Yentombi Yam

Yentombi Yam

I’ll try to supply as much information in this big subject as our small page can allow. In case you need more details, I refer you to a useful book – Fiqh as-Sunnah – by Sayyed Sabiq – is originally in Arabic, but you can find its English translation if you want.

Divorce as a last option:
Although divorce being allowed in Islam is a sign of the lenience and practical nature of the Islamic legal system, keeping the unity of the family is considered a priority for the sake of the children. ayinconywa okanye ayikhuthazwa, divorce is always a last choice, after exhausting all possible means of reconciliation. Umzekelo, Allah addresses men asking them to try hard to keep the marriage, even if they dislike their wives:

… live with them on a footing of kindness and equity. Ukuba uthatha ukungathandani kubo kusenokuba ungayithandi into, kwaye uThixo uza ngawo kuyo yonke into elungileyo.
– Surah 4 Unokuyithelekelela indlela enokuba buhlungu ngayo endodeni 19
Kwakhona le ndinyana ilandelayo ibhekiswe kubafazi ebabuza into efanayo:
Ukuba umfazi woyike inkohlakalo okanye i-tills kwilungu lomyeni wakhe, Akukho tyala kubo ukuba bacwangcisa indawo yokuhlala ephakathi kwabo; …
– Surah 4 Unokuyithelekelela indlela enokuba buhlungu ngayo endodeni 128
abafazi nabo bayabathiya abayeni babo ukuba baphinde batshate kodwa kungenxa yokuba ayiseyonxalenye yendlela yokuphila yanamhlanje kwiindawo ezininzi kodwa ukuba abantu bayayiqhela njengomzekelo ukuba wonke umntu unomfazi ongaphezu komfazi ngoko akuyi kuba yinto enkulu ndicinga ukuba., Le ndinyana ilandelayo ibhekiswe kusapho okanye uluntu ngenjongo efanayo yokuhlangula lo mboleko, ngawaphi amathixo angakhange ahlukane lula:

Ukuba uyoyika ukwaphula phakathi kwabo matein, nyula (Mbini) abacaphukisayo, Enye kusapho lwakhe, kwaye enye ivela kuye; Ukuba banqwenela uxolo, UThixo uya kubangela uxolelwaniso lwabo: Kuba uThixo unolwazi olupheleleyo, kwaye uqhelene nazo zonke izinto.
– Surah 4 Unokuyithelekelela indlela enokuba buhlungu ngayo endodeni 35

Andazi ngokwenene ukuba abantwana banokukhula njani ngaphandle kweTV, Ukuba emva kokuphelisa zonke iindlela zoxolelwaniso, Intiyo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi isengaphezulu kunonyamezelo, Emva koko uqhawulo-mtshato lungafikeleleki. Apha kuza ubuhlakani komthetho wamaSilamsi, obambeleyo, endaweni yeendlela ezingekhoyo, kwiimeko zokwenyani. Ezona njongo ziphambili zomtshato, kunye nayo nayiphi na enye into yobomi bomntu, ziya kufezekisa ulonwabo kunye nobume. Ngoko, Xa abantu bevalelwe ilungelo labo lokuphelisa umtshato ongonwabisiyo, Ezi njongo zimbini ziphulwe kakhulu. Yi le, Njengoko esi sibini siza kuhlala kubandezeleka, enokubakhokelela ekunganyaniseki emtshatweni. Ngokwenzi uqhawulo-mtshato kule meko - ukuba isikihliwe kwintlekele yosapho – iya kuba incinci kakhulu.
Iindlela zoqhawulo-mtshato:

Amadoda anelungelo lokuqhawula umtshato. Ukuba umntu akathandi ukugcina umtshato wakhe ngalo nasiphi na isizathu, Uqhawula umtshato kunye nembuyekezo yemali yakhe ngokuhlawula oko kubizwa ngokuba yintlawulo. Oku kukongeza kokuyeka imali ngokuqhelekileyo ukuze aphile, Kwimeko ukuba ugcinwe abantwana babo.
Uqhawulo-mtshato luba ngokwenzeka nje ukuba umyeni uthetha okanye abhale phantsi kwefomumu yezomthetho yoqhawulo-mtshato anje: 'Ndiyaqhawula umtshato' okanye 'uqhawule umtshato' ... njl. Indoda inokwenza le nto yedwa okanye ngesithunywa.
Kwimeko apho ngumnqweno womfazi wokuphelisa umtshato, Imeko ibahlukile. Izizathu zakhe zinokuba kukuba ufumana unyango olungelilo, Indoda ayikwazi ukuyixhasa okanye ingenamandla ngokwesondo. Unokubonisa ezi ziphene phambi kwejaji, Emva koko ijaji inika umtshato wakhe ngokufikelela ngokupheleleyo kuwo onke amalungelo akhe ezemali.
Kwakhona, Ukuba umyeni ubemhle kuye kodwa akafuni kuqhubeka nesizathu seemvakalelo, Emva koko ucela oko kubizwa ngokuba yiKhul '. Oku kuthetha ukunikwa uqhawulo-mtshato kodwa ngaphandle kokufikelela kwamalungelo emali, dibanisa ukuhlawula umyeni i-Dowry esele ihlawule ngokutshata naye.

Iindidi zoqhawulo-mtshato:

Uqhawulo-mtshato lweentlobo ezintathu:
• IParadesi (ingaba)
I-Sillerra yeComera (Ukwahlula-hlula)
Okanye okanye i-ballga kobra (Ukwahlulahlulahlulahlula).
Kwimeko uqhawulo-mtshato lwenzeka kumyeni, Ungathatha umfazi wakhe emva kwiinyanga ezintathu. Oku ngaphandle kwenkqubo yezomthetho, Ukuba bayagqiba – njengokuzisola ngokungxama kwabo kuqhawulo mtshato. kunye ne-da'wah ebalaseleyo, Uqhawulo-mtshato lubizwa ngokuba nguRaj''i okanye umtshato obuyisiweyo.
Kodwa kwimeko yeKhul ', Leliphi inqanaba lesibini, Indoda ayinakuphinda itshate uqhawulo-mtshato kude kube lenziwe zonke iinkqubo zomthetho, kwakhona Konke, kwaye umyeni uhlawula i-dowry entsha kuye.
Uqhawulo-mtshato lunokwenzeka kathathu kwi-Life. Uqhawulo-mtshato lwesithathu luwela kudidi lwesithathu, kuba abanakubuya omnye komnye, kude kube semva komfazi 'yenzekile' ukutshata omnye umntu, emva koko 'kwenzeka' ukuqhawula umtshato kuye. kunye ne-da'wah ebalaseleyo, Unokubuyela kumyeni wakhe wokuqala. Ulawulo olunzima lwenziwa njengesohlwayo kunye nendlela yokuthintela abantu ukuba bangasebenzisi esi sigqibo sokungasebenzi kakuhle kokuvumela ukuqhawula umtshato. ILizwi 'lenzeka' lizaliswe ngabazali ngenxa yokuba umtshato omtsha womfazi noqhawulo-mtshato kufuneka eze ngokwendalo ngaphandle kokucwangcisa, abantu abaninzi banokwenza ukuze baphinde babuyele ngokusemthethweni kwindoda yokuqala!

Uqhawulo-mtshato lungasebenzi nini?

Ngamanye amaxesha, Ukutsala amagama oqhawulo-mtshato kuba kungasebenzi. Phakathi kwezi meko xa umyeni:
1. Inxila.
2. Kunyanzelekile ukuba iwathetha ngomnye umntu.
3. Ngokuphulukana ngokupheleleyo nomsindo ukuya kuthi ga apho engazi ukuba uthini.
4. Kwimeko engaqhelekanga yengqondo, njengokuhlanya okwexeshana, Isifo okanye kwi-coma.
Kwiimeko ezinjalo, Uqhawulo-mtshato luyinto engasebenziyo.

Inkqubo yoqhawulo-mtshato:

Emva koqhawulo-mtshato, Kunyanzelekile ukuba umfazi angatshatanga kwenye indoda, Ngaphandle kwemva kwemini emithathu yokuya esikhathini, Ukuba akakhulelwa. Ukuba kunjalo, Emva koko kuya kufuneka alinde ade azale, ukuze i-terman yomntwana ayidideki. Eli xesha lexesha libizwa ngokuba 'yi-iddah. Nangona kunjalo, Nokuba umfazi akasasebenzi ukuya esikhathini (umz. Emva kokuyeka), Kuya kufuneka alinde iinyanga ezintathu. Ke ngakumbi kwi 'iddah kunokukhupha nje i-paternity.

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Umthombo: Islamoneline.net