Ukwembula Izimfihlo, Isitha Esiyinhloko Empilweni Yomshado

Umthombo: Ideal Muslim

Injabulo yomshado iyiphupho layo yonke intombazane eshadile kanye nomgomo wawo wonke umfazi. Kuyiphupho nomgomo okufanele ukuba senze umzamo wethu omkhulu ukuwufinyelela. Ukuvuna izithelo zale mizamo, kufanele siqaphele amaphutha kanye nezitha ezibasongelayo. Umuntu ohlakaniphile yilowo ofunda kokuhlangenwe nakho kwabanye. Miningi imizi engayijabuleli le njabulo yomshado, nakuba abashadile benze konke okusemandleni abo ukuze baphumelele. Lokhu kwenzeke ngoba benza amaphutha okwenza imizamo yabo yaba yize. Ukuvikela injabulo yakho, qaphela lawa maphutha futhi ugweme izitha.

Elinye lamaphutha amakhulu ‘ukwembula izimfihlo’. Izimfihlo zomndeni ziyi-trust okufanele igcinwe. Ukuba budedengu ekulondolozeni lokhu kuthenjwa kwenza umuntu alahlekelwe ukumethemba komyeni wakhe. Ngakho-ke, qaphela ukwenza izimfihlo zekhaya lakho zibe isihloko sengxoxo yakho noma inkulumo yenhliziyo nenhliziyo njengoba ungase ucabange. Ungacabangi ukuthi umngane wakho uzogcina imfihlo yakho obungeke ukwazi ukuyigcina wena.

Okokuqala nokubalulekile, ukugcina izimfihlo zekhaya lakho jikelele, futhi ikakhulukazi ubuhlobo bakho obuseduze nomyeni wakho, iyadingeka ngaphansi kweSharee'ah futhi iyingxenye yokukhulekela kwakho U-Allah Somandla. Phakathi ku IHadeeth ngegunya lika-Asmaa’ bint Yazeed, wathi uke wahlala noMprofethi [p] ngenkathi amadoda nabesifazane bekhona kanye noMprofethi [p] kusho: “Mhlawumbe indoda isho lokho ekwenzayo nomkayo [kwabanye] futhi mhlawumbe owesifazane usho lokho akwenzayo nomyeni wakhe.” Bathule abantu. Asmaa’ wabe esethi, “Yebo, O, isithunywa sikaAllah, amadoda nabesifazane benza kanjalo.” Uthe: “Ungakwenzi lokhu. [Ukwenza kanjalo] kufana nokuthi usathane wesilisa uhlangana nosathane wesifazane emgwaqeni alale naye abantu bebhekile.”

Ukulimala Kwaso Kukhulu Kunenzuzo Yaso

Izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zigcizelela iqiniso lokuthi inkosikazi ikhuluma naye ngokusuka enhliziyweni (owesifazane) abangane kanye nokudalula izimfihlo zakhe zasekhaya ngokuvamile kubangela ukukhathazeka ngaphezu kokunethezeka. Kuyiqiniso ukuthi angase azizwe ekhululekile okwesikhashana futhi ngokushesha, kodwa ukukhathazeka kuyomudla lapho lezi zimfihlo zisakazwa futhi avune ukuzisola nokulahlekelwa. Akekho umuntu oke ajabule ngokudalulwa kwezimfihlo zempilo yakhe yomshado. Umaamah bint Al-Haarith waxwayisa indodakazi yakhe ngalokhu (ngaphambi kobusuku bomshado wakhe) ngeseluleko sakhe esaziwayo lapho ethi, “…Uma uveza imfihlo yakhe, ngeke uphephe ekukhohlweni kwakhe…”

Izimfihlo ziyizinhlobo namadigri ahlukene

Izimfihlo zekhaya azikho ezingeni elifanayo lokubaluleka. Kunezimfihlo mayelana nobudlelwano bangasese phakathi kwabashadile, okufanele bazigcinele bona kuphela. Sike sakhuluma ngesexwayiso soMprofethi, , ngokumelene nokwembula izimfihlo ezinjalo.

Kunezimfihlo ezihambisana nokuhlukana kwabashadile. Ukwembula izimfihlo ezinjalo kufanele kuhambisane namandla azo adonsela phansi. Inkosikazi ehlakaniphile iyona egcina lezi zimfihlo futhi iveza kuphela lezo ezingasiza ekuxazululeni inkinga. Nokho, akufanele azembulele abangane bakhe noma izihlobo zakhe; kunalokho, kufanele azembule kulabo akholelwa ukuthi bahlakaniphile futhi bayakwazi ukufeza iseluleko saphezulu njengoba sivezwe evesini lapho u-Allah USomandla Ethi (kusho ukuthini): {Futhi uma nesaba ukungezwani phakathi kwakho kokubili, thumela umahluleli ovela kubantu bakhe nomahlukanisi ovela kubantu bakubo. Uma bobabili befuna ukubuyisana, U-Allah Uzokwenza phakathi kwabo. Ngempela, UAllah Uhlezi Ezazi Futhi Ujwayele [ngazo zonke izinto].} [Quran 4:35] Nokho, inkosikazi akufanele isheshe ukwenza kanjalo lapho nje kuvela inkinga noma lapho kuvela noma iyiphi inkinga encane. Ziningi izinkinga ezingadingi kuphazanyiswa muntu; kunalokho, badinga ukuhlakanipha nokubekezela engxenyeni yomfazi.

Kusho umama,

“Indodakazi yami yashada eminyakeni eyishumi edlule, futhi akazange akhononde kimi noma kuyise womyeni wakhe. Wangitshela kuphela ngenkinga lapho isixazululiwe. Isicelo sakhe kuphela, lapho ebhekene nenkinga, ukungicela ukuba ngimnxusele ku-Allah USomandla, ngakho-ke ngiyazi ukuthi ubhekene nenkinga lapho engicela ngokuphikelela ukuthi ngimnxusele ku-Allah USomandla.”

Kunezimfihlo ezihambisana nezindaba zangasese zomuzi. Izimfihlo ezinjalo akufanele futhi zidalulwe ukuze umndeni ungabi incwadi evulekile phambi kwabanye abantu. U-Allah USomandla uthi (kusho ukuthini): {UAllah Wethula isibonelo salabo abangakholwa: umfazi kaNooh [UNowa] nomkaLowoti [Okuningi]. Babengaphansi kwezinceku zethu ezimbili ezilungile kodwa babakhaphela.}[Quran 66:10] Ezinye zezifundiswa zaseTafseer (I-Quranic exegesis) ephawula ngaleli vesi ethi ukukhaphela lapha kusho ukuthi unkosikazi kaNooh wayedalula izimfihlo zakhe. Uma ekhona owayekholwa kuNooh wayekwembulela iziqhwaga ezingakholwa. Lapho uLoote wamukela izivakashi, umkakhe wayetshela abantu abonakele besizwe abenza izenzo ezimbi (ubudlwembe) ukuze baye kulezi zivakashi futhi benze izenzo zabo zokuziphatha okubi kanye nazo.

Umshado Omsulwa

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