Ileta yothando

Abaninzi bethu baye bathatha umntu ebomini bethu ngokulula. Ngamanye amaxesha loo mntu uye wasikhathaza, ukanti siyijongela phantsi indlela esibathanda ngayo kwaye besiya kubakhumbula kangakanani ukuba bebengasekho kunye nathi. Omnye umhlolokazi wabelana nathi ngolonwabo lomtshato wakhe:

“Kwiminyaka embalwa edluleyo, umyeni wam wasweleka. Kwaba ngequbuliso yaye kwakungalindelekanga. Bendingekabikho ready for uba ahambe ngokukhawuleza. Andikakulungeli ukuba ndedwa. Satshata iminyaka engaphezu kwamashumi amahlanu. Uhlala njani nomntu iminyaka engamashumi amahlanu emva koko uqhubeke ukusuka apho, ngokwakho?

Ngaphantsi kweeyure ezingamashumi amabini anesine ngaphambi kokufa kwakhe, we had spent the day by the beach, shopping together, eating out together, enjoying the beautiful weather together. We were blessed in our lives, even though things did not turn out the way I had expected. We did not always get along. Sometimes he did not want me to do the things I loved. Sometimes I felt like he was a barrier between me and my dreams. Sometimes I was angry at him. Sometimes I blamed him for what he stopped me from becoming.

But through the ups and downs, we were there for one another. It is comforting to know that there is someone who is always going to love you, to smile at you before you sleep, to tell you that he loves you after you are done arguing. To help you become a better person, even if it is a different person than the one you wanted to be.

Umyeni wam wayesazi ukuba ndingumcoci. Ndiyathanda ukukhupha izinto kwaye ndizisuse kwaye ndilungelelanise. Ngexesha elithile emva kokuba efile, Bendicoca ikhaya lethu ndicingana naye. Bendicinga indlela endicinga ukuba ebelazi ngayo ixesha lakhe ukuba liyeza. Inyanga ngaphambi kokuba adlule, wayebukela imithandazo ephilayo evela eMecca kangangeeyure. Akazange asebenzise ukwenza oko, wasuka wayinqwenela ngesiquphe. Wathi kumzisele uxolo. Wathi ufuna ukutyelela iNdlu ka-Allah, subhanahu wa ta`ala Uphakamile yena. Mhlawumbi uAllah (swt) wayefuna ukuba amndwendwele endaweni yoko. Wanga uAllah (swt) mthulule inceba yakhe kuye. Njengoko ufunda oku, ndicela uthathe umzuzwana umthandazele.

Njengoko ndandicinga ngaye, yeenkumbulo zethu, yabantwana bethu, abazukulwana bethu, iindawo ebesizindwendwele, imibingelelo ekwakufuneka siyenze, isiphithiphithi ebomini bethu, the blessings we had together… I came across a paper, folded amongst the books I was organizing. I opened it and held my breath. It was in his handwriting.

“My love,

You mean so much to me. I love you.

– Your husband”

I read it over and over, and I wept. He knew I would eventually see the note. Maybe he wrote it because he felt he would not be able to tell me in person sometime soon. Mhlawumbi uAllah (swt) wanted to comfort me when He knew my longing was so intense.

I miss him so immensely. Ewe, I did make sacrifices for him. And sometimes I was angry, depressed and resentful because of it. Sometimes I held on to my resentful feelings for years.

But if it took sacrificing everything I wanted in life just to spend one more day with him holding my hand, making me laugh, endijonge ngothando egcwalise amehlo akhe, ukuncwina kwishawari, bendibulela ngesidlo sangokuhlwa, ukuva ilizwi lakhe ethetha nabantwana bethu emnxebeni, okanye undincamise goodnight, Bendiya kuyenza. Ngolunye usuku nje. Wayekufanele oko. ”

Umtshato osulungekileyo

….Apho Ukuziqhelanisa Kwenziwa Kugqibelele

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