視覺VS情感

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Allah has created men and women differently. One of the most pronounced differences between genders when it comes to issues of intimacy is arousal. Each gender has been keyed to respond to different senses. If a couple wishes to maximize feelings of closeness and intimacy, it is essential that each party understands the other’s arousal mechanism.

For men, the primary sense of arousal is 身體的. Seeing the figure, smelling the aroma, and touching the body of a woman is what arouses a man. When a man’s 身體的 needs are satisfied, he is most likely to reciprocate with 情緒化的 responses.

For a woman, on the other hand, the primary sense of arousal is 情緒化的. Feeling loved, appreciated and cared for are the underlying emotional factors that will mostly make the woman love back in return. When a woman’s 情緒化的 needs are satisfied, she is more likely to reciprocate with 身體的 responses.

One of the biggest sources of conflict in a marriage is this simple lack of understanding. Women feel used when their husbands take advantage of them physically but ignore their emotional needs. 另一方面, men feel frustrated that their wives are so withdrawn and cold during acts of intimacy, complaining both at the quantity and quality of these acts. Both parties need to give more of what the other party wants, in order to receive back what they themselves desire.

A marriage is a give-and-take relationship. It is a two way street. You must give the best of what your partner wants in order to obtain the best of what you wish to receive. Men need to learn to be more sensitive and understanding, and women need to learn to be more physical.

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來源 : Like A Garment Email Series by Sheikh Yasir Qadhi