Amakhaya akhiwe phezu kokuzola, Uthando, kunye neNceba

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Ngu-sheikh mohammed al-ghazali

Zintathu iimeko eziyimfuneko kwikhaya lamaSilamsi amaSilamsi ukuzalisekisa uthumo lwalo. Bazolile, uthando, nenceba.
Ndithetha ngolwaneliseko lokuzola. Indoda ifanele ineliseke ngokupheleleyo ngumfazi wakhe kunye ne-vice. Uthando yimvakalelo yotshintsho eyenza ubudlelwane bube noyolo kwaye bokonwaba enye nenceba sisiseko sazo zonke iimpawu ezintle kumadoda nabafazi.

uThixo, Uxelela umprofeti uMuhammad (uxolo malube kuye) kwiQuran:“Ngenxa yoko kungenxa yenceba evela kuThixo yokuba uhlangane nabo ngobunono, kwaye ube rhabaxa, Intliziyo eqinileyo, Ngokuqinisekileyo baya kusasazeka bakujikeleze.” (Al-mai'dah 3: 159)

Inceba ayisiyomvakalelo yethutyana yovelwano. Kuyinto eqhubekayo yentlekele, Isimilo esiphakamileyo, Isimo sengqondo esiHloniphekileyo.

Ikhaya elisekwe kwi-trancy, Uthando olunikelweyo, kunye nenceba yakho, Yenza umtshato yeyona ntsikelelo ibalaseleyo emhlabeni. Eli khaya liza koyisa yonke imiqobo kwaye liya kuvelisa abantwana abalungileyo! Ndinemvakalelo yokuba uninzi lweengxaki kunye neengxaki ezinazo abantwana ngenxa yobudlelwane obungasebenziyo kunye neengxabano eziqhubekayo phakathi kwabazali babo!

Umfundi unokubuza: Ngaba uthi iimvakalelo zeyinto yonke kwaye kuthetha ukuba iindlela zokuthanda izinto ezibonakalayo azibalulekanga? Impendulo yam ayikho. Kukho inani lezinye izinto ezinegalelo kwimpumelelo yomtshato, Ukongeza kwezi zinto zingasentla.

I-SA: “Izinto ezintathu zinegalelo kulonwabo lwakho: (1) Umfazi othanda kwaye uthembele ukuba ukhathalela imali yakho kwaye ugcina uzinikele kuwe nokuba ungekho, (2) Ukukhwela okukhawulezayo okwenza ukuba ubambe abahlobo bakho, (3) kunye nendlu enkulu enamaziko amaninzi. Kwaye izinto ezintathu zinegalelo kububi bakho: (1) Umfazi oziva kakubi ngabo bahlala bekukhathaza ngamazwi akhe, Kwaye xa ungekho awumthembi ukuba uza kuzinyamekela okanye imali yakho, (2) isilwanyana esivilaphavini okukhwela, ekhathalele ukuba uyityhale kwaye ayikuthuki ukuba awukutyhali, (3) kunye nendlu encinci enamaziko ambalwa. " (Al-albani)

Kungokwemvelo ukuba senze izinto ezenza sonwabe kwaye siphephe izinto ezenza ukuba singabi lula. Enye hadith ithi: "Yenza ntoni?, Funa uncedo lukaThixo, kwaye ungaze uzive ungancedi. " (UmSilamsi)

Lonke ilungelo lamaSilamsi lokufuna indlu enkulu ekhululekileyo evumela ukuba asebenze kwaye abe nemveliso. Yilungelo ngalinye lesiMuslim, ngokunjalo, Ukuthiya iindlela ezingalunganga zothutho, IZIXHOBO ZOKUGQIBELA, kunye neqabane elibi!

Inkolo ayikhanyelanga iimfuno zemvelo zendalo, ulwaneliseko, kunye nolonwabo. Xa indoda okanye umfazi ufuna umtshato, Kuya kufuneka aqiniseke ukuba izinto azithandayo zikhoyo kwelinye iqabane. Ukuba umtshato ungqina ukuba elinye iqabane lilungile, Ke indlela owona mtshato! ukuba umfazi ebengasithandi esi senzo, Ikamva lesibini alikho kwi-Intanethi.

Ndiqaphele ukuba amanye amadoda akwinqanaba lokuphakamisa ukuba enze isimilo esithile, Lithini izinga lobundlobongela basekhaya kuluntu lwamaSilamsi aseMelika, ububele okanye ububele, Ngelixa abanayo! Inyani yothusayo iyavela, kunjalo, kanye emva kokuthandwa komtshato! Amanye amadoda anokude athembisa idosi ethile phambi komtshato kwaye ungaze uzalisekise ntoni. I-Islam ilumkisa kwabo bantu bagulayo kwaye babajonga abatshatisi kunye nabapheki. IHadith ithi: "Ukuba indoda itshata umfazi emva kokuba ithembisa i-dowry ethile, nokuba incinci okanye inkulu, Zange khe kube nenjongo yokumhlawula, emva koko wasweleka ngaphandle kokuhlawula, Uya kudibana no-Allah apha emva kwe-adrenter. Kwaye ukuba indoda iboleka imali ngaphandle kwayo nayiphi na injongo yokuyihlawula emva koko isweleke ngaphandle kokuhlawula ityala lakhe, Uya kudibana no-Allah kule phandle njengesela. " (Al-albani)

Umtshato ayisiyonto edlulayo! Bubudlelwane bobomi, Umnqophiso oqinisekileyo, kunye nentsebenziswano enkulu kakhulu. Into ethe yathembisa umyeni okanye inkosikazi ethembisayo ngaphambi komtshato ifanele iqhutywa kwileta emva komtshato. Mhlawumbi akasoze acinge ngomfazi wesibini, Ukuhlawula i-Dowry ngumzekelo wokuzalisekisa izithembiso. Ukuba indoda, Lithini izinga lobundlobongela basekhaya kuluntu lwamaSilamsi aseMelika, Kuthenjisiwe ukuba nobubele okanye uxolelelelo kwaye uzibonakaliswe ngale ndlela ngaphambi komtshato, Emva koko kuya kufuneka ahlale enobubele kwaye axole okanye okungenani enze ezo mpawu emva komtshato! UThixo uyabasikelela abo bathembekileyo kwaye benze ubomi babo bonwabe kakhulu. Umfazi unakho, ngokuzithandela, inike i-dowry yakhe, ngokupheleleyo okanye ngokuyinxenye, Xa ufumanisa ukuba umyeni wakhe ungumntu olungileyo kwaye osiphethe kakuhle! Kuba wamnika, ngekhe anyamezele imali yakhe.

Amanye amadoda acinga ukuba banamalungelo kwaye akukho misebenzi! Bahlala kwiqokobhe lokuzingca kwabo kwaye bangaze bacinge ngantoni elinye iqabane! Ikhaya lamaSilamsi, nangona kunjalo, kufuneka ifunyanwe kwesi siseko ilandelayo, “Kwaye abafazi baya kuba namalungelo afanayo nawo, Ngokutsho kokulingana; kodwa amadoda anedigri (yoxanduva) phezu kwazo.” (Al-Baqarah 2: 228)

Njengoko benditshilo ngaphambili, Eli nqanaba luxanduva lobunkokeli umntu athathwa yintsapho phezu kosapho lwakhe. Yonke imibutho kufuneka ibe nobunkokeli. Kuyacaca ukuba ubunkokeli bomntu abunzi, ngayo nayiphi na indlela, hlamba izimvo zenkosikazi yakhe kunye neemfuno, Nokuba ngabasebenzi okanye okanye ngokwenyama.

Izibophelelo zentlalo zokuba ngumntu otshatileyo zifuna iimpawu ezithile. Ukuba ezi mpawu zingekho kumntu othile, Kungcono kuye ukuba angatshatanga. Oku kusebenza kuwo omabini amadoda nabafazi. Umzekelo, Ukuba umfazi uyalukhuni, ayinamfesane nantoni na, kwaye akukho ngqwalaselo kwiimfuno zabanye ngokweemvakalelo, Ke kungcono ukuba uhlala engatshatanga kuba akazukuba nakho ukuba ngumfazi olungileyo kunye nonina! Masicinge ukuba umyeni wakhe ngexesha elithile ufumana isifo esithile kwaye abanakufumana umongikazi oqeshiweyo ovumayo ukumkhathalela kakuhle. kunye ne-da'wah ebalaseleyo, Umfazi wakhe kufuneka akwazi ukuba nomonde ngakumbi kuye omnye umntu, Nceda ukhathalele, kwaye uthandaze!

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Iimbekiselo: Le yinxalenye yencwadi eguqulweyo ebhalwe ngu-Sheikh al-Ghazali “Abafazi abangamaSilamsi phakathi kweZithethe eziPhezulu kunye neziFundo zanamhlanje”. Incwadi yaguqulelwa nguGqr. UJasser Auada, Unjingalwazi kwi-quatar faculty yezifundo zamaSilamsi (Qfis).
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