尊重父母

经过 纯婚 - 十月, 20日 2014

Allah subhanahu wa taala 将他们的孩子托付给穆斯林父母，并让他们负责以伊斯兰方式抚养他们. They are the model to their children whom are the next generation. It is important to be cautious in our actions and manners especially in front of them. Think before you speak. Think before you act. 例如, when a father backbites another individual in front of his child; no amount of advice from him to refrain from backbiting will work.

It may seem a huge task to be able to be a good model for the children, but one should also know and realize that it is the only way we can really teach our children.

Both Allah subhanahu wa taala and our Beloved Prophet (愿主福安之) have mentioned the importance of raising and educating children.

In Surah Al-Tahreem 66:6, Allah the Exalted said:

“哦，你们相信! 保护自己和家人远离火灾 (地狱) 他们的燃料是人和石头, 在哪些是 (任命) 天使船尾 (和) 严重, 谁不服从, (从执行) 他们从真主那里得到的命令, 但按照他们的命令去做”

Imam al-Tabari performed a commentary on this verse and stated that when Allah subhanahu wa taala says ‘Ward off yourselves’ teach one another that which will protect those who do it from the Fire and ward it off from them, 如果它是为了服从真主而做的，而他们是为了服从真主而做的. The phrase “and your families against a Fire” means, 并教导你的家人做对真主的服从行为，这样他们就可以保护自己免受火刑. [Tafseer al-Tabari, 18/165]

Our beloved Prophet (愿主福安之) 说过

“All of you are heads of a group and all of you are responsible for your groups; the ruler is the head of state and he is responsible for his people, the man is head of his family and responsible for his family, the woman is the head in her husband’s house and she is responsible for the house. In short all of you are heads and responsible for your group.” [布哈里与穆斯林]

This implies that every individual is responsible in building an Islamic society and what occurs around the Ummah today only indicates the neglect of responsibility.

The Importance of Prayer:

Prayer is one of the five pillars upon which Islam is founded, and how can anyone build a building without foundations, and how secure is a building without its foundations?

在清算日, each and every Muslim will first be asked about his/her prayer before any other actions. Imagine a scenario, when failing in the first exam paper, how you will be able to perform the upcoming exam papers that are even more difficult to answer.

In Surah Al Baqarah, Allah subhanahu wa taala stressed the importance of prayer

“Those who believe, and do deeds of righteousness, and establish regular prayers and regular charity, will have their reward with their Lord: on them shall be no fear, nor shall they grieve.” (巴卡拉 2:277)

Prayer purifies our souls and is a direct communication between a servant and His Lord. No matter what the circumstances are, it cannot be waived as other pillars of Islam fasting in Ramadan, 朝觐 (pilgrimage) and Zakat that can be waived under certain conditions.

Not only prayer is important, but also praying on time. Allah subhanahu wa taala said in Surah An-Nisa, 诗 103:

’Indeed the prayer has been enjoined upon the Believers at stated times’

Abu Amr ash-Shaybani said: The owner of this house – and he pointed to the house of Abdullah ibn Mas’ood – 说过: I asked the Messenger (愿主福安之) ‘Which action is most loved by Allah?’ 他 (愿主福安之) 说过: “Prayer at its proper time.” 然后他说: What next? 他 (愿主福安之) 说过: “Righteous conduct towards the parents.” 然后他说: What next? 他 (愿主福安之) 说过: “Jihad in the path of Allah.” 他 (欢迎您转载此信息，只要包含以下信息) 说过: He informed me with them, If I asked him for more he would have told me more.

This emphasises that praying on time is the most beloved action that he (愿主福安之) even before righteousness to parents and Jihad. This can seen by the use of ‘What next’

Importance Of Teaching Our Children How To Pray:

It is crucial that we teach our children how to pray, as we have a duty to ourselves and family in relation to religious commitment and goodness. Allah subhanahu wa taala said in Surah Ta-Ha:

“并禁止 As-Salaat (祈祷) 在你的家人身上, and be patient in offering them [IE. the Salaat (祈祷)]” [Ta-Ha 20:132]

据说艾布胡莱勒 (愿真主喜悦他) 说过: 真主的使者 (愿主福安之) 说过: “教你的孩子七岁时祈祷, and smack them (轻轻) if they do not do so when they are ten, 把他们分开在床上。”

由阿布·达伍德讲述, 495; classed as saheeh (真正的) by Shaykh al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 5868

Tips on How to Teach Our Children How To Pray

When teaching and reminding children of obligatory duties such as prayer or any other good action even voluntary, it is important that the educator should be approachable and easy-going, and not foul-mouthed, beat or even threat their children. 然而, if the child neglects his/her duties and continue to do prohibited actions, then one needs to firm and use stern measures without causing harm. Here are several tips:

1) When young, children imitate what they see in front of them, so you can pray in front of them. This will ignite an interest in them that they would like to join the salah.

2) Teach them Quran slowly, starting with Surah Al-Fatiha. Break it down.

3) Invite your children 7+ to pray alongside the family congregation prayer (Jamaah).

4) Teach your children that they are praying to the Provider (Al-Raziq) and that when we pray, we give thanks to Him for the blessings He has provided for us.

5) Children ask a lot of questions; so when they see you pray, they will want to question, 为什么, 什么时候, 如何, who and what for. Do not ignore their questions. The more they ask, the more they learn; which will help the child develop his mental and intellectual abilities.

If you don’t know an answer, it is better for you to ask or research from authentic sources and respond to them.

6) Children love bed-time stories. Instead of princess and action man stories, narrate to them stories in which they can benefit and learn lessons from them; for example parables of the Prophets (peace upon them) how they supplicated and prayed during good and testing times; the advice of Luqman (the wise one) to his son when he stressed the importance of prayer.

最终, Allah subhanahu wa taala has given each and every one of us good and bad tendencies to choose and decide and we will be tested, the more we are tested, the more Allah loves us as Allah subhanahu wa taala tests those He loves. The role of the parents is to encourage the good tendencies in their children so that one can help themselves and their families and follow the correct path.

“And Say Do deeds! Allah will see your deeds and (so will) His Messenger and the believers. And you will be brought back to the All-Knower of the unseen and the seen. Then He will inform you of what you used to do.” [Surah At-Tawbah verse 105].

This article serves as a reminder; one can only remind, the rest is up to you to think, act and implement. We need to revive Islam within our hearts and actions. Don’t leave it too late.

纯婚

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