Izindlu ZamaSulumane: Izindlu ZamaSulumane

Ku-Surah An-Nahl (Sura 16) kwiKur’an, U-Allah USomandla uthi, "Futhi uAllah Unenzele izindlu zenu indawo yokuhlala."

Limelelani ikhaya emndenini wamaMuslim? Ingabe yindawo lapho amalungu omkhaya ekwazi ukuzwana khona nalapho engajabulela khona ngobuqotho ukuba ndawonye? Ingabe yindawo lapho benomuzwa wezinkolelo nezindinganiso ezifanayo, futhi lapho ukuziphatha kwabo kusekelwe ezimisweni zamaSulumane? Ingabe yindawo lapho amalungu omndeni evikelwe khona, bajabule futhi banomusa komunye nomunye?

Umuzi akufanele nje ube yindawo okudlela kuyo abantu, phumula ulale; ngempela, ikhaya yindawo esichitha kuyo isikhathi esiningi, nalapho imindeni ichitha isikhathi esiningi ndawonye. Yindawo lapho amadoda nabafazi bengaba bodwa ndawonye. Ngakho-ke, ikhaya liyindawo lapho imikhaya kufanele ikhulekele ndawonye, futhi kufanele kusekelwe emithethweni nesiqondiso sikaAllah. Kubikwe ngu-Ibn Abi Aldunia nabanye (Sahih al-Jaami) lokho, “Lapho uAllah Ethanda abantu bomuzi, wethula umusa phakathi kwabo.”

Umbuzo esibhekene nawo manje uthi: “Enkathini lapho umhlaba usushintshe kakhulu, kusukela ekubeni umsekeli womndeni kuya emphakathini omelene nomndeni, zingaki amakhaya amaSulumane analezi zimfanelo ezinhle? Sekuyisikhathi sokuthi sime futhi sihlole kabusha izimo zomndeni wethu ukuze sithole ukuthi zithinteke kangakanani emphakathini wethu omkhulu.?”

Nakuba kunzima ukuthola imininingwane yezibalo ephathelene ngqo nempilo yamakhaya amaSulumane, imithombo eminingana eyahlukene kanye nokuvela kwezimo ezithile emphakathini wethu kubonisa ukuthi imindeni yamaSulumane nayo ibhekene nezinkinga zomphakathi nezomuntu siqu..

Cabanga ukuthi kube nokukhula okuphawulekayo emphakathini wethu kulokhu okulandelayo:

1) Amazinga okuhlukana kanye nesehlukaniso;

2) Amaphesenti emindeni ephethwe umzali oyedwa;

3) Intsha;

4) Ukungaboni ngaso linye, ukungezwani nokungezwani phakathi kwabashadile;

5) Ukungqubuzana kwezizukulwane;

6) Izinga lokucindezeleka, ikakhulukazi phakathi kwabafazi;

7) Udlame lwasekhaya olubandakanya intsha.

Izizathu Ezisemuva Kwalezi zinkinga

Yiziphi izizathu zangempela zezinguquko ezenzeka emindenini yamaSulumane?

Esikhathini esedlule, kwakulula kakhulu ukukhulisa umndeni ngempumelelo ngoba umphakathi ngokwawo wawusekela imizamo yethu. Abazali nezingane babezungezwe izibonelo ezinhle; abezindaba baqinisa izindinganiso zomndeni, kanye nezinhlelo zokusekela zazikhona ukusiza ukudala imindeni eqinile. Nokho, kule minyaka engamashumi amathathu edlule, lezi zici zishintshe kakhulu, futhi lezi zinguquko zikhiqize imiphumela emibi kakhulu emindenini yethu.

Namuhla, cishe yonke into esizungezile ithambekele ekunciphiseni izindinganiso nezimiso zomkhaya ezinhle. Njengoba imindeni yethu iyingxenye yomphakathi oqhubeka uziphethe kabi, baye bahlaselwa futhi bangcoliswa futhi - kungakhathaliseki ukuthi siyathanda noma singathandi. Nakuba izindinganiso nezimiso zethu kungenzeka ziye zasisiza ukuba simelane nalezi zinguquko, njengabanye emphakathini wethu, sisesengozini yamathonya amabi asizungezile. Labo ababuthaka ezenzweni zabo zobuSulumane futhi abangenakho ukuhlakanipha nokwahlulela kungenzeka ukuthi banqotshwe ubuthi bengqondo okwenzeka namuhla..

Nokho, asinakusola ngokuphelele izikhathi nomhlaba esiphila kuwo. Amadoda nabafazi, omama nobaba, kumele bamukele isibopho sokuvikela imindeni yabo kulo mphakathi omelene nemindeni. Ukuvela kwalezi zinkinga emindenini yamaSulumane azo zonke izizinda nezimo kubonisa ukuthi izinkinga “zingaphandle.”

Lapho umshado usuncipha ekubeni abantu ababili abashadile abahlala ndawonye kodwa benze sengathi abashadile, “umoya womndeni” uyanyamalala ekhaya! Lapho laba bashadikazi bekhetha ukuba no “I, mina” indlela yokuphila, esikhundleni sokuthi “thina, us” umbono, amalungu omndeni ngeke asebenze ndawonye ngenxa yomndeni, noma ujabulele ukuba ndawonye.

Lapho bobabili ubaba nomama besebenza ngaphandle kwamakhaya abo ngenxa yezizathu zezomnotho futhi ukunakekelwa nemfundo yezingane zabo ishintshelwa kubahlinzeki bokunakekela izingane nothisha., izingane zivame ukuntula ukwaneliswa izidingo zazo ezingokomzwelo nezingokwengqondo. Lapho bobabili abazali bengaqondi ukuthi inhlalakahle yomndeni wabo kufanele ibe yinto eza kuqala futhi kufanele bazidele ukuze bakhe, vikela, futhi baqinise imindeni yabo, “isakhiwo” somndeni siyawa!

Lapho imindeni yamaSulumane ikhohlwa ukubaluleka kwe-Islaam yokwakha isisekelo esiqinile sempilo yomndeni; lapho abaganene bekhohlwa amalungelo uAllah uSomandla awanikeze abangane babo phezu kwabo, uthando lwabo luyaphela. Kunalokho, intukuthelo, ukungaboni ngaso linye, futhi ukungqubuzana kuthatha indawo yakho. Lapho obaba nabayeni bengazibeki eceleni isikhathi esikhethekile sokuba imikhaya yabo ixoxe, hleka, ukuxhumana; lapho amakhosikazi nomama bechitha isikhathi sabo esiningi bephekela izivakashi ekhishini bese belahlekelwa bona, ukuzola nempumelelo yomkhaya “kuhamba nomoya.” Lokhu kwenzeka lapho bobabili bekhohlwa ukuzivocavoca nokusebenzisa izipho zobuntu u-Allah uSomandla abanikeze zona - ukubekezela., umusa, nokuqonda - wonke umndeni ukhokha inani elikhulu.

Indlela Yokuxazulula Lezi zinkinga

Singabuyela ezimisweni zomndeni eziqinile futhi siqinise amakhaya ethu ngokusabalalisa izimfundiso ze-Islaam ekuphileni komndeni.

Okokuqala, sidinga ukuphila, ezinhliziyweni nasezingqondweni zethu, umuzwa wethemba kanye nenkolelo yokuthi akukephuzi kakhulu ukushintsha - ngisho noma sinomuzwa wokuthi umshado wethu uyafa futhi akukho lutho olubonakala luthuthuka. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, kufanele sikhumbule ukuthi isifiso sokwakha umndeni oqinile asanele - izinhloso ezinhle nemibono akwanele. Kufanele sithuthukise indlela entsha yokucabanga esekelwe ezimisweni nezinqubo zamaSulumane.

Kumelwe silwe kanzima ukuthuthukisa futhi siqaphele izipho u-Allah asinike zona ezizosenza sibe amanxusa oshintsho emindenini yethu.. Wonke umuntu usazi isimo somndeni wakhe kangcono kunanoma ubani omunye, futhi akekho ongaqonda ukuthi yini okufanele yenziwe phakathi kwemindeni yethu kangcono kunathi.

Umshado udinga ukubambisana, ukuzibophezela kanye nomuzwa wokuzibophezela; lezi zinto zisihlomisela ukuba sikhethe futhi sisebenzisane ukuze sibe “thina, us” noma “ndawonye” umumo. Kumele silwele ukuthuthukisa ulwazi olujulile ngokubaluleka kwezimiso zomndeni nomndeni ku-Islaam ukuze sibhekane namandla anamandla asizungezile..

Kumelwe sibekele eceleni isikhathi esikhethekile isonto ngalinye ukuze amalungu omkhaya wethu ajabulele omunye nomunye, ukuxhumana, uhlelo, futhi nifunde Islam ndawonye. Amadoda nabafazi kudingeka bachithe isikhathi ndawonye bexoxa futhi belwela ukuba nekhono lokuncokola. Kudingeka bazithibe ngoba lapho omunye wabo ecasuka futhi ehluleka ukuzibamba, imiphumela ingaba buhlungu. Intukuthelo yethu ingasifaka ezinkingeni ezinkulu.

Nakuba izinkinga zilindeleke kuyo yonke imishado, ukubekezela nokuthethelela kuyizipho ezinhle kakhulu esingazisebenzisa ukulungisa amaphutha. Kumelwe silwele ukubekezela, umusa, ezolile, futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke, ukuqonda umbono wozakwethu. Okuwukuphela kwendlela esingaba ngayo nobuhlobo bomkhaya obucebile iwukulalela nokuqonda. Esinye sezizathu eziyinhloko okufanele sifune ukuqondana ngazo ukuthi iningi lamaphutha ethu awumphumela wokungaqondi kahle hhayi izinhloso ezimbi..

Amadoda nabafazi kufanele bakugweme ukuxoxa ngezinkinga zabo zomuntu siqu nezindaba eziyimfihlo nabanye. Kudingeka futhi bakhuthazane ekulaleleni kwabo uAllah, kanye nokukhulisa izingane zabo ngokwezimiso zamaSulumane, ngoba akungabazeki ukuthi ingane ekhula ngaphandle kwezimiso zamaSulumane ihlupheka isikhathi eside. Izingane zithola umuzwa wazo wokulondeka nokuthula endleleni oyise nonina abaphathana ngayo; ngakho, into enkulu kakhulu esingabanika yona iwukuba sithandane futhi sibe nomusa komunye nomunye.

Ngokwakha imishado eqinile, Ngokwentando kankulunkulu, sizodala umphumela onamandla kuwo wonke umphakathi.

Umshado Omsulwa

….Lapho Ukuzijwayeza Kwenza Kuphelele

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