcukacha ze-ghusl njengoko kuchaziwe kwi-sharee'ah. Kuvumelekile ukuba indoda nomfazi benze i-ghusl kunye kwindawo enye, nokuba uyambona aze ambone, ngenxa yeHadeeth ka'Aisha (wanga uAllâh angakholiswa nguye) ngubani owathi: “UMprofeti (uxolo neentsikelelo zika-Allh zibe phezu kwakhe) kwaye ndandidla ngokwenza i-ghusl kunye kwisitya esinye phakathi kwam naye; besimane sitshintshana ngokufaka izandla emkhumbini ebethatha ngaphezulu kwam de ndithi, ‘Ndishiyele ezinye, ndishiyele intwana.” Uthe, baye baba yimvana bobabini (kwimo ye janaabah). Ibaliswa nguAl-Bukhaariy kunye neMuslim.

Kuvumelekile ukuba umntu enze ighusl alale kwaye alibazise ighusl de kube phambi kwexesha lomthandazo., kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo kunyanzelekile ukuba enze i-wudoo’ ngaphambi kokulala, ngenxa yeHadeeth ka-Umar, owathi wabuza uMprofeti (uxolo neentsikelelo zika-Allh zibe phezu kwakhe), Ngaba nabani na kuthi angalala xa eyijunub?? UMprofeti (uxolo neentsikelelo zika-Allh zibe phezu kwakhe) watsho: “Ewe, kodwa makenze oko’ ukuba uyathanda.” (Ibaliswa nguIbn Hibbaan, 232).

Akuvumelekanga ukulala nomntu obhinqileyo xa esexesheni (ukuba sexesheni), kuba uAllâh uthi (ukutolikwa kwentsingiselo): “Bakubuza malunga nokuya exesheni. Yitsho: yi-adhaa leyo (kubi endodeni ukuba ibe neentlobano zesini nomfazi wayo ngoxa esexesheni), Ke ngoko balumkeleni abafazi abasexesheni, ningangeni kubo, bade bahlambuluke (ukuya exesheni kwaye ndihlambe). Kwaye xa sele bazichebe ngokwabo, ke ngenani kubo njengoko uAllâh Enimiseleyo (nokuba ungene kubo, yonke imihla esembilini yabo). Ngokwenene, UAllh Uyabathanda abo baguqukela kuYe kwaye uyabathanda abo bazihlambululayo (ngokuhlamba kunye nokucoca kunye nokuwahlamba ngokucokisekileyo amalungu abo angasese, imizimba, ngenxa yemithandazo yabo, njl.).” [al-Baqarah 2:222].

Umntu owabelana ngesondo nomfazi wakhe ngelixa esexesheni kufuneka akhuphe idinar okanye isiqingatha sedinar kwisisa., njengoko kwakuxeliwe ukuba uMprofeti (uxolo neentsikelelo zika-Allh zibe phezu kwakhe) kwanyanzeleka ukuba indoda iyenze yakufika yambuza ngaloo nto. Oku kuxelwe ngababhali be-al-Sunan kwaye yahlelwa njenge-saheeh ngu-al-Albaani kwi-Adaab al-Zafaaf., p. 122. Kodwa kuvumelekile ukuba indoda iyonwabele inkosikazi yayo esexesheni ngaphandle kokwabelana ngesondo, ngenxa yeHadeeth ka'Aisha (wanga uAllâh angakholiswa nguye) ngubani owathi: “UMthunywa ka-Allah (uxolo neentsikelelo zika-Allh zibe phezu kwakhe) angaxelela omnye wethu, xa wayesexesheni, ukunxiba isigqubuthelo esinqeni, yabe indoda yakhe yalala naye.” (Kuvunyelwene ngayo).

Kuvumelekile ukuba umyeni arhoxe ('Azl) ukuba akafuni kuba nomntwana; kwangokunjalo kuvumelekile ukuba asebenzise iikhondom – ukuba inkosikazi yakhe iyamvumela, ngokuba unelungelo lokuzonwabisa nabantwana. Ubungqina boku yiHadeeth kaJaabir ibn ‘Abd-Allaah (wanga uAllâh angakholiswa nguye) ngubani owathi, “Sasidla ngokwenza ‘azl ngexesha loMthunywa ka-Allah (uxolo neentsikelelo zika-Allh zibe phezu kwakhe). UMthunywa ka-Allah (uxolo neentsikelelo zika-Allh zibe phezu kwakhe) ndeva ngaloo nto, kwaye akasalelanga.” (Ibaliswa nguAl-Bukhaariy, 9/250; UmSilamsi, 4/160).

Kodwa kungcono ukuba ungayenzi nayiphi na loo nto, ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi, kubandakanywa nento yokuba ihlutha umfazi ulonwabo okanye inciphisa ubumnandi kuye; nokuba kubhangisa enye yeenjongo zomtshato, oko kukwandisa inani lenzala, njengoko kukhankanyiwe ngasentla.

Akuvumelekanga ukuba omabini amaqabane asasaze iimfihlo zento eyenzekayo phakathi kwabo kubomi babo bomtshato wangasese; kanjalo, le yenye yezinto ezimbi kakhulu. UMprofeti (uxolo neentsikelelo zika-Allh zibe phezu kwakhe) watsho: “Phakathi kwabona bantu bakhohlakeleyo phambi kuka-Allh ngoMhla woVuko kuya kuba yindoda eza kumfazi wayo yaze yalala naye., emva koko usasaze iimfihlo zakhe.” (Kubaliswa nguMuslim, 4/157).

Kwaxelwa kuAsmaa’ bint Yazeed ukuba wayekunye noMprofeti (uxolo neentsikelelo zika-Allh zibe phezu kwakhe) kwakuhleli amadoda nabafazi ndawonye naye, kunye noMprofeti (uxolo neentsikelelo zika-Allh zibe phezu kwakhe) watsho, “Ngaba nayiphi na indoda inokuthi yenzani nomfazi wayo? Ngaba nawuphi na umfazi ungabaxelela abanye into ayenzileyo ngendoda yakhe?” Baye bathula abantu abaphendula. I [Asmaa'] watsho: “Ewe, ngoAllh, Owu uMthunywa ka-Allh, bona (abafazi) yenza oko, kwaye bona (amadoda) yenza oko.” Uthe, “Sukwenza lonto. Kufana nomtyholi oyindoda edibana nosathana oyibhinqa endleleni aze abe neentlobano zesini naye ngoxa abantu bejongile.” (Ibaliswa nguAbu Dawood, hayi. 1/339; ibekwe njenge-saheeh ngu-al-Albaaniy kwi-Adaab al-Zafaaf, p. 143).

Yiloo nto esiye sakwazi ukuyikhankanya malunga nembeko yokwabelana ngesondo.

Makabongwe uAllh Osikhokeleyo kolu nqulo lukhulu nezimilo zalo ezigqwesileyo. Makabongwe uAllh Osibonise okona kulungileyo kwehlabathi nelizayo. Wanga uAllah angamsikelela uMprofeti wethu uMuhammad (SAAW).

USheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid

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