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Indaba yalo mshado incike esinqumeni kulokho okwafika ngaphambi kwawo. Uma uthando phakathi kwala maqembu womabili lungazange lweqe imingcele ebekwe nguAllah noma luwenze one, bese kuba nethemba lokuthi umshado ophuma kulolu thando uzosimama, ngoba kwavela ukuthi yilowo nalowo wayefuna ukushada omunye.
Uma owesilisa ezwa ukukhangwa okuthile kowesifazane okuvunyelwe ukuthi amshade, futhi ngokuphambene, ayikho impendulo enkingeni ngaphandle komshado. UMprofethi (ukuthula nezibusiso zika-Allah zibe phezu kwakhe) kusho: “Asicabangi ukuthi kukhona okungcono kulabo abathandanayo kunomshado.” (Ngiyakucela ukuba ungashiyi noma yisiphi isono ngaphandle kokusithethelela, 1847; ibhalwe ngokuthi saheeh ngu-al-Busayri kanye no-Shaykh al-Albaaniy encwadini ethi al-Silsilah al-Saheehah, 624)
U-Al-Sindi uthe, njengoba kushiwo ku-Haamish Sunan Ibn Maajah:
Inkulumo ethi “Asicabangi ukuthi kukhona okungcono kulabo abathandanayo kunomshado” ingase iqondwe ngokuthi ibhekisela kwababili noma kwabangaphezu kwababili.. Lokhu kusho ukuthi uma kukhona uthando phakathi kwabantu ababili, lolo thando alunakukhuliswa noma lwenziwe luhlale isikhathi eside nganoma yini efana nomshado. Uma kukhona umshado kanjalo nalolo thando, lolo thando luzokhula futhi luqine nsuku zonke.”
Kodwa uma lowomshado uvela ngenxa yobudlelwano bothando obungekho emthethweni, njengokuthi uma behlangana bebodwa baqabulane, kanye nezinye izenzo ze-haraam, khona-ke ayisoze yazinza, ngoba benza izenzo eziphambene ne-share'ah futhi ngenxa yokuthi bakhe izimpilo zabo ezintweni ezizoba nomphumela wokunciphisa izibusiso nokusekelwa okuvela ku-Allah., ngoba isono siyisici esiyinhloko ekunciphiseni izibusiso, nakuba abanye abantu becabanga, ngenxa yezinkulumo zikaSathane, ukuthi ukuthanda nokwenza izenzo ze-haraam kwenza umshado uqine.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, lobu budlelwano obungemthetho oba khona ngaphambi komshado buyoba yimbangela yokwenza umuntu ngamunye abe nokungabaza ngomunye. Indoda iyocabanga ukuthi umkayo angase abe nobuhlobo obunjalo nomunye umuntu, futhi noma ecabanga ukuthi akunakwenzeka, usazokhathazwa ukuthi umkakhe wenze into embi ngaye. Kanti nenkosikazi ingase ifikelwe imicabango efanayo, futhi uzocabanga ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi umyeni wakhe angajola nomunye wesifazane, futhi noma ecabanga ukuthi ngeke kwenzeke, usazokhathazwa ukuthi umyeni wakhe umenze into embi.
Ngakho-ke umlingani ngamunye uzophila esimweni sokungabaza nokusola, okuzolimaza ubuhlobo babo ngokushesha noma kamuva.
Umyeni angase amsole umkayo ngokuvuma ukuba nobuhlobo naye ngaphambi komshado, okuzomphatha kabi, futhi lokhu kuzodala ubudlelwano babo bonakele.
Ngakho-ke sicabanga ukuthi uma umshado usekelwe ebuhlotsheni obungekho emthethweni bangaphambi komshado, cishe izozinza futhi ngeke iphumelele.
Mayelana nemishado ehleliwe lapho umndeni ukhetha umlingani, abalungile bonke futhi ababi bonke. Uma umndeni wenza ukukhetha okuhle futhi owesifazane enenkolo futhi emuhle, futhi umyeni uyamthanda futhi ufuna ukumshada, bese kuba nethemba lokuthi umshado wabo uzozinza futhi uphumelele. Ngakho uMprofethi (ukuthula nezibusiso zika-Allah zibe phezu kwakhe) wanxusa ofuna ukushada ukuthi abheke owesifazane. Kwalandiswa ku-al-Mugheerah ibn Shu’bah ukuthi wacela umshado nowesifazane, kanye noMprofethi (ukuthula nezibusiso zika-Allah zibe phezu kwakhe) kusho, “Hamba uyombheka, ngoba lokho kungenzeka kudala uthando phakathi kwenu.” (Ilandiswa ngu-al-Tirmidhi, 1087; ibekwe njenge-hasan ngu-al-Nasaa'i, 3235)
Kodwa uma umndeni wenze ukukhetha okubi, noma benza ukukhetha okuhle kodwa umyeni akavumelani nakho, khona-ke lo mshado cishe uphelele ekuhlulekeni nasekungazinzini, ngoba umshado osekelwe ekuntuleni isithakazelo ngokuvamile awuzinzile.
Futhi uAllah Wazi kakhulu.
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Subhan Allah, isiphi isihloko esikhulu nesinolwazi kakhulu esithunyelwe. Lokhu kuzosiza embonweni wabafowethu nodadewethu bokholo mayelana nomshado.
mashallah iqiniso kakhulu lekin ek baat ye b hai k ye zaroori nhi k agr koi shadi sirf abazali ki marzi se hui hai aur larrki larrkay ne ek dusray ko nhi dekha aur ek dusray ho ko zi nhi janaty n mar na hai sha mil ki wo hi aur ka uun ki jaay balkay aisi shadian b kamyaab ho sakti hain balkay hain aur parents ki arrange ki hui shadian ziada kamyaab hain.
ngivumelana nawe . Akhona wonke amathuba okuthi imishado iphumelele. Haan jab ek doosre ko huma janenge to behtar hoga yehi kaha gaya hai. Kubuye kuncike esimweni somuntu . koi gusse waale hote hain to koi khamoosh koi egoistc to koi simple. i-agar negative ek nature ke do loog miljaayen to shayad relationship kabhi impumelelol nahi hogi.KODWA ekugcineni konke kuncike ku-rehmat ka-Allah subhanavataala.
Umbuzo engingathanda ukuwubuza mayelana nomshado wothando ukuthi ngaphambi komshado kusobala ukuthi kukhona ubudlelwano obuthile phakathi kwabo 2 abantu kodwa uvumelekile ukuthi niqabulane inqobo nje uma kungafiki kokulandelayo, ngabe ukuqabulana kubonakale sengathi wenze isono lokhu akucaci kulokhu okungenhla??
Impendulo yakho ingathokozelwa kakhulu
Futhi sengathi u-Allah angasigcina sikude nesihogo. Ameen
Ngokuphelele Haram ukwanga owesifazane ngale ndlela. Ngaphambi komshado akufanele kube nhlobo uhlobo lobudlelwano phakathi kwabashadile. Uthando luyinto esenhliziyweni (okuvumelekile), kodwa nokuthinta intende yowesifazane ongahlobene naye kwenqatshelwe ingasaphathwa eyokumqabula.
Mfowethu u-Asif sizokweluleka ukuthi ufunde izisekelo zezinqumo zama-Islams mayelana nobudlelwane nobulili obuhlukile ngaphandle komshado e-Islam..
yebo ngiyavumelana nawe ..ukuqabulana futhi zonke izinhlobo zezinto ezingekho emthethweni zithathwa njenge-haram..KODWA U-ALLAH Unesihe kakhulu .
@pure matrimony Asalam Alaikum bengifuna ukubuza..ingabe sivumelekile ukuthi sikhulume namadoda abazali bethu abacabanga ngomshado wethu?bcoz if we dun evn knw abt the person..indalo yakhe..indlela yokuphila etc..singanquma kanjani ukuthi singamshada noma cha?n the talk m engiyibuzayo abt is b4 engagement or else ungazi kanjani ukuthi umuntu osifanele?plz phendula maduze
Assalamu Alaikum wr wb
udade angase amazi umzalwane ngisho nangaphambi kokuthembisana umshado …noWali okhona u-insha Allah ..futhi unelungelo lokumenqaba uma ebona sengathi bayahambisana.
Sawubona
S.a bafowethu nodadewethu abathandekayo
Ngithanda ukusho ukuthi isiko engiphuma kulo lihluke kakhulu kuneningi lenu eliphawulayo lapha. Ngihlala ezweni elimaphakathi neYurophu. Kodwa im Muslim Alhamdulilah. Bengifuna ukusho ukuthi ngithandana nentombazane engithandana nayo kusukela ngonyaka. Emasikweni esiphila kuwo kujwayelekile ukuthi siqabulane. ive ngamqabula futhi nami ngivume. Kungase kube haram futhi angikuphiki ukuthi nakuba uqabula umuntu omthandayo kuphela,umuntu ohlela ukumakha futhi uphile impilo naye anywayz, bengifuna ukusho nje ukuthi masingazami ukugcizelela ukwanga njenge-haram enkulu, ESIKHUNDLENI , zama ukugxila kakhulu kwezinye izindaba ezibalulekile engibona kufanele ukuthi zixoxwe. Umhlaba awuhlukene phakathi 2 izingxenye njengeyamadoda neyodwa yabesifazane. Ngingaphakamisa ukubona ukuxhumana ngamazwi phakathi kwabafana namantombazane kukuhle. Ukuhlukaniswa ngokuphelele kuletha imiphumela emibi kanye nezenzo eziyihlazo zabafana eSaudi Arabia ngokwesibonelo. engilokhu ngikuzwa muva nje kubangane bami lapho. ANGITHI hamba uyoqabula noma uthinte intombazane ngesandla njengoba ngenzile. Cha lokho kuyi-Haram futhi angazi ngalokho..Ngisho nje ukuthi ukungazi noma ukungazi nhlobo ngodaba olubaluleke kangaka kungaletha eminye imiphumela engemihle..
Kepha uALLAH Wazi konke kangcono.
Selam Alejkum
othandekayo Admin
..Uma manje sekuke kwaba nesono esinjalo phakathi kwalaba ababili ngaphambi komshado ithini indlela yokuphuma … futhi i-nikah ingenzeka ngaphandle kwemvume yabazali noma ngaphandle kokwazisa. admin othandekayo ngiphonsele ukukhanya ukuthi umuntu angaya kanjani futhi nge-nikah..
HI mfowethu/udadewethu
I can't comment abt wat u have asked .KODWA oprincipal bami bathi shada nomuntu omthandayo .BUt do u think hurting r parents fr the one love is gud. Uma ungazama ukubenza bavumelane ngokushada kwakho kodwa ungalokothi ubazwise ubuhlungu . This is wat i can say.uma uzwa kubi am sry.
MAANSHA ALLAH isihloko sayo esithakazelisa kakhulu futhi kufanele siqashelwe kuwo wonke umuntu!
uma umuntu enza ubudlelwano bomzimba nesithandwa sakhe manje sebezizwa bekhululekile futhi sebefuna ukushada manje.bangakwazi kanjani ukwenza ubuhlobo bokwesaba ngokusho kwequran&sunnah & thola ukuthethelelwa?
omunye umbuzo-
ngemva kobudlelwane bomzimba uma bengashadile &bashada omunye, ingabe lokhu kulungile?
umbuzo wokugcina-
emva kobudlelwane bomzimba phakathi kwabo uma othile ekhaphela &shada komunye nomunye ufuna ukushada .kulesi simo ubani obhekene nalokhu nge quran&sunnah?kulungile yini ukuganwa omunye?
Ungase ubone lesi sixhumanisi ukuze ufunde mayelana nempendulo yakho!
http://www.questionsonislam.com/index.php?s=show_qna&id=125
Kodwa ukuphenduka Kumelwe! ungathathi lokhu (Ubuhlobo bomzimba ngaphambi komshado) njengokukhanya noma udaba olunconyiwe ku-Islam! Ikona “Uphawu Olukhulu” futhi emthethweni wamaSulumane Isijeziso si 100 Amasheya owesilisa nowesifazane ngamunye uma bobabili benza ngokuzithandela! Kodwa kunezimo eziningi kule ndaba, ngakho-ke funda I-athikili futhi uthole ukuthi iSinqumo sakho!
mayelana
Dear Admin,
Sicela ushiye impendulo kumibuzo ye-asee.
pls nikeza impendulo mayelana nombuzo ka-asee
@UMPHATHI: wenze ISHO LOKHO:
Uma umndeni wenza ukukhetha okuhle futhi owesifazane enenkolo futhi emuhle, futhi umyeni uyamthanda futhi ufuna ukumshada, bese kuba nethemba lokuthi umshado wabo uzinzile futhi uphumelele.nIphi intando yoMfazi? Uma ethanda inkolo futhi Akamthandi umuntu abazali bakhe abafuna ukushada naye njengoba ku-Quran Kushiwo ngo-Nisa(4:19) i …kuyi-haram Ukuzuza Ifa abesifazane Ngokuphambene nentando yabo…. Nami manje ukuthi akuvezwanga kuleli cala elifanayo kodwa lokhu kungasetshenziswa kulolu daba. ngiqinisile? Futhi uyazi futhi ukuthi e-Pak nase-India uhlelo lwezenhlalakahle lumpofu kakhulu futhi luyinhloko yoMndeni, umama omkhulu/ubaba uMalume njll. bashade kuphela ngokucabanga kwabo. ababuzi owesifazane i,e Virgin girl futhi ucabange nje ukuthi Uzojabula njengoba sicabanga kangcono kunaye. kodwa ngesinye isikhathi lokhu kuyamlimaza ngoba umbono Wakhe awufani nawo! Uma sisebenzisa igama elithi ABAZALI/UMNAKEKELI kumele Sichaze leli gama kuqala!kuthiwani ngalabo Bazali ngaphambi kwe-Islam Abangcwaba Amadodakazi Abo??? Engakwenza Intombi Eyintandane Uma umalume wayo eyiphoqa ukuthi ishade nendoda Yakhe (Umalume) ozikhethele yena futhi Ngokuphambene nentando yakhe.
izimo kuzo zonke izimo azifani. NGIYAFUNA UKUSHO LOKHO:
Okokuqala cabangela Indaba umshado oqhutshwa ngaphansi kwayo, futhi Uma Owesifazane ekholwa futhi Evuthiwe kuna
INTANDO YOWESIFAZANE IBALULEKE KAKHULU KUNABAZALI ngoba Ilungelo Lakhe lapho Abazali Beba Sendle Ezindabeni Zenhlalo/yamasiko futhi bakhohlwe imisebenzi nezibopho zabo uAllah Madenas Allah Athi ku-Quran Abesifazane abangcolile bangamadoda angcolile., futhi amadoda angcolile kwabesifazane abangcolile nabesifazane abahlanzekile bangababesilisa abahlanzekile, namadoda ahlanzekile angabesifazane abahlanzekile…(24:26)
kungani u-Allah engashongo ukuthi Abazali Bowesifazane noma Abazali Bomuntu njll… Kuyindaba yokuthanda nokungathandi! Namuhla abanye Abazali benze okufanayo naku-Buried Girl Alive. Kunamacala amaningi futhi esimweni ngasinye umbono noma Umphumela uhlukile. Komshado osemthethweni owesilisa nowesifazane bobabili Kumele Bavumelane futhi umnakekeli kufanele Ngokwemibandela!
FUTHI U-ALLAH WAZI KAHLE!!!!!
@UMPHATHI:
Ngifuna ukubuza Umbuzo Uma Uyi-MUSLIM SCHOLAR lokho
” Uma kukhona intombazane ekholwayo, wakhulela endaweni engokwenkolo, lapho eba 22 umndeni wakhe wathuthela eduze kwezihlobo zabo, Bona (izihlobo zakhe) bangamaSulumane nje abazenzi amaSulumane, futhi Ngokuphazima kweso uBaba wakhe washona futhi waba iNtandane.
Wathola uMuntu (UCosine wakhe) futhi naye uyakholwa njengaye futhi ufuna ukumshada, Kodwa inhloko yomndeni wakhe uMama Omkhulu ufuna ukushada nenye i-cosine yakhe, akazange amthole ekholwa futhi emfanela. Wakwenqaba lokho kodwa Lapho umndeni wabo usukwazi ukuthi uthanda amanye ama-cosine uGOGO wakhe anemibango ecashile futhi umalume Wakhe Wambeka Icala Ngaye Nomuntu Amthandayo Ukuthi Banobudlelwane obuthile. (Abaziphethe kabi) futhi Asole labo bantu Umndeni futhi kunokuba Wamphoqa futhi wenza umshado kulowo muntu Bonke Abamfuna Ngokuphambene nentando Yakhe”
Manje Buphi I-ISLAM??? Ithini indawo Yakhe? Siphi Isikhundla Somqaphi? likuphi Ilungelo Lakhe? Kuthiwani ngalelo cala likaMalume Wakhe? Angenzani uBhuti Wakhe(25umnyaka owodwa) angenza njengoba Asolwa futhi azizwe enamahloni uma esho noma yini? Abanabo Ubudlelwano Bokungaziphathi nhlobo futhi BObabili BAYAKHOLWA KAKHULU KAKHULU…. Uzothini ngaloludaba?
CABANGA Bese Usakaza umphumela ngokusemandleni akho Ngoba ayikho inkantolo yomthetho yamaSulumane ePak noma eNdiya njll.. futhi Abakwazi ukusho noma yini njengoba Bamangalelwa ngokubi!
elinde impendulo yakho!
Ngiyabonga
Iqiniso
Njengobaba, ukuba nolwazi oluthe xaxa kanye nolwazi kunengane, ngiphakamisa ukukhetha kwentando yeningi. Ukuthi noma uyakhetha futhi uyakuvumela, noma wenze ukukhetha okuhle okuhlanu bese umvumela ukuthi akhethe/akhethe ku-d bunch. Ingabe lokhu kuyaphikisana nemfundiso yeSunnah?
Ngilalele u-AlBedawi, Isazi.Wathi lapho kufika i-muslin efanelekile izocela amadodakazi enu,uyathandeka e-Islam nase-Uri intombazane encane ithule (engenakho ukuphikisa) kuyena, bese-ke nimnike emshadweni. Nokho wonke umndeni ungase ungamthandi. Ubaba ongamzali. Ingabe umama wemvelo angamnika ukoma noma. Buza omunye u-marham- okungukuthi umfowethu ongazilolongi ukuba abe mahram?
Salam sister/Mama in Islam, Angisona iSifundiswa kodwa ngingakutshela ukuthi Intandane noma intombi Eyintombi KUMELE Ibuzwe uma yenqaba kunokuthi Akekho onganikela ngayo emshadweni ngisho nomfowabo njll.. futhi Uma Owesifazane Nowesilisa Bevumelana kunokuthathu akukho Okungalungile Emshadweni! Ngizokukhombisa, Ungazibona lezi Hadith,
1. Kulandiswa u-AbuHurayrah: “UMprofethi (ukuthula kube kuye) kusho: Intombi eyintandane kumele kukhulunywe ngayo ngayo; uma engasho lutho olukhombisa imvume yakhe, kodwa uma enqaba, igunya lombheki ngeke lisetshenziswe ngokumelene nentando yakhe. (Ukuhunyushwa kwe-Sunan Abu Dawud, Umshado (Kitab Al-Nikah), Bhukha 11, Inombolo 2088)”
2. “Kulandisa u-Abdullah ibn Umar: “UMprofethi (ukuthula kube kuye) kusho: Xhumana nabesifazane mayelana (umshado we) amadodakazi abo. (Ukuhunyushwa kwe-Sunan Abu Dawud, Umshado (Kitab Al-Nikah), Bhukha 11, Inombolo 2090)”
Futhi Naku-quran ukuthi uAllah Usho
“O nina enikholwayo! Nina ninqatshelwe ukudla ifa labesifazane ngokuthanda kwabo. Nor should you phatha them ngokhahlo, ukuze nithathe inxenye yomnikelo [imali enikezwa umyeni kunkosikazi ngenkontileka yomshado] nibanikile nina, ngaphandle kwalapho bebenecala lokuxhwala okusobala; kunalokho hlala nabo ngezinyawo zomusa nokulunga. Uma nithatha inzondo kubo, mhlawumbe nizonda into, futhi uNkulunkulu uletha ngakho okuningi okuhle. (4:19)”
nganoma iyiphi indlela owesifazane akakwazi ukuphoqwa ukuba angene emshadweni futhi angeke aphathwe njengeNdawo yokuhlukaniswa emndenini ngokumelene nentando yakhe.!
futhi uAllah Wazi Kakhulu
Sanibonani
ngifuna ukubuza ngodaba,empeleni ngashada nomzala wami ngokuhlela umshado.kodwa kwakuvele ku-nikah hhayi rukhsati.rukhsati kwanqunywa ukuba kube ngemva kwesikhathi esithile.angizange ngithande ukuxhumana nomzala wami kodwa wacabanga ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi angijabule lomshado.lapho ngiyibona lento ngaqala ukuba hav cntct naye.kodwa ke once ho wangithatha somewhere and made a physical relationship for forcefully,angizange ngithande futhi ngesaba kakhulu.ngafuna ukwazisa umama ngakho kodwa waqala ukungenza ngesaba kakhulu ngokuthi uma uzotshela noma yimuphi umzimba ngizokuhlukanisa.ngangimncane futhi ngesaba ukuhlukana kanye nemiphumela yayo.wasebenzisa lokhu kwesaba ngesifiso sakhe futhi wangiphoqelela ubuhlobo obunjalo futhi 2,3 izikhathi.kodwa emva kwesikhathi kwaphakama izinkinga zomndeni wanginika isehlukaniso ngaphambi kwe-rukhsati.manje lapho abazali bami befuna ngishade nomunye umuntu futhi abazi ngalokhu konke engangikubhala manje.so ngizizwa ngididekile manje. ngangingahlaliseki emva kwakho konke lokho kodwa ngesikhathi ngicula umra ngonyaka odlule u-ALLAH wangipha ukuthula nokuzola.manje sengikulungele ukushada kodwa ngididekile ngalento yokuthi ngitshele umyeni wami konke lokhu noma ngingakutshele ngemuva komshado.?ngicela ningisize kulokhu,elinde impendulo yakho
sengathi u-Allah angasibusisa sonke……….
Salam Sister!
Ngifunde lokhu ngididekile ngempela futhi kwangikhathaza umqondo wami ukuthi abantu bangenza kanjani izinto ezinje! kodwa Kiwe ngizothi uAllah UnguMthetheleli futhi Unesihe. Ngingakutshela ngeNkinga yakho kodwa okokuqala ngifuna Ukuvumelana futhi Ngicele isifundiswa ngalokhu, Inshallah ngizokutshela maduze, Kodwa ngifuna ukusho ukuthi UNGASHO LUTHO ENDODENI YAKHO ngalendaba ngoba yinto b/w Wena noAllah futhi uAllah Uzokuthethelela futhi okunye ngizocela isifundiswa.! Wenze Umra MashAllah, Ngicela Ungithandazise Ngisenkingeni Ejulile endabeni Yomshado. futhi ulinde impendulo yami ngosuku olulodwa noma ezimbili.
ozithobayo!
Umfowenu ku-Islam Kashif Ahmad
Lena inkinga enkulu emiphakathini yase-india/pakistani ngicabanga ukuthi…ngisho nokuthembisana isikhathi eside kungaba nzima kakhulu kumbhangqwana ukuzibamba. Ngeluleka ukuthi i-nikkah ne-ruksati yenziwe @ ngesikhathi esifanayo ukuvimbela lokhu.
Esimeni sakho (futhi kuye ngobudlelwane bakho nomama wakho) Ngikholwa ukuthi kungcono utshele umama wakho ukuthi kwenzekeni. Uzokucasukela, kodwa akasoze afuna into embi kakhulu. Kuyacaca ukuthi owayengumyeni wakho wayenephutha kakhulu ngendlela akuphoqa ngayo futhi wasebenzisa usongo lwesahlukaniso njengendlela yokukwenza wesabe.. UAllah uzomjezisa noma amthethelele ngokuthanda kwakhe, uma ephenduka. Indlela engcono kakhulu yokubheka lokhu ukucabanga ukuthi ungcono ekugcineni–uma engakhohlisa futhi adale ukwesaba enhliziyweni yakho ngokushesha kangaka ebuhlotsheni bakho, bese ucabanga ngazo zonke izinto ezimbi abengase azenze kamuva. Kungase kube nzima, kodwa zama ukubona lokhu njengento eyakhayo.
Tshela umama wakho, njengoba ezokweluleka ngokuthi wenzeni ngokulandelayo. Kuya ngokuthi ubani ozoshada naye olandelayo, nokuthi uwazi kahle kangakanani umndeni wabo, uzonquma ukuthi kufanelekile yini ukumtshela (umndeni wakhe awudingi ukwazi). Kodwa, mcacisele ukuthi ufuna indoda ye-MUSLIM, hhayi umfana othile onenkanuko. Bese kuya ngobudlelwano bakho naye ngaphambi/ngemuva komshado, nokuthi ungahlulela kahle kangakanani isimilo sakhe, unganquma ukuthi kuyoke kulunge yini ukumtshela. Lokhu enakwenza kwakungalungile emehlweni kaAllah (i-nikkah yayisivele yenziwe) kodwa indlela umyeni wakho aziphoqa ngayo kuwe kwakungalungile, futhi lokho nakho ngosongo lwesahlukaniso. Noma ngabe ukhetha ini yisho bismillah, ngakho isiqondiso sikaAllah sizoba nawe.
Mangisho ukuthi mina NJENGOMFAZI ngashada nendoda enhle eyiMuslim ngaphandle kwezifiso zomama bami. Kodwa uAllah usasibonisile ukuthi unesihe, unomusa futhi uyathethelela futhi uye wasibusisa ngomshado omangalisayo, uthando olunamandla usuku nosuku oludlulayo. Izingane ezimbili ezinhle engifisa sengathi ngingaba umama ongcono kakhulu kubo futhi ngibabonise indlela yeqiniso. Kunzima ngempela ukuphindela kubazali babo kodwa AKUKHO njalo njengoba bazi ukuthi yini esilungele futhi kufanele basivumele sikhule, kodwa umuntu kufanele azi ukuthi umshado akuwona umdlalo futhi akuyona into yezinsuku/iminyaka embalwa uyisibopho esisenza komunye umuntu impilo yethu yonke.. Kodwa uma sikhubeka kulona okuwuthando lwethu lweqiniso akufanele sibayeke bahambe, ngoba siyohlala sithukuthele ngoba asizange sihlale ezinhliziyweni zethu!
Yebo Sister in Islam Kusho kahle!
enkulu njenge! – ngiyabonga .
Assalamualaikum,Mfowethu/Dadewethu othandekayo,
Kufanele ngithathe isinqumo mayelana nomshado wami wothando,sithanda ngamunye ,futhi ngatshela nomndeni wami futhi,kodwa inkinga emndenini wakhe,abazali bakhe abafuni ukumshada intombazane ayithandayo.bafuna ukumshada intombazane abayithandayo..kuleso simo unezinketho ezimbili owokuqala owomndeni 2nd yimi..and i dont want loose naye futhi ukuthi aphule umndeni wakhe kuye.. uma siphikisana nabo..ngokuzikhethela ngakho-ke kulungile ku-Islam??
okuzokwenzeka esikhathini esizayo…kodwa sithanda kakhulu…
Ngizuze okuningi kuyo. Ngiyabonga.
Lolu lwazi luyigugu. Ngingathola kuphi okwengeziwe?
Asalam Walikum All 🙂
Umbuzo wami uthi uma ngemuva kokwenza isono uma bobabili abathintekayo bephenduka ngempela,sebecele intethelelo kuAllah ngobuqotho beqiniso futhi bafuna ubuhlobo obusemthethweni manje ie Nikaah kuvumelekile yini ukuthi bashade. Futhi uma kunjalo umshado wawuyobusiswa nguSomandla? Uma omunye wenu engathola umbono we-schloarly ngizophoqeleka.
Jazakallah khairun.
my qustion z ths td uma uthanda umuntu wesifazane othanda inkolo futhi uma bobabili abalingani bethandana buthule futhi bengenabo ubuhlobo be-haram futhi uma befuna ukujabulisana ngokwe-islam kodwa abazali belungu lesilisa abavumelani ngale rlation thn wt shd ilunga lesilisa do
sanibonani nonke
ngemva kokufunda lesi sihloko nginovalo engqondweni yami
Ngishadile (nje nikhah)ruksti ngeke b ngemva 1 noma iminyaka emibili.kusho ukuthi kunesikhathi ku-ruksti yami…
kodwa sobabili sine-sex realtionship.njengoba umyeni wami engitshele ukuthi kuvunyelwe ukuthi senze lento ngoba sise-nikah..
sobabili siyathandana.futhi ayikho inkinga ekubhekaneni kwethu okungaholela entweni embi njengedivosi ALHAMDULILLAH…
angazi kakhulu ngalokhu
plx ngisize, ingabe lokhu kuvunyelwe kithi ngaphambi kwe-ruksti..ngoba umyeni wami ebuya futhi evela kwelinye izwe futhi uzofuna into efanayo kimi
imiphi imisebenzi yami ehlobene nalokhu…..ngimmise…?
ngoba abafowethu bangitshela nge-islam ukuthi awuvunyelwe ukuyeka umyeni wakho ofuna noma isiphi isifiso kuwe.futhi awukwazi ukufuna noma yini kuye.futhi ngiyahlonipha futhi ngizimisele ukwenza yonke into yhis njengoba ngithanda umyeni wami..kodwa ngezinye izikhathi nginomuzwa wokuthi umyeni wami akananhlonipho ngemizwa engashiwongo…INGABE LOKHU NGENXA YALOKHU…?
IMPELA NGIDIDEKILE pls guide me ngenzenjani…ikakhulukazi mayelana nobudlelwane bethu bomzimba…
angafuna noma yini ayifunayo kodwa awuvunyelwe ukukhuluma naye? uyisilima lesi ngempela? futhi abesifazane ku-islam bacabanga ukuthi bayalingana…ihlaya elingaka….futhi sicela ufunde ukupela, ukusebenzisa kwakho ulimi lwesiNgisi kubi
cela abazali bakho ukuthi benze i-ruskhsati ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka, ungalindi. ngokobuchwepheshe, kuvunyelwe njengoba i-nikkah yakho isivele yenziwe. nokho, uma uzizwa ungakhululekile kufanele uzame ukumazisa ngobumnene…uma ukwenza ngokuxhamazela kungase kumphushele kude nawe. enye indlela ongavimbela ngayo lokhu iwukuba uzame ukuba ne-wali noma omunye umuntu ekamelweni nawe noma nini lapho nindawonye. mhlawumbe utshele umuntu ukuthi uyawethemba umndeni wakho ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi ungase uzizwe ungakhululekile futhi ucele othile ukuba akuphelezele (usisi omdala, ubabekazi, njll.). nakuba i-halaal, yisimo esingakhululekile esisekelwe ezifisweni zakho. nokho, uma uzizwa ukhululekile ngokuphelele naye, kunalokho kufanele wenze i-rukhsati ngokushesha.
hmm..kusho ukuthi akusona isono ngoba sise-nikah…?ingabe?
kodwa kuzoba njani uma omunye umuntu onesimo esifanayo ehlukanisa ngaphambi kwe-ruksti ,ukuthi lobo budlelwano buyothathwa njengesono?
kuyadingeka ukuthi ngigcwalise zonke izifiso zakhe ezinjalo ngaphambi kwe-ruksti…?
Salani nonke
Ngiyamthanda umuntu kanye naye 2 uyangithanda, siyazana empilweni edlule nezizinda, sihlobene frm last 2 iminyaka…bt we hv siqabulane izikhathi ezimbalwa (AKUKHO OKUDLULA KWAKHO)
siyathandana vrymuch and want 2 shada…singajabula ngemva komshado?
Futhi yini shud esiyenzela uTaubah?
plz phendula…jazakAllah
Sawubona, Siyabonga ngalolu lwazi oluwusizo…
Ngidinga usizo ngobudlelwano bami. Ngashada nomyeni wami ngomshado wokuhlela futhi angizange ngijabule ekuqaleni. Kodwa kamuva ngavuma. Lokhu kwakungaphambi kokuba ngimbone empilweni. Ngiyintombazane ekholwayo. Ngisanda kuqala ukugqoka i-hijab engizikhethele yona. Angikaze ngithinte omunye umfana noma ngibuke kabi.
Umyeni wami muhle, Kodwa nginomuzwa wokuthi uqamba amanga kimi kakhulu, kwesinye isikhathi uhlala esesimweni esibi futhi uyamemeza, kodwa lokho ngiyakuqonda ngoba usebenza kanzima futhi usebenza ebusuku. Uqale wangitshela ukuthi akakaze abheme noma aphuze noma yini. Kodwa manje ngithole ukuthi uyabhema wathi wayeka like 3 izikhathi kodwa ngisamnukela.
Uthi akenzi lutho olungalungile kodwa abanye abangani bangitshele ukuthi uyaphuza futhi ubhema ezinye izinto ezifana nensangu. ngine-a 3 indodana enomnyaka naye.
Nginokungabaza nsuku zonke. Kumele ngenzeni? Ngifuna ngempela lokhu kuyisebenzele indodana yami.
Ngicela usizo
Ngiyabonga
Nginike ikhefu. emshadweni ohleliwe uma owesifazane ekhona “ezenkolo nezinhle” izosebenza? ukuthi umuntu ubukeka kanjani akuhlangene nokuthi umshado uzosebenza noma cha. Ngabe lokho kusho ukuthi umyeni kumele abe muhle? I-Islam ihlale igxile ebuhleni besifazane futhi ayisho neze ukuthi indoda ibukeka kanjani. Abesifazane kule nkolo bayahlanya uma ucabanga ngisho umzuzu owodwa ukuthi abantu besifazane bayaphathwa noma bathathwa njengabalingana. Abantu besifazane bahlukunyezwe ingqondo bacabange ukuthi banamalungelo afanayo. I-Foe Gods idinga 2 abesifazane balingane nofakazi oyedwa wesilisa. Kuphi ukulingana kulokho? Abesilisa abathembi abesifazane ngokwanele ukubavumela ukuthi benze isinqumo esingokomthetho. Amadoda alindele ukuthi abesifazane bahlale ekhaya, zalanisa izingane eziningi ngangokunokwenzeka, pheka, ihlanzekile, babe yizigqila zabo siqu, singabavumeli baphume endlini ngaphandle kwemvume, zenze zimboze ukuze abanye abesilisa bangababheki ngoba amadoda angeke athembeke ukuthi abheke umuntu wesifazane ngaphandle kokuqhanyelwa, kodwa basole abantu besifazane uma bedlwengulwa ngisho begqoke ngendlela ehloniphekile. Ngingaqhubeka unomphela ngokungalingani kuleli hlelo olibiza ngenkolo. Noma yimuphi umuntu wesifazane oyingxenye ye-Islam uyacindezelwa futhi ahlakazwe ingqondo. Angikwazi ukulinda ukubona izimpendulo ezivela kubantu abangitshela ukuthi ngizoya esihogweni ngoba ngikhuluma iqiniso. Abesifazane vukani…nikhuliswa nibe yizigqila zala madoda angamagwala enkolweni yenu egama layo lingumprofethi wamanga owayengumdlwenguli..
Ngingaphikisana namaphuzu akho kodwa kusobala ukuthi uyisizathu esilahlekile.
Ngiyakudabukela. Kwangathi u-Allah angakuqondisa endleleni efanele 🙂
uma i-nikah ikwenzile kodwa ayikho i-rukhsti , kanti uhusbnad uphesheya , (ngesikhathi se-rishta , umndeni wabafana kuphela ophikelela ku-nikah) phela abakhulumisani nsuku zonke ngefoni , uma isehlukaniso noma ikhula yenzeka ngenxa yesizathu esithile futhi umndeni wentombazane wenza enye i-rishta ngaleso sikhathi ngesikhathi se-nikah okufanele kubhalwe ku-nikah nama , leyo yintombi nto ? noma ohlukanisile ? plz an
Assalamu Alaikum sister
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