[Isithuba seBlog] 7 Iingcebiso Kootata Abangatshatanga

When it comes to marrying single fathers, sisters tend to be pretty open to the idea of marrying a man with kids in tow…

Nangona kunjalo, there’s lots of things you need to consider before you even BEGIN to think about finding someone.

Ngoko nantsi 7 of our best tips to help you make that transition from being just a single father to being a complete family.

1. Marry when you’re good and ready – Don’t marry because you feel you should – marry when you’re emotionally ready to get married and ready for the responsibility
2. Don’t marry for company– Learn to be content with your own company first and foremost, rather than marrying in the hope that a woman will fill the emptiness. Happiness comes from within and not from other people. Learn to be happy before you commit or you’ll just be miserable and married!
3. Have clear and realistic expectations – A wife is for life, not just because you ‘need’ a mother figure for your kids and someone to take care of the home. Men who marry women solely so they can take over the domestic stuff usually end up with deeply unfulfilled marriages
4. Be prepared for broken hearts – Your future wife can never replace a mother’s love – especially if the mother of your children is actively involved in their life. Be prepared to have a lot of tantrums and broken hearts… and also be prepared to be emotionally available for your kids
5. Women can come with their own baggage – If she has children too, or come from a difficult relationship, then expect to have to deal with more than just your own kid’s tears
6. There may be clashes – Ukudibanisa kuthatha ixesha, so don’t think everything is going to run like clockwork once you’re married. Inyaniso, there may be many clashes between your wife and your kids and your kids could even hate her with a vengeance if they feel you’re trying to replace their mother… so be ready to deal with that!
7. Yenza istikhara yakho kwaye wenze i-dua eninzi! Ngoxa umtshato uneentsikelelo ezininzi, kukho iimvavanyo ezininzi ngokulinganayo ngokunjalo-ke qiniseka ukuba wenza izinto ngokwemithetho ka-Allah kwaye uya kulufumana uncedo lwakhe xa ulufuna kakhulu.!

Eyokugqibela kodwa engancinananga, immerse yourself in being the best dad you can be for your kids and teach them kindness and the best of manners – it will go a long way in helping your future wife adjust in the home when the time comes.

Ukuba ufumene esi sithuba siluncedo, kuninzi apho ivela khona!

We’ve got a great interview discussing the ups and downs of being a single father, esicinga ukuba uya kuyithanda!

Head of Pure Matrimony Sister Arfa Saira Iqbal interviews single father Abu Yusuf where they discuss the challenges of being a single dad while trying to find a spouse.

Olu ludliwanondlebe olumnandi kwaye olucetyiswa kakhulu ukuba umamele!

Ukuphulaphula udliwano-ndlebe, nceda ucofe apha: UDLIWANO-NDLEBE

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