Ndifuna Iqabane Elilungileyo Kodwa...

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Mhlawumbi oku kungenxa yokuba wonke umntu ufuna ukukhupha ukukhathazeka kwakhe, babelane ngemigqaliselo yabo kunye nokwamkelwa okanye ukukhatywa kwabo kwesi sihloko sivunyiweyo nesinika umdla jikelele. Kweli dabi, Ndibone abanye abantu besiba nomsindo kangangokuba bagabhe okwabo ukudibana, imicimbi yothando, kwaye njalo- ukutyumza okungapheliyo kunye namagama anokubakho amaqela esidlangalaleni!

Kanjalo, umtshato ngumxholo obaluleke kakhulu kwaye ubaluleke kakhulu, enokubonwa kwimiba yomibini: umba wobuzaza kunye nomba wolonwabo. Kuxhomekeke ngokupheleleyo kwiminyaka yomntu, ukukhula kunye nesimo sengqondo ngobomi.

"Ndifuna iqabane elilungileyo kodwa ...", sisigaba esiqhelekileyo kubomi bolutsha lwamaSilamsi. Le ngxaki yinto esiyivayo macala onke kwiinkolo zethu & iindibano zolonwabo.

Apho, kwelinye icala, onke amadoda athambekele elunqulweni ayayazi kwaye ayayiqonda neyona hadith idumileyo:

“Umfazi utshatile ngenxa yezizathu ezine: ubutyebi bakhe, ubuhandiba bakhe, ubuhle bakhe kunye nokuhlonela kwakhe. Khetha umntu olungileyo kwaye uphumelele. " (Bukharee)

Kodwa bambalwa ngokwenene abakulungeleyo ukwenza oko.

Abanye babahlobo bam abaziqhelanisayo balindele ukungqubana nohlobo oluthile lweCinderella e-abaya. Oku kwandenza ndaqonda kungakhathaliseki indlela akhangeleka ngayo amadoda onqulo, abantu abangaphantsi kakhulu bazimisele ngokwenene ukuzincama xa kufikwa kubuhle kunye nobudala, nangona babingelela ngokuhlonela uThixo, ubutyebi nobuhandiba.

Lo mkhwa usibonisa ngokucacileyo inguqulelo yokwenyani ye-inner-us. Sonke siyayiva kwaye sithethe ngayo yonke le haadith ngalo lonke ixesha, kodwa ngaba sithetha ngenene? Ngokufanayo, ukulahlwa kwenziwa phantsi kweelebhile ze "kuff" (ukuhambelana), kodwa esona sizathu sokukhatywa yenye into. Okanye nokuba kuff, yintoni kanye kanye eyenza (Kuff) ukulingana emehlweni ethu, lo ngumcimbi wengxoxo.

Abaphengululi abahlukeneyo baye benza i-Ijtihad yabo malunga nokuba zeziphi izinto ezibandakanyekayo xa kuziwa kwi-Kuff. Kukho izimvo ezahlukeneyo, kodwa olona luvo lunamandla nolona luvakalayo- nolusetyenziswa nguShaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen - kukuba uKuff ubhekiselele ekuzibopheleleni kwezenkolo kuphela.. [Funda ngokugqithisileyo : http://www.islamqa.com/en/ref/84306]

Ingqondo yesini somfazi kuluntu lwethu ayifani; nabo benza kwaloo nto. Nangona banokubamba isidanga kwifiqh, gcina i-hijab efanelekileyo kwaye uthi kunye nabazali babo, “Sifuna iqabane elililungisa…” bambalwa kakhulu abanesibindi ngokwaneleyo sokwenza oko kuthethwayo. Kuyabonakala ukuba xa umntu osuka kusapho oluphantsi (kodwa ungcwele kakhulu) isondela kubo, ngequbuliso izinto ezininzi zongezwa kuluhlu lwabo. Nabo bayayazi le hadith edumileyo (intliziyo yam!):

“Ukuba umntu oqhelisela ubufundisi (unqulo) iyanelisa wena, ucela intombi yakho yomtshato, kufuneka ubatshate; kungenjalo, kuya kubakho ukonakala emhlabeni.”(e-Tirmidhee)3

Kodwa abafane benze oko.

Abasetyhini bakhetha ukutshata nabafana abavela kumazwe eHlabathi lokuQala abanezidanga eziphezulu ezininzi, iFerrari kwaye inemali eninzi yemali eseleyo yebhanki. Ngaba ihlala iyinto embi? Kukho izinto ezithile anokuthi umfazi azifake kwisivumelwano sakhe somtshato ukuthintela indoda. Kodwa ukuba ikwenza ujike kwizindululo ezininzi ezilungileyo kwaye ukuba kuphela kwendlela yakho kunye nokubaluleka kwakho kuqala, ke ewe, unokuba nengxaki. Kuphela xa abachasi behluleka ukufumana ipakethe yabo egqibeleleyo, bayazisola ngokugatya abo bangaphambili ababacebise ngokuthozama besebenzisa abazali babo.

Musa (Uxolo malube phezu kwenu) ebengasoze atshate intombi yalamntu wamnika indawo yokuhlala, ukuba iimeko zikayisezala zazisekelwe kwizinto eziphathekayo njenganamhlanje. Ngela xesha, wayengenabulungu beklabhu, imali, iimoto okanye ezinye izinto zodidi, ebengekanikwa nobuProfeti! Wayeyindoda ethozamileyo neqabane elililungisa. Yayiyiloo nto kuphela awayenayo. Kodwa kwizilumko, obo bubutyebi bokwenyani, eyona ndlela yokwenyani.

Xa kufikwa kwimitshato elibazisekileyo kunye neembandezelo ezinxulumene nomtshato, amaxesha amaninzi, ityala lingaphakathi kuthi; isimo sethu sengqondo sefantasy-ihlabathi kunye nemigangatho ephezulu.

Xa kufikwa kwimitshato elibazisekileyo kunye neembandezelo ezinxulumene nomtshato, amaxesha amaninzi, ityala lingaphakathi kuthi; isimo sethu sengqondo sefantasy-ihlabathi kunye nemigangatho ephezulu. Inyaniso kukuba ukuthanda izinto eziphathekayo kusekho ndaweni ithile ezingqondweni nasezintliziyweni zethu. Kubonakala ngathi ayizukuhamba nangona siziva kwaye sizazi zonke ezi ntetho kwaye nangona siwazi amabali abo bonke abalingane kunye neendlela zabo zokuthatha amaqabane..

Zibuze, ukuba namhlanje, isindululo siza ngendlela yakho, ebonakala ithembisa ngokwenkolo kodwa, mhlawumbi, Ukuzabalaza kwimicimbi yehlabathi, ungavuma okanye uhambe? Konke oku kungumbandela wezinto eziphambili.

Umtshato osulungekileyo

….Apho Ukuziqhelanisa Kwenziwa Kugqibelele

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