7 Ngaahi meʻa he ʻikai talaatu ʻe ho husepaniti Mosilemi

The part about sex is ridiculous. No one should be forced to have sex if they’re not up to it.

Fika 4 ʻoku veve.. ko e coz pe ʻa e tokotaha faʻu tohi deisres e kakai fefine kehe pe fakakaukau ke toʻo ha uaifi ʻe taha ʻoku ʻikai ʻuhinga ia ʻoku fai ʻe he tangata kotoa pe .. ko e tokolahi taha ʻo e kakai tangata angamahení ʻoku nau fiemālie pē ʻi ha uaifi pē ʻe taha…..pea ʻoku fakaʻaongaʻi tatau pē 2 houʻeiki fafiné ʻoku ʻikai ko ha kakai tangata pē …tokolahi ʻhangatonu’ ʻoku fie maʻu foki ʻe he fefine ha kau tangata kehe ka ʻoku mahino Der ʻikai gna talaange ki honau husepaniti LOL. Ko ha meʻa ngalivale ia ke lea ʻaki. Fakakaukau ange kapau ʻe talaatu ʻe ha taha ʻoku ʻ ʻoua te ke hohaʻa ki he fakakaukau ho uaifi ki he kau tangata kehe ʻoku angamaheni ʻaki pe’ ko e hā hoʻo ongó?? ʻOku ongoʻi tatau pē ʻa e houʻeiki fafiné, kiʻi fakaʻapaʻapaʻi

Salaam to all Muslim brothers and sisters who are reading this article and its forum,

ʻOku ʻaonga ʻa e fakamatala ko ʻení. But there are certain aspects of that needs addressing. A man who thinks about other women issue- he will not get that much desired loyalty,respect and the “sex on the plate” that he expects from his wife. It has to be earned. In fact it works both ways- a wife will be loyal and her obedience, sex etc only when she FEELS secure in the marriage.

May I point out that marriage is very hard experience for both parties. Only patience, repect and hard work from both spouses on mutual basis are few of the qualities that can make the marriage work. It is about give and take.

Even I agree with it, wat do u hav to say for this….?

Houʻeiki Fafiné, I take this as an opportunity to dispell some of the misunderstandings of this hadeeth. In every hadeeth there is meaning and insight to be gained. The hadith is not carte blanche for a man to come every night and request sex and then when refused hold this over her head. Islam is about logic and clear thinking. The hadith is meant for two people who are married and are being the best husband and wife to one another. This entails having respect and loyalty for one another, along with the feelings of passion and love to one another. So when a man asks his wife, and this is a good point, the hadith says “ASKS his wife”, not force it upon her, and she says no without reason, in order to get back at him, because they are fighting and she wants to teach him a lesson. But for the couple who are in agreement with one another and understand one another and know that perhaps you have had a long day, your stressed about work, your worried about your childrens exams etcc..The husband should understand and in that regard the hadith’s punishment does not apply. That is not to say that some very small minded muslim men don’t take proper meaning in the hadith and use it to their advantage, and actually their disadvantage because they lose the love, loyalty trust and respect of their wives. I hope that shed some light on the issue for you all. Salam

ʻOku ou fie talaatu pē ʻe ʻi ai ha kau fafine tui tuku kehe pē kuo maʻu ʻe hono husepānití ha uaifi hono uá.

Salaam ko haram pe halal ke ʻoange ki ho husepaniti ʻi muʻa?

Assalamaleikom,

ʻoku ou ʻamanaki pē ʻe tali ʻeni ki he konga lahi ʻo e ngaahi fakamatala fekauʻaki mo e husepānití ke tokolahi ange ʻi he uaifí.

Mali Tokolahí

Q. Ko e ha ʻoku fakangofua ai ha tangata ke mali mo ha uaifi ʻe taha pe lahi ange ʻi ʻIsilami fokotuʻu? Pe ko e ha ʻoku fakangofua ai ʻa e mali tokolahi ʻi ʻIsilami fokotuʻu?

Talí:

1. Fakaʻuhingaʻi ʻo e Mali Tokolahí ʻOku ʻuhinga ia ki ha founga mali ʻoku tokolahi hake he toko tahá ʻa e mali toko tahá. ʻE lava ke faʻahinga ʻe ua ʻa e mali tokolahí. Ko e taha ko e polygyny ʻoku mali ai ha tangata ʻo laka hake ʻi he fefine ʻe taha, pea ko e taha ko e polyandry, feituʻu ʻoku mali ai ha fefine mo ha tangata ʻe toko taha pe lahi ange. ʻI ʻIsilami fokotuʻu, ʻoku ngofua ʻa e polygyny fakangatangata pea ʻoku ʻikai ngofua ʻaupito ʻa e polyandry. ʻOku haʻu he taimi ni ki he fehuʻi totonu, ko e hā ʻoku fakangofua ai ha tangata ke lahi hake he toko tahá hono uaifí?

2. Ko Kue ʻa e potufolofola fakalotu pe ʻe taha ʻi he mamani ʻoku pehe ʻmali pe mo e toko taha’ Ko Qurʻan ko e tohi fakalotu pe ia ʻe taha, ʻi he funga ʻo e māmaní, ʻa ia ʻoku ʻi ai ʻa e kupuʻi lea ʻmali pē mo e toko taháʻ. ʻOku ʻikai mo ha toe tohi fakalotu ʻokú ne fakahinohinoʻi ʻa e houʻeiki tangatá ke taha pē hono uaifí. ʻOku ʻikai ha potufolofola fakalotu ʻe tatau mo e kau Vedas, ʻa e Ramayan, ko e Mahabharat, ʻoku maʻu ʻe ha taha ʻa e fakangatangata ki he tokolahi ʻo e ngaahi uaifí ʻi he Sīkā pe Ko e Tohi Tapú. Fakatatau ki he ngaahi potufolofola ko ʻení ʻe lava ha taha ʻo mali mo e tokolahi taha ʻokú ne fakaʻamu ki aí. Naʻe toki ʻosi pē ʻeni mei ai, naʻe fakangatangata ʻe he kau taulaʻeiki Hinituú mo e Siasi Faka-Kalisitiané ʻa e tokolahi ʻo e ngaahi uaifí ki he toko taha.

Ngaahi ʻulungaanga fakalotu faka-Hinituu lahi, fakatatau ki heʻenau folofolá, maʻu ha ngaahi uaifi tokolahi. Tuʻi ko Dashrat, ko e tamai ʻa Rama, maʻu ha uaifi ʻe toko taha pe lahi ange. Naʻe maʻu ʻe Krishna ha ngaahi uaifi tokolahi. ʻI he ngaahi kuonga kimuʻa, Naʻe fakangofua ʻa e kau tangata Kalisitiane ki he tokolahi taha ʻo e ngaahi uaifi naʻa nau fakaʻamu ki ai, koeʻuhí ʻoku ʻikai fakangatangata ʻe he Tohi Tapú ʻa e tokolahi ʻo e ngaahi uaifí. ʻI he senituli ʻe ua kuo hilí, naʻe fakangatangata ai ʻe he Siasí ʻa e tokolahi ʻo e ngaahi uaifí ki he toko taha.

ʻOku fakangofua ʻa e Polygyny ʻi Suta. Fakatatau ki he lao Talmudic, Naʻe maʻu ʻe ʻĒ 2 ngaahi uaifí, pea naʻe laungeau ʻa e ngaahi uaifi ʻo Solomoné. Naʻe hoko atu hono fakahoko ʻo e polygyny ʻo aʻu ki he lapai Gershom Peni Yehudah. (960 T.S ki he 1030 T.S) ʻoatu ha tuʻutuʻuni ke fakafepakiʻi ʻaki ia. Naʻe hokohoko atu e ako ngaue ʻa e ngaahi kolo Sephardic Siu ʻoku nofo ʻi he ngaahi fonua Mosilemi ʻo aʻu ki he konga kimui ʻo e 1950, ʻi he taimi naʻe hanga ai ʻe ha ngāue ʻa e lapai pule ʻo ʻIsilelí ʻo taʻofi ʻa e mali mo ha uaifi ʻe toko tahá.

3. ʻOku lahi ange ʻa e mali tokolahi ʻa Hindus ʻi he kau Mosilemi ko e lipooti ʻo e ʻ komiti ʻo e tuʻunga ʻo e fefine ʻi ʻIsilami fokotuʻu ʻ, pulusi ʻi he 1975 ʻoku hā ʻi he ngaahi fika ʻo e pēsí 66,67 ko e peseti ʻo e mali tokolahí ʻi he vahaʻa ʻo e taʻú 1951 -1961 naʻe 5.06 ʻi he lotolotonga ʻo e Hindus pea ko e konga pe 4.31 ʻi he lotolotonga ʻo e kau Mosilemi. Fakatatau ki he lao ʻa e kau ʻInitia ko e kau tangata Mosilemi pe ʻoku fakangofua ke nau maʻu ha uaifi ʻe toko taha pe lahi ange. ʻOku taʻefakalao ia ki ha faʻahinga taha pe ʻoku ʻikai Mosilemi ʻi ʻInitia ke laka hake ʻi he uaifi ʻe taha. Neongo ʻene taʻefakalao, Hindus maʻu ha ngaahi uaifi tokolahi ange ʻi hono fakafehoanaki ki he kau Mosilemi. ʻE lava ke fakakaukau ha taha pe ko e hā ʻa e peseti ʻo e ngaahi mali tokolahi ʻi he kakai Hinituú kapau naʻe ʻai ia ʻe he puleʻanga ʻInitiá ke fakalao maʻanautolu. Kimuʻá, naʻe ʻikai ha fakangatangata ʻo aʻu pe ki he kau tangata Hinituu ʻoku nau fakaʻapaʻapaʻi ʻa e tokolahi ʻo e ngaahi uaifi naʻe fakangofua. Naʻe toki hoko pē ia ʻi he 1954, ʻi he taimi naʻe paasi ai ʻa e mali faka-Hinituu naʻe taʻefakalao ke maʻu ʻe ha uaifi faka-Hinituu ʻa e toko taha pe lahi ange. ʻI he taimi ní ko e Lao ʻa e Kau ʻInitiá ʻokú ne taʻofi ha tangata Hinituu mei hono maʻu ʻo ha uaifi ʻe toko taha pe lahi ange kae ʻikai ko e ngaahi folofola faka-Hinituú. Tau analyse he taimi ni ʻa e ʻuhinga ʻoku fakaʻata ai ʻe ʻIsilami fokotuʻu ha tangata ke ne maʻu ha uaifi ʻe toko taha pe lahi ange.

4. Qurʻan ʻoku fakangatangata pe polygyny ʻo hange ko ia ne u lave ki ai kimuʻa, Ko Qurʻan ko e tohi fakalotu pe ia ʻe taha ʻi he funga ʻo e mamani ʻoku pehe ʻ mali pe mo e tokotaha ʻ. Ko e kakano ʻo e kupuʻi lea ko ʻeni ko e veesi ko ʻeni meia Suʻila Nisa ʻo e Kueila Naunauʻia: ʻ Mali mo e fefine ʻoku ke fili ʻi he ua’ tolú’ pe faa’ ka ʻo kapau ʻoku mou manavahē ʻe ʻikai te mou lava ʻo faitotonu, (mo kinautolu), pea taha pē’ [Al-Qurʻan 4:3]

Kimuʻa pea fakaha mai ʻa e Qurʻan, naʻe ʻikai ha fakangatangata ʻi ʻolunga ki he polygyny pea naʻe tokolahi ha kau tangata naʻa nau maʻu ha ngaahi uaifi tokolahi, pea aʻu ʻo laungeau e niʻihi. Naʻe fokotuʻu ʻe ʻIsilami fokotuʻu ha fakangatangata ʻi ʻolunga ʻo ha uaifi ʻe. ʻOku fakangofua ʻe ʻIsilami fokotuʻu ha tangata ke mali mo ha toko ua, fefine ʻe toko tolu pe fā, kae ngata pē ʻi he tuʻunga ʻokú ne ngāue totonu ai kiate kinautolú. ʻI he vahe tatau pē i.e. Suʻila Nisa veesi 129 ʻoku pehe ʻe: ʻ ʻOku faingataʻa ʻaupito ke faitotonu mo totonu ʻi he vahaʻa ʻo e kakai fefine ʻ. [Al-Qurʻan (4:129)]

Ko ia ai polygyny ʻoku ʻikai ko ha lao ka ko ha fakaʻata makehe. ʻOku tokolahi ha kakai ʻoku nau maʻuhala ʻo pehe ʻoku ne fakamalohiʻi ha tangata Mosilemi ke mali mo ha uaifi ʻe taha pe lahi ange.

Lahi ʻaupito, ʻOku ʻi ai ha faʻahinga ʻe nima ʻo e ʻIsilami fokotuʻu ʻoku ʻi ai e faʻahinga ʻe nima ʻo e fai mo e Dont.

(i) ʻ Farz’ i.e fakakounaʻi

(ii) ʻMustahab’ i.e fakaongoongoleleiʻi pe poupouʻi

(iii) ʻ Mubah’ i.e fakangofua

(iv) ʻ Makruh’ i.e ʻikai fakaongoongoleleiʻi’ pe loto-foʻi

(v) ʻ Haram’ i.e tapui pe tapui

Polygyny to ʻi he kulupu ʻi lotomalie ʻo e ngaahi meʻa ʻoku fakangofua. He ʻikai lava ke pehe ko ha mosilemi ʻoku ʻi ai hono toko ua, uaifi ʻe toko tolu pe fa ko ha kau Mosilemi lelei ange ʻi hono fakafehoanaki ki ha mosilemi ʻoku taha pe hono uaifi.

5. ʻAvalisi ʻo e moʻui ʻa e kakai fefine ʻoku mahulu hake ia ʻi he kakai tangata ʻoku natula tatau pe mo e kakai fefine ʻoku faʻeleʻi ʻi he fika tatau. Neongo ia, lolotonga paediatric taʻu, ʻi he kei siʻi ʻa ha kiʻi tamasiʻi fefine ʻoku lahi ange ʻene ngaahi totongi ʻi ha kiʻi tamasiʻi tangata. ʻE lava ke fakafepakiʻi lelei ange ʻe ha fanau fefine ʻa e ngaahi siemu mo e ngaahi mahaki ʻi he tamasiʻi tangata. ʻI he ʻuhinga ko ʻení, ʻoku lahi ange ʻa e mate ʻi he lotolotonga ʻo e kakai tangata ʻi hono fakafehoanaki ki he kakai fefine lolotonga paediatric taʻu.

Lolotonga e ngaahi tau, ʻoku tokolahi ange ʻa e kakai tangata kuo tamateʻi ʻi hono fakafehoanaki ki he houʻeiki fafine. ʻOku tokolahi ange e kakai tangata ʻoku mate koeʻuhi ko ha ngaahi fakatuʻutamaki mo ha ngaahi mahaki ʻi he houʻeiki fafine. Ko e ʻavalisi ʻo e moʻui ʻa e kakai fefine ʻoku mahulu hake ia ʻi he kakai tangata, pea ʻi ha faʻahinga taimi pē, ʻoku maʻu ʻe ha taha ha kau uitou tokolahi ange ʻi he māmaní ʻi he kau tangata kuo mate honau ʻunohó.

6. ʻOku tokolahi ange e kakai tangata ʻi ʻInitia ʻi he fefine koeʻuhi ko e fefine foeticide mo infanticide. Ko ʻInitia ko e taha ia ʻo e ngaahi fonua siʻi, fakataha mo e ngaahi fonua neighbouring kehe, ʻa ia ʻoku siʻisiʻi ange ai ʻa e kakai fefine ʻi he kakai tangata. Ko e ʻuhinga ʻoku ʻi he tuʻunga maʻolunga ʻo e fefine infanticide ʻi ʻInitia, pea ko e foʻi moʻoni ko ia ʻoku laka hake ʻi he 1 million fefine foetuses ʻoku aborted he taʻu kotoa pe ʻi he fonua ni, hili hono ʻiloʻi ko e kakai fefiné kinautolu. Kapau ʻe taʻofi ʻa e ngāue kovi ko ʻení, pea ʻe maʻu foki ʻe ʻInitia ha kakai fefine tokolahi ange ʻi hono fakafehoanaki ki he kakai tangata.

7. ʻOku mahulu hake ʻa e kakai fefine ʻi mamani ʻi he kakai tangata ʻi he USA, tokolahi ange ʻa e kakai fefiné ʻi he houʻeiki tangat 7.8 miliona. ʻOku ʻi Niu ʻIoke toko taha pe ha kakai fefine ʻe toko 1 million ʻi hono fakafehoanaki ki he tokolahi ʻo e kakai tangata, pea mo e kakai tangata ʻo Niu ʻIoke ko e vahe tolu ʻe taha gays i.e sodomites. ʻOku laka hake ʻi he nonofo fakatangata nonofo ʻe uofulu ma nima million ʻa e USA fakakatoa. ʻOku ʻuhinga ʻeni ʻoku ʻikai fie mali ʻa e kakai ko ʻení mo e kakai fefiné. ʻOku ʻi ai ha kakai fefine ʻe toko 4 million ʻi Pilitania lahi ʻi hono fakafehoanaki ki he kakai tangata. ʻOku ʻi ai ha kakai fefine ʻe toko 5 million ʻi Siamane ʻi hono fakafehoanaki ki he kakai tangata. ʻOku ʻi ai ha kakai fefine ʻe toko 9 million lahi ange ʻi Lusia ʻi he kakai tangata. ʻOku ʻafioʻi ʻe he ʻOtuá toko taha pē ʻa e tokolahi ange ʻo e kakai fefine ʻe toko fiha ʻi he māmaní ʻi hono fakafehoanaki ki he kakai tangatá.

8. Ko hono taʻofi ko ia ʻo e tokotaha mo e tangata kotoa pē ke maʻu ha uaifi pē ʻe taha, ʻoku ʻikai ʻaonga ia neongo kapau ʻe mali ʻa e tangata kotoa pē mo ha fefine pē ʻe taha, ʻe kei ʻi ai pe ha kakai fefine ʻe toko tolungofulu miliona tupu ʻi he USA he ʻikai ke nau lava ʻo maʻu ha husepaniti (fakakaukau ʻoku ʻi ai ha nonofo fakatangata nonofo ʻe uofulu ma nima miliona ʻo ʻAmelika). ʻE laka hake ʻi he toko 4 million ʻa e kakai fefine ʻi Pilitania lahi 5 kakai fefine ʻe toko miliona ʻi Siamane mo e kakai fefine ʻe toko 9 million ʻi Lusia pe he ʻikai ke nau lava ʻo maʻu ha husepaniti.

Tau pehē ʻoku hoko hoku tuofefiné ko ha taha ʻo e kau fafine teʻeki mali ʻoku nofo ʻi USA, pe mahalo ʻoku hoko ho tuofefine ko ha taha ʻo e kau fafine teʻeki mali ʻi USA. Ko e ongo meʻa pe ʻe ua ʻoku kei toe maʻana ko ʻene mali mo ha tangata kuo ʻosi ʻi ai hano uaifi pe hoko ko ha koloa ʻa e kakai. ʻOku ʻikai ha toe fili. Kuo u fai ʻa e fehuʻi ko ʻeni ki ha laungeau ʻo e kau Mosilemi pea nau fili kotoa ki he ʻuluaki. Neongo ia, ko ha kakai poto tokosiʻi kimuʻa pea nau toki tali, naʻa nau pehē ʻoku nau loto ke kei hoko pē ʻenau kau tāupoʻoú ko ha kau tāupoʻou. Biologically, ʻoku ʻikai malava ke nofo taʻe mali ha tangata pe fefine ʻi he kotoa ʻo e moʻuí. Mahalo ʻe malava ia ʻi ha ngaahi meʻa makehe ʻo ha taha ʻi he toko 10000. ʻI he konga lahi, ʻoku mali pe fakahoko ʻe he tokotahá ha tangata pe fefine taʻefakalao pe fakahoholoto ʻi ha ngaahi meʻa fakasekisuale kehe. ʻOku tukuange ʻa e homouni tangata pe fefine ʻi he sino ʻo e kakai lalahi ʻi he ʻaho kotoa pe. Ko e ʻuhinga ia kuo tapui ai ʻe ʻIsilami fokotuʻu monasticism.

ʻI he sosaieti fakahihifó ʻoku angamaheni ʻaki pē ke maʻu ʻe ha tangata ha mistresses mo e/pe ngaahi meʻa lahi ange ʻi he nofo-malí, ko e hā e meʻa ʻe hokó, ʻoku taki ʻe he fefine ha fakamaa ko, moʻui ʻoku ʻikai maluʻi. Ko e sosaieti tatau pe, neongo ia, ʻikai lava ke tali ʻe ha tangata ʻoku lahi hake he uaifi ʻe tahá, ʻa ia ʻoku tauhi ai ʻe he houʻeiki fafiné honau anga fakaʻeiʻe, tuʻunga fakaʻeiʻeiki ʻi he sosaietí mo tataki ha moʻui maluʻi.

Ko ia, ko e meʻa pē ʻe ua ke fili mei ai ʻi he ʻao ʻo ha fefine ʻoku ʻikai lava ke maʻu ha husepānití ko e mali mo ha tangata kuo ʻosi mali pe hoko ko ha koloa ʻa e kakaí. ʻOku ʻIsilami fokotuʻu loto ke ʻoange ki he houʻeiki fafine ʻa e tuʻunga fakaʻeiʻeiki ʻaki hono fakaʻata ʻa e ʻuluaki fili mo hono taʻofi hono ua. ʻOku lahi mo ha ngaahi ʻuhinga kehe, ʻuhinga kuo fakangofua ai ʻe ʻIsilami fokotuʻu ha polygyny fakangatangata, ka ko hono maluʻi pē ʻo e teunga taau ʻo e houʻeiki fafiné.

fakamatala fakaʻofoʻofa maʻá e ngaahi uaifi ʻo e kakai tangata kotoa pē kuo malí, pea ʻoku moʻoni…

Ko ha faleʻi lelei ʻeni maʻa e houʻeiki fafine ʻi ʻIsilami fokotuʻu pea ʻoku ne akoʻi foki ʻa e ngaahi tokoua ʻi he founga ke tauhi ʻaki honau uaifi ʻi ha founga totonu

ʻIlo lelei ʻaupito!!
Fakahoungaʻi e ngaahi tokoni ko ʻení..

@Kay: lava ke u ʻomai ha Daleel (fakamoʻoni) ki hoʻo ngaahi fakamatalá. ʻOku ou saiʻia ke vakavakaiʻi kinautolu. Naʻá ke pehē ʻoku ʻikai ngofua ke mali ha tangata mo ha fika 2 taʻe maʻu ʻa e ʻuluaki fakangofuá. Kuó ne ʻosi maʻu ha ngofua mei hono ʻeikí mo ha ngaahi meʻa naʻe hā mai. Ko ia ai ko e fakangofua mei hono ʻuluaki uaifí ko e KALO. Fakamoʻoni Kātaki ʻo

Asalam O Alikum!

Kuo u lau ʻa e fakamatala ko ʻeni & I feel this article is like imposing things on women. ʻUluakí kotoa,I’d like to clarify few things before I get deep into this to comment. I’m not even married but IN SHA ALLAH I’ll marry the girl I love & the girl for whom I’m praying. But watching comments & after reading the article I’d like to say that SEX is not only the thing keeping marriages prosper & happy life.
One should learn how to respect his wife. Women indeed isn’t something sex slave,and if she denies to have then what’s the big deal? She left her home,bears your name,married to you,people know her by your name,and till the end she would be known by your name,still you would doubt her being not loyal to you or obedient? Think about this please.
Having dinner & lunch with your wife together makes her feel more special too. Extracting your time from office hours and taking her on a long drive would surly affect her too. Make her feel special & she’ll make you feel special too.

I can’t be selfish on this when it comes to second marriage & indeed I’ll try to fix issues instead of going for second thought. And why would I when I love my wife. Everytime it isn’t a happy hour to spend. Sometimes you’ve to face the difficult phases & problems too. That’s what life is.

I hope this didn’t hurt someone feelings.

Men should also remember this aspect of our role model Prophet Muhammad (MAMATA) that he didnt marry any other wife till Khadija RA, the first wife was alive.

I disagree with #4. Kapau ʻoku feʻunga ʻene ʻofa ʻiate koe, he ʻikai ke ne fakakaukau ke fakakaukau ki ha uaifi kehe pe ko ha fefine kehe ʻi ha kiʻi sekoni. ʻOku ʻikai ʻuhinga ʻa e tokolahi ʻo e kakai tangata Mosilemi ʻoku nau fai ia. ʻOku tau moʻui ʻi he 2014 kakai, ʻikai 600 BC lol.

Btw kapau ʻoku fie maʻu ʻe he kakai fefine Mosilemi te nau lava ʻo tohi ha kupu mali ʻoku ʻikai ke 2 ʻi heʻenau aleapau mali lolotonga ʻa e nikah. ʻOku tapui leva ho husepaniti mei hono uaifi hono 2 tukukehe kapau ʻoku ne fie vete.

Fakaʻosi, Hange pe ko e tangata, ʻOku fie maʻu foki ʻe ha fefine ʻa e fakaʻapaʻapa mei heʻene tangata. ʻOku fakatou ongo tafaʻaki moʻoni.

ʻOku toe malualoi foki ʻa e founga ʻoku ʻuluaki pehe ai ʻe he tokotaha faʻu tohi ʻoku fie maʻu ʻe he kakai fefine ke nau ongoʻi ʻoku ʻofaʻi kinautolu pea ʻoku fie maʻu ʻe he kakai tangata ke nau ongoʻi ʻoku fakaʻapaʻ. ʻOku kole ʻe he fakamatala ki he kakai fefine ke nau fakaʻapaʻapaʻi honau husepaniti ka ʻoku pehe ʻe he poini fakaʻosi kapau ʻoku ʻikai ke ne pehe ʻoku ou ʻofa ʻiate koe ʻoku sai pe ia, ʻOku Ne kei ʻofa pe ʻiate koe. Ko ia, ʻOku fakamoʻoniʻi mo lomiʻi ʻe he kakai fefine ʻa e hikisia ho husepaniti ka ʻoku sai pe kapau ʻoku ke ongoʻi ʻoku liʻekina koe. Fakaʻofoʻofa.

salam alaykum

ʻOku ou ʻofa ʻi hoku husepaniti ka ʻoku ne fuʻu fakamamahiʻi au ʻi heʻene ui au ʻo hange ha vale, Saitani, taʻeʻaonga, ʻOfa ke fakamolemoleʻi au ʻe he ʻOtua kapau ʻoku ou mamahi, ʻoku ʻikai ke ne fakafiemalieʻi au, ʻoku ou feimeʻatokoni pea ʻoku ʻikai ke lelei ia, ʻoku ne fakamamahiʻi au ʻi ha founga fefeka, ʻikai ke lelei, hange ko e.g, Maryam, naʻe ʻikai lelei hoʻo feimeʻatokoni, hokohoko atu hoʻo feinga pea te ke sai ange , pea te u fakafanongo mo fakaʻapaʻapaʻi ia, ʻoku ne fakafehoanaki au ki hono ngaahi kaungameʻa uaifi

kataki ʻo tokoniʻi au ʻi he taimi ʻoku ta ke ai ʻoku ʻikai ke ne ʻoange ha faingamalie ke lea pe fakamamahiʻi au ko ia ʻoku ou fai ia te u tuku atu kiate koe mahalo ʻoku totonu ke ta vete

Ko ha fehuʻi fakaʻofoʻofa pe: ka ko e kau tangata lova ke maʻu 2,3 pe 4 uaifi ka ko e ha ʻoku lele ai ʻa e tangata ki he ʻuluaki uaifi ʻi he taʻu motuʻa ʻi he taimi ʻoku puke mo vaivai ai ? Kapau ko au, ka ko e taimi ia he ʻikai ke u ʻata ai kiate ia ʻi he taimi ko ia. Kuo u fakamoʻoniʻi ʻeni ʻi ha ngaahi famili lahi.

Salaam
ʻOku faingataʻa ke hoko ko e meʻa kotoa ko ia ki ha tangata ʻoku ʻikai ke ne fakaʻapaʻapaʻi,fakahaaʻi ʻa e ʻofa,feohi fafale pea ʻikai faʻa fakamoleki ha taimi mo e fanau…ʻOua naʻa ke fakahohaʻasi ia ʻaki ha kiʻi talanoa siʻisiʻi?ko e ha ia?
ʻOku ʻikai totonu ke kaungameʻa ʻa e tangata mo e uaifi, kole ha fakakaukau ʻa e niʻihi kehe ko hotau Palofita(pbuh)naʻe?
Founga ke moʻui mo hokohoko atu ai ʻa e nofo fiemalie mo ha husepaniti ʻoku text ki he kakai fefine kehe, fufuuʻi ʻene telefoni, ʻAlu ʻo maʻu ʻa e shisha…etc.
ʻOku ou faʻa kataki ki he 10 ngaahi taʻu ka ʻoku faingataʻa ke tui mai kiate au. ʻOku ne uesia, ʻi heʻene teuteu lelei pea hu ki tuʻa ʻo ʻikai tala te ne ʻalu ki tuʻa he po ko ia, pe ko ʻene talamai pe ko e fe ʻoku ne ʻalu ki ai,ʻi heʻene haʻele mai…ʻikai ha taha ʻo ia…tuʻu hake pe,teuteu pea fai ʻa e salaam…ʻE lava fefe ke u ʻofa, tokanga mo ʻai au ke u fakaʻofoʻofa ki ha taha pehe?ʻOfa ke tataki au ʻe he ʻOtua mo e tokotaha kotoa pe ʻi he faingataʻa inshaAllah…

assalam o alaikum, SUBHAN ALLAH fakamalo bro ʻi hono vahevahe atu ʻo ha popoaki kakato fakaʻofoʻofa mo mahuʻingamalie, ngaue lelei ʻaupito,JAZAK ALLAH,,,,,,,,pea lotua au ʻi heʻeku kumi ha taʻahine mali maʻaku………

Ko hono tuʻo ua ʻeni ʻeku mali.
ʻOku ʻi ai hoku ʻofefine mei heʻeku ʻuluaki mali.
ʻOku ʻikai ke u lava ʻo ʻoange ha pepe ki hoku husepaniti hono ua.(ʻOku ʻikai ke u feitama)
Kuo u fai ʻa e faʻahinga faitoʻo kotoa pe ka ʻoku ʻikai ha ola.
ʻOku ʻofa lahi hoku husepaniti ʻiate au.
naʻe talaange ʻe hono famili ke mali hono ua.
pea naʻa ne fai ia ʻi heʻeku fakangofua, ka naʻe ʻikai ke nau fakaha ki he fefine ko ʻene mali hono ua ʻeni.
ʻOmi ʻa e fefine ki ʻapi pea kuo pau ke u moʻui ʻo hange pe ko ha hoa pisinisi au.
Naʻe pepe ʻa e uaifi hono ua.
ka ʻoku ʻofa foki hoku husepaniti ʻiate au, Naʻa ne talamai he ʻikai te ne liʻaki au.
Ka ʻoku ʻikai ke u saiʻia ʻi he founga ʻoku hoko ai ʻa e ngaahi meʻa ko ʻeni.
ʻOku ou mohe toko taha pe.
ʻi he taimi ʻoku ne fie maʻu ai ʻa e ʻofa mo au, ʻOku ʻi he ʻaho ia ʻi ha feituʻu kehe.

ʻoku pehē ki he tangatá ke “tuku hifo ʻa e sio” ʻi Quran Sharif. ʻi Quran Sharif “sio mo fakakaukau ki he kakai fefine kehe” ʻoku ne ʻai kakato ia “angamaheni mo fakanatula mo taʻeangahala”?
ʻOua naʻa tuku hoʻo fakakaukau ki he kakai kotoa pe! “ʻOku fakanatula mo taʻeangahala ʻa e vakai ki he kakai fefine” ko hoʻo fakakaukau pe kae ʻikai ko e fakakaukau kotoa pe ʻa e tangata.

Salam
If I love an older man but he is already married is it allowed for me to marry him

Salam Aleykum,
Ne u lau e konga lahi ʻo e fuʻu poú ni
Ko e mali tokolahí ko ha “tonu fakapolitikale” tefitó, ka ko ha foʻi moʻoni ia, ʻoku fakangofua ia ʻi ʻIsilami fokotuʻu, Ko e foʻi moʻoni foki ia ʻoku ʻikai saiʻia ai ʻa e tokolahi ʻo e kakai fefine ( ʻi he taimi ʻoku hoko mai ai ki he ʻuluaki uaifi) pea ko ha foʻi moʻoni ia naʻe tokolahi ʻa e kaunga-ngaue ʻo e palofita naʻa nau fai ʻa e mali tokolahi pea mo e tokolahi taha ʻo e kau palofita, ʻOku mahino ko ha konga ia ʻo e toʻonga moʻui he taimi ko ia ki he tokolahi ʻo e kakai tangata ke tokolahi ʻa e kakai fefine pea kapau te tau vakai ki ai ʻi ha founga lelei, Te tau aofangatuku ʻaki ʻoku ʻikai ko ha meʻa fakaʻeiʻeiki ke maluʻi mo fakaʻapaʻapaʻi ʻa e kakai fefine tokolahi pea ʻai ke nau uaifi kae ʻikai ke ʻi ai ha uaifi pe ʻe taha pea ʻalu ʻo kaka mo e kau paʻumutu ʻo hange ko ia ʻoku hoko ʻi he ngaahi fonua lahi ʻo e Hihifo he ngaahi ʻaho ni kau ai ʻa e ngaahi fonua Katolika lahi.
ʻOku ʻikai ke tau saiʻia ke toe maʻu ʻe heʻema tamai ha uaifi ʻe taha, ʻOku fehiʻa foki ʻa e kakai fefine ʻi honau husepaniti ke toe mali ka ʻoku ʻikai kei hoko ia ko ha konga ʻo e toʻonga moʻui ʻo e ʻaho ni ʻi he ngaahi sosaieti lahi, ka ʻo kapau ʻe anga ʻa e kakai ki ai, hange ko ʻeni, kapau ʻoku lahi ange ʻa e uaifi ʻo e tokotaha kotoa pe pea ʻoku ou tui ʻoku ʻikai ko ha fuʻu meʻa lahi ia.
Toe, ʻoku tau maʻu pe ha ngaahi peau ʻo e tali mei he meʻa naʻe hoko ʻi he fakaʻosi 200 ngaahi taʻu ʻo e ngaahi liliu ʻi he toʻonga moʻui ʻa e kakai mo e kakai fakahihifo/ faka-ʻAmelika, feminism etc pea ʻoku feinga ʻa e kakai ʻe niʻihi ke moʻui mo e toʻonga moʻui faka-ʻAmelika ko ʻeni pea ke tali ʻa e ngaahi akonaki moʻoni kotoa pe ʻo e ʻIslam ʻi he lahi taha te ne lava.. Taimi ʻe niʻihi ʻoku totonu ke tau tukulolo pe ki he meʻa naʻe fakaʻata ʻe he ʻOtua mo e meʻa ʻoku ne tapui he ko e konga ia ʻo e hu kiate ia. ʻE kei faingataʻa pe kiate kitautolu kimuʻa pea tau anga ki he Fakakaukau!

Ko e moʻoni ʻoku lahi e fili ʻa Seli ʻi he mamani ʻi ha ngaahi feituʻu kehekehe ʻo ʻIsilami fokotuʻu, ʻikai ʻi he ngaahi vā fetuʻutakí pē. People want things their way with other people so will only use that part of Islam that suits them.

I am an unmarried dude and may join the marriage club soon enough. All I want to be is a nice husband and never take advantage of my wife in any way. Honestly speaking? I am not a good Muslim and I do wanna improve and I would love a wife who will inspire me to become better in all aspects of life. I wanna be there for her in every way she would want and need. Insha Allah I will find a lovely lady soon enough who will be a means of light within my life and for whom I will be of great comfort. 🙂

The article is sure a nice way of giving a heads up of how many men tend to think like. The difference is of course in the idea that what we do is more for the sake of Allah Ta’aalaa than for ourselves.

I pray to Allah Ta’aalaa that he gives us all the understanding of how a true Muslim should behave and that he forgives us all for all the wrong we have done in life, allowing us to die with strong Imaan and in the end enter us into Jannatul Firdaus. (Ameen)

This is the silliest thing I’ve read in awhile. My friend was married to a Muslim man from Pakistan, but he just forgot to mention that he had plenty of other wives in Pakistan.

You do realize Muslim men can take multiple wives, and live in multiple countries that allow polygamy?. Even that Muslim’s brother had a couple of wives in Paris. They’re not loyal. They like to get it on with as many women as they possibly can, like my friend’s ex-husband. All that guy did was take money from my friend, travel abroad to visit his wives, and then dump her when she found out about all his wives.

hello I am reading your article now in 2017. I am really impressed. I have a problem maybe you can help.hubby n I have been married since 4years.we were really happy. alhamdulillah we were blessed with a lill princess.hubby has changed since I gave birth to our bby.he would touched me whenever he want.he loves kids so do I.i thought maybe its because he was tired that’s why he refused to sleep with me in 3 ki he 4 days..after that he would come n touched me again.now I had to undergo an abortion. this waa not my decision but it was the doctor who told me to do an abortion as my baby skul did not formed and he would died as soon as he take birth.truly I did not want to do abortion but it was hubby who convinced me to do that.after abortion I had to do curettage.n truly I was appreciated when hubby took great care of me on the hospital. but after that we start arguing on small things.and he tries to hit me many time but I stopped him.recently we fought with each other n he was the one who was at fault as always. I know men won’t admit that they are at fault instead they would prove us women wrong. ʻIo naʻe fai ha tau kimui ni mai ʻa ia naʻe ʻamanaki ke lele ai ʻene kaa ʻi me.my tui naʻe kiʻi fufula ʻene mamahi.naʻa ku tangi lahi ʻi he ʻaho ko ia.ko hono tupuʻanga fakamamahi moʻoni naʻa ma saiʻia he nofo-mali.fakakaukau ʻe fakafiefia.ka ke ʻiloʻi. ko ʻeku fehuʻí, ko e hā e meʻa ʻokú ke finangalo ke u faí?ʻokú ke fie maʻu ke u faʻa kātaki? kātaki ʻo faleʻi au mālō