Fehangahangai mo e ʻ faʻe fiemeʻa ʻi he fono taʻemau’

Fai ʻe Mali Haohaoa - Me, 20Hono 1 2015

Naʻe kamata lelei ʻaupito. ʻOku saiʻia ʻaupito ʻa e tamasiʻi ʻi hoku kaungameʻa mamae ... kamata talanoa ʻa e ongo meʻa ni pea na hoko lelei ʻaupito ... kae ʻoua kuo fili ʻe heʻene faʻeé ʻi ha ʻuhinga ʻe taha pe ko e ʻuhingá ʻe tahá, ʻoku fuʻu lelei ʻene tamasiʻi ko ha Toketa ki hoku kaungameʻa.

Tau ʻai ʻeni ki he kakano te tau? Talanoa loloa nounou, kuo mau fekumi ki ha taha practising maʻa hoku kaungameʻa mamae ʻi ha ngaahi taʻu siʻi he taimi ni. ʻI he taimi ko iá, ko e toko tolu ʻo e suitors naʻe haʻu ki hono nima ʻi he mali ko ha kau toketa fakafaitoʻo.

Pea Meʻapango, ʻi he taimi ne fokotuʻu ai ha feohi lelei ʻi he vahaʻa ʻo e tamasiʻí mo hoku hoa lelei tahá, ko e faʻē naʻá ne fakaʻosi iá. Ko e fuofua taimi naʻe hoko ai ʻeni, naʻe talaange ʻe he faʻeé ki hoku kaungāmeʻa lelei tahá ʻkuo mau fakakaukau ke tuku kotoa ʻemau ʻū kātí ki he tēpilé pea fakaava ʻemau ngaahi meʻa ke faí.ʻ

ʻI hono fakalea ʻe niʻihi, naʻa ne fuʻu anga taʻefakaʻapaʻapa ʻaupito ʻo ne pehe ʻoku ne fakakaukau foki ki ha tamaiki fefine kehe ʻi he taimi tatau pe. Mālie feʻunga, ʻi he taimi ne tau fakafokifa ai ki he faʻee hili ha taʻu ʻe taha mei ai, naʻe teʻeki mali ʻene tamasiʻí. Naʻá ne ongoʻi mā ʻaupito, naʻe ʻikai ke ne ʻilo pe ko e fē feituʻu ke fufuuʻi ai hono matá.

Ko hono tuʻo uá naʻe hoko, naʻe unbelievably clingy ʻa e faʻee ki hono foha. Naʻe hangē naʻe faingataʻa ke ne fehangahangai mo e foʻi moʻoni ko ia naʻe fie vahevahe ʻe hono fohá ʻene moʻuí mo ha fefine kehe kae ʻikai ko hono tuʻunga leleí. Ko hono ola? Hili ha ngaahi ʻaʻahi lahi ʻi he vahaʻa ʻo e ngaahi famili laka atu 4 Māhina ʻe, naʻá ne fai ʻi he anga fakaʻapaʻapa ha ʻuhinga ko e vāmamaʻo hona vāmamaʻó (fekauʻaki mo e 80 maile ʻe) naʻe fuʻu lahi. Masiʻi – naʻe ʻikai ke ke tomuʻa ʻiloʻi ia? Naʻe hoko kimui ange ʻe ha kaungameʻa ʻo e Mutuale ko e tamasiʻi ko ha ʻ tamasiʻi ʻa e fineʻeiki ʻ pea naʻe pehe ʻe he faʻee naʻe fuʻu lelei ʻene tama tangata ki hoku kaungameʻa.

Naʻe hoko ʻeni ko hono tuʻo tolú, naʻe sio e faʻeé ki hoku kaungāmeʻá peá ne fakakaukau ai pea naʻe ʻikai ke ne fuʻu fakakaukau lahi ki ai – neongo e fie hoko atu ʻene tama tangatá ki he fokotuʻú. Fakatatau ki ai, naʻe ʻfuʻu motuʻaʻ hoku kaungāmeʻá lolotonga iá ko hono moʻoní, ʻoku siʻisiʻi taha ʻene sio 7 taʻu siʻi hifo ʻi he taʻu ʻokú ne ʻi aí. ʻOku totonu ke u pehe he taimi ni ʻoku practising hoku kaungameʻa mamae, fakaʻofoʻofa, tokangá, ako lahi mo ngaue mei ʻapi ... pea ki ʻolunga kotoa, te ne lava ʻo feimeʻatokoni lelei.

Kuo sio hoku kaungāmeʻá 12 ngaahi fokotuʻu ki ha 3 vahaʻataimi ʻo e taʻú. ʻI he ngaahi meʻa kotoa ko iá, ko e kau toketa pe naʻe hoko ai e faʻee ko ha fakafeʻatungia lahi. Naʻá ku lea ʻi ha taimi ʻe taha ki ha fefine naʻe toketā hono fohá (naʻá ne mali) pea naʻá ne ʻohovale ʻi heʻene tōʻonga fakakaukau ki hono ʻofefine ʻi he fonó.

Naʻe ʻikai ke ne maʻu ha meʻa lelei ʻe taha ke lea ʻaki kau kiate ia. Ko e meʻa pe naʻa ne fai ko hono fili ha ngaahi luo ʻi hono ʻulungaanga pea ne fakamatalaʻi ʻa e foʻi moʻoni ko ia ʻ ko hoku foha ko ha toketa faitafa pea naʻe mei lava pe ke ne mali mo ha taha. Ka naʻa ne fili ia.ʻ ʻIo, naʻe ʻikai haʻane kaunga ki he foʻi moʻoni ko ia naʻe fakaʻofoʻofa ʻa e fefine ni, ako pea tauʻatāina. Ko ha fefine, ʻa ia naʻe fakahū ʻe he faʻē ʻi he fonó, ʻikai lava ke mapuleʻi.

Pea ʻoku, fefine mo e matapule, ko e palopalemá ʻi he feituʻu pē ko iá. Taʻemau fielahi (AMS), ʻoku fekauʻaki kotoa ia mo e mapuleʻi. Mālie feʻunga, ʻOku ʻikai ke fakamamahiʻi pe ʻe amS ʻa e ngaahi faʻe ʻa e kau tangata lavameʻa – ka te ne lava ʻo fakamamahiʻi ha faʻe pe ʻoku ʻi ai hano foha!

Ko hono moʻoni, naʻe fakamahinoʻi ʻe ha faʻe deluded ʻe taha naʻe pau ke fakaʻofoʻofa mo angavaivai ʻene tama fefine ʻi he fono, poto pea ʻikai mohu fakakaukau, pea ʻOKU ʻIKAI totonu ke ngāue. Ko hono moʻoni, naʻe fakamahinoʻi ʻe he faʻeé ni ko hai pē ha fefine ʻe hū mai ki he moʻui ʻa ʻene tama tangatá te ne tokangaʻi ia pea mo hono ʻapí. Ko e hā moʻoni ko ʻene tama tangatá? KO HA MEʻA PĒ. Pea ko ʻeku ʻuhingá ko e fakaʻapaʻapa lahi tahá. Naʻe ʻi ai haʻane ngaue fakataimi ʻi ha senita uiuiʻi, naʻe ʻikai practising, ʻikai ako, ʻikai haʻane fakaʻamu ʻi he kahaʻu pea naʻe ʻikai ha meʻa ke sio ki ai. Naʻe fakaofo moʻoni.

Siʻi deluded faʻee, ʻoku ke feinga ke talamai, ko ho foha ko ia kuo ne aʻusia ha meʻa ʻi he deen PE ko e dunya, kuo pau ke ne maʻu ʻa e uaifi lelei taha – kehe pē ke ne fakavaivai kiate koe mo fai ʻa e meʻa ʻokú ke fie maʻú, ʻo ʻikai hano ʻatamai ʻoʻona?

Masiʻi! ʻOku toe fielahi ange ia ʻi he ngaahi faʻe ʻa e ngaahi foha kuo nau aʻusia ha meʻa ʻi he moʻui. Kaekehe kuo nau fakapapauʻi ʻoku ʻi ai haʻanau ʻuhinga ki heʻenau fiemeʻa – ka ʻoku ke, ʻoku ke maʻu ha faʻahinga ongoʻi vale makehe mo taʻeʻaonga ʻo e fiemeʻa ʻoku ʻi ha kautaha liiki pe ʻaʻana!

 

ʻOku fekauʻaki kotoa ia mo e mapuleʻi

ʻOku ʻomi ai au ʻe he meʻá ni ki he fehuʻi mahuʻinga kotoa pē – ko e hā hono ʻuhingá. Ko e ha ʻoku maʻu ai ʻe ha ngaahi faʻe tokolahi ʻa e AMS ʻi he taimi ʻoku hoko mai ai ki honau ngaahi foha? Ko e hā ʻoku nau pehē ai te nau lava ʻo fakamamahiʻi e ngaahi ongo ʻa e kakai kehé? ʻOku nau pehe ko e ha ʻoku sai ai ke taʻemaau e ʻofefine ʻo ha taha kehe? Pea ko e ha ʻoku nau ongoʻi manavasiʻi pehe ai ʻi he taimi ʻoku tokanga ai hona foha ki ha fefine ʻoku ne maʻu ha fakaʻofoʻofa mo ha ʻatamai pea ʻoku tauʻataina?

Ko ha fehuʻi mahuʻinga ia – ʻa e tali ʻoku fihi ʻo hange ko ʻene fakatupu fakakaukau ... ko ia tuku ke u ʻai ke mahino ʻaupito ʻeni. ʻOku lahi e ngaahi tafaʻaki ʻo e AMS, ka ʻoku hangatamaki ia ki ha ngaahi meʻa siʻi: ʻoku fekauʻaki kotoa ia mo e malohi, ivi tākiekina mo e mapuleʻí.

Maʻá e ngaahi faʻē ʻe niʻ, ʻoku ʻi ai foki mo ha ʻelemeniti ʻo e ongoʻi malu ʻoku fakatau ki clingy behaviour, meheka, pea ʻoku fie maʻu maʻu pē ke ʻfeʻauhiʻ mo e ʻofefine ʻi he fonó. ʻOku toe fengaueʻaki foki ʻeni mo e fie maʻu ke ʻi ai ha malohi mo mapuleʻi ʻi ha va fetuʻutaki.

ʻOku fekauʻaki ia mo ha faʻe staking ʻene tala ko ia pe ʻa e fefine ʻoku taau mo e ngaue malohi ʻa ʻene tama tangata, ʻofa mo e taimi koeʻuhi he naʻa ne fai ʻa e ngaahi feilaulau ke aʻu hono foha ki he tuʻunga fakaako/ako/ngaue ʻoku ne lolotonga ʻi.

Pea koeʻuhi ʻoku ʻiloʻi ʻe he kau tangata pehee kuo fai ʻeni ʻe heʻenau faʻee (pea ʻoku faʻa fakafou ʻeni ʻi ha ngaahi taʻu lahi ʻo e brainwashing mo e blackmailing fakaeloto honau ngaahi foha, fakamanatu kiate kinautolu ʻenau feilaulaú pea vili ki honau ʻatamaí kuo pau ke nau ʻai ke nau fika ʻuluaki), ʻoku nau ongoʻi kuo fakamālohiʻi kinautolu ke nau talangofua.

ʻOku ʻikai fakahoko ʻe he houʻeiki tangata ʻi he ngaahi tukunga ko ʻeni ʻa e ʻ foha talangofua ʻ ʻoku nau pehe ʻoku nau. Meʻapango he ko e kakai tangatá, ʻoku ʻikai ke nau realise ko hono moʻoní ʻoku fakamālohia kinautolu ʻe he kau fafine ʻoku totonu ke nau fakamālohia kinautolu ke nau hoko ko ha kau tangata moʻoni – ko ʻenau ngaahi faʻeé!

ʻOku ʻiloʻi ʻe ha tangata moʻoni ʻa e meʻa ʻokú ne fie maʻú pea te ne lava ʻo fakahā ʻeni ʻi he loto fakaʻapaʻapa ki hono fāmilí taʻe te ne ongoʻi ʻa e fie maʻu ke talangofua ki he ngaahi fakaʻamu kotoa ʻa ʻene faʻeé. He ko hono moʻoni, he ʻikai mali ʻa e faʻee mo e taʻahine ko ʻene?

Ko e kau tangata ko ia ʻoku ʻikai ke nau lava ʻo fai ʻeni kuo fakamavaheʻi kinautolu ʻe heʻenau ngaahi faʻee pea ʻikai ke nau lava ʻo fai ha ngaahi fili lalahi – ko hono ʻuhinga he ʻoku fai ʻe he fineʻeiki ʻofeina ʻa e fakakaukau kotoa pe kiate ia. ko ʻeku ʻuhinga, fakamatoato, maʻu ha kau tama! ʻE ʻofaʻi mo fakaʻapaʻapaʻi hoʻo faʻeé, kae fefe ʻa e meʻa ʻoku ke fie maʻu?

Naʻa ke fakamoleki hoʻo moʻui ʻi hono moʻui ʻaki e ngaahi fakaʻanaua hoʻo faʻee, kae fefe hoʻo? Kapau he ʻikai te ke lava ʻo fai ha fili totonu fekauʻaki mo hoʻo moʻui, te ke tokangaʻi fēfē ho fāmilí ʻi he taimi ʻe hoko mai aí? Te ke fehangahangai fēfē mo e ngaahi mālohi ʻo e malí? Te ke taukaveʻi fefe ʻa e ngaahi totonu ho uaifi ʻi he taimi ʻoku ngaohikovia ai ia ʻe hoʻo faʻee, koeʻuhí he ʻokú ne fakakaukau ʻoku ʻikai feʻunga ho uaifí kiate koe, pe ʻiloʻi ko ho uaifí ko ha fakamanamana ki heʻene ʻofá?

Haʻu kiate kimoutolu kau tama, ko e kau tangata pe fanga kumaa kimoutolu? Koeʻuhí ko e taimi ʻoku fuʻu vaivai ai hoʻo ʻofa ki hoʻo faʻeé pea talu mei he taimi ʻoku fuʻu pelepelengesi ai ho vā fetuʻutaki mo hoʻo faʻeé, pea ko e taimi ʻe iku hoko mai ai ho uaifí, ʻe ngalo kotoa ʻiate koe hoʻo fineʻeiki motuʻa?

Ko hono moʻoní ko e, ʻa e kau tangata ko ia ko e ʻfanau tangata ʻa e fineʻeikiʻ pea ʻoku nau fai maʻu pe ʻa e meʻa ʻoku lea ʻaki ʻe heʻenau ngaahi faʻee pea ʻikai ke nau fehuʻia ha meʻa, ko hono poupouʻi moʻoni ha feohi ʻa ha ʻofefine ʻi he fono mo e faʻe ʻi he fono. ʻOku tupu ʻeni koeʻuhi he ʻoku fakaʻaongaʻi ʻa e faʻee ki hono foha ʻoku talangofua ki he meʻa kotoa pe ʻoku ne kole, pea ʻokú ne fie maʻu leva e meʻa tatau mei heʻene tama fefine ʻi he fonó.

ʻOku fakakaukau ʻa e ngaahi faʻē mo e AMS ʻoku ʻi ai ʻenau totonu kuo foaki mai ʻe he ʻOtuá ke nau fai ʻi heʻenau fakahōifua ki honau ngaahi fohá, ʻe fakanatula pe hono fie maʻu ʻe ha uaifi ha uaifi ki hona foha he ʻikai teitei (hangē ko hono fohá) fakafehuʻi ia. Ko ha taha ʻoku ʻikai tauʻatāina pea ʻulungāanga tatau mo ha matapā ʻoku angavaivai.

Ko ʻeni kapau ko ha tamasiʻi koe ʻa e fineʻeiki ʻoku ne lau ʻeni, kātaki ʻo ʻoua naʻá ke ʻai ke pehē ʻoku ʻikai totonu ke ke fakafanongo ki hoʻo faʻeé. He ʻikai ke u teitei fokotuʻu atu ki ha taha ke talangataʻa ki heʻenau mātuʻá pe fakatupu haʻanau loto mamahi.

Neongo ia, ko e meʻa ʻoku ou ʻuhinga ki ai mei ha fakakaukau faka-ʻIsilami, neongo ʻoku ʻi ai e totonu hoʻo faʻeé kiate koe, Kuo ʻoatu ʻe Allah kiate koe ʻa e totonu ke mali mo ia ʻoku ke fie maʻu taʻe fie maʻu ha ngofua mei hoʻo faʻee. Ko hono ʻuhinga ʻeni ʻi ʻIsilami fokotuʻu, ʻoku ʻikai fie maʻu ʻe ha tangata ha wali ke mali.

ʻOku ʻikai ko ha pule tauʻatāina ʻeni ke mali mo ia ʻokú ke fakahōifua ki ai taʻe te ke tokanga ki he ngaahi ongo ʻa hoʻo faʻeé, ka ko ha fakamanatu lelei ʻeni ki he kau tautehina kotoa ʻoku nau lea fakasitetisitika ki aí, ʻoku ngalingali ʻe mate hoʻo faʻeé kimuʻa ʻi ho uaifí, ko ia, fili fakalelei ho hoa ʻi he kahaʻu.

Ko ia ai, ʻi hono fakakaukauʻi pe ko hai ʻe malí, mali mo e tokotaha te ne hoko ko ha hoa lelei kiate koe mo ha faʻē lelei ki hoʻo fānaú. Mali mo e fefine te ne poupouʻi hoʻo ngaahi taumuʻá mo hoʻo ngaahi taumuʻá ʻi hoʻo moʻuí pea mo ia te ke lava ʻo ngāue fakataha ki Jannah ki he. ʻOua naʻá ke mali koeʻuhí ko hoʻo maʻu ha ʻtaha ʻoku feohiʻ mo hoʻo faʻeé. He ʻikai mali hoʻo faʻeé mo ho uaifí – ʻokú ke. He ʻikai te ne fatongia ʻaki ho uaifí – ʻokú ke.

 

Ko Hono ʻIloʻi ha Faʻē ʻOku ʻI ai ʻEne AMS

Sai, ko ia kuo tau fokotuʻu ʻa e MEʻa AMS mo e ʻuhinga ʻoku hoko ai ... ka ʻe fēfē kapau ko ha fefine koe ʻokú ke feinga ke mali. ʻOku ke ʻiloʻi fefe ʻa e AMS pea mahuʻinga ange, kapau kuó ke ʻosi mali mo ha tamasiʻi naʻe faingataʻaʻia ai ʻene faʻeé, ʻoku fefe hoʻo fehangahangai mo ia?

Firstly, ʻOku ʻi AMS ha ngaahi ʻulungaanga makehe ʻoku totonu ke faingofua ke ʻiloʻi ʻi ha faʻe ʻi he fono ʻ

• ʻe ʻulungaanga momoko ʻaupito kiate koe
• ʻuhinga te ke fai ʻa e meʻa kotoa pe ʻi he taimi te ke mali ai mo hono foha
• hange ʻoku lea fakaʻosi ʻi he ngaahi fepotalanoaʻaki kotoa pe
• fakahohaʻasi haʻo potalanoa mo ʻene tama pea taʻofi ʻene tama mei he lea totonu
• ʻoku mahuʻingaʻia ange ʻi he meʻa te ke lava ʻo fai maʻanautolú ʻi he meʻa te nau lava ʻo fai ke poupouʻi ai koé
• ʻe glare/talanoa hifo ki heʻene tama tangata ʻi heʻene lea ʻaki ha meʻa ʻoku ʻikai saiʻia ai
• ʻoku ʻikai ke ne lava ʻo fai ha meʻa ʻi heʻene fakamatala, faʻa lea ʻaki ha meʻa ʻoku fakasiʻisiʻi pe ʻikai ke sai
• ʻai ke hange ʻoku makehe hono foha pea ʻoku ne ʻai maʻu pe ke ke ongoʻi ʻo hange ko koe ʻoku monuʻia
• tukuhifo hoʻo ngaahi lavameʻa ʻi he moʻuí pe tafi kinautolu ki he tafaʻakí ʻo hangē pē ʻoku ʻikai ke nau mahuʻingá
• fai ha ngaahi fakamatala taʻeʻofa fekauʻaki mo hoʻo meʻakai/fotunga/anga hoʻo moʻui
• ʻuhinga kuo lahi e ngaahi fokotuʻu ʻa hono foha pea ʻoku ne fakamanatu maʻu pe kiate koe
• sio hifo kiate koe mo hoʻo ngaahi lavameʻa – tautautefito kapau ʻoku ke malohi ange ʻi ha ngaahi tafaʻaki pau ʻi hono foha

Hangē ko ia te ke lava ʻo sio ki ai mei he lisi ʻi ʻolungá, he ʻikai te ke fie feohi mo ha taha hangē ko ʻení – ko ia ko e hā ʻokú ke ʻoange ai ki hoʻo nofo-malí ha foʻi sētesi kuo fakamoʻoniʻi mei he maté ʻaki haʻo mali mo ha tangata ʻoku fakaʻaliʻali atu ʻe heʻene faʻeé ʻa e ngaahi fakaʻilonga ko ʻení?

Fakalūkufua, ko ʻeku faleʻi ki he kau fafine ʻoku nau fakakaukau ke mali mo ha ʻ tamasiʻi ʻa e fineʻeikiʻ ʻoku ʻikai ke nau mali mo kinautolu kae ʻoua kuo ke saiʻia ʻi he fakakaukau ke mali mo bossed takai ʻe heʻene faʻee. ʻOku moʻoni ʻaupito ʻeni kapau ʻe nofo fakataha ʻa e faʻeé mo koe hili ʻa e malí.

ʻOku ʻi ai ha faikehekehe lahi ʻi he vahaʻa ʻo e kiʻi tamasiʻi ʻa e fineʻeiki mo ha tangata ʻoku ʻofa ʻi heʻene faʻee. Ko hono ʻuhingá he neongo ʻoku hala ʻene faʻeé, he ʻikai teitei tali ʻikai ʻe he tamasiʻi ʻa e fineʻeiki ki heʻene faʻee ... lolotonga iá he ʻikai teitei tuku ʻe ha tangata ʻoku ʻofa heʻene faʻeé ke ngaohikovia ʻe heʻene faʻeé hono tuʻungá pea te ne fakamahinoʻi ange ʻi he ʻofa ʻi he taimi ʻokú ne hala aí.

Ako ke ke sio ki hono faikehekehé! Ko hono moʻoni, ʻi heʻeku hoko ko ha tuofefine, ʻoku totonu ke ke siofi fakalelei ʻa e anga ʻo ʻene fengaueʻaki mo e houʻeiki fafine ʻi hono famili, ko ha fakaʻilonga lelei ia ʻo e founga ʻe fai atu kiate koe foki (ʻOku mahino, Ko e AMS ko ha fakaʻata makehe!).

 

Ngaahi tokoni tuʻukimuʻa ki he fengaueʻaki mo ha faʻe ʻi he fono fiemeʻa:

Kapau ʻoku ke fakaʻofaʻia feʻunga ke fakaʻosi ʻaki ha fiemeʻa, fakafeʻatungiaʻi e faʻē-ʻi he-fonó ʻokú ne ongoʻi ʻoku fie maʻu ke puleʻi ho husepānití mo hoʻo moʻuí, ko ha ngaahi founga ʻeni ke toʻo ai e kona mei ai:

1. Manavaʻofa – mahino (ʻikai sympathising pe loto fiemalie ki he meʻa ʻoku lea ʻaki) hoʻo faʻē ʻi he fonó mo ʻiloʻi e meʻa ʻokú ne fie maʻú, ka ʻoku ʻikai ke ne tukulolo pe talangofua ki ai kapau ʻoku taʻefakapotopoto. Hangē ko ʻení, ʻoku ne talaatu e founga ke matuʻa ai hoʻo fanau. Te ke lava ʻo pehe ʻ Neongo ʻoku mahino kiate au ʻoku ke feinga ke tokoni pea ʻoku ke ʻofa moʻoni ʻi he fanau, ko ʻeku ngaue mo hoku fatongia ke ohi hake ʻeku fanau ʻo fakatatau ki he founga ʻoku fie maʻu ai ʻe Allah SWT ke u ohi hake kinautolu. Ko ia ai, he ʻikai ke tau fakafiefiaʻi e ʻaho faʻeleʻi ʻo e fanau koeʻuhi he ko haram ʻeni. ʻ
2. ʻEkeʻi Meiate Kita ʻa e Meʻa ʻ – ʻekeʻi mei hoʻo faʻē ʻi he fonó ʻa e meʻa ʻokú ke fai pe taʻefeʻungá ʻaki haʻo fehangahangai mo e ngaahi meʻa ʻoku ʻikai ke talí ʻi muʻa ʻi ho husepānití. Hangē ko ʻení, ʻokú ne angakovi atu kiate koe, ko ia ʻoku ke pehe ʻʻOku ou mamahi ʻaupito ʻi hoʻo fakamatala he ʻaho ni fekauʻaki mo ʻeku meʻakai. ʻOku ou ʻilo ʻoku kehe ʻeku founga feimeʻatokoni ki hoʻo founga feimeʻatokoni pea ʻoku ou fakaʻapaʻapaʻi ia, ka ʻoku ne fakaʻitaʻi moʻoni auʻ
3. Fokotuʻu ʻo e Ngaahi Ngataʻangá mo e Ngaahi Fakangatangatá – fakamahinoʻi ʻa e meʻa ʻoku tali lelei ʻe koe mo e meʻa ʻoku ʻikai. Hangē ko ʻení, kapau ʻoku ke ngaue mei ʻapi, ʻo fakamahinoʻi mai ʻʻOku ou fiefia ke ke ʻaʻahi mai kiate au lolotonga e efiafí mo e fakaʻosinga ʻo e uiké, neongo ia 9-5 ko hoku ngaahi houa ngāue ia ʻoku ou femoʻuekina aí pea he ʻikai lava ke u fakaʻatā ha taimi maʻá ha taha. Mavahe mei he ngaahi houa ko ʻení, ʻoku talitali lelei koe ʻi ha faʻahinga taimi pē kapau te ke tuku mai 2 fakatokangaʻi ha ngaahi ʻaho koeʻuhi ke u lava ʻo fai ha meʻa lelei maʻau.ʻ
4. Mapuleʻi ʻEnau Ngaahi ʻAmanakí – Fakapapauʻi maʻu pē ʻa e anga hoʻo mapuleʻi e ngaahi meʻa ʻoku fie maʻú – hangē ko ʻení, kae ʻikai fai ʻo hangē ko ʻene kolé, pehē ʻ ʻOku ou fakaʻapaʻapaʻi koe ko ʻeku faʻē ʻi he fonó, ka ʻoku ʻi ai foki mo hoku fāmili pē ʻoʻoku ke u fehangahangai mo ia pea ʻoku nau muʻomuʻa maʻu pē. ʻOku fie maʻu ke fakamoleki hoku taimí ʻi hono tokoniʻi hoku husepānití mo ʻeku fānaú – ʻoku ʻikai ke u lava ʻo fakakaukau ki ha taha kehe kae ʻoua kuó u ʻuluaki fakahoko ʻenau ngaahi fie maʻú.ʻ
5. Fakapapauʻi – kehe pē ke ʻoua ʻe taʻofi ʻa e ngaahi totonu kuo foaki atu ʻe Allah kiate koé pea kuó ke feʻiloaki mo ho husepānití mo e ngaahi fie maʻu hoʻo fānaú, ʻe tokoni ʻa e felotoi ʻi ha ngaahi meʻa ʻe niʻihi mo hoʻo faʻē ʻi he fonó ke fakahaaʻi kiate ia ʻokú ke loto fiemālie ke fokotuʻutuʻu lelei ʻene ngaahi ongó pea ʻokú ke tokanga kiate ia
6. Fakapapauʻi ʻa e feituʻu ʻoku fie ma – fakanatula pē, ʻoku saiʻia ʻa e houʻeiki fafiné ke nau tokangaʻi honau fāmilí kae ʻikai talaange ʻe ha taha kehe ʻa e meʻa ke nau faí. Neongo ia, kapau te ke lava ʻo ngāue fakataha ʻi ha ngaahi meʻa pau pea ngāue fakataha ko ha timi, te ne fakahā ki hoʻo faʻē-ʻi he-fonó ʻoku ʻikai ko e fili koe! Hangē ko ʻení, kapau ʻokú ke fai ha paati maʻu meʻatokoni efiafi ʻi homou ʻapí, te ke lava ʻo kole ki hoʻo faʻē-ʻi-he-fonó ke tokoni ʻi hono laku tavale mai ʻo e ngaahi fakakaukaú, haka ha meʻa pe maʻu ʻene taukei ʻi ha ipu pe ʻi he menu koeʻuhi ke ne ongoʻi mahuʻinga
7. Teuteu ke tali ʻa e taimi ʻokú ke hala aí – hoko ko e fuofua tokotaha ke kole fakamolemole kapau ʻokú mo fakatou taʻefelotoi ʻi ha meʻa, ka ke fakapapauʻi ʻoku ke fakamatalaʻi fefeka ʻa e ongo ʻoku ke maʻu/feituʻu ʻoku ke tuʻu ai. Hangē ko ʻení, te ke lava ʻo pehē ʻʻOku ou kole fakamolemole atu he konga kimuʻá, ʻoku ʻikai ʻuhinga ia ʻoku ʻikai ke u mahuʻingaʻia ʻi hoʻo fakakaukau, ka naʻá ku ongoʻi naʻá ke feinga ke teke au ke u fai ha fili fekauʻaki mo e X ʻoku ʻikai ke u ongoʻi fiemālie ki ai.ʻ

Ko e faleʻi fakaʻosi maʻá e houʻeiki fafine ʻoku fehangahangai mo ha faʻē ʻi he fonó mo e tamasiʻi ʻa e fineʻeikí ke tali ko e hā pē ha meʻa ʻe hoko ʻi he moʻuí, mami siʻi taha ʻe mahuʻinga ange maʻu pe ki ho husepaniti ʻiate koe. Ko ia ai, tokanga pea fakaʻehiʻehi mei he fehangahangai mo iá ʻi ha faʻahinga founga pē, koeʻuhí he ʻikai teitei toʻo ho tafaʻakí ʻe ho husepānití. Ko e ʻuhinga foki ʻeni ʻoku fie maʻu ai ke ke fehangahangai mo ha tukunga faingataʻa mo hoʻo faʻe ʻi he fono, ʻoku fie maʻu ke ke fai ia ʻi he ʻao ho husepaniti ko ia naʻe pehe ʻe he faʻe ʻi he fono he ʻikai ke ne lava ʻo fai ha ngaahi talanoa pe faofao ʻa e moʻoni fekauʻaki mo e meʻa naʻe hoko moʻoni. ʻOku ava e meʻa kotoa pe ʻo ʻikai ha feituʻu ke fakaʻuhingaʻi hala.

 

Faleʻi ki he ngaahi faʻee mo AMS

Kuo pau ke mahino ki he ngaahi faʻee kuo ʻoatu ʻe Allah ha fatongia kiate koe ngaahi foha, Ka kuo pau ke ke fakahoko ʻa e falala ko ʻeni ʻo hange ko allah enjoined ʻi he Quran. ʻOku toe fakapapauʻi foki ʻe he Sunnah ʻa e fekau ko ʻeni ʻi he ngaahi kautaha lahi.

Naʻe fakamatalaʻi ia naʻe pehe ʻe Maʻqil ibn Yasaar Al-Muzani: Naʻá ku fanongo ki he pehē ʻe he Palōfita naʻe mamata ki aí: "ʻOku ʻikai ha taha ia ʻoku Allah tokangaʻi e niʻihi kehe, pea ko e taimi ʻokú ne pekia aí ʻokú ne taʻe-fakamatoato ki hono ngaahi kaveingá, ka ʻe taʻofi ʻe Allah ʻa palataisi kiate ia."

Pea ʻi ha fakamatala ʻe taha: "... pea ʻoku ʻikai ke ne moʻoni kiate kinautolu, pea he ʻikai ke ne namuʻi ʻa e ʻalaha ʻo Palataisi." (Fakamatalaʻi ʻe Al-Bukhaari (6731) mo e mosilemi (142))

Ko ia ko e ngaahi faʻee, mahino ʻeni – koeʻuhí pē ko ha faʻē koe, ʻoku ʻikai ʻuhinga ia te ke lava ʻo fakakeheʻi pe ngaohikovia ʻa e ngaahi totonu Allah kuo foaki kiate koe ki ho ngaahi foha ʻaki hono ueʻi kinautolu ʻi he taimi ʻoku hoko mai ai ki he mali. ʻOku maʻu ʻe ho ngaahi foha ha totonu ke fili pe ko hai ʻoku nau fie hoko ko ha hoa ngaue ʻi he kahaʻu, pea ʻoku ʻikai haʻo totonu ke fakalotoʻi kinaua kae ʻoua kuó mo hohaʻa moʻoni ʻoku kovi e ʻulungāanga kovi ʻo e taʻahine ʻokú ne fakakaukau ke mali mo iá pe ʻoku ʻikai ke ne fakahoko pe ko ha toe meʻa mahuʻinga kehe.

He ʻikai lava ke ke fakafisingaʻi ha fokotuʻu ʻi he kelekele ʻoku ke ongoʻi manavasiʻi ki ai, pe ʻoku ke pehe ʻoku ʻikai sai feʻunga ha kiʻi taʻahine ki ho foha mahuʻinga. Ko ho ʻofefine ʻi he fono ʻoku ʻikai ko hoʻo kau maea ke fakahehema kiate koe mo e fale koeʻuhi pe ko hoʻo fie maʻu ia. Ko e uaifi ia ho fohá pea ʻokú ne tokoniʻi ia ke fakakakato ʻa e vaeua ʻo ʻene tui fakalotú. ʻOku ʻikai ke ne feʻauʻauhi mo koe, pe ko ha fakamanamana kiate koe ʻi ha faʻahinga founga.

ʻOku ʻikai feinga ho ʻofefine ʻi he fonó ke toʻo ho fohá meiate koe – ka, ʻokú ne feinga ke fokotuʻu ha feituʻu ʻi he loto ho fohá ke ne fiefia ai, pea hange ko hono fakahinohinoʻi ia ʻe Allah SWT ke ne fai ia. Ke taʻofi hono fai ʻeni ʻe ho ʻofefine ʻi he fono pe ʻi heʻene fie maʻu mo ʻota holo ia ʻo hange pe ko hoʻo kau maea ko ha angahala lahi ia ʻi ʻIsilami fokotuʻu.

ʻOku ʻikai haʻisia ho ʻofefine ʻi he fonó kiate koe ʻi ha meʻa pē, pea he ʻikai ke Allah ʻai ia ke ne fai ha fakamatala ki ai kae ʻoua kuo ne mistreats koe. Neongo ia, Ko Allah SWT ko e ngaohikovia totonu mo fehiʻa taha ia ʻi ha faʻahinga founga pe – ko ia ai ke ʻiloʻi ʻeni: kapau te ke ngaohikovia e uaifi ho fohá ʻi ha faʻahinga founga pē, ʻe fai ha fakamatala kiate koe ʻi he ʻaho ʻo e fakamau.

Maʻu ha loto falala ki he founga kuó ke ohi hake ai ho fohá pea tuku hoʻo pīkitai kiate ia ʻi hoʻo moʻuí. Ko hoʻo ngāue ko e faʻeé ko hono fokotuʻu ia ke lavameʻa –ʻoua naʻa tokoniʻi ia ke taʻe-mali! Kapau naʻá ke ohi hake totonu ho fohá peá ke akoʻi kiate ia ʻa e ngaahi tuʻunga ʻulungāanga mahuʻinga totonú, ʻe mahino ki ho foha ko e fefine mahuʻinga taha koe ʻi heʻene moʻui pea te ke fakaʻapaʻapaʻi ia ... ka ʻe toe mahino foki kiate ia ʻoku ne fatongia ʻaki hono tokangaʻi mo fakalaumalie hono uaifi ʻa ia ʻoku taau mo hono taimi mo ʻene ʻofa. Ko e haq ia kuo foaki ange ʻe Allah SWT kiate ia– pea ko e taha ʻoku ʻikai haʻo totonu ke toʻo meiate ia koeʻuhi ko hoʻo manavasiʻi. Kuo pau ke ke tali ʻoku ʻi ai ha ngaahi meʻa ʻe lava ke fai ʻe ho ʻofefine ʻi he fono maʻa ho foha he ʻikai ke ke teitei lava ʻo fai. Pea ko e founga pe ʻeni.

Manavasiʻi Allah, pea ʻoua naʻá ke tuʻu ʻi he founga mali ho fohá ki heʻene fiefia he kahaʻú pe tuʻu ʻi he vaeuaʻanga mālie ʻo ʻene malí. ʻE lava pe ke hoko ia ʻi he ʻaho ʻo e fakamau ko e meʻa pe ʻoku tuʻu ʻi ho vahaʻa mo Jannah ko hoʻo behaviour ki ho ʻofefine ʻi he fono, pe ko hoʻo hikisia mo e fielahi ʻa ia naʻa ne taʻofi ho foha mei haʻane mali mo e tokotaha naʻa ne fuʻu fie maʻu.

 

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