Sexual relations in the Light of Islam

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Islam teaches us all things and has brought all good teaching to mankind concerning their livelihood, religion, living and dying, because it is the religion of Allah (SWT), may He be glorified and exalted.

Sexual relations are among the important matters of life which Islam came to explain and to prescribe proper conduct and rulings which elevate it from the level of mere bestial pleasure and physical desire.

Islam connects it to a righteous intention, supplications (adhkaar) and proper conduct which lift it up to the level of worship for which the Muslim will be rewarded. The Sunnah of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) explains this. Imam Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him) says in his book Zaad al-Ma’aad:

“Concerning sexual relations, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) brought the most perfect guidance, whereby health may be preserved and people may find pleasure and enjoyment, and it may fulfil the purpose for which it was created, because sex was created for three basic purposes:

The preservation and propagation of the human race, until they reach the number of souls that Allah (SWT) has decreed should be created in this world.

Expulsion of the water (semen) which may cause harm to the body if it is retained.

Fulfilling physical desires and enjoying physical pleasure. This alone is the feature that will be present in Paradise, because there will be no producing of offspring there, and no retention which needs to be relieved by ejaculation.

The best doctors suggest that sex is one of the means of maintaining good health.”
(al-Tibb al-Nabawi, p. 249)

And he (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

Among its benefits is that it helps to lower the gaze, brings self-control, enables one to keep away from haraam things, and achieves all of these things for the woman too. It brings benefit to a man with regard to this world and the Hereafter, and benefits the woman too. Hence the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) used to enjoy regular intimate relations with his wives, and he said, “In your world, women and perfume have been made dear to me.” (Narrated by Ahmad, 3/128; al-Nasaa’i, 7/61; classed as saheeh by al-Haakim)

And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “O young men, whoever among you can afford it, let him get married, for it helps him to lower his gaze and protect his chastity. And whoever cannot do that, let him fast, for it will be a protection for him.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 9/92; Muslim, 1400) (al-Tibb al-Nabawi, 251)

Among the important matters which should be paid attention to when engaging in intimate relations:

Having the sincere intention of doing this thing only for the sake of Allah (SWT). One should intend to do this to protect oneself and one’s wife from doing haraam things, to increase the numbers of the Muslim ummah so as to raise its status, for there is honour and pride in large numbers. It should be known that one will be rewarded for this action, even if he finds immediate pleasure and enjoyment in it. It was reported from Abu Dharr that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “In the sexual intercourse of any one of you there is reward.” (meaning, when he has intercourse with his wife) They said, “O Mesenger of Allah, when any one of us fulfils his desire, will he have a reward for that?” He (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Do you not see that if he were to do it in a haraam manner, he would be punished for that? So if he does it in a halaal manner, he will be rewarded.” (Narrated by Muslim, 720)

This is the great bounty of Allah (SWT) towards this Ummah; praise be to Allah (SWT) Who has made us among them.

Intercourse should be preceded by kind words, playfulness and kisses. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) used to play with his wives and kiss them.

When a man has intercourse with his wife, he should say: “Bismillaah, Allaahumma jannibnaa al-shaytaan wa jannib al-shaytaan maa razqtanaa (In the name of Allah, O Allah Keep us away from the Shaytaan and keep the Shaytaan away from what You bestow on us (our children)).” The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “If Allah decrees that they should have a child, the Shaytaan will never harm him.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 9/187)

It is permissible for the husband to have intercourse with his wife in her vagina in whatever manner he wishes, from behind or from the front, on the condition that it is in her vagina, which is the place from which a child is born. Allah (SWT) says (interpretation of the meaning): “Your wives are a tilth for you, so go to your tilth (have sexual relations with your wives in any manner as long as it is in the vagina and not in the anus), when or how you will.” [al-Baqarah 2:223]. Jaabir ibn ‘Abd-Allaah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Jews used to say that if a man had intercourse with his wife in her vagina from behind, the child would have a squint. Then this aayah was revealed: “Your wives are a tilth for you, so go to your tilth (have sexual relations with your wives in any manner as long as it is in the vagina and not in the anus), when or how you will.” [al-Baqarah 2:223] The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “From the front or from the back, so long as it is in the vagina.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 8/154; Muslim, 4/156)

It is not permissible for the husband under any circumstances whatsoever to have intercourse with his wife in her back passage. Allah (SWT) says (interpretation of the meaning): “Your wives are a tilth for you, so go to your tilth (have sexual relations with your wives in any manner as long as it is in the vagina and not in the anus), when or how you will.” [al-Baqarah 2:223]. It is known that the place of tilth is the vagina, which is the place from which one hopes for a child. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “He is cursed who has intercourse with women in their back passages.” (Narrated by Ibn ‘Udayy, 1/211; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Adaab al-Zafaaf, p. 105). This is because it [anal intercourse] goes against the fitrah [natural inclinations of man] and is an action which is revolting to those of a sound human nature; it also causes the woman to miss out on her share of pleasure; and the back passage is a place of filth and dirt – and there are other reasons which confirm the fact that this deed is haraam.

If a man has intercourse with his wife and wants to come back to her a second time, he should do wudoo’, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “If any one of you has intercourse with his wife then wants to repeat it, let him do wudoo’ between the two (actions), for it is more energizing for the second time.” (Narrated by Muslim, 1/171). This is mustahabb (recommended), not waajib (obligatory); if he is able to do ghusl between the two actions, this is better, because of the hadeeth of Abu Raafi’ who said that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) went around his wives one day and did ghusl in this one’s house and in this one’s house. He (Abu Raafi’) said: “I said to him, O Messenger of Allah, why do you not do one ghusl?” He said, “This is cleaner and better and purer.” (Narrated by Abu Dawood and al-Nasaa’i, 1/79)

One or both of the spouses have to do ghusl in the following situations:

When the “two circumcised parts” meet, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “When the circumcised part meets the circumcised part (according to another report: when the circumcised part touches the circumcised part), ghusl becomes waajib (obligatory).” (Narrated by Ahmad and Muslim, no. 526). This ghusl is obligatory whether ejaculation takes place or not. The touching of the circumcised parts means that the glans or tip of the penis penetrates the vagina; it does not mean mere touching.

Emission of semen, even if the two circumcised parts do not touch, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “Water is for water [i.e., the water of ghusl is necessary when the “water” of semen is ejaculated].” (Narrated by Muslim, no. 1/269)

Al-Baghawi said in Sharh al-Sunnah (2/9): “Ghusl for janaabah [impurity following sexual discharge] is waajib in either of two cases: when the tip of the penis enters the vagina, or when gushing water is emitted by either the man or the woman.” For more information on the details of ghusl as prescribed in sharee’ah. It is permissible for the husband and wife to do ghusl together in one place, even if he sees her and she sees him, because of the hadeeth of ‘Aa’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) who said: “The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and I used to do ghusl together from one vessel between me and him; we would take turns dipping our hands in the vessel and he would take more than me until I would say, ‘Leave some for me, leave some for me.'” She said, and they were both junub (in a state of janaabah). Narrated by al-Bukhaari and Muslim.

It is permissible for a person who has to make ghusl to sleep and delay the ghusl until before the time of prayer, but it is definitely mustahabb for him to do wudoo’ before sleeping, because of the hadeeth of ‘Umar, who said that he asked the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), Can any one of us sleep when he is junub? The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Yes, but let him do wudoo’ if he wishes.” (Narrated by Ibn Hibbaan, 232).

It is forbidden to have intercourse with a woman when she is menstruating (having her period), because Allah says (interpretation of the meaning): “They ask you concerning menstruation. Say: that is an adhaa (a harmful thing for a husband to have a sexual intercourse with his wife while she is having her menses), therefore keep away from women during menses and go not unto them till they have purified (from menses and have taken a bath). And when they have prufieied themselves, then go in unto them as Allah has ordained for you (go in unto them in any manner as long as it is in their vagina). Truly, Allah loves those who turn unto Him in repentance and loves those who purify themselves (by taking a bath and cleaning and washing thoroughly their private parts, bodies, for their prayers, etc.).” [al-Baqarah 2:222].

The person who has intercourse with his wife whilst she is menstruating has to give a dinar or half a dinar in charity, as it was reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) obliged a man to do when he came and asked him about that. This was reported by the authors of al-Sunan and classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Adaab al-Zafaaf, p. 122. But it is permissible for the husband to enjoy his menstruating wife without having intercourse, because of the hadeeth of ‘Aa’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) who said: “The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) would tell one of us, when she was menstruating, to wear a waist-wrapper, then her husband would lie with her.” (Agreed upon).

It is permissible for the husband to withdraw (‘azl) if he does not want to have a child; by the same token it is permissible for him to use condoms – if his wife gives her permission, because she has the right to pleasure and to children. The evidence for this is the hadeeth of Jaabir ibn ‘Abd-Allaah (may Allah be pleased with him) who said, “We used to do ‘azl at the time of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him). The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) heard about that, and he did not forbid us.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 9/250; Muslim, 4/160).

But it is better not to do any of that, for several reasons, including the fact that it deprives the woman of pleasure or reduces the pleasure for her; and that it cancels out one of the purposes of marriage, which is to increase the number of offspring, as mentioned above.

It is forbidden for both spouses to spread the secrets of what happens between them in their private marital life; indeed, this is one of the most evil things. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Among the most evil of people before Allah on the Day of Resurrection will be a man who comes to his wife and has intercourse with her, then he spreads her secrets.” (Narrated by Muslim, 4/157).

It was reported from Asmaa’ bint Yazeed that she was with the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and men and women were sitting with him, and the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “Would any man say what he did with his wife? Would any woman tell others what she did with her husband?” The people kept quiet and did not answer. I [Asmaa’] said: “Yes, by Allah, O Messenger of Allah, they (women) do that, and they (men) do that.” He said, “Do not do that. It is like a male devil meeting a female devil in the road and having intercourse with her whilst the people are watching.” (Narrated by Abu Dawood, no. 1/339; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Adaab al-Zafaaf, p. 143).

This is what we were able to mention about the etiquette of sexual relations.

Praise be to Allah Who has guided us to this great religion with its sublime manners. Praise be to Allah Who has shown us the best of this world and the next. May Allah bless our Prophet Muhammad (SAAW).

Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid

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49 Comments to Sexual relations in the Light of Islam

  1. anonymous sister

    Salaam 3alikoum

    After reading this text I have a question,
    I was unhappily married to a violent and malicious man.
    My ex-husband forced himself on me once and we had intercourse throught the forbidden part as well as having intercourse when i had my period.
    I didn’t know enough and therefore he managed to subdue me by saying that it was his right given to him in Islam. i was too ashamed to ask anyone about this at the time.
    What does that mean for me now? How do I make this up in the eyes of Allah?

    Jazakoum allah kheiran

    • All Praise is to Allah,

      Dear sister,

      Allah will not hold you responsible for something that was forced upon you. Secondly, if it wasn’t forced upon you and you agreed to do it without knowledge that this is forbidden then you did it out of ignorance. Allah is Ar-Rahman, and so long as you regret it and repent to Allah by asking for His forgiveness InshAllah he will forgive you.

      Quran states:

      “Allah accepts the repentance of those who do evil
      in ignorance and repent soon afterwards. To them will
      Allah turn in mercy. Allah is full of knowledge and wisdom”
      Sura 4:17

      And Allah knows best

    • THERE IS ALLAH HE IS THE ONE.INSHAALLAH EVERYTHING WILL BE FINE AND IN THE DAY OF JUDGEMENT EVERYONE WILL GET JUSTICE.

  2. I have a question. If a husband intercourse with his wife and while sucking her breasts the milk come to husband mouth and stomac.suppose it passed only 3 month since they have new child.what is the solution.if the husband want to drink milk intentionally what is the rule.

  3. Salam,

    What a fantastic article, it shared more light to me on certain issues. But there’s an aspect of sexual relationship that was not mentioned. the questions goes thus: What is the Islamic Ruling for oral sex between married couple.

    Await your response.

    Jazaks

    • Azad Ali Shah

      Any oral sex is allowed in all parts of body except private parts which is not encouraged but not forbidden

  4. how will a husband come to know whether her wife is in periods(menstruation),so that he can avoid intercourse at dat time?

  5. what if a husband isnt giving his wife sexual pleasure ,,wife cant get divorce due to social problems,,,how she avoid sin
    any ayah

  6. Assalamalaikum:
    I loved a man who was married and we had decieded to get married in two months time. we also were physical wid each other. but later when he told his family of getting married the second time all of them were against it and he too decided of not getting married to me. i feel i am totally left no where. i have tried convincing him.but he does not agree because of the family. i do know that we have committed sin. i repent for it. please guide me.

    jazakalla khair

    • ASSALAAM ALAIKUM WA RAHMATULLAAHI WA BARKAATUH..
      Dear sis,
      ofcourse u had done a BIG SIN..
      bt now wn u wanna REPENT IN FRONT OF ALLAAH…dnt forget dat ALLAAH IS GAFOORU-RAHEEM….THE MOST FORGIVING AND HUMBLE..
      SO NOW PLZ NOTE BELOW IMP WAZIFAAS..

      1. YAA GHAFFAARU.. (The Forgiver)If you
      recite this name of Allah 100 times
      after Jumma Salaah (prayer), you
      will soon begin to perceive Allah’s
      forgiveness. If you say (Yaa-
      Ghaffaaru Ighfirli) daily after Asr
      Salaah (prayer), Allah will include
      you amongst those whom he has
      forgiven. Insha-Allah.
      ..
      2..DAILY THREE TIMES,,..THIS DUA..”ALLAHUM-MAGFIRATUKA AW SAU MINN ZUNUBI WA RAHMATUKA ARJAA INDI MIN AMALI’
      without fail…

      3.ASTAGFIRULLAAH..and DAROOD SHAREEF..THOUSAND TIMES DAILY..
      AND REMEMBER DONT MISS ANY NAMAAZ AND IF POSSIBLE TAHAJJUD TOO..
      AND ALLAAH KNOWS THE BEST!

  7. ASSALAAM ALAIKUM WA RAHMATULLAAHI WA BARKAATUH…
    According to ISLAAM is their any time fixed for intercourse,,,means can v do at any time v want?..
    Any recommended time?

  8. till d best of mah knowledge..n d so many ISLAAMIC ARTICLES I have read…
    YES,IT IS ALLOWED..PROVIDED DAT SEMEN SHOULD NOT ENTER HER MOUTH..

  9. I’ve been married to a man who fulfills his desire through oral sex from me. But till date he has not fulfilled my physical rights. Even after 2 years of marriage I am a virgin. I’ve demanded many times but in vain. What should I do in this condition?

    • Nusaibah

      assalam,
      what a wife supposed to do when her husband fail to give intercourse? especially he had erection problem and refused to see the doctor. it took years already. mentally wife feel stress & sick.. seing other happy family with children also hard to control the nafs while some others ask for haram intercourse? The wife afraid to get divorce since she had no shelter or not to feel shame by being divorcee..

      Islam is fair right? please give some advice.

    • You must discuss this issue with
      some of your elders regarding this
      matter as this is a serious matter is
      ur husband a porn addict? Who just
      wants to satisfy himself by this act
      only?
      And this is so disrespectful of him
      that u r virgin even after 2 years of
      ur marriage, u shud also consult
      any islamic scholars for dis as i
      knw they wud tell u to disolve this
      marriage and go for divorce as this
      is the biggest valid reason for u to
      take a step or tell him to give your
      physical rights, your problem
      reveals so many things he might
      have some pyshcological fears,y he
      has not given your physical rights
      uptil now
      MaY Allah helps u

  10. Mukkaram Siddique

    This is third out fourth time I have seen this on your page…
    Please correct it…
    I have personally read that at an occasion..

    It is not permissible for men to withdraw at their point of climax…so as not to have kids or to use condom..

    Holy Prophet PBUH strongly condemned this act…
    And repeated the verse of Holy Quran.

    “Don’t kill your offsprings in fear of economic conditions, you don’t feed them….Allah do…!”

    So please please correct this….

    • It wont be for the purpose of economic or money , but fear of raising a child according to Islam in such terrible sinful days we are in.

    • its been 6 years I have not used it yet. I have not read much for that but I am afraid to kill the coming one. I am thinking to use it because for the future of children’s due financially weakness ……….but not convinced with this thought from inside………please can any one make my thoughts concrete to not to do that in the light of Quran……..wasalllam

      • Umm Jamal

        Br, Allah SWT is the One who provides rizq and He is the one who writes the rizq of every person who is yet to come in the dunya. S fear not about having children because they are a blessing for you.

  11. Thank You for providing us information in the light of islam on topic we feel shy to discuss!!
    I hev a ques, By the grace of ALLAH I’m happily married.My husband luvs me n understands feelings.But the problem is he enjoys oral sex alot, I dont like to avoid it everytime as oral sex is nt advisable in islam but depends on mutual understanding.(as far as I read)
    Can u please explain it in detail as It becomes hard for me, to hold the impurities in my mouth!

  12. practisingMuslim

    @ Mahnoor
    You must discuss this issue with some of your elders regarding this matter as this is a serious matter is ur husband a porn addict? Who just wants to satisfy himself by this act only?
    And this is so disrespectful of him that u r virgin even after 2 years of ur marriage, u shud also consult any islamic scholars for dis as i knw they wud tell u to disolve this marriage and go for divorce as this is the biggest valid reason for u to take a step or tell him to give your physical rights, your problem reveals so many things he might have some pyshcological fears,y he has not given your physical rights uptil now
    MaY Allah helps u

  13. practisingMuslim

    @ Mukarrim Siddique
    dear brother the refrence you just gave for the killing of offspring doesnt exactly relate to the matter of withdrawl of organ
    As reference which you mentioned has strong message for the ones who get their babies aborted for the fear of so many things including economical issues ur reference doesnt at all relate to the subject which is discussed above
    Please do not always believe on the things which u just read somewhere or told by someone or u just found on internet,try to consult ur self with scholars
    I live in Saudi Arabia n i get to meet so many scholars
    Rest Allah knows the best

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  16. as for one who says ejaculation.outside is forbiden he should read over the article again and see the hadith qouted there.if there is reason for doing this like diffeculty in bearing and fearing of her health and life is allowed.u can ask scholars

    • As-Salaamu Alaikum Br. Ali,Yes, you can recite Quran from momrey and dhikr while in a state of Junuub. Junuub is a condition of impurity that comes after having sexual intercourse or releasing semen, even if done during sleep.You can also dhikr while covered from naval to knees. An example is that we are told to make dua before sex which is a form of dhikr. We are also advised by the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) to recite certain chapters of the Quran before sleeping, and many people sleep without being fully covered.I will encourage you to check other sources as I may not have all the information or there may be other things that I am unaware of.And Allah knows best.

  17. Assalamoalaykum wa rehmatullahe wa barakatuhu

    currently i am having issues with my husband and it has come to the point that i have come back to my parents house. Upon reading the above comments i have this question.

    My husband refuses to show emotional feelings towards me neither physical. Without going into details, suffice it to say when i had enough of bearing it on my own, i shared these details with my mother. I did not go into details of what transpired in the bedroom, just the fact that my needs were met with “this is not important” in the beginning and then refusal to fullfill my desires just because it was me who had asked to do so.

    Is it wrong that i told my mother of this? Again i would like to say that i did not divulge the exact details.

    Jazakallahu khayran for the reply in advance

    • Assalamu Alaikum,

      It’s always better to keep private matters private – sharing them with your family will cause long-term resentment for your husband and create further problems. Even when you have reconciled with your husband, he will hold it in his heart that you breached his trust, and your mother will hold it in her heart that he didn’t treat you well. If you fear being mistreated, then the best person to get involved is someone your husband respects like the local Imam – even then you should try and resolve your private affairs with your husband yourself and tell him how you feel. A good man will understand. If not and he continues, then you should discuss with someone you trust to reconcile you. And Allah knows best.

  18. Assalamu alaykium,
    I have two question,
    1) What is the stance on the husband providing oral sex to the wife?
    2) What is the stance regarding how often it is lawful to have sex?

    • Pure Matrimony_5

      Wasalaam,

      with regards to your first question, the Quran prohibits two things: anal intimacy and intimacy during your wife’s period. From this the majority of scholars have ruled that oral intimacy is allowed between husband and wife. There are some scholars who see this as unlawful, but the majority of scholars say otherwise. It’s always best to speak to your wife about what she feels is right for her.

      For your second question, there is no specific ruling which relates to the frequency, although we know it is the sunnah to go to your wives at least every three days. Intimacy on a Thursday night is also from the sunnah. Please be aware that it is not encouraged to go without intimacy for prolonged periods of time (many months) because its the glue which holds many relationships together. It’s a question of what is appropriate for you both.

      And Allah knows best.

  19. Is it necessary to have sexual intercourse at wedding night or before walima (wedding reception)? What if one is not comfortable?

  20. As-Salaamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu!!

    May Allah Subhanau wa Ta’ala keep us all in the best of health and eimaan. Aameen!!

    Every time I read about Oral S permissible I feel so sad. And the worst thing is that sisters are forced by their husband’s many a time’s by sharing such fatawas to have Oral S.

    In Qur’an Our Rabb Subhanau wa Ta’ala has clearly mentioned that ” “Your wives are a tilth for you, so go to
    your tilth (have sexual relations with your wives in
    any manner as long as it is in the vagina and not
    in the anus), when or how you will.” [al-Baqarah
    2:223]

    and in a Hadith the Messenger of Allah (peace and
    blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “From the
    front or from the back, so long as it is in the
    vagina.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 8/154; Muslim,
    4/156)

    and again as quoted above ” says
    (interpretation of the meaning): “Your wives are a
    tilth for you, so go to your tilth (have sexual
    relations with your wives in any manner as long as
    it is in the vagina and not in the anus), when or
    how you will.” [al-Baqarah 2:223].

    It is known that
    the place of tilth is the vagina, which is the place
    from which one hopes for a child.

    The Prophet
    (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:
    “He is cursed who has intercourse with women in
    their back passages.” (Narrated by Ibn ‘Udayy,
    1/211; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Adaab
    al-Zafaaf, p. 105).

    This is because it [anal
    intercourse] goes against the fitrah [natural
    inclinations of man] and is an action which is
    revolting to those of a sound human nature; it also
    causes the woman to miss out on her share of
    pleasure; and the back passage is a place of filth
    and dirt – and there are other reasons which
    confirm the fact that this deed is haraam.”

    From the two sources all we can get is what is Clearly PERMISSIBLE (i.e. vaginal intercourse) and what is Clearly IMPERMISSIBLE (i.e. anal intercourse) and none of the above give a slightest hint of Oral one. 🙁

    Isn’t there a hadith that say

    ” Abu `Abd Allah al-Nu`mân b. Bashîr relates that he
    heard Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) say:

    “That which is lawful is clear and that which is
    unlawful is clear. Between the two are doubtful
    matters that few people have knowledge about.
    Whoever avoids these doubtful matters absolves
    himself of blame with respect to his religion and his
    honor.
    Whoever falls into doubtful things will fall
    into what is unlawful, just like the shepherd who
    grazes his flock too close to a private pasture is
    liable to have some of his flock stray into it.
    Every
    king has a private pasture, and Allah’s private
    pasture is what he has prohibited. Verily, in the
    body is a small piece of flesh that if it is healthy,
    the whole body is healthy and if it is sick, the whole
    body is sick. This small piece of flesh is the
    heart.” [ Sahîh al-Bukhârî and Sahîh Muslim]

    So doesn’t Oral S comes under this ruling? 🙁

    If we are prohibited to make dhikr of Allah Azza wa Jal when using washroom (check islamqa.com for the source) and are advised to say “ghufra’anaka” instead, then howcome we can use our mouth and tongues that make that dhikr touch the place of…. ?? 🙁

    I read that in a fatawa on islamQA that while having oral S you have to avoid the entry of Najasah into your mouth…. my Question is how? For a moment I can agree that wife can, but what about husband’s? I pray that may you get my point.. Aameen!

    I don’t know whether it’s common awareness or not yet, but there are an increasing number of divorce cases just coz of this…. and Allaah Knows Best.

    But do you still feel that Oral S should be permissible though disliked??

    Please do answer!!!

    Wassalaamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu!!!

  21. is it permissible to have sex during pregnancy? what if the husband refuses sex due to fear of injuring unborn child? jazakallahukhayran.

  22. Asslamualikum,
    I have been martied for 8 months now and my husband refuses to indulge in any kind of foreplay..I have tried explaining to him about how it affects me but to no avail. He also refuses to kiss me and we have never kissed. He lied to me and my family about his job and is out of work since we got married. He and his family subtly hint at me working or applying abroad for work since he is unable to find work. He does not want children . I do all the housework alone at his place as they dont have a maid. He has also sold the gold that was given by his family to me.His mother knows everything yet doesn’t sympathise with me. I have now moved to my parents house and its been almost a month but he does not call me ever and all he does is compare me with his brothers wife. My parents have tried talking to him about this but he just gets angry with me over it.What should I do?
    Please help.
    Jazakh Allah khair.

  23. Asak.. My prblm is dat.. As we have to pray fazr prayer we dnt have intercourse in nite. We do it after fazr prayer or some other time in a day.. Sometimes we misses also..for 2-3 days due to his office timings.. As dere is cold climate i cant take bath in nite after sex.. I m unable to concieve .. Its been a six months being together.. Doctor is saying to do it regularly.. I m very depressed. Everyone is taunting me for not bearing a child.. If i m doing wrong by praying fazr prayer not doing sex.. Pls help me in guidance of quran nd hadees.

  24. Assalam o Alaikum
    I have a question concerned with my friend. She needed my advice but i didnt hold much knowledge to answer her.
    I have a question – she is unmarried and loved someone. She often went physical with that man and now he left her saying he can’t marey her. She totally repent what she did with him in past. Please i want to help her. Please guide me in the light of islam how Allah may forgive her sin. Is it she did the biggest sin? She is very afraid and want a normal happy life again.
    Please answer
    Thank you!!

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