Isingeniso:

Ngokugunyazwa kuka-Ibn Umar, kwangathi uNkulunkulu angajabula ngabo bobabili, ukuthi umProfethi, sengathi imithandazo kaNkulunkulu nokuthula kube phezu kwakhe, wathi::‏“O besifazane, nikelani izipho futhi nicele intethelelo, ngokuba ngibonile ukuthi nina ningabahlali abaningi esihogweni.”Kusho omunye wabo:Yini esinayo iningi labantu baseSihogweni somlilo?:‏ ‏”Uqalekile, futhi ukungakholelwa kungakholelwa”Wathi:Kuyini ukwehla kwesizathu nakwinkolo?

Khuluma”‏ ‏”Ubufakazi babesifazane ababili nobufakazi bendoda, futhi izinsuku azithandazi”‏ ‏(‏‏(Ilandiswe nguMuslim)‏‏).

Ukuhumusha:

Ibn 'umr (Kwangathi u-Allah angajabula ngawo) kusho:

UMprofethi (ﷺ) kusho, “O Womenfolk! Kufanele unikeze isisa futhi ukhuthale ekufuneni intethelelo ka-Allah ngoba ngibonile (i.e., Ngobusuku be-mehraj kuya emazulwini aphezulu kakhulu) ukuthi abahlali beziqu bangabesifazane.

” Owesifazane phakathi kwabo wathi: “Kungani iningi labahlali besihogo ngabesifazane?” UMprofethi (ﷺ) kuphendula, “Uqalekisa kaningi futhi ungabongi kubayeni bakho. Naphezu kokuntuleka kwakho ngokuhlakanipha nangokwehluleka enkolweni, Uphuca abantu abahlakaniphe kunabo bonke abanobuhlakani babo.

” Phezu kwalokhu, Owesifazane ubuzile: “Kuyini ukusilela ekuhlakanipheni kwethu nasenkolweni yethu?” Yena (ﷺ) kuphendula, “Ukuntula kwakho ukuhlakanipha kungahlulelwa kahle eqinisweni lokuthi ubufakazi babesifazane ababili bulingana nale ndoda eyodwa.

Awunikeli uSalaah (umthandazo) izinsuku ezithile futhi ungazilali (konke) URamadan kwesinye isikhathi, Kungukushoda kwenkolo.”[Muslim].

Inselele yabesifazane ukuba bangene epharadesi:

Kusuka ku-hadees engenhla, Siqonda kahle ukuthi abantu bantu bazoba ngaphezulu ePharadesi kunabesifazane. Ukucaciswa kuphinde kunikezwe. Emhlabeni wanamuhla, Ngisho nezingane zikhona “-ngabongi” Kubhekiswa kubazali. Ngoba abafuni ukulandela “Ukulalela Okungaboni”. eSha Shaa, UAllah uzoxoxa ngokulalela okungaboni esihlokweni sethu esilandelayo.

Kungani singabongi maqondana nomyeni wethu?. Uma kungenjalo ake sibize lokhu kungangibongi njengoba “ubugovu”. Ngokuphambene nalokho, ubugovu bungumuntu, I-Self-Offessed njll. Ake sithathe isibonelo sengilazi yepulasitiki uma nje siyisebenzisa siphonsa ingilazi ibe yi-dustbinbinbinbin. Le yindlela esiphatha ngayo umlingani wethu nathi. Lapho ehola kahle, kuveza imithwalo yezipho esiyihloniphayo, khala yena.

Kepha ngokushesha nje lapho eyeka ukuhola futhi axazulule ekhaya. We do not even care for such a person. If a husband wants to be very faithful and loyal to his work. We do not encourage our spouse.

But we encourage a friend who cheats in his work. Look at him he has a piece of posh furniture and his wife is tremendously trendsetting. She wears the best-branded shoes from Vans but you just bought a slipper from the catwalk.

In so and so informal bash she had an attractive red Caprese bag. The cosmetics are branded too Victoria secret. She goes to a spa thrice in a month and also to the parlour. But you are insane, you do not even care for me.

Noma, take me outside. They do go on a family trip and last month she visited her mother’s house. You have locked me inside this four-chamber wall. I feel like I am a “robot” manje. Ukugijima impilo yomshini.

Le yindlela esibonisa ngayo umyeni wethu. Lapho sima kangaka emyeni wakhe. Pho kungani kufanele sibaqhathanise namanye amadoda? Umyeni womngane angazalwa ngesipuni sesiliva. Ngakho-ke u-posh. Uma umyeni wakho ethembekile ngomsebenzi wakhe futhi avule sekwephuzile ekhaya.May abe umngane wakhe Cheats. Musa ukumelana naye futhi umqhathanise nomngane wakhe. Nokho, izimo zezezimali zendlu yakho kodwa ungamceli ukuba enze “ngokuhamba kwesikhathi”.

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Ngoba uma impilo ilahlekelwe okuthile kulahlekile. Ungaphazamisi ukuthula kwakhe. Uma efuna ukuchitha isikhathi nawe. Ithi i-allhumdullialah futhi ngaleso sikhathi ithule. Uma uphindisela ngesikhathi sakho. Angaqala ukulahlekelwa yintshisekelo yakhe kuwe. Angase futhi abe nomuzwa wokuthi indawo yokusebenza ingcono.

Musa ukugxumela esiphethweni sokuthi umyeni womngane wami ukopela kuphela ngoba ufuna umkayo ajabule. Akunabodade, Leyo ndoda empeleni izama ukuphunyula ePester kankosikazi wayo. Le ndoda ifuna kuphela “ukuthula” futhi ngaphezu kwalokho singasho ukuthi uyindoda ye “ukuzifunela”.

Yini enye engingayenza?

Le yindlela kufanele weqe kanjani ukudalulwa kweShaytan. Okokuqala nokubalulekile, Ungaxhumi impilo yakho nabanye besifazane. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ungaqhathanisi impilo yakho ezweni lanamuhla. Ngoba uma usuqala ukuqhathanisa impilo yakho nomuntu wanamuhla uzowonakaliswa.

Qhathanisa impilo yakho nge 4 Abesifazane Abakhulu Bomhlaba. Khadijah Radiallahu ana kwakunguwesifazane onamabala kakhulu. Wamhlonipha uProfethi uMuhammad Sallahu Alayhi wa sallam njengomama. Ngemuva kweQurashi usayizi futhi waphanga umcebo woMprofethi. Wayevame ukuhamba aqhubeke emhumeni waseHira. Ukwazisa u-Khadijah Rabija Rabija u-Alahu u-Ahangu wayengumuntu omdala.

Noma kunjalo, Uma umprofethi engaphenduki ekhaya. Uzothumela uFathima Raza Allahu anha noma uzokhuphuka emhumeni. Yize ayesegugile kakhulu futhi kwakungamatshe futhi anika umyeni wakhe ukudla. Wayehlala endlini encane. Owesifazane ocebile onjalo wanikela ngengcebo yakhe nobunikazi bakhe. Wake wamukela namazwi kaMprofethi. Kepha wayengakaze abulawe umyeni wakhe. Ingelosi uJibreel yathi izohlonishwa nguAllah ePharadesi.

Ngokolunye uhlangothi, Sine-Aasiya Raza Allahu aha enikela ngokuthembekile, -cebile, Indoda enempilo nenamandla nenkosi uFrawn nge-Isalm. Kepha wagwazwa ngumyeni wakhe. Kusukela kulokhu, Ngeke sisho ukuthi wayengabongi umyeni wakhe. She did the right of accepting Isalm. We shall discuss this in brief in the next topic.

Ekuphetheni, do not be ungrateful towards your husband’s. Because of being ungrateful to your husband Allah will not like you. Most of the divorces start because of ungrateful and they do not patch up easily. Ngokolunye uhlangothi, if your husband is wrong and does not change you have your own rights. If he earns through interest or black market and does not change it is your choice to stay or leave him. Haram is Haram, Halal is Halal.

Jazakallhu Khairan.

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