Umshado ku-Islam

Marriage literally means a voluntary union of two people. It is a legal contract between a man and a woman. The consent of both, the groom and the bride with their free wills are compulsory for this agreement of a lifetime. A formal, binding contract having the rights and responsibilities of the groom and bride is considered vital to a religiously valid Islamic marriage.

Islam strongly advocates marriage as it is clear from the following verse of Quran:

“And marry those among you who are single and those who are fit among your male slaves and your female slaves; if they are needy, Allah will make them free from want out of His grace; and Allah is Ample-giving, Knowing.” (Surah an-Nur, 24:32)

Umshado uyisidingo senhlalo ngoba yisinyathelo sokuqala sokusungula umndeni kanye nomndeni uyingxenye eyisisekelo yomphakathi wethu. Okwesibili, Akufanele ukubambezeleka ikakhulukazi uma umuntu enezindlela futhi enekhono ngokwanele ukwenza kanjalo. Umshado futhi uyindlela ye-Ibadah ngoba ulalela uAllah (I-SWT) Futhi ingelosi yakhe (Ukuthula Nezibusiso zika-Allah ziba phezu kwakhe). Selokhu, Umshado ukuphela kwendlela ye-halal yokusondelana phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane. UMprofethi (Ukuthula Nezibusiso zika-Allah ziba phezu kwakhe) kusho:

“Lapho indoda ishada, Ugcwalise uhhafu wenkolo yakhe , Mayesabe u-Allah mayelana nengxenye esele.”

Umshado akuyona into engathathwa ngokunganaki. Kufanele iphathwe ngokuzibophezela ngokuphelele nolwazi oluphelele lwalokho elikugcina. Akufani nokuthenga indwangu entsha lapho ungayishintsha khona uma ungayithandi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Umlingani wakho kufanele abe ngukukhetha kwakho impilo. Umuntu kufanele avuswe ngokwanele ukuba aqaphele izidingo zomshado ukuze ubudlelwane bungaba bukhona okukodwa. Ukukhethwa kozakwethu kufanele kususelwe ku- "Phesti" - (Taqwa). Kunconywa ukuthi womabili amaqembu abonane ngaphambi kokungena kwinkontileka yomshado. Akukubi nangempela nalaba bantu ababili ukuze bazibophe ngokuqinile futhi balindele ubudlelwane obunempilo ngisho nabezozana. Womabili la maqembu avunyelwe ukubhekana ngeso elibucayi elingewona inkanuko. Akumelene nevesi leQuran elithi lawo madoda nabesifazane kufanele banciphise izigqoko zabo.

Ngemuva kokungena kwinkontileka yomshado, Kokubili umyeni kanye nonkosikazi banamalungelo abo komunye nomunye. Lawa malungelo afaka, ukuhlalisa, mahr, izinto ezibonakalayo nezingeyona impahla, ukuzwa, uthando, hlonipha njll. Ngaphezu kwalokho, I-Islam inikeze nokukhethwa kwe-khilul noma isehlukaniso kuzo zombili izindleko ezizosetshenziswa ezimweni ezinzima lapho kuba khona ukuthi kuhlale khona ndawonye. Ngifunde yonke imininingwane nokunye okuningi encwadini ebizwa ngegama, “Incwadi kaNikkah"Futhi"Ukuxabana Marital"Kuyatholakala ngokukhululekile at Ilabhulali ye-inthanethi yamaSulumane. Ngithole lezi zincwadi zisiza kakhulu kanti ezinye izincwadi ezitholakalayo zimboza nezici ezahlukahlukene zezimpilo zethu nendawo ezungezile. Ngisebenzisa umtapo wezincwadi we-Edarussalam esivivinyweni samahhala sezinsuku eziyisikhombisa futhi nakanjani uzothenga eyodwa ukuze abe nemininingwane eminingi ngalesi sihloko ukuze sabelane lapha.

Kwangathi uAllah (I-SWT) Vikela thina kanye nabathandekayo bethu esonweni nasezinkanukeni zezwe futhi kusenze sibe ngumlandeli weqiniso wezwi lakhe elilandelayo, InshaAllah.

"Yehlisa amehlo akho ..." (I-Al-Qur'an)