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Uke ufise ukuthi ufunde ingqondo yomyeni wakho? Isiko laseNtshonalanga likhuthaza amadoda nabafazi ukuthi baxoxe baxoxe ngezinto.
Nokho, emasikweni amaningi amaSulumane, amadoda akhuliswa abe stoic futhi anezindebe eziqinile. Abayeni abangamaSulumane bavame kakhulu (hhayi njalo) benqena ukukhuluma ngezinto ezithile namakhosikazi abo.
Ingxenye yenkinga futhi ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi kunzima ukwenza imicabango yethu ibe amagama alungile.
Okuwukuphela kwento enzima kakhulu kunokuhumusha imicabango emagameni ukuhumusha imizwa emagameni.
Ngakho, amadoda nabesifazane abaningi abangamaSulumane bahamba emishadweni yabo ngokukhulumisana okuncane kakhulu futhi bengazi ngempela ukuthi omunye umuntu ucabangani.
Lolu hlu olusheshayo olodade abangamaSulumane ezilalelini zami. Lolu hlu luzokunikeza umbono omuhle ngezinye zezinto umyeni wakho acabanga ngazo, kodwa angazi kanjani, noma ufuna, ukukutshela.
1. Ngaphezu kwakho konke, Ufisa Inhlonipho Yakho
Ngikhulume ngalokhu esihlokweni sami “Uthando noma Inhlonipho: Yikuphi Okukhethayo?”.
Kulesi sihloko, Ngachaza ukuthi abesifazane bafuna ukwazi abayeni babo bayabathanda, namadoda afuna ukwazi ukuthi omkawo bayawahlonipha.
Kubalulekile ukuthi abesifazane abangamaSulumane baqonde ukubaluleka kokuhlonipha amadoda, ikakhulukazi amadoda Muslim. E-Islam, abesilisa bafundiswa kusukela bebancane ukuthi yibo okumele ngabe yibo abondla kanye nabanakekeli bemindeni yabo.
Ungacabanga ukuthi kungakhungatheka kanjani ngendoda, ozama ngakho konke okusemandleni akhe ukunakekela umndeni wakhe, ukushada nowesifazane ongamhloniphi. Angase athi uyamthanda, kodwa ngaphandle kwenhlonipho yakhe, uzosheshe aphelelwe uthando.
Lo mbono ubekwe phambili eQuran lapho uAllah ethi:
Amadoda aphethe abesifazane ngalokho uAllah Akunike omunye phezu komunye kanye nalokho abakukhipha engcebweni yabo. Ngakho abesifazane abalungile bayalalela ngokuzinikela, ukugada phakathi [umyeni] bengekho lokho uAllah Angathanda ukuba bakugade.
Isahluko 4, Ivesi 34
2. Uyakufisa Ubuqotho Bakho
Lokhu kuhambisana nenhlonipho.Ayikho into ezobhidliza umshado ngokushesha njengokucabanga ukuthi owakwakho akathembekile.. Umqondo, ukuthi ngeke anamathele kuwe.Angikhulumi ngokungethembeki. Yilokhu okuvame ukufika emqondweni lapho abantu bekhuluma ngokwethembeka emshadweni.Engikhuluma ngakho ukwazi ukuthi umuntu omkhethe ukuthi uchithe naye impilo yakho yonke uzobe ekhona lapho ukhona. abadingayo.
Amadoda amaningi ngeke avume, kodwa siyabadinga abantu besifazane. Futhi siyakudinga ukwesekwa kwakho.Futhi kuyakhathaza kakhulu ukushada nowesifazane okungenzeka ukuthi ungekho lapho isimo siba nzima.Uma uhlezi usongela isehlukaniso noma ngokwehlukana noma uKhula (Isehlukaniso samaSulumane esiqalwa unkosikazi), ungalindela ukuthi umshado wakho usheshe uphele.
Umyeni wakho udinga ukwazi ukuthi uzoba seceleni kwakhe uma:
- Uphelelwa umsebenzi nemali iyamqoma.
- Uzama ukwenza okuthile (njengokuqala ibhizinisi noma ukubuyela esikoleni) kodwa uyehluleka kukho.
- Isithunzi sakhe siyangcoliswa noma udumo lwakhe luyahlaselwa.
Kufanele wethembeke kumyeni wakho ngaphambi kwakho konke okunye ngaphandle kukaAllah nesiThunywa saKhe (pbuh).
Uma uthembekile kumyeni wakho, kunokuba uqiniseke ukuthi uzoba qotho kuwe.
3. Ufuna Ukwenza Ucansi Kaningi
Asikuveze obala lokhu.Abanye abantu besifazane bangase bacabange ukuthi amadoda ayizihlukumezi ezihluzekile ngalokhu., kodwa kuyiqiniso.Abesilisa bayalufisa ucansi. Amadoda ayalufisa ngempela ucansi.
Ngakho uma umnika izaba ezilandelayo:
- “Ngiphethwe yikhanda.”
- "Angizizwa kahle."
- “Angikwazi ukulinda kuze kube yimpelasonto? Angikho esimeni ngempela."
Yazi umyeni wakho uzolala ecasukile nawe, noma engakubonisi.Futhi kwenze lokhu kaningi ngokwanele, uzoqala ukukucasukela. Futhi lokho kucasuka kuyokwakha futhi kungase kuholele ekubeni abe mnene ngokungadingekile kuwe noma alahlekelwe uthando oluthile.
Sicela ugcine le hadith elandelayo engqondweni:
Lapho indoda ibiza umkayo embhedeni wayo, futhi angaphenduli futhi yena (umyeni) ulala naye ubusuku bonke, izingelosi ziyamthuka kuze kuse.
Bukhari kanye Muslim.
Kukhona okumele ucabange ngakho.
4. Ucabanga Ngabanye Abesifazane
Kulungile, okokuqala nje, yehlisa umoya. Ungazikhiphi ohlwini lwami lwamakheli okwamanje. Ake ngikuchazele lokhu.
Wonke amadoda acabanga ngabanye abantu besifazane.
- Akusho ukuthi uzokukhohlisa.
- Akusho ukuthi ucabanga ukuthatha unkosikazi wesibili.
- Akusho ukuthi uzicabangela omunye wesifazane.
Kusho nje ukuthi konke (Qondile) amadoda enza, ngesinye isikhathi empilweni yabo, cabanga ukuba nomunye wesifazane (i.e. unkosikazi).
Kungcono ukuthi uvumelane nalokhu futhi ukwamukele kunokuba ube namanga, purile imibono ngamadoda.Indlela engcono kakhulu yokulwa nale micabango ukusebenzisa iseluleko esinikezwe ezimfihlo ezintathu zokuqala:
- Mhloniphe.
- Thembeka kuye.
- Mnike uthando lwenyama lapho ethanda.
Ingabe lokhu kusho ukuthi akasoze athatha unkosikazi wesibili uma wenza lezi zinto ezintathu? Yebo akunjalo.Kodwa kuzophakamisa ukubaluleka kwakho engqondweni yakhe ngokuphathelene nomunye wesifazane futhi uzoba manqikanqika kakhulu ukubheka lezo zinto ezintathu. (inhlonipho, ukwethembeka, kanye nocansi) kwenye indawo.
5. Ufuna Ukukujabulisa
- Ucabanga ukuthi kungani amadoda esebenza kanzima ukuze enze imali?
- Ucabanga ukuthi kungani amadoda ezimisele ukushiya imisebenzi yawo futhi azibeke engcupheni yokuqala ibhizinisi?
- Ucabanga ukuthi kungani amadoda ethanda ukuthengela abesifazane izipho?
Ngoba ekujuleni, ngempela sifuna nje ukukujabulisa.
Kwesinye isikhathi siyayigoqa bese sikhohlwa usuku lwethu lokugubha usuku. Kodwa singathanda ngempela ukukhumbula ngoba siyazi ukuthi kuzokujabulisa.
Ngakho uma umyeni wakho ekuthengela isipho, yemukele, thokozani ngakho, ngimbonge kakhulu, futhi uyisebenzise kaningi ngangokunokwenzeka.
- Uma ekuthengela ubucwebe, yigqoke.
- Uma ekuthengela i-smartphone entsha, sebenzisa.
- Uma ekuthengela imoto, yishayele.
Futhi ungasheshi ukumbamba ngezinto angazenzi kahle. Ngoba uzobe eseqala ukuzwa ukuthi awuhloniphi (kukhona lelo gama futhi) izinto akwenzela zona.
6. Uma Uyamncenga, Angaba UmSulumane Ongcono
Akekho umuntu ongenasici.Mhlawumbe umyeni wakho akasona isifundiswa samaSulumane. Mhlawumbe akayena umSulumane ongcono kakhulu emhlabeni.Ungamgudluza ukuze umenze abe ngcono. Kodwa awukwazi ukumphoqa.
Yenza izinto ezincane ukuze athuthukise i-Islam yakhe.
- Cela ukumvusa ngeSalaatul Fajr.
- Mkhuthaze ukuthi enze iSalaah eMasjid.
- Mtshele ukuthi angabukeka emuhle kangakanani uma ekhulisa intshebe yakhe.
Lokhu kudinga amazwi ngamabomu, ukuthinta okuthambile, kanye nesenzo esicophelelayo. Akekho othanda ukushunyayelwa.Kodwa uma ukwenza kahle lokhu, uzothola umvuzo ophindwe kabili:
Umvuzo oza ngokuhlala nomyeni olungileyo. Nomvuzo empilweni elandelayo wokukhuthaza umyeni wakho eqinisweni.
Ngaphandle kwalabo abakholwayo futhi benza izenzo ezilungile futhi belulekana ngeqiniso futhi belulekana ngokubekezela. 103, Ivesi 3
7. Uyakuthanda, Noma Engabonisi Njalo
ngiyazi, lokhu kungase kube nzima ukukugwinya. Kodwa kuyiqiniso (ngokuvamile).
Amadoda awekho kahle kangako ekuboniseni imizwa (ngaphandle uma sikhuluma ngezemidlalo noma ezombangazwe).
Asibatsheli amakhosikazi ethu ukuthi “ngiyakuthanda” kaningi ngokwanele.
Asiphelele. Futhi njalo usiqhathanisa noMprofethi uMuhammad (pbuh) akusizi.Yebo, kufanele simlingise (pbuh) ngokusemandleni ethu. Futhi iningi lethu, senza konke okusemandleni ethu.
Kodwa ngeke sikwazi ukukuphatha ngendlela efanayo naye (pbuh) ephatha abafazi bakhe. Ngokufanayo, akulungile ukuthi amadoda alindele ukuthi abafazi babo baziphathe njengo-Aisha (PHUMA) labanye abafazi bakhe (PHUMA) wenza.
Ngoba nje umyeni wakho akakuphathi ngendlela (ucabanga kanjalo) uMprofethi (pbuh) ephatha abafazi bakhe, akusho ukuthi umyeni wakho akakuthandi.
Kusho nje ukuthi ungumuntu.Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ukuqonde lokhu.
- Uma enza konke okusemandleni akhe ukukunakekela.
- Uma engakuhlukumezi noma alale.
- Uma ezama ngobuqotho ukuxazulula izinkinga zakho futhi ekusiza ngendlela engcono kakhulu angakwazi ngayo.
- Khona maningi amathuba okuthi uyakuthanda. Kakhulu.
Manje suka phambi kukamabonakude uhambe ungenzele isemishi.
NGIYADLALA!
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jazakAllah khair sis
Sawubona, Isihloko esihle. amaphuzu amahle kakhulu owabalulile lapha. Ngicabanga ukuthi ngokufunda la maphuzu hhayi amaSulumane kuphela kodwa wonke umuntu wesifazane angenza indlela eya enhliziyweni yomyeni wakhe!! 🙂
Bengicabanga into efanayo. IQiniso linjalo, lowo owenza isisindo se-athomu sobubi,uzoyibona. futhi owenza i-athomu yesisindo esihle uyokubona.
ngizwa. Labo abazondayo nabahlulekayo ukuthethelela, bakhe ubumnyama enhliziyweni yabo.
Ukukhathazeka kuyisikhali sikadeveli. Futhi izokulawula uma wehluleka UKULAWULA izifiso zakho.
Pho kwenzekani uma ethola “inhlonipho, ukwethembeka nokunaka ngokomzimba” kumkakhe futhi usafuna unkosikazi cha 2?
@Annie – khona-ke ungumyeni nje ongabongi ONGEKE aneliseke ngisho noma enendlu yonke egcwele abantu besifazane.
Ngeshwa, amadoda amaningi (iningi labesilisa bendabuko, hhayi amadoda enkolo ngempela) sebenzisa lokhu njengezaba zokuba ama-philanderers. Ngoba nje indoda IVUMELEKILE ukuthi ithathe umfazi wesibili, akusho ukuthi kufanele. Ngoba nje owesifazane UVUMELEKILE ukwehlukanisa nomyeni wakhe, akusho ukuthi kufanele. Uma umyeni ethatha umfazi wesibili, unkosikazi unelungelo lokuyihlukanisa. U-Alhamdulillah u-Allah wenze kwaba umdlalo olungile kubo bobabili abesilisa nabesifazane. Kodwa ngenxa yakho konke okuhle kwethu, bizani thula ninakekelane, futhi ungasebenzisi la malungelo adlulele.
ngakho-ke angase athande lowo obonisa inhlonipho enkulu kakhulu. coz its natural, abantu abaningi bathambekele kubantu ababonisa ukukhathalela, inhlonipho njll phezu kwabo. futhi ekupheleni koSuku umkakhe omusha ngeke neze adube isikhundla somfazi wokuqala… Okwamanje, ukugxilisa izimo zengqondo ezinhle kuyisihluthulelo sokuheha ukunaka. Wallahu a'lam.
Khona-ke kuyisifiso sikaNkulunkulu
Manje …..kuyilungelo lakhe ukwenza njalo 2,3 noma 4. Yeka ukuzicabangela wena
U-Annie, Ngiyaqaphela lesi sihloko sangomhla 2017 futhi ubuze umbuzo omuhle. Ngahlangana nendoda eyiSulumane eminyakeni emithathu edlule. Ngingowase America, owomdabu waseMelika noma obizwa ngokuthi i-Red Indian emazweni afana neNdiya. lapho siqala ukukhuluma, Ngimcacisele kahle ngemicabango yami yokujola nendoda eshadile. Waqinisekisa esikhathini esingaphezu kweminyaka emithathu ukuthi akashadile…cha izingane lutho. Kumelwe sinikeze ithuba lokuba sesiteji sethu sobuhlobo bobungane cishe unyaka nesigamu lapho engisebenza naye engithinta, engibuza. Ngamxoxela ukuthi ngisaxhumana nomngani wakhe futhi izinto ziya ngokuba nzima. Impendulo yozakwethu, “akakaze akutshele?” impendulo yami,”ngitshele ini?”…kuphendula osebenza naye, ” useneminyaka emibili eshadile futhi unengane.” Ngabhekana naye waqamba amanga ngokuthi unomfazi nengane. Wangitshela ukuthi lo engangisebenza naye wayenomona ngoba ngimthanda. 6 mos later wangicela ukuthi ngimshade. Ngajabula kakhulu ngoba ngahlangana nalendoda engangicabanga ukuthi ithembekile, ethembekile, othembekile, futhi abaqotho. akubanga njalo 1 Inyanga ngaphambi kokuba sishade, ungiphonsela inselelo, uyangitshela, “Ngishadile, kade 4 yrs manje futhi nginayo 2 izingane,” Qaphela ukuthi besindawonye 3. Uyindoda futhi ekwazi noma yini. Ngambuza, uyafa umkakho uyakuhlonipha?” “Ingabe uthembekile kuwe?” “unayo 2 izingane ngakho ucansi akumele lube yinkinga, pho kungani wakhohlisa?” Unginika izaba ezisobala njengokuthi ngifuna ukwenza okuhlukile. Okubalulekile yilokhu unkosikazi wayemhlonipha. Wayethembekile futhi emjabulisa ngokobulili, kungani wabaleka? Ufuna ngimshade ngibe umfazi wesibili. Nginga? Ngingowesifazane osekhulile ofundile. lokho kungenye into umkakhe ubudala 25 futhi mina 46. Iminyaka yakhe 31. Ngiyazinakekela, uphile kahle ngokomzimba, ezikhangayo nokuba umuntu wasentshonalanga, Angihambisani ne-stereotype yowesifazane waseMelika olula. ngiyakuqaphela ukubukeka kwami nendlela engigqoka ngayo. Lendoda ingayenza kanjani lento kumkakhe futhi kubukeka sengathi iyamhlonipha, uthembekile kuye futhi wamnika injabulo yocansi. Angiqondi.
Yilokho abangeke bakutshele. ‘Ngoba amadoda ahlelwe ukuthi acabange ngabanye abantu besifazane futhi abesifazane kufanele behlise umoya’ futhi ulungiselele isemishi lalabo abashumayela kanje. Amahloni lawa bantu
Kufanele sivule izinhliziyo zethu kuAllah futhi sibe nobubele. I-Quran ithi indoda inelungelo lokuba nayo 4 abafazi, kodwa udinga ukuthanda ngokulinganayo, hlinzeka ngokulinganayo, vikela ngokulinganayo. Ukuzibophezela okungaka. Masibhekane neqiniso, osisi, amadoda awaphelele futhi ayaluthanda ucansi kakhulu kunathi. Uma ifuna unkosikazi wesibili ngoba ifuna omunye ukuya ocansini, uma samukela imvelo yabo, ngakho uzoqhubeka esithanda. Kumele siqonde kwamanye amadoda kunzima ukuzibamba. Futhi uma udade emnika konke, kuwumsebenzi womuntu ukuthi athembeke njalo. Akulungile ukuthola unkosikazi wesibili uma lo nkosikazi wesibili engazi ukuthi ushadile, kanti unkosikazi wokuqala akazi ukuthi ufuna enye. Futhi, unkosikazi wesibili uwumndeni futhi. Angaba umngane ezikhathini ezinzima futhi angaqonda inkosikazi yokuqala. Futhi ungacabangi ukuthi lokhu kuzoba lula endodeni, ukuzibophezela okungaka. Futhi, baningi abesifazane kunabesilisa. Uma abanye bengashadi abafazi abangaphezu koyedwa, abesifazane abaningi kangaka ngeke bashade.
Ngicabanga ukuthi yingakho beya enkolweni ye-islam. Kusewukuphinga. Kuyindlela yokuthi bakholwe ukuthi kulungile. UNkulunkulu wenza u-Adamu no-Eva kuphela, hhayi u-Eva no-Elizabeth.
Ngiyaxolisa kodwa kuzomele ngiphikisane. Umyeni wami oyiSulumane akabonisi uthando noma inhlonipho kimi, ngakho-ke ngeke ngimbonise. Unamagama ayimfihlo ocingweni nasekhompyutheni yakhe futhi akangivumeli ngibone. Nokho uyamemeza futhi uyacasuka uma ngibuza ukuthi kungani. Akasenandaba nokuthandwa. Ngicabanga ukuthi ngizomshiya ngimvumele abuyele ezweni lakubo kwelakubo “Umndeni Wangempela” (engimthanda ngokweqiniso). Angiyena umSulumane, nokho ngiyazihlonipha/ngisekela izinkolelo zakhe kanye nezimfundiso/uthando lukaAllah. Ngikholelwa ngokuqinile ekulinganeni, kodwa qaphela ukuthi amadoda nabesifazane banendima ehlukene emndenini. Ngakho, manje WENA uyasuka phambi kwe-TV ungenzele ISEmishi.
@Paula- So sorry ukuthi kumele ubhekane nakho konke lokhu:(. InshaAllah Allah uzokuvuza ngakho konke ukubekezela nomzamo wakho. Akekho kithi obona ukuthi yini okumele ubhekane nayo noma ukuthi ungakanani umzamo owenziwe ebudlelwaneni bakho, kodwa uAllah Uyakubona konke futhi Uyonivuza ngokufanele inshaAllah. Futhi abenzi bokubi bayothola isijeziso esibafanele. Noma yini onquma ukuyenza (mshiye noma uzame futhi), sengathi u-Allah angakuqondisa endleleni efanele futhi akunike injabulo. Ngifisa sengathi abantu bebengadingi ukuphathwa ngendlela engafanele ebudlelwaneni. Angikashadi kodwa ukuzwa izindaba ezinjengalezi kuyangiqeda amandla ekufuneni ukushada ngomuso. Ngifisa sengathi sonke singaphathana ngenhlonipho futhi sithembeke/ sibe qotho komunye nomunye, esikhundleni sokudlala imidlalo nokuqamba amanga.
Same lapha izikhathi eziningi isikhathi sami siye samoshwa ngenxa yamanga. Ngifuna ukushada futhi ngibe sebuhlotsheni be-halal kodwa kubukeka sengathi amadoda afuna ubungane obunezinzuzo kuphela. Kwangathi u-Allah angasibusisa ngabayeni abahle. Ameen
Hi Abiya
Ngifunde ukuphawula kwakho futhi ngazizwa ngijabule kakhulu.
Sengidivosile kabili. Ngicabanga ukuthi noma ngabe ungakanani umzamo owenzayo kodwa lobu budlelwano obuthile busekelwe esimisweni sakho. Isiphetho u-Allah akubhalele sona kulokhu kuphila
Uvivinyo wayezofaka umuntu ukuze abone ukubekezela kwakhe. Ngicabanga ukuthi yimpilo lena futhi kufanele sihlale sithi Alhamdulliah
I love my first and my second and till date ngiyabakhumbula futhi ngiyabakhalela. Angazi ukuthi konke lokhu kwenzeke kanjani kodwa kwenzekile futhi ngikholwa ukuthi bekungelula kimi.
Emshadweni bobabili abalingani kufanele babambisane. Uma umlingani oyedwa engafuni ukuba kulobu budlelwano akukho okungavimba lowo muntu ekubhidlizeni indlu yakhe.
Kodwa ekugcineni ngingasho ukuthi lokho akusho ukuphela kwempilo. Kungase kube isiqalo sayo esisha sempilo uAllah asazi kakhulu futhi ungumdali noMninimandla onke.
Jazakallah khair
Ngike ngaba sesimweni esifanayo nesikaPaula nami ngimeseka ngokugcwele umyeni wami..wayelawula amaphasiwedi ku-ipad yocingo lwami njll.. NgingowaseCanada kodwa uyenqaba ukudla ukudla kwethu. Wasenza sapheka ukudla kwesintu kuphela. Angathi abakubo abamzalayo futhi ukhula nami ngingowesifazane ashade naye. Nami ngithatha isinqumo sedivosi. Ayingifanele lempatho. Amadoda angamaSulumane awafundiswa ukuphatha unkosikazi ngendlela efanele uma eseshadile unemithwalo yemfanelo emisha
wslm kunjalo iqiniso,lol awukwazi ukushintsha indoda uma ingafuni ukushintsha.Futhi kungani ube umuntu oyisijeziso ekubeni wazi ukuthi kukhona umuntu ozokwazisa ukuthi ungubani.
Uxolo ukuzwa ukuthi umyeni wakho wenzani kodwa ngikholwe ukuthi wonke amadoda angama-Muslim awafani.i saa Muslim umyeni ahloniphe abafazi bakhe futhi abasize lapho bedinga ngakho-ke ngicela ungacabangi nge-islamic .islam ibanzi ngempela mayelana nelungelo labesifazane uma uthola ithuba lokufunda i-quran noma incwadi ye-islamic .siyabonga fe-aman-Allah
Ngiyasebenza wesifazane, umyeni wami naye unomsebenzi omuhle, alhamdu lillah ingcebo, but since15 years ngihlala nabazala bami,abakhwenyana bami banenkani kakhulu futhi bayangishisa, ngicela i-seprate house but not ready . Uyangiziba. Ukungachithi isikhathi nemali ngenxa yami. Noma ngabe walithola kanjani ithuba lokuxabana nami. Bengithuka phambi kwabo bonke. Nginenkinga yokudangala kanye nenkinga yesifuba somoya kusukela ngaleso sikhathi, 2 iminyaka, manje ngikhathele, kufanele ngibuze talak ku-husb yami. Ngicela ungiqondise ngendlela ye-islamic
Ngiyakuzwela, ungathi ubumthanda lomfana futhi sengathi uyakusebenzisa
Ukufihla amagama ayimfihlo kusho ukuthi ufihla izinto ezimbi kakhulu
Lapho uthe uzombuyisela ekhaya
Ngicabanga ukuthi kulungile yini ukusho ukuthi akasemthethweni esifundeni sakho ?
Well ke okwakhe kuphela emva kwento eyodwa akuyena
Ngiyakhuleka dadewethu konke kukusebenzele kahle
Kungase kudlule iminyaka kodwa kwadingeka ngishiye impendulo yami
abesifazane abayona imishini yokunikeza inhlonipho. Amadoda angamaSulumane afana nalo menzi wesangweji ngeke aqonde ukuthi thina besifazane sizizwa kanjani nokuthi kulimaza kangakanani, Ngingumfazi ongumSulumane futhi ngikutshela lokhu ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwami , Paula othandekayo sindisa umphefumulo wakho futhi ushiye le ndoda kanye nemibono ebeka abesifazane njengemishini engenangqondo.
Sawubona uPaula! Awukwazi ukwahlulela i-Islam njengeMuslim elilodwa ngoba iningi lamaSulumane emhlabeni alizilandeli ngokugcwele izimfundiso zamaSulumane & lesi isizathu esiyinhloko ukuthi wonke umuntu/abangewona amaSulumane bahlukumeza amaSulumane, kufanele ufunde inguqulo yesiNgisi ye-Qur'an khona-ke uzoqonda. NgiyiSulumane ngokuzalwa. Ngilandela yonke imithetho eshiwo ngenhla. Alhamdulillah. Ngidinga umkami ukuthi anginakekele njengoba sekushiwo.
Hewu. Ngiphila isimo esifanayo ncamashi. Kusobala ukuthi lokhu kubhalwe ngumuntu wesilisa noma owesifazane ophuke ingqondo engazihloniphi noma engenasithunzi. Ngokusekelwe kulesi siqeshana, indoda imane ifuna isigqila esizithobile esizozama ukujabulisa isidingo sayo esingcolile, ngisho nenkanuko yakhe kwabanye abantu besifazane, ngaphandle kokulindela noma yikuphi ukubuyisela. Lena akuyona inguqulo yami Islam.
Lol, ngivume ngokuphelele. Lesi sihloko siyihlaya.
Kuthiwani ngathi thina besifazane sibheka enye indoda ngesikhathi esithile empilweni yethu?.. Ngiqonde ukuthi singabantu besifazane, okungcono ukudlula kukho. Akusho ukuthi sizobabhebha.
Alikho ithemba nge-Islam uma ihamba kanjalo
Kudingeka sihlonishwe kakhulu
U-Paula
Lokhu okuthunyelwe kujwayelekile, ayisebenzi emadodeni angenabo ubulungiswa kumakhosikazi awo.
Sawubona
Yini okufanele ngiyenze uma i-bansband yami ingangitsheli lutho ngeqiniso ngisho nezinto ezincane kakhulu
Umbuzo, Isoka lami lingumMuslim ngingumKhatholika, akafuni ukwenza lutho size sishade kodwa cishe senze konke kulungile? Noma akulungile
Dadewethu, sicela ubhale kabusha umbuzo wakho ukuze sikunikeze impendulo efanele? Ngiyabonga
Angiqondi ukuthi kungani indoda ikhohlisa unkosikazi kangaka. Umyeni wami ukukopela kusukela eshadile kuphela unyaka wokuqala sasingase singakopele emva for 11 iminyaka namanje ukukopela. Ngivele ngithole ukuthi ubenendoda. Kumele ngenzeni. Nginezingane ezimbili naye futhi angifuni ukuthi izingane zami zilimale. Uhlukumezeke kakhulu futhi ngihlale ngidabukile ngicabanga ukuthi ngenzeni engikhohlisayo kangaka. Ngiyazi okungenani abahlanu noma ngaphezulu uke waba nabo. Ngicela ungisize. Kube nzima kimi. Angaze angiqhathe kanjani nendoda kadami. Ngiyayizonda impilo yami mihla namalanga.
Oh Dear indlela engikuqonda ngayo, isoka lami langaphambili, sasindawonye for 5 iminyaka futhi ungumSulumane. Wenza okufanayo. Ngangazi ukuthi uyangithanda futhi wayengithanda ngempela kodwa wayethanda ukulala naye. Abanye besifazane futhi abakwazanga ukulinda ukunambitha indoda njengoba wangitshela ngayo, ukuthi ufisa amadoda futhi. Futhi lapho engicela ukuba ngizame kathathu, kwaba yilokho! Ngalimala kakhulu futhi ngadumala kakhulu. :(. inkosi ikubusise. Ushade naye futhi unezingane ezimbili, zama nje ukunganaki futhi ukhathalele izingane zakho inqobo nje uma elungile nawe, uyakuhlonipha, ukunakekela umndeni ngokwezimali bese ukwenzela izingane zakho,ngaphandle kwalapho baze bakhule ngokwanele. Ngikhula ngedwa ingane yakhe( njengoba ngikhulelwe ngenkathi sihlukana) futhi ungikholwe kubuhlungu kakhulu uma ingane yakho ikhula ingenayise.
Cishe ukukhohlisile ngoba awuzange ufeze izifiso zakhe zobulili ngakho wakushiya othulini. Njengoba udidekile njengoba lokho kuzwakala ukuthi kungani ungamshiyanga ngonyaka wokuqala? Awumunce noma umshiye. Kudingeka ababili ku-tango futhi kuzwakala sengathi awukuthandi ukudansa ukuze athole abanye abantu abakuthandayo.
Nginikele kuMuslim 15 iminyaka manje
ngahlangana nomyeni wami 11 eminyakeni edlule futhi kuwo wonke umshado wami bekukubi kakhulu nezimfihlo namanga futhi wenza haram emzimbeni wakhe ..nenyanga yokuqala nangaphambili kwakukuhle konke kwenziwa halal kodwa ngenxa yenkinga akwenzile ngalahlekelwa yinhlonipho ikakhulukazi lapho ngithola out wayenonkosikazi wesibili I ngaphandle futhi ngaba umngane s kuye ngoba allah bathi,kwaze kwangibulala ngaphakathi ngakwenza nje lokhu ukuthi izingane zami zisabe nobaba futhi ngenza njengonkosikazi kodwa imfundiso angibonisa yona angikaze ngiyikholelwe evela ku-Allah njengoba u-Allah elungile kubo bobabili abanye abantu basebenzisa i-islam ukuze kube nesidingo vala amaphutha noma yini engangiyenza yayingalungile futhi umuntu ufana nengane isikhathi esiningi ngangiphelelwa amandla futhi noma yini engangiyenza kahle yayingalungile i-haram yakhe yayihlala i-halal kuye noma ngabe ithini manje yimi ngedwa zingane zami futhi ngiyathemba u-allah ajezise bonke indoda efaka amakhosikazi amahle nezingane ngalokhu ukuze ivumelane nezindlela zama-haram
Akunjalo kuwo wonke amadoda.. asiwona amatshwele esikhukhukazi esisodwa.
Amadoda ahlala ebheka 4 ucansi..thats y baya kwabanye abantu besifazane.so mnikeze ucansi olumnandi.akasoze aye kwamanye amantombazane
Kufanele uthintane ne-muslim imam.in islam akuvunyelwe ukwenza ucansi ngaphandle komshado. Sengathi u-Allah angakuthethelela
Kwakungowesilisa owabhala lokhu
Sanibonani,
Ngifunde lesi sihloko ngokucophelela kodwa into ewukuthi umhloniphe ngaphezu kwanoma ubani omunye engimthanda u-Alot futhi ngise-nikkah yakhe ezinyangeni ezimbalwa ezedlule use-sudia futhi ngisePakistan uhlala nomndeni wami futhi ngilinde i-rukksati yami ngalesi sikhathi. bobabili bayaxhumana nsuku zonke ngiyazi uyangithanda kodwa into uxoxisana nenkulumo yami yangasese nabangani bakhe okungiphatha kabi ngakho ngenzenjani ngimnike yonke into ayifunayo kimi kodwa ayikho imizwa engiyizwa kakhulu. uphatheke kabi uma efuna ucansi lweCam noma sixoxe ezingcolile how meany times ngamtshela ukuthi ngiphatheke kabi uma uxoxa izinto zami zangasese nabangani bakho but how meanty times akasoze ayeka and I discussed my father my mom was expire last year and cha omunye angangisiza ngakho ngicela usizo lwakho
Sawubona Mehwish,
Funda umyalezo wakho futhi kuyadabukisa kakhulu ukwazi ukuthi lo bhuti ukuphethe kanjani. Lokhu okuthunyelwe okudala, Angazi kahle ukuthi ukusiphi isimo manje. Ngicela ukwazi ukuthi uma indoda ingakuhloniphi, futhi akakufihli okuphakathi kwakho naye, ifulegi elibomvu ngokumelene naye.
Uphelelwa amandla kuTaqwa. Kungenzeka ukuthi uma ukhona naye, uzoba ngcono, kodwa kufanele uqaphele futhi ukutshele ukuthi ufuna ukuphathwa ngesithunzi.
Ingabe umndeni wakho uthole imininingwane ngaye ngaphambi kokushada nawe? Uyawazi umndeni wakhe nabangane? Zama ukuphenya ngaye.
Kuke kwaba nezimo lapho amantombazane aphuma emndenini wawo, babodwa kwelinye izwe futhi babhekene nezimo ezinzima bengenayo indlela yokuphuma. Ngaphambi kokuba kuvele isimo esinjalo, ngicela uthathe izinyathelo zokuphepha.
Fee Aman Allah!
Ngakho….Uma abesifazane kuyibo abawina isinkwa, isicathulo kolunye unyawo? Kufanele yini ngilindele umyeni wami njengoba ngiwudokotela futhi uyisisebenzi ukungilinda? Angakwazi yini ukuhlala ekhaya nezingane zethu futhi ngilungise isidlo sami sakusihlwa? Ngiyathanda ukubukela i-tv ngezikhathi ezingavamile lapho engingabizwa khona ukuze ngihlinzwe. Ingabe lokho kusho ukuthi ngingafuna isemishi? Ingabe kufanele ngifune ukuhlonishwa ngaso sonke isikhathi kuye noma kufanele ngimvumele usuku olubi?
Umbuzo omuhle. Ngicabanga ukuthi yindaba “Ngenza imali, ngakho ngenza izindima.” Ngiphelele ngabesifazane abazimele. Sukuma ukuhlukumeza! futhi ungavumeli umuntu ahambe phezu kwakho.
Iseluleko esihle, kodwa u-zowji akawathandi ama-sandwhiches! 😉
Bengifuna ukungeza, ungesabi ukumncoma. Uma ucabanga ukuthi umyeni wakho unesibindi, izicukuthwane, muhle, eqinile, MTSHELE. Akayena umfundi wengqondo. Baningi abafazi (okufanayo kuya emadodeni) bathathe kalula nje ukuthi umyeni wabo uyazi ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngaye futhi akalokothi asho lutho. Ngokuzayo lapho elungiselela ukuya emsebenzini inkinobho yehembe lakhe noma abophe uthayi futhi amtshele indlela abukeka ngayo. Yenza okuningi ngemisipha yakhe, indlela ayephane ngayo ukuze asize ngezikweletu zasesibhedlela zomngane wakhe, uziqhenya kanjani ngokuba nomyeni owenza i-salaah yakhe. Vele ube qotho futhi ngokuzayo ucabanga ngenye yezinto ezinkulu azenzayo ezikwenza umthande . . . Mtshele. Amathuba ukuthi uzoyithanda. 😉
Iseluleko esimnandi, manje ngidinga nje ukuthola indoda elungile engizomtshela izinto ezinjalo 😉
nami dadewethu
Lol ngiyakuzwa..Angikwazi ukulinda ukushada ukuze empeleni ngitshele umyeni wami lezi zinto.. :”-D
Vele uqiniseke ukuthi uthola umuntu olungile. Ngiyamthanda umyeni wami sooo kakhulu, futhi uyamangalisa! Ungumphefumulo omuhle! Angikwazi ukugcizelela ngokwanele lokho- ingqondo yomuntu yiyona ebalulekile. Wonke umuntu uthintwa isikhathi, kodwa okubalulekile ukuthi ungubani ngaphakathi. Ingqondo iyona ozophila nayo iminyaka engamashumi amahlanu.
I-Jazakallahukairan, ngigqugquzelwe yile post. Kwangathi u-Allah angenza kube lula kithi ukuzijwayeza.InshaAllaah, lapho ngishada!
Salamu Alikom,
Lesi kufanele kube ngesinye sezindatshana ezinhle kakhulu engizifunde ngemibhangqwana yamaSulumane. Ngibonga kakhulu. Ungilethe ezindlebeni zami amaphutha engiwaletha emshadweni wami, okuyinto (ngemva kokufunda lokhu) Nginqume ukusebenza!
Kwangathi u-Allah angabusisa umshado wakho kanye nawo wonke umuntu.
Bengifuna ukubuza ngengxenye lapho kuthiwa uma ungalali naye uzothuka kuze kuse aphume nakuye.. Njengokuthi uma inkosikazi ifuna ukuya ocansini futhi ayikwenzi, naye uyathukwa ?? Ngiyabonga
Impela dade uma umuntu wesifazane efuna ukulala nendoda yakhe & uyala ngamabomu. isijeziso esifanayo siyomehlela.
Akukho hadith umzalwane othi ngakho-ke kuyodingeka abekezele.
@asiangirl Kukhona hadith yalokho empeleni. Ngeke ngikunike. Ziseshe wena. Ngizifundile mina. Ngakho ngiyacela… ungakhulumi izinto ongazazi noma ongaqinisekile ngazo. Isijeziso sokunikeza ulwazi olungalungile sinzima. Uzophendula.
@Mnu. muhle ayikho hadith enjalo, sicela usibonise, indoda kufanele inakekele izifiso zomkayo kodwa isijeziso noma imfuneko yokufeza azikho ezingeni elifanayo.
khumbula ukuthi ungubali wakhe hhayi ngenye indlela.
ungazakhi ama-hadith ngokwakho
@Mnu. Muhle. Kukhona namaHadith athi kungawubhidliza umshado uma owesifazane ethatha indima yendoda futhi ngokuphambene nalokho.. Akulotshwa ndawo lapho owesifazane eyala umyeni wakhe. Sicela ubhekisele emithonjeni yakho, “mhlawumbe udinga ukuqaphela okushoyo ngoba uzophendula ngezinhloso zakho nalokho okusenhliziyweni yakho.”
Ngazise uma ufuna ngikubhekise lokho. Ngingase ngingabi nalo igama nezwi nokho….
Kunzima lokho mfowethu .
Jazakallah, Kwangathi u-Allah angakuvuza ngoKhair,,
Umzalwane wakusho lokho .. uma umyeni enqaba ukujabulisa umkayo ngamabomu nangenxa yonya, naye uyoqalekiswa futhi abe nezono. Kodwa uma engakwenzi ngamabomu ngeke azithole izono. Nokho-ke owesifazane akalingani nelendoda njengoba kudingeka ukuthi amjabulise kunoma yisiphi isimo ngaphandle uma kuyisimo lapho engenawo amandla okwenza lutho (okungukuthi izikhathi zanyanga zonke). Uma usafuna ukwazi kabanzi ke njengo sheikh. UAllah Wazi kakhulu
Uyadlala????? Nina madoda senigcwele imizimba yenu. Amadoda aye ahlanekezela i-Islam kwaze kwaba yilapho engabonakali. Ukholelwa ngempela kulowo ophakeme futhi unamalungelo engeziwe? AKUSEKHO amalungelo amaningi onawo phezu kwethu. KUYISIBOPHO salo esengeziwe! Ngokukhala kakhulu! zivukele wena. Leyo hadith ithi BOGUS…
Awekho ama-hadith aqondile ngezinto eziningi. Uma indoda yenqaba ukucabangela injabulo yobulili yomkakhe, kanye nokuba yisidlakela, kuzomele aphendule kuAllah ngokunganaki kwakhe Izeluleko ezingaguquki nezingaguquki kwabesifazane “Iba nesineke” lapho abayeni behluleka ngokuphelele kuyinhlekisa futhi bakhathele ngempela 2016. Ziphi izeluleko ezingapheli emadodeni ngobungozi bokuphatha abafazi babo njengempahla, izakhamuzi zesigaba sesibili noma izisebenzi? Uphi umsebenzi onzima ongaqedi izikhumbuzi ezivela emndenini, imams, ama-alim, izazi emadodeni ukuthi ipharadesi lisemanyaweni kamama, hhayi ubaba noma umyeni? Igcine nini indoda ukubuzwa ngenjabulo yomkakhe? Kungani udadewethu oyiSulumane oluhlobo oluhle kufanele abekezele lapho umyeni wakhe emthuka noma emhlukumeza, ukude ngokomzwelo, ubugovu, okwengane i-narcisstic? Aphi ama-ahadith alokhu? Izikhalo ezingapheli zokuphinga, ukuhlukunyezwa nokuziphatha okubi kuthathwa njengokujwayelekile kulezi zinsuku. Kodwa uma udade ephikelela ezimweni ezithile ku-ahd nikah yakhe (isivumelwano somshado) uzicabangela yena yedwa. Ngiyajabula ukuthi ngiyiqonda kahle i-Islam — ukuthi ngikhonza uAllah. Kuyadabukisa ukusho, amadoda amaningi angamaSulumane ayizibonelo ezimbi zamadoda, obaba nabayeni. Kuni bazalwane abasebenza ngokuzama ukuba nomusa, nibacabangele futhi nibathande abafazi benu, sengathi u-Allah angakunika umvuzo omkhulu. Impela uyivelakancane.
Ngiyabonga ukuthi bekudingeka .
Bravo, usisi, lokho kwashiwo kahle kakhulu futhi kudinga ukuphinda kaningi.
Sicela ungadukisi abantu.. uma ungayazi impendulo. Akukho Hadith mayelana namadoda … Ngicela uqaphele.
Kodwa kukhona ivesi le-Qur'an. “Amadoda angababheki babesifazane”. Sura Nisa Isahluko 4.
Angikwazi ukukutshela ukuthi okufanayo kungase kusebenze kumyeni uma enqaba, kodwa kuwumsebenzi wakhe e-Islam ukwanelisa umkakhe ocansini futhi akakwazi nje “Hamba uyolala” ngaphandle kokugcwalisa lokho. Njengoba kuyisibopho kuye ukwenza lokhu, ngakho-ke isijeziso esifanayo kufanele sisebenze inshaAllah.
Angikwazi ukucabanga ngendoda, Muslim noma cha, ukwenqaba ucansi ngaphandle uma ephazamisekile emoyeni noma kukhona okumkhathazayo.
Kulula kakhulu ukuthi indoda ibuyele esimweni socansi kunowesifazane. Ngemuva kwengxabano noma ukungaboni ngaso linye ngodaba oluthile abantu besifazane bangase bangavumi futhi baqhamuke nezaba zokuthi bangayi ocansini kanti amadoda ngokuvamile kulula ukukushaya indiva okwenzekile futhi angangena kalula..
lol. lokho kuyiqiniso
Ngakho-ke kusobala ukuthi awazi lutho ngabesifazane. Ngemuva kwengxabano noma ukungaboni ngaso linye kungani noma yimuphi umuntu wesifazane afune ukulala nomuntu abexabene naye? Kungani lokho kusho ukuthini “ukufuna kanye/noma isidingo” iwuhlobo oluthile lwezinga futhi abesifazane kufanele bamane baneliseke nganoma yiziphi imvuthuluka engokomzwelo ejikijelwa umyeni wakhe?
okufanayo akusebenzi kumyeni wami sthandwa sami.. yilokho engikuzondayo ngayo yonke into….. alikho igama elishiwo ikakhulukazi njengomyalelo njengoba kushiwo kowesifazane nge-ahadith namavesi e-Quran ukuthi athi yebo ezidingweni zomyeni wakhe.. akukho ukuhleleka okuqondile… amazwi ambalwa nje okutshela abafana ukuthi kuhle kubo uma bebahle nabafazi babo…. kodwa kungani umuntu enganakekela njengomfazi ongumMuslim unendaba nokuthi ufuna ukusindisa i-aakhirah yakhe…..
hey sista.
ngokweqiniso uma engakwazi, angakwazi. akukhona ukuthi udinga ukubopha ipensela kuyo. kodwa mhlawumbe udinga ukunxenxa umfana omncane ompofu ukuthi abuyele empilweni, khumbula leya nombolo encane ayekuhlanyisa ngayo yonke leyo minyaka edlule. lapho uyikhipha futhi ngemva kwayo yonke le minyaka uzophinde abe yiphupho leminyaka eyishumi nesithupha okungenzeka ukuthi uke waphendukela kulo ngaphambili lapho ethi ‘ hawu sorry …kubukeka sengathi angikho emoyeni luv'.
Ahhhhhhh,,,manje lokho kukhombisa inhlonipho ngosonhlamvukazi RRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!
Cha dadewethu, abukho ubufakazi balokho kumuntu. Nokho, ngabe wehlulekile ukumnika ilungelo lakhe, futhi ukufeza ilungelo le-Muslim kuyisibopho, kanjalo, ngabe wenze isono. UAllah Wazi kakhulu!
As salaam alaykum,
Uma kukhona hadith noma cha, Angiqiniseki ngakho. Kodwa kukhona iSurah ephelele! Surah Mujadilah (58) Yifunde.
U-Abu Dhar al-Ghafari ubike: IsiThunywa sikaAllah (amasaha) kusho: kukhona umvuzo wakho [ngisho] ocansini nomkakho.” Kubuza ababehamba naye: O Messenger of Allah (amasaha) ukhona yini umvuzo uma umuntu esuthisa inkanuko yakhe?” Yena (amasaha) kusho: “Uyazi ukuthi uma esenelisa ngokungemthetho usuke esezithathele isono? Ngokunjalo, uma esenelisa ngokusemthethweni, uyavuzwa.”
Ihlobene no-Ahmad noMuslim.
Kuncike kunkosikazi ukuba agqoke kahle futhi agcobe amakha futhi anakekele ukudla kwakhe okukhethekile ukuphakamisa isifiso sakhe
Nakuba ngangithanda futhi ngivumelana nawo wonke amaphuzu lapha kufanele ngisho ingxenye mayelana nokuthatha umfazi wesibili yangicasula ngempela.. ngakolunye uhlangothi uphakamisa ukuthi amadoda azame ukusijabulisa kodwa kanjani ukucabanga ukuthatha umfazi wesibili kuhambisana nakho konke lokho?? Kungcono ngingabi nayo imoto noma i-smartphone evela kumyeni wami kodwa ngibe ne-LOYALTY yakhe. Yonke imizamo evela ohlangothini lwendoda yokwenza umkayo ajabule iyehla uma izizwa ikhululekile ukuthatha unkosikazi wesibili noma nini.. plus UZOYA esihogweni!!
As salaamu alaikum,
Dora, Ngiyaqonda ukuthi kubonakala kuwukuphikisana (indoda izama ukujabulisa umfazi kodwa ithatha omunye umfazi) kodwa khumbula ukuthi lokhu kuyinto indoda evunyelwe ukuyenza e-Islam. Ngeke afike esihogweni ngokuthatha omunye unkosikazi. Ukuziphatha kwakhe namakhosikazi akhe nokuphila impilo ehambisana ne-Islam yikhona okuzocacisa ukuthi ukuphi ( kanye nawo wonke amaSulumane) izophela. Kungaba yinto enzima kakhulu ukwamukelana nayo, Ngiyavuma kodwa le mpilo iyisivivinyo futhi ngobunzima esibhekana nabo nendlela esibhekana ngayo nabo iyona eyonquma isiteshi sethu ku-akhira. Kwangathi u-Allah angakubusisa.
Empeleni its haram ukuthi indoda ishade izikhathi ezingaphezu kwesisodwa ngaphandle kwemvume yonkosikazi wayo wokuqala. NGEKE ngivumele umyeni wami ashade nomunye wesifazane. Bengizomshiya okwesibili engikhulume ngakho. Ngiyamthanda umyeni wami ngokujulile nangenhliziyo yonke kangangokuthi angikwazi ngisho nokuzicabanga ngikhangwa enye indoda. Uma engakhangwa omunye wesifazane aze afune ukumshada ngakho akakaze angithande ngokwanele. Lena ingxenye eyodwa ye-Islam engingasoze ngayamukela, indoda AKUMELE ivunyelwe ukushada izikhathi ezingaphezu kwesisodwa ngoba nje ithanda. Bengingaqonda ukube bekungenxa yezinhloso zokusinda kowesifazane kodwa hhayi ukuzijabulisa. Ngezikhathi zoMprofethi (PBUH) lokhu kwavunyelwa ngenxa yezimpi futhi abafelokazi bahamba bengenabani. KUngakho kwakuvunyelwe, ukuze babe nomuntu ozobanakekela. HHAYI amadoda angaba izingulube…lesi sici se-Islam sishintshile saba yinto enengekayo futhi yinto eyenza inkolo yethu ibukeke kabi. NgiyiSulumane elizinikele kodwa imishado eminingi iyanginyanyisa.
ngiyavuma kay 🙂
Nginawe 100%
Ngenhlonipho yonke ngendlela othanda ngayo umyeni wakho nasenkolweni yakho, Ngithanda ukuthi ucacise amaphuzu ambalwa … Akudingekile ukuba amadoda athathe imvume kumakhosikazi awo noma emakhosikazini awo uma ephinda eshada .. kungcono bazise umkabo. Kungumbono oyiphutha ojwayelekile phakathi kwamaMuslimah lapho bacabanga ukuthi kuzoba ngokuvunyelwa kwabo okuyodingeka ukuthi indoda yabo ishade nomunye wesifazane noma ibe namakhosikazi angaphezu koyedwa..
Asikho nje isizathu esisodwa sokuthi kungani uMuntu evunyelwe ukuba nokungaphezu kwalokho 1 umfazi in Islam. Kudingeka siqonde ukujula kodaba. Indoda ayivunyelwe ukwehlukanisa nowesifazane ngoba nje engakwazi ukuzala indodana/indodakazi yakhe kodwa abesifazane bavunyelwe ukucela uKHULA. (okunikezwa ngokuzenzakalela) uma umuntu engenamandla. lesi yisibonelo esisodwa nje futhi akukho okwedlula sona futhi ziningi kangaka .. khumbula njalo noma yini Egunyaziwe / Kuvunyelwe ku-Islam ngezinzuzo zabo bobabili Abesilisa & Abesifazane … futhi thina maMuslim singase sicele imininingwane eyengeziwe kuze kube yilapho sesiqonda kahle isihloko kodwa asivunyelwe ukwenqaba / phika lezo zibonelelo.
Ngokuqondene neMuslimah, khumbula njalo uAllah Wazi konke futhi ugcwele umusa, pho uzokwenzenjani .. Ingabe uzokwenza i-DUA ucela u-Allah
1. ukukunika okufiswa nguwe
noma
2. ukucela kuAllah ngakho konke okuhle kuwe ngokusho KWAKHE.
Futhi khumbula njalo uma UMUNTU engekho nje phakathi kwabafazi bakhe, UAllah umbhekile.
@Marij Usmani
“Indoda ayivunyelwe ukwehlukanisa nowesifazane ngoba nje engakwazi ukuzala indodana/indodakazi yakhe…. kodwa abafazi bavumelekile ukucela uKHULA (okunikezwa ngokuzenzakalela) uma umuntu engenamandla.”
Kuyangimangaza lokhu kucabanga emuva/okungenasisekelo.
Ukungabi namandla akufani nokungazali.
Owesifazane ongakwazi ukukhulelwa umntwana akufanele abe makhaza.
Okufanayo kuya endodeni: angaba yinyumba ngaphandle kokuphelelwa amandla.
Yebo, ilungelo lakho. Kodwa bosisi. Kuyilungelo lakho ukuthi ungeze ku-nikkah yakho lokhu akwamukelekile kuwe ukuthi athathe umfazi wesibili ngaphandle kokuthi wena uqale wazi aphinde afake i-nikkah yakho ukuthi ngaleso sikhathi kuyilungelo lakho ukwehlukanisa ngalesi sikhathi.. Ngangishade nendoda eyisimangaliso 16 iminyaka, waze wadlula emhlabeni. Lapho sibhala i-nikkah yethu, Ngicela lokhu kwengezwe. Futhi ngithembe, uma umyeni wakho kufanele akhethe phakathi kokukuhlukanisa ngaphambi kokuba athathe unkosikazi wesibili. Cishe ngeke neze acabangele unkosikazi wesibili. Ngisanda kushada futhi nenye indoda emangalisayo. Sobabili sasingabafelokazi. Ngiphinde ngifake lokhu ku-nikkah yami. Isici esibaluleke kakhulu somshado omuhle wama-islamic ohlala njalo inhlonipho. Uma uphikelela ekuzihlonipheni kusukela ekuqaleni khona-ke kuyoba umnyombo wempilo yakho yedwa ndawonye In Sha Allah.
Cha akadingi ukubuza premssion pologamy is halal not haram. Ayikho hadith ethi indoda kumele abuze amakhosikazi akhe premssion. I-Quran ithi kumele abaphathe ngendlela efanele enze isiqiniseko sokuthi uhlinzeka ngezindawo zokuhlala ezihlukene kunkosikazi ngamunye.
Empeleni, kungamanga lokho. AKUKHO haram ukuthi indoda ithole unkosikazi wesibili ngaphandle kwemvume yomkakhe. Kuvunyelwe ku-Islam futhi akayidingi imvume. Nokho, uma owesifazane engathandi lesi senzo, futhi engafuni ukunika umyeni wakhe leli lungelo, kwabe sekuwumthwalo wakhe ukusho lokhu esivumelwaneni somshado. Uma futhi kuphela uma enze lokhu esivumelwaneni somshado, ngakho-ke akavunyelwe ukwenza lokho ngaphandle kwemvume yakhe. Kungenjalo, akuyona i-Haram nhlobo futhi ngiyanikhuthaza ukuthi ningasho ukuthi into ethile iyi-haram kanti akunjalo.
Udinga ukukufaka esivumelwaneni sakho somshado ukuthi ufuna umfazi wesibili.
kar wami othandekayo,
akungenxa yokuthi ngesikhathi se-jihad ukuthi umshado ongaphezu kowodwa uvunyelwe ku-islam . kepha uAllah Wakuyala ngequran, umyalo ka-allah ubulungiswa ngoba i-islam igcwele. akekho ongakwazi ukwengeza noma ukunciphisa i-quran,
let's come to nowadays situation, kunoma yiliphi izwe uzobona abesifazane abathintekayo ngoba akakwazanga ukuthola omunye ukushada noma angase ahlukanise noma abe umfelokazi. UAllah Wazi kakhulu kulomhlaba
kahle KAY ngivumelana nawe ngokuphelele. yilokho kuphela okuyingxenye ye-islam engingakaze ngikholelwe kuyo futhi engingeke ngikholelwe kuyo. I am too selfish when it comes to umyeni wami. angisoze ngabelana nomuntu wami nomuntu noma ngabe kumayelana nokusinda komuntu. singabasekela futhi sibasize ngaphandle kokuhlanganyela umyeni wethu. ziningi izindlela owesilisa angasiza ngazo futhi ondle abanye abantu besifazane ngaphandle kokuthi abashade nokuba nobudlelwano. uma indoda imthanda ngokweqiniso umkayo ayisoze yacabanga ngomunye umuntu wesifazane futhi yebo njengoba u-KAY eshilo ukuthi ngizomshiya umuntu wami okwesibili ecabanga ukushada omunye umuntu wesifazane., noma ngabe ngimthanda kangakanani. yilokho kuphela umuntu wesifazane angakwazi ukukuthatha. futhi okokuqala uma indoda icabanga ngomunye umfazi ngaphandle komkakhe isuke yenza isono futhi ishada nomunye umfazi ngaphandle kwemvume yomkakhe uyokwenza isono esikhulu kungakhathaliseki noma yini..
Shaina i advice u 2 kholwa ngokuphelele ezwini likaAllah ngaphandle kwalokho uzoba phakathi kwabangakholwa, UAllah njengomdali uyazi ukuthi yini enhle kithi, Amadoda avunyelwe 2 shada abafazi abangaphezu koyedwa futhi sonke sibona indlela abesifazane kakhulu kakhulu … Inala kunowesilisa ngiyakhuleka ungabi phakathi 39 noma 40s iminyaka ladie ngubani av ungaqiniseki ngendoda ethile. dt uzomshada , yini umfelokazi, odivosa amadoda amaningi angeke amthande 2 benze njengakuqala futhi badinga 2 shada kabusha. I-ISLAM QURIAN iyi-d manual 2 phila kangcono nangokuthula .
Uqinisile lapho dade, Ngawa ngendlela efanayo umyeni wami ayelokhu engitshela ukuthi uvumelekile ukushada ngakho ngeke adinge imvume yami ukwenza kanjalo.. Ngiyamthanda umyeni wami kangangokuthi angiziboni ngimhlanganyela nomunye wesifazane. Ngamtshela ukuthi uma enquma ukuthi uzothatha omunye umfazi ngizobe ngiphumile, angahamba-ke aganwe omunye ukuze athole abafazi ababili abafisayo, njengoba ngingafuni ukuphila impilo yami yonke ngicabanga futhi ngikhathazeke ngakho. Ngiyazi ukuthi le mishado ingenzani, ubaba wami waganwa amakhosikazi amaningi futhi ukuphuma kwakungekuhle, amakhosikazi agcina ezondile thina zingane asizwani. Bangacabanga kanjani ukuthi bangaphatha amakhosikazi omabili ngokulinganayo, kulula ukukusho kunokukwenza, akwenzeki ukuthanda amakhosikazi ngokufanayo. Bakwenza nje ngezizathu zabo zobugovu.
Dadewethu lapho uthi angisoze ngamukela lengxenye ye-islam ungase uphume uhlaka lwe-islam!! qaphela okushoyo ukuthi i-Islam ayijikelezi kuwe kepha i-islam yakho izungeza lokho u-ALLAH SWT akwenza kwavunyelwa ukuthi bangobani ukwenza kube haaram
Ngiyayithanda le mpendulo, iyona kanye indlela engizizwa ngayo ngamadoda ashada namakhosikazi amaningi namuhla. Amanye ala madoda namuhla asebenzisa njenge “Kuvunyelwe ngokwenkolo yamaSulumane” ukuze nje benze ngendlela yabo. Akulungile!
ake ngicacise nje:
Bengingeke ngivumele umyeni wami wakusasa ashade a 18 akakaze ashade gal engashadile, kodwa uma ezoshada umfelokazi, owesifazane ohlukanisile noma osekhulile owayengakwazi ukushada, bese mhlawumbe, mhlawumbe singakhuluma ngokuthi athole unkosikazi wesibili….
sis uma uyiMuslim leqiniso ngingakweluleka ngokujulile ukuthi wesabe u-ALLAH. asikwazi ukubuza u-ALLAH. UNKULUNKULU wazi konke kodwa thina asazi. U-ALLAH uyazi ngathi ngaphezu kwalokho sizazi ngokwethu. Ngicabanga ukuthi udinga ukufunda okwengeziwe nge-Islam, futhi pls ungaphikisani ngomyalo ka-ALLAHER. kuyi-haram ukwenza lokho.
futhi ngicabanga ukuthi kufanele ukwazi lokho. uma indoda imthanda ngokweqiniso umkayo ayisoze yamshiya. angeke akwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle kwakhe. uthando luvela ku-ALLAH. lalela u-ALLAH futhi umyeni wakho uzokuthanda.
ngiyethemba u-ALLAH asisize sonke AMIN!!!
ngivumelana nawe kay. y kufanele sabelane nomyeni wethu? eQuran kwathiwa ukushada ngaphezu koyedwa. lokhu bcoz ngesikhathi somprofethi mohamed tme amadoda amaningi afa ngenxa yempi, ngakho umkabo nomndeni akufanele bangabi nakuzisiza noma bangahambi ngendlela engafanele. ngakho kuphela kwathiwa ku-Quran ukushada ngaphezu koyedwa. uma owesifazane eshonelwe ngizocela umyeni wami ukuthi amnike impahla , ukuhlinzeka ngemfundo ezinganeni kanye nemali. ngeke ngihlanganyele nomyeni wami ngisho nangemva kokushona kwami. ngimthanda ngaphezu kwanoma yini enye.
Yini iHalal iyohlala iyiHalal futhi lokho u-Allah Kareem akuthathe njenge-haram kuyohlala kuyi-haram….esicabanga ngakho endabeni eshiwo akusizi ngalutho……futhi khumbula u-Allah kareem wazi kangcono njengoba asidala futhi wazi kahle ukuthi yini okufanele siyenze nokuthi yini okudingeka siyigweme….amadoda ayohlala engamadoda and I think its time sivume lokho….izwekazi ikakhulukazi ligcwele ukugxekwa kwemishado eminingi futhi oke azitike kulokho ubhekwa ngenzondo nokunengeka emphakathini.…iliphi ilungelo umphakathi onalo lokwenza into efana nalena….bese sinamaPheresiya asonta ukholo futhi ngokuvamile angalokothi ashade owesifazane wesibili kodwa asemthethweni ubusuku obunye ukuma nemfundiso kaMutta. :\
Ngawa yena lo sisi.
Dadewethu, Ngingacophelela uma ngithi imishado eminingi iyakunyanyisa. Khumbula ukuthi u-Allah wakuvumela lokho kanye noMprofethi (indalo engcono kunazo zonke) ukuthula kube kuye, wakwenza. Ngakho-ke empeleni usho ukuthi unengwa into evunyelwe u-Allah kanye noMprofethi ukuthula kube kuye, wenziwe. Leso yisimo esiyingozi esingaba kuso. Umona wakho uyaqondakala futhi uvumelekile ku-Islaam (ngisho no-Aisha wayenomona ngamanye amakhosikazi oMprofethi, waze wazama nokuvimba omunye wemishado yakhe ukuthi ungenzeki) kodwa lokho akuzange kumqhubele ekubeni athi wayenengekile noma akavumelani nesinqumo sika-Allah. Phela, njengamaSulumane, SITHUMELA intando yethu ku-ALLAAH. Ngakho-ke inshAllaah kumele nje siwubekezelele lombono, noma ngabe sinomona kancane. Futhi, kwakukhona futhi cishe njalo abesifazane abaningi emhlabeni kunamadoda, ngakho-ke ngokwezobuchwepheshe ushiya udade othile ongumSulumane ompofu engenaye umyeni onothando ozomnakekela. Angisho ukuthi kufanele wabelane ngendoda yakho kodwa uma amadoda efuna ukuthatha abanye abafazi bangakwazi futhi ngeke sikwazi ukubeka imibandela kubo u-Allah angazange. Badinga nje ukwenza isiqiniseko sokuthi basezimalini, ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo abakwazi ukwenza kanjalo, futhi uma bengakwenzi lokho u-Allah Uzobabuza ngakho.
Futhi kuthiwani uma unkosikazi wokuqala eba lusizi futhi engajabuli ngombono wokuthi umyeni wakhe ulala nomunye wesifazane aze akhale nsuku zonke, uba lusizi futhi angajabuli kangangokuthi uba unodoli ongaphili ngokuyisisekelo ekuphileni kwakhe kwansuku zonke. Thanda, usayenza imisebenzi yakhe futhi uyamthobela/uyamhlonipha umyeni wakhe, kodwa kumzwisa ubuhlungu aze akhale ngesikhathi elala nomyeni wakhe njengoba naye enza okufanayo komunye wesifazane. Ingabe injabulo yakhe ibalulekile? Vele akunjalo. ngoba intando kaAllah kanye nesithembu kuvumelekile. Ngike ngaba nomngani onalesi simo. Ukhala njalo uma benza ucansi futhi besondelene. Kuyadabukisa kakhulu. Wayeka ukumvulela emva kwesikhashana ngoba akukho okuzoshintsha. Uyazi ukuthi kungani engajabule nokuthi ufunani, kodwa uvele athi i-halal yayo futhi kufanele ayamukele.
Ukuphawula kwakho kukhombisa isifiso sakho siqu esidlula uMthetho kaAllah. Umthetho kaAllah(swt) iphelele kuzo zonke izici. Yebo, umyeni wakho kufanele athathe imvume kuwe ukuze ashade nomunye wesifazane. Okwesibili, umshado wesithathu nowesine uvunyelwe sharia. Kunezimo eziningi lapho owesilisa engase akhethe ukushada nomunye wesifazane. i) Uma enomuzwa wokuthi izifiso zakhe zobulili zingamholela esonweni(ucansi ngaphandle komshado nazo zonke izinto ezihambisana nakho). ii) Uma engenazo izingane kunkosikazi wakhe wokuqala(Nginomngane, ozalwa ngumkakhe wesibili kayise. Uthanda umama wakhe ongamzali ngaphezu kwalowo azalwa nguye. Empeleni, umama wakhe ongamzali waphoqa umyeni wakhe emshadweni wesibili ukuba abe nezingane). iii) Uma enganelisekile ngomkakhe wokuqala ezindabeni ezibucayi. iv) Ukuvikela umfelokazi nanoma yimuphi omunye wesifazane okufunayo.
Izindima zowesilisa nonkosikazi zihlukene e-Islam. Manje bobabili bangakushintsha lokho ngokuvumelana nokuvumelana kwabo, kodwa uma kukhona ukungqubuzana, izokwahlulelwa ngokwezibopho ezihlukaniswe nguAllah(swt). Indoda ingumholi wendlu. Umsebenzi wakhe uwukuvikela nokondla umndeni, ngisho noma unkosikazi enamandla futhi ecebile. Unkosikazi ungumduduzi, umnakekeli, umeluleki, kanye nomnakekeli wempahla yomyeni wakhe lapho engekho.
Umfazi kufanele agcine umyeni wakhe ekhangwa nguye, futhi kufanele alondoloze lokhu kukhanga, futhi kumelwe asekele umyeni wakhe, ukuze imithwalo yakhe inciphe, futhi ukudonselana kwemvelo kwabesilisa kwabanye besifazane kuyehla/kuyalingana. Abesilisa nabesifazane bahlukene ngokwengqondo futhi. Amadoda ayavulwa, ngokubuka abanye abantu besifazane nje. Lokhu “Iyavula” ingaba emazingeni ahlukene kodwa ihlala ikhona, kanti, lolu hlobo lokukhangwa kwabesifazane alulutho uma luqhathaniswa nabesilisa, ngakho-ke kufanele abe nobuhlakani ekumgcineni ezikhanga, futhi njalo emukela izidingo zobulili zomyeni wakhe!
Kwangathi uAllah(swt) yenza kube lula kithi sonke, futhi usebenzelana nathi ngoMusa nezibusiso Zakhe. Ameen
WOW uyiguqule kuphi leyo mfundiso -_- Ngisho lokho kuyiqiniso ezigqileni kodwa emishadweni eminingi, cha…kuthiwani uma umuntu enesifiso esingaphezu kwesilinganiso…ungamane umbone esanelisa nge-haram izindlela futhi amyeke aye esihogweni noma abe nenkampani yakhe ezulwini….plus umfazi wesibili angathathwa ngaphandle kwemvume yowokuqala kodwa kunjalo “welulekwa kakhulu” ukuthi imvume kufunwe kodwa kunjalo “hhayi wajib” [ngaphandle uma kwavunyelwana ngesikhathi sikaNikkah] ukusho kanjalo kukhumbuza ama-mullahs ku-sub continent, Tunis futhi Turkey [empeleni abanomuzwa wokuthi akukho emthethweni ngokuphelele] kanye nabanye abambalwa “ekhululwe ngokocansi” nokho amazwe amaSulumane acindezelwe ngokwenkolo…yini i-Halal i-halal…uma ungakuthandi lokho noma njengoba usho ” Lena ingxenye eyodwa ye-Islam engingeke ngikwazi ngaphandle kwayo” ke ngicela uthi touba njengoba uphikisana neHudood Allah ngokukhetha nokukhetha……awukwazi ukuletha “ebunzini” [emisha] ku-deen futhi awukwazi ukukhetha nokukhetha okuthandayo noma ongakuthandi.
kuthiwani uma owesifazane enesifiso esingaphezu kwesilinganiso. Or lets say what if she has average desire and she want her husband every night nt nje 50% noma 33% noma 25% zobusuku.
Kufanele ngivumelane nawe 100% kulokho. Ngiyaxolisa ukusho kodwa umuntu obhale lesi sihloko uyisilima esiphelele futhi ubonakala ekhukhumele. Noma yimuphi owesifazane weqiniso ongumSulumane olandela iQuran hhayi abayeni bakhe 'uhlu lwezinto ezilindelwe’ wayezokwazi ukuphatha umyeni wakhe, uhlu oluyisiphukuphuku olunjengalolu aludingeki. Asiludingi uhlu olufana nalolu oluvela kwesinye isiwula ukusitshela ukuthi siphathe kanjani umyeni wethu noma umyeni wethu wakusasa. Wonke amadoda ahlukile futhi alindele izinto ezahlukene, okufanayo nakwabesifazane, umshado umayelana nokuxhumana, anibona nje abantu ababili abahlangana emini ukuze benze ucansi futhi kunjalo, kuphi ukuxhumana, thola ukuthi umyeni WAKHO ufunani hhayi ukuthi lesi siphukuphuku sifunani. Abesifazane bathembeke kakhulu futhi bayapha kunomuntu obhale lesi sihloko. Abesifazane balangazelela ukuhlonishwa futhi kufanele nakanjani, ukukhuluma nomkakho kuwuhlobo lwenhlonipho. Yebo kwamanye amazwe amaSulumane amadoda ‘aqinile- anezindebe’ kodwa kungani ucabanga ukuthi kunjalo? ISIKO, abantu baxuba i-Islam nesiko labo, I-Islam ayifundisi indoda ukuthi ingaxhumani nomkayo. Ukuba ngowesifazane nokwazi amathani abanye besifazane ngiyazi uma kunikezwa inhlonipho futhi kuba nokuxhumana okuningi, indoda izothola noma yini eyifunayo, ngithembe kulokho. uma owesifazane enikezwe lokho futhi engazinaki izidingo zamadoda akhe futhi azifunayo kusho ukuthi ushade uhlobo olungalungile lowesifazane, abesifazane akufanele bahlukane nokudelela nokungahloniphi ngaphandle kwesizathu, empeleni bafanelwe ukushiywa bodwa bengashadile ukuze bafunde futhi bacabange futhi benze ushintsho kubo. Indlela engibona ngayo, phatha umkakho ngendlela olindele ukuphathwa ngayo, phatha umyeni wakho ngendlela olindele ukuthi akuphathe ngayo, amadoda nabesifazane bayalingana, Ngikhathele yila madoda agulayo acabanga ukuthi afanelwe yikho konke ebe enganikeli lutho, ingabe lo mfana wake wacabanga ngezidingo nezimfuno zabesifazane?? lo mfana ugxile ezintweni ezibonakalayo ukuze abonise uthando, udidekile. FUNDA I-QURANIC ARABIC FUTHI UZIFUNDELE FUTHI UYIQONDE WENA I-QURAN, UNGATHEMBEKI KULOKHO ABANYE ABANTU ABAKUTSHELAYO. Esikhundleni sokugxila ekusunguleni ibhizinisi ukuze ujabulise umkakho futhi umnike okwengeziwe, kanjani ngokufunda i-Quran ukuze uqonde futhi ucele u-Allah ukuthi akuthole ngempela lokho okufunayo. Kuningi engizokusho kodwa ngizizwa sengishilo ngokwanele.
Kusho kahle.
Ngivumelana nawe 100% Kay. Ngincamela ukuthola incwadi yesehlukaniso umyeni wami kunokumvumela ukuthi ashade nomunye umuntu.
Sanibonani .
Kwesinye isikhathi kumele uqaphele emazwini owakhethayo uma ukhuluma ngokholo lwakho. Ngeke uthi ngiyiMuslim kodwa angivumi ukuba nesithembu. Ngeke ngithi ngingumSulumane kodwa ngeke nginikele ngomnikelo (zakat) Akukona ukukhetha nokukhetha.
Ngakho kuqala, isithembu umthetho owenziwe nguAllah futhi kufanele ukwamukele. Ungase ungakuthandi noma ufune ukukujwayeza kodwa lokho kulungile. ngakho-ke iseluleko sami siwukuthi landela iseluleko esingenhla futhi uqinisekise ukuthi umyeni wakho unakho konke angakufuna kuwe ngakho-ke wawina;ngize ngibuke omunye wesifazane. UAllah Wazi kakhulu.
ithi ku-quran kuvunyelwe bengingeke ngivume….kodwa futhi ithi kungcono ukuthi athathe eyodwa kuphela akunjalo …futhi udinga imvume yomkakho futhi ungamdivosa uma ungakwazi ukuphatha lokho,,,okungaba nzima kakhulu kodwa uma enza lokho,, lokho kungangitshela ukuthi akanandaba nami .
Ngivumelana ngokuphelele nalokhu..yonke imininingwane kasisi Kay
Lena indlela engizizwa ngayo,nokuthi wonke umuntu wesifazane uzizwa kanjani,ngiyabonga ngokubhala ngokucacile,Angisoze ngahlala nomyeni wami uma ethatha umfazi wesibili,akukaze kwenzeke eminyakeni eyisigidi,ngingancamela ukuhlala ngedwa
Leyo yinkinga awukwazi ukuphila isigidi,ulahlekile futhi iseluleko sami kini ukuthi nesabe uAllah kanye nosuku lokugcina ,mhla imizwa yakho ingeke icatshangelwe
Assalam Alaykum!
Bosisi bami abathandekayo & Bafowethu, Sizokwenza okuhle impela Emiphefumulweni Yethu uma Siyeka 'I-Extremism'. Khumbula, ukuthi NGEKE siguqule Amazwi ka-Allah Azawajal ukuze avumelane nezifiso Zethu zobugovu!
Kubodadewethu ‘abathukayo’ ngokumelene nokwabelana abayeni babo nabanye oDadewethu njengoba u-Allah Ta'ala ebayala (ngoba UYE wazi kangcono): IMPELA uyomthukululela kuMDALI wakhe (I-SWT) ngolunye usuku. Subhan Allah!
Qaphela okuphuma ezinyangeni zakho mayelana ne-DEEN, kungase kuphele ngokumelene nawe ngolunye usuku & uzithola ‘UYACINGA’ ukuba ngumfazi wenye indoda.
Allahu'allam!
Shukuran! Ma'asallam!
Sawubona sisi, umbuzo; you dont rhink singezikhathi zempi? Ngokujulile? Ziningi eziqhubekayo njengamanje njengoba sikhuluma, abantu abaningi abafela empini, abafelokazi abaningi nabantwana basele bodwa, izihlukaniso eziningi nemikhaya ehlukene, bayanda indoda ephenduka izitabane. Yini abesifazane okufanele bayenze? Yiba nesizungu ngenxa yabanye abantu besifazane ukuzicabangela?
Ungazenzi izinto ezilimazayo..kukuphi lapho kuthiwa amadoda kufanele acele imvume kumakhosikazi awo kwabanye abaningi????????
“Unkosikazi wesibili! Amazwi ayelokhu ephindaphindeka engqondweni yami. Kungani? Angilungile yini? Ungalokothi! Angisoze ngamukela umfazi wesibili! Uma ufuna umfazi wesibili ungaphuma uyomthatha inqobo nje uma wazi ukuthi ngeke ngibe la usubuya.! Lawo kwakungamazwi ami kumyeni wami eminyakeni embalwa edlule lapho engitshela ukuthi uhlose ukuphinde ashade okwesibili.. Kwakungowesifazane osanda kudivosa, 4 izingane. Uthwele kanzima, uthe, akazi ukuthi ukudla okulandelayo kuvelaphi noma ukuthi angazihlinzeka kanjani izingane zakhe ngendlela efanele. “Uphi ubaba wabo?" Ngibuzile, “Akakwazi ukunakekela izingane zakhe? Kungani wena ndoda engaziwa kufanele uthwale umthwalo wenye indoda? Impela zikhona ezinye izindlela ongamsiza ngazo ngokwezimali ngaphandle kokuthi USHADE!
Angizange ngizicabange ngisemshadweni wobuningi. Ukwabelana nomyeni wami nomunye wesifazane. Ukwabelana ngothando lwakhe, ukumamatheka kwakhe, amahlaya akhe nomunye wesifazane ngaphandle kwami. Angizange ngimqonde ngimbambe eduze futhi ngimhlebela amazwi othando ezindlebeni zakhe. Kwakungamukelekile. Ukucasuka. Phela ngike ngaya kuye. Unkosikazi, isithandwa, umama, udokotela, umgcini wendlu. Ngikhulisile 3 wezingane zakhe ezinhle. Angangithuka kanjani ngokushada omunye umfazi sengathi angingeneli? Hhayi muhle ngokwanele. Hhayi mncane ngokwanele noma nje plain AKWANELE! CHA! Angikwazanga ukukwamukela lokho futhi ngakubeka kwacaca ukuma kwami kuye. Uma engena, Ngiyaphuma! Ilula futhi ilula. Uma ezimisele ukubeka umshado wethu engozini, impilo yethu, izingane zethu komunye wesifazane, khona-ke kufanele aqhubeke. Ngeke ngiyimele!
Konke kubonakala eminyakeni eminingi edlule manje. Lapho ngangicabanga ukuthi ukuphila kuyohlala phakade nokuthi akukho okuyoke kushintshe. Kodwa kwenzeka….Umyeni wami akazange ashade nenkosikazi yesibili. Ngemva kwazo zonke izixwayiso zami nezinsongo zokushiya wawulahla umqondo. Angazi ukuthi kwenzekani kubantu besifazane nezingane. Ngicabanga ukuthi badlulela kwelinye idolobha.
Akaphindanga wakhuluma ngonkosikazi wesibili futhi kwangijabulisa lokho. Ngikwazile ukunamathela kumyeni wami kodwa bengingazi ukuthi isikhathi sethu siyahamba. Amazwi akhe okugcina kimina ukuthi uphethwe yikhanda futhi uzolala kuze ku-Esha. Akazange afunde u-Esha namaaz ngalobo busuku, ngoba akaze avuke. Kwangiphatha kabi ukufa kwakhe ngokuzuma. Indoda engichithe impilo yami nayo, wangihlwitha ngomzuzwana. Ngamzilela isikhathi eside, isikhathi eside. Ukunganaki izingane zami kanye nebhizinisi. Ngokushesha konke kwamosha futhi saqala ukulahlekelwa yikho konke ngamunye ngamunye. Kuqale imoto bese kulandela isitolo, bese kuba yindlu. Sahlala nomfowethu nomndeni wakhe. Eyami 3 mina nezingane sagcwala endlini kanti usisi wami washeshe wacasuka ukuba khona kwethu. Ngangidinga ukuphuma, ukusebenza futhi sizitholele eyethu indawo esikhundleni sokuziphilela ngezinsalela zabanye. Kodwa ngangingenalo ikhono. Ngesikhathi umyeni wami esaphila sasiphila ngokunethezeka. Ngangingenaso isidingo sokuphuma ngiyosebenza noma ngizihlomise ngekhono. Impilo yayinzima kakhulu kimina nakubantwana bami futhi ngangingaseyena omncane. Ngangimkhumbula nsuku zonke ngakho konke ukushaya kwenhliziyo yami. Kungenzeka kanjani ukuthi isimo somuntu siguquke kakhulu? Ngelinye ilanga umfowethu wangitshela ukuthi kunomuntu amaziyo ofuna umfazi. Wayengumuntu olungile, i-akhlaq enhle futhi ethembekile kakhulu. Iphelele kimi, kodwa ufuna ngibe unkosikazi wakhe wesibili.
Sekungokwesibili empilweni yami kushiwo igama elithi unkosikazi wesibili kimi. Kodwa izimo zihluke kanjani. Wafika endlini kamfowethu ezongibona. Kube nokuxhumana phakathi kwethu. Ngangimthanda futhi ngithanda yonke into ngaye. Wangitshela ukuthi umkakhe wokuqala uyazi ukuthi uzimisele ngokushada futhi kodwa kusobala ukuthi akawusekeli lowo mbono futhi akazi ukuthi uzosabela kanjani lapho emtshela ukuthi uthole umuntu.. Wathi impendulo yakhe, kuzoncika ekwamukeleni kwakhe Isithembu. Ngaqala ukuthandaza Istikhara ngalobo busuku. Ngangifisa kakhulu ukuthi isebenze. Ngakhumbula eminyakeni eminingi edlule lapho ukuphila komunye wesifazane kwakuncike esinqumweni sami nokuthi isinqumo sami sasiyini. Ngazizwa ngidabukile, Ngazizwa kanjalo ngoba ngangingamniki omunye wesifazane ithuba, isikhala empilweni yami, ukuthi uAllah uzongijezisa ngalesi sikhathi.
Ngaphenduka, akukho nakanye empilweni yami lapho ngacabanga ukuthi isenzo sami sifanele ukuphenduka ngoba ngangingonanga lutho. Ngavikela okungokwami kuphela. Manje njengoba ngisendleleni yokwamukela, Ngabona ukuthi nganginephutha kangakanani ngokwenqaba omunye wesifazane leli PRIVILEGE lomyeni. Ngathandazela ukuthi angamukele. Wangifonela ezinsukwini ezimbalwa kamuva engitshela ukuthi umkakhe kunzima ukukwamukela kodwa uzimisele ukuhlangana nami.. Nganginovalo ngosuku lomhlangano. Ngathandaza kakhulu ngayizolo futhi ngacela u-Allah ukuba angisize. Lapho ngihlangana naye, wayengumuntu, owesifazane onjengami. Owesifazane othanda umyeni wakhe futhi osaba ukulahlekelwa nguye. Wangibamba isandla ehlengezela izinyembezi wathi: “Lokhu kunzima kakhulu kimina, kodwa ngithemba ukuthi singaba odade” amazwi akhe aphula inhliziyo yami. Engangikudinga kulezi zinsuku zobumnyama kwakuyisandla eselulela kimi futhi singanga, kunginika ithemba nesifiso sokuqhubeka. Umkakhe wayekimi, owesifazane engingeke ngibe futhi ngizohlala ngibonga ngalokho. Ngangicabanga ukuthi akekho ongathanda umyeni wakhe ngendlela engangiyithanda ngayo eyami, kodwa wangifundisa incazelo yeqiniso yothando olungenamibandela.
Ngeke usazi isimo somuntu uze ube kusona.
Yahlulelani ngokulunga ngokweQur’an futhi nizobona ukuthi u-Allah subhanahu wata’ala uzokuthumela kanjani izibusiso eziphindwe kabili endleleni yenu.”
assalam alaikum ngidinga ukukulungisa , awukwazi ukusho ukuthi awuvumelani nento ngoba ayikuphathi kahle noma awuyithandi;
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SAHIH INTERNATIONAL
Akuyona eyendoda ekholwayo noma kowesifazane okholwayo, lapho uAllah nesiThunywa saKhe benquma udaba, ukuthi kufanele [emva kwalokho] banakho ukukhetha ngendaba yabo. Futhi lowo ongamlaleli uAllah kanye nesiThunywa saKhe ngokuqinisekile udukile ephutheni elisobala.
Uma unjengoba usho iMuslim elizinikele ungasho kanjani ngento u-Allah akuvumele lokho “uyakwenyanya”?? Awukuqondi ngokugcwele futhi akufanele ngempela ukusho izinto ezinjalo ngoba empeleni uthi unengekile ngoAllah.! AstafirAllah. Udinga ukwenza i-taubah futhi uzame ukufunda okwengeziwe. Kwangathi u-Allah angasiqondisa sonke.
sikholelwa kuyo yonke incwadi futhi siyakwamukela ukubusa kuka-Allah swts ngisho noma singakuqondi ngokugcwele ngoba usazi kangcono kunalokho esizazi thina..
Ushilo !!
Umbhali wendatshana kufanele alibuyekeze lelo qiniso ngemishado eminingi nokuthi ithi kufanele yenziwe kuphela ngenxa yezidingo ezibucayi. (hhayi ngoba efuna ukuzithokozisa). I-hadith mayelana nalolu daba ithi ukuphathwa ngendlela efanele. Abesilisa abakwazi ngisho nokuphatha owesifazane oyedwa ngendlela efanele, wayezokwazi kanjani ukwenza imisebenzi eminingi nabesifazane ababili abanezidingo ezimbili ezihlukene kanye nabakulindele.
Abesifazane ku 2017 abadingi usizo lwezezimali kwabashade nabo. Singakwazi ukubambelela esiphethweni sethu siphathe umuzi ngokulinganayo njengamadoda. Futhi amadoda amaningi ayasizakala ngalokho – bayasebenza abesifazane, bese ufika ekhaya uzopheka futhi unakekele izingane.
Nginawe 100%, Kay. Izizathu zokuvumela isithembu ukuthi siqhubeke, kuyilapho ikhawulela inani eliphelele labafazi 4, kanye nokubeka imingcele kumaphethini omnyango ojikelezayo wesitayela somshado-isehlukaniso-umshado, kanye nokusho ngokucacile umyalo wokuthi bonke abafazi KUFANELE baphathwe ngokulinganayo futhi ngobulungisa obuphelele kuyingxenye yokuhlakanipha okungapheli kuka-Allah., njengoba Ubuye wengeza kamuva kancane kuSura ukuthi indoda AKASOZE iphathe bonke abafazi ngokulinganayo. Kuyacaca ukuthi yini emiselwe thina: ukushada komuntu oyedwa ngaphandle kwezimo eziqondile kakhulu, njengalabo obashoyo, futhi njalo ngaphakathi kwemithetho ecacile.
U-Asw Allah futhi wanika abesifazane amalungelo futhi uma bengakwenzi ngaphandle kwabayeni bakhe unkosikazi wesibili angacela isehlukaniso futhi ashade futhi.
ngilotsholwa yindoda eyiMuslim, futhi kuze kube manje ngikuthola kuthakazelisa ukuthi angikaze ngimazi umuntu onjengaye…uthi uyangithanda futhi akakwazi ukuphila ngaphandle kwami, kodwa wangibuza lombuzo, ukube bekukhona 2 yethu? ufuna ukungishada kodwa uthe what if ekhona owes2? Wachaza ukuthi noma ngabe yini uzozama ngayo yonke indlela, kodwa uma egcina ethole unkosikazi wesibili washo ukuthi akasoze angishiya futhi athwale imithwalo yemfanelo njengendoda nobaba futhi angalokothi ashiye uhlangothi lwami.….ngivele ngidumele ngakho konke lokhu, ngiyazi ukuthi ingunaphakade yinde….angazi nje ukuthi ngithini ngakho…ngiyajabula ukuthi ngifundile okuthunyelwe kwakho, kungenze ngacabanga, kodwa ngisasemafini ngakho……ngingumKristu, futhi angazi noma kufanele ngihlale kulobu budlelwano noma ngivele ngiphonse ithawula…..ngimthanda ngenhliziyo yami yonke, ngimanqikanqika nje komunye umuntu wesi-2 uma kwenzeka lokho kwenzeka, uthe uzozama ngakho konke okusemandleni akhe, kodwa kuthiwani uma kwenzeka, umbuzo….
Ungakwenzi, uma indoda isivele icabanga omunye wesifazane ngisho nangaphambi kokushada nawe, ngokusobala angeke abe nothando ngawe, uxolo :(. Ukuthi ngiyakuthanda akwanele ;).
Angilandeli nkolo, wakhuliswa engumKristu.
Lve !
Umsebe wokuqala wokukhanya kwangempela engiwubonile kulawa mazwana adabukisayo nacindezelayo. Nakuba ngayijabulela kakhulu indaba ka-zuhrA.
Kungani owesifazane oyiMuslim ehlale etshelwa ukuthi ukuphila kulo mhlaba kuwuvivinyo nesilingo kuye futhi kufanele amukele umshado wesibili womyeni nakuba kumzwisa ubuhlungu kakhulu. Kungani kuthiwa akabekezele agxile kuye kuphela “akhira” futhi ucele u-Allah akuphe umoya nokukhuthazela futhi uzame ukuziphatha kahle, kangcono nakakhulu kunakuqala kumyeni wakhe ukuze angalahlekelwa indawo yakhe enhliziyweni yakhe noma ekuphileni kwakhe?
Kungani amadoda angamaMuslim enikezwe imvume yokuhlukumeza amakhosikazi awo noma inini empilweni yawo yomshado ngesithembu?
Kungani amadoda engatshelwa ukuthi agxile ku-aakhira kunokumane agcwalise izifiso zawo zobulili kulo mhlaba? Kufanele futhi batshelwe ukuba baneliswe umfazi oyedwa futhi bathandaze kakhulu futhi bacele ukuthula kwengqondo nenhliziyo kuAllah. Why only wife has to live her whole life with only sabr and pain.womshado wesibili womyeni?
yebo sure , uzokuthanda lokho. zinike isikhathi sokumazisa ukuthi ukhona ekuziqiniseni kwakho okumatasa, impilo yakho enenzuzo ephezulu; dadewethu oyi-Muslim othandekayo. I-qur'an engcwele ithi u-Allah subhana allah wa taa'al uyamvumela ukuthi athathe abafazi abangafika kwabane inqobo nje uma ethola wonke amabhokisi omthetho adingekayo.. uxolo kodwa akusona isinqumo sakho ukuthi uya esihogweni noma cha, empeleni uma ukumvumela ukuthi ashade kugcina umshado wenu undawonye, khona-ke ukuhlupheka okuchichimayo kuyakwehlela phezu kwakho, empeleni kakhulu kuwe kunomyeni wakho. … futhi okubi kakhulu (i-halal) into emshadweni isehlukaniso………..ngilungise uma kukhona ongalungile!
IQuran iyasho ukuthi indoda ivunyelwe ukuthatha abafazi abangafika kwabane kodwa kuphela uma inamandla okubanakekela. Akuyona i-wajib umfowethu iwukukhetha/ukuzikhethela kwaMadoda.
Ngokwami uma umyeni wami ekhetha ukuthatha unkosikazi wesibili angeke ngibe nomona noma ngimyeke ngoba umshado kimi awukona othandweni wukuba nezingane nokubakhulisela endaweni enempilo.. Okuwukuphela kwemfuneko yami kuyoba ukuthi angiphathe ngomusa futhi anginikeze indawo yokuhlala ehlukene.
Whats up with sarcasm at the beginning of your post is wifey ikuziba.
Wena mnumzane unendaba elungile ukuthi abantu abaningi lapha bangu-A. Kusukela ezwekazini :p repression central kanye no-B. Bazalwa futhi bakhulela entshonalanga, ikakhulukazi e-UK lapho sino-Ulema manje anikeza imvume yokuthi amaMuslimah ashade namadoda angamaKristu futhi ayibize ngokuthi i-Halal.…..
Ingxenye ephathelene nocansi iyinhlekisa. Akekho okufanele aphoqwe ukuthi aye ocansini uma engahambisani nalo.
Ngivuma ngokuphelele. Ngakufunda lokho, futhi ngethuka! Akekho okufanele enze ucansi uma engafuni! Ngiyazi ukuthi amadoda ayalufisa ucansi, kodwa bangamadoda futhi kufanele bakwazi ukukulawula futhi bamukele ukuthi bangabafazi ngezinye izikhathi abafuni ukukwenza.
Nginesiqiniseko sokuthi kusemongweni ukuthi amadoda kufanele azame ukunxenxa omkawo, esikhundleni sokuthi ‘asihambe”.
Yebo, futhi ungacabanga ukuthi kuzoba nengxoxo ethe xaxa ngale ndlela lapha! kulungile ke, ingane izinyathelo….
Well kufanele ngalokho ngaphambi kokushada ke, ungathanda ukuthi aye komunye umuntu.
Salamu'alaikum wa rahmatuLlahi wa barakatuh,
Qaphelani bosisi. Uma uAllah ethi kithi, abesifazane, ukwanelisa isifiso sabayeni bethu,
kufanele senze kanjalo. Ngisho noma singafuni ukukwenza.
Assalamo alaikum wa rahmatoolah,
Ngithola lokhu kungenye yezingxenye eziphazamisa kakhulu ze-Islam. Ngiyi-revert alhomdolillah futhi ngishade nendoda eyiSulumane engakholeki. U-Alhomdolillah uthambile futhi uyaqondisisa uma ngingafuni ukusondelana kodwa amanye amadoda awanamusa kangako.
Ngibona sengathi izitho zethu zangasese zithengiwe futhi simane sikhokhelwa izitho zangasese okufanele zitholakalele ucansi 100% yesikhathi kungakhathalekile imizwa yethu. Kuyangikhathaza ngempela. Ini, wamnika uMahr imali, ngakho manje ungowakhe futhi uyisigqila sakhe socansi?
Lokhu akuyona inkinga kimina uqobo, kodwa ngempela lokhu ngikuthola kuwukucwasa ngokobulili ngendlela emangalisayo (akukho pun okuhlosiwe) futhi kuba sengathi imizwa yowesifazane ayibalulekile neze lapho umyeni wakhe enomsindo. Indlela azizwa ngayo ayibalulekile kunokwehla kwakhe.
Akukho ukuphikisana e-Islam nhlobo,azikho izintuba….uma umyeni wakho ekuthanda kakhulu futhi ungekho esimweni sokuthandana ngeke alale ethukuthele ngoba awuzange uvume,.Kufanele kube nokuqonda btw u.it akukhathaleki imizwa yakho
Bangu, kodwa mnumzane, izindinganiso ezimbili- futhi ngicabanga ukuthi lokho kuyingxenye yempande yalokho abantu abaningi lapha abaphikisana nakho ukuthi bayakucasukela.
lokho kuyingxenye yemvelo yomuntu, noma ngabe ungumSulumane noma cha. Kunemibhalo eyisigidi kanye neyodwa ku-inthanethi ebhalwe abangewona amaSulumane esho into efanayo. Kuyisidingo somuntu. U-ALLAAH wabenza kanjalo. Umhlahlandlela womuntu ongumSulumane nguMprofethi ukuthula kube kuye. Bheka indlela abehamba ngayo namakhosikazi akhe. Yonke ingxenye yempilo yakhe yayibhalwe phansi. Futhi akekho kumakhosikazi akhe owake wakhononda ngalutho. Wayenomusa futhi emnene kubo. ngeshwa akuwona wonke umuntu ongumSulumane onjalo kulezi zinsuku futhi mhlawumbe lokho kuholela emizweni eminingi engemihle abesifazane abanayo ngemishado eminingi., njll.
Ngavumelana nalokho owakusho, manje izinsuku abantu abasoze bafana nomprofethi wethu ukuthula makube phezu kwakhe.
Nami- njengendoda- ngiyajabula ukuthi ngikhuliswe ngendlela ephucuzekile, futhi nginamandla okulawula umuzwa wami wemvelo futhi ngilangazelele okuthile okwengeziwe. Mhlawumbe ngisho yizicukuthwane- ingqondo okungenani.
Angisadingi izaba zokuziphatha ngokungacabangeli, Nginokuningi kokuphila komphakathi wonke okungikhuthaza ukuba ngibe nolaka nobudlova.
Ucansi emadodeni luboniswa ngaphandle, nakwabesifazane kufihlwe ekujuleni kwayo. Uma wena wesilisa unganeliseki nguwe ocansini kanti uphuma uyodla isinkwa, angase awele kokunye, futhi ekugcineni kungase kuholele ekubeni inhlekelele enkulu kunaleyo “Ucansi ngaphandle kwemizwa/Ukungafuni”. Uma owesifazane enqaba ukududuza umyeni wakhe, kufana nokuthi umyeni wenqaba ukondla noma ukuvikela umndeni wakhe ngoba engekho esimweni sokwenza kanjalo. Kuwumsebenzi omisiwe wenkosikazi ukududuza umyeni wakhe, futhi umvikele ngokuzitika entweni engekho emthethweni noma ekuphazanyisweni kwemithwalo yakhe yemfanelo.
“angifuni” futhi usaqhubeka nakho? Lokho ngikubiza ngokudlwengula.
Ngicela ucabange ngaphambi kokuthi ubhale, nithi iHadith iyinhlekisa
Assalam alaykum
udadewabo uFatima, Sengathi u-Allah angakuthethelela. Ungasebenzisi noma yiliphi igama elihlambalazayo ukuveza imizwa yakho. Ngingamane ngithi dont even feel. Ngoba ISLAM ukuphela kwendlela yokuphila ephelele. Uma uzwa ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle yenza ucwaningo ngaleso sihloko futhi InshaALLAH kusobala uzoyithola impendulo yakho. Uthe “Akekho okufanele aphoqwe……..”. Angizange ngithole lutho lokuphoqelelwa. Ngisho no-ALLAH Akaphoqi Ukuthandaza. U-ALLAH usitshela izinto eziningi okufanele sizenze futhi ngayinye yazo zonke izinto ukuze sithuthuke. Ezinye zezindlela esizithandayo kanti ezinye asizithandi. Lokho akusho ukuthi noma yini esiyithandayo yinhle futhi ukuphumula kuyihlaya. Kwesinye isikhathi asizizwa sifuna ukuvuka ekuseni sicele i-salah kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi isikhathi esingenangqondo. engikuqaphelile ku-hadith “Lapho indoda ibiza umkayo embhedeni wayo, futhi angaphenduli futhi yena (umyeni) ulala naye ubusuku bonke, izingelosi ziyamthuka kuze kuse.
Bukhari kanye Muslim”
“futhi yena (umyeni) uchitha ubusuku ethukuthele”.. Uma echitha ubusuku ethukuthele naye lokho kusho ukuthi uma ungamkholisa ngeke athukuthele futhi azikho izingelosi ezikuqalekisayo.. Ngicabanga ukuthi wonke umyeni omuhle ongumSulumane uyayiqonda inkinga yomkakhe futhi ngeke athukuthele uma unkosikazi enenkinga ethile. Isitatimende sami esingenhla besisekelwe kulokho engikuqondisile esihlokweni. Ngilungise uma nginephutha. Ngizokwazisa lokho. Fee amanillah. Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah.
Asalam or Alakum
Namuhla, uma kukhona ucwaningo lwasentshonalanga olusho lokho ” unganqabi umyeni wakho ngocansi uma efuna” futhi umcwaningi anganikeza noma yikuphi “xyz” isizathu, khona-ke ngeke kube khona “ehlekisayo” futhi “ingxenye ephazamisayo ye-Islam”. Wonke amagama awarekhodwa lapha kuphela kodwa futhi aqoshwa ingunaphakade ku-AKHARAT. Amazwi ethu angasuswa lapha kodwa hhayi LAPHO.
As Salaamu alaikum Fatima and Leila,
Anginaso isiqiniseko sokuthi babesemhlabeni okukhona kodwa uhlala entshonalanga futhi yonke inkulumo-ze yezocansi esihlaselwa ngayo iyi-fitna enhle kakhulu.. Enye yezinhloso zokushada ukuvikela izitho zangasese. Ngivumelana nokungaphoqwa futhi ngokuqinisekile umyeni wakho unozwelo ngawe uma ugula noma ukhathele uvela emsebenzini (ngaphakathi nangaphandle kwekhaya) futhi mhlawumbe nokusebenzelana nezingane usuku lonke kodwa Kubalulekile futhi ukuqaphela ukuthi ukulindela umyeni wakho ukuba alawule izifiso zakhe akulungile.. UMprofethi (ukuthula nezibusiso zikaAllah makube kuye) yathi uma indoda ingashiya ikhaya layo futhi ibone okuthile okufisayo, kufanele abuyele kumkakhe futhi asuthe. InshaAllah Nawe uklonyeliswe kathathu , kanye ukufeza isifiso ngokusebenzisa izindlela ze-halal, kabili ngoba nakuba wawunjalo “hhayi emoyeni” usafeza isifiso samadoda akho futhi okwesithathu ngoba ulalele umyeni wakho. Kwangathi u-Allah anganibusisa nobabili.
akekho ophoqa muntu luv. akuyona inkinga leyo. buyela emuva esitatimendeni sethisisi sokuqala ( qiniseka ukuthi uyazi ukuthi bekuyini ngempela inkinga, funda impendulo futhi uma ungazi, hlala nomyeni wakho niqinisekise ukuthi nobabili niyaqonda ukuthi umbuzo nempendulo benikhuluma ngani. yenza konke lokhu ngaphambi kokuba ulale futhi insha allah ekugcineni uzoqaphela okuningi ngomshado wangempela.
uma umyeni wakho eyeka ukulalela futhi enqaba ukukusiza ukuthi uqonde lokho okufunayo ngokucacile, kodwa kunalokho ufuna futhi afune ukuba nalokho yena yedwa akudingayo futhi nganoma iyiphi indlela edingekayo athathe lokho akudingayo. khona-ke unelungelo lokuhlukana naye futhi ufune ngokufanelekile isehlukaniso enkantolo ye-shariah (uma izenzo zakhe zinobudlova nobugovu futhi zilimaza kuwe ngakho-ke i-dua yethu inawe ngempela. khumbula ukuthi u-allah akaze alethe okwengeziwe kumuntu abangakwazi ukubhekana naye noma ukukuthwala. Uma ingakubulali ingakwenza ube namandla!!!! Allahhu Akbar!!!!!
Lona umbono wamaSulumane nokho. UMA ukholelwa ku-Islam naku-Allah kuzofanele ukholwe ukuthi uma owesifazane enqaba ukuya ocansini nomyeni wakhe, khona-ke uyona. Kunjalo nje, kuzo zonke izikole zomcabango e-Islam. Kunezinto ezithile owesifazane angazifaka esivumelwaneni sakhe somshado ukuze avimbele indoda. omunye odabeni lwesithembu anganqaba umyeni wakhe kuso uma kusenkontileka ye-nikkah. Nokho ucansi luyilungelo elikhulu lendoda emshadweni. Kuhamba kude ku-Islam ukuthi uma owesifazane efisa ukuzila ngokuzithandela (hhayi lezo zeRamadan) UDINGA imvume yabayeni bakhe! ngoba indoda ingase ifune ubulili futhi umkayo ube enqaba ngenxa yokuzila kwakhe. Ngakho lokho kukhombisa ngempela ukuthi likhulu kangakanani ilungelo lendoda kulolu daba. ucansi kanye nokuzala izingane kungamalungelo amakhulu amadoda emshadweni. (Lona wonke umbono wamaSulumane futhi ngimane ngiwusho kuzo zonke izikole zokucabanga kwe-Islam)
Cha. Uma owesifazane enqaba ukuya ocansini nomyeni futhi eqonda ukuthi kungani enqaba kusho ukuthi akoni. Njengoba uMohammed Mynul Islam esho, ““futhi yena (umyeni) uchitha ubusuku ethukuthele”.. Uma echitha ubusuku ethukuthele naye lokho kusho ukuthi uma ungamkholisa ngeke athukuthele futhi azikho izingelosi ezikuqalekisayo.. Ngicabanga ukuthi wonke umyeni omuhle ongumSulumane uyayiqonda inkinga yomkakhe futhi ngeke athukuthele uma unkosikazi enenkinga ethile.” Ngivumelana naye. Uzoqalekiswa KUPHELA uma umyeni wakhe ethukuthele. Amadoda kufanele abe yizinhloko zomkhaya, ukuba yinhloko yomndeni akusho nje ukudlulisa imiyalo. Kusho futhi ukuba yinhloko ekuthetheleleni, ukuqonda, uthando nesihawu.
Ngavumelana nawe.
Uma owesifazane enqaba ukuya ocansini nomyeni wakhe, mhlawumbe umyeni wakhe kufanele abuze ukuthi kungani ekwenzela lokhu — futhi empeleni ulalele ukuthi uthini. Ingabe umyeni uba mnene uma eya ocansini? Ingabe uyaphana noma unobugovu, ecabanga nje injabulo yakhe. Ingabe uphinda umnyakazo othile awubone efilimini? Ingabe unokuqonda okuhle kwe-anatomy yomkakhe kanye ne-psychology. Ungathukutheli uma umkakho engajatshuliswa izenzo ezithile otshelwe ngomunye umuntu “uhlanyisa abantu besifazane”. Mhlawumbe kufanele ageze njalo, azilungise kahle, gqoka izingubo zombhede ezihlanzekile, ungamdeleli futhi ube umlingani ocabangayo ocansini. Uma ngiqinisile, ireferensi efanele ukuthi izingelosi zizoqalekisa umfazi owenqaba isicelo somyeni wakhe socansi. Le ndaba ye “ukwenqaba ucansi” ayithelwa kusimende. UMprofethi wawaxwayisa amadoda ukuthi angalimazi abafazi bawo bese elindela ucansi ngemva kwehora. Kulokho engakufundiswa, ireferensi yowesifazane owenqaba umyeni wakhe iwukudikibalisa abesifazane ukuthi badlale imidlalo yocansi nomyeni wakhe, i.e. ukubamba ucansi ngesizathu esithile esingenangqondo, ngesipho esisha noma isikhwama esibizayo, njll. Uma indoda ingazi, engazi noma engenandaba nezidingo zomkakhe ezingokomzwelo nezingokwenyama, wabe esemubekele iwashi ukuthi AKAFUNI ukuba naye. Bafowethu, umshado uhlanganisa abantu ababili. Ngakho qondani — Akukhona nje ngawe.
kahle sisi ungashadi ke. ukuthi into eyodwa umuntu ayidingayo njengokudla nesiphuzo. ngena ku-youtube ufune ikholi yevidiyo izinto okufanele uzazi owesifazane ngendoda.
Usisi Fatima, indoda ayivunyelwe ukuphoqa umkayo ukuba alale nayo. Inkosikazi inenkululeko yokuzikhethela yokukhetha ukuya ocansini nomyeni wayo noma cha. Umprofethi wethu uMuhammad (salallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) wavele wathi uma owesifazane evumela umyeni wakhe ukuba alale naye, bese kuba Alhamdulillah. Kodwa uma enqaba, ngemva kwalokho uzajeziswa. Lokhu akusho ukuthi amadoda anelungelo lokuphoqelela omkawo ukuba baye ocansini. Uma ungamvumeli umyeni wakho ukuba alale nawe ngaphandle ‘kokusebenza’ isizathu, khona-ke umyeni wakho kuzomele abekezele, kuyilapho niyoqalekiswa yizingelosi kanye kanye. Unokukhetha okukhululekile kokunquma. E-Islam, asikwazi ukuphoqa muntu ukuthi enze noma yini, njengoba iKur’an isho: “Ngeke kube khona ukuphoqelelwa ukungena (ukwamukelwa kwe) inkolo.” (I-Qur'an: Isahluko 2, Ivesi 256)
Isihloko esihle sika-SubhanAllah mashAllah..kwangathi u-Allah angakuvuza kakhulu kuwo yomibili imihlaba ngokusabalalisa ulwazi lokuthula.xx
Inombolo 4 udoti..just coz umbhali udelela abanye abantu besifazane noma ucabanga ukuthatha omunye umfazi akusho ukuthi amadoda enza .. amadoda amaningi avamile empeleni aneliswa umfazi oyedwa…..futhi kuyasebenza okufanayo 2 abesifazane hhayi amadoda kuphela …abaningi ‘ngokuqondile’ owesifazane ufisa namanye amadoda kodwa kusobala der not gna ukutshela abayeni babo LOL. Yeka into eyisilima ongayikhuluma. Cabanga nje uma othile ekutshela ukuthi ‘Hhayi ungakhathazeki umkakho ucabanga ngamanye amadoda kuyinto evamile ngokuphelele’ ungazizwa kanjani?? Abesifazane bazizwa ngendlela efanayo, abe nenhlonipho kancane
Ngivumelana nawe kakhulu… Ngethuka ngibona indlela i-da matter ebekwe ngayo… sengathi akuyona into enkulu….
Amanye amaphuzu ashiwo kulesi sihloko mahle,kodwa lokho akukuthetheleli ukuba ngobulili!Wonke amadoda acabanga ngokuba nomunye umfazi??I dont buy that.Atleast umyeni wami doesnt.Angivumelani nalokho.
Ngiyabonga!!! Ekugcineni, amadoda ahlakaniphile akhona!! I-HARAM yayo ukubheka abanye abantu besifazane ukuqala ngakho kungaba kuhle kanjani ukuthi bahehe abanye abantu besifazane….Angibheki futhi angicabangi ngomunye umuntu ngaphandle komyeni wami!!
Sawubona Kay,
Ngiyamazi umuntu othi uyamthanda umkakhe kodwa aphinde ashade! Angiqondi lapho abesifazane abalungile bezinikela kubayeni babo kodwa amadoda afune i-2nd, 3rd, nabafazi besi-4 kwezinye izimo? Impela uma umthanda umkakho wena “ungakwenzi lokho.” Ingabe imizwa yabo ayisabalwa? Uma owesilisa ethanda omunye wesifazane, kusho ukuthi akakaze amthande ngempela owokuqala?
subhan ALLAH. singabuza kanjani umyalo ka-ALLAHER. ngokwazi kwami iningi lendoda linomfazi oyedwa. ngakho ungakhathazeki.lol
Kudos kumbhali. @ sara ecabanga ngawe ngaphambi komyeni wakho (uzoshada noma ushade) uyiHaraam? Lokhu kuphendula umbuzo oqondiswe kumbhaliR.
@ sara kokuthunyelwe kwangaphambilini ungalichaza igama elithi 'okuvamile'? Khona-ke ulwazi lwakho lungase ‘luqonde’.
Sanibonani,ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi isihloko esilotshiwe sithembekile futhi singabasiza abanye kodwa ngoNkulunkulu sekudlule amakhulu eminyaka ezama ukufundisa abesifazane indlela yokujabulisa abayeni babo,hhayi ukuthi akusekho isidingo 4 okwamanje sekuyisikhathi njengeQuran engcwele lapho abesifazane bezobuza ukuthi yini iphutha lami!!! .ungafundisa isimilo nenhlonipho n yonke into kumuntu wesifazane cause uyamdlisa kodwa ofundisa ihhashi lasendle ligijima ngomhobholo wokunqoba izwe.izindlebe zami ziboshiwe ukulalela izwi “ukucindezela kontanga”.exposer n all that crap.by God there's a thing called shaitan n we all have to fight it. noma yini oyizwayo kuyibhizinisi lakho nje,lokho okwenzayo kwabanye yilokho okubalulekile.hamba ngokuphupha,ngisho neNkosi ayikubeki umbuso kodwa 4 heavens sake ur wife is a human and it is quiet possible infact true in most cases in our so called MUSLIM SOCIETIES that women do all that n mre.i am a living example ni wont let anyone drop me down by justifying mens actions after all that ive been thru.bosisi bami engibathandayo ngimuhle,,uthando ,othembekile akakaze anqabe ucansi,even for a single day.he used to tell me ur the goddess ov it all.Nkosi yami kwakumele ingiwise ngoba ngenza indoda yami inkosi yami.yebo!!! theres a thing called devil n he took the better of my husband n waphinda waziphinda esenzweni sakhe sokungcatshwa.god damn it hurts.n its all this male mustangs fault.respect,ha!!! ngike ngiqabule izinyawo zakhe,enuka umcamelo n shirts ,wanakekela umama wakhe wamukela izihlobo zakhe.n now theres nothing but hurt n ppl tell me to 4give.HELL!!! yebo siyabheka 4 amadoda angabalandeli bakanabi omkhulu hhayi abalandeli bakadeveli nezinto zabo ezibizwa ngokuthi ontanga .
Sister Sabeeqa, lokhu kuphila kuwuvivinyo kithi ukuze sithole umvuzo ekuphileni okuzayo.
Wenze umsebenzi wakho ngendlela efanele, lokho kusho ukuthi uphumelele esivivinyweni sakho ngamamaki amahle, noma yini umyeni wakho ayenzile, Uyolandisa ngalokho kuAllah.
Cabanga nje ukuthi yini oyenzile kungenxa yokuthi u-Allah ukucele ukuba wenze lokhu (kuhlanganisa yonke inhlonipho/ukunakekela okunike umyeni wakho), futhi ucabange ukuthi u-Allah nakanjani uzojabula nawe coz wenze njengoba ecelile.
Kwangathi u-Allah anganipha ukuthula enhliziyweni nakulokhu kuphila nasempilweni elandelayo. Ameen.
Sinohlangothi Lwakho endabeni dade. Qala ulethe umyeni wakho azoziphendulela. Ngiyakucela mfowethu & odade abaqali ukwahlulela ngokuxhamazela. Kubonakala sengathi ilindele fatwa & uma ekhona-ke – inhlanhla enzima, engqongqoza emnyango ongafanele.
Sanibonani
Kwangathi u-Allah angaba nesihe kini nonke
Jazakumullah Khairan, sengathi u-Allah angakuqinisa futhi akunike ukuhlakanipha okwengeziwe. Uma abesifazane abangamaSulumane bengamukela lezi zeluleko nezeluleko, khona-ke imishado yethu izoba mnandi. Wenze kahle
jazaksllah for zonke d luvly izeluleko
Ngithola iphuzu 3 kunalokho omnyama nomhlophe. Ikakhulukazi iHadith. Kwesinye isikhathi abesifazane bayenqaba ukuya ocansini ngezizathu zokugula, ukukhulelwa, ukubeletha njll. kusho ukuthi uzoqalekiswa ubusuku bonke. Impela umyeni ongumSulumane ubengamamukela futhi amhloniphe umkakhe ngokugcwele
Ulwazi lwalezi zindaba. Ngakho-ke ukungamlindele uma engaphilile. Angikwazi ukuzibamba kodwa ngizwa le Hadith ihlale ikhula amadoda athanda ukuyisebenzisa kodwa akukho mizwa yokuthi amadoda acabangele..
Ngicabanga ukuthi udaba esikhathini samanje abantu besifazane baphakanyiswa ngomqondo wokuthi amadoda aphelele kunabo, futhi njengabesifazane. Iqiniso liwukuthi amadoda nabesifazane abafani, ngakho-ke lapho ungaqhubeka khona lapho kuba ngcono. Uma umhlonipha umyeni wakho nezidingo zakhe ISA uzohlonipha ezakho. Uma ungalindele ke ungalindeli lukhulu kuye. Asiphili ezinganekwaneni, abayeni bethu abathandeki, amadoda abo angempela anezidingo zangempela, izifiso, futhi yebo ngisho nemizwa njengathi. Uma ungakwazi ngaphandle kwalokho zilungiselele ukudumazeka. (gcwalisa izidingo zabo, izifiso, futhi imizwa ingase yehluke kweyethu kodwa isekhona)
Inkosana ebukekayo!!! Ngiyaqinisekisa odade abacabangi ngamadoda phela wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi u-Allah wadala amadoda nabesifazane ngendlela ehlukile.
110% wavuma.
bengizosusa #7 ukube bengingumbhali wale ndatshana i-TBH. Ngabona intombazane ethile ehluphekayo ehlukunyezwayo ifunda lokho futhi iziqinisekisa futhi ibuya ukuthola okwengeziwe.
amasenti ami amabili nje
Isihloko esihle, nakuba ngicabanga inombolo 4 udinga ukuhamba.
Ukufunda leso sihloko ‘ucabanga ngabanye abantu besifazane’ bese kuba olandelayo.. ‘ufuna ukukujabulisa’
KAHLE, muhle umsebenzi owenziwe lapho.
Ngiqinisekile ukuthi inkosikazi ngayinye izojabula ngalokho. -_-
Kunalokho ziyizitatimende eziphikisanayo.
into enkulu, umfazi akajabuli ngokuthi umyeni wakhe uyindoda nokuba nesithembu ngokwemvelo
futhi amadoda awajabule ngabesifazane ezintweni eziningi futhi. khula uyeke ukudlala isisulu. lutho
Asalamulaykum.
Ngiyakuthanda lokhu. jazakallahu khayr.
Ozithobayo, lokhu kwakuvula amehlo. Ngangikuthanda konke.
Sawubona kubo bonke abafowethu nodadewethu abangamaSulumane abafunda lesi sihloko kanye nesithangami saso,
Lesi sihloko sinolwazi. Kodwa kunezici ezithile zalokho okudingeka zilungiswe. Indoda ecabanga ngabanye abantu besifazane udaba- ngeke athole ubuqotho obungako,inhlonipho kanye ne “ucansi epuletini” ukuthi alilindele kumkakhe. Kufanele izuzwe. Eqinisweni isebenza ngezindlela zombili- umfazi uyoba qotho futhi alalele, ubulili njll kuphela lapho EZIZWA elondekile emshadweni.
Ngicela ukuveza ukuthi umshado unzima kakhulu kubo bobabili. Ukubekezela kuphela, inhlonipho nokuzikhandla kwabo bobabili abashadile ngokuhlanganyela kuyizimfanelo ezimbalwa ezingenza umshado uphumelele. Kumayelana nokupha nokuthatha.
astaghfirullah ngenombolo 4!!!! umbhali udinga ukuhlola kabusha ukuziphatha kwakhe kwamaSulumane! nihola abafundi abangamaSulumane endleleni engalungile! Ngehlazo!
Ngisho nami ngiyavumelana nayo, kumele uthini ngalokhu….?
Kuvunyelwene…!
NKULUNKULU CHA KHALA kosikazi emotionless
Naphezu kwenhlonipho yakhe,ukwethembeka n etc etc uma esazocabanga ngabanye abantu besifazane noma kanjani…'awukwazi nje ukuthethelela ngokuthi wonke amadoda enza kanjalo noma imvelo yawo
Osisi, Ngithatha lokhu njengethuba lokuqeda ukungaqondi kahle kwaleli hadeeth. Kuwo wonke ama-hadeeth kukhona incazelo nokuqondisisa okumele kuzuzwe. I-hadith ayiyona i-carte blanche yokuthi indoda ize njalo ebusuku izocela ucansi bese kuthi lapho inqatshiwe ibambe lokhu phezu kwekhanda layo.. I-Islam imayelana nokunengqondo nokucabanga okucacile. I-hadith ihloselwe abantu ababili abashadile futhi abangaba yindoda nomfazi ongcono kakhulu komunye nomunye. Lokhu kuhlanganisa ukuhloniphana nokwethembeka komunye nomunye, kanye nemizwa yothando nothando komunye nomunye. Ngakho uma indoda ibuza umkayo, futhi leli yiphuzu elihle, i-hadith ithi “KUBUZA umkakhe”, hhayi ngenkani kuye, futhi uthi cha ngaphandle kwesizathu, ukuze abuyele kuye, ngoba bayalwa futhi ufuna ukumfundisa isifundo. Kodwa kwabashadile abavumelanayo nabazwanayo futhi bazi ukuthi mhlawumbe nibe nosuku olude, ucindezelekile ngomsebenzi, Ukukhathazeka kwakho ngezivivinyo zezingane zakho njll. Umyeni kufanele aqonde futhi ngalokho isijeziso se-hadith asisebenzi. Lokho akusho ukuthi amanye amadoda angama-Muslim anengqondo encane awathathi incazelo efanele ku-hadith futhi ayisebenzisele inzuzo yawo., futhi empeleni ukungasebenzi kwabo ngoba balahlekelwa uthando, ukwethenjwa nokuhlonipha omkabo. Ngethemba ukuthi lokho kunikhanyisela okuthile ngale ndaba. Sanibonani
Ngivumelana nawe sengathi u-Allah Asithethelele futhi asisize sibe nokuqonda okungcono nge-deen yethu.
Siyabonga ngokukwenza kucace, Ngavele ngashaqeka ngalama comments 0.0
Esho kahle mfowethu. Kumayelana nemvume nhlangothi zombili. Izikole eziningi zomcabango nazo zidinga ukuthi indoda igcwalise izidingo zocansi zomkayo futhi lokhu akulahlwa nhlobo yile Hadith engicabanga ukuthi abanye abantu banomuzwa wokuthi kungenzeka..
Assalama aleikum,
Ngingathi abanye osisi plz know the different between yr opinion and the prove of the hathis or quran, ocabanga ukuthi akunandaba ukuthi uthini u-allah.
Kulungile….kumele siqonde ukuthi umbhali ukhuluma nje njengoba injalo…..amadoda acabanga ngabanye abantu besifazane…njengoba kwenza abesifazane kwamanye amadoda….akusho ukuthi noma uzothatha isinyathelo ngakho. Mayelana nento yocansi….iqaran iyasitshela lokhu….ngethemba ukuthi abayeni bethu bayayiqonda futhi bayayicabangela imizwa yethu….kodwa kuyisibopho sethu …..Sekukonke…lesi sihloko sasiwusizo kakhulu…futhi kwangisiza ukuba ngiqonde umyeni wami kakhudlwana…njengoba ngingumuntu obuya kumasiko aseNtshonalanga futhi umyeni wami ungowaseNyakatho afrika….ukukhathazeka kwami okukhulu emshadweni wethu kube ukuthi akakhulumi futhi ahlanganyele nami ngendlela engangizizwa ngayo. ngiyaqonda manje ukuthi kungani…futhi sithemba ukuthi singajwayelana ngokwengeziwe. Ngiyabonga
Assalamualaikum bafowethu nodadewethu,
Okokuqala, Ngithanda ukubonga umbhali wale post ngokwabelana ngolwazi.
Kubo bonke abesifazane abafunda le post, qonda ukuthi lokhu kwabhalwa ngenhloso enhle, abesifazane njalo bafuna ukuba nokuqonda kangcono ukucabanga indoda, ukwethembeka impela, umbhali ubehlose kuphela ukucacisa okwengeziwe ngalokho, konke lokhu kuyimvelo yamadoda, UAllah wasakha ngalendlela. Futhi-ke uma owesifazane engakwazi, khona-ke kunengqondo ukuthi akumele enze ucansi, cabanga nje ingqondo, akuzona zonke izinto okufanele zichazwe ngokuningiliziwe kuwe.
Futhi eziningi zalezi zinto zihamba ngazo zombili, siyakwazi lokho,geza umbhali ubemane enika umbono wabesilisa. Izimfundiso zethu zibuyela emuva kudala kakhulu, lokho uAllah akunikeze uMprofethi (PBUH) ukusifundisa kuyinto yokugcina, ukubuza akulungile.ukulingana kubalulekile, futhi sifundiswa lokho. Insha'Allah sonke singcono thina kanye nobudlelwano bethu.
Wa’Alaikumassalaam mfowethu ngiyaqonda kahle ukuthi uthini kodwa inombolo 4 ayihlangene ne-Islam. Uma ngithola ukuthi umyeni wami ucabanga ngabanye abantu besifazane ngangizomdivosa ngaso leso sikhathi
Uh lokho akulungile kakhulu? Ngakho-ke uzohlala lapha futhi uthi awukaze ukhangwe enye indoda ebukekayo? Sonke singabantu futhi sakhiwe kanjalo.
Wow i guess its ulwazi kanye nosizo ..JazakAllah
kuhle kakhulu …:-) Ngiyabonga
Mashaa Allaah,lesi bekuyisihloko esimnandi ukufunda. Ngikujabulele kakhulu futhi sengathi u-Allah angabusisa umbhali,amin.
Hmmm! isele kudadewethu othandekayo, jst vice-vasa sengathi u-ALLAH as us tru.tanx
InSha Allah. Mashallah izingcaphuno ezithakazelisayo kakhulu futhi ukucabanga.
Jazakalla hu khairan
As Salam Alaikum
UAllah wadala abesilisa nabesifazane ukuthi babe ngabangane bomunye nomunye, hhayi izimbangi. Omunye ugcwalisa lokho omunye okushodayo. Uma bobabili abalingani bekubona lokho & bahlose ukwenza umshado wabo uphumelele ngothando, inhlonipho & ukwethembeka ngeke badinge ukujikijela emuva naphambili amaHadith namavesi eQuranic ukuze nje bahlangane.
Kuyaqondakala ukuthi indoda noma owesifazane ongahloniphi noma ongazifezi izidingo zomlingani wakhe womshado (noma yini mhlawumbe) ngamabomu uzuza intukuthelo kaAllah.
Futhi noma iyiphi indoda nomfazi abathandanayo ngeke benze izinto
Inhloso nje ukubuyelana.
Uma bobabili abalingani bebekhathazeke kakhulu ngokuhlinzeka ngamalungelo omunye kunokulinda ukunikeza amalungelo kuphela uma bengaboni lutho olushodayo emalungelweni abawatholayo., Ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi impilo izoba lula kakhulu. Phela sizobuzwa ngezenzo zethu hhayi okwenziwa abanye noma abangakwenzanga.
Kwangathi u-Allah asiqondise sonke endleleni efanele.Ameen
Bekuyindatshana enhle futhi umbhali wayibhala ngenhloso enhle.
Urgh..Indlela esobala..indlela enjani yokusonta izinto ukuze ukhulume nezifiso zomuntu.. Ngivumelana no-sara ukuthi izingxenye ezithile zesihloko ziwudoti.
Izinto Uri Muslim Wife angeke Akutshele. 1) Inhlonipho iyatholwa. Uma uphila ngemali yakhe. Amemeze futhi amemeze kuye. Mshaye. Mthuse ngedivosi. kumbe omunye umfazi. Mphathe njengenceku. Mhleke noma uhlekise ngaye. Yiba nesikhathi esiningi sabangane bakho kunaye. njll. UNGALINDI IHLONIPHO. 2) Uma ubulili bakho bebuhle kakhulu, naye amenzele okufanayo. Uma engakujabuleli kakhulu njengo-U, udinga ukuthola ukuthi yini ayidingayo. Ucansi lukhipha ingcindezi. Ikhipha ama-antidepressants emvelo. Kufana nomuthi. Enkolweni evimbela ukudakwa, lena enye yezindlela ezimbalwa kakhulu zokuzizwa udakiwe noma uphakeme. Ngakho uma u-Uri emjabulisa, uzobeka izaba zokulala no-U not avoid U. 3) Uma ethanda u-U uzoba namehlo AKEKHO OMUNYE. Futhi uma engathandana no-U akusho ukuthi akakwazi ukuzinikela nokwethembeka. Eqinisweni, abesifazane abangamaSulumane namuhla bathatha izibopho zabo ngokungathi sína ukwedlula abazalwane. Osisi abaningi baphila impilo yabo nendoda ayengakaze ayithande kodwa engayazi. 4) Umkakho akayifuni imoto eyisiphukuphuku, ifoni ebizayo, noma idayimane elikhulu
d indandatho. Uma ekutshela ngenye indlela its bcuz ucabanga ukuthi thia is the best angathemba ngawe futhi umshado wakho usenkingeni enkulu. Wat she really want is ur love, ukubekezela, ukuze azizwe ephephile futhi elondekile emshadweni wakhe. Uma kukhona, uzocabanga ukuthi ukhohlisile noma wenze okuthile okungalungile uma ulokhu emjikijela nge-dunua
Kulungile 100%…..uma le post engenhla ikunikeza konke ngereferensi futhi inspite yalokhu awukwamukeli kusho ukuthi ungumuntu wamazayoni…futhi umuntu wesifazane musa ukwenza eyakho imithetho nemithetho leli zwe yisihogo ngenxa yemicabango yakho eyisiphukuphuku ukutholile
Subhan Allah..JazakAllah,.. Ngizozijwayeza , Lapho ngithola uMaried.. Insha Allah 🙂
oh nkulunkulu, kwakwethusa ukufunda lokhu nokubona ukuthi kukhona isiko lonke labantu abacabanga ngale ndlela futhi baphile ngale ndlela. Hhayi ukuthuka, Bengingaqondile kanjalo. yilokho nje, njengomuntu wangaphandle, lesi sihloko senze kwazwakala sengathi abesifazane bayimpahla yabayeni babo… noma ngikuqonda ngokungalungile lokhu? bonke ‘baqalekisiwe ngokungesona isigqila somuntu wakho embhedeni’ into yezwakala ngokwedlulele…
hey sista. insizwa inomsebenzi wokugcina umkayo ‘eduduzekile’ ngaphambi kokuba acabange ngobugovu ngokwaneliseka kwakhe. uma uthola izitatimende ezinjalo ziyinqaba noma zithembeke kakhulu khumbula ukuthi umfana uthanda ukwazi, ngokwethembeka, ukuthi angakwazi ukwenza okusemandleni akhe futhi asebenzise amakhono namakhono akhe kangcono kakhulu ezidingweni zemvelo zoMlawuli wakhe Wekhwalithi.
AssalamuAlaykum ngijabule,couze indoda yami ingibhebha kakhulu uma kuza ucansi,uma efuna futhi engathandi ukwenza ucansi naye,avele athi kulungile… kodwa akathukuthele 2 mina..thans 4 izihloko ezimnandi n izeluleko…U-Allah uyaphila..
hmmm uyajabula; kodwa ujabule ngempela? zinike isikhathi ukuthola. ungalindeli ukuthi ahlale enelisekile. empeleni id ngiqale ngizibuze ukuthi ngabe ubedlala kude, noma okungenani i-billiard ephaketheni kaningi kakhulu.. uma ehlale ebonakala enelisekile uma usho ‘ uyacabangela nje…….’
Assalam Alaikum!
Nakuba, owesilisa, Ngingasho ngephuzu lesi-3 ukuthi kuncike kakhulu esimweni:
1) Manje uma indoda ilala nomfazi wayo 3 ubusuku obulandelanayo futhi uma unkosikazi engakufuni ngobusuku besi-4 angicabangi ukuthi uzoqalekiswa ngakho.
2) Isho ngokusobala uma indoda “ulala ngolaka”, khona-ke uyakuqalekiswa. Uma owesifazane emqinisekisa ngandlela thize ukuthi angathukutheli noma abe nenkinga ethile yokuyigwema angicabangi ukuthi uzoqalekiswa.
3) Enye yezinto ezizogcina indoda yanelisekile. Kuyomvikela ezinhlotsheni zezono futhi kungase kumvimbele ekuyeni komunye wesifazane. Lokhu kuzogcina indoda ithembekile kuwe.
Ukuthula!
Ngicabanga ukuthi umbhali wenze umsebenzi omuhle. Wakwenza ngenhliziyo enhle, ngakho-ke gcina amahembe akho uma kwenzeka kube yilokho ongafuni ukuzwa. Okuncane kwamaphoyinti angu-7 nokho kunjalo #4. Akekho umuntu wesifazane ongajabula ukuyifunda futhi ngiphumela obala ngiveze umbono wami coz ayikho hadith noma ayat backin d point dat ur husband thinks abt other women. Okubalulekile nokho ukuthi ngiyayithanda indatshana yakho. Jazaakallahu khayran
Masha Allah, Iforamu efundisayo nesebenzisanayo. Jazakumullahi Khairan.
Lesi yisiqephu esihle uMasha Allah kunoma ubani othumele lokhu. Futhi kuyiqiniso impela kwesinye isikhathi ngizizwa ngingathandwa umyeni wami futhi ngihlala nginomuzwa wokuthi akahlanganyeli nami ngezinto. Kodwa manje sengikuqonda kangcono lokhu ngangicabanga ukuthi kwakuwumyeni wami kuphela owenza lokhu kodwa manje senginombono ongcono wezinto.! Ngiyabonga kakhulu jazakallahu khairan
Bengifuna ukusho ukuthi kungokwemvelo ukuthi amadoda acabange ngabanye abantu besifazane njengoba kungokwemvelo ukuthi abesifazane bacabange ngamanye amadoda. Singase singavunyelwa ukuba nabayeni abane kodwa ngiyakwenza kwaziwe kunoma yimuphi umfana othi uyangithanda ufuna ukungishada, njll. ukuthi kufanele ngijabule ngokomzwelo nangokobulili futhi uma kungenjalo, kukhona amanye amadoda njengawo amanye abesifazane. Futhi ayikho indoda ethanda ukwazi owesifazane efuna ukuba naye nakanjani izokhipha ibheyili uma ingamanelisi. Kodwa ukuxhumana nezinhloso zakho ngale ndlela kungcono (ngombono wami) kunokuthi ube nesikhwele ngowesilisa ecabanga abanye abantu besifazane ngoba leyo micabango iyabuya kuwe uma umqwashisa ngokuncintisana okungase kwenzeke, ikakhulukazi uma ezizwa njengowesifazane wakho omuhle kuye. Ayikho indoda ethanda ukwabelana ngowesifazane wayo noma ukulahlekelwa nguye kwenye indoda. Ngakho ngempela, #4 ngaye ecabanga abanye abantu besifazane akukubi, lelo lilungelo lakhe. Vele uqiniseke ukuthi uyazi eyakho ngaphambi kokuzihlanganisa nothile futhi uthembeke futhi ubonise izinhloso zakho.
Iphuzu elihle.
Amazwi eqiniso sisi… Nami angivumi #4
yebo sure , uzokuthanda lokho. zinike isikhathi sokumazisa ukuthi ukhona ekuziqiniseni kwakho okumatasa, impilo yakho enenzuzo ephezulu; odadewethu abathandekayo bamaSulumane
Yebo-ke kuthiwani uma sikhetha ukugxila phezulu okungenani asihlali ngezinhlangothi zethu ezingemuva nsuku zonke futhi siphile nge-JSA masonto onke. Uyazi ukuthi inkinga yabazalwane ikuphi ukuthi iningi labo alinazo izimfanelo ,bangabi nalutho lokuziqhenya ngento kuphela ebenza baqhubeke ukuzicabangela kwabo. Okungenani osisi banesifiso sokuvelela ,thatha i-deen yabo ngokungathi sína kanye nezindima ngokungathi sína. Umona Wakho nje!!!
Ngifuna ukusho ukuthi noma yibaphi abesifazane abakholwayo ngaphandle kokuthi umyeni wakhe usethathe unkosikazi wesibili.
Inqobo nje uma esesimweni esihle futhi ezinikele ngokwenkolo, njengoMprofethi (izibusiso nokuthula kukaAllah kube kuye) kusho: “Uma kufika kuwena ozibophezele enkolweni nesimo sakhe sengqondo esikuthokozisayo, bese ushada [isihlobo sakho sesifazane esingaphansi kwakho] kuyena, ngoba uba lingakwenzi lokho, kuyoba khona usizi nokonakala okukhulu emhlabeni.” Ilandiswa ngu-at-Tirmidhi (1084) kusukela ku-hadeeth ka-Abu Hurayrah (sengathi u-Allah angajabula ngaye)'
Uma enesimilo esihle futhi ezinikele ngokwenkolo uzohamba impilo yakhe yansuku zonke eqinisekisa ukuthi ulandela iSunnah yomprofethi kanye neQuran engcwele.. Futhi funani kuphela ukujabulisa uAllah subhana watala. Ngakho-ke isibonelo uma ekhetha ukuthatha unkosikazi wesibili kufanele aqinisekise ukuthi amalungelo abo bobabili abafazi bayafezeka.
Kufanele uzikhethele indoda enesimilo esihle futhi ezinikele ngokwenkolo, njengoMprofethi (izibusiso nokuthula kukaAllah kube kuye) kusho: “Uma kufika kuwena ozibophezele enkolweni nesimo sakhe sengqondo esikuthokozisayo, bese ushada [isihlobo sakho sesifazane esingaphansi kwakho] kuyena, ngoba uba lingakwenzi lokho, kuyoba khona usizi nokonakala okukhulu emhlabeni.” Ilandiswa ngu-at-Tirmidhi (1084) kusukela ku-hadeeth ka-Abu Hurayrah (sengathi u-Allah angajabula ngaye)'ibhalwe ngokuthi saheeh ngu-al-Albaaniy eSaheeh at-Tirmidhi.
Lokhu kungatholakala ngokucwaninga ngale ndoda futhi ibuze abangani bayo nomakhelwane, kanye ne-imam ye-mosque yakhe; akufanele usekele isinqumo sakho emizweni noma ezimangalweni ezingaqinisekisiwe.
Uma ube nenhlanhla yokuthola indoda enesimilo futhi ezinikele ngokwenkolo, bese ubusiswe ngento enhle. Lona okulindeleke ukuba angenzeleli futhi abe nobulungisa, kanye nokufeza imisebenzi nezibopho.
Ngokuzayo kuzoba nabesilisa abakhetha izinto zokholo ngokwesibonelo bazosebenzisa i-pologamy kodwa ngeke bagcine intshebe njengoba bengaboni lutho olubalulekile..
Ngicabanga ukuthi umzalwane obhale lesi sihloko kufanele ayihlele kabusha ngoba udlulisela umyalezo ongewona kubazalwane. (KUFANA NEKUSHO KWAKHE KULUNGILE UKUBA YI-MUSLAMU AYIVIVI-LAPHO AKUKHO)Abazalwane kufanele benze konke okusemandleni ukulingisa impilo yomphrofethi futhi akufanele kube izizathu zokuthi abafowethu bamatasatasa befundisa odade ukuthi bangaba kanjani amakhosikazi amahle lapho bekhohlwa yibo uqobo..
Ngaphezu kwalokho ukuqhathaniswa njalo nomprofethi Muhammad (SAW) kuyinto enhle izokusiza ukuthi uthuthuke.
Ngiyathanda ukuphawula kwakho dade futhi ngiyavuma 100%
Kulabo muslimah abangajabule ngokuqukethwe, ngicela ukhumbule isihloko sithi “7 Izinto Umyeni Wakho WamaSulumane Angeke Akutshele”. Akusebenzi kubo bonke abazalwane kodwa lezi yizinto ezisengqondweni yabo okungenzeka ukuthi bangeke bakutshele ngazo (ebona inkulumo-mpikiswano iqhubeka ngenhla, kunesizathu esihle sokuthi kungani bekhetha ukungasitsheli) 😉 injabulo
Ngeneliseke kakhulu ngalesi sihloko ukuthi sixazulule inkinga yami enkulu…jazakallahu khaira
JazakAllahu khairan siyajabula ukwazi lokhu
Salaam ingabe haram noma halal ukunikeza umyeni wakho kusengaphambili?
Ngiyabonga ngiyabonga DR ABULU ngomsebenzi omuhle osanda kuwenza empilweni yami , igama lami ngingu-ALVINA ngishade nomyeni wami iminyaka emibili sihlala ndawonye ngokujabula futhi sobabili siyathandana kule minyaka emibili kuze kube sebusuku obunye nje ngibuya emsebenzini ngenxa yokwesaba ukuhamba futhi waqala ukubuza. wathi akasangithembi futhi usengaqhubeka nalomshado wangixosha emzini wakhe engazi kuyena ukuthi ngithwele ingane yakhe enezinyanga ezimbili ngaphakathi kimi ngazama ukumazisa kodwa waphumelela.,ngisalalele bengicabanga ukuthi ngeke ngiphinde ngimthole futhi bengimthanda kakhulu futhi ngiyathembisa ukuthi ngeke ngiphumule ngize ngikwazi ukumbuyisela empilweni yami ngaqala ngabheka isixazululo nosizo lokumbuyisa lokhu kwakungenxa yokuthi angifuni ukuzala ingane engenayise kuthe ngenye intambama ngibuka kukhompyutha yami ngahlangana nobufakazi obanikezwa u-Miss Rachael wase-UK ukuthi wathola kanjani umyeni wakhe wangaphambili ngosizo lukaDkt abulu wase-UK. (abuluspiritualtemple@yahoo.com) ngakho-ke nginqume ukumzama futhi okwangimangaza kakhulu ukupela le ndoda esebenza kumyeni wami kungakapheli izinsuku ezimbili ngimthinte. . futhi namuhla ngihlala ngokujabula nomyeni wami kanye nengane yomfana egxumayo , ngalo lonke lolu sizo enginikezwe lona ngalo DR ABULU WA (abuluspiritualtemple@yahoo.com )ngiyohlala ngimbonga kuze kube phakade futhi ngifakaze ubuhle bakhe empilweni yami kwabanye,s ukuzwa ukubona , ngiyaphinda futhi ngiyabonga DR ngokubuyisa umndeni wami ,
Assalamaleikom,
ngithemba ukuthi lokhu kungase kuphendule kumazwana amaningi athunyelwe mayelana nomyeni ukuba abe nabafazi abangaphezu koyedwa.
Isithembu
Q. Kungani indoda ivunyelwe ukushada nabafazi abangaphezu koyedwa e-Islam? Noma kungani isithembu sivunyelwe e-Islam?
Phendula:
1. Incazelo Yesithembu Isithembu sisho uhlelo lomshado lapho umuntu oyedwa eba nomngane womshado abangaphezu koyedwa. Isithembu singaba yizinhlobo ezimbili. Esinye isithembu lapho owesilisa eshada nabesifazane abangaphezu koyedwa, kanti enye i-polyandry, lapho owesifazane eshada ngaphezu kwendoda eyodwa. E-Islam, i-polygyny elinganiselwe ivunyelwe futhi i-polyandry inqatshelwe ngokuphelele. Manje iza embuzweni wokuqala, kungani indoda ivunyelwe ukuba nabafazi abangaphezu koyedwa?
2. I-Qur'an ukuphela kwemibhalo yenkolo emhlabeni ethi 'shada kuphela’ I-Qur'an ukuphela kwencwadi yenkolo, ebusweni balomhlaba, equkethe inkulumo ethi 'shada oyedwa kuphela'. Ayikho enye incwadi yenkolo eyala amadoda ukuba abe nomfazi oyedwa kuphela. Awukho emibhalweni yenkolo efana neVedas, iRamayan, iMahabharata, iGeeta noma iBhayibheli umuntu uthola imingcele enanini lamakhosikazi. Ngokwale mibhalo umuntu angashada abaningi njengoba efisa. Kwaba kamuva, ukuthi abapristi bamaHindu neSonto LobuKristu babekela imingcele inani labafazi koyedwa.
Abantu abaningi benkolo yamaHindu, ngokwemibhalo yabo, wayenabafazi abaningi. Inkosi Dashrat, uyise kaRama, wayenabafazi abangaphezu koyedwa. UKrishna wayenamakhosikazi amaningana. Ezikhathini zangaphambili, Amadoda angamaKristu ayevunyelwa abafazi abaningi ngokuthanda kwawo, ngoba iBhayibheli alikubeki mingcele enanini labafazi. Kwakusemakhulu eminyaka ambalwa edlule lapho iBandla lakhawula inani lamakhosikazi koyedwa.
I-Polygyny ivunyelwe ebuJudeni. Ngokomthetho weTalmudic, U-Abrahama wayenakho 2 abafazi, uSolomoni wayenabafazi abangamakhulu. Umkhuba wesithembu waqhubeka kwaze kwaba uRabi uGershom ben Yehudah. (960 A.D kuya 1030 A.D) wakhipha isimemezelo ngokumelene nayo. Imiphakathi yamaJuda yamaSephardic ehlala emazweni amaSulumane iqhubekile nalo mkhuba kwaze kwaba sekupheleni 1950, lapho Isenzo soRabi omkhulu wakwa-Israyeli sinweba ukuvinjelwa kokushada abafazi abangaphezu koyedwa.
3. AmaHindu anesithembu kakhulu kunamaSulumane Umbiko ‘weKomidi Lesimo Sowesifazane KumaSulumane’, ishicilelwe ku 1975 ibalula ezinambeni zekhasi 66,67 ukuthi iphesenti lemishado yesithembu phakathi konyaka 1951 -1961 kwaba 5.06 phakathi kwamaHindu kanye kuphela 4.31 phakathi kwamaSulumane. Ngokomthetho waseNdiya amadoda angamaMuslim kuphela avunyelwe ukuba nabafazi abangaphezu koyedwa. Akukho emthethweni nganoma yimuphi umuntu ongeyena umSulumane eNdiya ukuba abe nabafazi abangaphezu koyedwa. Yize kungekho emthethweni, AmaHindu anamakhosikazi amaningi uma kuqhathaniswa namaMuslim. Umuntu angacabanga ukuthi lalingaba yini iphesenti lemishado yesithembu phakathi kwamaHindu ukube uhulumeni waseNdiya wakwenza kwaba semthethweni ngabo.. Ngaphambilini, kwakungekho mingcele ngisho nasemadodeni angamaHindu mayelana nenani lamakhosikazi avunyelwe. Kwabe kuphakathi 1954, lapho kuphasiswa uMthetho Womshado wamaHindu ukuthi kwaba emthethweni ukuba umHindu abe nabafazi abangaphezu koyedwa. Njengamanje kuwuMthetho wamaNdiya ovimbela indoda engumHindu ekubeni nabafazi abangaphezu koyedwa hhayi imibhalo yamaHindu.. Manje ake sihlaziye ukuthi kungani i-Islam ivumela indoda ukuba ibe nabafazi abangaphezu koyedwa.
4. I-Qur'an ivumela i-polygyny elinganiselwe Njengoba ngishilo ekuqaleni, I-Qur'an ukuphela kwencwadi yenkolo ebusweni bomhlaba ethi 'shada yedwa'. Umongo walo musho ivesi elilandelayo elivela kuSurah Nisa yeQur’an Ekhazimulayo: ‘Shada owesifazane ozikhethele ngababili’ okuthathu’ noma ezine’ kepha uma nesaba ukuthi aniyikuba namandla okwenza ukulunga, (nabo), bese kuba munye kuphela’ [I-Al-Qur'an 4:3]
Ngaphambi kokuthi kwembulwe iKur’an, wawungekho umkhawulo ophezulu we-polygyny futhi amadoda amaningi ayenamakhosikazi amaningi, abanye ngisho namakhulu. AmaSulumane abeka umkhawulo ophezulu wamakhosikazi amane. I-Islam inika indoda imvume yokushada ababili, abesifazane abathathu noma abane, kuphela ngombandela wokuthi usebenzelana nawo ngokulunga. Esahlukweni esifanayo i.e. Ivesi leSurah Nisa 129 uthi: ‘Kunzima kakhulu ukuba nobulungisa nokungenzeleli phakathi kwabesifazane’. [I-Al-Qur'an (4:129)]
Ngakho-ke i-polygyny ayiwona umthetho kodwa ihlukile. Abantu abaningi bangaphansi kombono oyiphutha wokuthi kuphoqelekile ukuba indoda eyiSulumane ishade namakhosikazi angaphezu koyedwa.
Ngokubanzi, I-Islam inezigaba ezinhlanu ze-Do's and Dont's.
(i) 'Umsebenzi wenkolo’ i.e kuyimpoqo
(ii) ‘Mustahab’ okungukuthi kunconyiwe noma kukhuthazwe
(iii) 'Licit’ i.e kuvumelekile
(iv) ‘Kuyanyanyisa’ i.e ‘akunconyiwe’ noma edangele
(v) ‘Haram’ okungukuthi kwenqatshelwe noma kwenqatshelwe
I-Polygyny iwela esigabeni esimaphakathi sezinto ezivumelekile. Ngeke kushiwo ukuthi umSulumane onamabili, amakhosikazi amathathu noma amane uyiMuslim elingcono uma kuqhathaniswa nomSulumane onomfazi oyedwa kuphela.
5. Isilinganiso sesikhathi sokuphila kwabesifazane singaphezu kokwabesilisa Ngokwemvelo abesilisa nabesifazane bazalwa cishe ngesilinganiso esifanayo.. Ngesikhathi sobudala bezingane, ebuntwaneni ngokwayo ingane yesifazane inokuvikeleka okwengeziwe kunomntwana wesilisa. Ingane yesifazane ingakwazi ukulwa namagciwane nezifo kangcono kunomntwana wesilisa. Ngokwalesi sizathu, baningi abantu abafayo phakathi kwabesilisa uma kuqhathaniswa nabesifazane ngesikhathi seminyaka yezingane.
Phakathi nezimpi, maningi amadoda abulawayo uma kuqhathaniswa nabesifazane. Maningi amadoda afayo ngenxa yezingozi nezifo kunabesifazane. Isilinganiso sobude besikhathi sokuphila kwabesifazane singaphezu kokwabesilisa, futhi nganoma yisiphi isikhathi umuntu uthola abafelokazi abaningi emhlabeni kunabafelokazi.
6. I-India inabantu besilisa abaningi kunabesifazane ngenxa yokubulawa kwabesifazane kanye nokubulawa kwezinsana. I-India ingelinye lamazwe ambalwa, kanye namanye amazwe angomakhelwane, lapho inani labantu besifazane lingaphansi kwabesilisa. Isizathu siseqophelweni eliphezulu lokubulawa kwezingane zabesifazane eNdiya, kanye neqiniso lokuthi imibungu yesifazane engaphezu kwesigidi ikhishwa minyaka yonke kuleli zwe, ngemuva kokuthi bekhonjwe njengabesifazane. Uma lo mkhuba omubi uyekwa, khona-ke iNdiya nayo izoba nabesifazane abaningi uma kuqhathaniswa nabesilisa.
7. Inani labantu besifazane emhlabeni lingaphezu kwabesilisa e-USA, abesifazane badlula amadoda ngenani 7.8 izigidi. INew York iyodwa inabesifazane abengeziwe abayisigidi uma kuqhathaniswa nenani labesilisa, futhi kubantu besilisa baseNew York ingxenye eyodwa kwezintathu iyizitabane okungukuthi ama-sodomite. I-USA iyonke inezitabane ezingaphezu kwezigidi ezingamashumi amabili nanhlanu. Lokhu kusho ukuthi laba bantu abafisi ukushada nabesifazane. IGreat Britain inabesifazane abengeziwe abayizigidi ezine uma kuqhathaniswa nabesilisa. IGermany inabesifazane abengeziwe abayizigidi ezinhlanu uma kuqhathaniswa nabesilisa. I-Russia inabesifazane abangaphezu kwezigidi eziyisishiyagalolunye kunabesilisa. UNkulunkulu kuphela owaziyo ukuthi zingaki izigidi zabesifazane emhlabeni wonke uma kuqhathaniswa nabesilisa.
8. Ukuvimbela indoda ngayinye ukuba ibe nomfazi oyedwa akusebenzi Ngisho noma wonke amadoda ashade nowesifazane oyedwa, kusazoba nabesifazane abangaphezu kwezigidi ezingamashumi amathathu abengeziwe e-USA abangeke bakwazi ukuthola abayeni (uma kubhekwa ukuthi iMelika inezitabane eziyizigidi ezingamashumi amabili nanhlanu). Kuzoba nabesifazane abangaphezu kwezigidi ezine eGreat Britain 5 abesifazane abayizigidi eJalimane nabesifazane abayizigidi eziyisishiyagalolunye eRussia kuphela ababengeke bakwazi ukuthola umyeni.
Ake sithi udadewethu ungomunye wabesifazane abangashadile abahlala e-USA, noma ake sithi udadewenu ungomunye wabesifazane abangashadile e-USA. Okubili kuphela okusele ngaye ukuthi ashade nendoda evele inonkosikazi noma abe yimpahla yomphakathi. Ayikho enye inketho. Ngibuze lo mbuzo kumakhulu abantu abangewona amaSulumane futhi bonke bakhethe owokuqala. Nokho abantu abambalwa abahlakaniphile ngaphambi kokwamukela, bathi bancamela odadewabo ukuthi bahlale beyizintombi nto. Ngokwebhayoloji, akunakwenzeka ukuba indoda noma owesifazane ovamile ahlale engashadile kukho konke ukuphila kwakhe. Kungenzeka ezimeni ezingavamile eyodwa kwezinkulungwane eziyishumi. Ngobuningi, umuntu uyashada noma enze ucansi olungemthetho noma azitike kwezinye izenzo ezihlanekezelwe zocansi. Amahomoni ocansi akhishwa emzimbeni omdala nsuku zonke. Yingakho i-Islam inqabele ubumonasticism.
Emphakathini waseNtshonalanga kuvamile ukuba owesilisa abe namakhosikazi kanye/noma alale nabantu abaningi ngaphandle komshado, uma kunjalo, owesifazane uhola okuyichilo, impilo engavikelekile. Umphakathi ofanayo, nokho, ayikwazi ukwamukela indoda enabafazi abangaphezu koyedwa, lapho abesifazane begcina ukuhlonishwa kwabo, isikhundla esihloniphekile emphakathini futhi uphile impilo evikelekile.
Ngakho okubili kuphela okungakhethwa ngaphambi kowesifazane ongakwazi ukuthola umyeni ukushada nendoda eshadile noma ukuba yimpahla yomphakathi. I-Islam ikhetha ukunikeza abesifazane isikhundla esihloniphekile ngokuvumela inketho yokuqala futhi ingavumeli okwesibili. Kunezinye izizathu eziningana, kungani i-Islam ivumele isithembu esilinganiselwe, kodwa ikakhulukazi ukuvikela isizotha sabesifazane.
NGIYAVUMA
Ngakho abesifazane abangashadile bayimpahla yomphakathi? Ngempela. Ukuhlonipha okuphezulu kwabesifazane onakho lapho.
Intombazane yamaSulumane, funda kahle bazalwane bese uphawula. Ungakhethi i-cherry evumelana nawe, iyona kanye inkinga esibhekene nayo thina maMuslim, cherry ukukha okusifanelayo kunokuba sithathe Deen njengendlela “ephelele” indlela yempilo.
Kumuntu obhale le-artical.. Ngifuna ukusho nje ngoba nakhu ofuna ukukwenza kumuntu wesifazane wakho akukwenzi kulunge. Ucansi uma efuna ngisho noma owesifazane engafuni?? Usho umdlwenguli!??? Ucansi olungafunwa! Ngokuqondene namadoda cam cabanga omunye wesifazane?? Lol uyahlekisa! Akufanele ngisho ubheke omunye wesifazane oshade naye! Umshado nakho konke okuphakathi komshado kuvumelana!! Yh im a girl and right now I wish I could punch you in your face!!!!
Asalam waliykum,
I-Jazakallakh khier yalesi sihloko nezindatshana ezedlule. Kufanele ngithi shukran futhi Allah barek feek, uwusindisile umshado wami. Amazwi akho angikhumbuze amaphutha ami kanye nokufika okufushane futhi ngibangele izinkinga eziningi emshadweni wami. Amazwi akho anginike ithemba futhi angenza ngabona ukuthi umyeni wami uyangithanda kakhulu futhi ukukhombisa ngendlela yakhe. Ukuthi indlela yami iyi-cliche encane, kanye ne-stereotypical kodwa hhayi kancane, usangithanda.
Jazakallah khier. Ngiyohlale ngisifunda lesi sihloko lapho ngizizwa ngiphansi noma ngiqala ukulahla ithemba emshadweni wami.
U-Baraka Allahu uzwa u-Akhi.
Ngiyanibingelela
Umfazi omuhle yizingcindezi, Umyeni uyakhohlwa ukuthi unani. Amadoda angaba yizinkwa kodwa impilo ayipheleli ngaphandle komfazi. Lapho indoda nomfazi benza izifungo zabo abazimemezelayo “Uthando, Udumo & Inhlonipho” size sihlukaniswe ukufa futhi uma unakho lokho angeke wenze iphutha IA….
SESIFUNDA LESI SIHLOKO MAYELANA OKUNINGI KUKAMFAZI OYEDWA. YI-QURAN ENGCWELE NGAKHO AMAZWI KA-ALLAH ESIFANELE SIMlalele NGOKUSOBALA U-ALLAH UYAZI KONKE IZINTO KUYIQINISO. . NAMI BENGINGAKUZWILE LOKHO KODWA NGENXA YOKUFUNDA FUTHI NGIYAKWENZISA- I-ISLAM ESILANDELA I-QURAN KUFANELE SIYAMKELELA LE PONIT blank
isihloko esihle kakhulu sabafazi bawo wonke amadoda ashadile, futhi iqiniso…
Kuchazwe kahle. jzk.
Lesi yiseluleko esihle kodade base-Islam futhi siphinde sifundise abafowethu okuncane mayelana nendlela yokuphatha omkabo ngendlela efanele
Assalaam konke
Ngiyakuqonda ngempela okushiwo yibo bonke odadewethu futhi ngiyazi ukuthi baphatheke kabi kodwa ngicela uqaphele lokho okushoyo ngokumelene nalokhu u-Allah akushoyo ukube benginguwe bengizophinda ngiphindaphinde i-KALIMAH yami njengoba isitatimende esithile osishilo bekungase sikukhiphe ngaphandle. ye-islam. Astagfirullah Allah asithethelele sonke ameen
Ulwazi oluhle kakhulu!!
Wazise la macebiso..
Kwenzekani uma unika umyeni wakho lonke uThando lonke inhlonipho ungaze umphuce lutho,Kodwa esikhundleni salokho uyena okulahlayo ngaso sonke isikhathi ebeka izaba pho umuntu wesifazane wenzani ke? Akakaze akuvikele kodwa uhlale evikela umuntu ukuthi unenkinga naye? Ukusongela ngesehlukaniso uma uthi uzotshela umyeni wakhe mayelana nezingxoxo zabo ezincane nsuku zonke. Wenzani-ke umuntu wesifazane ???
Wenzani uma 13 emva kweminyaka uzithola usesimweni esifanayo Konke ngenxa yabesifazane abafanayo ???
Uphinde akusabise ngedivosi uma uya phambili ? Akalali nawe embhedeni owodwa amasonto… Wenzani-ke Owesifazane? Kungani kuhlale kumayelana nokuthi amadoda anjani futhi kufanele siwahloniphe kanjani , lapho bengasihloniphi basithatha kalula Thina besifazane… 🙁
MSHIYE!
Uma umyeni wakho enesimiso esimatasa, ungamhluphi ngezingxabano ezincane zosuku. Uma ebuyela ekhaya, mnike isikhathi sokuphumula nokuxazulula ngaphambi kokuthi umjikijele zonke izinkinga zakho ezincane zansuku zonke. Zama ukulungisa izinto ezincane zosuku lwakho uwedwa, njengomyeni wakho unakekela izinkinga ezinkulu zosuku ngokwakhe, ngaphandle kokukwazisa ngoba akafuni ukukuhlupha. Win ukwethenjwa kwakhe, ngokungagwemi izinkinga ezingadingekile zosuku ngangokunokwenzeka, futhi umtshele okudingeka kakhulu, ngesikhathi esifanele. Mgcine enolwazi kodwa kuphela ngemininingwane edingekayo ebaluleke kakhulu. Amadoda abona izinto ngendlela ehlukile, ngakho uma ungena emininingwaneni yezinto akholelwa ukuthi ezezingane futhi azinasidingo angase acasuke, futhi uma ukwenza ngesikhathi lapho engakaphumi ezinkathazweni zosuku ngaleso sikhathi….
Isikhali esihle kakhulu somfazi phezu komyeni wakhe uthando nokunakekela ngendlela efanele. Uma ufunda ukuyisebenzisa ngendlela efanele. Ukuze ambuyisele endleleni, vele wehlise izinga lakho lothando liye ezingeni elincane okuwumsebenzi wakho, futhi uzokwenza konke ukuze akuthole futhi lolo thando nokunakekelwa okwengeziwe… Angiqondile ucansi kuphela, nge “Uthando”.
Uma ekuphatha kabi, unelungelo lokumshiya. Ngicela ungahlali uchithe impilo yakho nomuntu ohlezi ekuphethe kabi. Ungase ucabange ukuthi ukuhamba kuyinto enzima kakhulu ukuyenza (kudinga isibindi) kodwa kholwani uAllah Uzonihola. Umnike konke ongakwenza futhi usakujikijela ebusweni bakho, qina uhambe. Khumbula ukuthi uAllah Usiza kuphela labo abazisizayo. Okuhle njalo kuvela kokubi. Uzothola amandla IA. Impilo ayiyona impilo engenakho ukuthula.
Kufanele umhehe ngaleyo ndlela,kufanele esabe ukulalela igama elithi ‘I-DIVORCE’ emlonyeni wakho….
Iseluleko esihle dadewethu
Kuyiqiniso ukuthi amadoda acabanga ngabanye abantu besifazane, kodwa lokho akwenzeki kahle. Bafowethu, ningabasoli abafazi benu uma niqala ukuba nemicabango engcolile ngabanye abantu besifazane. U-Allah usiyala ku-Qur'an ukuthi sehlise amehlo ethu, okuwukusivimbela ekubeni nemicabango engafanele.
JAK kulawa mazwana! Ngikhathele ukuzwa lezi “izaba” amadoda azenzela wona. Kuyahlekisa nje
Kungenzeka kanjani ukuthi into ekha phezulu njengokukhuliswa kwentshebe ibe wuphawu ‘lwe-Muslim elingcono’? Emgqeni ofanayo, egqoke ikepisi (uxolo, angilazi igama lobuchwepheshe lekepisi), ukuya e-mosque njll. – akuzona zonke ezikha phezulu? U-Mohammad wenza imithetho yesikhathi sakhe – ngenjongo ethile. Ukusebenzisa ‘imithetho’ ngoba ikhulu lamanje alinawo umqondo. Lokho kanye neqiniso lokuthi umuntu omuhle yilokho okudingeka alwele ukuba yikho, hhayi i-Muslim elihle. Ukuqaphela kwami nje.
I-Sndp
Ukuze wazi nje phakathi kwalabo bantu abalungile kukhona AMA-Muslim amahle. Akuwona wonke amaSulumane afanayo, ukhuluma ngedlanzana.
uma ngikhuluma iqiniso ngicabanga ukuthi amadoda amaningi angama-Muslim ancamela ukuba nama-mistress kunokuphinde ashade…indoda evuma ukuphinde ishade futhi ithathe umthwalo womunye umfazi ngokubona kwami inesibindi…..ngokwami ngizoncamela ukuthi umyeni wami abe nomfazi wesibili kunokuthi abe nezinto eziningi ezimfishane,,,,, osisi abaningi abaqapheli nokuthi abayeni babo bayabaqhatha…..
isihloko esihle….ma sha Allah…ichazwe kahle ngendlela emfishane..wud uncome wonke umuntu1 ngisho nokubuka izinkulumo ze-sk.yasir qadhi ndawana thize ku-youtube “njengengubo” inkambo…nje alhamdulillah awesome.echazwe kahle..kokubili kwabesilisa nabesifazane,,,,:)
Well umbono wabantu uhlukile .
Ngokombono wami lesi sihloko ngesabantu abasiqondayo noma abazamayo, eshiya ukuzikhukhumeza ngemuva kude.
Ukusabela kwabaningi balaba besifazane kubonisa kahle ukuthi kungani lesi sihloko sibizwa ngokuthi ‘izinto ezingu-7 umyeni wakho angeke azitshele zona’
JazakAllah kumbhali
Ngiyabonga!!!! JazakhAllah khyr lokhu bekuyiqiniso kakhulu futhi kuwusizo
Ngidinga izeluleko, kuyisono kowesilisa oyiMuslim oshadile ukuba nobudlelwane nomlungu ongumKristu noma kuyilungelo labo ukuba nentombi ?
Assalamu Alaikum.
Yebo, kuyisono kumuntu wesilisa oyi-Muslim noma owesifazana oyi-Muslim ukuba neshende ngaphandle komshado noma ngaphambi komshado, kungaba nomSulumane noma ongeyena umuslim.
UAllah Wazi Kakhulu.
@Kay: ungakunikeza u-Daleel (ubufakazi) ngezitatimende zakho.Ngingathanda ukuzihlola. Uthe indoda ayivumelekile ukushada owesibili ngaphandle kweMVUME yokuqala. Usenayo imvume Evela enkosini yakhe enemibandela. Ngakho imvume evela kumkakhe wokuqala izoba SHIRK.Ubufakazi Sicela
asalamu alayikum,
ngithanda kakhulu lesi sihloko. kuyangisiza ukuthi ngiduduze ingqondo yami ephatheke kabi futhi ngithande kakhulu intando yami. UNKULUNKULU mkhulu…….
Asalam O Alikum!
Ngisifundile lesi sihloko & Nginomuzwa wokuthi lesi sihloko sifana nokuphoqelela izinto kubantu besifazane. Okokuqala nje,Ngithanda ukucacisa izinto ezimbalwa ngaphambi kokuthi ngijule kulokhu ukuze ngiphawule. Angikashadi kodwa IN SHA ALLAH ngizoshada nentombazane engiyithandayo & intombazane engiyithandazelayo. Kodwa ukubukela amazwana & ngemva kokufunda isihloko ngithanda ukusho ukuthi UBULILI akuyona nje into egcina imishado iphumelela & ukuphila okujabulisayo.
Umuntu kufanele afunde ukuhlonipha umkakhe. Abesifazane empeleni akuyona into yesigqila socansi,futhi uma enqaba ukuba nakho-ke yini enkulu? Washiya ikhaya lakhe,igama lakho,Ushade nawe,abantu bamazi ngegama lakho,futhi kuze kube sekupheleni yayiyokwaziwa ngegama lakho,noma kunjalo ungangabaza ukuthi akathembekile kuwe noma akalaleli? Ngicela ucabange ngalokhu.
Ukudla isidlo sakusihlwa & ukudla kwasemini nomkakho ndawonye kumenza azizwe ekhetheke kakhulu. Ukukhipha isikhathi sakho emahoreni okusebenza nokumhambisa ngemoto ende kuzomthinta naye. Menze azizwe ekhethekile & uzokwenza uzizwe ukhethekile futhi.
Ngeke ngikwazi ukuba nobugovu kulokhu uma kukhulunywa ngomshado wesibili & ngempela ngizozama ukulungisa izinkinga esikhundleni sokucabanga okwesibili. Futhi kungani mina ngimthanda umkami. Ngaso sonke isikhathi akulona ihora elijabulisayo lokulisebenzisa. Kwesinye isikhathi kufanele ubhekane nezigaba ezinzima & izinkinga futhi. Injalo impilo.
Ngethemba ukuthi lokhu akuzange kumlimaze umuntu imizwa.
Ngivumelana nawe
Kufanele kube njalo impela.
Sanibonani..
amaphuzu amahle owabhalile, kodwa eqinisweni, awukashadi.
yebo, ubulili akuyona ukuphela kwento ebalulekile emshadweni, kodwa libaluleke kakhulu. I-Islam yenza ngisho nowesifazane ukuthi acele imvume kumyeni wakhe uma efuna ukuzila (hhayi ukuzila kweRamadhan). Ngikholwa ukuthi uyawazi ubuhlakani balo myalo ka-Allah swt.
Umbhali ubhala nje ngokwenzeka emphakathini wethu. Okungokoqobo, ukungabi nemibono. Umbhali ukhuluma iqiniso!
Thanda noma ungathandi, amanye amadoda anesthembu ngendalo (uma kungesikho konke) futhi kufanele sibhekane nalokho.
Ngingumfana, futhi ngenxa yezizathu eziningi bengilokhu ngifuna umfazi oyedwa kuphela. Kodwa ngaphambi kokuthi siphawule ngempela ngomshado, shada omunye kuqala, khona-ke uzokwazi ukuthi yini ongayazi ngaphambi kokubopha ifindo.
Amazwana amahle owabhalile lapho, futhi ngiyakujabulela ukufunda em. Angiphatheki kabi ngokuphawula kwakho kodwa ngikholelwa ukuthi lesi sihloko sifuna ukuba ngokoqobo ngangokunokwenzeka.
Wallahua'lam
I-Bravo.Mashallah.lena imicabango yomfana ovamile oyi-Muslim. futhi ubheke isimo sengqondo somuntu onolwazi oluningi.konke kumosheka kumbhali.Uyisiphukuphuku.esebenzisa inkolo ukubeka phambili ukucabanga kwakhe okungcolile.Alhamdulillah akhona amadoda alungile angama-Muslim.Dont spread your poison in igama lenkolo.Mesabeni uAllah. Uma ungayeka ukucabanga ngabafazi bakho bakusasa lokho.
its really nicely uchaze ngyabonga nge post kwangathi uALLAH angakupha umvuzo
Amadoda kufanele futhi akhumbule lesi sici sesibonelo sethu uMprofethi uMuhammad (SAW) ukuthi akazange ashade nanoma yimuphi omunye unkosikazi kwaze kwaba nguKhadija RA, umfazi wokuqala wayephila.
Ngivumelana noKay futhi ngiyiMuslim Man. Yebo isho ku-quran ukuthi amadoda angaba nabafazi abane, kodwa kungenxa yesizathu, futhi i-quran ibhalwe ngendlela yokuthi ungakwazi ukuphikisa iphuzu likaKay. I-quran ithi indoda kufanele iphathe abafazi bayo ngokulinganayo, ungaphikisa kalula ukuthi uma unkosikazi wokuqala engafuni ukuthi umyeni wakhe aphinde ashade kusho ukuthi ungalungile kunkosikazi wakhe wokuqala uma kuqhathaniswa nomkakhe wesibili ongase ashade..
Futhi uma ufunda yonke indlela nge-surat al-nisa uzofika engxenyeni lapho uNkulunkulu ethi ngokuyisisekelo ngeke ukwazi ukubaphatha.(abesifazane) ngokulinganayo. ”walan ta3delo”, ngakho njengoba isho ekuqaleni kwe-surat al-nisa , Umfazi oyedwa Ungcono uma ungakwazi ukubaphatha ngokulinganayo.
P.S Sicela ugcine imiqondo evulekile, ningazami ukwesabisana ngezinsongo ze ”ucishe wayishiya i-islam ngamazwi akho”
Angivumelani nayo #4. Uma ekuthanda ngokwanele ngeke acabange ukucabangela omunye unkosikazi noma omunye wesifazane ngisho nomzuzwana nje. Ukuthi iningi lamadoda angamaMuslim akusho ukuthi wonke enza. Sihlala ku 2014 abantu, hhayi 600 BC lol.
Isihloko esinolwazi. Kodwa kungani amadoda efuna ukwethembeka kwabesifazane kodwa bona ngokwabo bacabanga ngabanye abantu besifazane :s kulungile & ngokwemvelo ukuze bacabange futhi baphuphe abt abanye besifazane, akulona iphutha ???
I-Btw uma abesifazane abangamaSulumane befuna bangabhala isigatshana somshado we-no-2nd esivumelwaneni sabo somshado ngesikhathi se-nikah. Umyeni wakho ube esenqatshelwa kunkosikazi wesi-2 ngaphandle uma efuna isehlukaniso.
Okokugcina, njengendoda nje, owesifazane ufisa ukuhlonishwa endodeni yakhe. Ihamba ngezindlela zombili ngempela.
Ngicabanga ukuthi umbhali walesi sihloko unolwazi olungeyikho.
Abesifazane empeleni babheka amadoda akhangayo futhi. Abesifazane bafuna ukusondelana ngokomzimba futhi. Akuwona amadoda kuphela.
Ngiphinde ngithole kungalungile ukuthi umbhali awubeke kanjani umthwalo wokwethembeka kunkosikazi. Ekugcineni ubuqotho bakho bukwenza uhlale uthembekile.
Futhi uhlobo lokuzenzisa ukuthi umbhali uqala kanjani athi abesifazane bafuna ukuzizwa bethandwa futhi amadoda afuna ukuzizwa ehlonishwa. Lesi sihloko sicela abesifazane ukuthi bahloniphe abayeni babo kodwa iphuzu lokugcina lithi uma engasho ukuthi ngiyakuthanda kulungile, usakuthanda. Ngakho, abesifazane baqinisekisa futhi babhucunga i-ego yomyeni wakho kodwa kulungile uma uzizwa unganakiwe. Kuhle.
Njengoba nje owesifazane efuna indoda imthande, kudingeka athole indlela yokubonisa inhlonipho ngisho nalapho engamhloniphi, futhi uthole ukuthi ungaba kanjani naye ebusuku ngisho noma engazizwa ekhangwa nguye, kanjena nje, uma owesilisa efuna ukuthi owesifazane wakhe amhloniphe, khona-ke udinga ukuthola ukuthi angakhuluma kanjani naye futhi abonise imizwa yakhe esikhundleni sokucasha ngemuva kokulula kakhulu “Argh, Ngiyindoda, ukukhuluma kunzima kimi” isikrini. Izipho azikwenzi lokho, futhi izipho azingenzi ngihloniphe umuntu. Impela, Ngingakhohlisa inhlonipho. Kodwa uma befuna kube yiqiniso, kudingeka bacabange ngalokho inkosikazi ekufunayo nedinga NGEMPELA, esikhundleni salokho okulula kubo.
salaam
salaam alaykum
Ngiyamthanda umyeni wami kodwa ungizwisa ubuhlungu kakhulu uma engibiza ngamagama ayisiphukuphuku, shaitan, shit, UAllah angixolele uma ngisezinhlungwini akangiduduzi ngipheka into ingaphumi kahle uyangithuka ngendlela ebuhlungu kabi njena eg Maryam ukupheka kwakho bekungemnandi qhubeka uzame futhi uzokwenza ube ngcono , ngabe sengimlalela ngimhloniphe ungifanisa nabangani bakhe abafazi
ngicela ningisize kunini sibhebhana akaniki ithuba futhi akhulume angithuke kuphela so ngiyamphatha ngizokushiya wethu maybe we should get divorce
Sicela ufanelwe ukunakekelwa, uthando, udumo nenhlonipho. Akekho okufanele kukhulunywe naye kanjalo. Thembeka, uma engathandi ukuguqula izindlela zakhe mshiye, awudingi ukuphila osizini. U-Allah ukubhekile futhi uSomandla uzokunika amandla nesibindi. Ungalokhu umsongela ngamazwi, udinga ukukukhombisa ukuthi uqondile futhi ukwenze. Unelungelo lenjabulo yakho nokuphathwa ngenhlonipho. Thina mantombazane sishiya amakhaya emindeni yethu enothando ukuze sibe nabayeni bethu futhi sakhe lolo thando olufanayo lapho. Abanye bethu banenhlanhla kanti abanye abanayo. Impilo leyo.
asalamualaikum,, Angikashadi kodwa ngibona iqiniso eliningi kulesi sihloko ngezibonelo zalabo abashadile noma abaye bashada eduze kwami. Bengilokhu ngicabanga ukuthi ngeke ngiphinde ngivumele umyeni wami ukuba ashade, nokho lesi sihloko siye saqinisa i-wat was in my subconscious okuyi; ” ngingubani mina ukuthi ngingabisela umyeni wami ngokumelene nezwi le-quraan” ngakho-ke ngemva kokufunda lokhu manje ngiyavuma ekwamukeleni kwami uma ngike ngabhekana necala elinjengaleli,, kwazi bani ngingavele ngizithole sengingena ezicathulweni zesibili, unkosikazi wesithathu noma wesine. Ngizoqiniseka ukukhumbula yonke eminye imininingwane ewusizo kulesi sihloko emshadweni wami Insha Allah.
Sawubona,Ngihlangabezane nalokhu lapho ngihlola imibono yamaSulumane mayelana nemicabango yamadoda. Sengishade okokugcina 8 iminyaka futhi waqaphela umyeni wami hhayi kuphela ukucabanga abanye besifazane (okubonakala uvumelana nabesilisa abaningi,kahle amadoda amaningi aqondile okungenani) kodwa lokho okutuswayo ukuba ngikwenze kufanele ngiqaphele ukuthi umyeni wami akagcini nje ngokucabanga ngabanye abantu besifazane,ucabanga nokulala nabo.ngikuthola kungiphazamisa futhi kungiphatha kabi ngingasasho ukungahloniphi kodwa ubebonakala engiphoqa ukuthi ngamukele ukuthi kuyini ngempela.Ngilahlekelwe ngempela.Ngicela ningicebise.
kumnandi.. manje okumele sikwenze UKUZITHOLA singabayeni abahle abafanele konke okubhalile esihlokweni esingenhla…..kodwa ukwengeza iphuzu, abesifazane abazona izinceku.. bangamadoda’ abalingani.. abalingani abalinganayo empilweni.
sengathi u-allah anganikeza owesifazane amandla engeziwe okubamba inkinga emhlabeni ungakhohlwa u-allah ukwenze wathandeka futhi uyisidalwa esihle ukuxazulula inkinga ngokwayo jabula u-allah uzoyixazulula inkinga yakho
Ngikhathele ukufunda izihloko ezinjengalezi. Thina besifazane abashadile siyazi nina nicabanga ngocansi 24/7 futhi empeleni ongakwazi ukuthi mhlawumbe sikuthanda njengawe uma kungenjalo. Kodwa okusicisha ngokuphelele yilapho ulindele ukuthi sibe nephunga elimnandi futhi sibe bahle njalo, nokho ungenzi mzamo ngokubukeka kwakho ngokwakho. Asibonisi ububele noma ukucabangela, kusenza sibe ngowesibili kumama wakho, umndeni wakho, abangane bakho. Ukungayihloniphi imibono yethu, ukwenza izinqumo ezibalulekile ngaphandle kwe-shura, okusenza sithwale imithwalo yemfanelo yezezimali… Zonke lezi zinhlobo zezinto zisenza sizizwe sivaliwe ngokocansi ngakuwe. Sifuna iqhawe elihle lomyeni isikhangiso esiningi ufuna umfazi omuhle. Futhi mayelana “ucabanga ngabanye abantu besifazane” – uma usiphatha kanje, yilapho-ke sifisa sengathi ngabe sinenye indoda eyiqhawe elimangalisayo.. Kodwa ukuba ngamakhosikazi anakekelayo nabanakekeli basekhaya asenzi ngezifiso.
Lesi sihloko esihle esimayelana namadoda nokuthi ungamgcina kanjani umyeni wakho ejabule kodwa kungani kungakaze kukhulunywe ukuthi ungagcina kanjani owesifazane ejabule nokuthi yini indoda engayenzela owesifazane? Mayelana nani 7 izinto umkakho angeke azitshele zona? Futhi ngivumelana ngokuphelele ne-muslimah. Ubani ofuna ukulala nendoda ekwenza ube ngowesibili kumama nomndeni wayo, asuke ahambe, kukubeka umthwalo wezezimali kuwe, futhi kuthiwani ngamadoda aphethe izindinganiso ezimbaxa-mbili zobuzenzisi – lokho akukhangi neze. Kudingeka kube nendatshana ekhuluma ngokuthi amadoda angabenzelani abafazi babo bcz ngiyagula futhi ngikhathele ukufunda ezinye izindlela zokuthi ngingayisebenzela kanjani indoda kangcono. Hlanganisani madoda.
Umbuzo nje ofuna ukwazi: njengoba amadoda egijima ukuze athathe 2,3 noma 4 makhosikazi kodwa kungani kuthi ekugugeni uma egula ebuthaka bese indoda igijima ibuyela kunkosikazi wokuqala ? Ukube bekuyimi, ngaleso sikhathi ngangingeke ngitholakale kuye ngaleso sikhathi. Lokhu ngikubonile emindenini eminingi.
SubhanAllah abesifazane , yekani ukuzicabangela . OKOKUGCINA , I-ISLAM ayiphoqi muntu noma yini . UAllah Wazi kakhulu , kunesizathu salokhu , udinga nje ukwethemba uAllah . Ngingowesifazane kodwa amadoda ngiwazi kahle kakhulu . Emshadweni okungenani amadoda acela ucansi lwe-HALAL , amadoda anezimpondo ukwedlula amantombazane ngakho-ke uma uyithanda indoda yakho futhi idinga ukuthi ukhulule izinkanuko zayo zocansi makube njalo . Ungathanda yini ukukopela futhi wenze ucansi haram ??? . Futhi amadoda anakho konke futhi anelungelo lokushada 4 izikhathi uma ekwazi ukukukhokhela khumbulani ladies , cha akayidingi imvume kuwe kodwa kungcono nixoxe ngayo . Ngakho yeka ukuba yingane uvule amehlo . Kufanele samukele futhi sizithande izindlela u-Allah asehlele ngazo kithi . Zonke izintokazi zikhulele entshonalanga (nami ngifakiwe) thanda ukucabanga ukuthi amadoda nabesifazane banamalungelo afanayo ( Angisho wonke umzimba kodwa kukhona abanye) . cha awukwenzi , angashada naye 4 izintokazi ungashada omunye . Unamalungelo kanjalo nawe
Ngakho-ke sicela ungenzi njengokuphoqelelwa kwakho kuwe
kunalokho KUDINGEKA ucele imvume kumkakho ngaphambi kokuthatha omunye unkosikazi. kungani amadoda amaningi kanye nawe (abesifazane) ngingavuma nje, futhi amadoda azizwa ephakeme kunokungabuzi nokubuza, uma ngenxa yobukhulu nobugovu. uma ufunda i-Islam ngeqiniso uzokwazi ukuthi udinga ukubuza kuqala. lezi zithandani, nabesifazane abalula abangazisukumeli bona
akumele ube ngumfazi weMuslim ukuze wenze lezi nje unkosikazi..kungasho lutho…umshado is a commitment for life thats just me personallyy.if you cant ..bese ungashadi..im a catholic and my fisnce is Muslim ..hes just the same with a non muslim guy….hes a man he has a needs and when you love someone..uzokwenza noma yini ukumgcina ejabule im not even his wife yet and im doing that already….
Lokhu bekuwuhlangothi olulodwa olushaqisayo…. Ngicabanga ukuthi kukhona isihloko “izinto unkosikazi oyiMuslim angeke akutshele zona”, kodwa ngempela ubeka amadoda phezulu esitulweni sokunyathela, ngokombono wamaSulumane abesifazane kudingeka ngempela ngenhliziyo yonke “lalela” futhi “vuma” zonke izinkanuko zamadoda abo.
Kuzwakala njengesivumelwano esinzima, Angiboni ukuthi okunye kwalokhu kungenza umuntu wesifazane aziqhenye.
im a muslimah osemncane futhi ukufunda okuningi kokuthunyelwe kwakho kungicasule nonke ezinweleni zomunye nomunye ninganikeza izeluleko yebo kodwa uma nikwenza ngesimo sengqondo noma ngabe nilungile u-Allah ngeke akuvuze ngeseluleko enisinikeze sona im not one to judge ngoba u-Allah ungumahluleli wakho konke ukungapheleli..im human and ngokufunda zonke lezi posts kungithusile ngendlela eningawuhloniphi ngayo umthetho we-Islam nokuthi omunye wesifazane unobugovu kanjani sengathi u-Allah akubeke ezinhliziyweni zenu ukwamukela noma yibuphi ubunzima. ulale phambi kwakho futhi ukhumbule ukuthi u-Allah akasoze asifaka kulokho esingeke sikwazi ukukusingatha ngoba u-Allah unesihe futhi umphefumulo wakho wamukele futhi uhloniphe zonke izindlela eziza endleleni yakho buyisela ku-Allah futhi u-Allah uzokusiza ukuba wamukele lolu daba unshallah…in the name of allah sengathi singasizana ke sihambe sodwa khumbula akekho ophelele kodwa singazama njalo ukusiza omunye umuntu inshallah.. l make duah kubo bonke abafazi abazizwa ngalendlela ngalomthetho il make duah for Allah to give you the guide to to soft izinhliziyo zenu aninike ukuhlakanipha futhi aninike i-ghidiah yokuphendula inshallah ameen sengathi u-Allah andise ulwazi lwethu futhi asithethelele izono ameen
lolu daba lukankosikazi wesibili aluyona into emnandi njengoba amadoda amaningi efuna ukukholwa. Kuvunyelwe kuphela kwezinye izimo lapho kudingeka khona ngempela. Akunjalo ”Oh ngine-wifr eyodwa eblonde, nami ngibe nonkosikazi oyedwa omnyama”. Abesifazane okufanele bame 2nd, 3Kufanele ngabe bazwa ubuhlungu obukhulu ezinhliziyweni zabo njalo lapho abayeni babo beya kwabanye ”abafazi” futhi ngikholelwa ukuthi u-Allah ngeke avumele noma ubani abe nobuhlungu obukhulu kangaka ngenxa yokuzijabulisa komunye umuntu NGOKUQINISEKILE! Futhi mayelana nalolu daba lwenhlonipho, akukho okuza ngokwako. Uzongihlonipha nami ngizokukhombisa inhlonipho. Uvele ukhulume yonke into evela emadodeni kodwa konke lokhu kubalulekile nakumuntu wesifazane. Bonke abantu (lindela labo abangesibo abantu) bafanelwe ukuhlonishwa.
Ingabe wonke umuntu lapha uyavumelana naye #4? Angikwazi ukucabanga ukuthi wonke amadoda ashadile acabanga ukuthatha omunye wesifazane. Uma kunjalo, yimaphi amanye amacebiso, izimpawu noma izibonelo ukuthi ucabanga ngomunye wesifazane? Ngiyabonga.
ngikwi 2 izingqondo ngodaba lwamakhosikazi amaningi. Ngingusisi omhlophe wesiNgisi revert, owakhuliswa umKatolika impilo yami yonke ngaphambi kokuza ku-Islam, ngakho ngiyazi ukuthi ngilwa nesiko lami eligxilile lapho ngizizwa ngimelene nalo.
Nokho, Ngingaba unkosikazi wesibili, akunankinga kodwa ANGEKE ngibe unkosikazi wokuqala umyeni wakhe wabe esethatha owesibili. Kwami, umyeni wami ukufuna omunye umfazi kungangenza ngizizwe ngiyisehluleki nokuthi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ngizama kangakanani ukuba inkosikazi engcono kakhulu, ngangizwa sengathi angilungile ngokwanele ngoba umyeni wami wabheka kwenye indawo. Le mizwa nemizwelo izokwanela ukucekela phansi ubudlelwano, uma kungenjalo ngokushesha, ngokuqinisekile, esikhathini esizayo esiseduze.
Ngingaba unkosikazi wesibili ngoba leyo mizwa yokungeneliseki yayingeke ivele.
Ngizizwa ngimangele, ukuncoma nokuhlonipha noma yimuphi owesifazane onikeza isibusiso sakhe kumyeni wakhe ethatha unkosikazi wesibili. Laba besifazane bangcono kakhulu phakathi kwethu, ngoba kuyinto enzima futhi enzima ukuyenza.
Assalam…..
YEKANI UKUBA ZINKOSIZI ABAZIZWAYO….SIZA AMA-UR Muslims SISTERS TO HV DIGNITY N PRIDE …NGINGOWESIFAZANE OSHADILE…NGINGAMVUMELA UMYENI WAMI ASHADE UMA EKWENZA LOKHO NGESIZATHU ESIQINILE ESIHLANGANISA ENTANDO KA-ALLAH.….UZOKWENZA ISIQINISEKISO UKUBA UZOLANDELA IMITHETHO N EMITHETHO ESESITHEMBENI.…Ikakhulukazi 'NAFKAH’ INGXENYE…LAPHO OKUPHATHELENE KHONA NOKWESEKA NGEZEZIMALI…..UMA AKUFANELE NGIBONA I-KADHI UKUZE IBANGO ILUNGELO LAMI…
KIMI UMA IZINTO ZIVUMELEKILE KU-AL QURAN…KUYOHLALE KUNESIBUSISO EKUSEHLENI…
UMUSLIMAH WAMI…ASISONDELE KU-ALLAH…UKUZE SIZOTHOLA AMADODA ETHU ASEDUZE NATHI..INSHA ALLAH..
Ngiyavumelana namazwana nokho into eyodwa enginomuzwa wokuthi ayikaze ixazululwe ukuthi uma umyeni engayifezi imisebenzi yakhe eyisisekelo njengomyeni/ubaba? Ngishadile 14 iminyaka futhi ngahlala ngiqinile eceleni kwabayeni bami naphezu kweqiniso lokuthi akakaze asebenze kanzima izinsuku ukuze agcine uphahla phezu kwekhanda lami noma ukubeka ukudla etafuleni. Ngisebenzela ukondla umndeni wami ngezinye izinsuku ngiphelelwa amandla ngiyakhala ngoba ngiyazibuza ukuthi ngizokwenza isikhathi esingakanani lokhu! ngiphupha ngikwazi ‘ukuhlonipha’ umyeni wami kodwa kumelwe ngivume njengoba iminyaka iqhubeka nginomuzwa wokuthi inhlonipho enganginayo ngaye iyancipha ngiye ngahlala ngithembekile naphezu kwezimo zethu. U-Ive wahlala watshela umyeni wami indlela engizizwa ngayo futhi akenzi lutho, Angenzanga lutho ngaphandle kokukhuthaza umyeni wami ngendlela enhle kakhulu ukuba enze okuthile ngempilo yakhe, aqhube ibhizinisi lakhe njll kodwa liwela ezindlebeni ezingezwa manje sengiphendukele ekuthululeleni isifuba sami emndenini wami lapho ngiphansi futhi ngingakwazi ukuqhubeka. Ngenxa yalokhu umyeni wami ungibiza ngokungathembeki kodwa uma ngingathululi isifuba sami futhi ngikhiphe izinkathazo zami ngizizwa ngicindezelekile, ukukhathazeka, lusizi kuze kube sezingeni lokugula. akukho engingakuthanda njengokubona umyeni wami eya emsebenzini futhi ngimamukele endlini ehlanzekile ehlelekile, ukudla etafuleni nami ngibheke ngendlela athanda ngibukeke ngayo. ngivame ukubeka izaba zokungafezi izifiso zakhe zocansi ngoba nje ngikhathele ukusebenza, ukubona izingane kanye nekhaya noma ngoba nginomuzwa wokuthi yilokho kuphela engikhona ukuze ngimgculise ngenkathi enokuhamba okulula. phezu kwakho konke lokhu umyeni wami uxoxa nabantu besifazane futhi ekujuleni kwenhliziyo nginesizathu esiqinile sokusola ukuthi ubenabanye abantu besifazane. bengingeke ngikusho lokhu uma ngingakukholwa ngokweqiniso. ngitshele-ke ukuthi ayini amalungelo ami? futhi ungathi umyeni wami usafaneleka kulokhu okungenhla? Ngifuna ukuhlala eduze kwakhe, ukumthanda kumhloniphe kumazise futhi kumanelise ngaphandle kokuzizwa sengathi konke kuhlangothi olulodwa futhi ngaphandle kokuzizwa sengathi akakufanele lokho ngifuna ukuzizwa ngihlonishwa futhi ngibalulekile kodwa ngingazizwa kanjani ukuthi uma ngicacile ukuthi angifaneleki izinsuku zokusebenza??
Uma kukhuliswa isithembu siba nalo mbono noma iphupho lokuthi owesilisa uzobe ephila impilo afeze isifiso sakhe bese abesifazane behlupheka.. Isithembu kuwumthwalo omkhulu. Indoda kufanele inakekele ngokwezimali ngokomzwelo ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo 2 amakhaya. Lokho kunzima kakhulu kulezi zinsuku. Bangaki kithina madoda abangama-amirs noma amakhosana aphila impilo yobukhazikhazi. 0.001%. Ngakho-ke uma kukhona ocabanga ngokujulile ngesithembu kungcono awulungele umsebenzi. Amasahaba kwakungamadoda angempela futhi ayeyizilwi futhi engabantu abanomthwalo wemfanelo. Isithembu sasiyinhlalakahle yabo. Manje ezinsukwini amadoda ethu awakwazi ukuthatha noma yini eyingozi ukwedlula i-smartphone noma i-playstation uma kufanele avikele umndeni wakhe.
Elinye iphuzu ukuthi empeleni isithembu singasusa umthwalo wemfanelo owesifazane anawo kubayeni babo futhi kumnike inkululeko eyengeziwe. (Ihlanekezelwe)
Makube ngokoqobo lapha lezi zimo zokuba isithembu senzeke wonke umuntu elokhu ebalula… Buphi ubufakazi? I-Islam yavula umnyango futhi azikho izimo ngaphandle kwemibandela yanoma yimuphi umshado (ukwesekwa ngokwezimali ngokomzwelo nangokwengqondo) ngaphandle kobulungiswa nokulunga.. Okungaphezu kokwanele kombandela wokuvimba amadoda amaningi ukuthi ashade inombolo 2. Mangaki amadoda Muslim empeleni ashade ngaphezu 1 umfazi eduze kwakho? Bambalwa kakhulu. NgiseSaudi futhi ababaningi abantu besilisa abakwenzayo… nakuba kunenqwaba yamantombazane angashadile lapha eSaudi. Njengoba ngishilo ngaphambili kuwumthwalo omkhulu kunelungelo.
Kukhona ngaphezu 100 ukuphawula ngesithembu futhi wonke umuntu ufuna ukubeka imibono yakhe. Kulula Its. I-halal yayo kodwa indoda kufanele iphile nayo. Bangaki abangakwenza lokho? Ngakho-ke bafowethu nodadewethu ngaphambi kokukhuluma ngamathuba okuthi umyeni wakho noma wena ngokwakho ushade futhi kudingeka silungise futhi sithuthukise imishado yethu yamanje. Uma singakwazi 1 kulungile singathola kanjani 2 noma 3 kwesokudla?
Uxolo ngamaphutha ami. Ngibhale lokhu ocingweni lami.
Wsalam
Abu Ubaydah
Salam Alay'k.
Ngempela futhi uyavumelana nokuphawula kwakho Abu Ubaydah in shaa ALLAH 😀
Abu Ubaydah
JazakAllahukhayran ngokuphawula kwakho kube iphuzu elishiwo kahle.
Kunabesifazane abaningi lapha abaphume emhlambini we-islam ngenxa yemibono yabo siqu ephambene nalokho akuyale u-Allah swt.. Ingabe ucabanga ukuthi ukhona onendaba nokuthi ucabangani lapho sineQuran kanye neSunnah?! Manje ngiyabona ukuthi ngithole kahle kangakanani ngoba u-Alhamdulillah umkami akafani neningi lenu eliphindaphinda i-jahiliyya yenu ngezinga elithile ukuze lenze i-kufr enkulu.. Kunesizathu sokuthi kungani iningi lezakhamizi zaseJahannam kungabesifazane. Yiba ne-taqwa abesifazane! Akukholakali!!!
I-Qur'an (33:36) – “Ayimfanele Okholwayo, indoda noma owesifazane, lapho udaba selunqunyiwe nguAllah kanye nesiThunywa saKhe ukuba babe nenketho ngesinqumo sabo.”
‘Kunesizathu sokuthi kungani iningi lezakhamuzi zaseJahhanam kungabesifazane’. Lokho kungaphezu kokuqina okuncane (ingasaphathwa esetshenziswe esimweni esingalungile). Odadewenu laba e-Islam, beluleke ngomusa esikhundleni sokubaxosha ngonya! Sengathi u-Allah angasipha sonke i-taqwa nothando nokuqonda ngenkolo yaKhe.
Salaam
Kunzima ukuba yikho konke endodeni engahloniphi,khombisa uthando,ube nobuhlobo obuseduze futhi akachithi nhlobo isikhathi nezingane…Ungamhluphi ngenkulumo encane?yini leyo?
Akufanele indoda nomfazi babe abangane, cela umbono we-eacothers njengoMprofethi Wethu(pbuh)wenza?
Ungaphila kanjani futhi uqhubeke nokuba nesineke nendoda ethumela imiyalezo kwabanye besifazane, efihla ucingo lwakhe, phuma shisha…njll.
Ngiyabekezela 10 iminyaka kodwa kunzima believe me.It takes its toll, lapho egqoke kahle aphume engashongo ukuthi uyaphuma ngalobo busuku, noma usho nje ukuthi uyaphi,uma eza…akukho kwakho…avele asukume,agqoke anikeze u-salaam…Ngingaba kanjani nothando, nginakekele futhi ngizenze ngimuhle kumuntu onjalo?Kwangathi u-Allah angangiqondisa nabo bonke abasebunzimeni inshaAllah…
Bese wenza okufanayo usisi. Xxoo
Ngivumelana nawe ,udubula inkinga yami eminingi.igama elilodwa kuphela engifuna ukulisho 'ngiyabonga'.
Kuhle kakhulu futhi kuyiqiniso kakhulu! Uma ufuna izeluleko ezengeziwe ngomshado – buka https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jf6B4xk3kcI by Yasir Qadhi. Futhi ufunde ethi ‘Surrendered Wife’ kanye ‘noBufazi Obuthakazelisayo’ – izincwadi. Ezinye izinto kungase kube nzima ukuzigwinya kithina besifazane, kodwa uAllah swt Usidale ngalendlela, ngakho-ke kunalokho zinike amandla ngalolu lwazi nokuqonda, kunokububula nokubuza indlela yezinto. Futhi uAllah Wazi Kakhulu. Zakewu – http://www.muslimommy.com
Kwenzekani uma ekuhlukumeza ngokomzimba, ukuthuka wena nomndeni wakho njalo nje ethola ithuba, songela isehlukaniso ngaso sonke isikhathi, ngenxa yezinkinga ezincane. Ngabe u-Allah usazongithukuthelela uma ngiyeka ukuba nomzwelo ngaye? Kodwa unquma ukubekezelela bcos of ur kids n bcos uhlale esabisa ngokuthi uzozilanda kuwe. Kwenzekani uma uzonda ukuthinta kwakhe noma ukusondelana naye awusoze wakulangazelela. Sghhhhh
Dadewethu udinga ukuthola i-counselling yendoda yakho bese iyashintsha noma umshiye. Kufanele uphile impilo yakho ngokugcwele futhi izingane zakho zifanelwe indawo ephephile nenothando ezingakhulela kuyo, hhayi eyodwa lapho unina abamthandayo ehlukunyezwa. Kulimaza kakhulu izingane zakho, ikakhulukazi abafana bakho uma unabo, bazogcina bethathe isibonelo sikayise sokuhlukumeza uma ungabasindisi kule ndawo. Sicela uthole ukwelulekwa ngesimo sakho. Ngiyakhuleka u-Allah akusize wena nabanye ezimeni ezifana nezakho.
asalam o alaikum, SUBHAN ALLAH ngiyabonga bhuti ngokwabelana nomlayezo ogcwele omnandi nosho ukuthini, umsebenzi omuhle kakhulu,JAZAK ALLAH,,,,,,,,ningikhulekele ngifunele umakoti………
Siyabonga ngeseluleko. Kodwa mfowethu ngemva kokwenza konke okubhalile uma umyeni engamhloniphi futhi engamanelisi okufanele akwenze. Ukuthethelela nokwenza isemishi?
sengishadile okwesibili.
nginendodakazi evela emshadweni wami wokuqala.
angikwazi ukunikeza umyeni wami wesibili ingane.(angikhulelwe)
ngenze zonke izinhlobo zokwelashwa kodwa akukho mphumela.
umyeni wami uyangithanda kakhulu.
umndeni wakhe wamtshela ukuthi enze umshado wesibili.
futhi wenza ngemvume yami, kodwa abamazisanga owesifazane ukuthi umshado wakhe wesibili.
ukuletha owesifazane endlini futhi kufanele ngiphile sengathi i'm a business partner shop.
unkosikazi wesibili wathola umntwana.
kodwa nomyeni wami uyangithanda, wangitshela ukuthi ngeke angishiye.
kodwa angiyithandi indlela izinto ezihamba ngayo.
ngilala ngedwa.
lapho efuna uthando nami, kusemini kwenye indawo.
Ngithole ukuthi lokhu kuyangijabulisa futhi uma ngingaphosisi kubhalwe ngowesilisa?
kuthiwa amadoda “ehlisa amehlo” ku-Quran Sharif. pho kwenzeka kanjani “ukubuka nokucabanga kwabanye besifazane” ikwenza ngokuphelele “evamile futhi engokwemvelo futhi engenasono”?
ungafaki ukucabanga kwakho kuwo wonke amadoda! “ukubuka abesifazane kungokwemvelo futhi akunasono” UKUCABANGA KWAKHO FUTHI AKUSIWO WONKE AMADODA.
Hawu nakhu abantu besifazane abalindele ukuba amadoda. Ngiyajabula ukuthi njengendoda awuvumelani nalo muntu. Ngoba uqinisile akuwona wonke amadoda afanayo futhi akekho okufanele alandele lesi sihloko (kusekelwe kokuhlangenwe nakho kwababhali) kuphela yenzani njengoba umuntu oshade naye enza kuwe futhi ulandele uAllah Lowo owahlulela bonke. Kuyajabulisa ukuthi kukhona amadoda ahloniphekile alandela i-Islam yeqiniso.
Assalam o alikum
Ngifuna ukubuza ngashada 3 ezinyangeni ezedlule nendoda engangimzonda kakhulu. Ngesikhathi sithembisana umshado ngathola ukuthi angeke ngikwazi ukuhlala nale ndoda ngakhuluma nomama ngayo kodwa wanqaba ukungilalela.. Umuntu engangishada naye ngazi ukuthi angikaze ngifune ukumshada futhi angimthandi kusuka enhliziyweni yami futhi angeke ngikwazi ukumthanda.. Wangishada nje ngoba engithanda kodwa nganginomcabango owodwa enhliziyweni yami ngaye nginenzondo.
Ngashada naye ngenzela umndeni wami, ngokushesha ngemva komshado usuku engaya ngalo kwakhe wonke umthwalo wendlu n my father in laws responsibility was on me. Ngangibaphekela ukudla ngenza konke okumele ngabe kwenziwa ngunkosikazi. Yebo ngangike ngixabane nomyeni wami ngezinto ezidabukisayo ngoba wayenganginiki uthando engangilufuna ngangifuna ukunakekelwa kwakhe ngangifuna abone ukuthi ngihlala ngedwa ekhaya ngikhungatheka futhi ngiyahlanya.. Konke ayekwenza wayematasatasa emhlabeni wakhe. Ngaqala ukuzwa ukuthi ufuna izinto ezimbalwa kuphela kimi … I must be there with him on bed when he wants it I must cook for him I must do all the house things and inreturn he couldn't console me not financially not mentally n not even emotionally.. Ngaqala ngazizwa ngikhungathekile ngaye futhi leyondlu nempilo yami ngangifuna ukuzibulala ngibaleke izidingo zami azifezekanga ngangivame ukufa amakhaza futhi akekho owayengibuza.. Ngangifuna ukuphuma ngijabulele impilo yami njengabanye kodwa impilo yami yaba mnyama kakhulu ngaqala ukuba nengcindezi. Noma yini engangiyicela kumyeni wami wayehlale engavumi kodwa efuna ngivume noma yini ayicelayo.
Ngafika kubazali bami ngabatshela ngabatshela ukuthi ngeke ngikwazi ukuhlala naye ngicela ningikhulule. Kodwa ngenxa yenhlonipho yabo emphakathini bafuna ngibuyele emuva. Ngiphinde ngicindezeleke futhi angazi ukuthi ngenzenjani. Angisafuni ukubuyela emuva angisafuni ukuhlala naleyo ndoda. Ngeke ngikwazi ukumthanda futhi ngimnike lokho akufunayo.
Ngicela ungitshele ukuthi yini okufanele ngiyenze futhi ngingabaqinisekisa kanjani abazali bami.
Ngicela othile angiphendule lo mbuzo, okungcono owesifazane oseshadile noma indoda esele ishadile? Ngiyabonga kusengaphambili! Ngingathanda ukwazi ukuthi akwamukeleki yini nhlobo noma akunakwenzeka yini ukubuza umuntu ongase abe umyeni ukuthi yena nongase abe umkakhe bangalinda kuze kube yilapho bazana kangconywana ngaphambi kokuba basondelane.? Ngikuthola kushaqisa ngempela ukulindela intombazane engumSulumane ebimsulwa impilo yayo yonke futhi engakaze ihlangane nabesilisa ukuthi kungazelelwe ngobusuku obubodwa ivuleleke ngokuphelele kumyeni wayo omusha.! Kuyahlekisa. Ngicabanga ukuthi njengoba ungamazi ngempela umuntu uze uhlale naye, khona-ke inkosikazi kufanele ibe nethuba lokwazi nokukhululeka ngokuphila kwayo okusha ngaphambi kokusondelana. Lokho kufanele kube yisigaba sokugcina ngempela. Kudingeka kube nesikhathi sokwakha ukwethembana nokuxhumana ngokomzwelo ngaphambi kokusondelana. Ngifuna ukwazi ukuthi umuntu ongase abe umyeni angasabela kanjani kulokhu futhi angacasuka noma akhungatheke futhi kungaba yisiqalo esibi emshadweni? Ingabe lona kungaba umbuzo okufanele intombazane iwubuze umkhongi ukuze nje iqinisekise ukuthi ulungile ngalokhu futhi angabi nazimanga ngobusuku bomshado? Ngiyazibonga izimpendulo zenu!
Ungazihluphi ngokubuza noma yimaphi amadoda. Qinisekisa ukuthi ushada nomuntu olungile ozobophezela ezifisweni zakho yilokho kuphela.
Akudingekile ukuba ube initmate ngobusuku bomshado. Kukuba ngabashadikazi.
Kulungile bafo , engizokusho akuhlangene nhlobo nesihloko, futhi ngiyaxolisa….Bengizibuza nje …okufanele umuntu oyedwa, abesifazane abangashadile benza lapho izifiso Allah Swt abe naye kuthatha phezu….sengathi ngingaphansi kweminyaka yokuganwa…. Futhi abazali bami ngeke bangivumele ngikwenze kuze kube yilapho ngidlula iminyaka engu-22…kodwa ngenxa yokuthi nginenkinga ye-hormonal, Kufanele ngivume ukuthi njengowesifazane nginezifiso engingathanda ukuzifeza nomyeni wami wakusasa…nokho lokho akulona iqiniso kimi. Nakuba ngike ngabuka amavidiyo asabekayo esikhathini esidlule, Ngizama ukungaphinde. Ngakho umbuzo wami omude uthi, yilokho engikwenzayo okungalungile futhi ngingazilawula kanjani izifiso zami ukuze ngijabulise uAllah. Ngiyaphenduka njalo ngemva kokukwenza, kodwa nginovalo lokuthi ngiyokwenza isono kuze kube seqophelweni lapho ukuphenduka kwami kungasayikuba qotho noma kuthethelelwe…Omunye ngicela ungisize ngididekile
Umyeni wami washada nenye intombazane ngaphandle kokungazisa. Ngathi uma ngizwa ngalokhu leya ntombazane yathola ingane yentombazane. Manje nami ngitholile 1 ingane yomfana. Mina nomyeni wami sihlala kwamanye amazwe.njalo ngonyaka uza eholidini 1 noma 2 izinyanga futhi uchitha isikhathi esigcwele 2 nd umkami. Kumele ngihlale nabazali bami. Umyeni wami akaze angibonise noma asho noma yimaphi amazwi othando kimi. Kodwa uthumela yonke imilayezo yothando kuye 2 nd umkami. Nginomuzwa wokuthi akanalo uthando ngami. ngine 5 umfana oneminyaka yobudala. Ngacabanga ukumshiya ngiyohlala ngedwa nendodana yami. Ngoba ngiyamthanda kakhulu kodwa yena uyangithanda 2 nomfazi kuphela. Nini 1 noma 2 izinyanga ahlala nazo 2 nd umfazi ngizizwa ngingenandoda. Ngimdivose. Ngicela ningicebise.
Umyeni wami uMustapha kanye nami unkosikazi wakhe uMaureen siyawazisa amavesi e-Holy Quron kodwa ngokungananaziyo konke okushoyo akusizi noma akulungile.. Umyeni wami akakaze acabange noma akhulume nabanye abantu besifazane. SingamaSunnah amaSulumane eqiniso Hamdullah
futhi enye into ebaluleke kakhulu: umyeni wami uMustapha akakaze angifihlele lutho futhi angimfihli lutho!
ngangithanda indoda eyiMuslim. nami ngiyintombazane yamaMuslim..sake saba nobudlelwane bomzimba ngelinye ilanga.kodwa ngiseyintombi nto.wake wathi singashada uma abazali bethu bevuma.kodwa manje akafuni ukungishada njengoba abazali bakhe bengamvumeli. ..kodwa manje bayavuma.kodwa uthi asihambe ngezindlela ezimbili..hhayi ukudabukisa abazali..,ngigana kanjani omunye umuntu ngingamtshelanga nokumqhatha.. senze amaphutha..ngicela u Allah asithethelele konke…ingabe lokho akwenzayo kulungile ku-islam?? angifuni ukumshiya.futhi ngingenza abazali bami ngimshade.kodwa akakakulungeli lokho…ngizokwenzenjani? ngokusho kwe-islam wat yisixazululo salokhu?
Into yokuqala okufanele uyenze ukufuna intethelelo eqotho ku-Allah ngoba AKUKHO isibusiso emshadweni oqala ku-haram.. Okwesibili, uma engavumi umshado, lokhu kuwuphawu ukuthi ubefuna ukuganga nje – awukwazi ukuphoqa umuntu ukuthi afune ukukushada, ngoba uma wenza, kuzokubangela usizi nobuhlungu benhliziyo isikhathi eside. Akekho umuntu onenani elingako ukuthi ucekele phansi injabulo yakho.
Okwesithathu, yenza izinyathelo ezisebenzayo zokuguqula impilo yakho ibe ngcono futhi uphile ngendlela evumelana nalokho u-Allah akucela kuwe – futhi lokhu kungcono kini kanye nenjabulo yenu. I-Imaan izokunika amandla owadingayo ukuze unqobe izinkinga empilweni yakho futhi ubhekane nezinto ongajabule ngazo.
Okwesine, ungalokothi ukhulume ngokwenzeka phakathi kwakho komunye umuntu. Lokho kuphakathi kwakho noAllah. Uma uphenduka ngobuqotho ngokusuka enhliziyweni, khona-ke u-Allah SWT UnoMusa futhi uzosula izono zakho futhi aziguqule zibe izenzo ezinhle.
Okokugcina, yenza i-dua eqotho yokuthi u-Allah SWT ukubusisa ngomuntu ozokuthanda, hlonipha futhi ube yisibonelo esihle kuwe – futhi lokhu kungumphumela omuhle kakhulu insha’Allah.
Sengathi u-Allah anganiphe lula ezindabeni zenu ameen
Sanibonani
Uma ngithanda indoda endala kodwa isishadile kuvumelekile yini ukuthi ngiyishade
Assalam walikum
Igama lami ngingu-Ayesha.. NgiyiSulumane ephendukile(Hindu to Muslim) bt ngafunda isi-Urdu. Isi-Arabbi. Mama njengoba konke… ngaphandle kuka-nikha sahlala 5 years after dt my hubby convenienced dr parents I we get Nikha… kungakapheli unyaka uhubby wami wakhangwa nabanye abantu besifazane bt ngangingazi ukuthi kunjani. Dn ngikhulelwe… ngemva kwendodakazi yami yesibili wayigcina emqashweni… dt abesifazane asebeshadile n usenayo 5 year boy baby… nomyeni wokuqala wagcina ubuhlobo nomyeni wami… n ngemva kwalokho 5 iminyaka wahlukana nomyeni wokuqala… manje uhlala no hubby wami n wathola 1 baby by my hubby. Sengihamba nabazala bami n Dy also know ds n umamazala wami- umthetho uthi unikeza konke u Nay u worrying… ngine 3 kids 2daughers n 3one is boy 2year old… Ngiphatheke kabi kakhulu empilweni yami.. ngokomzimba. Ngokwengqondo. From hubby n abasekhweni lami futhi. Anginakho ukuxhumana nabazali bami.. ngakho anginakho ukwesekwa kokuziphatha. Ds impilo yami yeqiniso… Ngihamba ngomusa kaAllah…
Salam Aleykum,
Ngifunde okuningi kokuthunyelwe lapha
Isithembu a “ilungile ngokwepolitiki” isihloko, nokho kuyiqiniso, kuvunyelwe ku-Islam, futhi kuyiqiniso ukuthi abesifazane abaningi abayithandi ( uma kuziwa kunkosikazi wokuqala) futhi kuyiqiniso ukuthi iningi labangane bomprofethi benza isithembu kanye nabaprofethi abaningi, ngokusobala kwakuyingxenye yendlela yokuphila ngaleso sikhathi ukuthi amadoda amaningi abe nabesifazane abaningi futhi uma sikubheka ngendlela eyakhayo., singaphetha ngokuthi akubuzwa ukuthi kuyinto enhle ukuvikela nokuhlonipha abantu besifazane abaningi nokubenza abafazi kunokuba babe nomfazi oyedwa bese beyokopela nezifebe njengoba kwenzeka emazweni amaningi asentshonalanga namuhla kuhlanganise nabaningi. amazwe amaKhatholika ngokudabukisayo.
Asithandi ukuthi ubaba abe nomunye umfazi, abesifazane nabo bayabazonda abayeni babo ukuthi baphinde bashade kodwa lokho kungenxa yokuthi akuseyona ingxenye yempilo yanamuhla emiphakathini eminingi kodwa uma abantu bejwayela njengesibonelo uma wonke umuntu enenkosikazi engaphezu kwenkosikazi ngeke kube yinto enkulu ngicabanga ukuthi.
Futhi, sithola amagagasi okusabela kulokho okwenzeke ekugcineni 200 iminyaka yezinguquko endleleni yokuphila yabantu kanye ne-westernizing/americanizing, ubufazi njll kanye nabanye abantu bazama ukuphila nayo yomibili le ndlela yokuphila yaseMelika futhi bamukele yonke imfundiso eyiqiniso ye-Islam ngangokunokwenzeka.. Kwesinye isikhathi kufanele sizithobe kulokho uAllah akwenze kwavunyelwa nalokho akwenqabelayo njengoba kuyingxenye yokumkhulekela.. Kusazoba nzima kithina ngaphambi kokuthi sijwayele i-Idea!
umyeni wami ungumSulumane mina ngingumKristu ngakho angiqondi iBandla lakhe wayengifuna 2 ube naye 2 iBandla lakhe ngakho ngenqaba wathi uyahamba 2 shada omunye umfazi angijabule ngicela ningisize
Kubuhlungu kakhulu ukuzwa lo sisi. Ngincoma ukuthi ufune ukwelulekwa ngomshado ukuze usize ekutholeni isisombululo sezinkinga zakho njengoba le nto iyinkimbinkimbi esingeke sikwazi ukunikeza iseluleko esiqondile ngayo.. Unkulunkulu akusize esimweni sakho ameen.
iseluleko esihle. wonke umuntu mush ufunde lesi sihloko
umyeni wami akajabule neze, uzovula umlomo agxeke, uma usawoti ubuncane, noma ihlolwe ilula. Angikaze ngizwe okuhle. Angicabangi ukuthi uyangithanda noma umndeni wami. Uqamba amanga, ngakho angazi ngempela ukuthi kwenzakalani. Ngiphatheka kabi ngomndeni wami, Kuningi engangingakwenza kubo, kodwa akakwazi kumyeni wami futhi akake enze lutho uyajabula. Angazi noma kufanele ngihambe, ukunyamalala.
Ngicela bosisi bafunde amaqiniso eQuran yebo isitshela ukuthi angaba nabafazi abangaphezu koyedwa kodwa uma engenza ubulungiswa. Ayikho indoda engenza ubulungiswa ngayo yonke inkosikazi akwenzeki yingakho lolayini wafakwa kubo ngakho akuvumelekile kodwa uAllah Uzokuthethelela uma ufuna intethelelo yakhe.. Amadoda asebenzisa izindlela zawo zokucabanga ukuze abe nabafazi abangaphezu koyedwa kodwa kuyohlale kukhona inkosikazi eyodwa azoyithanda kakhulu noma amnike okunye okwengeziwe.. Isibonelo ngisho nezingane zakho 2,3,4 ngitshele ungabanika ukunaka okufanayo imali yothando lokhu ukuthi noma ngabe ubufuna ngempela kungenzeki. I-Quran ithi kuphela kuphela uma ungenza ubulungisa phakathi kwabo. Kepha uAllah Uyathethelela futhi Unesihe. Uma amadoda enu efuna ukushada mawavumele futhi azothola ubulungiswa bawo kuAllah ngokusobala ayengakuthandi kwasekuqaleni.. Kodwa khumbula abakwenzayo akulungile. Iningi labesilisa nabesifazane basebenzisa i-Quran ukusonta izinto ngendlela yabo. Ngicela uthole wonke amaqiniso ku-islamweb.net ngihlala ngihamba ngawo kodwa i-Quran iwukhiye okufanele siyifunde futhi siyiqonde….. ngomuntu siqu ngeke ngaphandle kokubili kodwa ngokuqinisekile ngizomvumela ashade ngaphandle kwenkinga futhi avalelise: khumbula ukuthi umthole kanjani lonkosikazi wesibili ngokwehlisa amehlo ? Leyo enye indaba emadodeni amaningi anomfazi wesibili babuze ukuthi laba bafazi bangene kanjani empilweni yabo ye-haram noma i-halal bheka iningi linakekela odade impela sonke siyavivinywa. Khumbula ukuthi abantu abaphelele kepha u-Allah kanye ne-Quran Islam iphelele
Ngokusho kwayo:- Lapho indoda ibiza umkayo embhedeni wayo, futhi angaphenduli futhi yena (umyeni) ulala naye ubusuku bonke, izingelosi ziyamthuka kuze kuse.
Bukhari kanye Muslim.
Ukuhlukumeza ngokocansi kuvumelekile uma kwenziwa ngumyeni
Lil bit ukudideka lapha
Akufanele kube uhlobo lokuhlukumeza. Uma unkosikazi enesizathu sangempela sokungahlangabezani nezidingo zomyeni uzothethelelwa insha’Allah.. Kodwa uma emphika ngaphandle kwesizathu esizwakalayo khona-ke kuyoba yisono. futhi uAllah Wazi kakhulu.
Impela kukhona ama-cherry amaningi okukha emhlabeni kuzo zonke izinhlobo zezindawo zamaSulumane, hhayi nje ebudlelwaneni. Abantu bafuna izinto ngendlela yabo nabanye abantu ngakho bazosebenzisa leyo ngxenye ye-Islam evumelana nabo.
Ngingumuntu ongashadile futhi ngingajoyina iklabhu yomshado maduze nje. Engifuna ukuba yikho nje wumyeni omuhle futhi ngingalokothi ngisebenzise umkami nganoma iyiphi indlela. Uma sikhuluma iqiniso? Angiyena umSulumane omuhle futhi ngifuna ukuthuthuka futhi ngingathanda unkosikazi ozongikhuthaza ukuba ngibe ngcono kuzo zonke izici zokuphila. Ngifuna ukuba khona kuye ngayo yonke indlela angathanda futhi ayidingayo. Insha Allah ngizothola intokazi ethandekayo maduze nje ezoba yindlela yokukhanya empilweni yami futhi engizomduduza ngayo.. 🙂
Lesi sihloko siqinisekile indlela enhle yokunikeza amakhanda ukuthi mangaki amadoda avame ukucabanga njengawo. Umehluko usemcabangweni wokuthi lokho esikwenzayo kungenxa ka-Allah Ta'aalaa kunokuzenzela thina..
Ngiyakhuleka ku-Allah Ta'aalaa ukuthi asinike konke ukuqonda ukuthi umSulumane weqiniso kufanele aziphathe kanjani nokuthi asithethelele sonke kukho konke okubi esikwenzile empilweni., esivumela ukuthi sife nge-Imaan enamandla futhi ekugcineni singene eJannatul Firdaus. (Ameen)
Lesi sihloko sikhuluma ngobulili futhi siyahlekisa. Futhi ukuyiqeda hamba ungenzele isemishi? Bengicabanga ukuthi ngifuna ukuguqula kodwa ukubona ukuthi indlela amadoda acabanga ngayo ngempela? Iyadabukisa. UNkulunkulu ubengeke alunge ngalodoti. Ngibonga uNkulunkulu ukuthi nginomsebenzi wami kanye neholo lami ngakho angihanjelwa yindoda yami eyiMuslim. Lesi sihloko siyahlekisa futhi senzelwe amadoda adinga ukulawula nokuba ngabafazi bawo. Ngiyabonga noma kunjalo.
Lena into ewubuwula engake ngayifunda esikhathini eside. Umngane wami wayeshade nendoda eyiSulumane yasePakistan, kodwa wavele wakhohlwa ukusho ukuthi wayenabanye abafazi abaningi ePakistan.
Uyaqaphela ukuthi amadoda angamaSulumane angathatha abafazi abaningi, futhi sihlala emazweni amaningi avumela isithembu?. Ngisho nalowo mfowabo wamaSulumane wayenamakhosikazi ambalwa eParis. Abathembekile. Bathanda ukuqhubekela phambili nabesifazane abaningi ngangokunokwenzeka, njengomyeni womngane wami wakudala. Konke lokho umfana akwenza kwaba ukuthatha imali kumngane wami, ahambele phesheya avakashele amakhosikazi akhe, bese emlahla lapho ezwa ngawo wonke amakhosikazi akhe.
Sanibonani nonke,
Ngiyindoda eyiMuslim. Ngithanda kakhulu isihloko sakho nokho kukhona ukuphikisana kuso.
Ngemva kokudlula kuso sonke isigaba sokuphawula, ngiyabona ukuthi iningi lamaSulumane lapha awayidluli ngisho ku-quran nama-hadith ngaphambi kokubeka imibuzo yawo lapha.
Iningi lokuphawula likhomba umshado wesibili kanye no-bla bla. Indaba yokuthi amadoda avunyelwe ukushada kuphela uma kunesizathu esihlakaniphile esikhona kanye nezidingo ezidingekayo.. Njengokuba nesimo esiqinile sezimali futhi ube nekhono lokwenza ubulungiswa kubo bobabili amakhosikazi uma engakwazi ngakho-ke akufanele aye emshadweni wesibili. Kulabo abathi amadoda akanasibopho sokwazisa unkosikazi wokuqala ngomshado wesibili. Bayaphika. Nokho, amadoda awaphoqelekile ukuba athathe imvume kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo kudingeka azise omkawo. Inkinga amadoda afihlela unkosikazi wawo wokuqala umshado wawo wesibili okuwubufakazi bokuziphatha ngendlela engafanele okusho ukuthi akumele aye emshadweni wesibili njengoba engakwazi ukwenza ubulungiswa.. Uma ufihla kunkosikazi wakho wokuqala kusho ukuthi awunaso isizathu sangempela. Kuyilungelo eliphelele kowesifazane uma engafuni ukuhlala nomyeni wakhe ngemva kwalokho. Kodwa kufanele afune izizathu zomshado wesibili uma engagculisi bese ehlukanisa.
Inhloso yemishado eminingi kwakuwukusiza kanye nokuhlalisa izisulu zempi noma abafelokazi.
Iphuzu abantu abaningi abangalaziyo ukuthi u-sahaba kanye nomprofethi Muhammad babona ukuthi imishado eminingi ngemva kweminyaka yobudala 50. Inhloso yomshado kwakuwukunikeza indawo yokukhosela nokusekelwa ngokwezimali kubafelokazi nezisulu. Uma inhloso yangempela yayiyizifiso zobulili babezoyilandela besebasha. Ngeshwa leli yilona phuzu iningi labesilisa elizibayo ngamabomu noma lingahlosile.
Kwabesifazane lapha, ngifuna ukusho ukuthi ezikhathini eziningi umuntu akakaze ayibone kusengaphambili imiphumela yemithetho ka-allah. Ake sithi uma indoda ecebile ishada nabesifazane ababili. Ekuqaleni, unkosikazi wokuqala angakubona njengokwabelana ngomyeni wakhe okuyiqiniso emehlweni kodwa hhayi uma ucabanga ujule. Ngokushada owesifazane wesibili kwakuyonika lowo nkosikazi kanye nezingane zakhe ilungelo lokuba nesabelo esilinganayo engcebweni yamadoda hhayi nje ukuthi bathole ukwesekwa kobaba ekukhulisweni kwabo okuyinto abesifazane abayishalazela kakhulu lapho bezwa ngomshado wesibili.. Mhlawumbe akubukeki kahle kuwena kodwa kungaba kuhle emphakathini wonkana.
“Kahle njengomuntu oyiMuslim, Kudingeka ngizibuze mina ngaphambi kokuya emshadweni wesibili. Okwesibili, nakuba kungadingeki kodwa kungaba wumkhuba omuhle kungaba ukutshela umkami wokuqala izizathu zokuya emshadweni wesibili. Njengoba ngizazi kangcono kunanoma ubani ngakho-ke ngeke ngiye emshadweni wesibili njengoba ngazi ukuthi ngeke ngikwazi ukwenza ubulungiswa.”
Ngithanda ukukhuluma nombhali mayelana nephuzu lesi-4. Kungani umuntu wesilisa ecabanga ngowesifazane wesibili uma ehlisa amehlo ngesikhathi ezulazula ezindaweni zomphakathi? Ngokwenza ubuSulumane izinkinga eziningi bezizoxazululeka.
sawubona ngifunda isihloko sakho manje 2017. Ngihlabeke umxhwele ngempela. Nginenkinga mhlampe ungasiza.hubby n ngina 4years ngishadile.sajabula impela. alhamdulillah sabusiswa nge lill princess.uhubby useshintshile selokhu ngazala u bby wethu.wayengithinta noma yinini uma ethanda.uyazithanda izingane nami.ngangicabanga ukuthi mhlawumbe kungenxa yokukhathala yingakho enqabile ukulala nami 3 ku 4 days..after that wayezofika n wangithinta futhi.manje kwakumele ngikhiphe isisu. this waa not my decision but uyena udokotela owathi angikhiphe isisu njengoba ukhakhayi lwengane yami aluzange lubumbe uzoshona esanda kubeletha.impela ngangingafuni ukukhipha isisu kodwa uyena uhubby owangikholisa. ukwenza lokho.emva kokukhipha isisu kwadingeka ngenze i-curettage.n ngempela ngathakaselwa lapho uhubby enginakekela kakhulu esibhedlela.. kodwa emva kwalokho siqale sixabane ngezinto ezincane.bese ezama ukungishaya izikhathi eziningi kodwa ngamvimba.muva nje sibhebhane n uyena owayenephutha njengenhlalayenza.. Ngiyazi abantu besilisa ngeke bavume ukuthi banephutha kunalokho bazokhombisa ukuthi thina besifazane sinephutha. yeah sabhebhana muva nje esezongigijimisa imoto yakhe.idolo lami lalivuvukele kancane n ubuhlungu.ngakhala kakhulu ngalelo langa.isizathu esibuhlungu ngempela besiwuthandile umshado.bengicabanga ukuthi singajabula.kodwa yazi. umbuzo wami uthi ufuna ngenzeni?ufuna ngibekezele? plz iseluleko ngiyabonga
Sawubona Wazeela, angazi ukuthi uphawule nini kodwa ngiyaphendula manje 2017 September. Lokhu kungenzeka emishadweni eminingi kodwa ngezikhathi ezahlukene. Sekwenzeka manje kimina, ekuqaleni komshado wami, ngishadelwe 3 izinyanga futhi sinomuzwa wokuthi asiqondi. Sobabili singamaSulumane asebenza ngempela(ngibuyela unyaka, mdala kunami nge 17 iminyaka futhi wazalwa Muslim) kodwa njengoba sindawonye inkolo yethu iyancipha isikhathi esiningi). Amasonto okuqala ayephindiwe kodwa manje izikhathi eziningi sasixabana kabi ngisho nokulwa. Ungu-masha Allah umyeni omangalisayo izikhathi eziningi, abapheki, uyahlanza, uyangihlinzekela, uyangisiza, unginika uthando, ayilindele lutho kimi inginika inkululeko, kodwa uma esecasukile uba nolaka, kubi ngempela, akafuni ngikhulume noma ngibone, futhi ngizama ukukhuluma ukuze ngixazulule ama-probl3ms afuna ukwenza sengathi awakaze abe khona. Ngisemaphethelweni okuhlukana naye .. Inkinga enkulu akakaze awabone amaphutha akhe amakhulu bese ebeka icala kimi futhi lokho kuyalimaza. Ngivumele umhlaba wonke, umndeni wami, anythung ngenxa yakhe futhi ngimthanda kakhulu kodwa ngezinye izikhathi uhluke ngokuphelele, kubanda, nokwenza kabi ngenxa yezinto ezincane. lena bekumele kube i-eid-ul adha yami yokuqala futhi ngoba ingeyakhe yokuqala ukungena 36 iminyaka ngaphandle kwabazali bakhe nezihlobo wayecasulwa into encane, ngathi ngimoshile i-eid yakhe, wenza sengathi angiyena umkakhe, futhi wathi kimi une-eid embi kakhulu ngenxa yami, futhi for 2 izinsuku saxabana kakhulu waze wathi ujabule ngaphandle kwami futhi ngeke angikhumbule noma ngiqabule(wathi wallahi) . Ngilimele kakhulu, angazi ukuthi ngizobhekana kanjani neyakhe ngifuna ukudivosa ukuze ngijabule njengoba engenze ngazizwa ngingumfazi omubi kakhulu. Mina nje 19 cishe 20 in sha Allah futhi ayisetshenziswanga emshadweni ngakho ngikhala njalo(manje ngaphandle kwezizathu Yebo) futhi angisebenzisi izwi elikhulu kunawo wonke uma ngimthukuthelele kodwa ngimenzela ezinye izinto ezimangalisayo asezikhohlwe manje.. ANGIZI NGENJANI IM TERRIBLY HURT NGICELA NINGISIZE NGEZELULEKO NOMA MUNTU NGIYAKUVUMA UKUZIQHOSHA KWAMI NGAYE KODWA MANJE ANGIKWAZI UKUDLULA LOKHU NOMA NGKHOHLWE LOKHU.. U-BarakAllahu Feekum.
Umyeni wami uthola imiyalezo eminingi ye-inbox evela ku-facebook evela kwabesifazane abahlukene ngaso sonke isikhathi. Uthi akabafuni ngoba abazihloniphi bona. Hmmmm. Angazi. Yebo uyangithanda kodwa kwesinye isikhathi ngiba nenkinga yokuthembana.
Angikwazanga ukuthola igama lombhali wale ndatshana. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi awufuni ukusolwa ngento oyishilo? Unesibindi sokusho ukuthi wonke amadoda afuna omunye wesifazane ngesinye isikhathi. Ngeke ukwazi lokhu ngoba akekho owaziyo ukuthi yini esemqondweni wawo wonke umuntu. Ngidinga ukubhala futhi ngithumele isihloko esihle ndawana thize mayelana nalesi sihloko.
Salam guys I am in depressed for Umyeni Wami akangithandi ngokweqiniso futhi eze nami nje ngocansi bese uyangishiya uwumkhuba wakhe wemihla ngemihla manje mina 4 izinyanga pragnant yengane yakhe akayena umuntu ongithanda ngokweqiniso uyangisebenzisa nje njalo ebusuku i am very tiered ukuziphatha kwakhe manje ngifuna ukumshiya kodwa ngeke ngikwenze lokhu ngoba zonke izinkinga zizobhekana nami kanye nengane Yami mina nje 17 iminyaka futhi umyeni wami 31 iminyaka yobudala futhi isikhathi sempilo yomshado Wami silungile 7 izinyanga umyeni wami uthi mina ngifuna ingane manje ngi pragnant he dose akanandaba nami uyangithanda kuphela uhamba nami uma efuna ucansi nami otherwise he dosi not guys ningisize ningiphe iseluleko ngenzenjani myeni ngingayithola kanjani impilo emnandi emshadweni yini engingayenza dooooo guys….???