3 Amanyathelo okuba ngoyena Mntwana ubalaseleyo kuMzali wakho!

Ngu Umtshato osulungekileyo - EyoMsintsi, 5th 2013

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Ngokufuthi xa ndinikela intetho yoLutsha lwamaSilamsi, ekupheleni kwayo ndiyabuzwa “Ndingatshintsha njani ndibe ngumntwana ongcono kumzali wam?”

SubhanAllah, oku kundibonisa ukuba abantwana bethu singabafundisa ukubaluleka kobuzali, bandule ke bacamngce ngalo mbandela baze mhlawumbi batshintshe indlela abaziphatha ngayo ibe ngcono. Makazukiswe uAllâh ngazo zonke iinceba zaKhe. Ingxaki abaninzi bethu abanayo kukuba asibafundisi abantwana bethu ukuba ngabantwana abagqwesileyo.

InshAllaah namhlanje ndizobe ndifundisa kanye lonto. Ndibhalela eli nqaku lonke ulutsha olufuna ukwazi 3 amanyathelo alula ukuba ngumntwana ongcono inshAllaah. Ukuba ungomnye wolu lutsha, emva koko ndingathanda ukuqala ngokuthi mashAllaah ndiyazingca ngawe kuqala ngokufunda eli nqaku. Loo nto indixelela okuninzi ngawe njengomntu. Ukuba unesibindi sokuvuma ukuba unokuba ngumntwana ongcono, kwaye ufuna ukufunda ngakumbi izakhono ezithetha kakhulu ngomlinganiswa wakho. Nangona kunjalo, ukuze uzuze ngokupheleleyo kweli nqaku kufuneka ubeke ulwazi oluvela kweli nqaku kwisenzo- InshaAllah.

Phambi kokuba siqalise ndifuna ukukubuza umbuzo ube mnye. Ngaba uya kuzibophelela kum ukuba uya kuzisebenzisa ezi zinto 3 amanyathelo kangangoko unako de ekugqibeleni ibe ngumkhwa? Nceda uthi EWE. InshAllah uthe ewe, kwaye uhambo lwethu luyaqala.

Masiqale ngeBismillah:

Inyathelo 1. Hlala uthi “Kwinkonzo yakho Umme okanye uAbi (Umama okanye uTata)”:

Ithetha ntoni le nto. Ewe xa ubizwa ukuba wenze into ngaphandle kokucinga okwesibini yithi “Kwinkonzo yakho Umme okanye uAbi. Oko kuthetha ukuba ndikulungele ukwenza njengoko unqwenela. Ngalo mazwi aphuma emlonyeni wakho, izenzo zakho inshAllaah ziya kunyaniseka njengoko ziqala ukusebenza ngokulandelayo. Uyabona ngamanye amaxesha amagama aphuma emlonyeni wethu asinceda ukuba sibeke izenzo zethu lula njengoko zisebenza kwimizuzu embalwa ezayo. Ndikholelwe xa ndithetha nje oku kuya kukwenza uncume kwaye ulungele ukukhonza abazali bakho.

Inyathelo lenyathelo: Ziqhelise ukuthi “Kwinkonzo yakho Umme/Abi. Thetha oku 20 amaxesha kuwe, ude uzive ukhululekile ukuyithetha inshAllaah.

Kufuneka kube yindalo kwaye kulula ukuphuma emlonyeni wakho. Ngalo lonke ixesha xa uthetha la mazwi kubazali bakho kwaye ngokwenene wenze oko bakucela ukuba ukwenze inshaAllaah u-Allah uya kukusikelela ngakumbi., kwaye uya kuziva wonwabe ngakumbi. Xa abazali bethu besonwabile nathi, U-Allah subhana wa Tala wonwabile nathi, xa abazali bethu becaphukile kuthi u-Allah subhana wa Tala uyasicaphukela.

UMprofeti (Salla Allahu alayhi wa sallam) watsho:“Ukuthanda kuka-Allah kukukholiswa ngabazali, kwaye ingqumbo ka-Allh iphuma kumsindo wabazali.”

Ngoko masingabacaphukisi abazali bethu kwaye endaweni yoko bafumane uyolo lwabo, kuba xa sibenzela okulungileyo, siyayivuyisa iNkosi yethu. I-SubhanAllaah intle kangakanani inkolo yamaSilamsi, U-Allaah subhana wa Tala ufuna kuphela okulungileyo kuye ngamnye wethu. Ngokuthatha inyathelo njengoko bendicebisile usendleleni eya empumelelweni inshAllaah.

Inyathelo 2: Hlala unombulelo kubazali bakho emva kokubulela kwakho ku-Allah subhana wa Tala.

U-Allah subhana wa tala naye uthi kwiQur'an Enkosi Mna (UAllah) kunye nabazali bakho...

(IKur'aan, Isahluko 31; Unokuyithelekelela indlela enokuba buhlungu ngayo endodeni 14)

U-Allah subhana waTala usinika yonke into, kangangokuba ukuba ngenene besihlala phantsi nephepha nosiba sabhala zonke iintsikelelo zakhe besingenakuzibala zonke.. SubhanAllah. Ndithetha oku ngokoqobo. Ngokuphefumla kuphela asikwazanga ukuyibulela iNkosi yethu ubomi bethu bonke. SubhanAllah. Nceda ukhumbule ukuhlala unombulelo ku-Allah subhana wa Tala, kwaye uthi “Alhamdullilah” rhoqo kangangoko unako inshAllaah. Xa kusithiwa, emva kokubulela uAllah subhana wa Tala, lixesha lokuba ubulele abazali bakho ngako konke abakwenzela kona. Ngamanye amaxesha usenokucinga ukuba akukho nto ingako bayenzayo kuwe, kodwa ndikholelwe ekubeni ndingumzali sihlala sizama ukwenza konke okusemandleni ethu kubantwana bethu. Ukuba abanako ngokwemali, bayakuzama nangayiphi na indlela ukuba bakunike konke abanako. Enkosi ngexesha labo. Enkosi ngenkxaso yabo. Enkosi ngokukukhulisa. Enkosi ngomonde wabo. Enkosi ngokukuthanda kwakho. Enkosi kubo, enkosi kubo, kwaye ndiyababulela. Khumbula ukuba ukuba nombulelo kusisenzo esihle, kwaye usithobe njengabantu.

Inyathelo lenyathelo: Yithi Jazak Allaah Khairan rhoqo kangangoko unako kubazali bakho. Oku kuya kukunceda ubaxabise ngakumbi kwaye ukhumbule zonke izenzo zabo zobubele.

Inyathelo 3: Ngalo lonke ixesha bagcine bekunye nabo xa bekudinga.

Kweza indoda kuMprofeti (sal' Allah alayhi wasallam) wambuza ukuba ngubani na ofanelekele ngakumbi ukuba ngabalingane bakhe. Wathi yena – sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam, "Umama wakho!” Le ndoda yabuza ngokuphindaphindiweyo, kwaye uMprofeti sal Allahu alayhi wasallam waphendula, "Umama wakho! Umama wakho!” Kwada kwaba lixesha lesine yena – sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam – watsho, “Utata wakho.”

Kuluntu lwanamhlanje, phantse kulihlazo ukuba nabazali bakho babe ngumhlobo wakho osenyongweni. Bayenze yaba ngathi yeyona nto imbi emhlabeni. Nangona kunjalo, kwakhona kwi-Islaam umhlobo wakho osenyongweni kufuneka ibe ngumama okanye utata wakho.

Amalungisa kunye nezifundiswa basishiye nemizekelo emininzi yamandulo, ukufunda kwi. Makhe sijonge kumzekelo kaHaywah bin Shurayh radi Allahu anhu, enye yee-imam zommah wethu. Wayedla ngokunikela zonke iiklasi zakhe phambi kwekhaya lakhe. Ngexesha leklasi, unina wayembiza ukuba azokuphakela iinkukhu. Wayeza kuyeka ukufundisa, yima, shiya ihalaqa, uhambe uyotyisa iinkukhu. SubhanAllah. Imizekelo efana nale mininzi ekufuneka siyijonge kwaye siyifunde ku-inshAllaah.

Ukubagcina benkampani kunokwahluka kuye ngamnye wethu. Abanye abazali basenokufuna ukuba sibaphulaphule xa besibalisela amabali exesha elidluleyo, abanye abazali bafuna ukuba sibathobele nje, ngoxa abanye abazali befuna sibakhaphe xa besiya kuhambo. Uyayazi into efunwa ngumzali wakho, kwaye ukuba awukwazi ukuyiqonda, babuze, yintoni enokubenza bonwabe nawe.

“Kodwa ukuba (zombini) Zamani ukunihlanganisa ninqula naM abanye eningenalwazi ngako, uze ungawalulameli, kodwa niziphathe ngobubele emhlabeni, nize nilandele indlela yalowo ubuyela kum ngenguquko nangentobelo. Ngoko ke kuya kuba kuM ukubuya kwenu, kwaye ndiza kukuxelela into obuyenza. (Isahluko seKur’aan 31: Ivesi15)

Inyathelo lenyathelo: Fumanisa ukuba yintoni eyenza abazali bakho bonwabe kunye nawe kwaye uyenze, okoko kungachasanga uAllah subhana wa Tala.

Ndithandazela ukuba ezi 3 amanyathelo abonakala kulula kakhulu ukwenza kulula ukwenza kuwe. Ngamanye amaxesha kuba nzima kakhulu ngathi ukutshintsha, kodwa ukuze sizuze impumelelo, utshintsho yinto ekufuneka sisebenze kuyo, ngakumbi xa kuzuzisa thina kulo mhlaba nakwixesha elizayo inshAllaah. Nantoni na oyenzayo, sukuncama. Qhubeka usebenza nzima uzama ukuphucula kwaye ube ngumntwana ongcono onokuba ngu-inshAllaah. Soloko usenza i-du'aa ku-Allah subhana wa Tala ukuba akuncede, kwaye inshAllaah izenzo zakho kunye ne-du'aa ziya kukunceda uphumelele.

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