Phezulu 10 Iimpawu Zendoda Yokwenene (Isimbo samaSilamsi)

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Ibinzana ekudala liphoswa ligama elidumileyo, “Indoda Yokwenene”. Ukubizwa ngokuthi “Indoda Yokwenyani” isoloko ibonwa njengeyona ncomo iphambili yentlonipho indoda enokunika enye kwaye ukujongwa ngale ndlela kuye kwagqalwa njengeyona njongo iphambili yokufikelela kuluntu lwamadoda.. Kodwa yintoni “Indoda Yokwenyani”?

Kwezinye iindawo zoluntu le mpumelelo ijongwa ngokobungakanani botywala obunokubusela ngaphandle kokugquma kwaye ukhuphe amathumbu akho.. Abanye bajonga indoda yokwenene ngokwemilo engakanani umntu athabathe inxaxheba kuyo waza wayiphumelela, nokuba isizathu sokulwa siyinto engenangqondo kwaye engenasidima. Enye inkcazo yembali yendoda yokwenyani iya kuxhomekeka kwindlela etyatywe ngayo kwaye inqunyulwe ngayo xa isiza kukuqina kwayo., ungakhathali ukuba indlela yokuyifumana yayithandabuzeka. Ezinye iindawo zithi umntu “yindoda yokwenene” kuxhomekeka ekubeni yimalini na ayirholayo okanye zingaphi iintlobano zesini anazo., ngokungakhathali nokuba imali ifunyenwe ngendlela eyakhayo kwaye ijonge ukudakumba okukhulu kwabasetyhini abahluphekayo abavumileyo ukuba lolunye uphawu kwimigidi yakhe yokulala.. Ukubamba ibhola ekhatywayo, uqhuba ilori...ndiqinisekile ukuba kusekho okuninzi.

Ngenye imini ndiye ndafumana inqaku kwi-AskMen.com ebonelela phezulu 10 uluhlu lweempawu zendoda yokwenyani. Ngoku ndinikiwe, Andiqondi ukuba ibhlog bekufanele ukuba ithathelwe ingqalelo kakhulu kuba yayivela kumbono womlinganiswa we-mafioso.. Nangona kunjalo, Ndicinge ukuba ngumbono olungileyo ukungena kuwo xa uchaza ngokufanelekileyo "iNdoda yokwenyani". Ndiyakholwa le phezulu 10 uluhlu lubalulekile kuba oko kubumba indoda yokwenene kungamiselwanga mthetho nguye nawuphi na umntu oqhelekileyo. Owu, hayi, hayi, hayi…ukubhengezwa kweNdoda yokwenyani ivela kumazwi oMdali, uThixo (uThixo) yomntu ngokwakhe, yaye yasetyenziswa yindoda ngokungathandabuzekiyo engumfuziselo wendoda yokwenene, UMprofeti uMuhammad (uxolo neentsikelelo zika-Allh zibe phezu kwakhe). Ngokufunda nje ngobomi bale ndoda, imizabalazo yakhe kunye nenkcazo yobume bakhe obunzulu, akukho mntu kulo mhlaba ukuba ileyibhile ethi “Indoda Yokwenene” imfaneleka ngokugqibeleleyo kunaye. Ngoko ngaphandle kokuqhubeka, Nazi iimpawu ezilishumi eziphezulu zendoda yokwenene.

Iimpawu # 1: Indoda Yokwenene Iyafunda

Kuko oko, njengokuba isisu sakho sifuna ukutyiswa rhoqo ngokutya, ingqondo yakho kufuneka yondliwe rhoqo ngolwazi. Ngoku kukho iindlela ezimbalwa zokufumana ulwazi lwezinto ezahlukeneyo kodwa indlela eqinisekileyo yokuba ibambelele engqondweni yakho kukufunda.. (Inqaku elikhawulezayo: Ukuba uyindoda yokwenyani, awuzange uncwine xa ufunda le mpawu yokuqala.) Kwaye hayi anditsho ukufunda iphephandaba, okanye Twitter okanye Facebook iindaba feeds uyakwenza. AKUKHO ukufunda okuyinyaniso oko. Ayikokufunda kwamadoda oko. Ndithetha ngeencwadi. Indoda ifunda iincwadi. Iincwadi ezinokumsindisa ekwenzeni iimpazamo zobudenge, iincwadi ezinokumkhuthaza ukuba aphume kwisiphelo sakhe esonqena kwaye enze into naye, iincwadi ezimenza aqonde ukuba kutheni elapha kwasekuqaleni. Nangona uMprofeti (uxolo neentsikelelo zika-Allh zibe phezu kwakhe) naye wayengafundanga, ukwenze kwaba yinto ephambili ekufuneni ulwazi kwaye zininzi iintetho apho akhankanya ukubaluleka okuphezulu kokufumana ulwazi.. Ezinye ziquka: “Ipeni(ulwazi) unamandla kunekrele” yaye “Lowo uhamba efuna ukwazi, kuye uThixo ubonisa indlela yeParadesi.” Indoda yokwenene ayiyeki ukufuna ulwazi de intliziyo yayo iyeke ukubetha.

Iimpawu # 2: Indoda Yokwenyani yindoda Egxilileyo

Ngokubhekiselele kuphawu olungasentla, indoda yokwenene enolwazi, uyayiqonda into ebalulekileyo kwaye yintoni inkunkuma engalifanelanga ixesha lakhe. Indoda yokwenyani ayizilahli kwiintsimbi ezintle kunye neempempe zobomi ezingamzisi nzuzo yokwenyani. Xa indoda yokwenyani ibona izinto eziphazamisayo, uqhubeka ehamba. Indoda yokwenene iyasiqonda isizathu sokuba ilapha emhlabeni, nokuba ulapha ixeshana elifutshane kwaye kufuneka enze into afanele ukuyenza ukuze aqinisekise ukuba unetikiti lokuya eparadesi.. Indoda yokwenene igxininisa kwizinto ezibalulekileyo: ezenza ngcono yena, ukuphilisa usapho lwakhe nokuzilungiselela ikamva. Indoda yokwenyani iphila ngento uMprofeti (uxolo neentsikelelo zika-Allh zibe phezu kwakhe) watsho:“Phila kweli hlabathi (ukuba ukhona) umhambi okanye owasemzini.”, eyona nto ithetha ukuthi ungabanjwa bubukhazikhazi kunye nobukhazikhazi beli hlabathi kuba lilokwexeshana. Ayinakuhlala kwaye ichithe ixesha. Ungavumeli izinto zikuphazamise kuba kufuneka ufike kwindawo oya kuyo. Indoda yokwenene iliphatha ngobulumko ixesha layo kwaye inikela ngokufanelekileyo ngenxa yomsebenzi wayo, usapho lwakhe, noMdali wakhe. Hlala ugxile kwaye wenze oko kufuneka ukwenze, kuba ekugqibeleni akukho mntu unokukukhulula.

Iimpawu # 3: Indoda Yokwenyani Inobulali Kodwa Iqinile

Indoda yokwenyani iyazi ukuba yindoda enengqondo, hayi isilwanyana. Indoda yokwenyani ithethela phantsi kwaye ayifuni kukhwaza kwaye ikhwaza phezulu kwimiphunga yayo ukuze iviwe okanye iqonde inqaku layo.. Indoda yokwenyani ayidali mboniso, qala inkathazo okanye "ukwenza nzima" phambi kwabanye ukubonisa ukuba ungumfana onzima. Xa kukho ingxaki ngaphambili, wenza konke okusemandleni akhe ukuyikhahlela ngendlela ephucukileyo. Indoda yokwenyani ayiyo punk nayo. Kuba nje engaliphakamisi ilizwi lakhe okanye azame ukoyikisa abanye, akuthethi ukuba uyimethi yomgangatho enokuthi abantu bahambe kuyo yonke indawo. Ukuba kukho into anengxaki, uyasivumela ukuba siviwe. Indoda yokwenene inomonde. Indoda yokwenene ithomalalisa umsindo wayo njengengonyama evalelwe. Ngokuqinisekileyo angaluvula ucango nangaliphi na ixesha kwaye akhulule isihogo kodwa uyazi ukuba kukho imbeko nesidima ekuzibambeni.. Ukuphakamisa amanqindi ngu-ABSOLUTE yokugqibela (uxolo neentsikelelo zika-Allh zibe phezu kwakhe) watsho, “Akanamandla yaye akanamandla owisa abantu, Ke ugorha obamba umsindo wakhe., ukongeza naye watsho, “Baphathe ngobulali abantu, kwaye ungabi ngqwabalala; vuyani, ningagwebi. Indoda yokwenyani iphila ngezi caphulo.

Iimpawu # 4: Indoda yokwenyani yiNdoda yosapho

Indoda yokwenene iyakuqonda ukubaluleka kwentsapho yayo yaye yenza konke okusemandleni ayo ukuze ibe lilungu lentsapho elinikelayo. Indoda yokwenyani iyagcina kwaye iyakhusela. Indoda yokwenene iyaqonda ukuba abantwana bayo bayintsikelelo evela kuThixo yaye ibaphatha ngolo hlobo ize ibakhulise ukuze babe ngabantu abathe tye.. Indoda yokwenene IYANZA IXESHA lentsapho yayo yaye ayiyityesheli ngenxa yomsebenzi okanye iinkqubano zayo zobuqu.. Indoda yokwenene ingumqolo wentsapho yakhe kwaye ayinalo ixesha lokuba buthathaka. Indoda yokwenene ayipheleli nje ekunyamekeleni umzi wayo osondeleyo kodwa inyamekela usapho lwayo ekhule nayo. Ubabeka ngembeko abazali bakhe kangangoko, ingakumbi umama wakhe. Utsalela umnxeba usapho lwakhe rhoqo kwaye uhlala enxibelelana. Ulungile kubantakwabo kunye nezalamane. Indoda yokwenene izabalazela ukuba ngoyena tata, ubhuti, Unyana nomyeni unokuba kwaye usebenza nzima ukuze aphile ukuze abe ngoyena ubalaseleyo. UMprofeti (uxolo neentsikelelo zika-Allh zibe phezu kwakhe) kanye wathi, “Oyena ulungileyo kuni ngoyena ulungileyo kusapho lwakhe, kwaye ndingoyena ulungileyo kuni kusapho lwam.”

Iimpawu # 5: Indoda Yokwenyani ayihlebi/Intlebendwane/Intlebendwane

Indoda yokwenyani iyawuvala umlomo ukuba ayikho into emnandi ayithethayo. Indoda yokwenyani, xa esiva abanye bekrazula nabani na–nokuba bayabazi okanye ababazi, mhlawumbi idlule kwaye iyivale ngokulumkisa iqela okanye iphume ngaphandle kwegumbi. Indoda yokwenyani ibingathi ikuloo meko, “Hayi, Andithandi ukuba nabani na athethe loo nto ngam xa ndingekho ngoko akufanele ukuba uthethe ngo-ba-njalo-njalo.". Indoda yokwenene iluphaphele ngenyameko ulwimi lwayo kuba iyazi ukuba into eyithethayo inokumenzakalisa ngelo xesha okanye ngokuqinisekileyo kwixesha elizayo. Indoda yokwenyani ayixoxi ngezinto engabaziyo okanye abantu engazange idibane nabo. Indoda yokwenyani ayithethisi ukuba "ipholile" kwaye ikhetha amagama ayo ngobulumko kuba iyakwazi ukuyiqonda kakuhle ingongoma yayo ngaphandle kokulahla i-f-bhombu okanye i-s-missle.. Indoda yokwenyani iyayibona le hadith ithi “Inkoliso yabantu abasesihogweni somlilo balapho ngenxa yokuba bengakwazi ukulawula ulwimi lwabo.” KwiKurân, UThixo uthi unike umntu “Imilebe emibini nolwimi olunye”, ngoko imilebe inokululawula ulwimi. [Surah Al Balad, 9]

Iimpawu # 6: Indoda Yokwenene Izigcina Izithembiso Zayo

Ilizwi lendoda yokwenyani liqhina lakhe. Ukuba akakwazi ukugcina isithembiso, ayinikeli ilizwi lakhe. Indoda yokwenyani ithembekile kwaye ayimjongeli phantsi umntu. Akasebenzisi u-Insha'Allah (Xa uThixo evuma) njengepowuthi. Akawaphuli amatyala kwaye uhlawula amatyala. Indoda yokwenene iyazi ukuba amazwi ayo anamandla njengezenzo zayo, kwaye kufuneka zithathwe ngexabiso eliphantsi. Indoda yokwenene ayitsho ukuba "Ndiya kuzama" ukuba akufuneki izame ngokwenene. Uyayenza okanye akenzi kwaye ukuba akakwazi ukuyenza, uthi akakwazi. Akukho ntloni xa usithi awukwazi ukwenzela umntu inceba, okanye awukwazi ukuza. Ubuncinci uya kuba ngaphambili kwaye unyaniseke ngayo kunokuba uthembele kwaye uvumele umntu phantsi. Ithini iKurân malunga noku? “Owu nina bakholwayo! Kutheni uthetha into ongayenziyo? Ithiye kakhulu kuAllh xa nithetha into eningayenziyo.” [Surah Saff, 2-3] Ukusuka kwesi sicatshulwa, INdoda yokwenyani iyazi ukuba ukugcina isithembiso lishishini elibalulekileyo kwaye ayijiki kuzo.

Iimpawu # 7: Indoda yokwenyani iyabahlonipha bonke abafazi

Indoda yokwenyani "ayingxoli" kumantombazana. Indoda yokwenyani ayihlali nabanye abafana kwaye ithethe ngendlela amantombazana anomtsalane ngayo kwaye alale ngelixa exoxa ngamalungu emizimba yawo kwaye efuna "ukuyibetha". Indoda yokwenyani ayiphathi abafazi njenge-buffet. Indoda yokwenyani isukela UMFAZI, hayi intombi kwaye uhamba ngayo ngendlela eyiyo. Ukuba indoda yokwenyani inomdla kwimazi, uya kubazali babo ukuze abaxelele iinjongo zakhe, ngendlela ababeyenza ngayo mandulo. Indoda yokwenene isebenza ekuthobeni amehlo xa kudlula amabhinqa amahle. Indoda yokwenene igcina ukusebenzisana kwayo nabasetyhini kufutshane, inobubele kwaye ifikelele kwinqanaba kwaye ayikuvumeli ukuba kuhambe ixesha elide ukuze iingcinga zodlala kunye neengcinga ezimdaka zingene kumxube. Ukuba indoda itshatile, uhlala ethembekile kwaye akayiboni amehlo akhe kwenye indawo - kwaye oko kubandakanya iTV, kwi-intanethi kunye neemagazini. Indoda yokwenene iyamhlonela umfazi wayo, kokubini esidlangalaleni nangasese. Indoda yokwenyani ayiphakamisi zandla emfazini wayo nokuba imeko ithini na. Indoda yokwenene ayibonisi iimpazamo zomfazi wayo kwaye imphathe njengommi wesibini. Indoda yokwenyani iphatha wonke umntu obhinqileyo (ayingomfazi wakhe lowo) udibana naye ngendlela aphatha ngayo unina okanye udade wabo.

Iimpawu # 8: Indoda Yokwenene Igcina Indlu Yayo Ilungelelene

Ngokuchaseneyo nenkolelo ethandwayo, indoda yokwenyani ayihlali ehokweni. Akukho bhokisi zepizza kwikhawuntara, isinki ayigcwalanga zitya kwaye impahla yakhe yangaphantsi ayilalanga. Indoda yokwenyani iyinkosi yendawo yayo ukuba ihlala yodwa, kuba ukuba akunjalo, kungcono abuyele kunye nomama wakhe kwaye afumane izifundo ukuba ufuna ukufumana umfazi. Ilungile loo nto! Indoda yokwenyani IYENZA IMISEBENZI, nditsho nomfazi wakhe. Uhlamba izitya ukuba zifuna ukucocwa, ikhupha inkunkuma, uyazihlamba iimpahla zakhe, u-ayina iimpahla zakhe, upheka amaxesha ngamaxesha. Ukuba awukafiki kwelo nqanaba, kungcono usebenze kuyo ngoku. UMprofeti uMuhammad (uxolo neentsikelelo zika-Allh zibe phezu kwakhe) wayesenza imisebenzi yasekhaya rhoqo kwaye uninzi lwemisebenzi yakhe wayenza ngokwakhe njengokulungisa izihlangu zakhe, ezenzela eyakhe impahla njlnjl. Yeka ukusebenzisa ubudoda njengesizathu kwaye wenze umsebenzi wakho, coca indawo yakho, lungisa amaxwebhu akho kwaye uzicoce.

Iimpawu # 9: Indoda Yokwenene Iphatha Eyayo Imali

Indoda yokwenyani ayilotyala lesisa. Akahambi ekhangela ama-handouts kumama kunye notata okanye abahlobo. Indoda yokwenyani ayonelisekanga ngeetshekhi zentlalontle. Uphuma apho aze aphule umsila wakhe ukuze enze into afuna ukuyenza kwaye abe ngoyena ubalaseleyo kuyo. Nokuba yi-CEO yenkampani yakho okanye utshayela izitrato ngomtshayelo, ube ngoyena ubalaseleyo kuyo nayiphi na into okhetha ukuyenza kwaye uyinike 100%. Xa uqala ukwenza isonka, Awuyiqhayisi njenge douche okanye uyibhuqe njengesidenge. Uqingqa imali yakho kwaye uqiniseke ukuba unogcino oluthile loncedo olungxamisekileyo. Indoda yokwenyani ayithengi into engenako ukuyifikelela. Indoda yokwenyani ixhomekeke kumbilo wayo ngokusebenza nzima noThixo, ukumondla. Kunokuba ibe yityala lesisa, indoda yokwenene inika isisa nezinto ezilungileyo. Ngaphandle kokuba ufuna ukuhlangula ihlabathi ngokwakhe kuyo yonke imiba yalo, ufanele abaxhase abo benza izinto ezilungileyo ngokufanelekileyo. UMprofeti (uxolo neentsikelelo zika-Allh zibe phezu kwakhe) wake wathi kubhetele umntu athathe intambo ayotheza iinkuni emqolo azithengise emva koko aye kucela imali.. Ke yenza into ekufuneka uyenzile ukuze uphile ngokunyanisekileyo kwaye ubuyisele kwaye uThixo uyakunethela ithamsanqa apha nakubomi obulandelayo..

Iimpawu # 10: Indoda yokwenyani iyazi ukuba iyavavanywa

Indoda yokwenyani ayikhali, ukhale kwaye ukhalaze xa ubomi bungahambi ngendlela yakhe. Akayi kuhlamba, uzisizele okanye ajonge kuyo yonke iBS engahambi kakuhle kubomi bakhe kuye nabani na oya kumamela.. "Kutheni mna?” ayikho kwisigama sendoda yokwenene. Indoda yokwenene yenza izigqibo kwaye ithatha uxanduva olupheleleyo lokulandelayo. Indoda yokwenyani ibonisa UMBULELO. Uyayibulela into anayo nokuba inkulu okanye incinci kangakanani na. Uthatha amakhadi enziwe ngawo kwaye abaleke nawo. Akajongi abanye abantu kwaye abe nomona ngenxa yokuba bebaninzi. Indoda yokwenene iyaqonda ukuba inobuthathaka ize isebenze ekubulawuleni ize ingasetyenziswa bubo. Kungenxa yokuba indoda yokwenyani iyayazi ukuba buyintoni na obu bomi. Indoda iyazi ukuba isoloko ivavanywa yaye izigqibo ezenzayo ziya kuba nemiphumo emibi okanye eyakhayo ekugqibeleni xa iphambi koMenzi wayo ngomhla womgwebo.. Indoda yokwenyani ikhala kuphela ngasese eNkosini yayo kwaye icele intuthuzelo kuyo, uxolelo nentuthuzelo. Indoda yokwenyani yenza konke okusemandleni ayo kuyo nayiphi na into eyenzayo kwaye xa ubomi buyigibisela igophe ithatha inyathelo kuba iyayazi into ethethwa yiQur’ān “Ebunzimeni kuza lula.” [ISurah Ash-Sharh, 5-6] Indoda yokwenyani iyazi ukuba kuhlala kukho amahla ndinyuka ebomini kwaye okona kusezantsi kubomi obulandelayo ukuba iye phezulu esihogweni somlilo kwaye okokugqibela kunye nolona hlobo "lokukhululeka" lukwiParadesi maxin 'kunye ne-relaxin. ' ngonaphakade. Ekugqibeleni sonke sizama ukuya kwindawo enye, kwaye indoda yokwenyani iyayazi loo nto nge-Islam, unekhampasi, Unendlela ethe tye kwaye uyayazi into amakayenze ukuze afike apho. Yonke enye into ingumqobo endleleni yakhe.

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