Yabelana Lokhu
Okunye Okuthunyelwe
Zina (ubufebe) sekuyinsakavukela umchilo wesidwaba emphakathini Wentsha YamaSulumane, futhi amantombazane nabafana abangamaSulumane baye bawela ngokudabukisayo ogibeni lomphakathi waseNtshonalanga. Ungase uzibuze ukuthi kungenzeka kanjani isimo esinjalo lapho iningi labazali abangamaSulumane libeka izingane zabo ngaphansi ‘kwesihluthulelo’. Impendulo iwukuthi nakuba iningi labazali linesandla esiqinile lapho izingane zabo zithinteka khona, abaziniki isikhathi sokukhuluma babachazele ngobucayi beZina. Kunalokho, banikeza iFatwa ye “alikho isoka” lapho amadodakazi abo esethombile. Isenzo esinjalo sifana nokuyalela ingane eneminyaka emibili ukuthi ingathinti indawo yamandla. Ucabanga ukuthi ingane izokwenzani?
Isihloko esilandelayo siqokomisa izindlela esingafundisa ngazo izingane zethu ukuba zigweme lesi senzo esibi.
E-Islam, abukho ubudlelwano bentombi nesoka. Kuphakathi kokuthi ushadile noma awushadile. Yilokhu okufanele sikugxilise ezinganeni zethu zisencane. Akufanele silinde ukuthi beze kithi besebasha bezobuza ngobudlelwano bentombi nesoka. Kulesi sigaba sekwephuzile, noma ngabe sibanqabela ukuba nobudlelwano obunjalo, siqiniseke kangakanani ukuthi bazosilalela uma beshaywa othile? Ngakho, kubalulekile ukuthi sifundise izingane zethu ukuthi isikhathi kuphela lapho intombazane noma umfana angaba nobudlelwano nomuntu ongeyena uMahatma. (ongeyena uMahatma umuntu abangamshada) yilapho sebeshadile! Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma intombazane noma umfana engena ebudlelwaneni bentombi nesoka kusho ukuthi ungena ebudlelwaneni bangaphambi komshado.
Ezingeni lentsha, akufanele sibe namahloni okubafundisa ukuqina kobuhlobo bangaphambi komshado. Kudingeka sibenze baqonde ukuthi ubuhlobo bangaphambi komshado bufana nobudlelwane ngaphandle komshado, noma lokho okuvame ukwaziwa ngokuthi ukuphinga noma ‘ukujola’. Kubhidliza umphakathi ngokonakalisa abantu. Iveza izifiso eziyisisekelo lokho, wake wavunyelwa ukubusa kwamahhala, izobhidliza imindeni. Singacaphuna kubo izibonelo zabantwana abangekho emthethweni nabalahliwe, amakhaya aphukile, ukukhishwa kwezisu, kanye nezifo zocansi – uhlu luyaqhubeka. Kufanele futhi sibakhombise isijeziso sobudlelwane bocansi ngaphandle komshado: Ibn Masoud (r.a.a) walandisa uMprofethi uMuhammad (s.a.w) kusho, “Igazi leMuslim akumele lichithwe ngokusemthethweni ngaphandle kwesinye sezimo ezintathu: umuntu oshadile ophingayo, ukuphila impilo yonke, nalowo oshiya inkolo yakhe alahle umphakathi.” [Bukhari kanye Muslim]. Ngamanye amazwi, oshadile ophingayo makabulawe ngokukhandwa ngamatshe aze afe [Muslim]. Kodwa kuthiwani ngomuntu ongashadile onobudlelwane bobulili? Qiniseka ukuthi lo muntu ngeke angajeziswa – kufanele ashaywe ngobhoko noma abhaxabulwe izikhathi eziyikhulu [Muslim]. NaseKuseni, isijeziso sinzima: uMprofethi (s.a.w) wabona iziphingi, amadoda nabesifazane, kuhhavini wokubhaka esiHogweni somlilo [Bukhari].
Njengamanje ingane yakho ingase ithi ubuhlobo bentombi nesoka akufanele bufinyelele esenzweni socansi; ukuthi bangakwazi ukuzilawula futhi bajabulele ukuba ndawonye. Ukuphikisa lokhu, nithi kuyiqiniso uma intombazane nomfana bendawonye, izifiso zabo zobulili ziyavusa futhi ngaphambi kokuba bazi, bazobe benza izinto ezingavumelekile phakathi kwabantu abangashadile. Isizathu salokhu yingoba uShaytaan uzoba ngumuntu wesithathu phakathi kwabo [U-Ahmad] futhi uyohleba futhi ukulinga kubo okwenqatshelwe. Yingakho i-Islam igwema zonke izindlela eziholela ekonakaleni kwengqondo, umzimba nomphefumulo.
Okunye okumele sibafundise khona wukubamba izifiso zabo. Lokhu singakwenza ngokubanikeza izibonelo zemivuzo ngokwenza kanjalo, njengokuthi umuntu olawula inkanuko yakhe uyoba phakathi kwabantu uAllah Abenzela umusa:
Abu Hurairah (r.a.a) walandisa ukuthi uMprofethi Muhammad (s.a.w) wathi phakathi kwabantu abayisikhombisa uAllah Ayobathunzi emthunzini waKhe ngoSuku (lokwaHlulela) lapho ungekho umthunzi ngaphandle koMthunzi waKhe, yindoda elingwa ngowesifazane omuhle futhi enqaba ukuphendula ngenxa yokwesaba uAllah. [Bukhari kanye Muslim].
Ngezansi kunamaphuzu amaningi okuthi ungayisiza kanjani ingane yakho, esemncane, ukuba msulwa ukuze kuthi lapho esekhulile, angakugwema ukungena ebudlelwaneni bentombi nesoka. Okokuqala, kufanele ukhulume futhi ubachazele lezi zinto besebancane, bese kuthi sebekhulile, uyaqinisekisa ukuthi kuyasetshenziswa.
Kufanele umfundise ukwenza kanjalo:
1. Hhayi ukuxuba ngokukhululekile nabobulili obuhlukile.
2. Hhayi ukubheka abobulili obuhlukile. Lokhu kwenziwa ngokwehlisa noma ukuhlehlisa amehlo abo njengoba uAllah esitshela: “Tshela amakholwa amadoda ukuthi abheke phansi futhi avikele izitho zawo zangasese. Lokho kuhlanzekile kubo. Impela uAllah Uyakwazi abakwenzayo. Futhi tshela amakholwa besifazane ukuthi behlise amehlo abo futhi bavikele izitho zabo zangasese…” [24:30-31] Ngaphezu kwalokho, Umprofethi Muhammad (s.a.w) kusho, “…ungavumeli ukubukeka kwesibili kulandele eyokuqala. Ukubukeka kokuqala kuvunyelwe kuwe kodwa hhayi okwesibili.” [U-Ahmad, Abu Dawood, e-Tirmidhi]. Kusho ukuthini lokhu ukuthi ukubukeka kokuqala kwenzeka ngengozi. Uma lokhu kwenzeka ungabheki okwesibili. Umprofethi Muhammad (s.a.w) wabuye wathi amehlo nawo ayaphinga ngokubuka umuntu ngokumkhanuka. [Bukhari]
3. Okwamantombazane, bafundise ukuthi bangawenzi amazwi abo ahehe noma abe mnandi phambi kwabangeyena uMahram. Lokhu kwenziwa ngokwehlisa izwi hhayi ukudlala ngothando. Njengoba u-Allah etshela amakhosikazi oMprofethi uMuhammad (s.a.w) “…ungabi mnandi kakhulu ekukhulumeni, funa onesifo enhliziyweni yakhe akufise…” [33:32]
4. Okokugcina, bafundise ukugqoka izingubo ezifanele ukuze bangadonseli ukunaka kubo. Leyo, amantombazane kufanele agqoke ama-Hijab nezingubo ezixekethile kuyilapho abafana kufanele bagqoke izingubo ezixegayo, hhayi amajini ampintshayo noma amabhulukwe afakwe isikibha. Kuyadabukisa lokho, kaningi, abazali bavumela izingane zabo ukuthi zigqoke izingubo ezibizwa ngemfashini, ezikhathini eziningi, ungahlangabezani nemfuneko yekhodi yokugqoka yamaSulumane eyamukelekayo. Okufike kudabukisa nakakhulu ukubona omama abangamaSulumane bezimboza kahle behamba namadodakazi abo namadodana abo asebekhulile bengagqokile..
5. Kubalulekile ukuba siqale ukufundisa izingane zethu isidingo sokuba nesizotha, ikakhulukazi phakathi kwabobulili obuhlukile. Mayelana namahloni, kufanele sisebenzise uMprofethi (s.a.w) njengesibonelo: Abu Said Al Khudri (r.a.a) wabika ukuthi uMprofethi (s.a.w) wayenamahloni okwedlula intombi ekamelweni layo. [Bukhari] Uma sifaka lokhu kubo besebancane, Insha’ UNkulunkulu, noma nini lapho beseduze nabobulili obuhlukile, bazozizwa benamahloni futhi, ngakho-ke, ngeke yenze ngokungafanele. Kubalulekile futhi ukuthi sigcine imigudu yokuxhumana ivuliwe nezingane zethu ukuze sikwazi ukukhuluma futhi sizichazele izinto, futhi bangasibuza imibuzo, ngaphandle kokuzizwa unamahloni. Bese, lapho sebekhulile, nangosizo oluvela kithi, bazoqala ukuqonda ukuthi kungani kungeke kube khona into ebizwa ngokuthi 'ubudlelwane bentombi nesoka'.
Yini eholele kulokhu?
Ziningi izizathu ezenza amantombazane afune abafana. Icala lokuqala abazali abakhomba ngalo ngomunwe wokumangalela amahomoni athukuthele entombazane. Lokhu kungase kube yiqiniso kwamanye amantombazane kodwa hhayi wonke. Kunamantombazane anamahomoni avuthayo kodwa akwazi ukuzibamba, bese kuba khona amantombazane angenawo ama-hormone avuthayo kodwa asaphishekela abobulili obuhlukile.
Ngakho-ke, yiziphi ezinye izizathu ezingenzeka zokuziphatha kwentombazane?
Ukucindezela kontanga kukodwa. Lapho bonke abangani bakhe kanye nozakwabo basesikoleni banamasoka, uzizwa ephoqelekile ukulandela isibonelo sakhe. Uma engenalo isoka lakhe kusho ukuthi uzizwa eshiywe dengwane ngenxa yokuthi akakwazi ukuhambisana nemisebenzi yabo yangemva kwesikole futhi akakwazi ukuhlanganyela ezingxoxweni zabo.. Okwenza kube kubi kakhulu ukuthi wonke umuntu uzombona njengo “geek”.
Esinye isizathu ukuthi uma enza umncintiswano wodumo. Uqhudelana namanye amantombazane ekutholeni amasoka amaningi ngangokunokwenzeka ukuze abone ukuthi ubani ozoba indlovukazi yodumo.. Le miqhudelwano iphinde ibe khona ngoba kuyabonakala ukuthi amantombazane adumile anamasoka. Isithukuthezi sivame ukuyisa intombazane ezingalweni zomfana. Ubona ukuphila kwakhe njengento eyisicefe ngakho ufuna injabulo nokujabula nomfana. Noma mhlawumbe ukuzethemba kwakhe kuphansi, ngakho uncike kuye ukuba amenze azizwe efiseleka futhi efunwa.
Esinye isizathu siwukuthi udinga ukuthandwa. Ufuna uthando lwabazali bakhe kodwa akakwazi ukulufinyelela, ngakho-ke, uyifuna kwenye indawo. Okufanayo nalokhu uma ifuna ukunakwa abazali bayo. Uyabadelela ngokufuna isoka ukuze akwazi ukunakwa. Noma yikuphi ukunakwa kwakhe kungcono kunokunganakwa. Umehluko phakathi kwesidingo sothando nesidingo sokunakwa ukuthi owokuqala uyakwenza nje. Uma engayitholi kubazali bakhe uya kwenye indawo. Nakuba lona osanda kuwufuna kubazali bakhe. Kungase kube nezinye izizathu noma izizathu kungaba inhlanganisela yalokhu okungenhla. Nokho, noma ngabe yisiphi isizathu noma izizathu, abazali kudingeka bakubone futhi bakuqonde. Lokhu kulula kunalokho okuzwakalayo njengoba abazali benokuthambekela kokubangela amadodakazi abo ukuba abambezele.
Indlela yokukhuluma nabo?
Lapho abazali bekhuluma, ukunakekelwa kufanele kuthathwe ukuze kungabi nokusola (“Wenze lokhu…”) nokwahlulela (“Unjalo…”), kungenjalo kuzogcina kufana nokuphenywa kwamaphoyisa (“Kungani wena…?”). Lokhu kwenezela kuphela ekwedeleni kwendodakazi yabo. Futhi, ukugcina ukuzethemba kwakhe kuqinile, gwema ukusebenzisa “kufanele”, “ungenzi” kanye nawo wonke amanye amagama amabi. Ukukhuluma ngokuphumelelayo kusho nokwazi ukuthi kufanele ulalele nini. Lokhu akubandakanyi ukuzwa kuphela kodwa nokuqonda. Ukuze uqonde osekushiwo, abazali kudingeka bakucacise (“Ingabe usho…?”), kuvume (“Uzizwe… ngoba…”) futhi uzwelane nayo (“Uzwakala ngempela…”). Lapho osemusha enomuzwa wokuthi abazali bakhe bayamqonda, uzokhuthazwa ukuba athulule isifuba kubo futhi achaze ukuthi kungani enza izinto nokuthi uzizwa kanjani ngakho. Futhi njengoba ngishilo ekuqaleni, ngokuqonda, abazali bazothola isithombe esigcwele futhi bayokwazi-ke ukuthi yisiphi isinyathelo esifanele okufanele basithathe. Futhi, uma abazali befuna ukulalelwa izingane zabo, badinga ukumodela amakhono amahle okulalela. Izingane zivame ukwenza njengoba kwenza abazali kunokuba abazali besho. Ngakho-ke manje isikhathi esihle sokuqala ukuzijwayeza lawa makhono.
Ukungavikeleki
Ukubhekisisa izizathu ezingenhla, abazali bayobona ukuthi imbangela eyinhloko ukuthi intombazane izizwa ingalondekile. Ukuzethemba kwakhe kuphansi ngakho uthembele kumfana ukuthi amenze azizwe ejabule ngaye. Umsuka wokuwela ogibeni lokucindezela kontanga, imincintiswano yodumo, isidingo sokufunwa nokuthandwa, nokuba nokunakwa, ukungazethembi. Uma kunjalo mnike uthando nokunaka akudingayo. Bonisa futhi umtshele ukuthi uyamthanda naphezu kwakhe “kubi” ukuziphatha, nokho aniyikubabekezelela. Mfundise indlela yokuzizwa kahle ngaye nangenkolo yakhe. Yakha ukuzethemba kwakhe ngokuvuma ukuziphatha kwakhe okuhle nezimpumelelo noma imizamo yakhe yokuzuza. (nokungagxili ekuhlulekeni). Mnikeze imisebenzi eyinselele nemisebenzi eshukumisayo. Lokhu kuyasebenza nasendodakazini ebhorekile.
Myise emibuthanweni nasemakamu yamaSulumane yentsha. Mkhuthaze ukuthi enze abangani abasha abangamaSulumane. Ngokuqondene nalowo onama-hormone avuthayo ongakwazi ukuzibamba, mbuze ukuthi angathanda yini ukushada (kodwa ungamphoqi).
Impela, mkhumbuze ukuthi ubuhlobo bentombi nesoka obungenakuvunyelwa futhi bumfundise (futhi) mayelana nesimo se-Islam mayelana nalokhu. Okokugcina, mnike izibonelo zamaMuslim kuye. Izindaba ezimayelana nalabo besifazane abaqapha ubumsulwa babo nokuzinikela kwabo bayavuzwa ngokwenza lokho. Maryam, unina womprofethi u-Esa (a.s), yisibonelo esisodwa esihle.
Ungakhohlwa ngabafana
Esenakekele indodakazi, Manje ngizogxila endodaneni. Kuyaxaka ukuthi abazali benza sengathi kukhona ukufa emndenini lapho indodakazi yabo ihileleka ebudlelwaneni bentombi nesoka.. Kodwa uma kuyindodana esesimweni esifanayo noma esibi kakhulu, abazali abafanayo banganakile,. unomuzwa wokuthi umfana udinga ukuba nokuhlangenwe nakho futhi azijabulele kuqala ngaphambi kokuba azinze futhi ashade. Kube sengathi indodakazi iyodwa ethwele udumo lomndeni.
Udumo ludinga ukwabiwa ngokulinganayo emkhayeni uma luzogcinwa lunjalo. Lokhu kusho ubaba, umama, indodana nendodakazi kumelwe iqaphe okwabo udumo. Uma ubaba noma umama elahlekelwa ukuhlonishwa kwakhe basuke behlinzeka ngesibonelo ezinganeni zabo. Futhi uma indodana ilahlekelwa udumo futhi ingajeziswa, indodakazi izokubona lokhu njengesenzo sobuzenzisi futhi ngenxa yalokho ihlubuke.. Ukuze noma yisiphi isenzo sokulamula sisebenze endodakazini, abazali kufanele bangaguquki nasendodaneni yabo. Bheka izizathu ezenza amantombazane ajahe abafana bese abazali bezobona ukuthi yibo labo abafaka abafana ezandleni zamantombazane..
Umthombo: isithasiselo
asalam alikum,
I m fahad khan single ,Mnumzane angifuni ukwazi nge-mesterbust(umkhuba wezandla)….ngokwe islam..plz ngiphe impendulo
Assalaamu alaikum Mr. Fahad , bengisanda kufunda lesi sihloko futhi ngafikelwa wumbuzo wakho , e-Islam , ukushaya indlwabu , okuwumkhuba wezandla , noma usebenzise noma yini ukuzithokozisa , iyi-haraam futhi ibalwa njenge-zina , sengathi u-Allah angasisiza siqhelelane nakho.
Asalam o alakum Mr. U-Ibrahim
Sicela ucaphune noma yisiphi isithenjwa esivumelekile salokhu?
Angizange ngikuthole kwenye indawo lapho lokho kusebenza kwezandla kufana ne-zinna noma kuyi-haram.
Ngiyabonga kusengaphambili.
asalam alekum Adnaan bhai
ngicela ubheke lesi sixhumanisi
Uzothola impendulo yakho
http://www.4-men.org/overmasturbation.html
Iluphi uhlobo lwemininingwane yewebhu eshicilelwe??? njengesizinda esibi….nikeza isayithi elivumelekile.
BarakAllah
Mfowethu Othandekayo
Umbuzo wayo oyisisekelo. Kufanele wazi ukuthi inkolo yamaSulumane iyinkolo yemvelo futhi ukuba yiMuslim sidinga kuphela ukuya ezindleleni ezifanele. Esikushaya indiva sonke ngalolu daba wukuthi umphakathi wethu noma abazali abanikezi izindlela ezifanele (umshado) futhi noma singazama thina uqobo zidala izithiyo. Ngenxa yalokho siphoqeleka ukuthi sibheke izindlela ezingalungile. Ukushaya indlwabu yiyona elula ngakho iningi lethu likhetha lokho. U-Allah ubeke isifiso esikhulu sobulili kubantu ukuze inqubo yokuzala komuntu iqhubeke futhi yingakho uMprofethi wethu (PBUH) beka ingcindezi enkulu emishadweni. Ngakho-ke iseluleko sami kuwe ngesokuthi bheka unkosikazi olungile futhi uhambe endleleni efanele. Isazi sethu naso siyalishaya indiva leli qiniso futhi babhala izihloko ezinkulu njengalena engenhla kodwa azisho indlela yomprofethi okukhulunywa ngayo kuhadith.
Muslim :: Bhukha 8 : Hadith 3233
U-Abdullah (b. UMas’ud) (UAllah ajabule ngaye) wabika ukuthi isiThunywa sikaAllah (ukuthula makube kuye) wathi kithi: 0 izinsizwa, labo phakathi kwenu abakwazi ukondla umfazi kufanele bashade, ngoba libamba amehlo (ekubukeni okubi) futhi ivikela umuntu ekuziphatheni okubi; kodwa lowo ongeke akwazi ukukukhokhela kufanele akugcine ngokushesha ngoba kuyindlela yokulawula isifiso sobulili.
Muslim :: Bhukha 8 : Hadith 3240
UJabir wabika ukuthi isiThunywa sikaAllah (ukuthula makube kuye) wabona owesifazane, wasefika kumkakhe, Zainab, njengoba wayeshuka isikhumba futhi elala naye. Wabe eseya kuBangani bakhe wababikela: Owesifazane uyathuthuka futhi athathe umhlalaphansi esesimweni sikadeveli, ngakho uma omunye wenu ebona owesifazane, kufanele eze kumkakhe, ngoba lokho kuyosusa lokho akuzwa enhliziyweni yakhe.
Ngethemba ukuthi u-Allah uzokwenza kube lula ngathi ukuhamba endleleni efanele.
Kungani sonke lesi sihloko sigxile emantombazaneni, nini, Empeleni, abafana yibona abenza umnyakazo wokuqala futhi bangene ebudlelwaneni kaningi?
I-athikili bekufanele ibhalwe ngakho kokubili.
Assalaamu alaikum sister Maryam , angizange ngibhale lesi sihloko nganoma iyiphi indlela engangiyifunda nje , ngempela abafana yibona abathinteka kakhulu kulolu hlobo lwesenzo futhi yibona abavamise ukudukisa amantombazane ezenzweni ezimbi kanje. , umbhali ukubeke kwacaca emshweni wokugcina ukuthi konke abakubhala ngokuvikela amantombazane kuyasebenza nakubafana , sengathi u-Allah angasihola sonke futhi asivimbele ekuweleni ezonweni.
I think sisi mariam uyazenzisa abafana and girls are both responsible. awukwazi ukuvele ubeke icala ngokuthi abafana yibona abathatha isinyathelo sokuqala. ngikubonile kokubili kwenzeka futhi ungavumeli umdlalo wecala, uma silandela inkolo yethu ngendlela efanele njengokusho kwequran kanye neSunnah, lezi zikhundla akufanele zivele.
okokuqala amantombazane amahle, kuwukuthambekela kokubuka owesifazane omuhle. ngisho nabesifazane banomona ngobuhle bomunye wesifazane, lokho akuvamile ukwenzeka phakathi kwabesilisa. ngisho nangokusho lokhu, angisho ukuthi amantombazane kufanele aziphathe ngendlela efanele, abafana futhi kimi benziwe bafaneleka ngokulinganayo
Akazenzisi. Isihloko esithi masha Allah ushaya ibhola ngaphandle kwepaki, kodwa igxile kodade (njengenjwayelo), nge “p.s. bheka nabafana” uhlobo lwesiphetho. LOL Ngicabanga ukuthi ezinye izinto azishintshi.
lol @ Sakeena amandla okubona ukuthi ubani onecala
yebo. lokhu kuyiqiniso kakhulu. idemoni owesifazane. amadoda akhohliwe into eyodwa kudala, into eyodwa enika owesifazane amandla ngaphezu kwakho konke. sibuthakathaka emandleni, iqiniso. kodwa yithina esidala ukuphila. futhi ngempela yithina esinikela ipharadesi emhlabeni kumuntu. kuphi futhi lapho umuntu ethola khona ukukhohlwa, kunasezingalweni zowesifazane? ngakho basenza sibe babi, ngoba uba sibi, kufanele sizithobe. wonke umuntu oneqiniso naye uyazi ngokuqinisekile izifiso zakhe zobulili, ngingasho ukuthi amadoda acabanga ngocansi angazi ukuthi kangaki ihora ngalinye? bangaki bethu besifazane abenza lokhu?? akukho.
Esikhundleni sokulwa singabafana namantombazane… Kungcono sizilungise. Ngicela siluyeke lolu Ucansi(Ubulili) izimpi. Cabanga njengeMuslim.
U-Assalamu alaykum udadewabo u-Andreea, ngicela uqaphele okushoyo. Abesifazane abadali ukuphila futhi abanikezi ipharadesi. U-Allah Subhana wa ta'ala uhlinzeka ngalezi zindlela.
UAllah Wazi kakhulu.
Dadewethu, lesi sihloko sibhalwe ngazo zombili, futhi lize libonise indlela abazali abaningi abangaba ukuzenzisa ngayo futhi bavumele umfana ashibilike ngezenzo zakhe. Umbhali walesi sihloko uvele wakhetha ukubhala ngamantombazane kuqala, ngakho-ke uma sebechaza ngomfana bakubeka kwacaca ukuthi imithetho efanayo iyasebenza nakubafana. Asikho isidingo sokubhala kabusha sonke isihloko somfana lapho kwase kwenziwa entombazaneni kuqala. Okufanele bakwenze nje ukusho ukuthi konke kusebenza kanjani nakumfana. Ngikholwe, wonke umuntu uyavuma ukuthi umfana cishe wenza inah kaningi.
Ngiyazi ukuthi lesi sihloko sisebenza kukho kokubili, futhi ngiyazi ukuthi impendulo yami izofika ngemva kwesikhathi, kodwa ngithanda ukusho ukuthi uqinisile. Lesi sihloko siqondiswe ngokulinganayo kubo bobabili abafana namantombazane. Ngenxa yalokhu, Ngiyazibuza ukuthi kungani kufanele bahlukanise imithetho yabafana namantombazane uma imithetho ifana ngempela.
Yilokho kuphela. Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh =)
Ngivuma ngokuphelele.. lokhu kubhala kuchemile kancane… futhi igxile ekuzithibeni okwengeziwe kwamantombazane… ukulingana kuyindlela yokuya phambili..
Lesi sihloko sibheke ohlangothini olulodwa ngokuqinisekile. Ukubeka lonke icala entombazaneni futhi unikeze izigaba ezimbili ezikhuluma ne “ethukuthele” amahomoni wesilisa alulaza kakhulu kubantu besifazane cishe akukholakali. Yisho ukuthi ufuna kanjani, iyini futhi leyo wuhlelo lokwehliswa kwesithunzi sabesifazane.
Isihloko esihle futhi siyiqiniso.
kuyisifundo esihle kakhulu njengoba ngingumama wamadodakazi amabili futhi ngiyazi manje ukuthi ngiwafundisa kanjani amadodakazi ami kanye nosisi umaryam lesi isifundo sabo bobabili
Isihloko esihle ngempela ….Kwangathi u-Allah Angabonisa wonke umuntu1 Indlela Elungile
AAMEEN…..
Impela sicela uAllah ukuthi asihole endleleni eyiyo,lokhu kuzwakala kujwayelekile entsheni eningi yanamuhla kuhlanganise nami kodwa kusiholela ejahannama,ooohh!thanx ngokukhathazeka ukunqanda lokhu,sengathi u-Allah Angayenza iphumelele.
I-MA iyindatshana ye-vry nyce. Ngingu 14 intombazane endala eyayizibuza kaningi ngalokhu. Umama noma ubaba babengakwazi ukunginika isikhathi esiningi kodwa kwakungelona iphutha labo futhi ngakubona lokho. Ngangazi ukuthi umama ungithanda ngenhliziyo yonke. An nakuba singakaze sibe nalezi talk abt boys n stuff, Ngaqonda ukuthi kwakungalungile. Ngicabanga ukuthi uthando lukamama olwangenza ngenqaba izilingo. Ezikhathini eziningi ngangilingeka kakhulu kodwa MA ngangivele ngicabange ngabazali bami, inkolo yami kanye nesibongo sami futhi ngingasho ‘ Cha ngingathanda ukuba abangani'. Nokho, Ngenza izinto futhi ngikhulume kahle nabafana futhi singabangane abahle kodwa ngiyaqikelela ukuthi anginike umqondo ongalungile. Akubona abanye abantu kuphela okwenza ngenqaba. Kwaba futhi ukuthi ngangicabanga ukuthi angeke ngithande ukuba nomfana okungenzeka ukuthi wayenamanye amantombazane. Ekugcineni singabomuntu oyedwa futhi yini esingayenza uma izinto zethu ezidlule zibuya futhi zisihlupha. Ukuba nesikhathi esidlule esihlanzekile kungadala kuphela ubudlelwano obumsulwa nobuyiqiniso kanye ‘neluv yeqiniso’. Eyomuntu oyedwa kuphela. Ngicabanga ukuthi naphezu kokuba abazali bethonya;kuyindlela yengane yokucabanga kanjalo.
LOL ngenze iposi elide!
Masha Allah! Kuyangimangaza ukuthi intombazane encane njengawe ingacabanga indlela enhle kangaka yokuzivikela ekwenzeni uZinah. Ngivumelana nawe ukuthi kuyisinqumo somuntu ukungena kuso, kodwa akufanele simkhohlwe umdali wethu, ngoba nguye yedwa okwaziyo ukusivimbela ekwenzeni izinto ezinjalo, njengokuzibandakanya ebudlelwaneni bentombi nesoka, okuyikho okusiholela eZinah.. Kwangathi uAllah (I-SWT) ube ngumqondisi wethu… Ameen!!
Ishiwo kahle intombazane encane njengawe. ngokusobala abazali bakho bakha kuwe isisekelo esiqine kakhulu sokholo nokwesaba uNkulunkulu, uthando nokuhlonipha abazali kanye nawe uqobo, ukuqonda okujulile kokulungile nokungalungile kanye nesiyalo esiqinile. MashaAllaah… Kwangathi u-Allah uMninimandla onke , umhlahlandlela ongcono kakhulu kanye noMvikeli kuphela okuvikela futhi akuqondise njalo…. InshaAllah…
Nginguye 20, futhi nginosisi omdala. Ngesinye isikhathi lapho umama ehlala phansi naye ukuze baxoxe ngalolu hlobo lobuhlobo, naye wangihlalisa phansi ngilalele, Ngangimane ngibe 7/8 ngenkathi ekhona 11/12. Kufanele ngisho, ukuthi nakuba ngangingakuqondi okuningi kwakho, kwanginikeza isisekelo sokukhuluma nomama ngakho kusukela ngaleso sikhathi uma kudingeka. Kungisizile futhi ngifisa inshallah ukuthi abanye omama bazimisele ukukhuluma isikhathi sokukhuluma ngakho nezingane zabo futhi bangadlali umdlalo wokusola..
Ngoba kuleya nkulumo eyodwa ngayithola, noma ngabe ngangimthanda kangakanani umfana NGEKE ngisondele kuye ngaphandle nje komngane, noma ngaphansi kwalokho. Kuhlale kunezwi ngaphakathi ekhanda lami elingikhumbuza zonke izinto umama angitshela ukuthi zizokwenzeka uma ngingena ebudlelwaneni.. Futhi phakathi neminyaka yokuphila kwami kwentsha, amazwi kamama aba yiqiniso kwabanye babangane bami ababengabalaleli abazali babo. Ngifisela abafowethu nodadewethu, uma bengakwazi ukulalela iseluleko sabazali babo, ukuthatha igxathu eliya emuva futhi ngibabhekisise ngokujulile nxazonke zabo. Lobo hlobo lobudlelwano luzolimaza wena kuphela noma umuntu omthandayo ekugcineni, ngakho-ke kungcono kakhulu ukungahlali.
Uxolo ngokuphawula OKUDE.
kuwe, ngivumelana nawe kukho konke nakuba ngina 12 kuphela,abazali bami abacabangi ukuthi nginemizwa kodwa ngiyabathanda laba bafana ababili abangamaSulumane kodwa angifuni ukubathanda omunye wabo ulokhu engihlupha futhi akayeki ukukhuluma nami futhi uyangiheha kodwa ngizama kanzima. hhayi ukulalela kodwa angikwazi nje ukuthi lokhu akuyona isayithi leseluleko sobudlelwane, kodwa uma kukhona onganginikeza iseluleko sokuthi ngingazivikela kanjani ekungeneni ogibeni lukashaytan futhi ngiyeke ukuthanda labafana, kungaba kuhle.ngiyabonga Alhamdulillah.
Assalaamu alaikum sister sabrina ngingu 14 mfana omdala and my personal advice uthi nje awukho intressed lento izomthena amandla umfana futhi ayeke ukukuhlupha nami ngicabanga ukuthi uzame ukuqhelelana naye ukuze anciphe amathuba okukhuluma nawe ngiyathemba isizile. ps. ungazama ukusho noma yini ukumdikibalisa ekuzameni ukukubuza.
phendula uma usuyizamile ukuze ngibone ukuthi ikusebenzele kanjani
Salaam!
Usisi Sabrina,
ngikushayela ihlombe ngentshisekelo yakho yokusondela enkolweni, nokwazi ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi wenza okungalungile futhi ufuna isiqondiso esithile ukuze le mizwa ihambe. into ebuhlungu, singabantu. ezikhangayo, okuthandwayo, uthando, amachoboza, konke lokhu kuzokwenzeka, KUPHELA LAPHO SIKUVUMELA KWENZEKE. uma sigwema ukwenza ubungane nabafana, gwema ukugqoka ukuze ubambe ukunaka kwabafana, futhi ugweme ukuba phakathi kwabangane abanamasoka noma abafana abaxoxayo, khona-ke uzoba sezandleni ezinhle. kufanele futhi wandise isikhathi sakho somkhuleko kanye nesikhathi se-dikr no-Allah, Angakusiza KAKHULU! Inshallah uzoqondiswa futhi uzogwema noma yini engaphezu kwalokhu onakho manje.
Ngadlula kulokho. Iseluleko sami esihle ukuthi ubhekane nezinsizwa ngomoya ophansi futhi ubatshele ukuthi ngicela bakushiye wedwa, ngephimbo elibucayi ezwini lakho. Uma lokho kungasebenzi, zama ngakho konke okusemandleni ukuthi uhlale nentombi oyethembayo(s) ongeke akushiye uma umfana ekhona (ngoba uma umfana nentombazane bendawonye, u-shaytaan wenza umuntu wesithathu). Lokhu kuzosiza ukuvikela umfana, futhi uyoba nosizo lomngane wakho ukuze amenze ahambe.
Ngethemba ukuthi lokhu kuzokusiza inshallah. 🙂
Isihloko esihle kakhulu………..Kwangathi u-Allah Angabonisa indlela efanele….
Assalam o alikum
igama lami ngingu-M. Wajid. ngifuna ukubuza ukuthi umfana nentombazane abathembisene umshado bangaxoxa bodwa uma bekhuluma nge-islam.ngisho ukuthi abanabo ubudlelwano bocansi noma yiziphi izenzo ezimbi njengokuqoma nokunye. ngoba kwesinye isikhathi bangase babe nesithukuthezi futhi afune ukukhuluma nosondelene naye. kuvunyelwe noma cha? ukukhuluma ocingweni r internet futhi ukukhuluma nge imikhawulo.
mfowethu akuvumelekile ku-islam ungazenzi isilima.ushaytan may trap u anytime nobabili r non-mahram komunye nomunye kuze kuqedwe isivumelwano somshado then ungakhuluma naye ufune umvuzo wenkosi yakho (UNKULUNKULU) don;Ukuzingcolisa ezintweni ezinjalo zama ukuzenza ube matasa ezintweni eziwusizo njengokukhumbula ama-ayats,dua njll
yebo mfowethu ngiyayenza kodwa ngiye ngizame ukumfaka endleleni ekahle.umbuze mayelana nesalah njalo,funda i-quran engcwele. asikho ezweni elilodwa. futhi u-Alhumdulillah ngibala i-quran engcwele nsuku zonke. inhliziyo yami ngezinye izikhathi ayingivumeli ukwenza lokhu kodwa ngimqondisa kakhulu mayelana ne-islam.ingabe kubi???yebo ngiyazi ukuthi akuvumelekile kodwa ezinye izinto zincike emicabangweni nasezinjongweni. U-Alhumdulillah useshintshile kakhulu kunakuqala. futhi angizange ngimthinte ngaphambili noma ngimbone ngamehlo amabi. futhi ngifuna ukumshintsha kakhulu njengeMuslimah eliphelele.
mfowethu ingxabano iyize ngoba u r not getting or trying to giveup this relationship,y ufuna ukufunda i-deen ngemithombo emibi efana nokuba yedwa noma ukuxoxa njll,there are lot of sources through she can learn deen amcele ukuthi ahlanganyele nenkampani yabesifazane noma amantombazane azinikele ngokwenkolo futhi ngiyethemba ukuthi lokhu kuzosebenza INSHA'ALLAH uma inhloso yakhe yokufunda i-deen imsulwa..
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Bafowethu nodadewethu abathandekayo, lesi sihloko sikhuluma ngokucacile ngathi ukuze sibone ukuthi siyaphi ngempela. Zama ukuqonda ukuthi lesi sihloko asigxili emantombazaneni kuphela kodwa nabafana. ukubukela iqiniso lamanje kanye nezibalo amantombazane avame ukuhileleka ezenzweni ezinjalo futhi abafana bahlala bebuthakathaka kulokhu futhi ekugcineni bobabili bagcina ngokufana benza i-zinah isono esikhulu kakhulu.. Sicela uzame ukuqonda njengoba abafana namantombazane kudingeka bambuke / futhi enze lokho okushiwo yi-Islam. Ngiyanicela nonke ukuthi ningasishintshi isihloko sibe umdlalo wokusolana. Wonke umuntu uyamazi / yena ungcono kunanoma ubani omunye. Ngakho-ke ziqaphe eduze futhi uzame ukugxila ekushumayeleni i-Islam. Kwangathi u-Allah angasibusisa futhi asibonise indlela efanele. Ameen. UAllah O Akbar.
Ngiyaxolisa, yini eyenza “abafana baba buthaka kulokhu” kusho?? ingabe ziyathethelelwa futhi ziyathethelelwa, kwesokudla?? “kahle, babuthakathaka kunjalo, ake sidlule nje. kodwa yena, uyena okumele asolwe, kufanele aqine futhi aqaphe udumo lwakhe” bla bla ngithi. Amadoda ayinhloko yomndeni, kwesokudla?? kahle, kumele ngimamukele kanjani umuntu wami ukuthi abe yinhloko yami ngimethembe, uma ebuthakathaka kunami?? lokhu akuyona imfundiso yenkolo yethu?? Kubusa amadoda. kahle, uma befuna ukubusa, kufanele bakhombise ukuthi bayakwazi lokho.
Asalamu alakum ,
Le yindawo ka Sabrina. Ithi mashaala amasha. kodwa okukhulu engingakutshela khona okwamanje ukumesaba u-Allah
Lokhu kwaba ukufunda okuhle. Ngiphuma endaweni yamaSulumane futhi abazali bami bagxilise engqondweni yami ukuthi ukuba sebudlelwaneni akulungile.. Ngisasizwa nokho isidingo sokuba sebudlelwaneni( okungadingeki ukuthi kube neyocansi) ukuthola ukuthi ngingubani futhi ngifunani kumuntu engithandana naye ngaphambi kokuba ngibashade. Okusangixakayo wukuthi umuntu wesifazane uqokwa kanjani ukwenza lokhu.. Ngingathanda ukushada nomuntu engimazi kahle… Ngihlala e-Australia futhi ngazi ngokwesiko ezweni lama-Arab ( lapho ifa lami likhona) lowomshado uhluke kakhulu kunawo wonke umhlaba …. By the way ngivumelana noMariam. Lesi sihloko sisekelwe entombazaneni kuphela. kanti empeleni nguMFANA ojwayele ukuphishekela ubudlelwano nabesifazane noma ‘ yenza isinyathelo sokuqala’
Asalamu alakum,
Lesi kwakuyisihloko esifundisa kakhulu engangikujabulela kakhulu ukusifunda. Ngiyaziqhenya 18 ngonyaka muslim futhi ngathola lolu lwazi luwusizo uma nginezingane. Ngicabanga ukuthi kungamahloni ukuthi isizukulwane esisha sanamuhla asithambekele ekukhathaleleni ngokwenele inkolo yaso noma sinenhlonipho eyanele ukuze singazibambi.. Ukwesaba u-Allah kufanele kuvimbele noma yiliphi i-Muslim leqiniso ekwenzeni noma yini e-haram.
ngikhuthaza wonke umuntu ukuthi abelane ngalokhu nabangani bakhe. Ungakwesabi ukugxeka nokwahlulela kwabo. uyifake ezindongeni zakho, i-imeyili, futhi usakaze Islam ! 🙂
Ahm..angazi noma labo ababhale lokhu bawafundile ngempela ama-comments ethu, kodwa uma wenza: ningabazenzisi. Ngiyaxolisa ukusho lokhu, kodwa lesi sihloko siyihlazo endleleni yamaSulumane yokuphatha ubulili. khuluma 2 amakhasi amayelana ne “amantombazane amabi” kanye nesigaba esisodwa ngabo abafana: “hey, singakhohlwa ngabo ngokuphelele, bakhumbuze kancane, kodwa uma bekhohlwa, kahle, bangabafana futhi babuthakathaka”. funda i-biology anatomy, noma yini oyifunayo futhi uthole amaqiniso anzima okuphila: abesilisa baqala ukuxhumana ngokocansi cishe kuzo zonke izinhlobo zezilwane. kuhlanganise nathi. ngakho-ke kungcono uzilungise kuqala. njengoba sengishilo, ngoba bangamadoda, bangamakhanda ethu, kwesokudla? izinhloko zemindeni, imiphakathi, imam nokunye. Uma bengamakhanda, kufanele benze kanjalo noma behle esihlalweni sobukhosi. Ngeke ngibe nendoda ecasha ngaphansi kwezaba zokuba buthakathaka uma kuziwa ocansini njengenhloko yanoma yini. Ama-Girls afuna ukuthandwa. inkanuko yobulili ikhula kamuva kakhulu ekuphileni. futhi lokho kuyiqiniso. hhayi ukugeza ubuchopho. Ngiphoxekile ngaleli khasi.
U-Andrée … masingasho ukuthi ihlangothi olulodwa. uma singamaSulumane kufanele sivume amaqiniso athile ngoba u-ALLAH S.W.T uyakwazi okusilungele sobabili (abesilisa nabesifazane) Kunezizathu zokuthi kungani imithetho ethile isebenza kwabesilisa hhayi kwabesifazane. ngakho-ke kungcono ukuthi sithuthukise ulwazi lwethu lwe-islamic futhi sithole. AmaSulumane athuthukise ukuma kwabesifazane uma kuqhathaniswa nempilo b4. silinganiswe ngokulinganayo uma singcwele ukwedlula amadoda khona-ke singangena ezulwini b4 nabo. never2 play the gender game cos it doesn't do u gd … uxolo … iseluleko esincane nje sesalukazi
Ubani onendaba uma ingagxili kubafana kakhulu? Isaqondiswe kubo bobabili ubulili futhi yenza KAKHULU umsebenzi omuhle wokusitshela imiyalelo ye-islam. I-Islam yenzelwe amadoda nabesifazane, ungitshela ukuthi amadoda angadakwa kodwa umfazi akakwazi? Ukuthi laba bantu bangabazenzisi baya kude kakhulu, uma kukhona okuthile kufanele ujabule kancane, Nakhoke, isihloko esinikezwe ikakhulukazi abesifazane abafana nawe. Kodwa le mithetho ethile isebenza kuwo wonke umuntu wamaSulumane, kumele sizame ukusondela kuAllah futhi simenzele imihlatshelo, ameen. Isifiso socansi somuntu si…. enamandla kunowesifazane, okumenza abe buthakathaka, kodwa hhayi umuntu obuthakathaka, kodwa angeke “yenza umnyakazo wokuqala” uma OWESIFAZANE engazikhiphi. Amantombazane afuna ukuthandwa? Bathanda futhi kuqala. Amadoda afuna ukuthandwa? Ikakhulukazi bafuna ukuthanda umuntu kuqala, ongafuni ukuthandwa. Kodwa qagelani, I-Islam ithathe izinyathelo zokuphepha kulokho, yingakho sizolinda size sishade, asizame sonke ukuba munye lapha dade, jazakullahukhayr nokuthula makube phezu kwenu.
Dadewethu, angazi ukuthi iyiphi isayensi okhuluma ngayo uma uthi Abafana baqala ukuxhumana ngokocansi cishe kuzo zonke izinhlobo?? uma uthatha i-phylum arthropoda(izinambuzane) ngicabanga ukuthi iphesenti lizohlehla livune abesifazane.
Kodwa yebo ngiyavuma ukuthi lokhu kubhala kuchemile kodwa noma kanjani kuveza umlayezo olungile. Enye into engingayiqondi lapha … Okubhaliwe kusiqondisa ukuthi singazihlanganisi nabobulili obuhlukile noma sihlanganyele… kodwa lapha sixoxa ngokukhululekile nomunye nomunye…. ngicabanga ukuthi kudingeka ukuqonda okwengeziwe ngalesi sihloko (ukusebenzisana) njengoba ngingabaza neze ukuthi ingena ngaphansi kwesigaba 'Haraam'.
Assalamu alaykum bafowethu nodadewethu,
Okokuqala udadewabo Andreea, ulahlekelwa ngokuphelele iphuzu lesihloko. Kwakuwukusifundisa indlela yokuchazela intsha yamaSulumane (owesilisa nowesifazane) mayelana nemiphumela yobudlelwano besoka nentombi nokuthi bungabachaza kanjani ngendlela efanele.
– Njengakumazwana angenhla, Isakhiwo se-athikili sabhalwa ngayo yonke inkolelo-mbono nokusebenza maqondana nowesifazane kwase kubhalwe ngokucacile ukuthi konke okubhaliwe kusebenza kwabesilisa ngokufanayo.. Bekungeke kube nasizathu sokubhala izinto ezifanayo futhi kwabesilisa.
– Ungase uphikise ukuthi kungani umbhali engaqalanga ngokukhuluma nabesilisa. Uyobe uqinisile uma ubuza kanjalo. Angikwazi ukukhulumela umbhali kodwa ngingaphakamisa ukuthi siyazi futhi isayensi iphakamisa ukuthi abantu besifazane bayizidalwa ezithinta imizwa, ngomqondo wokuthi, basabela kakhulu ngemizwa yabo. Lokhu, Ngicabanga ukuthi uzovuma, ayigcini kahle ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ngakho, lokhu kungase kube isizathu sokukhuluma nabesifazane kuqala, futhi angikwazi ukukhulumela umbhali.
– Ukhohlwe i-Islam ibheka abesifazane ezikhundleni eziphezulu kunabesilisa. Umprofethi wethu othandekayo uMuhammad – Sallallahu alaihi wassallum – walwela amalungelo abesifazane. Noma yini namuhla ekhuthaza amadoda kuphela abe yizinhloko zemindeni noma alulaze abesifazane, isiko. Ngakho-ke qonda ukuthi lolo hlobo lokucabanga lubangelwa imvelo labo bantu abebekuyo, akukhona ukuvumelana okujwayelekile.
– Kukhona nabesifazane abahola izizwe, ngicela ucabange ngaphambi kokuthi ukhulume/ubhale. Amazwana akho adlulisa ulimi oluningi oluvusa imizwa oluphakamisa ukuthi nawe ubunomunyu.
– Umfowethu u-Asjad, Angikwazi ukucabanga ngisebenzisana ngenxa ka-Allah kanye ne-Islam ngaphandle kokubukana njengokungalungile. Lowo umbono wami nje, U-Allah wazi kakhulu futhi u-Astagfirullah uma nginephutha.
Ngiyaphinda bafowethu nodadewethu, sicela uzame futhi uqonde ukuthi kungani lesi sihloko sabhalwa. Kwakungabhalelwanga neze ukululaza noma yibuphi ubulili noma ukudumisa omunye kunomunye. Kwakubhalelwe thina ukuba sithathe isifundo sokuthi singaba kanjani amaSulumane angcono futhi sidlulisele lezi zimfundiso entsheni yamaMuslim..
UAllah Wazi kakhulu.
Assalam alaykum.
Sawubona Andreea, Ngiyakuqonda okushoyo kodwa thina mantombazane sinokuningi okukhangayo kunabafana. Futhi ngisho ngokomzimba. Ngenxa yalolu daba, kufanele sizibambe kubantu abafuna isithakazelo kuwe. Ikakhulukazi esemusha. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ebusheni bethu, asazi kahle ukuthi sifunani ngakho akufanele senze a “uthando” isinqumo. Khumbula ukuthi abafana bavamise ukukhangwa kuqala yimpahla yethu. Futhi sikholelwa ukuthi bayasithanda ngenxa yalokho esiyikho. Futhi angisho ukuthi wonke amadoda anjena kodwa empeleni awo amadoda akwenzayo lokhu. Yingakho kufanele siqaphe kakhulu kunowesilisa. Ngithemba ukuthi uzwile.
othandekayo….let 4gt abt grls n boys….jst try ukulalela ukuthi i-qura'an ithini….Isihloko esincanyana sivela ku-allah…ithunyelwe kithi ngoMnu.Ibraheem…noma ubani obhale lokhu…v r ngempela lucky ukufunda lesi sihloko…
Well njengoba amadoda ehlukile ngemvelo futhi enamandla kunabesifazane….ngakho-ke ngokwemvelo izindlela zayo zokuthi amadoda adinga ukulawulwa kakhulu kunabesifazane….futhi yebo kuyiqiniso, kukhona okumele athathe isinyathelo sokuqala…ngakho-ke amadoda ayo kakhulu futhi ngokwemvelo yawo…
kuzo zonke izinhlobo…zonke izinhlobo zesilisa zinhle kuphela kubantu besifazane abahle…
ah, amadoda sengathi azi yonke into, ngisho nalokho okungena ngaphakathi kwekhanda lowesifazane 🙂 awukwenzi, ngiyaxolisa ukuphula ibhamuza lakho. yebo, kuyiqiniso ukuthi sinamandla enyama amancane kunamadoda. kodwa oyedwa wesifazane unamandla kunawo wonke amadoda ehlangene: ukudala ukuphila. futhi yilokhu okwasenza saba usongo ekubuseni kwabantu, futhi yingakho sinamademoni. lokhu akuwona nje u-islam ongenza ngithukuthele 🙁 zonke izinkolo zenza okufanayo: abesifazane babi. kwaqala ngebandla lobuKristu futhi kusaqhubeka. inkolo yethu yinhle. kodwa njengoba ngihlala ngisho: abantu, amadoda nabesifazane ngokufanayo, thatha ngemithetho yemiphakathi bese ukhohlwa ukuthi inkolo isho ukuthini. kahle. uma umuntu ecabanga ukuthi nginephutha, ngizocaphuna iKur’an: hamba uyofunda ngomlando wethu, ikakhulukazi eyenkolo. uzobona ukuthi ngiqinisile.
khumbula u-Andreea ,
ngiwafundile wonke amacomment enu , futhi ngicabanga ukuthi ugula ngengqondo , ngicabanga umfana noma ( abafana ) wenze okuthile nawe futhi usola wonke amadoda ? angicabangi ukuthi nawe uyiMuslim ngakho ngicela uyeke ukusho lawa mazwi…..futhi nesabe ngokuhlushwa nguAllah
Asalamwaliakum bafowethu nodadewethu. Ngokombono wami othobekile ngikholelwa ukuthi into engcono kakhulu ongayenza ukushada izingane zethu zisencane. Izikhathi eziningi sibambeke kakhulu ngamasiko ethu size sikhohlwe ukuthi uRasulullah (SAW) wasitshela, ukuthi abantu abasha kufanele bashade ukuze bagweme isilingo sobudlelwane be-haram. Namuhla sivame ukuba lapha, “Hawu ndodana ungawucabanga kanjani umshado, awunazo iziqu zenkosi yakho, iholo lezibalo eziyisithupha, noma umuzi ungashada kanjani?” URasulullah (SAW) wathi lezi zinto azinandaba, okufanele kubaluleke ukuvuthwa kanye ne-iman. Bazali njengomuntu osemusha kumele ngibaxwayise ngobungozi bokubambezela umshado. Uma uvumela lelolahle lishise liyoshisa kakhulu. Ngicabanga ukuthi into engcono kakhulu ongayenza yilokho okwenziwa abangane bami. Abangane bami babethembisene umshado ngesikhathi umfana eshadile 18 intombazane yayinjalo 14, ngakho bajwayelana kahle futhi ngokushesha bawela omunye komunye. Eminyakeni ka 21 futhi 17 abazali babo babashadisa, kodwa babenemithetho.
1. babezohlala nabazali babo kuze kube yilapho umfana ethola umsebenzi omuhle ozinzile okhokhayo kanye namakhosi akhe.
2. babevunyelwa ukubonana ngezimpelasonto nangamaholide
3. kwakumele bagcine amamaki abo phezulu ngale kwalokho babengeke babonane noma bafonelane baze bakhuphule amamaki abo
4. bengekho abantwana baze baqala ukuhlala ndawonye
Lokhu kwabasebenzela kahle. Umngane wami wavuthwa ngokwengeziwe futhi waba ngumfundi ongcono kakhulu. Wayengumfundi oqondile B ngaphambili, kodwa ngemva komshado wakhe waba u-A. Bobabili babenezindlela ze-halal zokulawula amahomoni abo futhi bahlakulela uthando olujulile ngomunye nomunye. Alhamdulilah bahlala ndawonye manje banezingane ezimbili.
Inshallah uma ngikhulume noma yini enhle ivela kuAllah, futhi uma ngikhulume okuthile okungalungile noma okungekona okuzuzisayo lokho kuyiphutha lami ngedwa.
ahm…ubulima lobu, abesifazane ku 14 intombazane. akufanele uhlanganyele nentombazane, noma a 18 oneminyaka yobudala osengumfana. futhi uma ubashade, kufanele benze noma yini ababona kufanele. kungenjalo kungani ushade nabo nhlobo. bese abazali bephila impilo yezingane zabo. uma lokhu kusebenzela umbhangqwana, akusho ukuthi izosebenzela wonke umuntu. logics.
Kubukeka sengathi kunentukuthelo enkulu ngomphakathi osenhliziyweni yakho futhi lokho kuyiqiniso futhi siphenduke saba amaSulumane avela ezinkolweni ezahlukene.
ngeshwa amanye alawo manga akholelwa ukuthi angeke abe yinsada yithi ngokwesibonelo intombazane kufanele ibuzwe ngenhloso yayo futhi izoshada nomuntu noma cha kodwa okungeyena wethu empeleni ibabuza futhi lokho empeleni akulona i-Islam ivulture nd a lot. kwezinye izinto kodwa uma kuziwa emalungelweni abesilisa nabesifazane besifazane banamalungelo amaningi kakhulu kunabesilisa ngenxa yokuthi abesifazane baba buthakathaka futhi u-Allah akazange enze iphutha lethu futhi u-Islam uyinkolo yababuthakathaka kodwa ukwenza impilo yomshado ibe yinhle kakhulu. imisebenzi eqokiwe amadoda enziwa inhloko yomndeni njengoba ethambekele ekubekezeleni nasekuphumeni esimeni esishubile. ,inhliziyo eqinile futhi yakhelwe ,ukwehla okungcono okwenza amakhono nezinto ezinjalo. Ekugcineni jst wana say u commente ngenhla ukuthi ngenxa yalokhu kucwasa noma amanzi awuyithandi inkolo kahle ur lolu hlobo lwemicabango ngeke lumeke uAllah noma inkolo yakhe kodwa ukuzithiba ngoba sonke sizofa kungase kube ihora ngosuku. noma iminyaka ethile futhi sizovuswa futhi nguAllah uMninimandla onke angeke ukwazi ukubuza u-Allah owake walahlwa e-Jannah futhi wabiza u-satin izinsuku ezisele zokuphila kwakhe futhi u-Allah wamlahla ukuthi uyalazi iqiniso. .. Angicabangi ukuthi umuntu ofuna ukungibulala isitha sami esikhulu kodwa u-Iblis uyisitha sethu esikhulu ngoba efuna simbulale emlilweni wesihogo.(nawoozubillah) ngoba waphonsela inselelo uAllah ukuthi uzosisusa endleleni kaAllah nd uhamba kahle kakhulu ukuthi lemicabango ayifaka ku-ur subconciouse ngebutho lakhe lama-kafir jinns amlalelayo ..PLz mqaphele ngoba mubi kakhulu wethu isitha saso sonke isikhathi.. sengathi u-Allah angasibonisa indlela yoBusisiwe bakhe ..(ameen)
Mashallah. Lesi yisihloko esibaluleke kakhulu. Ungakhathazeki ngokuthi kwethulwa kanjani(umehluko wobulili) kungcono thatha umlayezo esethulweni. Uma ngempela umbhali ebhale lokhu ngenhloso yokulimaza osisi, khona-ke ngokusobala uyobuzwa ngosuku lokwahlulela. Kodwa angicabangi ukuthi ukwenze ngamabomu lokhu. Umlayezo wawucace kakhulu futhi sibone intsha ethile eyayijabule ngokuwuqonda, iphuzu eliyinhloko. I-Inshallah ivumela ithemba futhi sizikhulekele thina nabangane bethu abangamaSulumane emhlabeni wonke, ukuhlala kude nezono ezinjalo.
bavumelana ngephuzu. kodwa kubuhlungu imizwa yami njengomuntu wesifazane nokho. siphathwa ngokungafanele kaningi. kuyaxaka kunaleli phuzu elilodwa lapho kusobala ukuthi izidingo zocansi zikabani zinamandla, kusakhulunywa ngayo kuqala. funda lesi sihloko futhi futhi ubone ukuthi yini ehloselwe abafana ifana ne-P.S., njengokungathi umbhali uzikhumbuze nje ukuthi kukhona amadoda asebudlelwaneni bocansi futhi. ngakho, ngakho abangenabulungisa. angivamile ukucasuka ngalokhu, Mina uqobo ngiyazethemba futhi ngiyazethemba. kodwa ngiyayizonda i-demagogy, ekujuleni kwenhliziyo yami. khuluma kahle nje, akukho zenzo. ptz!
isihloko esihle esiyiso. kuhle kakhulu. ngiyayithanda ngempela. its gud knowledge for us and also fr the new generation. sazi konke abt this article ngoba singamaSulumane . bt manje we cant stop zina and other things. oh ALLAH wami raham phezu kwethu . sifuna ukumisa u-zina . sp pls yonke intsha ukufunda lesi sihloko futhi uyeke izinto ezimbi.
Ngikhuluma nomngani wami kanti uyintombazane,she is just my frend not my girlfrend,ingabe lelo lungelo lokukhuluma naye emithethweni ye-islam?Ungithumelela imiyalezo ye-islamic futhi ngisho nami angimboni empilweni yami ,plz nginike izeluleko ukuthi haram/halal ukwabelana ngomcabango ngokushintshana imiyalezo
Sawubona,
uma ufuna ukumshada futhi uma umthanda kulungile ungakhuluma naye
kodwa uma ungakwenzi,t ufuna ukumshada ke akuvumelekile in islam ukuthi ukhulume naye.
Ngicabanga ukuthi u-Andrea udinga ukufunda izici ezinhle zalo mlayezo ovela kudade u-Sana. Lona umlayezo ojwayelekile. Ngikholwa ukuthi noma ngubani angathatha isifundo esihle kukho. Ngiyavuma kungenzeka ukuthi igxile kwabesifazane kakhulu kunabesilisa kodwa kuyiqiniso elingephikwe ukuthi amadoda alingana noma abophezelekile ekwenzeni izinamba kunabesifazane.. Sicela ungalahlekelwa ukubaluleka kwalo mlayezo. Nginxusa abesilisa nabesifazane ukuthi bafunde isifundo kulesi sihloko. Akekho ophelele futhi akekho owesilisa ongaphezu kowesifazane noma okuphambene nalokho ngaphandle kwezenzo ezinhle nokuzinikela. UMprofethi uMuhammad pbuh wathi, ” into engcono kakhulu indoda ekholwayo engaba nayo owesifazane othembekile” ngakho ngicela nivumele nonke (kokubili amadoda nabesifazane) benzelana ngomusa komunye nomunye. Ngiyabathanda futhi ngiyabahlonipha bonke abantu besifazane (Ugogo, umama, osisi, omalumekazi) empilweni yami ngenhliziyo yami yonke futhi alhamdulillah ngingumuntu ongcono ngenxa yabo.
ukuthula makube kubo bonke abafowethu nodadewethu ekukholweni nasemndenini futhi Kwangathi uNkulunkulu angabusisa le ummah ngokholo oluqinile nokwethembeka.
ungasebenzisi lol … esikhundleni salokho sebenzisa i-soq … smile kuthuleke. yilokho umprofethi wethu uMuhammad (s.a.w) kwenzeka lapho kwenzeka isigameko esihlekisayo noma esijabulisayo . noma kunjalo akwenzeki ukuthi amaSulumane ahleke kakhulu emphakathini ikakhulukazi. iseluleko esincane nje sesalukazi
Funda izindatshana futhi uhlale uphansi…. okungapheli
ukuphawula nokuphikisana kuyindlela kaSathane yokunenza nonke nithembisene umshado… ngisho umphrofethi wethu esimthandayo wathi okhipha izingxabano nakuba eqinisile impela kukhona umvuzo omkhulu ovela kuye… pholani bafo… uma unomuzwa wokuthi lesi sihloko sichemile sinjalo futhi uma ungacabangi ukuthi akunjalo… ungazihluphi nokungiphendula ngoba angikubheki futhi… ungafuni ukuthola ngamaqhinga kaSathane ukuxabana njengabafowethu nodadewethu..
asslam….imisebenzi eminingi eyenziwa ngocingo noma ngomlomo kulobu budlelwano….abafana namantombazane bacabanga ukuthi ama-contects aqondile kuphela komunye nomunye azofakwa ku-zinah….kodwa bayakhohlwa ukuthi ukuze bakhululeke nganoma yimuphi umqondo i.e. amehlo, izindlebe.ulimi.izandla nokunye….kufakwe nakuzinah…iqiniso eliyiqiniso kakhulu lalobu budlelwano….ngicela ungitshele…ngiqinisile lapho ngithi nalokhu kuzinah….futhi ngidinga izinkomba ezisebenzayo.
@Andrea: Lena akuyona indawo yokukhipha intukuthelo yakho yobuwula………ungumuntu oxakayo nje……..uma unenkinga ngezimpilo zakho, bese uzama ukuyixazulula…….esikhundleni sokusola lesi sihloko noma umbhali wendatshana noma abantu abalapha………Lesi sihloko sihloselwe ukufundisa………futhi uma unegqubu elingaka kubafana…..zama ukuyikhipha……….esikhundleni se-flamin kubafundi balesi sihloko………ngiyazi akuwona umsebenzi wami lona…….kodwa lapho lesi sihloko sifundwa……..kusukela phansi……..ikhombisa into eyodwa…… U-Andrea umthakathi ungixolele ngalokho kodwa ungomunye nje……..Kwangathi u-Allah Angakubusisa ngolwazi oluhle…….
Yebo, abesifazane kufanele bagcine imibono yabo kubo.
..Assalamualaikum…ngingumzali we 3 abantu abadala kanye nami sasike saba basha futhi .futhi kusobala ukuthi nganginesabelo sami esihle sempilo yobusha…ngihlala emphakathini lapho abafana namantombazane banikezwa amathuba alinganayo futhi cishe akunakwenzeka ukuvimbela ukuxutshwa mahhala kwabafana namantombazane.…kodwa namanje okungafunwa kusenzeka…kodwa engikuqaphelile ukuthi indlela eqinisekile engenangqondo iwukuba udale ngokwedlulele
isibopho somndeni esiqinile nothando phakathi komndeni ngokwenza ngokungapheli ama-sunnah kaRasullulah (sallahualaihi wassallam),okungukuthi
1)solah in jemaah
1)bedla ejemaah
2)ukuhamba ngamaholide ndawonye(kwe jema)
3)ukuphumula ndawonye (kwe jema)(kanye uMprofethi walala ngaphansi kwengubo eyodwa nomndeni ka-Ali(r.anhu) kanye noFatimah(ranha) nabo 2 amadodana(r.anhum)
ngoba lezi zenzo zibopha izinhliziyo.
Okulandelayo ubuhle bothando nobugqila obudaliwe..uKUBATHEMBA futhi wenze i-doa ku-Allah ukuthi bayohlala behlonipha uthando lomndeni.
Ungalinge ukhiphele ulaka ezinganeni futhi uhlale ubiza izingane zakho ngamagama athandwa kakhulu ongase uwacabange ngisho sezikhulile ngoba uthando alunaminyaka. Izingane zami ziseyizingane zami noma zingakanani ubudala..
Iphuzu lami likhuphukela ephuzwini elilodwa esihlokweni esingenhla elithi UKUNGAZIPHEPHEKILE…enginomuzwa wokuthi kuyisizathu esiyinhloko nesiwukuphela kwesizathu kanye nesandulela sazo zonke izifo.Ingane ejabule futhi evikelekile ngeke idinge abanye’ uthando kodwa abasenhliziyweni yakhe…futhi lokho kufanele kube uthando luka-ALLAH nomndeni…kodwa uma kungekho enhliziyweni…ngokusobala uShaythan uzoyigcwalisa…WaAllahu'alam
Ake sibheke nje ngale ndlela.. step-by-step…owesifazane usabela othandweni..ngothando…manje ngibhekise othandweni lwabazali bakhe, izingane zakwethu, abangani.
I-Islam ngokwayo iyinkolo yokuthula nothando.
Nokho, inkolo yethu isifundisa ukuthi kuneMigomo echazwe kahle yayo yonke into.
Ngakho…uma kuziwa ekuthandeni umuntu, UNkulunkulu (S.W.T) usinikeza Isithonjana sothando uqobo.. umama…elandelwa ubaba, izingane zakwethu, abangani… Pls ningangitholi kahle…Ngizama nje ukuchaza ubumsulwa bomuzwa obizwa ngokuthi uthando
Uma kukhulunywa ngabobulili obuhlukile, U-Allah S.W.T uye wamisela umuntu oyedwa ngamunye wethu…okumele sikwenze wukuzisindisa kwabanye bese silinda lowo muntu oyedwa… ngokuqinisekile, kuzoba nezinketho eziningi eziza kuwe, ezikulinga ngamaphupho empilo ejabulisayo ndawonye (futhi abanye babo bangase babe qotho)….KODWA!…… bekezela… Yazi ukuthi Umuntu oyedwa u-Allah S.W.T amkhethele Okungcono Kakhulu Uyoba OMUHLE KUWE…. okwamanje…zivikele….zenzele i-dua…funa isiphephelo ekuweleni ezandleni ezingalungile….futhi ubekezele…ngiyazi ukuthi konke lokhu kulula ukukusho kunokukwenza… kodwa Kuzame futhi uthando lwakho ngalowo Muntu Munye luyoba msulwa kakhulu futhi aluhlukaniseki futhi lube olwakhe nakuwe futhi…inshaAllah
UMprofethi (ukuthula kube kuye) kusho: “Akekho ngaphandle kwendoda ehloniphekile ephatha abesifazane ngendlela ehloniphekile, futhi akekho ngaphandle kokungazi ophatha abesifazane ngokuhlazisa.” [Tirmidhi]
Assallam wa alaikum kubo bonke abafowethu nodadewethu..le ndatshana ivele ivelele..mashALLAH…sengathi u-ALLAH angasibusisa asenze silandele indlela elungile futhi sigweme zonke izono..njengoba ngedlula futhi ngifunda ama-comments ngaqaphela izinto eziningi..thina amaSulumane asheshe athole hyper uma othile esho okuthile noma eseluleka okuthile okuhle ukulandela..ngoba sicabanga ukuthi siphakeme kunabanye noma yithina kuphela esihamba kahle..”angikwazi ukuba nephutha, ngiqinisile njalo”..complex..we just advise someone but we don't look ourselves that what we r lacking..how pathetic?? kufanele sibone ukuthi siqotho kangakanani futhi sizinikele kangakanani ku-ALLAH onamandla onke..U-ALLAH uSomandla usho ku-quran ukuthi “Noma ngabe yiliphi ishwa elikwehlelayo, kungenxa yezinto izandla zakho ezizenzileyo, futhi kwabaningi (yazo) Unika intethelelo.-vesi 30-Surah Ash-Shura”..ngakho-ke ngeke sisole omunye umuntu ukuthi nguyena onesibopho..khumbula ukuthi thina r da responsible one..hhayi abafana/amantombazane..sicele ku-ALLAH ukuthi asisindise kuzo zonke izono..kufanele sicele u-ALLAH ngaso sonke isikhathi..funda i-quran engcwele nsuku zonke okungenani ivesi elilodwa emva komkhuleko ngamunye..kangaki phakathi kwethu esithandaza njalo?? neze 1% nami ngiyazihlanganisa..im not criticizing anyone..ngasho konke lokhu nje ukuze ngiqinise ukholo lwami..ngoba uma sishumayela umuntu siba ngowokuqala ama-reactions kuvele kuphendule abanye.…sengathi u-ALLAH agcwalise izinhliziyo zethu ngokwesaba okukhulu..asibusise ngezibusiso zakhe futhi asivuze ngezulu..jazakaALLAH..wassallam
Sawubona dadewethu u-mariam pls gxila entweni uMprofethi uMuhammad (s.a.w) ufuna ukusikhombisa
ungayithathi le ndaba ngobulili
salam alaykum..ngivumelana ngokuphelele nolwandle oluluhlaza, ujemaah nawo wonke umndeni uyindlela. URasulullah (S.A.W) Usishiyele ifa le-sunnah yakhe kanye ne-Qur’an esingayilandela ukuze siqinisekise indlela elungile. ngingumzali wezingane ezindala kanye nentsha. insya allah ngizama ukugxilisa izimiso ezinhle zamaSulumane kubo futhi ngithandazela ukuthi u-Allah abanikeze indlela yeqiniso. izwe elinethonya lasentshonalanga elisizungezile liyimbangela enkulu yokubukela phansi imizamo yethu yokwenza intsha yethu ibe yisibonelo sentsha yamaSulumane n shaitaan uhlale ebheke inyamazane ukuze abe ozakwabo esihogweni somlilo ngakho-ke qaphelani nina basha bamaSulumane laphaya.!
@Andrea,Ngicabanga ukuthi uphatheke kabi kakhulu kulesi sethulo,Ngingathanda ngempela ukukwazi futhi ngiqonde iphuzu lakho kahle ngaphambi kokuthi ngisho noma yini.
Well In Islam UZina uyisono, abakwenzayo, abazali bezingane zabo kufanele babaqondise futhi bavimbele ukuphuma kwabo kanye nezinto ezimbi ukuze bazi indlela elungile okufanele bayilandele.Rasulullah (S.A.W) Usishiyele ifa le-sunnah yakhe kanye ne-Qur’an esingayilandela ukuze siqinisekise indlela elungile. ngingumzali wezingane ezindala kanye nentsha.
ASALAMOALIKUM….
ngifuna ukubuza ukuthi m 17 iminyaka ubudala futhi ngithandana nomfana ……bengifuna ukubuza tht sesihlele ukushada after sm years nd sixoxa online kuphela…..sikhuluma kanye nje becuz we knw this is not good….funa ukubuza ukuthi kwenqatshelwe yini ku-islam…???
Salam aalikoum. Ngicabanga ukuthi eziningi zalezi zinkinga zingaxazululeka uma abazali beqala ukushada nezingane zabo ukuze bagweme ubulili kanye nesono. Njengoba babevame ukwenza. Sakhula saba umphakathi lapho sicabanga ukuthi intsha isencane kakhulu ukuba ingashada, kodwa akuyona ingozi ukuthi imizimba yethu ikhula sisebancane.
Ngingowamanqamu, Ngiyaxolisa, kodwa konke akusondeli. Kukhona okunye okuhlukile?
Kunjalo ha!
Bravo, amaphi amazwi…, umqondo omangalisayo
Umbono othakazelisayo
Le mpendulo, ayinakuqhathaniswa
Ngokuphelele ngiyabelana ngombono wakho. Kungumqondo omuhle kakhulu. Ikulungele ukukweseka.
Ngiyaxolisa, lokho kuphazamisile… Nakimi isimo esifanayo. Ilungele ukusiza.
Futhi kwenzeka kanjalo:)
Futhi, ngempela. Ngakho kwenzeka. Ngena sizoxoxa ngalo mbuzo.
Ngiyavuma, umlayezo omuhle kakhulu
akukho sГ ©, kanye nokusho
Siyabonga kakhulu ngosizo kulo mbuzo.
Jazak'ALLAH wabelana nathi ngolwazi olufundisa kakhulu. ngiyabonga ngalokhu okuthunyelwe ..
Ngicabanga ukuthi amaphutha enziwa. Ngibhalele nge-PM, khuluma.
Ngibonga kakhulu kuwe. Ngibona kakhulu.
Yini bafana & intombazane icabanga ngomlingani wayo ngaphambi kobudlelwane
http://goo.gl/um51w
ngifunde sonke lesi sihloko ngokucophelela iphuzu elithile liwusizo kakhulu wonke abazali kufanele bafunde lesi sihloko okungenani kanye & fundisa lapho ngane
Aowa,
noma ufuna 2 mary wid her even den ur akuvumelekile 2 take its wat i think n understans coz kuqala usathane uzothi u tht its ok 2 thatha bt akekho owaziyo ukuthi wakwenza nini ukuwela umkhawulo futhi awazi ukuthi
Assalamulaikum, ngine qns. Lets say intombazane nejaha bayafeba b4 umshado and the guy left the gal after touchin her sayin that akamthandi.. Ingabe kuyisenzo esibi nakakhulu?
Alsalamu 3aleikum nginombuzo , in islam is kissing angisho ucansi haram ?
..yini enye engingayisho,ngijabule kakhulu ukuthi ikhasi elifana naleli likhona futhi ngithole ithuba lokulifunda,ngiyalibonga iqiniso lokuthi abantu bayamthanda u-sabrina&u-muhammad wafunda futhi wazuza kuleli khasi besebancane,ngifisa ukuthi ngibone,funda noma ngivele ngipheqa ikhasi elifana naleli ngisakhula,noma kunjalo,manje ngina 23years bengizoshada ngonyaka ozayo inshaALLAH,futhi ngikhuluma ‘nomlingani wami’ cishe nsuku zonke futhi cishe akukho lutho esingenalo noma esingakhulumi ngalo,Okuwukuphela kwesizathu sokuthi silinde kuze kube unyaka ozayo yingoba ngifuna ukuba neziqu ngaphambi kokuba ngishade futhi mhlawumbe ngoba umama wami uyesaba ukungikhipha okwamanje.…Angiqiniseki,uma kulungile ukuthi mina nesoka lami sikhuluma ngayo yonke into,asibonani ngokwangempela noma ngekhamera yewebhu?
Jazakallah ngesihloko esihle kangaka…. inshallah aftr reading this atlest girls n boys will get on track vid islam…. inshallah…:)
jazakallah ngesihloko esihle kangaka…. inshallah ngyathemba aftr dis atlest girls n boys vil bazophuma kubudlelwane obunje…..
Uxolo 4 phinda e qns. Ngingakwazi, uma bobabili owesilisa nowesifazane benze ubufebe futhi insizwa ishiya igal ngemva kokuyithinta.. Yenza isenzo esibi kakhulu?
salaam bafowethu nodadewethu!
pls ngitshele ngosizo lokucaphuna namawebhusayithi, uma isibonelo owesifazane / indoda yayiphingile , uyalibona iphutha lakhe, kodwa umhlaba wonke awunalo ulwazi ngakho futhi bafuna ukuphenduka….impela sicacile isijeziso emhlabeni ngokuphinga (esp uma uzibophezele usemshadweni noma unenye into emshadweni), kufanele ikhandwe ngamatshe ize ife…..Ngifunde ezindaweni eziningi ngendlela uNkulunkulu athethelela ngayo, abt umusa waKhe….nokuthi uNkulunkulu usiza kangakanani ekugcineni izimfihlo zomuntu zingadalulwa. Kungenzeka yini ukuthi abantu abanjalo bangayenza i-thauba, uyenqaba ukwenza isono futhi futhi uphila impilo enhle yenkolo?? mhlawumbe wenze ukuzila okwengeziwe ngenxa kaNkulunkulu, imithandazo eyengeziwe ngaphandle kwemihlanu eyimpoqo, siza abampofu, fundisa abanye abazalwane nodade abangamaSulumane ngamaphutha abo…..futhi cela intethelelo kaNkulunkulu? noma kumele aphumele obala avume icala alenzile bese ekhandwa ngamatshe???
Assalam O Alaikum,
Dadewethu othandekayo u-Ameena, sicela ubheke iwebhusayithi elandelayo, ngethemba ukuthi izowuphendula umbuzo wakho:
http://islamqa.com/en/ref/20983
Kwangathi u-Allah s.w.t. usikhulule kubo bonke ububi.
Assalamulekum brother
Ngezwa inkulumo evela kuSheikh mayelana nalesi sihloko (umkhuba wezandla) futhi wathi kuvunyelwe uma ungase uwele ku-zina. Uma ucabanga ukuthi kufanele ngenze ubuhlakani noma ngizokwenza zina, kusho uSheikh wathi kungcono ukuthi wenze ubuciko..
Assalamuleikum.
bengihamba ngale bhulogi futhi engikuphawulile ukuthi lesi sihloko sibe nokuphawula okuningi. sikhuluma nje esihlokweni mayelana nabesifazane kanye bang, bazizwa sengathi baxoshiwe noma bayahlukunyezwa kunokuba bathathe iseluleko kubo, baqala ukulwa.
iphuzu engifuna ukuliveza ukuthi wonke umuntu unomthwalo wemfanelo ngokulinganayo ebudlelwaneni bomfana nentombazane. akusiye umuntu, kodwa umphakathi ngenxa yawo bonke ububi obukhona. Okokuqala, gxeka umphakathi noma umphakathi esiphila kuwo. silahle umqondo we-hijab futhi lokho esinakho a “kubonisa kuvaliwe” i-hijab esebenza kukho kokubili, amadoda nabesifazane. amantombazane awenzi i-hijab efanele kodwa egqoke i-jeans nesikhafu phezu kwayo, nabafana, sebekhohlwe nya ukuthi kumele bakhulise intshebe. okwesibili, umndeni wethu, abangazange bakhathazeke ngokuthi intsha igqokeni ngesikhathi iphuma endlini. okwesithathu, ngokwethu, ngoba siyazi ukuthi yini elungile nengalungile kodwa sisakholelwa kakhulu kithi kunokuba sibe nokholo kuAllah.
inkinga ixhumene. waphuma endlini yakho ngaphandle kwe-hijab (womabili amadoda & abesifazane) umfana ubheka amantombazane, akehlisi amehlo akhe, intombazane nayo iyamthanda ngoba akanantshebe futhi ihamba ngokomphakathi kodwa hhayi nge-sunnah noma izimfundiso ze-islam.. kanye ne-TADA!!!!
i-hijab iyinto engcono kakhulu kokubili amadoda nabesifazane ukuze banqobe izinkinga zamanje ezikhulayo zentsha njengoba kuxoxwe ngenhla. amadoda ngeke azihluphe ngokubheka intombazane nge hijab efanele, futhi abesifazane ngeke bakhangwe i-fuzz ebusweni babafana futhi ngokushesha nje lapho ubona ijazi elide elimnyama, uyazi ukuthi intombazane noma ubona ubuso obungacacile, uyazi ukuthi yindoda futhi kulula ukwehlisa amehlo akho. namuhla, uze wenze scan ngamehlo akho, kunzima kakhulu ukuthola ukuthi insizwa noma intombazane. futhi lesi esinye sezibonakaliso zeqiyamah.
“i-hijab iyinto engcono kakhulu kokubili amadoda nabesifazane ukuze banqobe izinkinga zamanje ezikhulayo zentsha”
Ngiyavuma, amadoda kufanele aqale ukugqoka i-hijab.
Subhan Allah… Ya Allah Sivikele ebubini bukaShaytaan. Londa u-eman wethu futhi usenze sibe phakathi kwezinceku zaKho ezikholwayo. Ya Allah! Sinikeze isibindi sokunqoba izifiso nezifiso zethu ezimbi. Sithethelele amaphutha ethu esikhathi esidlule futhi ubhubhise lawo esihlela ukuwenza esikhathini esizayo Ya Rabbil Alameen. Qinisa i-Eeman yethu futhi usenze sibe phakathi kwezinceku eziXolelwe eYaumul Qiyama ngokusimisa phakathi kwabahlali baseJannah.. Ameen Ya Rabbi.
i-assalamalicum …. lesi sihloko siwusizo kakhulu…..bengifuna ukukubuza mnumzane ukuthi kuvumelekile yini ukuthi intsha ikhethe umlingani wayo yedwa…im 17 yrs old ngahlangana nomfana 1 ngonyaka odlule hez 21 iminyaka ubudala…v bobabili bayathandana futhi bafuna ukushada maduze….amalungu omndeni wakhe akulungele ukukhuluma nabazali bami….kodwa ngiyesaba ukutshela abazali bami ngaye njengoba kuza ngaphansi komshado wothando futhi uma abazali bami bengithatha ngendlela engafanele futhi ngilimale….ngakho-ke ngicela ningicebise ukuthi kufanele ngisondele kanjani kubazali bami ngendlela yokuthi bangalimala futhi basemukele….plz phendula
Lesi sihloko asilona iqiniso ngempela.
Iningi lamaKristu namaJuda linobudlelwano futhi abukho ubulili bangaphambi komshado. Uma umuntu engafuni ukuya ocansini ngaphambi komshado ngeke abe nalo. Futhi lokhu kuhlanganisa abadumile, abantu abasubathi, njengoTim Tebow oyintombi nto naphezu kokuba yisigidigidi esidumile futhi nginezinto eziningi ezingenakubalwa ezivela kwabancane., abesifazane abakhangayo.
Okwesibili. ngempela kulula kanjalo. Uma ungafuni ukuthandana nawe ngeke, bobubili ubulili bunamandla okwenqaba ukunxenxwa, kodwa empeleni angikaze ngimbone owesilisa ejahwa owesifazane ukuze aqome. Uma owesilisa engaphishekeli ngeke nje kube khona ubudlelwano nhlobo. Ngabesilisa abazifunayo, hhayi ngendlela lesi sihloko esibonisa ngayo ukuthi ngabesifazane.
Okwesithathu, kunengozi enkulu ekutsheleni abantu abasha ukuba balahle futhi bakhohlwe izifiso zabo zobulili obuhlukile, bese elinda isikhathi eside. Uzothola ukuthi ngesikhathi sokulinda sesiphelile, lamadoda nabesifazane abasenawo nhlobo isifiso sokushada, futhi uzovele udale izinkinga ezengeziwe ngokuziphoqa. Baqale baphoqe ukuthi bangavumi, khona-ke lapho usuphumelele uzozama ukubuyisela i-genie esibanini ukuze ukhulume.
Ekugcineni, Ngivumelana nomunye wabahlaziyi abangenhla ukuthi umphakathi wesimanje awulungile. Umshado kufanele ube usemncane, futhi ku-Islam akukho “osemusha” noma ubusha. Kukhona ingane noma umuntu omdala kuphela, kanti umuntu omdala uwunoma yimuphi umuntu odlula ekuthombeni. Lo mbono wokuthi umuntu owadlula ekuthombeni usemncane kakhulu uwumbono waseNtshonalanga, futhi ukuyifaka e-Islam kuwubuwula. AmaSulumane aqondiswa nguAllah uqobo, akufanele bathathe isiqondiso esintwini phezu kokuqondisa kukaAllah.
Emphakathini wanamuhla akukho ukuhlukaniswa kowesilisa nowesifazane, ngakho owesilisa ongakwazi ukuxhumana nabesifazane uzoba nenkinga enkulu kulo mhlaba. Uzophumelela kanjani esikoleni? Uzowuthola kanjani ke umsebenzi, futhi ngikhuphukele emsebenzini? Mhlawumbe umphrofethi waziphatha ngendlela enamahloni phakathi kwabesifazane, kodwa lokho ngeke kusebenze kubafana bakithi abangasibo abaprofethi.
Manje ukungena kwami. UZina akakaze abe yingozi yangempela kimi ngoba angithandeki. Ngakho mhlawumbe kubafana abakhangayo kuyindaba enzima kakhulu. Okwabo, nakanjani umshado ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka. Kodwa njengoba ngazi abaningi abangewona amaSulumane, kubonakala sengathi abafana abaningi ababhekwa njengabakhangayo ngakho-ke uZina mancane kakhulu amathuba okuba kwenzeke. Abaningi abayitholi intombi kuze kube maphakathi noma ngasekupheleni kweminyaka yama-20, Ngazi abaningi abaneminyaka engu-30 abasashadile, futhi laba abangewona amaSulumane abasafunayo. Ngicabanga ukuthi bonke abakhangi futhi, kodwa lokhu kungabantu abaningi, futhi mhlawumbe nendodana yakho nayo ayikhangi futhi ngenxa yamaphesenti edlalwayo. Ayikho ingozi yangempela futhi kuyinkinga kakhulu ngenye indlela: ukutholela amadodana ethu ozakwethu kuzoba nzima kakhulu kunokungabatholi muntu.
Lesi sitatimende sichaza ngokucacile ngomphumela wokugcina ongaholela entombazaneni noma kumfana. Ngiyabonga kakhulu ngombhali ngalokhu kuchaza okuhle. Futhi nami ngicabanga endabeni yobudlelwane bomfana nentombazane, kungumthetho ofanayo onikelwe kubo bobabili ubulili. Kwangathi u-Allah Subhanuvathala angasiza kokubili ubulili ukuba bavikeleke.
Lezi nezinye izihloko eziningi ezifana nalezi ngiyamangala utshela intsha ukuthi igweme ubulili obuhlukile. – kodwa awubatsheli ukuthi yini okufanele bayenze ukuze bakhethe umngane womshado.
Umuntu anganquma kanjani ukuthi uzoshada nobani ngokuhlala kude nabo.
Kuyathakazelisa, Sh. U-Hamza Yusuf wake washo kwesinye sezinkulumo zakhe, futhi kwakukudala, kodwa kubonakala kakhulu lapho sifunda izihloko ezinjengalezi – umphakathi wasentshonalanga ulahlekelwe amagama amaningi esiNgisi, enye yalezo 'inkantolo'.
Kuyamangaza ukuthi akekho okhuluma ngokuqoma, futhi kukhulunywa kakhulu ngo-cha-cha ngobudlelwano bentombi nesoka!
Abantu, leyo kwakuyindlela ephakathi. Ngicela ukhulume ngakho. Khuluma nentsha mayelana nokuqomisana – lapho yebo, amadoda nabesifazane kufanele balungele ukuxubana ngaphansi kwemingcele nezimo ezithile – ukuze uma bezwa ukukhangana komunye nomunye BAKWAZI ukusondela komunye nomunye nomndeni womunye nomunye ngendlela esemthethweni.