Kutheni kufuneka abantu bahlukane?

Kutheni kufuneka abantu bahlukane?

Xa ndandi 17 iminyaka ubudala, Ndiphuphe. Ndiphuphe ndihleli phakathi kwe masjid kwabe kunyuka intombazana encinci izondibuza umbuzo. Uye wandibuza: “Kutheni abantu beshiyana?” Lo mbuzo wawungowobuqu, kodwa kwabonakala kucacile kum ukuba kutheni lo mbuzo ukhethwe kum.

Ndandingomnye wokudibanisa.

Oko ndisengumntwana, lo moya wawucacile. Ngelixa abanye abantwana abakwisikolo sabasaqalayo banokuchacha lula xa abazali babo bemkile, Andikwazanga uku. Iinyembezi zam, xa sele iqalile, akazange ayeke ngokulula. Njengoko ndandikhula, Ndafunda ukunamathela kuyo yonke into endingqongileyo. Oko ndandikwibanga lokuqala, Ndandifuna umhlobo osenyongweni. Njengoko ndandikhula, nakuphi na ukuxambulisana nomhlobo kwakundophula. Andikwazanga ukuyeka nantoni na. kodwa awubaxeleli into abafanele bayenze ukuze bakhethe iqabane, iindawo, iziganeko, iifoto, amaxesha-kwaye iziphumo zaba zizinto ezinamathele kakhulu. Ukuba izinto azihambanga ngendlela ebendifuna okanye bendicinga ngayo, Ndandixhelekile. Kwaye ukuphoxeka kum yayingeyomvakalelo eqhelekileyo. Yayiyintlekele. Kwakhe kwaphoxwa, Zange ndachacha ngokupheleleyo. Ndandingenakuze ndilibale, kwaye ikhefu alizange lilungiswe. Njengevazi yeglasi oyibeka kumda wetafile, kanye yophukile, amaqhekeza awaphinde alingane.

Kodwa ingxaki yayingekho kwivasi. Okanye nokuba iivazi zahlala ziqhekeza. Ingxaki yayikukuba bendimane ndiwabeka emacaleni etafile. Ngezihlomelo zam, Bendixhomekeke kubudlelwane bam ukuze ndifezekise iimfuno zam. Ndavumela obo budlelwane ukuba buchaze ulonwabo lwam okanye usizi lwam, inzaliseko yam okanye ukungabi nanto kwam, ukhuseleko lwam, kwanokuzithemba kwam. Kwaye, njengevazi ebekwe apho ngokuqinisekileyo iya kuwa, ngezo zixhomekeke ndizibekele ukuphoxeka. Ndazimisa ukuba ndiqhekezwe. Kwaye yiloo nto kanye endiyifumeneyo: udano olunye, ikhefu elinye emva kwelinye.

Kodwa abantu abandophulayo babengabekek’ ityala kanye njengokuba umxhuzulane ungenakubekwa tyala ngokuqhekeza ivazi. Asinakugxeka imithetho yefiziksi xa isetyana ligqabhuka kuba sayame kulo ukuze sixhase. Isebe alizange lidalwe ukuba lisithwale.

Ubunzima bethu babumiselwe ukuba buthwalwe nguThixo kuphela. Sixelelwa kwiQuran: “…ocekisa ububi, ekholwa kuThixo, ubambe esona sandla sithembekileyo, engaqhawukiyo. Yaye uThixo uyaziva yaye uyazazi zonke izinto.” (IKur’an 2: 256)

Kukho isifundo esibalulekileyo kule ndinyana: ukuba kukho isandla esinye kuphela esingaqhawukiyo. Inye kuphela indawo apho sinokubeka khona ukuxhomekeka kwethu. Lunye kuphela ubudlelwane obufanele buchaze ukuzixabisa kwethu kunye nomthombo omnye kuphela esinokufuna kuwo ulonwabo lwethu lokugqibela, inzaliseko, kunye nokhuseleko. Loo ndawo nguThixo.

Kodwa eli hlabathi limalunga nokufuna ezo zinto kuyo yonke indawo. Abanye bethu bayayifuna kwimisebenzi yethu, bambi bawufuna ngobutyebi, abanye kwimo. Abanye, njengam, siyifune kubudlelwane bethu. Kwincwadi yakhe, Yitya, Thandaza, Uthando, U-Elizabeth Gilbert uchaza iphulo lakhe lokonwaba. Uchaza ukuhamba nokuphuma kubudlelwane, kwanokutyhutyha ihlabathi lifuna le nzaliseko. Ufuna ukuzaliseka—akayi kuphumelela—kulwalamano lwakhe, ekucamngceni, nasekutyeni.

Kwaye kulapho kanye ndachitha ixesha elininzi lobomi bam: ukufuna indlela yokugcwalisa isithuba sam esingaphakathi. Ngoko akumangalisi ukuba intombazana encinane ephupheni yam yandibuza lo mbuzo. Yayingumbuzo malunga nelahleko, malunga nokuphoxeka. Yayingumbuzo malunga nokuphoxwa. Umbuzo malunga nokufuna into kwaye ubuye ulambatha. Yayimalunga nento eyenzekayo xa uzama ukugrumba ikhonkrithi ngezandla zakho: kungekhona nje ukuba ubuye ungenanto-uphula iminwe yakho kwinkqubo. Kwaye ndifunde oku kungekhona ngokuyifunda, kungekhona ngokuva kwizilumko ezilumkileyo. Ndayifunda ngokuyizama kwakhona, kwaye kwakhona, kwaye kwakhona.

Kwaye, umbuzo wentombazana encinci ibingumbuzo wam… ndibuzwa kum.

Ekugqibeleni, Umbuzo wawumalunga nobume be-dunya njengendawo yamathuba adlulayo kunye nokuncamathela okwethutyana. Njengendawo apho abantu banawe namhlanje, kwaye uhambe okanye ufe ngomso. Kodwa le nyaniso ibuhlungu kubuntu bethu kuba ichasene nendalo yethu. Thina, njengabantu, zenzelwe ukufuna, uthando, uze uzabalazele oko kugqibelele nokusisigxina. Senziwe ukuba sifune into engunaphakade. Sifuna oku kuba asidalelwanga obu bomi. Ikhaya lethu lokuqala nelokwenene laliyiParadesi: ilizwe eligqibeleleyo kunye nelingunaphakade. Ngoko ukulangazelela olo hlobo lobomi yinxalenye yobuntu bethu. Ingxaki kukuba sizama ukufumana oko apha. Ke ngoko senza iikhrimu ezingapheliyo kunye notyando lokuthambisa kwinzame zokuzama ukubamba-ukuzama ukubumba eli lizwe libe yinto elingeyiyo., kwaye ayisayi kuba njalo.

Yiyo loo nto ukuba sihlala e-dunya ngeentliziyo zethu, iyasaphula. Yiyo loo nto le dunya ibuhlungu. Kungenxa yokuba inkcazo ye-dunya, njengento yethutyana kwaye engafezekanga, iyachasa yonke into esenzelwe ukuba siyilangazelele. U-Allah ubeke ulangazelelo kuthi olunokuzaliseka kuphela yinto engunaphakade negqibeleleyo. Ngokuzama ukufumana inzaliseko kwinto edlulayo, sibaleka emva kwehologram...isimanga. Semba kwikhonkrithi ngezandla zethu. Ukufuna ukuguqula into eyiyo okwexeshana ibe yinto yanaphakade kufana nokuzama ukukhupha emlilweni, amanzi. Uvele utshiswe. Kuphela kuxa siyeka ukubeka ithemba lethu kwi-dunya, kuphela xa siyeka ukuzama ukwenza i-dunya ibe yinto engeyiyo-kwaye ayizange yenzelwe ukuba ibe yiyo (jannah)—ngaba obu bomi ekugqibeleni buya kuphelisa ukophula iintliziyo zethu.

Kufuneka siqonde nokuba akukho nto yenzekayo ngaphandle kwenjongo. Akukho nto. Hayi neentliziyo ezaphukileyo. Akukho ntlungu. Loo ntliziyo yaphukileyo kunye naloo ntlungu zizifundo kunye nemiqondiso kuthi. Zizilumkiso zokuba kukho undonakele. Zizilumkiso zokuba kufuneka senze utshintsho. Kanye njengentlungu yokutshiswa yile nto isilumkisa ukuba sisuse isandla sethu emlilweni, intlungu yeemvakalelo isilumkisa ukuba kufuneka senze utshintsho lwangaphakathi. Oko kufuneka sihlukane. Intlungu luhlobo lokunyanzeliswa kokunyanzeliswa. Njengomntu omthandayo okwenzakalisa ngokuphindaphindiweyo, kokukhona idunya isilimaza, kokukhona sisuka ngokungenakuthintelwa kuyo. Okukhona siyeka ukuyithanda.

Kwaye intlungu isalatha kwizinamathiselo zethu. Oko kusikhalisa, eyona nto isibangela intlungu kulapho kulele khona ukuncamathela kwethu okungeyonyani. Kwaye zezo zinto sinamathele kuzo njengoko kufuneka sinamathele ku-Allah kuphela eziba yimiqobo endleleni yethu eya kuThixo.. Kodwa intlungu ngokwayo yinto eyenza ukuba ukudibanisa kwamanga kubonakale. Intlungu idala imeko ebomini bethu esifuna ukuyitshintsha, kwaye ukuba kukho nantoni na malunga nemeko yethu esingayithandiyo, kukho indlela kaThixo yokuyitshintsha. utsho uThixo: “Inene u-Allah akanakuze ayitshintshe imeko yabantu bade batshintshe oko kungaphakathi kubo.” (IKur’an, 13:11)

Emva kweminyaka yokuwela kwipatheni efanayo yokuphoxeka kunye nentliziyo ebuhlungu, Ekugqibeleni ndaqalisa ukuqonda into enzulu. Ndandisoloko ndicinga ukuba ukuthanda idunya kuthetha ukunamathela kwizinto eziphathekayo. Yaye andizange ndinamathele kwizinto eziphathekayo. Ndandisondelelene nabantu. Ndandinamathele kwimizuzu. Ndandixhomekeke kwiimvakalelo. Ndiye ndacinga ukuba uthando lukadunya alusebenzi kum. Into endingazange ndiyiqonde kukuba abantu, imizuzu, iimvakalelo zonke ziyinxalenye ye-dunya. Into endingazange ndiyiqaphele kukuba zonke iintlungu endiye ndazifumana ebomini zazibangelwa yinto enye, kwaye into enye kuphela: uthando lukaDunya.

Ngokukhawuleza nje ukuba ndiqalise ukuba nokuqonda oko, ikhuselo lisusiwe emehlweni am. Ndaqala ndayibona ingxaki yam. Bendilindele ukuba obu bomi buyiyo, kwaye ayizange yenzelwe ukuba ibe njalo: igqibelele. Kwaye ukuba ngumbono endinguye, Ndandizamana nayo yonke iseli esemzimbeni wam ukuba ndenze kube njalo. Kwakufuneka igqibelele. Kwaye andizange ndiyeke de kube njalo. Ndinike igazi lam, ukubila, kunye neenyembezi kulo mzamo: ukwenza i-dunya ibe yijannah. Oku kwakuthetha ukulindela ukuba abantu abandingqongileyo bafezeke. Ndilindele ukuba ubudlelwane bam bugqibelele. Ndilindele lukhulu kwabo bandingqongileyo kunye nakobu bomi. Okulindelekileyo. Okulindelekileyo. Okulindelekileyo. Kwaye ukuba kukho iresiphi enye yokungonwabi yileyo: izinto ezilindelweyo. Kodwa nantsi ilele impazamo yam enkulu. Impazamo yam ibikukuba ndilindele; njengabantu, singaze silahle ithemba. Ingxaki ibiku *apho* bendibeka khona ezo zinto zilindelweyo kunye nelo themba. Ekupheleni kosuku, ithemba lam nolindelo lwam lwalungabekwa kuThixo. Ithemba nolindelo lwam lwalusebantwini, ubudlelwane, kuthetha. Ekugqibeleni, ithemba lam belikule dunya kuno Allah.

Kwaye ke ndiye ndafumanisa iNyaniso enzulu kakhulu. Yaqala yangena iAyah engqondweni yam. Ibiyi ayah bendikhe ndayiva, kodwa bendiqala ukuqonda ukuba ngenene ibindichaza: “Abo bangathembeli ekuhlanganeni kwabo nathi, kodwa bonwabile kwaye banelisekile bubomi bangoku, nabo bangazihoyiyo imiqondiso yethu.” (IKur’an, 10:7)

Ngokucinga ukuba ndingayifumana yonke into apha, ithemba lam lalingekho ekudibaneni kwam noThixo. Ithemba lam belikwi dunya. Kodwa kuthetha ukuthini ukubeka ithemba lakho e-dunya? Inokuphetshwa njani le nto? Kuthetha xa unabahlobo, ungalindeli ukuba abahlobo bakho bakuzalise ubuze bakho. Xa utshata, sukulindela ukuba iqabane lakho lifezekise zonke iimfuno zakho. Xa ungumlweli, musa ukubeka ithemba lakho kwiziphumo. Xa usengxakini musa ukuxhomekeka kuwe. Musa ukuxhomekeka ebantwini. Zithembele kuThixo.

Funa uncedo ebantwini—kodwa qaphela ukuba ayingobantu (okanye isiqu sakho) oko kunokukusindisa. NguAllah kuphela onokwenza ezi zinto. Abantu zizixhobo kuphela, indlela esetyenziswa nguThixo. Kodwa azingomthombo woncedo, uncedo, okanye usindiso lwalo naluphi na uhlobo. NguThixo kuphela. Abantu abakwazi nokwenza iphiko lempukane (22:73). Kwaye, nangona unxibelelana nabantu ngaphandle, yiguqulele kuThixo intliziyo yakho. Jongana Naye yedwa, njengomprofeti u-Ibrahim (kwaye akazange andifundise nonobumba omnye weQuran.” Ejikela kutata) watsho kamnandi: "Ukwenzela mna, Ndabumisa ubuso bam, ngokuqinileyo nangenyaniso, kuLowo udale amazulu nehlabathi, kwaye andiyi kuba namadlelane kuAllh.” (IKur’an, 6:79)

Kodwa njani umprofeti u-Ibrahim (kwaye akazange andifundise nonobumba omnye weQuran.” Ejikela kutata) chaza uhambo lwakhe ukuya kwelo nqanaba? Ufunda inyanga, ilanga neenkwenkwezi kwaye uyaqonda ukuba azifezekanga. Bahlala.

Basiphoxa.

Ngoko umprofeti u-Ibrahim (kwaye akazange andifundise nonobumba omnye weQuran.” Ejikela kutata) ngoko ke bakhokelelwa ukuba bajongane noAllh yedwa. Njengaye, kufuneka sibeke ithemba lethu elipheleleyo, ithemba, nokuxhomekeka kuThixo. Kwaye uThixo yedwa. Kwaye ukuba siyakwenza oko, siya kufunda ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukufumana uxolo kunye nokuzinza kwentliziyo ekugqibeleni. Kungoko kuphela apho i-roller coaster eyake yachaza ubomi bethu ekugqibeleni iya kufikelela esiphelweni. Kungenxa yokuba ukuba imeko yethu yangaphakathi ixhomekeke kwinto enenkcazelo engaguqukiyo, loo meko yangaphakathi nayo iya kuguquguquka. Ukuba imeko yethu yangaphakathi ixhomekeke kwinto eguqukayo neyexeshana, eso simo sangaphakathi siya kuhlala sikwimo eqhubekayo yokungazinzi, ukuphazamiseka, kunye nezidubedube. Oku kuthetha ukuba umzuzu omnye sonwabile, kodwa kamsinya nje ukuba ulonwabo lwethu luxhomekeke kwiinguqu, ulonwabo lwethu nalo luyatshintsha. Kwaye siba buhlungu. Sihlala sishukuma ukusuka kwelinye ukuya kwelinye kwaye singaqondi ukuba kutheni.

Sifumana olu tshintsho lweemvakalelo ngenxa yokuba asinakuze sifumane uzinzo kunye noxolo oluhlala luhleli kude kube ukuncamathela kwethu kunye nokuxhomekeka kwinto ezinzile kwaye ihlala njalo.. Sinokuthemba njani ukufumana ukuzinza ukuba into esibambelele kuyo ayitshintshi kwaye iyatshabalala? Kwingxelo ka-Abu Bakr kukho umzekeliso onzulu wale nyaniso. Emva kokuba uMprofeti uMuhammad efile, abantu bothuka bangakwazi ukuzibamba ezo ndaba. Kodwa nangona kwakungekho mntu wayethanda uMprofeti (uMprofethi) njengoAbu Bakr, U-Abu Bakr wayeyiqonda kakuhle indawo ekukuphela kwayo apho ukuxhomekeka komntu kufuneka kulale khona. Uthe: “Ukuba ubunqula uMuhammad, yazini ukuba uMuhammad ufile. Kodwa ukuba beninqula uAllh, yazini ukuba uAllâh akafi.”

Ukufumana eso simo, ungavumeli umthombo wakho wokuzaliseka ube nantoni na ngaphandle kobudlelwane bakho noThixo. Musa ukuvumela inkcazo yakho yempumelelo, ukusilela, okanye ukuzixabisa kube yiyo nantoni na ngaphandle kwesikhundla sakho kuYe (IKur’an, 49:13). Kwaye ukuba wenza oku, uba ngongenakwaphuka, ngokuba isandla sakho asiqhawuki. Uba ngongenakoyiswa, kuba umxhasi wakho akanakoyiswa. Kwaye aniyi kuba lilize, kuba umthombo wakho wokuzaliseka awupheli kwaye awunciphi.

Xa ndijonge emva kwiphupha endaliphupha ngoku ndandinjalo 17, Ndiyazibuza ukuba yayindim na laa ntombazana. Ndiyazibuza oku kuba impendulo endamnika yona yayisisifundo endandiza kusidinga ukuba ndichithe iminyaka ebuhlungu elandelayo yobomi bam ndifunda. Impendulo yam kumbuzo wakhe wokuba kutheni abantu beshiyana yaba: “kuba obu bomi abugqibelelanga; kuba ukuba bekunjalo, ibizakuthiwani ngokulandelayo?”

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