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“Amadoda angatshata amane :Ithini i-Islam malunga nokuthandana? Ngaba oko kuvumelekile kwiSilamsi? Ukuba nguewe, singayibonisa njani loo nto emntwini esimthandayo ngaphandle kokubangela i-fitnah?
“Amadoda angatshata amane: UbuSilamsi busifundisa ukuba sibe nenyaniso kwaye sibe nengqiqo. Ngesiqhelo, sithanda ngenxa ka-Allh kwaye sithiye ngenxa ka-Allh. UbuSilamsi busifundisa ukuba indoda nomfazi banokwakha ulwalamano oluhle olusekelwe emtshatweni.
Asitsho ukuba uthando luyi-halal okanye i-haram kuba yimvakalelo. Mhlawumbi ayikho phantsi kolawulo. Unokugweba into ephantsi kolawulo. Kodwa abantu abathandanayo bakwiziqendu ezininzi kude nomoya ococekileyo nococekileyo.
Imitshato edla ngokuba mihle nehlala ihleli yileyo iqala ubuncinci uthando. Olo thando luyakhula emva komtshato kwaye mhlawumbi luya kukhula de izibini ziqhubeke nobuqabane bazo eJannah.
Ukuba kukho uthando emntwini, kufuneka uzibuze: kutheni umthanda lamntu? Ukuba unamaSilamsi amahle, ukuzithethelela okufanelekileyo, ngoko akuyomfuneko ukuba umxelele loo mntu ngendlela ovakalelwa ngayo. Nangona kunjalo, unokwenza icebo elinzulu lokumenza acele isandla sakho. Ukuba ufuna ukwazi intsingiselo yefitna, inxalenye enkulu yinto abantu namhlanje ababiza uthando okanye uthando.
Kulo mongo, singathanda ukucaphula le fatwa ilandelayo ecacisa isigwebo samaSilamsi ngokuthandana:
"Ukuba sithetha ngemvakalelo esiyibiza ngokuba "luthando" sithetha nje ngemvakalelo. Indlela esivakalelwa ngayo ngomntu othile ayibalulekanga kangako, de iimvakalelo zethu zivakaliswe ngesenzo esithile. Ngoku ukuba eso senzo sivumelekile, emva koko kuhle kwaye kulungile. Ukuba akuvumelekanga, emva koko sifumene into angayithandiyo uAllh. Ukuba luthando phakathi kwendoda nomfazi, imvakalelo ngokwayo ayingombandela wokubuzwa ngoMhla woMgwebo. Ukuba uziva uyamthanda umntu, ngoko awukwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo zakho. Ukuba olo thando lukushukumisela ukuba uzame ukumbona loo mntu emfihlekweni uze ubonise iimvakalelo zakho ngezenzo ezivumelekileyo kuphela kwiqhina lomtshato ngoko ke oko ukwenzayo akuvumelekanga.”
Ukukhanyisa ngakumbi kulo mbandela kwinqaku singathanda ukucaphula amazwi kaSheikh Ahmad Kutty, umhlohli ophezulu kunye nesifundiswa samaSilamsi kwiZiko lamaSilamsi eToronto, eOntario, Khanada. Utsho:
KwiSilamsi, ayisosono ukuba uziva unobudlelwane obukhethekileyo okanye utyekelo ngakumntu othile ekubeni abantu bengakwazi ukulawula utyekelo olunjalo lwendalo.. Singo, nangona kunjalo, ngokuqinisekileyo sinoxanduva kwaye sinoxanduva ukuba sithwalwa zezo mvakalelo kwaye sithathe amanyathelo athile okanye amanyathelo anokuthi athathwe njenge-haram. (yalelwe).
Ngokuphathelele kwintsebenziswano yamadoda nabasetyhini, UbuSilamsi bumisela imithetho engqongqo: Iyakwalela zonke iintlobo ‘zokuthandana’ nokuzahlula nomntu wesini esahlukileyo, kunye nokuxubana okungakhethiyo kunye nokuxuba.
Ukuba, nangona kunjalo, akukho namnye okwenzayo oku kungasentla, kwaye yonke into ayifunayo kukucinga ngokutshata nomntu, into enjalo ngokwayo ayithathwa njengeharam. Inyaniso, AmaSilamsi asikhuthaza ukuba sitshate nabantu esineemvakalelo ezikhethekileyo kunye nolwalamano olukhethekileyo ngabo. Ngaloo ndlela, AmaSilamsi acebisa ukuba amaqabane anokuba ngamaqabane omtshato abonane ngaphambi kokuba acebise ukutshata. Ukuchaza isizathu sengcebiso enjalo, uMprofeti (uxolo neentsikelelo zibe phezu kwakhe) watsho: "Oko kuya kuphucula / kukhuthaza ubudlelwane."
Le mvume nangona, siyacetyiswa ukuba singathabatheki yinkangeleko yangaphandle yomntu; ezi zinokulahlekisa kakhulu. Umtshato liqabane elihlala ixesha elide yaye ukuxabiseka kokwenene komntu kumiselwa kungekhona yinkangeleko yakhe yasemzimbeni, kodwa ngakumbi ngomntu wangaphakathi okanye umlinganiswa. Kungoko, emva kokuchaza ukuba abantu bajonge ubuhle, ubutyebi kunye nosapho kwiqabane lomtshato, uMprofeti (uxolo neentsikelelo zibe phezu kwakhe) usicebise ukuba sithathele ingqalelo “inkolo okanye isimilo” ngaphezu kwazo zonke ezinye izinto.
ISilamsi asivumeli naluphi na ulwalamano olungekho mthethweni phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. U-Allah umisele umtshato njengendlela esemthethweni yokwanelisa umnqweno wesini, kwaye ngomtshato indoda nomfazi benza usapho olusekelwe kwimithetho ka-Allah, nabantwana babo bangamalungisa. KwiSilamsi, akukho nto ifana nobudlelwane bentombi nesoka. Mhlawumbi utshatile okanye awutshatanga. Ukuba nesoka okanye intombi, kungakhathaliseki inqanaba lokusebenzisana kunye nokubandakanyeka, iHaram ngokupheleleyo!
Ukudibana phakathi kwesini yenye yeengcango ezikhokelela kwi-fitnah (isilingo). ISharee'ah izaliswe bubungqina obubonisa ukuba kubalulekile ukukulumkela ukuwela kwimigibe kashaytaan kulo mba.. Xa uMprofeti (uxolo neentsikelelo zika-Allh zibe phezu kwakhe) wabona umfana ejonge ibhinqa eliselula, wajika intloko ukuba ajonge ecaleni, watsho:
“Ndabona umfana nebhinqa eliselula, kwaye andizange ndithembele ku-shaytaan ukuba angabahendi. Ibaliswa ngu-al-Tirmidhi (885) kwaye yahlelwa njenge-hasan ngu-al-Albaaniy kwiSaheeh al-Tirmidhi.
Oku akuthethi ukuba kuharam ukuba indoda okanye ibhinqa lithande umntu othile elikhethe ukuba liqabane., kwaye uzive umthanda loo mntu kwaye ufuna ukutshata naye ukuba kunokwenzeka. Uthando lunento yokwenza nentliziyo, kwaye inokuvela entliziyweni yomntu ngenxa yezizathu ezaziwa okanye ezingaziwayo. Kodwa ukuba kungenxa yokuxuba okanye ukujonga okanye izingxoxo ze-haraam, ke ikwayiHaram. Ukuba kungenxa yokwazana kwangaphambili, ukuba uzalana okanye ngenxa yokuva ngaloo mntu, kwaye umntu akanako ukuyinqanda, ke akukho nto imbi ngolo thando, Logama nje umntu ebambelele kwimida engcwele ebekwe nguAllh.
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymien (Iintlobo ezine zothando) watsho:
Umntu usenokuva ukuba umfazi unesimilo, unesidima yaye unolwazi, ngoko ke unokufuna ukumtshata. Okanye ibhinqa lisenokuva ukuba indoda inesimilo esihle yaye inesimilo yaye inolwazi yaye izinikele elunqulweni, ngoko ke unokufuna ukumtshata. Kodwa unxibelelwano phakathi kwaba babini bancomana ngeendlela ezingamkelekanga ngokweSilamsi yingxaki, nto leyo ekhokelela kwimiphumo eyintlekele. Kule meko akuvumelekanga ukuba indoda idibane nebhinqa okanye umfazi adibane nendoda., kwaye uthi ufuna ukumtshata. Kunoko kufuneka amxelele wali (umgcini) ukuba ufuna ukutshata naye, okanye kufuneka amxelele wali wakhe ukuba ufuna ukutshata naye, njengo-Umar (wanga uAllâh angakholiswa nguye) wenza xa wayenikela ngentombi yakhe uHafsah ngomtshato ku-Abu Bakr kunye 'no-Uthmaan (wanga uAllâh angakholiswa ngabo bobabini). Kodwa ukuba ibhinqa liqhagamshelana nendoda ngokuthe ngqo okanye ukuba indoda iqhagamshelana nebhinqa ngokuthe ngqo, oku kunokukhokelela kwi-fitnah (isilingo).
Liqaa’aat al-Baab il-Maftooh
Iindlela ezivumelekileyo zokufumana lowo umthandayo zanele i.e qhagamshelana no-wali okanye umgcini womntu onqwenela ukutshata naye, akukho mfuneko yeendlela ze-haraam, kodwa sizenza nzima kuthi kwaye u-shaytaan uyayisebenzisa loo nto.
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Ndiyayithanda le post. Jazakallahu khairan =)
Ndibhidekile malunga nenqaku…
umntu kufuneka afumane iqabane lakhe lobomi? uninzi lwabahlobo bam ababekwi-relationship kubomi babo be-unit.. utshate nentombi/isithandwa sakhe nje emva kokugqiba isidanga se-bachelors. Bonke bonwabile kakhulu & kananjalo baye bakhulula abazali babo.
Kodwa ukuba baya kulandela ulawulo lwamaSilamsi…ubomi bebungayi kuba lula ngolo hlobo. Uninzi lwamatyala kumtshato olungiselelweyo, iqabane likhethwa ngokwesigqibo sabazali/izalamane; otshatayo akananto yakuyithetha ngayo. Kwaye kwakhona.. kutheni abazali befanele babandezeleke kangaka engqondweni ? Ndingavuya kakhulu ukuba ungaxoxa ngobubele ngendlela esinokuyilandela ngayo iSilamsi kuluntu lwanamhlanje…
Ndicinga ukuba akufanele uthathe izithethe zoluntu njengesikhokelo sakho. Akukho sizathu sokuba ezo zibini ozikhankanyayo zingonwabi: ukuba ziyahambelana, kwaye banokunyamezela ukungahambelani, banokonwaba. Nangona kunjalo, oko akuthethi ukuba indlela yabo yokuqalisa ulwalamano lwabo yayilungile. Uninzi lwabahlobo bakho batshata nomntu ababenobudlelwane naye kubomi babo baseyunivesithi-ilungile loo nto, Ndiyabavuyela njengoko bengakhange badibane nobukrakra bokwahlukana. Nangona kunjalo, uninzi lwabahlobo bam bohlukana namaqabane abo ababenawo kubomi babo baseyunivesithi. Isixa asibonisi nto, kwaye ayicacisi nto. Abantu banokufumana izinto ezintle ngaphandle kokuqwalasela imithetho ka-Allah, oku akubonisi ukuba imithetho ka-Allh iphosakele (Hasha). Into ekufuneka uyithathele ingqalelo njengesiseko sakho yimithetho yobungcwele. Indlela ekhokelela ebubini ayinakuthatyathwa njengendlela ethe tye, nokuba kwezinye iimeko sibona khange. Kwaye u, asinakuze siqiniseke ukuba ayizange ikhokelele ebubini: izibini ezitshatileyo emva kokuthandana’ umtshato ubunokuba ngcono ukuba bebeyilandele ngokufanelekileyo imithetho ka-Allah. Nokuba umtshato ubungabonisi naluphi na uphawu losizi / ukuzisola okanye ukufumana nasiphi na isohlwayo kweli hlabathi, sikholelwa ukuba nakuphi na ukwenza okungalunganga kuya kuthatha isabelo sako ngoMhla woMgwebo, hayi thina?
UbuSilamsi benza ubomi bethu bube noxolo, kodwa akunyanzelekanga ukuba ibelula, iyayenza? Asinakuthi ubomi bukaHazrat Yasir noHazrat Sumayya babulula, hayi, kodwa babengafuni ukuba kube lula. Into ababeyifuna yayikukuba “elula”: Imvume ka-Allh… Andiqondi ukuba kufanele kuthathwe njengoxinzelelo lwengqondo ukuba umzali afumane iqabane elilungileyo: abazali bethu bazama njalo, kunzima kakhulu ukusinika eyona nto ingcono kuyo yonke into, ukususela kwimini esazalwa ngayo. Ukuba banokuzama ngamandla ukusingenisa kwezona dyunivesithi zibalaseleyo nje ukuze basibone sonwabile, yintoni enokubavuyisa ngaphezu kokubona abantwana babo bonwabile emtshatweni wabo, leyo kwiimeko ezininzi ibaluleke ngakumbi kuneyunivesithi oya kuyo?
Kwakhona, http://www.zawaj.com/dating-in-islam-qa/ Oku kunokunceda umbuzo wakho malunga nomtshato olungelelanisiweyo.
Uluntu lwanamhlanje… Yinto enye enzima ukuziqhelanisa nayo ukuba ufuna ukuba ngumSilamsi oziqhelanisayo(kwaye ndihlala kwindawo ekucingelwa ukuba 90% ilizwe lamaSilamsi), kodwa ukuba kukho nantoni na enokungqubana ne-Islam, kungcono uyishiye, nangona ithetha ukuba ngumlahlelwa phantsi ekuhlaleni xa kufikwa kuloo nto… Kulula ukuthetha, kunzima ukwenza? Ewe, kodwa ibhaso oya kulifumana liya kuba ngokufanelekileyo. Owu, kwaye, Andililo igosa lale webhusayithi, ukuba kungafuneka ndibonise.
Nantoni na engasentla iyinyani, ivela kuAllh, kwaye okuseleyo kuvela kum.
Assalamualaikum.
Ibilicebiso elihle elo, Nam ndifuna ukubuza umbuzo
Isithandwa sam ngoyena uya kuba ngumyeni wam kungekudala kwaye ngaba kulungile kwi-Islam ukuba silala ngesondo ngaphambi komtshato wethu??
Assalamu Alaikum udade,
ISilamsi siyakwalela ukusebenzisana phakathi kwabantu besini esahlukileyo. Ngoko ukuba nobudlelwane, ndiyeke ukwabelana ngesondo, ngaphambi komtshato awuvumelekanga. Usisi, Kukukrexeza kwaye kusohlwayo. Kwaye ukuba uqinisekile ukuba uya kutshata nalo mzalwana, kulunge kanye kuni nobabini ukuba ningawuciki umtshato wenu, kube ngoku, ukuze ungaweli kwi-zina.
Ndiyanibongoza ukuba niphume kobu budlelwane kwaye nobabini niguquke ku-Allah.
Wanga u-Allah angakwenza kube lula kuwe kwaye akukhokele. Ameen!
umhle nkosazana
salaam,
Ndiyoyika ukuba awukwazi ukuyenza loo nto. Nobabini aniyi kuba halal omnye komnye de kube yenziwe i-nikah.
Inokuthi ithathwe njengezina…
Ndiyathemba ukuba oku kuncede!
hayi ..awunoyenza lonto ..coz ayinguwe lo ulaziyo ikamva its allah kwaye wazi ukuba uzakutshata nabani.
akukho sisi ukuba haram ukuba ngesondo phambi komtshato
Subhan Allah.
ndinguye 26 Ndingumfundi we-muslimah kwaye ndiyazi ukuba i-BF/GF yi-haraam. Andizange ndiyifunde indlela yokuphila. U-Allah uyawusikelela umtshato apho iindlela zazivumelekile. Awunakwenza nto iHarram ukuze ufumane iholo. Ndiphumelele ilotho yokuya eHajj? Oh Kulungile. ayisebenzi ngaloo ndlela. Kuya kufuneka urhole ngendlela yeholo ukuze uye eHajj. Ngokufanayo neqabane kufuneka ulandele imithetho kunye nemimiselo kwi-T ukuze ube nomtshato onoyolo onempumelelo.
Ndadibana nomyeni wam emsebenzini. Khange ndincokole netshit, kwaye wayenza yacaca kuye ukuba ufuna umtshato uthethe wali yam. Ukuba ufuna nje ukuncwasa andinguye lamntu. WL, naye waye straight ethetha wacela isandla sam via wali. Ndafunda ngaye ngabantu… hayi ngaye ekuqaleni. Ndabuza abantu asebenza nabo, mosque yakhe njl. Ndibuze ngapha nangapha, kwaye wamvumela umli wam ukuba anxibelelane naye. Le yindlela efanelekileyo. Emva kokuba wali wam evuya savunyelwa ukuba sidibane sihlale sincokola NO wali wam. kwaye saba neendibano ezininzi ezinje. Iintlanganiso sasiziqhubela endlini , ngaphandle kweengcango kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo kunye neemeko. Emva konyaka sobabini sonwabile kwaye silesed omnye komnye e deen, umlinganiswa. Ngoko satshata ngendlela ye-halal nikkah kunye nenyanga kamva u-Walima.
Ngoko unokutshata ngendlela evumelekileyo kwaye u-Allah ayisikelele. Okanye ulandele indlela ye-harram kwaye uhlale emtshatweni ogcwele i-fitna kwaye awusikelelwa.
p.s Ndihlala e-UK kwidolophu engenamaSilamsi. Ndandicinga ukuba akukho themba ngam. kodwa uAllh ngoyena ubalaseleyo kubacwangcisi. Beka nje ithemba lakho kuye kwaye wenze izinto ngendlela esemthethweni.
Ndim i 24 intombazana enonyaka kwaye ndiyamthanda umfana , ndifuna ukwenza izinto ngendlela ye-halal kuba ndiyintombazana engumSilamsi kwaye unguye , ingxaki uqhawule umtshato kwaye unaye 6 abantwana bomtshato wangaphambili kwaye ukhona 37, Ndiye ndayiqaphela yonke lento ndajonga ngapha kwayo ndazibona ndonwabile naye ndigqibezela ihalf my deen. Nangona kunjalo ndiyithengele le phambili abazali bam kwaye abavumi ukudibana naye okanye ukumnika ithuba , bayandixelela …without my mothers blesse it will be domed and soze amnkele indoda nge 6 abantwana kunye 37 iminyaka yobudala . Abantwana bakhe bahlala nomama kunye nabantu abadala 3 bonke abantu abadala bayakwazi ukuzixhasa kwaye kukho umama onokubaxhasa . Ndazama ukucacisela abazali bam oku . Bathetha ngokundilahla xa ndifuna ukutshata nalomfana . Ndiqaphele yonke into kwaye ndonwabile ukutshata nalo mfana kwaye ndiphile ubomi bam ngokweSilamsi kodwa abazali bam abavumi kwaye andifuni ukubalimaza. . Naliphi na icebiso ??? Enkosi .
Usisi, Ndingacebisa ukuba ucele u-Imam ukuba abe nelizwi nosapho lwakho kwaye mhlawumbi uzame ukufumana usapho lwakho ludibane naye kuqala. Ukuba kunjalo usapho lwakho lubeke unyawo lwalo kwaye alukuncedi, akukho nto ingako onokuyenza njengoko ufuna imvume wali yakho ukutshata.
Ukuba umntu onomdla wathetha kuphela wali ke wayeza kumazi njani umntu phambi kokuba isigqibo ngomtshato ? Wazi njani ukuba uyahambelana naye ngokweenkolelo, imikhwa, izinto ezinomdla njl okanye nokuba kukho nawuphi na umtsalane phakathi kwezi zimbini ?
Assalamu Alaikum mzalwana,
Uyakwazi ukuthetha nentombazana okoko nje kubukho wali yakhe. Awukwazi ukuthetha naye wedwa ukususela kuMprofeti (WABONA) watsho, “Nanini na indoda ikunye nomfazi uMtyholi wenza eyesithathu” (Sahih Bukhari).
Kusisono ukuba indoda okanye umSilamsi umfazi abe nesondo ngaphandle komtshato okanye umtshato wangaphambi komtshato.
Ezinye izenzo esizenzayo zibeka imizekelo ebalaseleyo ekhokela abanye. Dade uyeva ukuba wenze into ekufuneka yenziwe ngumSilamsi ngamnye. Kukuziphatha kwakhe nabafazi bakhe kunye nokuphila ubomi obuvumelana nobuSilamsi okuya kugqiba apho akhoyo.
Maysoon – ke wena nomyeni wakho benithandana’ ngemvume wali yakho?.
Sister boy friend/girlfriend relationships are not blessed even after umtshato.Ikhokelela kwi zina
isithuba esihle… ndiyayithanda icace kakhulu! enkosi!
ukuya PM,
umbuliso!
ndicela undincede ukhanyise ingqondo yam..
ndinengxaki kwaye ndifuna isikhokelo.. apho ndingakuthumela khona imeyile yam?
Assalamu'alaykum
Ndithandazela ukuba uphile kakuhle kwaye usempilweni, Amen..
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Salam alykomm. Ndaye ndahamba as2al ! Hål.momken kunembeko ro2yard. Wala än sa7yen We shway gebet 3än wa3ey be saydna Mohammad????
Ndiyabhida ukuba uthetha ukuthini kanye kanye ngeencoko ze-haram ezikhankanywe kwisiqendu sesibini ukuya kumhlathi wokugqibela weli nqaku.
Ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo, esithi ndiyakuthanda, ndiyakukhumbula, ndifuna ukuba nawe etc etc etc etc etc. Iintolo zeShiytan.
Shiya loo magama de nibe halal omnye komnye emva kwenikkah yenzani kwaye nithethe ngokuthanda kwenu. Kodwa akuvumelekanga ukuthetha “ngenkanuko”. Ngaphambi komtshato kufuneka ugxeke kwindlela yakho, intloko ecacileyo, ewe ukhulisa iimvakalelo kwaye ewe unokumkhumbula loo mntu. Kodwa loo mntu usengowasemzini. Ke akufanelanga uxelele umntu ongamaziyo ezona mvakalelo zakho zangaphakathi ngokungathi izinto azihambi uya kuzithoba., uzenze buthathaka kwaye ubutshivela bungakwenza uwe esonweni. Yomelela, intloko ecacileyo, thetha ngokugxekayo, iincoko ezakhayo. Musa ukuba neefowuni zodwa. Lungiselela ukuba ube ne wali egumbini, okanye ifowuni yesithethi enye, ukuba uthetha kwi skype okanye msn qinisekisa wali ekhoyo, umntu ukufunda iitekisi kunye emails. Kwaye yenze icace loo nto kulowo ufuna isandla sakho.
Bendizibuza nje. Ngaba kuvumelekile ukuya kumntu ofuna ukutshata naye kwaye ucele iinkcukacha zoqhagamshelwano wali wakhe? Ndiya kuthetha ukuba asazi wali wakhe, njani ukubavumela ukuba iinjongo zethu kwindawo yokuqala?
Ukuba kunokwenzeka, ungacela umntu omaziyo ukuba ambuze iinkcukacha zoqhagamshelwano wali. Ukuba oko akunakwenzeka ungahlala unguye ngokwakho. Kodwa kufuneka iphele nalo kuba kusoloko kukho amathuba e-fitnah. Unokufumana eli khonkco kwi-islamqa iluncedo inshallah- http://islamqa.info/en/ref/13791/talking%20before%20marriage.
UAllh Wazi ngcono.
Ndifuna ukutshata ngabazali bam, kodwa asikwazanga ukufumana umdlalo ofanelekileyo. Kulo mdlalo wokulinda, ndimdala kakhulu. Ngoku ndizama ukudibana namadoda kwiimbutho zolonwabo apho kukho amadoda namabhinqa. le atleast iya kundivumela ukuba ndazi ukuba kukho ezinye singles phaya. ndizamile nge masjid, kunye nezinye iindlela ze-halal, kodwa uxolo, akukho mntu uncedayo. ngoko ke kufuneka senze ntoni. ndisandula ukudibana nomfana kwitheko lentlalontle, kunye nomntu wonke apho, wanikezela ngesalat kuba yayilixesha. andithabatheki yinkangeleko yakhe yangaphandle, kodwa into yokuba wadibana ethobekile kwaye wanikela isalat, ndiyathanda ukwazi ngakumbi ngaye kwaye ndisondele kuye ngomtshato. kuphosakele ukwenza oku? Andikwazi ukuxelela abazali bam ukuba basondele kuye njengoko bengazange badibane, kwaye ihlazo layo kumaqela omabini ukuba afikelele kumfo kwaye athi, intombi yam yadibana nawe ndaweni ithile kwaye icinga ukuba ungafanelana, ungayicinga ke intombi yethu……Ndicinga ukuba kulungile ukusondela kum, as long ndingaqali ukuthandana naye before umtshato.
Assalamu Alaikum udade,
Kuhle ukuba ucele abazali bakho ukuba bathethe naloo mntu, kuba ngaloo ndlela uhlala ngaphakathi kwemida yamaSilamsi. UMprofeti (WABONA) watsho, “Nanini na xa indoda ikunye nomfazi, uMtyholi wenza isithathu” (Sahih Bukhari). Injongo yakho isenokuba inyanisekile, kodwa uShaytan uhlala ekhona ukuze abangele i-fitnah. Kwaye ukucaphula inqaku “Ngokuphathelele kwintsebenziswano yamadoda nabasetyhini, UbuSilamsi bumisela imithetho engqongqo: Iyakwalela zonke iintlobo ‘zokuthandana’ nokuzahlula nomntu wesini esahlukileyo, kunye nokuxubana okungakhethiyo kunye nokuxuba”.
Nceda ujonge eli khonkco kwakhona http://islamqa.info/en/ref/93450/talking%20before%20marriage
Kusisono ukuba indoda okanye umSilamsi umfazi abe nesondo ngaphandle komtshato okanye umtshato wangaphambi komtshato.
Kuthiwa kweli nqaku ukunxulumana nabantu besini esahlukileyo akuvumelekanga….
kodwa ingxaki kukuba kwihlabathi lanamhlanje, oku akunakuphepheka. KwiiDyunivesithi, izikolo, indawo yokusebenza…. kufuneka kubekho intsebenziswano phakathi kwezi zimbini..
Kufuneka kwenziwe ntoni kule meko?
Assalam Alaykum,
Siyathemba ukuba usempilweni entle kunye no-Iman.
Eli nqaku lithi ‘ukungacaluli’ ukuxuba kunye nokuxuba kunye 'nokwahlula’ umntu wesini esahlukileyo kuHaram.
Kwiimeko apho enye uye ukunxulumana nabantu besini esahlukileyo, njengasemsebenzini okanye kwiidyunivesithi, unxibelelwano kufuneka lugcinwe lusezantsi apho kuphela iimfuno ezibaluleke kakhulu ekufuneka kuxoxwe ngazo kwaye kungabikho nto ingaphezulu. Omnye kufuneka abambelele kwizikhokelo zamaSilamsi ngokwehlisa iliso kwaye angaxhawulani ngezandla nomntu ongeyena mahram mam okanye umfazi..
UAllh Wazi ngcono.
Ndivuma ngokupheleleyo , yona’ konke malunga nokukholisa u-Allah kunye nokonwaba
Nokuthobela uAllh. Ndiganene nendoda emangalisayo . I-WHO
Ngaba amaSilamsi kwaye ndiza kuguqukela kuyo. Islamic phambi kokuba sitshate.
Ndifuna imfundiso yamaSilamsi kunye neenkolelo ezizezam. Eyam . Ngokuba ndiyafuna
Ukuba mnye no Allah kunye nomyeni wam ukuba .
ndingumKristu…ndakhe ndathandana nomfana ongumMuslim. after adays ndadecider ukuba li muslim coz i want to hv new life…ndiyavuma kunzima ukulungisa izinto….bt ndizama ukuphepha izinto ze haram. then..i gt hurt wn my bf told me he wl leave…bt ngoku ndaqonda ukuba undixelele….ngelixa ndifunda la manqaku ndonwabe kakhulu nangona umntu endishiyile…bt ngendlela elungileyo…
I-Islam ayikuvumeli ukuba uhlale kuluntu olukhululekile…….Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uye wathandana kwaye akukho nto iphantsi kolawulo, eyona ndlela yokuphepha i-fitna kukumtshata ngaphandle kokuchitha ixesha.
Uthe eyona ndlela yokuphepha i-fit a kukutshata ngoko nangoko ngaphandle kokuchitha ixesha elingakumbi, kodwa ukuba wenza, Ngaba umtshato ungasikelelwa ngu-Allah ?
Masha Allah, Jazakall Ah Khair. Esi sithuba siyinyaniso insha Allah. Kufuneka sithembele kuAllh kwaye simbaleke uShaytan. Olunye ulutsha lucinga ukuba ukuba akukho thando (ukuthandana) Ngaphambi komtshato isibini siya kuba njengabasemzini emva komtshato ekhaya. Kuthekani ngokutshata omnye komnye ngokwemimiselo yamaSilamsi nize nithandane? Wanga u-Allah angasisindisa ebubini obusasazwa nge-hollywood, ibhollywood, i-nollywood kunye ne-kaniwood, Ameen.
Ameen
Andazi ukuba ndenzeni indoda indixelele ukuba iyandithanda kwaye izohlala indilindile noko andinazo iimvakalelo kuye kwaye ndifuna ukutshata nomntu okhethwe ngabazali bam and thats what I told the guy now everybody is telling. manditshate lendoda kuba indithanda kakhulu kwaye iyazigulisa ngoku uyekile ukutya encokola nomntu wonke phofu andazi noba uyandithanda nyani okanye akandithandanga ngathi wayendithanda nyani ngengandibuzanga. abazali bam kuqala?
Ndiyabulisa,
Ndiyintombazana engumSilamsi, 15 Ndineminyaka yobudala..ndicela iingcebiso noncedo..
Omnye wabahlobo bam (intombazana) wandixelela ukuba umfana wakhe endifunda naye uyandithanda..
(uqaphela ukuba andithethi namakhwenkwe… abazala bam kuphela)
ngoko.. ndiqale ndancama uba ndiyamthanda okanye andimfuni..(Ndandicinga ukuba ngumfana olungileyo kodwa andizange ndixelele mntu) kodwa umhlobo wam wanyanzelisa ukuba ndinike impendulo yam malunga nokuwela kwam kuye. ndiye ndavuma ukuba ndiyamthanda… kodwa ndathi akukho ncedo lokumazisa.. kuba andizuthetha naye okanye ndidibane naye.. Kwakhona umhlobo wam wandiqinisekisa ukuba akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngokuncokola naye ukuze sazane… kabuhlungu ndavuma..(Ndiyazisola ukuba aloooooot)
emva kokuziva ndinetyala ndiye ndaxelela umama ngaye kwaye wandicela ukuba ndiyeke ukuncokola naye.. ndaye ndenza njalo
Kodwa ndiyoyika … Ndiyoyika ukuba u-Allah akayi kundixolela.. okanye ukuba umntu uyazi… okanye ndingaphelelwa ngamandla ndiphinde ndithethe naye…
ndicela ingcebiso
enkosi
Assalamu Alaikum udade,
UMprofeti uMuhammad (uxolo malube kuye) watsho: Ndifunga lowo usesandleni sakhe umphefumlo wam, ukuba beningabantu abangenasono, UAllh Uza kunithabatha aze animisele abantu abonayo baze bacele uxolo kuAllh ukuze Abaxolele.” [Sahīh Muslim (2687)]
Inyani yokuba ubonile ukuba into oyenzileyo ibingalunganga kwaye uphume kuyo linyathelo elikhulu lodwa. Abantu abaninzi abanawo amandla okuthanda oko. enkosi kakhulu kuwe 🙂
Musa ukoyika ukucela uxolo kuAllh, kuba uyayithanda njengoko ichazwe kwiiQuran ezahlukeneyo njengale:
Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo, Inene mna ndiyaXolela kwabo baguqukayo, uyakholwa (kuBunye bam, kwaye abandibandakanyi naMna elunqulweni) kwaye wenza imisebenzi elungileyo, uze ke uhlale uzinzile ekuwenzeni, (de wafa). [Ta-Ha 20:82]
Sisondela kwiintsuku ezilishumi zokugqibela zeRamadan, kwaye enye yee-duas ecetyisiweyo nguMprofeti yile :
Owu Allah, Wena unguMxoleli kwaye uyathanda ukuxolela, ngoko ndixolele
O Allah, Uyaxolela kwaye Uyakuthanda ukuxolela, ndixolele.(Ahmad, Ibn Majah |, uthando olunzulu kunye nokukhuthaza ukuqhubela phambili ekufezekiseni imisebenzi yenyanga ngokusemandleni ethu)
Buza uninzi lwe-istighfar kwaye ungoyiki inguquko.
Kusisono ukuba indoda okanye umSilamsi umfazi abe nesondo ngaphandle komtshato okanye umtshato wangaphambi komtshato.
Uxolo malube phezu kwenu. wow imnandi le. enyanisweni yile meko ndizibone ndikuyo ngoku. ubhuti oliMuslim usebenza apho ndisebenza khona kwaye ndiyamthanda kakhulu ngenxa yenkolo yakhe n ndimthanda kakhulu. bendicinga ukuba kusisono ukuthanda umntu. umdla kuthi sobabini sifuna umtshato halal. kodwa ndingamjonga njani lomfana ekubeni ndingakwazi ukuthetha naye ngolohlobo kwaye kunzima nokumjonga ebusweni. ndiziva ndingakhululekanga xa ekhona kuba ndiziva ndimthanda emazantsi entliziyo yam. lo mfana ulula kakhulu kwaye i-80percent yento endiyijongayo kumntu onokuba ngumlingani. ndijongana njani naye okanye ndimazise ndifuna anditshate? walis yam ngamaKristu kwaye mna kuphela Muslim kusapho lwam. abazali bam babengamaSilamsi kunye nomgcini wam. kodwa bonke bafile ngoku. oodade bam bonke bangamaKristu nabazali bam abandikhulisayo. as a matter of fact ndihlala ndedwa kwaye ndiyafuna nyani ukutshata. ndive lomfana esithi ufuna nyani ukutshata ekuqaleni konyaka ozayo. ndenze ntoni kule meko? ngoku ndiyathandaza ngalo mba kwaye ndicela u-Allah andibone. ndicela uncedo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ndifuna ingcebiso kuba kunzima nyani ukuba kulo mhlaba ungenabazali.
Assalam o Alayikum
Usisi Ayesha,
Unokufuna uncedo kwi-imam yasekhaya ye-mosque okanye usapho lwabo ukuba babe wali kwicala lakho.
Andazi ukuba ndiyamthanda okanye andimthandi kodwa ndiyazama ukumbona ndiyazi ukuba ayilunganga ndiyazisola ngokuyenza … Andikholiswanga zizenzo zakhe zobuSilamsi okanye umlingiswa wakhe kodwa ndachukunyiswa zincomo zakhe kunye neentetho zobusi azenzayo nto leyo endivumayo ukuba ayilunganga.
I don't express any emotion of mine ndiyamphepha qho xa ekhona ndizame ukuba krwada but eskolweni dibana bendimjongile coंz he was doing much funny things now pls help me to change and how to avoid lomfana.
Umhle kakhulu………..I-islam icacisa zonke izinto ngokulula,sifuna nje ukholo & balandele , ukuba wonke muslim ukulandela islam imithetho ummiselo ngokuthembekileyo akukho ithuba sin.mashallah nice post.
Assalam Alaykum….
Ndiyawuthanda umxholo…enkosi ngokuphakamisa esi sihloko.. kunjalo namhlanje gf/bf ixhaphakile kwisizukulwana sanamhlanje… Kulusizi ukuthi unxulumano oluthile lwe-gf/bf basilela ukugcina unxulumano ngenxa yeminye imiba (usapho,ubume bobomi) kwaye baphela beqhekekile.imiba yosapho efana nosapho lwentombazana aluyithandi intombazana / inkwenkwe kuba ihlwempuzekile okanye ibubuyisela ubuSilamsi okanye yintoni na.…abanye baphela beqhekekile kuba indoda ayinakukwazi ukunika i-mahar ecelwe lusapho lwamantombazana..abanye kungenxa yebhongo…ngoku kulo mba ukuba inkwenkwe/intombazana yenzani ukuze ifumane imvume yentombazana wali? Indoda ibuyile kwaye umfazi uhlambulukile…waliphakamisa umba ukuba indoda ibuyele kwaye dont yakho uyayithanda…
Ndiwafundile onke amazwi akhe kwaye inshalla uThixo unike ukusebenzisa ubuchopho ukucinga ad ukuqonda into
i-assalamalicum…ndadibana neboyfrnd yam 1 kunyaka ophelileyo kwaye sobabini siyathandana kwaye sifuna ukutshata ngokukhawuleza….kodwa ndiyoyika ukuxelela abazali bam ngaye xa benokwenzakala….amalungu osapho lwakhe akulungele ukuthetha nabazali bam kodwa ndiyoyika ukuxelela abazali bam…Ndicela nindicebise ndingenza njani ndi approch my mother telling abt him ngendlela endiqonda ngayo insted yokwenzakala….yrs ndadibana nomfana
Wa Alaikum Salam sisi,
Kumnandi ngokwenene ukuva ukuba awufuni kukhathaza umzali wakho. Alamdulillah ngaloo nto!
Ngoku impendulo,kuqala ngaphandle, ukuxubana nesini esahlukileyo nokuba nobudlelwane akuvumelekanga kwaphela kubuSilamsi kwaye kohlwaywa.
Usenokuba uvile ukuba lo mzalwana unesimilo yaye unesimilo yaye usenokuba uye wawela kuloo nto ngoko ufuna ukutshata.. Ilungile loo nto.
Kodwa into engavumelekanga kukuhlala unxibelelana nomzalwana, ukuncokola, ukutshintshiselana ngeposi njl. kwaye ngaphandle kolwazi lwabazali.
Ndingacebisa ukuba niziqhawule zonke iimbalelwano nomzalwana nize nikhuseleke nobabini kulwalamano lweHaram. Vumela umzalwana kunye nabazali bakhe uqhagamshelane wali yakho (Apha, abazali bakho) kwaye ucele kubo isandla sakho emtshatweni ngqo. Oko kuya kuba ngcono kuni nobabini inshallah.
Kwaye uAllh Wazi kakhulu
Ndiyabulisa
ndikwi relationship wt a muslim guy…kwaye oku kuya kuba nobudlelwane bokuqala,wayemane ecuma apha kwam and xame to mi..lemme uthi siyazithanda.
Wakhe wandixelela ukuba ufuna ukwabelana ngesondo nam…kodwa ndiyala nje bcos i knw sisono…xo mvanje ndiziva ndingasamthandi bcos uyandiphazamisa dat ufuna ukundibona qha ndiyala ukumbona qha bcose am gettin to undastand dat wat av been doin all this well is Haram..ingxaki kukuba ndingena njani mxelele ukuba andiphindi ndifakwe phakathi kwaye dnt wanna in a relationship again til wen am ready..ndiyamoyika uHurtin…we av been togeda for like 3yrs nw….Ndicela ingcebiso zenu plz
Assalamu Alaikum udade,
Alhamdulillah ukuba uye waqonda ukuba le nto uyenzayo ayilunganga. Abaninzi abavumanga kodwa uAllh Ukukhokele.
Zivuleleke kwaye unyaniseke kulo mzalwana kwaye xa uthetha naye qiniseka ukuba ugxininise kwindlela ubudlelwane obuyiHaraam endaweni yokuba umenze azive iphoso lakhe.. Kwaye xa sele uyidlulisile into oza kuyithetha, nceda uhlale uqinile kwisigqibo sakho kwaye ungaxeli kwaye ubuyele kuye. Ukwenza oku ngenxa ka-Allah ngoko kufuneka umoyike ngaphezu kokulimaza umzalwana.
USathana unokuzama ukukubuyisela kuye, kodwa nceda wenze i-tauba eninzi kwaye usondele ku-Allah ngomthandazo kunye nokucengceleza iKurani.
Wanga u-Allah angenza kube lula kuwe kwaye akuvuze ngeenzame zakho. Kwaye Wanga angakunika iqabane elilungileyo. Ameen!
Assalam Alaykum, Ndinombuzo. Ndiyamthanda lomfana naye uyandithanda. Sithetha kunye kuFacebook kakhulu. Singabazala kwaye mhlawumbi siyatshata. Maxa wambi abazali bam bahlekisa ngathi ngokutshata. Ngaba sithetha kunye kuFacebook haram? Uthi uyandithanda kakhulu kodwa andizange ndiyithethe? Umyeni wam ukukopela oko etshatile kuphela unyaka wokuqala singase singaqhathi emva? Ndinexhala lokuba i-haram kakhulu. Ndicela uncedo.
Enkosi
Wa alaikum sam sisi,
Nabuphi na ubudlelwane obungaphandle kobungcwele bomtshato nomntu ongeyo-mahram buHaraam, nokuba umntu ngumakoti wakho. akukhathaliseki nokuba niyancokola okanye niyancokola nje. Ndicela ukukucebisa ukuba uyeke ukuncokola nalo mzalwana ucele inguquko kuAllah. Kungcono ukuyeka ngoku kunokuqhubeka nokuzisola, kuba xa indoda nomfazi bebodwa, owesithathu nguSathana.
Wanga u-Allah angenza kube lula kuwe. Ameen.
Mholo,
Ndiphantse ndajola nalomfana. Silindile nje kuba sisebancinci sobabini. Abazali bethu bobabini bayayazi kwaye silinde nje ukuba sithembisene xa sele sibadala. Ngaba i-haram ukuba sithetha kwaye sibhala, njl.
Jazak Al Khair
Ndifuna ingcebiso ndithandana nonyaka.
Iqabane lam kunye nam sikolu hambo lokuba ngabantu abangamalungisa. Sobabini sifunda iKurani kwaye kusenokwenzeka ukuba sibe ngamaSilamsi. Inshallah .
Sobabini siyaqonda ukuba yi-haram ukuthandana kwi-Islam kodwa sobabini siziva sididekile kwaye ndiziva ndinexhala lokuba siza kuya esihogweni.. Sineemvakalelo ezinamandla kakhulu komnye nomnye. Ndiyaqonda asizange siyingene le relationship imsulwa i.e sasingengobantu abangamalungisa ngoko, yonke akukho ngesondo phambi komtshato njl.
Ulwalamano lwethu luyingenelo, sithetha ngobomi, Islam njl …… akukho ngqondo .
Senza ntoni ? NCEDA.
Ndiphinde ndalibala ukukhankanya ndivakalelwa kukuba sivavanywa kakhulu ngu-Allah okoko saqala ukufunda iQuran. Ngaba kufuneka sitshate nangona singengawo amaSilamsi ? Ngaba umtshato/ubudlelwane bethu buya kuthathwa njenge haram?
Assalamualaikum. Ndinombuzo. Kutshanje ndiye ndadibana nalo mntu kwi-intanethi kwaye ubuso ngobuso kabini. Sobabini siyathandana kwaye siye kwiintsapho zethu malunga nokuthatha inyathelo elilandelayo. Ngaphambi kokuba athethe ukuba unomtshato omncinci ngo-Aprili kodwa ufuna ukuhamba ngendlela(njengoko ecinga xa enditshata akazukuba nalo ithuba-njengoko kuya kuba lixesha lokuqala usapho.) kwaye ke ngoku ufuna ukutshata kulo nyaka uzayo ngo-Agasti-elixesha leminyaka. Andikhathali ukumlinda unyaka ukuba siyakwazi ukwenza i- engagement ngaphambi koko. Umbuzo wam ngulo: Ngaba kuvumelekile ukuba nothethathethwano lo nyaka, kwaye ngo-Agasti 2015 ube nomsitho womtshato. ? Ufuna ukuba nemali eyaneleyo yokutshata neendleko. Ndiyamthanda kakhulu njengoko kukho iimvakalelo apho kwaye andifuni ukuqala kwakhona ukukhangela umyeni kwaye andazi ukuba iimvakalelo zam ziya kuhamba ukuba ndifumene umntu omtsha.. Ndiyazi ukuba ulutsha kwezi ntsuku lunexesha elide lothethathethwano ngoko ke luzibuza nge-islamic ukuba oko kulungile. Ngokwenene andazi ukuba mandenze ntoni. Inkxalabo yam kukuba:what if my family dont want to wait that long for me nditshate. ? Bakhetha nje ukuba ibhola iqengqeleke.
Salaam !
Ndandifuna ukubuza ukuba ndandimthanda ngokwenene umntu okokuqala ebomini bam . Ndiyazi ukuba le yi-haram kodwa yenzekile ukuba mdala kakhulu kunam 7 or eight years but that dont matter becoz he was a intern at a institution bendilungiselela pre medical test yam ngoku its over andisahambi and naye akasekho. .
Okokuqala bendicinga ukuba yicrush nje endizakulibala kodwa ndisamthanda ndicinga ngaye ixesha elininzi njengokuba bendisenza idua for ulonwabo lwakhe lomsebenzi wakhe. . Ngoko umbuzo wam ngqo ngulo “NGABA LE NGENENE HARAM UKUCINGA UMNTU OKANYE UTHANDAZE ONGEYOMEHRAM? ?
Assalamu Alaikum udade,
Ungafumana impendulo yombuzo wakho kule link http://islamqa.info/en/82010 🙂
Uxolo malube phezu kwenu, ndonwabile, kuba abahlobo bam bandixelele ukuba uthando luyi-haram kwi-islam.kodwa ndafunda i-webpage yakho .ithi uthando aluchasananga ne-islam .so.ndiyavuya ngalomba
uxolo malube kuwe.ndiyintombazana ena 18yrs, Ndizimisele kakhulu ukuya kwisikolo esiphakamileyo kodwa umbethe kwingxaki yezemali andikwazanga. ke ngoku ndenze isigqibo sokutshata kodwa andazi ukuba ndingabacacisela njani abazali bam, sele umfana sele ethumele umgadi wakhe kodwa utata ingathi akayamkeli iproposal yabo. Ndingenza ntoni? ndicela ingcebiso.
Assalamualaikum,
Am 20 iminyaka ubudala . Ndithandana nentombazana ukusukela ngoko 4 Uxolo ukuva into eyenziwa ngumyeni wakho kodwa ndikholelwe ukuba indoda nganye yamaSilamsi ayifani.i saaa Muslim umyeni uhlonipha umfazi wakhe kwaye ubancede xa befuna ngoko ke nceda ungacingi ukuba u-islam ulungile. ithuba lokufunda iquran okanye incwadi yeislam .enkosi fe-aman-Allah. Kodwa ngoku emva kokuva amabali amaninzi kunye ne-khutbah, ndiyoyika ukunxulumana. Wanga u-Allah andixolele, besikhe sachitha ubusuku kubini kodwa singabelani.
Ngoko umbuzo wam ngulo, Ngaba ndingayeka ngokunxulumene naye emva kwazo zonke ezi nqanaba ? I cant let her cry because she might think am a cheater or fraud ebeqhele kuye.
Kodwa enyanisweni ndisamthanda. Kodwa ndibhidekile ukuba mandiqhubeke ngokunxulumene okanye ndiyimise ukusukela ngoku.. My frndz knw abt my relation wandicela ukuba ndiyiyeke kuba ingadala ingxaki later. Kodwa andicingi ukuba oku kuya kwenzeka. Kwaye usapho lwam alulwazi ulwalamano lwam .
Ndazama ukuyeka kwinyanga edluleyo, kodwa ngosuku olulandelayo andizange ndiphinde ndikwazi ukuyibamba … Kodwa ngoku ndifuna indlela yokwenyani okanye ndazi ukuba leliphi inyathelo ekufuneka ndilithabathe ngakumbi ebomini bam..
Kwaye oku kundenzele umyalezo kuwe.
Ndiyathemba ukuba uyayiqonda imeko yam.
Ukuba kukho imibuzo ongathanda ukuyibuza ndicela undincede.
Kufuneka ndimthande ngendlela ethe tye ukuba nguewe,
Inkwenkwe yamaSilamsi
Assalamualaikum
Wa alaikum salam wa rahmathullahi wa barkathuhu,
Okokuqala nje, Udumo lonke malube kuAllh Lowo Unibonise ukuba le nto niyenzayo ayilunganga. Kuhle ukuva ukuba uzama ukulungisa impazamo yakho. Akhi, Ndingacebisa ukuba uchazele lo dade ukuba kutheni kuphosakele ukuqhubeka nobu budlelwane emehlweni ka-Allah kwaye uyiphelise apho.
Yenza istighfar eninzi kunye ne-dua ku-Allah ukugcina i-Iman yakho kwaye iya komelela.
Ungayenza ngendlela ye-halal ngokusondela kubazali bakhe kwaye ucele isandla sakhe emtshatweni. Uthandaze u-Istikhara kwaye ukuba kulungile kuwe kweli hlabathi nakwi-inshallah elandelayo kuya kwenzeka.
Wanga u-Allah angenza kube lula kuwe, Ameen
Oku kuthunyelwa kwaba luncedo kakhulu. NdingumKristu kwaye andizange ndenze uphando lwam kwimithetho yamaSilamsi ngokwaneleyo. Ndandiqinisekile ukuba a “umtshato wethutyana” ibilungile, kodwa bendiphazama. Andiqondi ukuba kutheni le ndoda yamaSilamsi ivunyelwe 35+ amaqabane ngesondo kwimitshato yethutyana, kodwa ndaxakwa xa ndisithi ndiyamthanda emva kweenyanga neenyanga sithandana. Ubudlelwane phakathi kweenkolo kufuneka buphetshwe ngazo zonke iindleko. Kwaye ewe, Ndiguqukile andisayi kuphinda ndisenze esi sono. Andisoze ndisiqonde isizathu sokwahlukana okunamandla kwindlela ukholo lwamaSilamsi olulandelwa ngayo. Abazali bakhe banokumfanisa njani nentombi enyulu elandele imigaqo ka-Allh ngoxa yena engayilandelanga?
Ndim i 24 unyaka ubudala ujonge ukutshata. Andizange ndibe nomdla kumakhwenkwe kunye nobudlelwane kwaye ndihlala ndigxile kwimfundo yam. Ngoku ndisebenza ngokukhululeka, usapho lwam lukhangela umdlalo ofanelekileyo. Kodwa ingxaki kukuba nesidanga senkosi, ukulindela kwezimvo zosapho lwam malunga nokuba umfana ofanelekileyo kum uye wanda. Kwaye kukho ukungavisisani nento endiyijongayo kumdlalo xa kuthelekiswa nento efunwa lusapho lwam. Andizange ndinxibelelane ngokwenene nabafana ngoko ke ndididekile kweyona ndlela ilungileyo yeSilamsi yokufumana umntu ofanelekileyo. Ngaba ndiqhubeka ndibona uhlobo lomfana olukhethwa lusapho lwam, okanye ndifumana umntu ngokwam?
Kodwa kuthekani ukuba lo mfo akazi ukuba ngubani wali wakhe, kufuneka enze ntoni?
Assalamu Alaikum udade,
Umzalwana unokubuza udade inombolo wali wakhe ekubeni leyo kuphela kwendlela yokwazi. Kodwa kufuneka alinganisele kuloo nto kwaye abe nayo yonke incoko kunye naye.
Ndikwi age ready for umtshato. Ndine bf emhlophe engeyo muslim engakholelwayo kuthixo, kodwa ufuna ubomi nam. Wafunda iincwadi ezintathu zeKoran, wavuma ukukhulisa abantwana njengamaSilamsi, wavuma ukuyeka utywala kunye nenyama yehagu, kodwa uyala ukuguqukela kubuSilamsi! Ndizamile ukumenza afunde kwaye aqonde ukuguqula. Yintoni enye omawuyenze? Naye unobuntu obufanayo, umsebenzi omhle ohlawula kakuhle, kwimvelaphi yentsapho elungileyo kwaye ubuxabise ubomi bentsapho.
Inkxalabo yam kuphela kukuba ndifuna umyeni / umguquleli wamaMuslim, nokungena emtshatweni ngokufanelekileyo. Andikhululekanga ukuba ndingayenzanga ngokuchanekileyo, kwaye iyasinyanzela ukuba siye phambili. Ndimele ndithi lo mfo ungcono kakhulu kunamakhwenkwe amaSilamsi azelwe. Ndiyazi ukuba uza kucebisa, kodwa lo mbuzo uqhubeka. Ndiqhawule umtshato izihlandlo ezithathu ngalo mba, saye saphinda sadibana but intliziyo yam ingathi ayinantliziyo without him seriously its depressing. Ndicela uncedo!
Assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh Sister , Ndithandazela ukuba usempilweni entle kwaye eemaan aameen . Imeko yakho ngokuqinisekileyo idinga uncedo kuShaykh okanye u-Imam okanye uMcebisi wamaSilamsi ngoko ke uqhagamshelane nabo ngobubele .
Okokuqala singathanda ukukuxelela ukuba xa ufuna iqabane , UBulungisa kunye ne-Eemaan yomntu kufuneka ibe yimilinganiselo yokuqala efanele ukukuchukumisa . Oku kuthetha ukuzibophelela kwabo kwinkolo yethu yamaSilamsi . Okunye okufana nomsebenzi ohlawulwa kakuhle , imvelaphi yosapho njlnjl iza mva . Ukuxhuzulwa kwakho lo mntu ukuba ungcono kunabazalwana abangamaSilamsi kunokuba kuphosakele . Njengoko eneneni baninzi abazalwana abazilolongayo abalungileyo apho nabalinganiswa ababalaseleyo .
Okwesibini kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu kusisono esikhulu ngokwenene ukuthetha nomntu ongeyena mahram . Kufuneka uyiyeke ngokukhawuleza. Ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kufuneka ukuba uguquke ngokunyanisekileyo kwaye ungaze wenze esi sono kwakhona kwaye ubandakanye wali kunye nosapho lwakho ifuna iqabane elihle Muslim kuwe..
Ukuba nabafazi abangaphezulu kwesinye kuyacetyiswa kakhulu kwaye akuvumelekanga nje , Umntu omkhankanyileyo apha ufunde iQuran amazwi ka-Allah 'KATHATHU’ ukanti wala ukwamkela ubuSilamsi . Inene uAllh Uyamkhokela lowo Athanda ukumkhokela , Nangona kunjalo xa iintliziyo zitywiniwe akukho mntu ngaphandle kuka-Allah unokumvulela loo nto . Inene bukhona ubulumko buka-Allah ngokuvumela amadoda angamaSilamsi kuphela ukuba amkele abantu beencwadi njengabafazi kodwa abafazi abangamaSilamsi abanalo olo khetho. , kodwa kubalulekile ukukholelwa ku-Allah njengokuphela koThixo kunye noMuhammad sallAllahu alaihi wassalam njengoMthunywa waKhe. . Nangona kunjalo kufuneka ngandlela zonke uqhagamshelane nemasjid ukumnika i-dawah kwaye ungayenzi ngokwakho . Ukuba akabuyeli kubuSilamsi akavumelekanga ukuba abe liqabane kuwe .
Ekugqibeleni , Guquka kuAllh ngokunyaniseka kwaye Bandakanye usapho lwakho ekufuneleni iqabane .
Assalmo Alaikum…..
Ndiyamthanda umntu. ndi 24 iminyaka.. Ndifuna ukumtshata.. Umama notatakhe bavumelene bobabini ..ndiye ndamxelela nomama. naye uvunyiwe..kodwa ukufunda kwam akukagqibi. Yiyo loo nto ndingakwazi ukungena emtshatweni..ndandidibana naye amaxesha ambalwa. Kodwa ngoku ndayeka ukudibana naye, njengangaphambi komtshato akuvumelekanga kwi-islam..Ngalo lonke ixesha mnike i-dawa ye-sunnah ne-quran..uyandithanda nyani nam ngokunjalo., Uyawalandela amazwi am…sithetha emnxebeni kuphela..Kwaye ukuba bendisazi, ngaphambi kokuthandana, uthando lwangaphambi komtshato aluvumelekanga, emva koko zange ndabandakanyeka kule relationship..ndiyoyika kakhulu, njengoko sisenza isono esikhulu..ndicela undincede, ndingathetha naye emnxebeni??
kwaye ukuba kunjalo, ndenze njani ke?? ” Ndiyakuthanda wena” la mazwi , uthanda kakhulu ukuva ngam..Andikwazi kuthetha kuye, la mazwi???
Wa Alaikum uxolo mntakwethu,
Ekubeni sele usazi ukuba ubudlelwane bangaphambi komtshato abuvumelekanga kwiSilamsi, akufanele kube nzima ukuba uqonde ukuba nokuthetha akuvumelekanga.. Xa indoda nomfazi bebodwa owesithathu ngushaitan. Nokuba ababini kuni nithetha ngefowuni u-shaitan uya kuhlala ekhona ukunilahlekisa nobabini. Ukuthetha ngemibandela yothando ngaphambi komtshato nako akuvumelekanga.
Alhamdulillah bobabini abazali bakho bavumile umtshato. Mzalwana ukuba uziva ukuba awukwazi ukugcina iimvakalelo zakho phantsi kokukhangela kungcono ukuba utshate kunokuba uwele kuHaram. Yaye xa kufikwa ‘ekufundiseni’ yakhe malunga ne-Islam ndingacebisa ukuba aye kwiiklasi zoosisi endaweni yokuba wena uyidlulisele kuye. Izinto ezininzi zenzekile ebomini babantu ezichasene ngokupheleleyo neSilamsi nje ngendoda nomfazi besebenzisana yedwa ukuze 'bafunde’ malunga neSilamsi.
Ekugqibeleni, guqukani kuAllh ngokunyanisekileyo.
Ndiyalithanda eli nqaku. Pls ndingacebisa intombazana eneminyaka elingana neyam kwasekuqaleni ngaphandle kokwenza naluphi na uhlobo lozina naye ngaphambi kokuba atshate naye.
Assalmo Alaikum
Ndiphuma kusapho lwamaMuslim asePakistan. Kunyaka ubuyile ndadibana nomfana ongumKristu oMhlophe owandinceda kwimeko enzima kakhulu endandijongene nayo ngelo xesha.. Ibali elide elifutshane sathandana. ndinguye 24 kwaye unguye 26. Ndamxelela ukuba andinakutshata naye kuba ndingumMuslim kwaye ungumKristu ngoko asinakamva ekuphenduleni oko wayethembise ukuba uya kubuyela kum.. Kodwa ndathi kuye andifuni abuyele kum ndifuna kuphela amkele inislam kunye nemithetho yayo ukuba ufuna ngokusuka entliziyweni.. Ke waqala ukukhangela phezulu kwaye waqala ukufunda ngeSilamsi kwaye kamva waqala ukufunda iKurani ngoguqulelo njengoko iphethe zonke iimpendulo kuyo yonke imibuzo yethu.. Ngexesha lenkqubo abazali bam baye bafumanisa kwaye bandixelela ukuba xa ndifuna ukuba naye mandishiye intsapho yam. Sele ingunyaka ngoku kwaye umfana uyabuyela kule nyanga kwaye uyenza kuba efuna ngokusuka entliziyweni yakhe.. Ndiye ndamxelela umama kwaye ndimxelele ukuba umfana ufuna ukuza apha kwam nabazali bakhe for a proper proposal and ufuna ukunditshata kodwa abazali bam abakavumi kuba banexhala lokuba abanye bazothini.. nabo bacinga ukuba its a wrong decision kwaye ndoyisakala ukuqonda ukuba sisigqibo esingalunganga njani kuba akangowasekhaya? Kodwa iSilamsi sithi singahlukanisi omnye komnye ngokusekelwe kumbala. U-Allah wazi ngcono ukuba angangqineka engumSilamsi ongcono kunaye nabani na kuthi kwaye ndiyathandaza ukuba enze njalo. Ngoku ndikwimeko apho ndinqwenela ukutshata lomfana kwaye abazali bam abandifuni kwaye andifuni nokubathobela.. Umama uthi philela abanye kodwa andiqondi ukuba ngoobani aba anqwenela ukuba ndibaphilele kuba ngokweSilamsi ubomi bethu kufuneka sizinikele kuAllah kuphela.. Andazi ukuba ndenze ntoni kungoko ndifuna uncedo apha ndiyathemba ukuba ungandicebisa ngcono. U-Allah uyayazi into esentliziyweni yam kwaye emva kwayo yonke le nto ukuba ndimamela abazali bam kwaye kwixesha elizayo bacela ukuba nditshate nomnye umntu abacinga ukuba ufanelekile kum ndiyazi ukuba andizokwazi ukumthanda ngentliziyo yam endicinga ukuba ungabikho fair komnye umfana.
Salaam Alaikum Ndiguqukele kwiSilamsi ndisenzela uAllah ngokupheleleyo emva kokuphinda ndiqhelane nesoka elisele livalelwe.. Wacebisa ukuba sincokole ngeefowuni kunye ne-imeyile. Unyanisile ukuba uSathana ube ngumntu wesithathu xa abantu ababini abangatshatanga bebodwa ngokunyaniseka saqala iincoko zefowuni ezingafanelekanga iinyanga ezimbalwa kodwa siyeke ngokukhawuleza emva kokuba sobabini siziva ngathi asivumelekanga.. Siyathandana kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ndiziva ngathi abantu banezabo iitoliko kwiKur’an eNgcwele. Uzithethelela izinto ngokungathi sitshatile ngoku kodwa asitshatanga! Emva konyaka wonke sithandana kakhulu kodwa mva nje besisoloko singqubana ngeentloko kwizinto ezilula. Andifuni kumenzakalisa nangona eyona njongo iphambili kukukholisa u-Allah hayi umntu. Umbuzo wam ngowokuba ndingamxelela njani ukuba le ndlela besikuyo ayimlungelanga uEmann wethu. WayengumSilamsi ngaphambi kwam kodwa eyona nto inkulu kukuba kufuneka sibe nenkolo kuyo yonke ibhodi hayi kwiindawo abona zifanelekile.. Inshallah yonke into iya kusebenzela ukulunga kuka-Allah… Usikelelke
Ndinqwenela ukutshata intombi yamaMuslim engathandaziyo kuYesu , ayimthathi njengonyana kaThixo, ukholelwa kuthixo omnye,
kodwa abazali bam bandichasa ukuba nditshate ndithini
Mna naye senze izicwangciso ezininzi kwaye ngandlela zonke wamkela indlela yobuSilamsi kwaye unqwenela ukukhulisa abantwana njengamaMuslim.
ndibaqinisekisa njani abazali bam xa bengafuni ukumamela
asalamu alaika mntakabawo udinga nje 2 Yiba nomonde kwaye unokwenza istikara ucele ku-ALLAH
ukhokelo bceause ungoyena waziwa kakhulu kuzo zonke izinto
salamualaekum..ndicela sele ndithandana nomfana ozinikeleyo ongumSilamsi..sithandana iminyaka emibini edlulileyo ngaphandle kobudlelwane bezesondo kodwa luthando. Ukuthetha ngomtshato akuyonto ilandelayo kuthi kuba ndisesesikolweni kwaye naye ugqibile ukufunda. Ndicinga ukuba ndenze isono esikhulu. Andazi ukuba mandithini ngokulandelayo.
asalamuallikum
Ndim i 18 intombazana eneminyaka ubudala…kwaye bendikhe ndathandana nomfana kudala 3 Uxolo ukuva into eyenziwa ngumyeni wakho kodwa ndikholelwe ukuba indoda nganye yamaSilamsi ayifani.i saaa Muslim umyeni uhlonipha umfazi wakhe kwaye ubancede xa befuna ngoko ke nceda ungacingi ukuba u-islam ulungile. ithuba lokufunda iquran okanye incwadi yeislam .enkosi fe-aman-Allah …Andazi ukuba ndiqale njani ukumthanda…kodwa ngoku ndimthanda ngokunzulu…ngoku mna noboyfried asikho ndaweni nye ..ndifike endaweni ekude nekhaya ndafunda ndizogqibezela after. 2 Uxolo ukuva into eyenziwa ngumyeni wakho kodwa ndikholelwe ukuba indoda nganye yamaSilamsi ayifani.i saaa Muslim umyeni uhlonipha umfazi wakhe kwaye ubancede xa befuna ngoko ke nceda ungacingi ukuba u-islam ulungile. ithuba lokufunda iquran okanye incwadi yeislam .enkosi fe-aman-Allah…
mna nomfana wam sijongwe ukuba sitshate kwaye asisafuni ukuba kwi-haram relationship kodwa sisebancinci kwaye utata akavumi ukuba nditshate naye kuba akakahlaliswanga kwaye nam . uvele wala kwaye mhlawumbi soze andivumele nditshate naye…ndicela undincede…. Ndifuna impendulo …ndicela uncedo!!!!!!!!!!!!
Uxolo malube phezu kwenu. Into yokuqala ekufuneka uyikhumbule kukuba akukho budlelwane obuyi-haram obunokuze bube nayo nayiphi na inzuzo okanye nayiphi na into entle kuyo. Nobabini kufuneka nifune uxolelo olunyanisekileyo ku-Allah kwaye nilungise iinjongo zenu kwaye nikhumbule ukuba akukho ntsikelelo kuyo nayiphi na into eharam.. Isiseko somtshato olungileyo siqala ngokuthobela uAllah kuqala, kwaye ukuba nifuna ukutshata nobabini kwaye uyihlo uyaninqanda, kuya kukukhuthaza ukuba ubuyele kwi-haram kwakhona. Yenza i-dua enyanisekileyo ku-Allah ukuba akuncede ulungise imeko kwaye wenze istikhara kwaye uhambe uye kuthetha no-imaam okanye uSheikh onokucebisa uyihlo kwaye abone ukuba kwenzekani.. Ukuba uyihlo akayi kukuphulaphula, uya kumamela uSheikh. Emva koko, kufuneka ube nomonde kwaye ubeke ithemba lakho kuAllh. Ukuba ukutshata kulungile kuwe, ke uAllh Uya Kunenzela lula. Ukuba akukho njalo, uya kufumana ubunzima obuninzi – kwaye olu luphawu lokuba ayilunganga kuwe. Nokuba yintoni na isiphumo, kufuneka ulungele ukuyamkela, kuba xa usenza istikhara, ubonisana no-Allah SWT kwaye ubuza Lowo ukudalileyo okona kukulungeleyo. Wanga uAllah akwenzele kube lula ameen
As-salaamu alaykum warahmatullah, ndicela ivumeleke into yomfana/intombi ethandane for like 4yrs but if ingaguquka iqonde ukuba ayilunganga lento bayenzayo, yiyo i, bahlambulule iinjongo zabo, bayakwazi ukulungisa izinto baze batshate?
Nceda uncede kubaluleke kakhulu ebomini bam!!!!!
I-Islam ayivumeli indoda ukuba isondele entombazana. Ukuba umprofeti uMuhammad wajika intloko yomfana ngenxa yokuba wayethandana nentombazana. ngubani owaziyo ukuba uthando lwabafana lwalunyulu? kwaye inokukhokelela bobabini kulonwabo olukhulu kunye nempumelelo. what if izokwenzeka lonto then tell me u all Muslims unayo impendulo yalonto?
Ndakhe ndanengxaki ngelixa intombazana eyayisondela kuluntu lwamaMuslim. yayingase ndibethelwe ukufa ngenye imini kuba ndandifuna ukusondela kwintombazana eyayindijonge nzulu emehlweni ndibona ukuba nayo iyandithanda.. abafana babefuna ukundibulala kodwa ndafumana isilumkiso. kodwa kumazwe asentshona amantombazana anenkululeko yawo namalungelo awo. bandibuza amaxesha amaninzi esidlangalaleni.jonga umahluko phakathi koluntu lwamaMuslim noluntu lwasentshona. UbuSilamsi bundenza buhlungu. ngokwenene.
@Cake Islam ayiphoxi mntu. UbuSilamsi lunqulo loxolo. Yenza i-Istekhara kwaye ubize u-Allah xa usengxakini okanye kwiimeko ezibhidekileyo ngeMithandazo. Inene uAllh uyakwazi okona kungcono kwizidalwa zaKhe. Kuya kufuneka ube neSabr eninzi. UbuSilamsi bunomgaqo omnye kwihlabathi liphela nokuba kusempuma okanye entshona. Akuyomfuneko ukuba ukhathazeke nge-Islam, inokuba yinto enokuthi indlela yakho yokujonga ibingalunganga, ungazama enye indlela yokufikelela eyakungqina ukuba uyakwazi ukutshata intombazana phambi kosapho lwakho.
Ndiyalithanda eli nqaku. Ndibhidekile ngokwenene ngayo. Kuthekani ukuba umntu ufuna ukukusa kwindawo evulekileyo mhlawumbi ukuthetha nawe malunga nenjongo yakhe kwaye akukho wali ngeenxa? Ngaba kusengalunganga?
Asalam Alayikum,
Ibali lam lintsokothile kodwa ndiza kuligcina lifutshane. Emva kwexeshana, NdandingengomSilamsi. Ndadibana nalentombazana sathumela umyalezo. Emva kokwazana nomnye siye sathandana. Ayikhange isekelwe kwinkangeleko njengoko singazange sidibane ngobuqu, kodwa ngokungqongqo ngaphandle kwesimilo. Kutshanje, Ndaba ngumSilamsi. Sobabini sikholelwa ukuba unxibelelwano lwalu haram. Nangona kunjalo sifuna umtshato sobabini. Umba thina sobabini sivela kumazwe ahlukeneyo kwaye andinakubuza wali wakhe okwangoku. Siye sacwangcisa ukuba ndingene 5 iminyaka emva kwesikolo sakhe, ndize ndimbuze wali ke. Kodwa ndoyika ukuba bangandilahla ngenxa yokuqala kwethu haram. Ndenze ntoni? Ndicela uncedo!
Assslmoilkum
ndi 24 Inkwenkwe enonyaka ubudala ndingumSilamsi ndithandana nayo 40 unyaka umfazi kuba Non Non Muslim kodwa ufuna Yamnkela Islam. Kwaye uthi manditshate….ndingakwazi?
Walaikum salam warahmatullah, Nceda uqinisekise ukuba udade ekuthethwa ngaye uguqukela kwiSilamsi ngokufanelekileyo kwaye uyayiqonda into efunekayo kwi-deen yethu ngaphambi kokuba wenze isigqibo sokutshata.. Ndicela uncede umqondise kwi imam yalapha ozokwazi ukucebisa usisi kuyo yonke into ye deen. Nceda uqinisekise ukuba uyayenza istkihara yakho phambi kokuba wenze nasiphi na isigqibo sokutshata nawe. Umyeni uyalibala ukuba unantoni na
Assalam Alaykum
Ndiyathandabuza apha. Abafazi bafanele bagqume ubuso babo kwaye bangazityhili phambi kwamanye amadoda. Khona umfana uya kutshata njani nayiphi na intombazana ? Uzomthanda njani umntu angazange ambone ? Ubuncinci kwihlabathi lanamhlanje, akukho mntu ufuna ukutshata nomntu angazange ambone okanye angamaziyo. Kwakhona, ufuna abemhle. Yintoni ingxaki apha ? Nceda uphendule
UNiqab AYILO ihashe – IQuran ikhankanya ngokuthe ngqo yonke into ngaphandle kwezandla kunye nobuso obugqunywe. Nakwimeko yomntu ofuna ukunxiba i-niqaab, xa kukho umntu oza kucela isiphakamiso sakho, I-Islam inika imvume yokuba indoda ibone ubuso bomfazi.
Ndifuna ukwazi ukuba xa ndithandana nonyaka othile kufuneka ndohlukane naloo mntu . .ingaba iSilamsi ithetha loo nto?
I-Islam ayikuvumeli ukuba nobudlelwane bothando / obusondeleyo nabani na ongengomlingane wethu. Ukuthanda umntu akuyongxaki – kukuthatha inyathelo elingenguwo umtshato onguHaram
uThixo! Uyaweva amazwi am, Uyayibona imeko yam, Wena uyazazi izinto ezifihlakeleyo nezisitheleyo kum; akukho nto ifihlakeleyo kuwe. Ndim ndedwa osweleyo, othobekileyo ofuna uxolelo lwaKho. Ndiyakubongoza ngokuzithoba entliziyweni yam, ngokungcangcazela nokoyika, equbuda kwaye engenakuzinceda ngokupheleleyo.
O Allah! Ndinike ukholo oluphilileyo, ukulunga kwesimilo, ukuxolelwa kwezono zam, kunye nolonwabo lwaKho lwaphakade kwiLizayo.
Yanga intsikelelo ka-Allah ibe phezu kukaMuhammad ( S.A.W) kunye nosapho kunye namaqabane akhe.
Ndiyintombi ena 22 years. Bendimthanda umfana wase University kodwa zange ndiye kwi relationship ye haraam. Kodwa wandixokisa ngokundithanda. Uye wenza izinto ezinjengokuncwasa nosisi wam kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha wathi uyayibona impazamo yakhe wafuna nokunditshata.. Kodwa andizange ndimnike thuba njengoko ndandisoloko ndicinga ukuba uyandiqhatha. Ngoku, Ndijola nomnye umntu endingamaziyo noba ndiyamthanda. Andikwazi ukuthemba amadoda ngenxa yamava angaphambili. Yilungiselelo lomtshato lolungiselelo apho ndathi EWE kuba ungcwele, ukhathala kakhulu, unyamekela intsapho yakhe, mhle kwaye bendikholelwa ukuba u-Allah uya kundigqibela ngeyona ndlela ilungileyo. Kwakhona, abazali bam babemthanda kakhulu. Siyathetha ngemiyalezo, kodwa ndonqena ukuthetha naye ngokuthumelelana imiyalezo kwaye ndimvulele isifuba ngobomi bam ngoku sitshatileyo qha singekatshati. & ndikwanayo nemiba yokuthembana. Kwakhona, Andingomntu othanda ukuvuleka emntwini endizakutshata naye ngemessages kwaye ifiance yam iyathanda ukundibhalela kwaye incokole nam as it a long distance relationship.. Asinakutshata okwangoku kuba kufuneka ndigqibezele izifundo zam. Ixesha lokuthandana lonyaka & emva koko siya kutshata InshaAllah. Ndicela undikhokele kule meko. Intloko yam ikwimeko embi.
Usisi, siyaqonda ukuba oku kunzima kuwe, kwaye siya kukucebisa nge-insha'Allah kangangoko sinako. inqaku endifuna ukulithetha kukuba wonke umntu unoxanduva ngokulinganayo kubudlelwane benkwenkwe nentombazana, ukuba ke umzalwana ozakutshata uthembekile, unenkathalo, ke olu luphawu oluhle lokuba uya kukuphatha kakuhle. Inani kuMtshato, zama ukukuphepha ukuthetha naloo mzalwana ngaphandle kobukho be-wali – ukuba umzalwana wakho ungowobuthixo njengoko nitshoyo, aze angakhathali. Isithathu, ndicela wenze istikhara sakho. Into yokuqala ekufuneka uyenzile kukufuna ukuxolelwa ngokunyanisekileyo ku-Allah kuba AKUKHO ntsikelelo emtshatweni oqala kwi-haram., khumbula ukuba amava amabi awathethi ukuba wonke umntu umbi. Uthathe isigqibo esibi ngalo mfana ubukade umthanda wazibonakalisa ukuba akathenjwa. Isihlanu, UNGAXHALISI ixesha lakho elidlulileyo neqabane lakho elizayo kuba oko kunokuchaphazela kakubi ubudlelwane bakho naye kwixesha elizayo… Kunoko, Gxila kwiFUTURE yakho kwaye iqabane lakho alinalungelo lokubuza malunga nexesha lakho elidlulileyo NGAPHANDLE kokuba liza kumchaphazela ngokuthe ngqo nangayiphi na indlela emtshatweni wakho.. Ukuba ubunobudlelwane nomfana wokuqala (asitsho ukuba wenzile), yenza i-tauba enyanisekileyo kwaye ucele u-Allh ukuba akukhokele kokona kulungileyo. Okokugqibela sisi, wenza into elungileyo ngokubeka ithemba lakho kuAllh kwaye usazi ukuba Yena uya kukwenzela into elungileyo. Hlala uqinile kuloo nto kwaye wanga uAllah SWT angayenzela lula imicimbi yakho ameen.
..Usuku olumnwandi..
Ndingumama ongatshatanga..
Yamkelekile into yoba une gf nentombi..okanye its not good..,ndicela nindincede.….
Akuvumelekanga ukuba umSilamsi abe nobudlelwane naye nabani na ngaphandle kweqabane lakhe.
Salamu Alayikum. Ndingathanda ukudlulisa umbulelo ongazenzisiyo kubo bonke abathe bachitha ixesha labo elikhulu ekubhaleni eli nqaku linika umdla nelifundisayo licaciswe kakuhle liqulethe izinto ezininzi ezidlulisa ulwazi olubalulekileyo ngomtshato.. Okulandelayo, kuloo nto, ingathakazelelwa kakhulu ukuba umntu unokucacisa ngakumbi malunga nesiphelo seli nqaku elithetha ngokutolika kwam njengokulandelayo ” Ukuba umntu uthandana nomntu ngoko kungcono ukuba umntu adibane ne-vali yentombazana kuqala” umbuzo wam nanku, ingaba lonto ithetha ukuba xa sithandana nomntu esifuna ukutshata kufuneka siqale sidibane nabazali bakhe singamazisi?? Ndingathanda ukuva kubo bonke abo banokususa intandabuzo engqondweni yam. Eli nqaku liqhula
Eyona ndlela ilungileyo phambili ngokwenene ukuthumela isindululo ngokusebenzisa wali wakhe – yeyona ndlela ichanekileyo eya phambili. Unganqwenela ukwazisa udade ngomhlobo wakho kuba ufuna ukuzama ukunqanda i-fitnah yokudibana naye kwangaphambili.. Kwaye uAllh Wazi ngcono.
.Iam muslim naye ungumslim kwaye usapho lwam lungamamuslim kunye nosapho lwakhe lungamamuslim. Bendingumhlobo wakhe 2 iminyaka esikolweni emva koko 2 unyaka waqala wandizonda.ndaye ndasiyeka isikolo.kuba ndifumene umsebenzi. Ngaba ndingadibana naye okanye ndizame ukumfumana ngaphandle kokumnyanzela ngokwenza icebo ukuba uyandicaphukela khange ndimcebise nge-islam.
Asiyicebisi nyani ngaphandle kokuba nidibana ngenjongo yomtshato kwaye ke nosapho lwakho kufuneka lubandakanyeke jzk
Asalamo Alaikum , Ndathandana nobuntu bomfana , Ndiyibonile ipic yakhe but zange ndadibana naye in real ndimbone nje kwi internet , uyakholwa naye kodwa ingxaki andifuni ayazi ukuba ndiyamncoma , Ndifuna uAllâh amkhokelele ngakum, Ndenza iDua yonke imihla ngenxa yesikhokelo sakhe kuAllh kunye nesikhokelo sam , ekuphela kwendlela endinokuthi ndinxibelelane naye ngayo kukusebenzisa i-intanethi kodwa andifuni kubandakanyeka kwiseshoni yokuncokola naye, yintoni angazange aphendule, what if he replayed but impendulo yakhe yandenza ndawela esonweni ukuze ndincokole naye ngakumbi ndilandele uShaytan ? Ndiyoyika ukuba izono zam ziya kundenza ndibe netyala emehlweni ka-Allh, so ndimane ndimenzela idua everyday andikaze ndimthumelele umyalezo ngalento, ingaba ukholo lwam lungabhalwa kunye naye okanye ndingaze ndimfumane ngeDuasDuas yam ndicela uphendule kwakamsinya.
Assalam Alaykum, igama lam ndinguHana , im 19 yrs ndadibana nomfana. Ndithandana nomfana phantse iminyaka emine. Ekuqaleni sasincokola kwaye sithetha yonke imihla kodwa ngoku siye sayeka yonke into njengoko sinezinto ezininzi ekufuneka zizaliseke kwizifundo zethu nasebomini.. Nangona singenabo abafowunelwa sisathandana kwaye sinethemba lokutshata kwixesha elizayo insha allah . Into endifuna ukuyazi kukuba , Ngaba olu hlobo lothando lwethu yi-haram o halal ? Ngaba kuvumelekile ukuthanda umntu ngolu hlobo ? Ngaba asizi kufumana iintsikelelo zika-allah. ?
Uxolo malube phezu kwenu,
MashaAllah… oku kulula, kakuhle kakhulu.
Njani ngale nto? Ngaphambili kukho indoda elungileyo endithandayo. Siyathandana. Andazi ngokwenene ukuba abantwana banokukhula njani ngaphandle kweTV, xa ndixelela abazali bam ngaye… qadarullah abazali bam bayala le ndoda. Emva koko watshata enye intombazana. Ndothuke kakhulu kwaye ndibuhlungu kakhulu. Ndizame ngako konke ukumlibala. Emva kweenyanga eziliqela umfazi wakhe uza kum. Uye wandinika umyeni wakhe (Ndiyazi ukuba umyeni wakhe wayemxelele ukuba ayenze). Ewe ndiyamthanda kakhulu, kodwa ndiyazi ukuba abazali bam abavumi ukuba ndibe ngumfazi wakhe wesibini. Emva koko ndiyala mna. Kwaye ndiziva ndibuhlungu kakhulu kude kube ngoku. Ndingenza ntoni? Ndifuna iingcebiso ngokwenene.
salaam, igama lam ndinguFaaizah ndingumSilamsi waseAfrika. ndilungile 18 iminyaka kwaye ndifuna ukutshata ngeminyaka yobudala 20. ndithandana nalomntu, yakhe 28. ndiyamthanda ngenxa ka-Allah, yakhe yonqulo yaye ethobela imithetho yobuislam. akukho haram yenzekayo phakathi kwethu. andikamxeleli ukuba ndiziva njani. ndifuna athathe inyathelo lokuqala andibuze kootata ukuba anganditshata na. Ndingenza ntoni?
Ewe! Ndifuna ukwabelana ngengxaki yam. Enyanisweni ndiyamthanda umntu kwaye ndiyafuna ukumtshata, uvela eIndiya kwaye usebenza njengomdlali weqonga. Sobabini sincokola kamnandi kwaye sihlala sinxibelelana. Ndimthanda kakhulu ngokunzulu. ngaba kulungile ukuba ndimthandazela ku-Allah? Njengoko ndiyintombazana kunzima kakhulu kum ukuba ndimcebise, ungandixelela i dua okanye abadalafa bandibethelele iimvakalelo zothando kum entliziyweni yakhe bafune ukunditshata. Ndicela uncedo… JazakAllah
assalam alaykum,
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amaqabane ngaxeshanye kwaye unethuba eliphezulu lokufumana i-venereal okanye
wanga uAllh angasikhokela sonke…ndikwishumi elivisayo,kwaye bendine boyfriend..besithandana kakhulu…kodwa abazali bam bandinqande koku .ekugqibeleni ndafunda nzulu ngalento..kwaye ndiyaguquka ku Allah ,kodwa andikwazi ukuyeka ukumthanda..kodwa ndingakhupha into enye endingazokuphinda ndinxibelelane nayo. kwikamva lam ndingathanda ukuba naye kwaye ndithandazela eyakhe kunye nesikhokelo sam …Ngaba le halaal okanye haraam …bendihlala ndifunda isalah yam kwaye ndenza imisebenzi elungileyo .. ndizakohlwaywa emva koku ngalo MNGWENO ? yile HALAAl okanye HARAAM..ndidinga ingcebiso elungileyo nceda…