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Abafazi bakaMuhammad (I-Alyhi Wa Sallam) zihlala ziqondwa njengemizekelo yamabhinqa angamaSilamsi ukuba alandele. Xa abafazi baseSuslim banikwa iimodeli zentsebenzo baphendukela kwaba bafazi ukubonisa ubuhle, ukuqina, Ukunyaniseka nokuthobela. Nangona kunjalo kubonakala kulityalwa phakathi kwabaninzi kukuba uninzi loomama bamakholwa buya kuchazwa njengokuthintela namhlanje. Phakathi kwaba bafazi babini abaya kuthi badweliswe njengokungachumisi, bobabini banabantwana ngaphambi kokutshata i-muhammad (I-Alyhi Wa Sallam). Bonke abanye abangenamntwana bonke. Makhe sijonge aba bafazi.
I-Sawdaa ': Wayetshatile eMuhammad (I-Alyhi Wa Sallam) Kungekudala emva kokusweleka kukaKhadiya, iminyaka emithathu ngaphambi kwe-hijra (ukufuduka). Wayengumhlolokazi owayetshata kwakanye ngaphambili. Kukho iingxelo ezingqubanayo ngokubhekisele kubantwana. Abo bathi wayenomntwana uphawu omnye komnye. Akazange angabi nabantwana ngelixa etshata no-muhammad (I-Alyhi Wa Sallam).
'A'ishah: Wayetshatile eMuhammad (I-Alyhi Wa Sallam) Kwakulo nyaka i-sawdaa ', Nangona umtshato wakhe wawusele udlule kude kube semva kokufuduka kwiMadinah. Wayengoyena mfazi mncinci kaMuhammad (I-Alyhi Wa Sallam) kwaye kuphela yintombi enyulu. Akazange abe nabantwana emtshatweni wakhe.
I-HAFSAH: Wayetshatile eMuhammad (I-Alyhi Wa Sallam) Emva kokuba ngumhlolokazi ngexesha ledabi laseDgerr. Utshilo ukuba ubuneminyaka elishumi elinesithoba ngelo xesha. Wayengenanyana kumtshato wakhe wokuqala ukuya khumays B. Hudhafah kwaye akazange angabi nabantwana emtshatweni wakhe no-muhammad (I-Alyhi Wa Sallam).
Umm Salamah: Watshata uMuhammad (I-Alyhi Wa Sallam) Ngonyaka 4 Ah. Wayetshatile ngaphambili 'e-Abdullah Ibn Abdul Adad kwaye babenabantwana abane kunye, UZainab, Mholo, I-IMR kunye DRURRA. Utshatile uMuhammad emva kokuba ngumhlolokazi kwaye wayesabuhlungu. Akazange abe nabantwana kunye no-muhammad (I-Alyhi Wa Sallam).
Zaynab Bint Jahsh: Wayengumzala kaMuhammad (I-Alyhi Wa Sallam) kwaye ngaphambili watshata nonyana wakhe owamkelayo uZay Debit. Emva kokuba uZayd wayeqhawule umtshato ngo-5ah wayetshatile eMuhammad (I-Alyhi Wa Sallam) Ngommiselo ka-Allah. Akazange abe nabantwana emtshatweni.
Juwayriyyah: Wayetshatile eMuhammad (I-Alyhi Wa Sallam) Emva kwedabi lomjelo ngaphakathi 5 A.H. Ubanjiwe kwaye wakhululwa nguMuhammad (I-Alyhi Wa Sallam); Emva koko waguqukela kwi-Islaam kwaye watshata nomprofeti (Uxolo kunye neentsikelelo zika-Allah, Amagorha, yibe phezu kwakhe). Wayetshatile ngaphambili ngaphambi kokuba abe nguMsila’ Ibn saywan. Akazange abe nabantwana emtshatweni.
Umm Habibah: Watshata uMuhammad (I-Alyhi Wa Sallam) Ngonyaka 7 A.H. Wayetshatile ngaphambili 'Ubhardullah Ibn Jahsh oye wabandezeleka emva kokufudukela eAbhikinia. Wazala intombi enye, I-Habibah emva kokufuduka kwakhe e-Abhinikia. Akazange abe nabantwana emtshatweni wakhe eMuhammad (I-Alyhi Wa Sallam).
ke it's only logical akufuneki abe neentlobano zesini: WayengumYuda kwaye ebanjiwe ngexesha lokuhlaselwa kwi-khaybar ngaphakathi 7 A.H. Wakhululwa kwaye waguqulwa kwi-Islaam emva koko watshata uMuhammad (I-Alyhi Wa Sallam). Wayetshatile kabini ngaphambi kokuba angcungcutheka kwakhe angabi nabantwana kuwo nawuphi na umtshato.
Maymoonah: Watshata uMuhammad (I-Alyhi Wa Sallam) ngo-7ah. Wayengowokugqibela ukutshata nguMuhammad (I-Alyhi Wa Sallam). Wayetshatile ngaphambili eMa'sosood Ibn 'Amr Amh-Thupm Ibn' Abdul Uzza. Akazange abe nabantwana kuwo nawuphi na umtshato.
Singayenza ingcinga yokuba ingxaki yokuchuma ayixokisi eMuhammad (I-Alyhi Wa Sallam). Wayenabantwana kunye nomfazi wakhe wokuqala uKhadiya, amantombazana amane kunye namakhwenkwe amabini. Kwaye wayenomntwana omnye, Ibraaheem, Ndikunye noMariya ikhoboka elalinikwa lisipho emva 7 A.H.
Xa sithatha aba bafazi njengemizekelo enjalo abafazi abangumzekelo ukuba bamangalise ukuba kutheni kugxininiswa kakhulu kubuchule bomfazi wokufaka ngokungathi akakazeki!! Apha sinobomi bukaMuhammad (I-Alyhi Wa Sallam) Ngubani eyona mizekelo ilungileyo, ukanti sinomnqweno wokulinganisa ixabiso labafazi abangamaSilamsi ngamandla akhe okuvelisa abantwana. Ewe, Le mizekelo yamabhinqa amaSilam ayizange ivelise abantwana emtshatweni wabo no-muhammad (I-Alyhi Wa Sallam). Bona (Ngamana u-Allah angakholiswa ngabo) inokuchazwa njengokukhumbula ukukhanya kwenkcazo yemini eqhelekileyo yokungachumi. Le meko ichasene nendalo ibangele iziphumo ezibi kakhulu kulo lonke uluntu kwihlabathi liphela, UMuhammad (Ngamana uxolo kunye neentsikelelo zika-Allah zibe zeza kuye) Khange ubabhale, kananjalo akazange ajongene nabo ngokungabi nabantwana. Isimo sabo njengabafazi abangamaSilamsi sasingachazwanga ngokwamandla abo okanye ukungakwazi ukuba nabantwana. Asinayo irekhodi le nto nokuba yimbambano phakathi kwaba bafazi, ukanti senza umba phakathi kwesibini ngasinye nokuba singabazi.
Ndiyathemba ukuba bonke oodadewethu abangamaSilamsi bafumana amandla kwimemori yabafazi. Nangona bengazange babi nabantwana e-muhammad (I-Alyhi Wa Sallam) Wayebathanda kwaye wabahlonela kwaye banikwa inqanaba elingafaniyo nabanye abantu baseMmah (Isizwe samaSilamsi).
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Umthombo :http://idealmuslimah.com/family/infertility-miscarriages-birth-control/206-infertility-among-the-mothers-of-the-believers-
Shukran! I really needed to read this as I was so depressed about this issue currently! This article brought tears of joy from tears of sadness for me! I am so much more happy and grateful because I can feel the pain beginning to leave me. Uya kuphendula!
May Allah bless you with His best of the best children. Dade othandekayo, after reading your comment, just the thought of how much pain you are in brought sadness to my heart. I’m happy that this topic eased your pain a little. I just wanted to say to never give up your hope. Allah is always listening to us and is always with us at all time. All we need to do is to go toward Him and ask Him. If He gives us what we want, it’s His blessing and if He doesn’t give us what we want then that means He has even better plan for us. Once I heard somewhere that Ali R.A. kanye wathi, ” when my dua is heard, I get happy, because I wanted that. And when my dua is not heard, then I get even happier, because this is what my God wanted.” May Allah forgive me, if I’m wrong. I don’t have the exact words in english, but this is what I translated from urdu writing. I loved this saying, and it makes me very satisfied. May Allah keeps you happy, satisfied, successful and peaceful always! Here in this world and do the best for you in the Aakhira. Have a strong faith in Allah! I’m sure you do. That’s why your heart melted at this topic. ukuba unqwenela namadoda.
The pain I feel when people ask me why I don’t have children, the verbal abuse I get from my husband, and the shame felt from myself within….. Jazakallah for this article. And like the above sister, it brought tears to my eyes and more love for islam and our beloved rasool (wabona)
Subhan Allah…this article came at the right time as I am also facing the same issue as the ladies here..People keep asking me when will i have children but my reply is always ‘It is in God’s hands and not up to us to decide when’. I am thankful to Allah swt that I have a very understanding husband and family members who give me support for at least I still hv a place where I can lean on and confide..may Allah swt gives us the strength to face the challenges in our lives for Allah swt knows best..
Alhumdulillah and Ameen!
Khadeeza and Rashal, May Allah bless you guys with His Rehmat! Ameen! May you both get the most pious and the righteous children, Ameen. I’m feeling so bad just reading your comments, and you guys have to live it. Always keep you faith high in Allah. Don’t let anyone make you feel ashamed. Allah does everything for a reason. Whoever bad mouth you guys, they don’t know what they say is being written by their angels and is being reported to Allah and the worst part is that they’re hurting you. Wanga uAllah angasikhokela sonke, Ameen! May Allah opens theirs hearts and make them realize their mistakes and may they feel love for you, instead of hatered. Ameen! I’ll pray for all of you too, Insha’Allah. I hope you guys don’t mind me replying to your comments.
WL……all Praise for Allah SWT, who has blessed me with loving & supporting husband and family. Its been about 11 years now since i’ve been facing questioning looks from people around, for not having kids………..nevertheless i’m so glad n satisfied that Allah SWT has blessed me with a chance to learn his book and know him better. If i have had kids, i would surely not be where i am today, doing what i am 🙂
This article has yet again given me strength and motivation to carry on without feeling low, coz indeed Allah SWT knows what’s best for us.
To all of my sisters here i would like to say…….do not loose hope, be consistent in your duas, ask Allah SWT for the best for yourselves & the best would come along….INSHA ALLAH.
from this article we know for sure that being childless is not the end of this world, there’s alot to do other than that.
May Allah SWT bless us all with the righteous child/children if that would benefit our DUNYA & AAKHIRAH…..AAMEEN 🙂
Asalaamualaikam sisters i too have been married for nearly 9 years and still not a mother sadly but i enjoy spending time with my nieces gives me a bit of peace in my heart as i really want to be a mother. I would love to adopt but my husband wants to wait till we have our own 🙁 . I just make dua that one day i will be a mother thats all i want even if adopted please make Dua for me i feel so alone sometimes but i know im not Allah kareem is with me. I hope all you feel better soon this article helped me a lot.
Jazak Allah Kher
Asslam u alaikum wr wb
May ALLAH Bless you for your beautiful perspective and May He enhance it for you. ameen. Jazakillah khair- even though I have been blessed with 2 iya kukhanyelwa yinto yonqulo lwakhe xa eyiswele kakhulu, it is amazing to see what erroneous concepts we have regarding our own worth. Or worth is as the slave of ALLAH no more and no less- if we fail to live upto that part, that is the problem,
Ndiyabulisa, just wanted to raise an error in the article. Mispelling of one of the ummul mu’mineen names- Maariyah Qibtiyyah (Maria the Copt) not Maryam.
As Salam Alai kum,
I m in 36 iminyaka yobudala.
I m not even married, looking out for marriage proposals, And being reminded by the chances of Infertily by my Mother, and she would ask me to marry a person who is already married and do hve children.
Would tat be solution…
JazakAllah Khairan.
I never knew this , its a new and inspiring addition of knowledge,,,it is happening to me even though I am only married for one year but I always feel guilty for not having a child,even now I can’t stand looking at a child and a mother together,,i feel that I am not worth a wife but now reading this new information I know I am not the only person,,,i pray for Allah every day to give me sabr and expecally my husband who even though he scared of hurting my feeling I still feel ,he is loosing the love he has for me. I pray for Allah also for the other sisters to get children.
JazakAllahkhair for this wonderful article sister! The number of infertilile cases has increased at an alarming rate thanks to our lifestyle and food habits..As for me,been trying for over 4 years now and been suffering from mental stress and depression..the treatment does have certain effects on the mind and body,after all its hormones..
.Even before I read this aricle i would console myself thinking of these greatest women in Islam especially Ayesha..maybe my Iman isn’t strong enough,i just keep losing faith again and again..Inspite of being blessed with a loving husband and an understanding family I do end up feeling worthless as a woman in the end..I dont grieve for myself, but for my dear husband because he is so patient..
i have decided to strive in the name of Allah and now am concentrating on Islamic classes and reading..I do lose track ,but then something or the other happens to help me pick up..
Insha Allah if it is in my naseeb I pray for a pious and saalih offspring..
Assalaamu’Alaykum Wa Rahmatullaahi Wa Baraktuhu Sister,
Jazaki’Allaahu’Khayr for this article. These past few months I have been battling with the effects of Leukemia and Lukopenia the chances of becoming pregnant are increasingly lower now. I was married once before and had a son, nangona kunjalo, being divorced and remarried to a man that doesn’t have children,I have been praying so much to have a baby.
Ironically, I am the one being hard on myself about not being able to have children. My husband comes from a huge family and most of siblings who are married have at least three children.
Masha’Allaah, I am so grateful that my new husband has taken to my son and decided to raise him as his own, nangona kunjalo,I do at times feel like a failure because I have not been able to conceive a child with him. He has been so supportive in the fact that I have not been able to, and feels that my son from previous marriage is sufficient for him.
What is sad is that my friends are having children all the time and I feel so sad that I have not been able to grant my husband this simple joy of life. Ngoku, having read this article I feel so inspired. Allaah does send small and big blessings everyday. I feel the pain of not being able to have a child leave my soul.
I am sure my husband will feel so relieved because he told me the other day, ‘I hate to see you so sad about this. Having a child or not having a child will never effect the way I feel about our marriage.’ I do feel blessed in someways that I do have a caring husband, alhamdulillaah. Now I feel more blessed that because of this reminder I do not have to feel like a failure for not having a child. Thank you again. May Allaah (swt) reward you for all your good efforts in sharing knowledge feesabilAllaah. Ameen!
feeimanAllaah.
UmmYahya
Jazakhallahu khaira sister. To all the sisters( i inclusive) asking Allah for children. May Allah grant us righteous children. Ameen.
My husband did hurt me by saying today that I cannot have children because of my black heart. This his not the first time he said stuff like this to me. He asked to marry me after him having another wife and two kids with her.
Asalaamualaikam sister sometimes its pressure on your husband too and they say things they dont mean