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Arfa: Bismillah! Assalam Alaykum (wrb) and welcome to the family matter show. Ndingusisi wakho. UArfa Saira Iqbal, Head of Pure Matrimony and in today’s show, we are into the second Podcast in our Podcast series of “The making of a perfect Spouse”.
In the first part, we talked all about Self-analysis. This is part 2 where we are really going to be diving deep into physical, ngokomoya, emotional and mental development. What you need to be doing to make yourself the best version of you.
Ngoko, joining me today is Sis. Fathima Farooqi who is my co-host and I’m so excited for this particular podcast because the last one was just Fantastic. Ngoko, Assalamu Alaikkum Sis. Fathima. Icomo estas?
Fathima: Wa Alaikkum Salaam (wrb) Sis. Arfa. Alhamdulillah, I’m well and I’m really looking forward to this one as well. Because, Owu, My God! I’m just thinking, why we didn’t come across this one. Ndinyanisa, why I didn’t think about this one very long ago.
(Both of them laughing out loudly)
Arfa: This one is really interesting after we did that particular podcast. You and I were having a discussion after. We both actually said that we should have done this one thing before we got married.
Fathima: (phinda) Exactly! Kule mihla kulula kakhulu ukuba nalo lonke olu lwazi nayo yonke into kwaye ngenene ndiyathemba ukuba nabani na omamele oku, (phinda) ngokwenene uphumeza ezi zinto kwaye ugxile ngokwenene ekuZiphuhliseni kuba kubaluleke kakhulu ekukhetheni uMlingane ofanelekileyo.
Arfa: Kulungile! umntu owenza ubunzima beathom yobubi…
Fathima : (iyaqhubeka)Uya kuba kwindawo efanelekileyo yokukhetha iqabane xa sele uzazi.
Arfa: Owu, Ngokuqinisekileyo. Ndicinga ukunyaniseka kuwe; siphila kwinkulungwane yama-21, kunene, ukuba awuziphuhlisi ngalo lonke ixesha, ngokunzulu, wenza ntoni.
Fathima: Ewe!
Arfa: Mhlawumbi akasoze acinge ngomfazi wesibini, ukuba uyijonga ngokwembono yamaSilamsi, UbuSilamsi bufuna ukuba sibe kweyona nguqulelo ilungileyo kuthi. Hayi nje ngokwembono yokomoya, kodwa nakwimbono yehlabathi nani. Yiyo loo nto eneneni ukuba ujonga ngasemva, kwiinkulungwane ngaphambi kwexesha legolide lamaSilamsi, why did we have such amazing mathematicians, scientists and doctors and what not. Ndinyanisa, literally, Europe was in darkness. And we brought light into that. That’s why it is called the golden age. Kunene.
Ngoko, we actually brought light into the darkness of Europe, why because, the methodologies, the sort of discoveries that we did they were lights upon everything else. The reason being that our Deen demands excellence in everything. As very interesting actually because, this entire podcast is all about self development, and all of the different things you need to develop to be the best version of you.
But I remember speaking to Sheikh Musleh about this. And you know what Sheikh Musleh told me, he said that one another thing, very interesting actually, one another thing’s that people really sort of mess upon is decided, let’s say a person is an academic person they will push them in towards the Deen. Do you see what I mean? While there is nothing wrong in being a religious person. It’s like, well if you are not gonna be a, let’s say a doctor or a lawyer, anything like that. They try to push them into being like an Aalim or something like that.
If you are not going to mind it, then you are going to be ignorant about lot of things, and unfortunately, they take the ignorance with them into the Deen. And this is why you end up with these Maulavis and all these like Imam’s and stuff like that who have a very poor understanding of what religion actually is and that actually does the Deen more harm than it does good.
Fathima: Ewe! It is going to destroys so many lives.
Arfa: Ngokuqinisekileyo! ( laughs) I’m gonna give this. You know, I love doing these Podcasts. Because it gets through all these extra lot of stories. There is an Imam, not mentioning any names because that wouldn’t be appropriate. There is a local Imam nearby I live, who gave her advise not to name her daughter with a certain name because he told her, if you give her this name she will grow up to be a bad woman.
Fathima: Owu, my god! Look at that!
Arfa: I was shocked, I was like “are you joking?”. She was like “no, he told me not to name”. And this was the name from the Quran by the way. She got a beautiful name from the Quran and he just basically said “Don’t name with this, when she grows up she’s gonna be a bad woman”. And I’m like “Oh, my god! You really got to be kidding me”.
But that’s what ignorance does. It brings darkness where there should be light. Ewe.
Fathima: Ewe, Sis. Arfa. Why is it important to… Let’s get on to the first phase of development. It’s about your physical development. Why is it important to improve oneself physically because, you know, some might say that I think I’m healthy, And Alhamdulillah, Allah has blessed me with good looks and stuffs. We do appreciate the self-confidence but then why is it important to focus on your physical and your, you know, just your overall health and well-being.
Arfa: Kulungile. Kulungile. Here is something to consider…..
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Listen to part one here: https://www://www.muslimmarriageguide.com/podcast-part-1-making-perfect-spouse/
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