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Xa ukhangela umntu oza kuba liqabane lakho kuninzi ekufuneka kuqwalaselwe ingakumbi ukuba ungumama ongatshatanga, kodwa inye into endingazange ndiyicinge nokuyicinga kukubuza indoda ukuba icinga njengotata kunokuba icinge njengomntu. Ndibize ndingenangqondo, kodwa ngokuzenzekelayo ndiye ndacinga ukuba ebeya kucinga ngezinto anokuzincama njengotata kwaye ebeya kuzicingisisa kakuhle izinto.. Mhlawumbi ngamava am nje, kodwa kubonakala ngathi amadoda awazi nakancinane malunga nenqanaba loxanduva abajongene nalo ukuba bakhetha ukutshata nomama omnye.. Xa behamba ngokobude obunjalo bokwenza uphando lwabo ngemoto, Yijonge, qinisekisa ukuba ifanelekile ngokwaneleyo ukuba ibe ngumnikazi wayo kwaye ungayigwebi ngenkangeleko yodwa, Ndicinga ukuba bendinethemba lokuba baya kusebenzisa indlela efanayo emtshatweni; ngokucacileyo akunjalo. Babona umntu abamthandayo kwaye bazama ukubacutha kwi-Stepford Wife mold; bafuna ukuba inkosikazi yabo ibathandele ubomi bayo nobabantwana bayo endaweni yokuba bayenze ngenye indlela. Ngaba oku kulungile? Ngaba le nto kufuneka siyilindele ngoku njengomama abangatshatanga?

Ndibonke ngokwenza izinto ngendlela eyiyo yamaSilamsi, kodwa ndivume ndixakiwe apho kuchazwa ukuba umfazi kufuneka avuye atshintshe abantwana bakhe kwindawo apho bazakuba worse kuba nje umfana efumene umsebenzi eSaudi wagqiba ukuba akanangxaki. uhlala kwi studio flat. Studio flat? nabantwana ababini, enye intombazana ekwicala lokufikisa?! Indoda isacinga ngeminqweno neminqweno yayo hayi iimfuno zabantwana. Yinyani, imali ayisiyiyo yonke into kwaye i-rizq IS sele ibhaliwe, kodwa ngubani othe ngokuzithandela wazibeka kwimeko yemali embi ukuba banokuyinceda ngethemba lokuba iya kubangcono? Inoba yieeman yam le iphantsi kodwa ndinganengxaki yokwenza lento; ndibize ndizicingela, kodwa abantwana bam sele belahlekelwe kakhulu kwaye andinakuyenza loo nto kubo, kodwa abantwana bam sele belahlekelwe kakhulu kwaye andinakuyenza loo nto kubo? kodwa abantwana bam sele belahlekelwe kakhulu kwaye andinakuyenza loo nto kubo, kodwa abantwana bam sele belahlekelwe kakhulu kwaye andinakuyenza loo nto kubo, kodwa abantwana bam sele belahlekelwe kakhulu kwaye andinakuyenza loo nto kubo. kodwa abantwana bam sele belahlekelwe kakhulu kwaye andinakuyenza loo nto kubo, kodwa abantwana bam sele belahlekelwe kakhulu kwaye andinakuyenza loo nto kubo (kodwa abantwana bam sele belahlekelwe kakhulu kwaye andinakuyenza loo nto kubo) kodwa abantwana bam sele belahlekelwe kakhulu kwaye andinakuyenza loo nto kubo. kodwa abantwana bam sele belahlekelwe kakhulu kwaye andinakuyenza loo nto kubo, kodwa abantwana bam sele belahlekelwe kakhulu kwaye andinakuyenza loo nto kubo. kodwa abantwana bam sele belahlekelwe kakhulu kwaye andinakuyenza loo nto kubo, kodwa abantwana bam sele belahlekelwe kakhulu kwaye andinakuyenza loo nto kubo. kodwa abantwana bam sele belahlekelwe kakhulu kwaye andinakuyenza loo nto kubo; izikolo eziphezulu ezihlawula ngcono, funa okona kulungileyo. Unokuba ubeka iiyure ezininzi phaya, kwaye ukuba ubuqhele ubunewunewu apha, ukuhamba ngaphandle kwabo ngemali encinci akunakukwenza wonwabe njengokuba wawunjalo ngenxa yokuba useSaudi. Ukuba amadoda athi AKUKHO imeko ngoko ke wonke umntu wasetyhini unelungelo lokulindela ukuba indoda yakhe ingaze ikhale okanye ikhalaze! Abazalwana bakuxelela ukuba aninalo ukholo kwaye kufuneka niyiyekele kuAllah swt, kodwa asikwazanga ukuthetha okufanayo kubo? “Masihlale apha sikhulise abantwana bethu ukuze babe ngamaSilamsi abalaseleyo esinokuba ngawo kwaye siyiyekele kuAllah”??

Inqaku lam lelo, Ndiyazibuza ukuba la madoda ebenokuthetha okufanayo na ukuba ibibubomi babantwana bawo ebethetha ngabo. Ngaba kungenxa yokuba abantwana ngabethu ingengabo abethu into yokuba abakhathali nokuba abantwana kufuneka babandezeleke ngandlel’ ithile?? Ndiyazi ukuba abantu abaninzi baya kuthi “akukho ndlela!” kodwa masijongane nayo, kufuneka ulwakhe uthando kwaye amadoda amaninzi awayazi ukuba azokwazi na ukuthanda abantwana bomfazi njengabo. Oku kuyandikhathaza kuba ndicinga ukuba i-subhanallah le yinto nje enye yemibingelelo eyenziwa ngumama ongatshatanga njengoqhawulo-mtshato / abahlolokazi.. Abafazi abaninzi bayakwala umkhwenyana onje kodwa abanye bamthathele ingqalelo, mhlawumbi kuba kuthiwe akukho mntu uza kubafuna ngoko ke mabathathe nantoni na abanokuyifumana. Ingongoma kukuba, iyakuba sisigqibo esinzima ukusithatha kwaye siyandikhathaza kakhulu njengomama; thatha ebantwaneni ukuze ubafumanele umyeni noyise?

Akufanele kube ngale ndlela, kodwa kunjalo. Kwi-Islam sixelelwa ukuba sijonge isimilo somntu kunye ne-deen kwaye sitshate ngenxa yoko kunezinye izinto. Yinyani, umtsalane ubalulekile, kodwa thina omama abangatshatanga sixelelwa ukuba asinakukhetha iqela ke ngoko kufuneka sibambe nawuphi na umntu onesidima nokuba unjani na.; amadoda asacinga ukuba umtsalane = uzama ukufumana 'imodeli yaseMelika elandelayo ephezulu' hijabi. Abazalwana abambalwa bandixelele ukuba baye badibana noodade abazinikele ngokwenene kodwa abazange bavume kuba 'babengaziva ngaye' bethanda i-gobby hijabi e-eman kunye ne-deen mbi kakhulu nobuso obuhle.. Yizani bazalwana - yenza izibalo! Akulunganga nakubani na ukulindela ukuba lo sisi avele alungise atshintshe xa usitsho! Akulunganga nakubani na ukulindela ukuba lo sisi avele alungise atshintshe xa usitsho?? Akulunganga nakubani na ukulindela ukuba lo sisi avele alungise atshintshe xa usitsho, Akulunganga nakubani na ukulindela ukuba lo sisi avele alungise atshintshe xa usitsho- Akulunganga nakubani na ukulindela ukuba lo sisi avele alungise atshintshe xa usitsho. Akulunganga nakubani na ukulindela ukuba lo sisi avele alungise atshintshe xa usitsho, Akulunganga nakubani na ukulindela ukuba lo sisi avele alungise atshintshe xa usitsho, Akulunganga nakubani na ukulindela ukuba lo sisi avele alungise atshintshe xa usitsho. Akulunganga nakubani na ukulindela ukuba lo sisi avele alungise atshintshe xa usitsho, Akulunganga nakubani na ukulindela ukuba lo sisi avele alungise atshintshe xa usitsho?!! Akulunganga nakubani na ukulindela ukuba lo sisi avele alungise atshintshe xa usitsho!

Kuyamangalisa ubuninzi babazalwana endikhe ndathetha nabo bebengazi nokuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuba ngutata.. Kuyamangalisa ubuninzi babazalwana endikhe ndathetha nabo bebengazi nokuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuba ngutata., Kuyamangalisa ubuninzi babazalwana endikhe ndathetha nabo bebengazi nokuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuba ngutata., Kuyamangalisa ubuninzi babazalwana endikhe ndathetha nabo bebengazi nokuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuba ngutata.?! Kuyamangalisa ubuninzi babazalwana endikhe ndathetha nabo bebengazi nokuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuba ngutata., Kuyamangalisa ubuninzi babazalwana endikhe ndathetha nabo bebengazi nokuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuba ngutata.; Kuyamangalisa ubuninzi babazalwana endikhe ndathetha nabo bebengazi nokuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuba ngutata.. Kuyamangalisa ubuninzi babazalwana endikhe ndathetha nabo bebengazi nokuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuba ngutata.; Kuyamangalisa ubuninzi babazalwana endikhe ndathetha nabo bebengazi nokuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuba ngutata.. Kuyamangalisa ubuninzi babazalwana endikhe ndathetha nabo bebengazi nokuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuba ngutata., awunokulindela ukuba abantwana babukele imuvi ngelixa ufumana i-jiggy kunye nayo kwaye awukwazi ukulindela ukuba ujike uye kwisidlo sakusihlwa wedwa nanini na ufuna ukuba awunamntwana.!! awunokulindela ukuba abantwana babukele imuvi ngelixa ufumana i-jiggy kunye nayo kwaye awukwazi ukulindela ukuba ujike uye kwisidlo sakusihlwa wedwa nanini na ufuna ukuba awunamntwana., awunokulindela ukuba abantwana babukele imuvi ngelixa ufumana i-jiggy kunye nayo kwaye awukwazi ukulindela ukuba ujike uye kwisidlo sakusihlwa wedwa nanini na ufuna ukuba awunamntwana.! awunokulindela ukuba abantwana babukele imuvi ngelixa ufumana i-jiggy kunye nayo kwaye awukwazi ukulindela ukuba ujike uye kwisidlo sakusihlwa wedwa nanini na ufuna ukuba awunamntwana.. awunokulindela ukuba abantwana babukele imuvi ngelixa ufumana i-jiggy kunye nayo kwaye awukwazi ukulindela ukuba ujike uye kwisidlo sakusihlwa wedwa nanini na ufuna ukuba awunamntwana.. awunokulindela ukuba abantwana babukele imuvi ngelixa ufumana i-jiggy kunye nayo kwaye awukwazi ukulindela ukuba ujike uye kwisidlo sakusihlwa wedwa nanini na ufuna ukuba awunamntwana.? awunokulindela ukuba abantwana babukele imuvi ngelixa ufumana i-jiggy kunye nayo kwaye awukwazi ukulindela ukuba ujike uye kwisidlo sakusihlwa wedwa nanini na ufuna ukuba awunamntwana.? awunokulindela ukuba abantwana babukele imuvi ngelixa ufumana i-jiggy kunye nayo kwaye awukwazi ukulindela ukuba ujike uye kwisidlo sakusihlwa wedwa nanini na ufuna ukuba awunamntwana. ? Kuthekani ngokukhumbula ukuba abantwana babephila phambi kwakho kunye nenkqubo yesiqhelo kwaye ukuba kukho nantoni na ukuba ungene kusapho lwabo kwaye ke nguwe ekufuneka uhlengahlengise.? Kunzima kubantwana ukuziqhelanisa notata omtsha ngakumbi ukuba basagcina ubudlelwane kunye nomdala wabo, uzakuyenza njani lonto? Kutheni kufuneka ibe luxanduva lomfazi ukulungisa yonke into nje ngokuba abantwana ngabakhe? Awusebenzi njengomphathi wenkampani kwaye ulindele ukuba i-CEO iphathe yonke into oyenzayo, okanye yintoni injongo yokuba kubekho umphathi?!

Amanye amadoda acinga nje ukuba oomama babo baya kubukela abantwana babo benyathelo ngokuzenzekelayo ukusuka emini 1. Ngaba la madoda akayiqondi indlela ebuthathaka ngayo ubudlelwane buya kuba ekuqaleni kumntu wonke – ukufumana iinyawo zabo? Ngaba abaqondi ukuba olu lolona loyiko lukhulu umama ongenaqabane analo? Ngaba nyani bacinga ukuba uya kuvuya ukushiya abantwana bakhe nabantu angabaziyo nje ngokuba ngabasebukhweni bakhe? Kufuneka wakhe ukuthembana nothando nentlonipho, awukwazi ukuyifuna kwangoko.

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