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Umbhali: Wadi krimi
UWarba Krimi nisa ibonisa ukuba umtshato omde kangakanani.
Nguye owakudalayo kumphefumlo omnye, wadalwa kuwo iqabane lawo ukuba angahlala enqabisekile naye. (Al -'raf:189)
Ukungabikho kokungabikho kunciphisa intanda incinci kwaye yonyusa iikhulu, Njengoko umoya uvuthuza ikhandlela kwaye uvuthuze umlilo.
~ Francois de la Rochefoucauld
"Ke,"Wabhengeza kwiscreen seSkype, "Ngoku kufuneka undixelele ukuba kutheni unomsindo kum."
Ndizamile ukungcwaba ububi bam, ukwenzela eyam ngaphandle kokwenza amaza, Kodwa wayehlala esazi. Ndamxelela: Kwiintsuku ezimbini ngaphambi kokuba wenze i-joke eyayivelise iimvakalelo zam.
Njengesiqhelo, kude kakhulu ukuba uguquke, Wayecaphuka kwaye wakhawuleza ukuzithethelela; Kwakungathi uzacinge ukuba nditsalelabuza umbuzo waKhe njengomntu. Kutheni engakwazanga ukundiqonda? Nditsho ndinxunguphele ndiphelelwe lithemba njengoko wayekhathazekile kwaye ecaphuka "kukusilela" kwam ukubona isizathu sakhe.
Xa ndandikho nge-ahmed umntu, Kwakungekho mkhwa phakathi kwethu; Siza kuthetha iingxaki ngendlela efanelekileyo kwaye sifike ngokukhawuleza kwisivumelwano. Kodwa ngoku, Kwiintlanganiso zethu zesikrini, Sisoloko sisenza uMolethill abe ziintaba. Iingxabano ziyakhawuleza kwaye zonxibelelwano ziyimpazamo, ngakumbi ukuba iikhamera azisebenzi kwaye asinakubona ubuso bomnye kunye nolwimi lomzimba.
"Kufanele ndihambe,"Ekugqibeleni uthe, "Kodwa ndifuna ukubuya kamva kwaye ndisombulule oku. Ngaba uya kuba kwi-Intanethi?”
Ndijonge phantsi ndanyikimisa intloko.
"Kutheni unomsindo kangaka?"Wabuza.
Ayingomsindo,"Ndikhanya.
"Ithini ke?”
"Iphanziso!"Ndiphelelwe lixesha.
UTHANDO OLUFUMANELEKILEYO. "'Isiphanziso,"" Unomsindo, emva koko waphinda watshata, "Yonke imihla ufunda igama elitsha."
Ngequbuliso ukuhlekisa kwabakhembayo be-meloddic ye-melodnatic kundibetha njenge-tidal wave, ndigqogqa ndihleka. "I-Ahmed," Ndithe, "Nokuba kwenzeka ntoni, Ndiyakuthanda!”
Ndidinga ukuba siphinde sadibana kwakhona kamva kwaye siyisebenzisile yonke?
Ilizwe Lokunxibelelana
Umhlaba utshintshile ngendlela yokwenza umtshato omde umgama ngakumbi kwaye ube nento enokwenzeka kwaye ixhaphakile. Akukho nto intsha intsha malunga nemikhosi yasemhlabeni, ukufudukela kwelinye ilizwe i-tepe, kunye nemisebenzi eyahlukeneyo kwiintsapho, Kodwa kutsha nje ukuba i-Intanethi kunye nexabiso eliphantsi lomgangatho ophantsi liye lafaka imitshato ngokulula kakhulu ekukhuliseni ngexesha lokwahlulahlula ngokwendawo.
Ndiyayithanda itekhnoloji yedijithali! Ukuba bekungeyonto kwi-Intanethi, Ngekhe ndidibane kwaye nditshatele umhlobo wam osenyongweni, mfondo, kunye ne-Deen Paryu, U-Ahmed. Bendingasoze ndidibane nosapho oluhle kunye nabahlobo. Ngekhe adibane nosapho lwam kunye nabahlobo. Kwaye ngekhe sikwazi ukugcina i-rapport yethu kwaye siphuhlise ubudlelwane bethu obudibeneyo ngokulinda i-visa yakhe.
I-plubes
Udadewethu-umntwana wam ukhe waphinda wathi, "Unethamsanqa! Ufumana umyeni wakho ubuso ngobuso kangangeyure yonke imihla!"Kubomi bakhe obuxakekileyo nabantwana abane abancinci, an hour a day of uninterrupted dialogue with her husband seems as remote as Tahiti.
The fact that online meetings have to be directly one-on-one is truly a blessing worth counting! I’ve even become a bit spoiled— if my husband checks his emails or answers chat message from a friend while he’s online with me on Skype, I sometimes feel miffed. That little island of time with him is so precious I don’t want anything invading it!
Another advantage to separation is that when couples are forced to spend time apart, they aren’t quite so ready to take each other for granted afterwards. When you’re back together and feeling annoyed about socks on the floor, you can just remind yourself of how hard it was to be apart, kwaye uyavuya ukuba iqabane lakho lingasecaleni kwakho!
Xa iinyanga zokuqala zomtshato zichithwa mgama, Oku ngamanye amaxesha kuseka imeko eluncedo ethwala ixesha elide. Ndiyazi esinye isibini esasithetha ngefowuni yonke imihla ngelixa umyeni wayemi phesheya. Ngoku ukuba baphile kunye kwakhona, Nanini na xa benengxoxo eqala ukufumana i-pickly, Umyeni uthi, "Nditsalele umnxeba,"Kwaye baya kumagumbi ahlukeneyo ukuze bagqibezele incoko ngomnxeba. Bafundile ukuba oku kunceda ukunciphisa uxinzelelo ngelixa kubakhumbuza ukuba banethamsanqa kangakanani!
Umceli mngeni
Ayisiyo yonke iRosy. Imitshato emininzi iyasilela njengeziphumo ezingathanga ngqo zendawo. Okubuhlungu, Ngamanye amaxesha, Isidingo somntu soqhagamshelo olusondeleyo i-facks yoneliseko kwiindlela ze-haram. Kunokuba nzima ukugcina ukuthembana xa uyazi ukuba awunakuba yingubo yeqabane lakho xa usoyika ukunikezela kwisilingo kuba awufumani uqinisekiso lothando sonke.
Ukunqongophala kokhuseleko lobudlelwane kunokwandisa uxinzelelo kubudlelwane. Ngamaxesha athile, Kwimeko yethu yokungancedi kunye nokudandatheka, Sigxeka nganye yezinto esingakhange silawule ngazo, ifuna ukuba enye ikhuphe ii-hops ukuba ibonakalise uthando lwayo.
Ngezi zizathu, nangokuthobela u-allah (SWT), Kufuneka sizifumane zonke izixhobo esinazo ukuze sihlale imitshato yethu yomelele kwaye sonwabile, Nokuba kude! Thatha ingqalelo ngokusondeleyo kwezi ndlela zokuhamba-vala. Abanye babo banokumangalisa, Kodwa baqinisekisiwe ukuba basebenze!
Iindlela zokuhlangabezana
1. Beka iqabane lakho kwi-vestistal!
Kubudlelwane obude, Ulondolozo lunokuqinisa impilo yexesha elide yomtshato, Ukuvumela amaqabane ukuba agade ubuthathaka bomnye nomnye kwaye bagxile kwi-postitives.
2. Ukuqinisekisa omnye komnye uthando lwakho.
Yenza oluxanduva lwemihla ngemihla, into oyenzayo ngaphandle kwamaxesha akho endibano. Bhala 'bonisa uthando oluthile!'Kwi-ajenda yakho yonke imihla kwaye emva koko yenza inqaku lokuthumela umyalezo onothando, Iposti ye-Facebook ye-Facebook, okanye ifowuni ibonisa iqabane lakho ukuba uhlala engqondweni nasentliziyweni yakho.
3. Hlala unxibelelwano.
Izifundo zesibini eziphindaphindiweyo emva kweminyaka yokwahlula-hlulwa ngenxa yemfazwe yabonisa ukuba izibini ezingatshatanga zangatshatanga emva kokubhalwa ngolunye uhlobo lokulwa. Sabelana, ngokunzulu kwaye rhoqo. Ungaze uthule okanye usike uqhagamshelo ngaphandle kwento efanelekileyo. Thetha ngento eyenzekayo ngeenxa zonke kuwe, Nezinto onokuthi ungakhathazeki. Yikholwe okanye hayi, Ukuncokola ngomntwana wakho omtsha okanye utyando lomalume wakho kunokunceda ukugcina imvakalelo yokusondela.
4. Hlonipha iimvakalelo zabanye.
Sukuyigxotha imisele yeqabane lakho, ncwili, okanye iinyembezi nje kuba azinangqondo kuwe. Yamkela ukuba le yindlela abaziva ngayo kwaye banikezela ngesikhulu senkxaso yakho.
5. Ithemba, isicwangciso, kwaye uthandane kunye.
Picturing your future camping trips and planning your living room décor will keep you invested in the marriage and prepare you for being together in person.
6. Keep studying the Qur’an and hadiths.
Support each other in your Deen and discuss what you’ve been learning and how you’ve been growing spiritually. Don’t forget that a rich and fertile spiritual common ground is the strongest foundation for a marriage.
7. Pray for each other and for your marriage in every salat.
Make du’as whenever you think of it. Pray that Allah (SWT) will keep you and your spouse from sin and harm and that your thoughts, words, and deeds will be pleasing to Him (SWT). It’s not enough just to “stay married”!
There’s no sound marriage without Allah (SWT) at its head. Xa indoda nomfazi bayamthanda kwaye bathobele ngokupheleleyo, Uthando lunokuntyatyambo ngokuqinisekileyo kwaye lukhule nakweziphi na iimeko.
Icacile ekuphondweni kwesibhalo esibonisa ukuba i-allah (SWT) ayifuni ukuba isibini esitshatileyo siye sihlala sitshatile ngaphandle kwengqondo, Ukuluma ibhulethini xa izinto ziba rhabaxa. uThixo (SWT), Kwimfesane yakhe engenasiphelo, ifuna ukuba sibe nemitshato eyonwabisayo, Imitshato engasisiki nje, Kodwa neentsapho zethu kunye ne-ummah.
Phakathi kweenkumbulo zam ezinqwenelekayo ngamaxesha akwenziwe kwintsapho yam kunye nabahlobo bam ngenxa yezihlandlo ezizodwa ngeSkype. Kwindibano enye enjalo umhlobo wam wambetha naye ngomhlaba wokugculela, "Ukuba ukhe wenza nantoni na ukuzenzakalisa, Siza emva kwakho!”
Ngaphandle kokunqumama, I-AHMED iphendulwe, "Ngoku ngoku nawe, kwaye ukuba awuyikhathalelanga kakuhle, Ndiza emva kwakho!”
Wonke umntu wayehlehlehlehle, Ngaphandle kwam. Ndixakeke kakhulu iphindaphinda iAlimdulah entliziyweni yam.
UWarba Krimi yintatheli yaseKhanada oguqukele kwi-Islam 2010. Ngoku uhlala eMontreal kwaye ubhale iqela lemibutho yamaSilamsi, kubandakanya nokuqonda i-Quran Academy.
Nge Umtshato osulungekileyo, Siyanceda 50 abantu ngeveki bayatshata!
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